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  • My Dating Expectations & Experiences

    My Dating Expectations & Experiences

    I absolutely love dating, which is probably why my job as a companion has come so naturally to me. I love the flirting, the laughter, the intimacy and as a result, have made long lasting connections with my amazing suitors. I’m an extrovert at heart, so I also find it really exciting to meet new people.

    Have you ever been on a date with someone for the first time, and within the first hour felt like you’ve known them forever? I have, and it’s an incredible experience to connect with someone like that. However, I have noticed that this kind of chemistry is less common (really rare, actually!) in traditional dating, than it is in the world of professional companionship. After some reflection as to “why” that is, I realized that in traditional dating, there are so many outside factors that affect the way we date. Are we compatible? Will they like my friends? Is this someone I see a future with?

    These are questions that don’t need to be considered when you’re on a date with a companion. It takes so much of the pressure off and allows us to be much more comfortable with one another. It’s crazy to see how much more enjoyable a date can be when we let go of these expectations and just simply live in the moment.

    How Women & Men Differ In Dating

    We’ve always been told that men are very sex-focused and women are more emotional when it comes to dating, but I really don’t think that is always the case. People date for a wide variety of reasons. Some just want company, some are looking for someone long-term, some want something fun, and of course some people are simply looking for a sexual experience.

    In the real dating world, this can cause a lot of confusion. More often than not, people aren’t on the same page and it can often lead to hurt feelings and awkward conversations. This is where professional companionship becomes a great option; there’s no need to explain yourself or to feel confused about where you stand with your date. If you’re looking to connect and build a relationship with a provider, you can do that.

    Most of us love having regulars, and we genuinely care about them. But on the other hand, if you’re just looking for a fun one night fling, there’s absolutely no hard feelings if you never reach out again. Whatever it is you’re seeking, it can surely be found in the world of courtesans.

    Unrealistic Dating Expectations I Have Encountered

    I’ve definitely gotten some unrealistic date requests from clients. Things like overly specific outfit requests, play-by-plays of how they’d like the entire date to go, long lists of services they’d like me to offer…basically a lot of entitlement and a need for control.

    Early on in my career I would try and accommodate these requests, as I felt that it was my job to help create the fantasy my client had in mind. But, I quickly realized that those dates were never as enjoyable for me as the ones that unfolded naturally. I consider myself to be a really genuine person, so it’s hard for me to feel like I’m acting out a script.

    Companions can definitely cater to a general fantasy or theme, but we’re not circus performers that are going to jump through hoops for you. Besides, one of the funnest parts about going on date is the uncertainty of how it will all unfold. I think a little bit of mystery is sexy.

    Do I Have Expectations Of My Date?

    Absolutely. There’s the basics: be clean, be respectful, and be on time. Always put the donation out where I can see it at the beginning of the date. If I’m coming to see you, be a good host. Dim the lights a bit, put some music on, and be sure to offer me at least a glass of water.

    Don’t expect to pounce on me as soon as I walk through the door, a little bit of flirtation or witty banter is a necessary part of foreplay. Although it is certainly not required, a small gift like a bottle of wine or chocolate is a very sweet gesture. I really do appreciate the little things.

    Does Physical Attraction Matter?

    A gentleman’s physical appearance does not matter to me at all. I often get emails from clients apologizing for their looks as they’re concerned it will be a deal breaker for me, and it breaks my heart. Aside from very basic hygiene expectations, your appearance is not important.

    It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that’s made so many people feel like their ability to be liked is solely dependent on their looks, when in reality we are all so much more than that. I’ve actually noticed a trend that clients who email me boasting about how good looking they are usually end up being the worst dates. Arrogance is such an ugly trait.

    Personally, I love a man who is attentive, respectful, kind, and who understands healthy boundaries. When I know a man really cares about me and respects my body and my time, that’s when I feel like I can really let loose with him.

    What Turns Me Off On A Date

    A few of my date turn offs are: bad hygiene, gossiping, having a negative attitude, and not behaving discreetly when we’re in public together. I’m very privileged to be in a position where I can be selective about who I spend time with, so thankfully these aren’t things I encounter very often.

    Hayden Scott – I am an international luxury companion, catering to those seeking an encounter with someone far from average. I am an intelligent, educated, and attractive young woman yet very friendly, approachable, and down-to-earth. If you are looking for a fun girl with stunning looks and an addictive personality, we should talk!

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    Website: https://www.haydenscott.vip

    Twitter: http://twitter.com/haydenscottxo

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haydenscottxo/

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  • Can Steroids Affect Your Sexual Performance?

    Can Steroids Affect Your Sexual Performance?

    While men might choose to lift weights and get chiseled for all kinds of reasons, many people pursue this goal to attract a mate (or impress their escort, for those who prefer using escort services). Rippling muscles are normally considered attractive, so it’s reasonable to expect that a regular workout routine could help improve a man’s sexual performance.

    If you enhance your workouts with steroids, however, you might experience some awful effects that would undermine your sexual performance.

    Steroids are positive in that it increases muscle mass, muscle definition, and strength. It also enhances the effectiveness of training, besides improving the recovery rate.

    Unfortunately, the extensive side effects far outweigh the benefits, which makes it a poor choice in general. The side effects include erectile dysfunction, reduced sperm count, breast development (in men), baldness, and increased risk of heart disease.

    How Steroids Affect Your Sexual Performance

    Anabolic steroids are drugs used to build muscle mass and reduce body fat. It requires a doctor’s prescription, and doctors use these steroids to treat various medical conditions, such as muscle-wasting conditions associated with AIDs, delayed puberty, and loss of testicular function.

    There’s no evidence that using steroids as recommended by your doctor is harmful if you are healthy. Short-term steroid use has been known to boost sex drive in some instances, but ongoing abuse of steroids may have a negative effect not only on your sex life but on your overall health, as well.

    Pumping your body full of chemicals may cause the muscles to expand. It also increases your feelings of power or strength. The body might interpret these signals with alarm, though, working hard to correct what it sees as an imbalance in the system.

    The results are often the following:

    • Your body will start producing lower levels of male hormones
    • Hormone receptors that regulate male function will be turned off
    • Your body’s cells may release compensatory chemicals, including chemicals that promote feminine characteristics

    The above processes wreak havoc on your sex drive. It’s common for men who abuse steroids to experience periods in which sex drive takes a dive—some of these men struggle to attain a climax when having sex, too.

    Other men experience reduced sensitivity when using high doses of certain steroid medications. Also noteworthy is that the use of steroids can harm your fertility by interfering with hormone signals that stimulate sperm production.

    The level of damage to your fertility depends largely on the type of steroids, the dosage, as well as how long you take these substances. Research shows that most men restore healthy sperm production in three to twelve months after they stop using steroids.

    Should You Continue Using Steroids?

    Thanks to the strong detrimental effects of steroids on sexual performance, male fertility, and other health issues associated with these substances, it advisable to avoid using these types of medication.

    Otherwise, you might find that your penis is less sensitive, and your body is moving against your natural masculinity. Recovering from the condition might mean giving up the steroids and investing in better health going forward.

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  • The Benefits Of Seeing A Sex Worker

    The Benefits Of Seeing A Sex Worker

    I love sex the same way I love to dance or go horseback riding. It’s a fun (adult) activity that provides expression, connection and excitement! I don’t believe it’s natural for the human being to go long periods of time without touch, intimacy or the expression that sex provides.

    Historically and culturally, most of us are not built to do it. I enjoy providing that for people. Additionally, when I have sex with a partner or significant other, there’s an added level of intimacy and emotion.

    The Reasons Clients Engage Sex Workers

    Because touch, sex and intimacy are vital parts of our human existence, sex workers essentially provide that companionship for people.

    We’re a safe place to go. I’ve had clients ranging from the widow/ers who are coming to terms with their new life after losing a partner and are simply lonely and miss a warm body and kind touch; the retired police officer or military vet who still wants to be noticed but have lost their confidence to go out because of traumas or injuries they’ve endured; individuals who suffer from mental illness, who sometimes don’t have the ability to form long-lasting meaningful relationships with a partner because of mental illness but still long for and deserve that connection.

    Plus, it’s a lot of fun to let loose and express that side of ourselves!

    What Are The Benefits Of Engaging A Sex Worker?

    We’re a safe space for our clients to explore different fantasies and build confidence. Come as you are with your kinks, curiosities and insecurities. We create an environment in which there’s no pressure or judgement and they are free to express sides of themselves, explore their fetishes, discover or rediscover aspects of themselves they might have to suppress in their day to day life without fear of social pressures or retaliation.

    One Important Tip For Clients

    Get comfortable, respect yourself and the worker and have lots of communication! Our intention is for us both to have the best time that we can.

    Ways To Spice Things Up With A Client

    Spicy preferences will vary between sex workers and clients. If a client has a fantasy or fetish they’ve wanted to explore, I’d love to hear it! Toys, outfits, role play, etc.

    Hi! I’m V. Falls, my friends call me V. (Some may also know me as Tori Falls). I love traveling, the Oregon Coast and new adventures with all genders and sexualities. I’m a legal sex worker currently working between The Mustang Ranch in Sparks, Nevada and The Desert Rose in Elko, Nevada.

    Follow V on

    Twitter: @VToriFallsxx / @ToriFalls_

    Instagram: @v.tori.falls

    OnlyFans: onlyfans.com/vtorifalls

    Websites:

    https://mustangranchbrothel.com/index.php/ladies/v-falls

    https://www.desertroseclub.com/ladies-page.php?lady=tori

    Mustang Ranch – April 2-7

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  • Why Every Business Man Should Engage A Luxury Companion (Part 2)

    Why Every Business Man Should Engage A Luxury Companion (Part 2)

    When I started my journey as Karina Valentina, I did a lot of research on how other ladies handle their business. I realized that having a professional website with all the necessary information is very important. I did put a lot of time and effort into it to make sure that gentleman has the answer to all his questions on there. I always make an emphasis on the importance of reading my website first to see if we are a good match. It takes only a few minutes to read the basics and then if it sparked your interest, then definitely it’s great to explore all the pages.

    At times, it does surprise me that regardless of my recommendation, men would still ask questions that are obviously mentioned on the website. Gentleman, please, please, if you contact any lady to make her acquaintance, make sure you read the information provided prior. It is such a simple thing, but makes every provider happy and obviously more willing to meet you. All ladies have different rates, minimal amount of hours, requirements in terms of screening, different styles, looks, and personalities. Once you do your research and find a companion you would like to meet – be a gentleman, respect her rules and restrictions for booking, pay the proper rate – and trust me, you will have the time of your life.

    Let me go through some basic etiquette that you probably know, but it never hurts to remind. Ladies have different preferred types of communication. For me the best is feeling in the contact form on the website, sending email /text containing all the information that is required in the contact form. It makes things so much easier for both parties. Also, hopefully there is no need say this, but “hi”, “hey” etc is definitely not a great way to start the conversation. It is a huge turn on to talk to a respectful and polite gentlemen! I am a woman who will make sure that you will be treated like in kind so please treat me like a lady back. Offensive language, explicit talks and lewd conduct is an absolute “no” when you are contacting and spending time with me as well as with any other companion.

    How To Ensure Our Time Together Is Wonderful

    I always thrive to provide the best experience possible. During initial communication, it is important for me to figure out what kind of gentleman I am meeting (to read between the lines of his email if I can say so). As there are many different personalities and different approaches may be needed. Moreover, regardless of the gentleman’s character, compatibility is paramount for me. Nothing can be better than meeting someone who is on the same wavelength and vibe with me as then, the pleasure of a rendezvous is multiplied by many times for both.

    When I started, I was really upset when a gentleman didn’t find me attractive physically or personality wise. Now, I don’t want to be everyone’s cup of tea, but rather, for selective ones to ensure the best experience possible.

    Besides that, as every lady, I desire to be treated with respect and proper manners. Little things like opening a door, helping with a coat, with a chair at the restaurant are indeed important to me and I always notice it all. It makes me smile and get happier by the minute.

    Being attentive is another important trait and behaviour that I value and cherish. I cannot describe how happy and grateful I am when a gentleman brings flowers, or any other type of gift that I mention on my website. Not even the fact of gift that matters, but the fact that he took his time to read it and get to know me before the actual meeting. I would say that a golden formula is to listen to each other, to speak to your souls, and to be able to experiment. I understand that it might be hard sometimes, as in many cases we are not fully aware of our sexuality, what can bring us the ultimate pleasure, what will make the moment unforgettable, but the more open we are, the better our rendezvous will be.

    Frankly speaking, I do need to follow my own advice way more often. As sometimes, I still find myself too shy to tell about things that I fantasize about. Mostly it’s because I think my date is shy too (I know it might sound weird, but my style of companionship is an actual girlfriend experience, which might sometimes include a little cute awkward moment). It’s always easily solved ones, that either of us steps up and shares some little secrets. As I mentioned before, the connection does play a vital role for me and I am sure for most gentlemen as well.

    So once I meet an open soul, once we share some things with each other (obviously doesn’t have to be anything that me or the gentleman don’t want to talk about, as privacy and mutual respect are at the most importance), like magic – our minds, bodies, and souls are fully combined and we can thoroughly indulge in each other. I can go on and on about it, but I hope my main idea was heard. We live once, and life is too short to live it boring, scared or closed-minded!

    Karina Valentina – I am  a young woman  who can be described as an “adventure seeker, soul healer, crazy laugher”. Also simply a lady who (it’s a Russian saying, might translate weird in English) will be a queen when meeting his friends, the most hospitable hostess around the house, and the dirtiest pornstar in bed:)

    My friends also call me a Happy Butterfly by the way;)

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    Website: https://www.karinavalentina.com/about-karina

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Karina_Vlt

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  • Why Every Business Man Should Engage A Luxury Companion

    Why Every Business Man Should Engage A Luxury Companion

    To begin with, I would like to mention that I am coming from a really prejudice and judgmental background. I was born in Russia and raised in Ukraine. Not sure how aware you are of the culture there. In a nutshell: companions (they don’t use any of the alternative words, just “prostitute”or ‘whore”) are referred to as “girls with low social responsibility”, and escorting is called “ugly social phenomenon”.

    I personally never saw sex work this way, but didn’t consider it as my line of work to begin with. Not that while ago, my life circumstances necessitated me to go on the “dark side” and I am so glad they did. Probably, so far it’s the best decision I have made. It started with a need and now it’s a huge part of my life and me as a person and I am not planning to give up on all this great experiences any time soon.

    At the moment I can’t even describe how blessed and thankful I am to be in the community, to have so many supportive ladies, clients, the people who sincerely want all the SW to succeed, with whom I can be my true self, live, love and laugh.

    The stigma and disrespect towards professional companions like myself here is clearly just a prejudice that society has based just on general knowledge. Only ignorant people can see companionship as inferior act. Is it bad when two (or more) people have a great time, can relax and unwind, experience new sensations, explore their bodies, range of emotions learn from each other, travel together, explore new places and adventures without any complication?

    All romantic relationships between men and women involve an exchange of value to improve the lives of both participants. There is no fundamental difference between a relationship with a professional companion like myself and a “normal” one, other than you already know prior to entering the engagement, how long I am your girlfriend for and “break-ups” or “separation”are not heart-breaking.

    Why I’m An Ideal Companion Date

    I would describe myself as a sweet, warm, passionate, sophisticated young lady, who enjoys adventures and loves to try new things. Also, my European blood adds a little spice, so I can be intense, stormy and in a good way a little crazy. As they say, “still waters run deep“. With that being said, it is never a dull moment with me. On Twitter, there are a few videos, where you can here my laughter. I personally think it’s not pretty at all, but everyone finds it super sincere, hilarious and uplifting. (In case you are having a bad day, I suggest you watch it or better hear it in person…)

    One of the greatest finesse this industry has taught me is how to deal with different types of people, handle various situations, adjust to any scenario, make people feel comfortable around me, see what one likes just by a brief chat.

    Despite my young age, I am a well-educated lady. I already hold a Bachelor’s degree in International Business.  Soon looking to start a Masters Program. In addition to my school education, I consider myself to be a street-smart woman. I frequently read books about self-growth, self-development and spirituality. For me, it’s easy to support any conversation. I love a genuine laughter, discussions, doing activities together. It entails that my favourite rendezvous are definitely multiple hour ones, or multi-day. I see this as such, a wonderful opportunity to spend time, to get to know each other, to build long-lasting connections. Needless to say, that sex is a million times better when we become comfortable with each other.

    I only share my time with men of grace and distinction, I don’t pretend to like them – I really do care for every one of them as individuals and I treat them like they deserve to be treated. One of my friends who was trapped in an abusive marriage claims that I literally saved his life by spending my time with him at his most vulnerable moment, so this makes me kind of a man’s emotional first responder – I even have the nurse uniform if we need it.

    Reasons Men Engage Companions

    I do meet a lot of gentleman who come to the city for business – conferences, meetings, projects, trainings, location scouting etc. From what I observed and been told, there are quite a few reasons why they are seeking companionship during such trips.

    Constant flying, tight schedules, not enough sleep are only a few difficulties out of many that those men face while traveling. Hiring a luxury companion is a great way to de-stress, unwind, relax, and get your thoughts together for the next day or before an important meeting. Plus, traveling along can get boring. A courtesan can be everything you seek in one – a friend, conversationalist, arm candy, city guide, and bedroom nymph. She will keep you entertained, energized, and distracted from the pressure.

    Also, a big part of it is definitely the opportunity to fulfil your fantasies. What’s most important is that having a rendezvous with a companion doesn’t require any commitment afterwards. You can have the time of your life, and after, return to your regular routine without any worry or obligations.

    A lot of business trips also require outings, dinners and events. As a successful businessman, you’ll want to be seen with a beautiful, well dressed and well groomed, smart and classy lady. It is important to keep up appearances at social events.

    I do have to mention, that many times gentlemen book me to spend time with their business partners, investors etc. As a sign of appreciation. Such gifts never fails (at least from my experience), but helps to close deals and maintain good business relationships.

    To sum everything up, there are various reasons why gentlemen engage in such type of encounters. With mutual respect, discretion, open-mindedness and always positive attitude such relationships are a win -win situation.

    To Be Continued…

    Karina Valentina – I am  a young woman  who can be described as an “adventure seeker, soul healer, crazy laugher”. Also simply a lady who (it’s a Russian saying, might translate weird in English) will be a queen when meeting his friends, the most hospitable hostess around the house, and the dirtiest pornstar in bed:)

    My friends also call me a Happy Butterfly by the way;)

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    Website: https://www.karinavalentina.com/about-karina

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Karina_Vlt

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  • The Popularisation of Escort Services amongst the lonely

    The Popularisation of Escort Services amongst the lonely

    In today’s ever busy commute of daily living in, it’s ever easier to lose track of social connections and neglecting one’s individual needs.

    For the busy individual alone in this hyperconnected world, escort services or paid companionship has grown in popularity as a convenient option for some semblance of physical intimacy.

    This popularisation fuelled by the convenience which the internet’s vast variety of websites and apps provides today offers some form of advantages for those seeking to fulfil one’s carnal desires.

    Rather than face rejection in more traditional relationships, with a simple click of a button, one can easily select their companion and arrange a date where in that few hours, one’s seemingly lonely existence is easily forgotten.

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  • Escort Services: Useful or Harmful?

    Escort Services: Useful or Harmful?

    Present-day life can provide a person with anything he/she may want. Are you hungry at midnight? A 24/7 catering company will deliver food. Do you need to make reservations on a vacation? In a couple of clicks, everything is booked. Do you need a companion for an event? No problem, you can find a date for a party thanks to special escort services.

    The latter seems to be a great solution to busy people who sometimes need someone to go out with. Indeed, this is quite easy: you open the website of rougeboulevard — UK escorts, choose a girl you like, get in touch, and that’s it. However, is everything so easy? Let’s take a deeper look at the matter.

    Any Possible Flaws?

    Every person who has decided to use the services of the escort has no appropriate candidate among acquaintances to accompany for an event or simply to spend some good time together. Hence, this person has got certain expectations. Though, there can be still some disadvantages to this choice:

    • The decision is made mostly based on the outer looks. Thus, it is impossible to predict the behavior, voice, and habits of a girl who will attend an event with you. It means that for an important official venue, especially the one related to work, it is better to choose a companion who you already know.
    • This solution cannot substitute real relationships if a person has got such intentions. It is essential to remember that a woman with you is working, thus, there is no room for feelings.

    Undeniable Benefits of the Service

    Even though the solution to invite an escort is not perfect, everything initially depends on intentions. Thus, a person should at first decide which relationships he is interested in. If you are willing to build a family, no need to use the service. However, if a companion is needed for a venue, that is a great possibility to spend time with an attractive hot girl that will join you. Among the other advantages, it is possible to mention:

    1. Convenient and quick alternative: it is feasible to find a woman, request if she is available, set the date and time, and that’s it.
    2. Pleasant and captivating conversations: these women do know how to behave and interact. One will undoubtedly like the time spent with such a woman.
    3. Sexy and hot model with you: it is not so easy to meet such an attractive woman somewhere in a cafe. With such services, one may opt for a woman who he likes most of all and enjoy the most pleasant experience with her.

    In general, escort services are intended to help a person quickly find a companion. The disadvantages of this solution are linked to possible confusion in intentions. Thus, if a person is sure what he wants, that is a great opportunity to spend an unforgettable time with an attractive woman.

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  • Common Misconceptions About Sex Work

    Common Misconceptions About Sex Work

    I truly have an undying respect, as well as a great deal of admiration for all types of sex workers. There are those of us who are privileged enough to be able to share what we do with our loved ones, but for many, our job, and lifestyle is our greatest secret. There is always the threat of being doxed or outed, which comes with having the possibility of our worlds turned totally upside down. This can come with a loss in employment from our “civilian jobs”, as well as a potential loss in relationships with our loved ones.

    For some of us who are out, we deal with pressure from our friends and family to find a “real job”. We’re told by society that our jobs and lifestyles are not valid, and we have to fight for people to understand the validity and importance of what we do, as well as fight the stigma that says that we all must be victims of circumstance, but the truth is more often in several shades of grey, and rarely so black and white.

    The truth, at least from my point of view, is that we live in a world and time where the simple pleasures of life are so few and far between, that those who can offer a gentle touch, a kind word, or a sensual romp should be admired as care-givers all the same, and not as criminals or social pariahs.

    My Perception Of The Sex Work Industry Prior To Joining

    I’m not proud to admit this, but before I joined the industry, I had some fairly negative views, and used some unkind language when I spoke of sex workers. I was young, and my opinions never came from a place of malice, but from a place of complete, and utter ignorance. Everything that I thought I knew about sex work, and sex workers was from what I saw on television, and in movies.

    These movies never included disabled workers, authors, those in highly regarded positions in government, trans workers, and/or students who managed to put themselves through school with little to no debt. I assumed that all escorts had pimps, and were all victims of broken families. No escort WANTS to escort, no stripper WANTS to strip. They do it because they have to – is what I believed. I didn’t realize that there are those who are prideful, and rightfully so, and choose these professions above other, “more respected” endeavors, because they find fulfillment in it. I didn’t realize that for some, this industry was a means to an end, and towards something different, but for others, it’s the long-term career they chose!

    This industry is not one-size-fits-all. Many of us are running our dealings either how we have to, how we see fit, and how it works for us and our separate business models. For better or for worse, we are all uniquely ourselves, and it is so important that society sees us as distinct individuals, instead of victims, and only that.

    How My Perception Has Changed Since

    I commonly hear from those who I tell about my job, a few common misconceptions. The most common that I hear is that all clients visiting full-service workers are married. In my experience, it’s true that a lot of my clients are married men, though an even larger portion are of a completely different variety. It’s not uncommon to see those who are newly single, and unable to emotionally commit to a new partner, and aren’t looking for a one-night-stand.

    I have seen those who are looking to practice emotional, and physical intimacy – and those visitors are not always looking to have any sex at all. I have had the opportunity to visit those who have physical disabilities that can make dating, and intimacy more difficult. Lastly, I have met men who are new to all forms of sex and romanticism, are ready to lose their virginity, and haven’t met anyone to lose it to. For myself, what I like to think we can offer all of our suitors is an uncomplicated, drama-free, intimate experience, that lets them know that their needs are well taken care of.

    What Should Aspiring Sex Workers Be Prepared For?

    If I were to share what knowledge I have of the industry, I would say that there are ways to mitigate risk, and that safety is so important. I’ll note my privilege here, but will say that screening has been the best way that I’ve managed to stay safe. You’ll find many forums that host different types of screening. Find what works for you.

    There is also safety, and importance in community, and keeping a select few of your peers close, as friends, will help you stay safe, and sane. My friends and family know about what I do, but they aren’t able to understand the less glamorous parts of the industry, and to have those who can empathize is imperative.

    Saving your money is key. This industry ebbs and flows in how busy it is. Saving your money, and knowing that you’ll make it through the lulls will stop you from taking risks to see clients who might not have your best interests in mind.

    Taking time to disconnect from your work is important, whether that be putting away your work phone, or turning off your work Twitter. I think any small business owner will tell you the same thing. Our business becomes an extension of ourselves, and disconnecting will allow you to keep the distinction in your mind, that you are NOT your work – not all the time.

    My name is Brea Fawn – a late-twenties, Edmonton based full-service escort. I have been working independently as a companion for less than a year, but also spent time as a cam girl for a brief period of time. I am passionate about this industry, and it’s many offshoots. Working as a sex worker has given me a great deal of intimate fulfillment, and gratification as I have seen my small, personal business grow and evolve over time.

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    Website: www.breafawn.com

    Twitter: @breafawn

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  • My Experiences From Sex Work

    My Experiences From Sex Work

    Sex is one of the fundamental elements to the human experience; it is, without question, one of the most intimate and vital aspects of life. The idea of “sex work” is not new, it has been called “the world’s oldest profession” and not without cause. Sex has been utilised as a service and commodity since biblical times.

    Sexuality and the promise of sex has been used by advertisers to pitch sales for everything from vacuum cleaners to cheeseburgers and the trade of actual sex acts for compensation is really no more a moral misstep than featuring a pretty model in a bikini laying across a shiny Corvette at a car show to interest buyers.

    At the end of every argument, for or against sex work, remains the fact that it is a provided service and product for use and consumption just like any other in the free market. And it beats the hell out of a desk job!

    I got started in sex work by answering an ad for “adult models.” I was already working in a gentlemen’s club, so the idea of expanding the arena of adult work was natural. I started nude modeling and soon began working as a Companion/Escort. I am now working in adult film.

    The Experiences I’ve Enjoyed In Sex Work

    What I find amazing about sex work is that there is always a unique aspect to each interaction. A laugh, a smile, a touch…never quite the same despite the fact that the physical acts tend to become “commonplace.” That is not meant to imply that the acts themselves are mechanical or unenjoyable, but only that there is only so much one can feature on a menu!

    I have had a couple of experiences that were special, in a way, each unique to the client. I am a people-pleaser by nature and when I know I have been able to provide something enjoyable to a client I’m pleased, as well. One specific encounter was with an elderly gentleman who was a widower. For him, he enjoyed the company and conversation as much as the physical acts.

    Sex work can often include an emotional need for a client as much as a physical desire. And it is immensely satisfying to make another person feel good!

    Worst Things That Can Happen To A Sex Worker

    One of the worst things that can happen to a sex worker, indeed anyone, really, is assualt. It is a real danger in the realm of the adult industry. Workers do not always have additional security present and independent workers, even when stringently screening potential clients, are at risk because one never truly knows who might be on the other side of the door.

    That is obviously a worst-case-scenario aspect of the work, but another downside is regular clients can often blur the line between professional provider and personal life. This is problematic on various levels. And as in any other job there is the occasional ” rude customer,” the ill-tempered malcontent who either complains, haggles or is just simply mean-spirited.

    The upside to being a sex worker over a typical “employee”, however, is that sex workers can give someone the boot or just Black List them. The girl working a shift at the local coffee house or the customer service desk at a department store does not have that option.

    Strange Requests I’ve Gotten

    Most filming scenarios and client requests have been fairly standard (if there is such a thing in this industry), but I’ve had a few “off color” requests in the past. Foot fetish requests are nothing new, but one gentleman requested the exact shade of polish he wanted my toenails to be painted as well as the color of heels he wanted me to wear.

    Another request was a general Dom/Sub scenario but the client wanted to berate me with names, etc. and have me repeat back to him what he said. It seemed awkward at first, but he enjoyed it. The worst request I ever received actually occurred in my private dating life and was, without doubt, the most uncomfortable and creepy request I’ve ever had. I will not go into grisly detail but divulge that the request involved a “stranger rape” type of scenario (he described a fully developed and detailed fantasy for me); needless to say, I drew my line firmly in the sand and the idea of dating this individual was immediately dismissed, as was he.

    I am all for individuals playing out fantasies, exorcising a dark demon or two, but this situation raised flags for me and I couldn’t help but suspect that the line between role-play and reality was nearly invisible for this person.

    Ava Stark – “Sweet submissive” My secret philosophy…a connoisseur of Scotch, Sass and all things Sensually Sinful!

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  • What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    At any rate, allow yourself to expand your definition of sex. Relative to my peers, I stumbled late into the party and much preferred to hang out by first-floor windows for less-than-erotic escapes. My early university years proudly presented sex in all its glory. It wasn’t until after I popped my cherry out of much pent-up sexual frustration and making the call on a pricey Brazilian (wax) that I began to draw on what it meant to me to feel desired.

    In allowing myself to first get deeply personal, I found what turned me on increasingly more enjoyable. Teasing neck bites in-between the pillows could cast the same frenzy as holding a hushed conversation inches from a stranger’s ear at the bar, well-wrapped up around their thumb. It won’t be the last time you hear it, but for all my firsts out there, know this: a climax cannot be appreciated without breaking a sweat, working out the kinks of foreplay.

    How Are First Timer Clients Like?

    My first timers are some of the sweetest nuggets out there. They constitute a little less than 15% of my reach who also book. They’re drawn to the playful humour and sly wit they see online and I think show up with just the faintest hope I’ll use it to help quell their nerves in person. They also send the best memes. Hands down.

    I’d be naïve to think I could speak for all companions or sex providers (SPs). I find, however, that my first timers either ask all the questions or none. Experienced patrons can be no different but also include ‘not enough’ despite knowing better, you’d think. Our latter group here is not necessarily immune to mounting nervous energy either. It is, after all, a real date.

    As with any real date, respectful, non-pushy use of language before and/or during this encounter involve understanding that requesting ‘menus’ right off the bat is off-putting to some SPs, including myself. With first timers and experienced patrons alike, I actively work to normalize effectively communicating boundaries to build an initial sense of trust in these sessions. Listening here is the power move. Both groups typically understand consent once raised—at least, in my experience. I cannot emphasize enough that consent is best expressed verbally by all parties involved to not shoot the mood for the evening. For our readers asking, ‘what if…’, I garner that you’re both adults—an email exchanging written confirmation of consensual acts beforehand is a green-light technicality.

    When the door opens, there are a few from both groups that don’t seem to know what to do with themselves and I’m reminded of myself. I find it charming. I’d say I’m quicker now to Shepard’s crook them by the belt holes before they bolt—assuming I’m hosting, of course. Given the sound of room service trolleys fast approaching anywhere, I’ve never been all that slow or shy to lift a few jaws on the walk in. This is only a subtle reminder to have your Do-Not-Disturb signs ready in hand, gents.

    Preparing For Your SP Before She Arrives

    Prep has got to be half the fun. It’s highly likely the SP’s given you a little reading material for the nights you’ve been sitting up in bed, still awake in anticipation.

    Work knocks you out good? Yeah, you can catch their Tweets on your commute to work or in an unassuming corner of the office during your lunch break. The most logical order IMO is starting with the website. Read it proper. If you’re not sold, or just want more than you’d like to admit, hit up the Media section on their Twitter—especially if you’re more of a ‘visuals person’. Then take a moment to check their Likes section to see if they’re still sane enough for you.

    Confirmations—along with a complete form submission—can be very important for many SPs. This may include a deposit, which you’ll have made note of if you’ve read her website (proper). Confirm at least the day before. I would advise against looking to confirm more than twice for any date as unnecessary persistence begins to raise yellow flags.

    If you’re working with a longer date, be considerate and well-prepared to offer them a bite (check for allergies, nutter butt) and glass of water at least. Drink some yourself. While you’re at it, moisturize your lips and tend to all grooming and hygiene needs. A little rinsey rinsey under the sink faucets would be most unwise. Even I’d pray for you. If the SP appears rather vocal online, do yourself a favor and don’t let yourself be sub-tweeted at. Tend twice to any areas you’d like to be appreciated.

    Be mindful to have the compensation ready for them in an envelope or whatever means they’d prefer. Location-wise, it should be in plain sight. You can’t mess this instruction up—it’s my easiest one. Tidy up the place if need be and upon offering to take their coat past the door, kindly also direct their gaze to said patronage along with some direction to the nearest bathroom. I’ll add that this is part of the foreplay I stressed earlier. Though I don’t know you, reader, I do want you to have an amazing time nonetheless. Do as their websites instruct you. Waiting to present their compensation till the end leaves many slightly more reserved in session. The wrap-up at the end is actually a window better suited to tips. On tips, I would say if you have the means to be generous and truly enjoyed your time, prepare this while they’re showering. Even if you’re not tipping, do the decency of giving them the privacy to get ready in there alone. Trust me on this one too. I gargle often and spit facts.

    Though not necessary, try to have a bottle of mouthwash, fresh bath towels and a neutral or relatively less ‘masculine’ smelling body wash available for their use at the end of the date. Your SP will appreciate it and not use your liquid hand soap by the sink. Should you fail to do so, don’t comment on how ingenious [she/they] smells.

    Once The Meet Up Begins…

    You’ve prepared yourself well! Assuming you read most of my last bit. The excitement’s got to be near through the roof at this point, I’ll bet.

    I hope you both have a lovely little or long time together. Don’t know what that entails? Did you plan a theater outing together? Holding hands doing nothing? A couples mani pedi before your kink dungeon date? Snakes and Ladders, maybe? An indoor board game atop a new and *very* doable cuddling position? Or was it erotic wrestling? A home-cooked meal for two? Or season two of some genius Netflix realm while you practise your rope basics? Well, why don’t you ask them…?

    Ways To Ease Nerves For A First Timer

    As if I haven’t been already, this will be a space to be blunt. To engage earnestly with your SP and in more of a wholesome manner at that, do not excessively drink and/or abuse substances to ‘escape’ your nerves prior to your meeting, gentlemen. Even your boss could tell you that. If you’re your own boss, I just did, so have your delusions call my people, if you so must.

    Second, read as much as want about your provider until you think you’re ready. This will still not mean you’re actually ready for whatever you’re expecting. Dates may flow every which way and controlling the stream too firm with expectation is a harder take than necessary; you could guarantee a flop. Be present and trust your SP. True intimacy is rooted in that initial trust.

    Third, I’d like to separate this little bit of advice about trusting yourself. You have no one to be but yourself on this date. Feel no need to overcompensate or tear yourself down. Unless, of course, that’s your kink, then you will need to express this to your SP before the date to not make things awkward. Communicate what space you want or need with your SP verbally. This could mean starting the date seated across/next to each other and draw yourself closer as you feel more comfortable with each smile. Meet anxiety with some eye contact and a little willingness to laugh in the face of it.

    First Timer Etiquette Tips 

    My advice for etiquette lies on and in-between the lines I’ve provided above. Everything said pertaining to hygiene, surrounding misc. preparations, and pre-date exchanges are very important. Be on time but don’t be one to watch the clock, that goes for SPs and patrons alike. Leaving on time is major, too. Overstaying your welcome or holding an SP from having to leave is a faux pas, meaning don’t you dare do it. I would also emphasize making sure to brush up on safe sex practices and communicating with your SP that you understand them.

    Once the date has started, try to keep your reservations at bay and tune into your newest muse. Feel no pressure for anyone to claim to have climaxed two minutes of walking through that door. Most likely, this will be a mutual feeling for your SP. The real takeaway will be in how well the both of you listen to each other during foreplay. Come as your best self. Be ready to be open and/or equally ready to listen. Have fun!

    Léa Rose – Seemingly yet another self-proclaimed high-end companion to the Rose kin, this pun-lovin’, long-limbed lynx reckons you’ll be inquiring more about her writing outlets and phon-atic musings at some point or another. Often tuned into a different frequency having secured her travel bag with a bit of head start than most, she’s a millennial milking every bit of having to stay stagnant living and working in the ever-growing metropolis that is Toronto, ON.

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