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  • How To Keep Escort Liaisons & Affairs Discreet Part I

    How To Keep Escort Liaisons & Affairs Discreet Part I

    The sex industry is a fascinating subject.  Why?  Because it is in a constant state of winding in and out of everyone’s lives daily. From the porn industry, to the happy ending message parlor.   The sex industry doesn’t just exist quietly.  It is millions of shadows pacing down the street unnoticed.  Defiantly tucked in the corner of your eyes.

    I don’t just view sex work as work.  It’s therapy, liberation, and a fantasy escape.  For both client and SWer.   Much like any job you might endeavor, it can be amazing, or daunting.  Some, will find their ‘best life’ in SW, others will hate it but remain just for the financial freedom it provides.  Contrary to what the world will have you believe, that is common for any job, occupation, or career, out there.  The negatives touted about the industry are the same negatives you will find elsewhere in other occupations.  Unlike most others occupations,  You can pick and choose the jobs that are comfortable for you.  You have the liberty to take the occupational role and tweet it to fit your own needs and comfort levels.  Essentially, it feels as if someone has handed you the wheel to drive your own life.

    Just beneath the surface of your everyday life, lives another world.  When the rest of the world hears “sex worker” they immediately imagine, short skirts, and disease riddled street walkers.  Only, this second world is vast and filled with so very much more.  Web performers, dancers, porn actresses/actors, and even professional cuddlers.  It is it’s own fully diverse society.

    I love SW.  I enjoy it from both perspectives, inside and out.  In sex work, I found the control and freedom I desperately needed.  A balm to a past life I barely remember anymore.

    Diversity Of Clients

    Clients stem from all walks of life.  Rich, poor, charismatic, socially impaired, the clients are as diverse as the escorts themselves.  It’s not just men that employ escorts, either.  You will find women and couples enjoying the luxury of an escort.  Lawyers, doctors, politicians, truck drivers, accountants, and even teachers.  The type of people that employ escorts essentially boils down to two types.  The thrill seekers, and those that are missing something.   Companionship, intimacy, and even safe sexual exploration.

    Reasons Men Engage Escorts

    Most are looking for something beyond sex.  Don’t get me wrong, they want sex too, but it’s not the primary hole they are trying to fill.  Pun absolutely intended.  It’s the intimacy, being close to another human being.  Some don’t even know why they find themselves on the path looking for an escort.

    • They are lonely. Sometimes, the spouse passes, there is a big breakup, or the client simply has a difficult time attracting a long term mate.
    • They fear rejection. With an escort, they can practice courting, intimacy, and socializing, without fear of direct rejection.
    • Lost passion. They love their spouses, but the passion has turned to more of a best friend situation.  Their spouses have long since stopped the rampant intimacy that had been there at the beginning.  So instead of an affair, they find a professional.
    • Unique or judged sexual preferences. Sometimes the client wants to explore something that they fear their spouse, or partner, will reject.  I have several clients that enjoy dressing up as women, for example.  Others that want to explore their fantasies without hurting or upsetting their partners.
    • Human beings commit to monogamy because they feel obliged to do so. There is a insurmountable amount of evidence that theorizes and proves human beings are not meant to be monogamous sexually.  A trip to the psychology section of your local library or book store will happily delve deeper into this subject.

    I could go on and on and on.  The reasons people see escorts is as varied as the reasons people enjoy art or music.

    Jaycee Rivers – Just another passionate geek feeding my insatiable appetites.  There is nothing more interesting in the world besides fascinating people, and a good book.

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    Website: https://www.themidnightrendezvous.com

    Twitter: @thejayceerivers

    I will be making my first experimental single city tour in NYC the 18th or 19th to the 21st.

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  • How To Have A Great Date Night

    How To Have A Great Date Night

    A great date to me is one that is full of smiles, laughter and good chemistry. A little creativity can also go a long way when it comes to planning a memorable date. Some of my best dates were when the guy went the extra mile to plan an outing based on our shared interests.

    Preparation For A Date Night

    To prepare for a date night out, I like to take my time to primp and prime to make sure I look and feel my absolute best. A long shower followed by oils and perfume, hair and makeup and picking out the perfect outfit to accentuate my curves.

    How Important Are First Impressions?

    First impressions do matter! You only get one chance to make a great one.  My only expectation is that my date is a gentleman. I’m a little traditional in the sense that I believe a man should always open the door, pull out chairs, etc. It’s romantic and makes me feel taken care of 🙂

    Biggest Turn Offs

    One of my biggest turnoffs on a date is when someone doesn’t talk much. It’s hard to get to know someone who doesn’t tell you much about themselves.  I’m naturally extroverted and can talk to anyone about anything so it’s no reason to be shy with me. I’m an open book who will encourage you to open yours as well.

    Signs I’m Having A Good Time

    To show that I’m having a good time, I smile a lot and will initiate some physical contact by touching my date’s arm or knee. Physical contact says that I’m comfortable being in your personal space.

    Sierra Sinclair – Hi, I’m Sierra Sinclair! I’m a VIP Companion based in Dallas, Texas and available Worldwide. I am a friendly, passionate and sensual woman who possesses a mixture of incredible sex appeal combined with a charismatic personality. I love being a companion because I get to meet amazing people, travel and plan “great date nights” all the time 🙂

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    Website: SierraSinclair.com

    Twitter: twitter.com/SweetSierraLive

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  • Sharing My Escorting Experiences

    Sharing My Escorting Experiences

    I love my job! I get to meet some amazing people. Giving pleasure either physically or emotionally inspires me. I love to make people happy so this was the right work choice for me.

    How I Got Started Into Escorting

    Someone had suggested it to me. I did a little research and then found an ad in the newspaper looking for “models”. I decided why not, to try this out.. I wasn’t exactly sure what it was. I called and a couple of dudes showed up to interview me. I was shocked at first when they told me what the job entailed. Lol but then I thought, why not try it… I love meeting new people, love men, and sex.   I was lucky with my first appointment as it was his first time with an escort., so we just jumped into the action as if we were long lost, lovers.

    They thought I was too old at first (I was 35) but I fooled them and I turned out to be the most popular. When I realized this, I quit the agency and went indie.  Life hasn’t been the same since.

    Highs & Lows Of Escorting

    Traveling around the world. Meeting wonderful people is definitely a high. Being able to pay for my children’s education. Seeing the smiles on the men’s faces when they meet you. Getting gifts and thank you letters. As much as I aim to please men..they please me in so many ways. A simple thank you goes a long way.

    Lows…Having people not reading your website and asking stupid questions. Guys not showing up for appointments. The new Fosta-Sesta law in the States isn’t helping much either.

    Why are we fighting for our rights as women? I thought this was 2018, not the middle ages. I feel as if a part of me is missing. Why can’t we as women do what we want? Our bodies our minds are our choice.

    You’ll probably not find anyone more against sex trafficking then us independent sex workers.  We decide who we see and when. I say independent because what we make is all ours. We see who we want, when we want.

    So now there are more lows…ladies having to move to the streets, losing their income. Their independence. Especially in the USA but it has affected the whole industry all over the world.

    Misconceptions About Escorting

    We don’t all have pimps or work for someone. We don’t work 24/7.  We don’t see just anyone. Just because you contacted me doesn’t mean I’m going to see you. We are not all on drugs. I don’t do drugs at all and rarely do I have a drink.

    How The Escorting Industry Works

    To be an escort, You need to be good at what you do.. You need to understand men and know what they are looking for. It’s not always sex. You should have confidence in yourself. Once you are ready to proceed then you have to advertise.  Once you start getting calls, emails, you should screen your potential clients before making a date with them. We screen for our safety. Screening is usually pretty easy. The gentlemen gives us a name of another escort he’s met and we contact her to see if she indeed met him and if he is safe. Once all this is out of the way, you make your plans with him and enjoy your time together.

    Emma Alexandra – I’m Emma Alexandra your mature passionate companion. I stand 5’4” with a voluptuous body. Everything is real… wink!

    My personality, warmth and affection are genuine and seriously contagious. I’m a sparkle of sunshine In your day. I love to love!

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  • Ways To Enjoy A First Date

    Ways To Enjoy A First Date

    A good date experience is when we both leave the date feeling uplifted and excited. It always helps set a good tone for the date when I can tell that the other person has put some time/thought into the outing. If it’s not a blind date and you have a bit of an idea about your partners interests (from social media or mutual friends), you can really impress them by playing into that! It doesn’t have to meet any certain stipulations or criteria per say, as long as we both leave with smiles on our faces wanting to reconnect again.

    First Date Faves

    Going out for a meal is always a traditional nice way to get to know someone through conversation. But a good meal paired with a shared experience like going to an event, a class, or a museum, concert, hike, anything really — gives you something to talk about over dinner and an introductory way to explore likes, dislikes and each other’s interests.

    One of my favorite dates in San Francisco started as a walk through Golden Gate Park to a free event, Opera in the Park. We sat around on a picnic blanket and enjoyed the music for a bit (I think this gave us both time to get comfortable around each other and let the first date jitters subside), then walked over into a nice neighborhood nearby for a drink, then eventually to dinner and dessert.

    It ended up being a long date that was only expected to be the meet and greet and walk around the park but ended up being an all day affair because we were enjoying each others’ company.

    Preparing For The First Date

    Well I personally have a pre-date ritual to prepare for a date that involves a long shower and bath with a glass of wine, followed by body oil, face mask, and general grooming and primping. I follow this up with a meditation session so I feel relaxed and centered before meeting. On the date itself, I try to be myself for the most part, perhaps a little reserved in some areas until I get a good feel for the other person and our compatibility, but generally try to be as normal and like me as possible. How else will you know you’re a good fit if you aren’t being yourself?

    Expectations Of My Date

    I am generally not a high maintenance girl so all I expect from a date is courtesy, kindness, and respect. Also, I do think it’s appropriate for the man to at least ASK to pay the bill at the end of the night.

    Tips To Remove The Nerves

    Don’t be nervous! But of course that is easier said than done so I would say just take a few deep breaths, don’t be afraid to be yourself or talk about things that truly interest you (you’re probably more interesting than you let yourself believe) and in the event nerves are taking over anyway – don’t drink too much! I’ve seen this happen more than once and trust me, you’d rather be a bit nervous in the beginning and let that round out as the date goes on, than add fuel to the fire and end up being a hot mess!

    Jeniveve Delacroix – I am a 28 year old sensual blonde sweetheart living in San Francisco. I just graduated with my undergrad degree in the social sciences (I love to study all things people) and am enjoying my time off before I head back to grad school. In my free time I love to do yoga, hike, pet all the animals and travel and love to share these interests with like minded people.

    Follow Jeniveve on

    Website: www.Jenivevedelacroix.com

    Twitter: @JeniveveD

    Only Fans: www.Onlyfans.com/jenivevedelacroix

    Regularly available in the SF Bay Area with a tour to Denver in July, and NYC in September. TBD dates.

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  • Why Men Engage Escorts

    Why Men Engage Escorts

    I’ve been an escort for five years. My personal view on sex work and escorting has changed since I started when I was 24 years old. At first, I saw it as a means to an end – a good living so I can work on “what I really wanted to do,” which, at 24, had no idea what it was.  As time went on, I started seeing the profession as more of a career – and a fulfilling one at that. I am the way my clients de-stress in a judgment free zone. I am a way for couples to bond and come closer together – a concept I think couples would only understand if they’ve have experience with an escort. I am a way for individuals to experience intimacy if they find themselves lacking comfort from someone.

    While I think anyone can get into any career for the wrong reasons, I believe escorting to be a way where women can play amongst men that a glass ceiling might have prevented them to be around. And I get to hang around with those men in the best way – not to work for them, but to play with them.

    Misconceptions About Escorting

    The most common misconceptions are two: that there’s no way someone could have *chosen* this life and that the people that book us are “losers.”

    Not only have I chosen this career and chose to stay in this career because of the opportunities it has afforded me and how much fulfillment I find in my day-to-day interactions with my clients, but every other escort I’ve ever met has chosen this life for the same reasons. It’s easy to think that someone else pushes us into this, as popular opinion would have you believe, but many of my contemporaries are intelligent, entrepreneurial ladies who can’t imagine themselves ever doing anything else! While all careers have their tough day, there’s a lot of fun and adventure that’s hard to find in any other profession – at least in the way I like to engage in fun and adventure!

    The majority of my clients are men, and these men are the furthest from “lame” that could exist. My clients are professional, respectful men that are simply looking for a drama-free, easy way to let their hair down and relax.  I’m a professional adult entertainer with an uninhibited sense of adventure. For a professional man with the disposable income, what better way to let loose then with a sexy lady that knows exactly how to look, what to wear, how to carry herself, and that will look offer you a good time with no drama or strings attached?!

    Advantages Of Engaging An Escort

    The biggest advantage to booking an escort is for a drama-free, good time without the risks and uncertainty attached with engaging a complete stranger with unknown intentions at a bar or wherever you may find yourself.  My intention is for my client to have the time of their life, because it’s my profession to entertain. What can you say about the intentions of a random stranger? You know exactly what you’re getting when you book an escort, and there’s A TON of value in a sure thing!

    Main Reason Main Engage Escorts

    I’d say the main reason men engage an escort is to have fun and de-stress. It’s the experience and value that comes with having someone who they can say absolutely anything to so they feel heard, validated, and not judged.

    Do’s & Don’ts To Follow

    One important DO, is to treat the profession like any other profession and approach the escort with respect. Read her website and get to know her. Not only will he/she appreciate it, but you will be able to make a better decision.

    A major DON’T is not mentioning anything illegal. You are paying for time and companionship 😉

    I wrote a book on this subject because I know this secret world with secret decorum is hard to navigate for a first timer. It’ s an easy, 10 minute read and can help give the new client confidence in taking the first step – and doing it right!

    Lana Blanc – I’m Lana! A curvy model, escort and travel companion available in Philadelphia, NYC, DC, Houston, and San Francisco and for domestic and international travel. I have five years of experience and absolutely love meeting new people and making connections.

    Follow Lana Blanc on

    Website: www.lanablanc.com

    Twitter: www.twitter.com/jetset_kitten

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/jetset_kitten

    Snapchat: www.snapchpat.com/add/intljetsetmodel

    New Book: https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B07D24CBS6&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_upT-AbTGT5C5J

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  • Ways To Incorporate Toys During Sex

    Ways To Incorporate Toys During Sex

    My views towards sex are positive; I love sex, I love giving and receiving in all aspects. I am adventurous and love trying new things, new toys, new positions and new experiences. I became a sex worker just under four years ago and from then on my eyes have been opened even wider to new things I would like to try and things I have tried and never thought I would like, but did. I view sex as almost an artform, a creative outlet to be yourself and enjoy every aspect of yourself.

    I discovered masturbation at a young age and never looked back after that; after getting my first sex toy when I was 16 years old, I explored myself even deeper, realizing I needed to know what I like before I can show anyone else what I liked. Since then, I have always loved to give pleasure; the pure moan of a man or women is my biggest turn on.

    Why I Love Using Toys During Sex

    I love that you can always explore new things about yourself and partners; trying new sensations can be so erotic. I love that I can have multiple sensations on my nipples, clit and g-spot or on my partners’ testicles and penis. I love that you can explore any type of kink to any level; whether you would like to try handcuffs for the first time all the way up to using butt plugs to see if you would enjoy butt play, or nipple clamps to see if you enjoy the pressure on your nipples. The possibilities are endless!

    Misconceptions About Sex Toys

    A common misconception is it’s only for the woman. There are plenty of partners I’ve had who enjoy using toys, not only on me, but for themselves as well. There are so many things on the market for men and women that can be tried out.

    A disadvantage I would say is if you don’t communicate how you’d like the toy used or even show your partner; that can really turn you off from using them together.

    My Favorite Toys

    I love using my WeVibe Tango bullet; it’s powerful and I can use it if I’m being come at from behind or missionary. I also enjoy the WeVibe itself because it vibrates on your g-spot and your clitoris while something can be inserted into you; so many sensations can be very pleasurable for myself.

    Make It Entertaining For Men

    I think showing them (who doesn’t love to watch once in a while!) about how you play with yourself and how you like this to make yourself cum. You can definitely bring it up also in a way explaining how much it will enhance your pleasure in your whole sexual encounter; and when you’re more into it, he’s more into it!

    Do’s & Don’ts When Using Toys

    Definitely COMMUNICATE: that doesn’t just go for toys but for all sexual acts. You really have to discuss with your partner what you want to get out of it and why you want to try certain things and make sure their open to it. But, it does go both ways and really discuss your fantasies when using toys. Communicate during using them as well, what feels good; a little to the left, any directions that can increase anyones’ pleasure is key.

    Crystal Cain – My name is Crystal Cain; I am a young, blonde, bubbly companion currently hosting in Toronto, Ontario. I have been a sex worker for almost four years and have loved every day of it; I am a pansexual, sexual deviant and proud of it!

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    Website: www.thecrystalcain.com

    Twitter: www.twitter.com/thecrystalcain

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  • Advantages of Having An Escort For Your Threesome

    Advantages of Having An Escort For Your Threesome

    I’m actually bi-sexual so I enjoy threesomes and believe they can be fun and sexually gratifying. However there are several elements that need to be ‘just so’, otherwise one can go from a threesome fantasy to an absolute disaster.

    Frequency Of Threesome Bookings

    I probably get about 2-4 per year from hetero couples and about 1-2 every month from single men wanting me to bring a girlfriend. They are certainly desired by practically most men, however, in “hetero couple” situations, you might have a spouse/girlfriend that isn’t thrilled about it.

    Advantages For A Couple To Choose An Escort

    It’s simple; if you need something done right, you hire a professional. Just like you would go to a doctor if you feel sick instead of trying to treat yourself. You would hire a handyman to fix things around your house instead of attempting to do it yourself and risking creating a much bigger problem. A couple is better off hiring a professional if they want a guaranteed wonderful experience. I can’t tell you how many couples have called me after trying to facilitate a threesome on their own with abysmal results!

    They think they can pick up a stripper (who just takes their money and promises to meet them after work but never shows) or a random girl at the bar (who might not be emotionally stable to handle a threesome, or has never been in one before), but they never succeed and end up wasting so much money, when they could have hired a companion like myself in the first place. We are open-minded, easy going, and loads of fun. Not to mention that our business is to make people feel special, so you can expect to have a more intimate experience because that is our job.

    Rules Every Couple Must First Set

    Most definitely! First and foremost, both parties should be completely honest with each other. Ladies, do not agree to a threesome if you feel uncomfortable about it in anyway. There is nothing wrong with you if you don’t want a threesome and are not attracted to women. Doing it to please your partner is going to show and it makes for a very uncomfortable experience. I’ve been in situations like this before and it was very awkward. I actually talk about it on my podcast – The Sexy Escort Guide (www.thesexyescortguide.com).

    If both parties are absolutely certain that they want to experience a threesome together, then you should talk about it openly and set ground rules on how you want your partner to interact with the person you are bringing into your relationship. Gentlemen, let your lady pick the third (be open to the fact that she might want a man instead of a woman). Communication is very important here; the more open with each other about your feelings during the entire process, the more likely you will have a wonderful experience.

    Tips For A Successful Threesome Experience

    1. Hire a professional

    2. Be respectful of your companion and follow her rules for booking. Be prepared to be screened and vetted, as no companion will agree to meet you until you have given her your details and she feels comfortable meeting you. Once the screening is out of the way, prepare to have a wonderful time.

    3. Plan for a dinner date with the three of you, this helps break the ice and build rapport. Foreplay is extremely important in creating chemistry

    4. Let go and have fun! Life is short; so once you’ve decided to experience a threesome, make sure you do it to the fullest!

    Vivian – Vivian is a luxury companion based in Miami Beach, FL. She also hosts a popular podcast, The Sexy Escort Guide, which is available on SoundCloud and iTunes. Vivian enjoys jet setting around the world and she believes in being present in every moment, especially with her clients.

    Follow Vivian on

    Website: http://www.exoticvivian.com

    Podcast Website: http://thesexyescortguide.com

    Personal Twitter: https://twitter.com/ExoticVivian

    Podcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/TSEGPodcast

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exoticvivian/

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  • How To Have Amazing Sex

    How To Have Amazing Sex

    My personal thoughts towards sex have changed immensely over these past 4 years. All throughout my teens, I had split my time between living in two very conservative households, where there was never a dialogue about sex at all. You would assume that like for many younger people, pornography would have became an educational tool of some kind; though, truthfully, I don’t think I actually had accessed the internet for leisurely purposes until I had been about 17 or 18. I had to figure out everything on my own, and would still say that I am in the process of doing so, as funny as that may sound coming from a sex worker who has been in the industry for nearly a year and a half.

    There was somewhat of a religious element incorporated into my upbringing, that had often been used as a scare tactic, when assumed that I was coming into my own, and possibly starting to become a sexual being. I felt I was conditioned to feel ashamed about my curiosity. I know that what I’m speaking about rings true for many women, in fact. I placed such a high-value on this patriarchal concept of virginity; I had lost mine at the age of 20 and had wanted my first time to be absolutely perfect. It wasn’t; though I am fortunate that my first encounter shattered those preconceived ideas I had. Now, I view sex as a light-hearted, yet beautifully vulnerable exchange. It’s fun; I’ve learned so much about myself, and have taken interest in things I would have never thought I’d consider.

    What I Consider As Amazing Sex

    Honestly, there’s no way to truly answer this. Communication is the most important, and most simple element, which unfortunately, so often gets overlooked. I think we could all learn to be more mindful of ourselves, and how we may unintentionally impact others. Not to mention, find more confidence in ourselves, in order to be more assertive about speaking up about what we want, and also setting boundaries in a healthy, and safe way.

    Memorable Sexual Experiences

    I’ve had hundreds and would say that nearly every encounter is memorable; and all for different reasons. I see such an interesting range of clients; I’ve had many people acquire me for my GFE services; I also have people that book me to specifically explore fetishes; I love both demographics equally!

    I would say that anything fetish-related may be more demanding, in the sense that you have to really be on at all times, but the payoff is so rewarding! I learn something new about myself each time, and since mutual respect and trust is the key component, it’s absolutely as intimate, if not more intimate than sleeping with someone, in my opinion. I am not submissive in my personal life, or with clients, but I am always amazed by and appreciative of the people who are willing to submit themselves to me; especially any who are male, or identify as one –  it’s so powerful.

    Things Men Don’t Get During Sex

    Like I had touched on earlier about women being spoon-fed conflicted ideas about sexuality while they grow up, I think it’s safe to say that everyone deals with this in some capacity. Men have a pressure on them to always be strong, and logical, versus getting in touch with their emotional intelligence; this has absolutely impacted the approach that many take to sexuality. And it’s not a generational problem either; I would actually say that I observe this most with many middle-aged men.

    I find that the word “no” has seemed to have lost its meaning. Men don’t get that it means something affirmative; it’s not a game. It’s not a coy hint at our desire for them to continue to be persistent, and eventually, we’ll give into what they want. You should want enthusiastic consent from your partner, opposed to doing as you wish till you’ve possibly pushed, and/or overstepped their boundaries. Men need to lose the machismo that is taught to them, and learn to listen to their partners. We understand our bodies best; men can let go of the idea that they always need to take the lead and be in control.

    Ways To Spice Sex Up

    I figure that anything that falls into the realm of safer practices is something I’ll likely be open to trying at least once. If I try something I didn’t care for with someone else, so long as I wouldn’t deem it a terrible experience, I’d be curious to give it another go; perhaps I had chosen not the best fit or partner before, or I may have needed to be in a different headspace than I was. I say to try everything twice!

    With elements of BDSM now having a place in modern pop-culture, most sexually active people must dabble in certain areas of it, not always even realizing this. I would say to take small steps while exploring kink, if you’re someone with no experience essentially. You don’t want to get too ahead of yourself, and possibly close yourself off to something you may have really ended up enjoying. Also, when trying to build a fantasy with your partner, if either you or they want to dive into something that both people are not on board with, please express that indifference or discomfort respectfully. There’s no need for anyone to feel put down or shamed, and if this is the end result, it may hinder your communication and curb another suggestion to try something you both had been curious about, and both might have loved.

    Respect that this is not something both people want to explore, and if your partner changes their mind later on, let them come to you to voice their change in perspective. Safe words should be established ahead of time. Another thing to consider, I don’t recommend that anyone expands their boundaries during an encounter; decide this once you have some time to reflect. You have something to look forward to next time, be it with the same partner, or a different one!

    If you’re the shy type, and/or riding solo, try enhancing or taking away a different sense while masturbating. You could blindfold yourself, or mix a bit of pain in there by incorporating nipple clamps, or once you’re warmed up, introduce some slapping motions all over your body, specifically focusing on your genitals.

    So many men and women like anal play. In porn, we never see all the work that goes into it. If you’re curious, make sure to use lube, and lots of it! Silicone based lubricants are sometimes preferred for this, as they don’t dry out as quickly; but you also have to consider (if you’re using any) toy material, as there are some combinations which are simply not compatible, same deal with condoms.

    Start with a finger or two; never push. Once you’re relaxed, everything will fit into place. If you want to expand, look at beginner plugs. There are many glass ones at economical prices; they’re non-porous and easy to clean! Not to mention, fairly light-weight, so you could likely wear it discreetly while clothed, if you wanted to. Silicone and metal are other materials to consider, and possibly test out, to find what you like best! For any kind of play, I would deter anyone from using jelly-like toys; many toys made for anal are unfortunately made of this material.

    Tegan West – Tegan is a 24 year old companion, born and raised in Toronto. She is fetish-friendly and enjoys the company of couples, as well as embraces clients of all gender identities, and ethnicities of those who are aged 18 and older. She prefers a more intimate approach to her work, and therefore, likes seeing people for longer arrangements, where she can really get to know them and connect with them on a deeper level. She is also available for social dates, and loves trying new fusion cuisines, as well as going out to see comedy and drag performances. She’s the perfect partner in crime for a night on the town!

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  • Pricing Your Rates As An Escort

    Pricing Your Rates As An Escort

    Escorting is one of the oldest hustles in the book because everyone craves companionship. It is built into our DNA. The crave for attention with sexual satisfaction will never go away. Every day people go on dates, text, talk on the phone, send sexy pictures, have sex and hangout for free. I, however , am compensated for participating in these same activities.

    As an independent escort, I control the hours I work, which clients I see, my hourly rate, and where to work. Because of escorting, I have been able to travel to many different places within the US. I look forward to traveling abroad to expand my brand. I love this profession and have the freedom that I want. I thoroughly enjoy what I do. I am a rebel at heart and escorting gives me the freedom to do as I please.

    Typical Rates For Escorting

    There is no “standard” rate with escorting. An escort can price their time however they’d like. Finding the correct rate can be tricky. Rates depend on many things, such as: location, niche, competition, services, etc. An escort can price themselves at 600 an hour in New York and do well there, but might not do so well in a small city of Utah. This can be because the clients in New York make more and/or the minimum wage is higher there.

    Is Price A Determining Factor?

    Just like anything a person pays for, rates are a determining factor. Same thing with choosing an escort. It’s like searching for a new car. You may see something you like but can you afford it? Can you pay for it all at once or do you need to save? Some clients consider hiring an escort, a luxury. These clients care more about the overall experience versus just a “wham, bam, thank you ma’m”.

    There are clients who save up to see an escort, which may warrant them a few visits out of the year. There are also clients who see escorts weekly or a few times a week. The rate a client is comfortable with paying depends on them. Some clients wouldn’t dare pay over $200 an hour to see an escort versus clients that pay $700+ and are happy they did it. There’s escorts at all price ranges so there are clients at all price ranges. Clients spend what they’re comfortable with.

    Common Misconceptions About Pricing

    There are common misconceptions in relation to rates. I’m going to touch on three:

    A) Escorts with lower rates are low class

    This is not true. Rates do NOT determine social class. An escort can charge what she wants for her time.

    B) Escorts with a higher rate (high end) make more money

    In relation to rates, this isn’t necessarily true. This depends on how many clients the escort is seeing a day. Just because an escort’s rate is higher, doesn’t mean she makes more than an escort who’s rate is lower. Some high end escorts are low volume, meaning they see an average of one client a day. Some escorts are higher end, specifically to be low volume.

    A higher end provider may be out of reach (price wise) for the average client, hence being low volume at a higher rate. There are escorts with lower rates who are high volume and see anywhere from 3+ clients a day, for many reasons. Some escorts prefer lower rates because they love being busy (high volume). Some escorts have lower rates due to being survival escorts, meaning they work to make ends meet. An escorts’ rate doesn’t determine their actual worth but how busy they’d like to be and how much they wish to make per day.

    C) Escorts with a higher rate are more successful

    Everyone determines success differently. There is no universal definition for success. Escorting can be done in many ways and rates reflect that. An escort can charge whatever for their time. There are escorts who start out with lower rates and gradually rise over time and experience. There are also escorts who start out higher end. The only way to determine if an escort is successful is to ask them directly. Many escorts are open to sharing their journey if asked.

    Sasha Benjamin – I am a Northern California girl  based in Central Florida. I hold a baccalaureate degree and am currently working towards a degree in Naturopathic Medicine. I love to travel, eat and laugh. My biggest guide in life is, “Do whatever makes you happy.” This guide helps me live to the best of my abilities. Life is too short to not enjoy.

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  • Sightseeing With An Escort

    Sightseeing With An Escort

    A professional escort is a career that requires the psychic skills of a telepath, the touch of a physical therapist, the wit of a stand-up comedian, and the patience of Buddha.  The Buddha part is the toughest.  LOL.  In my case, it also requires the cat-herding skills of a tour leader.

    There is no such thing as the perfect escort, we are always improving ourselves.  Also, the perfect-ness of our time together is determined by the chemistry that develops with you.  A style of escort that matches the client personality is just as important as looking hot.

    Being an escort is a career for me.  Like other jobs, it has good days and bad days.  Most important to me is finding ways to share the good days and to learn and move on from the bad days.

    Popularity Of Travel Requests

    On average I am asked to travel to another city once per week.  Many of those people who request that I travel to them run away when I ask them to provide a deposit.  What a surprise!  So in reality, I only travel outside of my tour city maybe once each month.

    Some super clients have flown me to Singapore, Thailand, and several cities in China.  I really enjoy those mini tours!  I can focus on my client and build a great connection with him.

    More often the client is arriving in my city and books me for a day or two.  These “stay-at-home” tour requests are getting more popular.  I think this is popular with my clients who are business travelers.  I think when you only have a weekend or one night to play, when do you have time to plan?  That’s how I can help!

    Reasons For Engaging A Travel Companion

    I would only recommend booking me as a travelling companion after we have had a date. It is important to have some chemistry, even a little bit.  In addition, very few escorts are willing to travel to you for concerns about their personal security.  A previous date allows me a chance to know you better.  This lets me feel safe with you in another city.

    The few of us that do specialize as travelling companions will enhance every aspect of your trip.  A simple reason for one of my clients to request a travel booking is that he was going to a foreign country where he did not speak the language.  Another long-term client simply wanted someone he trusted in his room as he slept.  By the way, do you ever notice the guy who walks in with a cute girl?  Uh-huh, everyone does!  We have gotten better tables in a restaurant and an upgraded room in the resort.

    Advantages Of Sightseeing With An Escort

    Booking me for a tour session in Shanghai is a custom tour package.  I will plan our events for the date.  For example, what sights we will go see, our meals, and of course our play time!  You just need to complete your deposit and we will talk about how you would like to enjoy your day with me.  Then let me take care of the details.  Your day is already busy enough with your work and business travel stress.  Let me plan a relaxing tour for both of us to enjoy.

    A “stay-at-home” tour is a great way to enjoy a city with a fun and playful companion.

    Let me tell you about a recent booking.  The client was only in Shanghai for one night and contacted me two weeks before the booking date.  This is great because we had time to arrange both of our schedules.  We chatted and agreed on the tour then after two days, I received his deposit.  When he arrived, I met him at his hotel and we had our welcome “kiss”.  I had pre-arranged a car since waiting for taxis always kills the mood.  He took us to the Yu Gardens, and the Old City.  It was a sunny day and we snacked on sweets and posed for selfies like the other happy couples.  Later that evening, we enjoyed dinner on the Bund in a restaurant that I reserved for us the previous week.  We returned to the room so I could change into my party dress and then we went dancing at the clubs where we both could enjoy a different kind of sightseeing.

    Client Expectations For Bookings

    Let me first explain that a Travel booking is not the same as a Sightseeing booking.  I have more requirements before I accept a travel booking and only a few for Sightseeing.  The amount of planning for a travel booking requires more time and effort from me so please do not be shocked by my deposit request.

    If you act like a gentlemen during the tours then, inside the room, I will act like the girl of your dreams.

    We will need to chat about details like who buys the airplane tickets, who books the hotels and how do we meet up?

    I can tell you tell the best way.  My VIP client bought the plane tickets, booked the hotel under my name, pre-paid for it with cash, then he met me at the arrival airport (with flowers *smile*).  We enjoyed a wonderful 3 days together.

    During a trip, please allow me some “alone” time.  I need to check my messages and check-in with my friends. Plus, I go to the gym every day, alone.

    Mimi Tram – My name is Mimi Tram originally from Vietnam. I am a professional escort now based in the Shanghai region. If you are visiting Shanghai or live here, I would be very pleased to accompany you. I speak English fluently and some people even say I am witty. We can just meet for a couple hours or I can plan an entire day of sight-seeing for the two of us. I can also travel to you if would like to fly me to your city.

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    Website: www.mimiVgirl.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/mimiVgirl

    Only Fans: mimiVgirl (I am also listed on Escorts of Singapore as a 5 Star video verified Featured Escort.)

    I am planning tours in Shenzhen and Singapore. I need to pre-book at least 10 hours to confirm those tours. In the month of April, I will audition for a new company to create more sexy content for my OnlyFans page.

    Images courtesy of Mimi Tram

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