When I was walking up from the beach this Saturday, they were cleaning the hotel next to where I live. As I walked by, a cleaning lady in her late fifties came out carrying some boxes. I said hi and she said. “Look at what people buy, just look.”
She showed me one of the boxes and it was a vibrator. I laughed and said. “At least they have fun on their vacations.” The woman stared at me and said, “Fun? They are perverts.” She threw the boxes in a big bin and walked back inside.
There is nothing perverted about owning a vibrator or two. Actually, I think every single woman and couple should have one in the bedroom drawer and I’ll tell you why.
Sex toys are to improve your sex life, not to substitute it. Some men think that if a woman has a dildo or a vibrator, she doesn’t need or want a man. This is completely wrong. Men masturbate using their hands, and so do women, but at some point in time thousands of years ago, someone very intelligent figured out that it would be much more fun to have a penis shaped object to use. The first dildos were made of stone, tar and wood which were very hard and uncomfortable. As humans progressed, other materials were used and today, these are made from plastic, rubber and their derivatives.
If you are a young woman, owning a dildo is a good way to become comfortable with your erogenous zones. You can explore your own sexuality at home any time you want, and thanks to the internet, you don’t even have to go to a sex shop and buy one. You can have it delivered to your door. There is nothing wrong with masturbating and using a toy to give you that extra pleasure.
Couples can explore each other using one and before you say, “Men can’t use a vibrator,” let me tell you, yes they can. I am not talking about asking or telling your man to get on the bed and then sodomize him (he might like it). No, what I’m talking about is something sensual. Place the tip of the vibrator just under his glans and keep it there for a while. You will notice how he begins to squirm and make all kinds of noises and then, he reaches an orgasm. You have driven him to the top and over without using your hands or mouth. The best thing about this technique is that he will take a lot longer to reach an orgasm than if you were to use other methods.
The basic dildo is a cylinder shaped object either in plastic or rubber. I recommend one in latex; very smooth. A vibrator is similar but as the name suggests, it vibrates. You can chose different speeds while you masturbate. Both of these can also be found in the form of a penis, small, medium size or big. I prefer these models because they have the right feeling when used.
You can also use a cock ring which is placed around the base of his penis and will help him maintain an erection for a longer time. I saw one model which had a little vibrating tip, which touched the clitoris when the man is deep inside the woman.
A vibrator is also a great way to warm up before anal sex. The man uses it to massage the woman’s anus so she relaxes and he can enter her easier. On the same topic, remember that a man’s anus is also very sensitive and if you use a small vibrator or just a finger, his orgasm will be much stronger. Most men are not into having their woman stick anything up their bums, but try to convince him. I’m sure he will thank you after. You can even buy a special prostrate massage for even greater pleasure.
Apart from the usual vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, etc., there are handcuffs, whips and all kinds of fun stuff to play with. It all depends on what you are into. A friend of mine likes dressing up for her husband. At times, she is a secretary, a nurse, or a hot waitress.To sum it all up, if you don’t have a vibrator or a dildo at home, get one. If you are into S&M, bondage or anything similar, go shopping for that. Have a masquerade every weekend and dress up. Surprise each other, people!
A final note for the man who wants to buy a vibrator for his lady: Do not assume that we like that big 12 inch thing, most of us don’t. Buy something of a normal size. That way, we can really enjoy it and if we want, we will ask for something bigger.
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I LOVE squirt. I LOVE getting off by clitoral stimulation/sensation and vibrators just make it even more fun. The Hitachi is my favorite! I love the way it makes me feel and squirt. I like to tease my lower abdomen and slowly bring down around my vaginal area and then of course, press it against my clit, hard. After a while, I’ll turn up the speed and next thing I know, I’m on the cum cloud squirting my ass off! I love it even better when I have a sexy stud fucking me and I have the Hitachi right on my clit and I squirt like crazy! Ahhhh, I’m even getting turned on just writing about it! Lol!
You need to adopt ultra-feminine behaviour. To help with this, I usually make my girls watch films based on the lives of transvestites first. A quick search on Google will pull up quite a few. This is just so you can see what it generally is like. Keeping a diary also helps by keeping those emotions at the forefront of your mind. Women are generally more emotional than men so this conditions the mind to become more feminine. It also helps to choose ‘womanly’ activities over the more stereotypical male ones. Maybe take up a form of dancing, or fashion design or baking is another popular option. It is also considered wise to remain in chastity whilst training. A number of devices can be purchased if this is required.
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had brilliant fashion sense when they came to me. Others, sadly, did not and required much effort on my part to become what they are today. It is good to start with the undergarments. I think some nice pieces of lingerie such as satin panties or a lace bra really make you feel feminine. But ultimately, you are going to want to compact the panties and fill the bras. Breastforms are something you wear to shape your bras and provide breasts without the need for surgery. They also come in different sizes which is very useful. Vee strings are something I learnt about more recently but basically, they enable the wearer to tuck away any ‘unladylike’ parts whilst allowing the user to pee sitting down like a lady. Some of my girls have even employed the use of a waist trainer to accentuate that desired feminine waist. Ultimately you want to choose the best style for your body shape. Styling for your body shape takes time, practice and lots of effort. Shoes are the ultimate feminine weapon. The beauty of a high-heel never goes unnoticed but again, walking in these can take time, practice and effort. This is something you definitely have to practice. I advise to start with a low heel and work your way up to the desired height.
If she’s flat out already told you the answer to all those questions, then you better get to work. You’re with a sexually liberated woman who clearly knows what she wants and is expecting you to give it to her. If not, you could ask, but where’s the fun in that? Half the enjoyment comes from exploring each other’s bodies and minds, finding what turns each other on and then giving it to them. Or withholding it temporarily, depending on how much you like teasing.
There’s no such thing as a non-reaction. If you’re doing something and your partner doesn’t react then that tells you something in itself. It could be that they’re not enjoying it. Or, it could be that they’re enjoying it so much and that they’re so focussed on what you’re doing to them that the thought of moving or making a sound completely slipped their mind. it’s up to you to figure out which is which.