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  • Benefits of Massaging Sessions With Escorting

    Benefits of Massaging Sessions With Escorting

    There is a common misconception about sex as being dirty or sinful. Quite the contrary, sex is beautiful, meaningful, and essential to the human experience. At its most shallow, sex is a fun and exhilarating experience. At its best, sex is a tool for healing and connection between one (or more) person(s) to the next. Sex is one of humanity’s strongest instincts. It’s beautiful.

    Why I Love Escorting

    What I love most about sex work is that it gives me the freedom to pursue my dreams and goals while simultaneously bringing joy to the lives of others. Sex work allows me to travel as far as I wish and connect with people from all walks of life. It allows me to establish meaningful relationships that attribute to my (and their) personal growth. The unique experience that is sex work brought my self worth to the forefront of my life. In “real life”, there remains negative stigmas against voluptuous women. Whereas in sex work, not only is my body celebrated, it is a deeply desired human form. It is truly liberating. My expertise in the field is massage therapy. Not only is it a powerful method of relaxation, it bridges the gap between two strangers’ nervousness to a sensual wave of bliss and release.

    Advantages Of Massages

    As mentioned before, massage is a comforting segue to sex. I want my clients to feel safe and relaxed during our time together. Massages physically and mentally releases tension. Clients are encouraged to unwind. There is no rush during our time together. My ultimate goal is to melt the stress of every day life and bring comfort their lives.

    Which Is Most Popular?

    Nuru massage is the most popular massage. It is an erotic Japanese technique which originated in the city of Kawasaki. Nuru itself roughly translates to “slippery”. During the massage, the masseuse will try to get the widest possible physical contact, often using their entire body. Strong tactile sensations are triggered that are designed to relieve stress.

    What You Should Know When Engaging An Escort

    Escorts are people. Escorts are people with feelings and emotions. When engaging, keep in mind their humanity and personhood. Escorts run a business. It is a business of luxury and fantasy but a business nonetheless. Like with any career, after they clock out, they are off the clock. Escorts are not their jobs. They have time away from the office like everyone else. Most importantly, discretion and privacy are imperative. Respect that and respect their rules. All rules are in place for their personal safety and yours.

    Angel Amore – Angel Amore was born in Catalina, Puerto Rico and grew up in the diverse Brooklyn, NYC. A proud Afro-latina. Since the age of 5 she’s been a book worm, and honor student. Now a successful therapist and doctoral student. She’s a mystery waiting to be discovered and a thrill waiting to be seeked.

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    Website: www.angel-amore.com

    Twitter: @AngelAmoreXoXo

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  • Is The GFE Right For You?

    Is The GFE Right For You?

    Sex is something that I have always been very open minded about. It is really hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of monogamy. I do agree that sex is better when you have a connection with a person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have connections with multiple people. A connection doesn’t mean love. A connection is a mutual attraction.

    I believe you can love someone and have a connection with another person (or people) at the same time. As long as you are being safe, I do not see a reason that you shouldn’t be able to have as much sex, with as many partners as you please. Most people do not have the same views as me, which is why I will likely be single forever. Oh well…. who wants to bang? 🙂

    What Is The GFE?

    GFE stands for Girl Friend Experience. While this is a very common term among the sex worker community, its meaning can vary a little from provider to provider. Generally, it is a service that provides you time with a provider with whom you will feel is your girlfriend while with her. Contrary to most encounters with an escort, a GFE encounter will (likely) include cuddling, kissing, mutual pleasuring, conversation, and BBBJ (Bare Back Blow Job). While some believe GFE also includes BBFS (Bare Back Full Service), I believe this is unsafe, irresponsible, and foolish for any sex worker or client to engage in.

    Best Things About The GFE

    I enjoy the connections I make. Remember when I said I believe sex is best when you have a connection with a person? Being a GFE provider allows me to meet all kinds of people to develop connections with, which means I get to have all kinds of great sex! Mindless sex with someone I don’t have a connection with does not interest me much. Most men I see that are just looking for a hole to stick their dick in and nothing more are rarely repeat customers; I am not their ideal provider and they are not my ideal client.

    I get to know my clients very well sometimes on a very personal level. Some use me as a therapist and will talk to me about their work and even home problems. While I make it a rule that I never reach out to clients, I do know that I have such a relationship with some that I could count on them to help me if I were to ever ask, no matter what I would need. I also enjoy cuddling, which I get to indulge in being a GFE provider.

    Why The GFE Is Ideal For Men

    I would say that 90% of my clients are married. I believe that this is because most marriages lose that spark and lighthearted fun that began the relationship. As a GFE provider, I give men that easy going, fun, flirty vibe that they miss in their marriage. It isn’t that they don’t love their wife, they just aren’t getting the exciting and engaging conversation and sex that they crave. Seeing a GFE provider gives them those exciting feelings again without threatening their marriage. If they were to engage in these things with just a random woman from a bar or the internet they risk her being a crazy chick who might contact their wife or become clingy and then demand more from the relationship.

    With an escort, that is never a concern; but most escorts don’t provide the personal touch that a lot of men want in addition to the physical aspect. Seeing a GFE provider gives men a way to have a girlfriend without it being risky like an affair would be. For the single guys, it provides them with the girlfriend time and attention they want without having the fear of attachment. Also, some guys just don’t have time for a girlfriend but want to have the intimacy from time to time with someone they trust.

    Tips For Clients To Enjoy The GFE

    Do your research. Any legit professional is going to have lots of information about them on the internet and this holds true for escorts. They will have a website with photos, links to reviews, rates, and other information about them. You want to make sure it is someone you are attracted to and can feel comfortable with. Obviously, you won’t know how you will connect until you meet but you should be able to get a pretty good feel for them based on the content on their website as well as social media posts. Once you decide on who you would like to spend time with, contact them by way of call, text, email, or contact form on their website depending on their preference. Some will only communicate via phone call, while others prefer e-mail or text.

    Be prepared to hand over personal information. For safety purposes only, I do a screening on all new clients.

    Be respectful of your new temporary girlfriend’s time. Most clients do not ever get to see the behind the scenes work that high end escorts do. There’s bookkeeping (yes, I pay taxes), advertising, responding to inquiries, travel arrangements, personal beauty care, upkeep of website and social media pages, and a mountain of other time consuming tasks.

    Spoil a little for better service. My clients that send me items from my wishlist and/or tip well get special treatment. I will carry on text conversations and linger after paid time is up more with generous clients more so than with those who moan and groan about rates. If you send a wish list item at the time of your booking request I guarantee you will get bumped to the top of the list!

    Southern Jade – Southern Jade, 31, is an escort specializing in GFE, based out of Bismarck, ND. She has been a professional escort in the Bismarck area since April of 2017 but originally got her start while in college in Oklahoma. She is very passionate about her career and spends all of her time outside of her home life building her brand and running her business.

    Follow Southern Jade on

    Website: www.southern-jade.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/SouthernJadeND

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/SouthernJadeND/

    Want me to visit your city? See my Fly Me To You section at www.southern-jade.com/rates. Or simply send me a text or e-mail with a request for your city and I’ll be happy to check on travel costs and advertise to gauge interest in your area! If enough inquiries, I will put it on my calendar!

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    All article photos taken by Tony Thompson Tony Thompson Productions

    E-mail: Tonythompsonproductions@gmail.com

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  • True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    I believe sex can be one of the truest forms of self-expression. It’s an artwork painted and sung by our mind, body and soul. It can leave us completely exposed and vulnerable, but can allow some great introspection into our own uniqueness as individuals.

    My “sexual awakening”, as I like to call it, only began roughly two years ago. Its been an incredible journey! Not only have I rid myself of years of deeply internalized shame and body image issues, I have also discovered the incredible things my body can do. Sex and sex work have not only improved my self-esteem and confidence but have also broadened my mind to the ways it can heal and strengthen a person. It’s with that mind-set that I hope to share these experiences with others.

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    The Girlfriend Experience can mean many things to clients as well as providers. This can create some confusion as to what the Girlfriend Experience truly means.

    For myself, GFE is not about a certain set of services provided. But rather about creating a finely tuned and specific experience for each client I meet. This experience is intimate, much more than your average massage and happy ending. I like to get the chance to speak with each client before we meet. Common interests and some insight into someone’s personality allows me to provide a much more meaningful experience with each person. Sometimes these sessions will be more focused on light touches, teasing, cuddling and kissing. Other sessions might include specific outfits. The GND (Girl Next Door) look is very popular with clients looking for an authentic GFE.

    Why Is The GFE Powerful?

    I believe that the GFE can be a powerfully therapeutic and healing experience. Clients come to me for all sorts of reasons. They may not even know that the Girlfriend Experience was a service offered and have no idea that that is what they were looking for or needed in the first place. For example, I have met clients who suffer from anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues. The idea of finding a girlfriend may feel like a daunting if not impossible feat. In a session focused on GFE, I hope to build up a client’s confidence. Allow them to express themselves, their needs (sexual and emotional) and hopefully in time they can practice those skills outside the comfort zone of a session and into the world.

    For some clients, it can be as simple as accommodating a busy lifestyle. Some clients may not have the time to pursue a relationship or maintain a healthy relationship. They may lack intimacy and connection in their private lives, so that’s where I come in! I can be the girlfriend they need, whether for an hour or five, or maybe even a weekend away. No strings attached, but more than just a physical encounter.

    Misconceptions About The GFE

    Misconception should probably be my middle name!

    I hear a lot of providers and clients alike comment on how they believe GFE is unsafe. Many have the idea that a true GFE session allows for unprotected services. For myself, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I will always educate and advocate on safe sex, mutual consent and regular screening for STIs.

    Preparation For A GFE Session

    Like any session, I like to be in a good state of mind before meeting a client. I don’t want to bring my problems into that environment and allow it to transfer over to my clients.

    I like to “leave my problems at the door” so to speak.

    I feel that if I am mentally prepared before a session it allows me to be a better listener, to be more patient and understanding, and to empathize more in certain cases.

    Second and just as important, hygiene! With the intimacy and closeness involved in my sessions I like to be as clean as possible. I like light scents, no heavy perfumes. Fresh breath and clean outfits. This obviously goes both ways. I very much appreciate a client who has been just as considerate in their grooming as I have. I will always offer to shower with my clients as well. Not only is it an enjoyable way to be close and allow for some fun exploration of each other’s bodies, but that extra fresh feeling is always pleasant as well. If you scrub my back, I’ll gladly scrub yours!

    Cassie King – A MA working out of Paradise Spa/Angel’s Touch in Ottawa, ON Canada. She is a full-time student, avid reader and closet nerd. In her spare time, she enjoys meeting new dogs everywhere she goes, practicing dad-jokes and drinking too much coffee.

    Follow Cassie on

    Website: www.cassieking.org

    Twitter: @CassieKingMA1

    Paradise/Angels profile: www.angelstouchmassage.ca/site/cassies-profile

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  • Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Good question…. Be honest with yourself about what the job entails. Decide what you are prepared to do and not prepared to do. If you believe french kissing is too personal on the job so you won’t be offering it, that is totally your choice. What your boundaries are may change, but it is better to go slow on this one.

    Talk to someone who has been part of the industry for at least 5 years, if not longer. New Zealand has the New Zealand Prostitute Collective which not only offers advice but a free starter kit and a safe space to talk to other working girls, as well as a little shop for all your supplies.

    Decide if you will work whilst you have your period or not.

    Think about who you will tell and who you won’t about your new job choice. I have been disowned by two people of the small group of people I chose to tell. However I have gained close allies in the industry which has made it easier to bear being disowned.

    Think about if you want to work as a private escort or work for somebody. Or if you want to work at a club. Working in New Zealand as a private escort appears to be much easier than in Australia, so this might be something you need to research about. Go and talk to the girls at a potential place of work and see what the atmosphere is like. Talk to the person who runs the rooms and work out what working environment is going to work best for you. I know girls who work in a club as well as privately, and others who work privately in New Zealand and in brothels in Australia. The combination allows more income, as well as being able to see regular clients. So find out what will work for you.

    Have a STD and HIV checkup before you start working and then once every three months. Your health is your everything. If you get sick or develop an STD, you are the one losing money because your health is compromised. Look after yourself, see yourself as an investment, because you and your health are your job.

    Put together a bag or suitcase of what you need for a booking. To start, I only had two sets of lingerie, a fancy dress, heels, make up, condoms, lube, a list of what I was offering and my prices (unless you are working for someone). Then once you are a few bookings in, I treated myself to a new lingerie set and some nicer heels. It’s a wonderful excuse to go shopping!

    Photos, photos, photos! Visual is all important in this industry but spend within your budget and upgrade as you go. My friend took mine to get me started and three months into working I got a photographer to take ten new ones. You can spend lots of money or you can go mid-priced but you need photos and remember, they are what your client spends most of his/her time looking at before booking you. I’ve been booked by someone who hadn’t even read my profile – no surprise really lol.

    Also think about advertising and research what is available. If you are working for someone then they may include advertising in the arrangement. As a private escort, I have tried a variety of advertising techniques from NZ Girls, to Ted, to free advertising. At the moment, I do most of my advertising on Cracker with the support of free advertising from the NZ Pleasures and Girl4U. My friend swears by NZ Girls, as do a number of girls I have spoken to, however it is about find what/who works best for you.

    Read part I on What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2018/01/07/being-an-escort/

    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

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  • What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    I initially considered escorting as an job option because of the money, I love sex and the hours were flexible. But it did take me three months of reading and talking to people at the New Zealand Prostitute’s Collective before I was certain it was what I wanted to do.

    What really kick started things for me was a friend who shared her story with me and then went on to guide me through my first two days. It was the best introduction one could ask for – my friend answered all my questions, helped me write my first advert, took my photos and equipped me with pretty much everything I needed to continue working when she continued her tour. I consider myself pretty lucky to have had such a good introduction into being a working girl.

    What Does Being An Escort Involve?

    At first, the double persona and the excessive amount of texts and/or phone calls are a bit intense to adjust to. But after abit, one adjusts and manages to breathe more easily.

    For me, this meant  I have gotten pretty organised and can do my makeup a lot faster than previously. I find I enjoy my clients more now – I don’t feel so rushed or nervous these days.

    I really enjoy being an escort in most cases. I really enjoy the physical contact, the compliments, meeting new clients and spending time with each unique client. The best bookings are when the client is into pleasing me as much as I am into pleasing him/her.

    What does it involve? I think most people know what it involves so I’ll tell  you some things I didn’t know were involved before I joined the industry…

    A lot of girls offer the Girlfriend Experience but that doesn’t mean you are allowed to kiss the girl. That’s what a girlfriend does doesn’t she? You need to check on that! It depends on the girl.

    Showering with your client before or after or both is definitely something easy to add to your service that offers a lot of delight to your client.

    Age seems to be a huge factor in how many bookings you get.

    Unfortunately, you will be asked weird questions from potential clients and some clients think it’s okay to verbally abuse the working girl.

    You can get a booking anytime of the day – including 2am, 4am or some other crazy hour.

    There are some crazy acronyms out there but it doesn’t hurt to learn a few relevant to the sex industry.

    Misconceptions About Escorting

    Common misconceptions about working girls tend to be around judgments of girls and their personal life. I think it depends what town, city and country you are working in, but being in New Zealand, where it is legal to be an escort, there appears to be a heated debate about the pros and cons of legalisation. I initially thought legalisation was an all positive move, but hearing both sides of the story proves that there is no one solution for all.

    Another misconception is around working girls are drug or alcohol addicts, single and come from the “wrong side of the track” but my view shows this can’t be further from the truth. Work girls are friends, sisters, mothers, daughters, the girl next door and sometimes not the HOT chick on the bus every night. Working girls are no longer squashed to the outskirts of society and they definitely have legal rights.

    I see and hear a lot of working girls standing up for their rights, believing in themselves, and sticking to their own  personal morals whether it means work or no work. This is empowerment and it’s really great to see. Everyone from the working girl beside her to all of her clients benefit from this positive approach to working in the industry and seeing the industry trying to clean itself up.

    I think men who book working girls have very little knowledge to how the industry works though. And maybe that is something they don’t want to think about, especially when they have to choose which girl to book 🙂

    And that filters into the clients and how they treat and perceive working girls so I think there are less negative misconceptions about working girls and more about the industry where men don’t have much of an idea how the industry works or is run and how that affects the girls on that side of things.

    But because we are talking about humans, I think we need to remember, this is my experience to date, my perception. And others have different experiences and perceptions so we need to keep talking. Interviews carried out by SimplySxy and other organisations help keep it real.

    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

    Follow Addison Lane on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/addisonlane_nz
    Websites:

    Cracker (previously Backpage)

    http://wellington.cracker.com/FemaleEscorts/buxon-babe-sexy-and-naughty-xx/4138407

    NZ Pleasures

    https://eroticescortsnz.co.nz/listing/addison-lane/

    www.girl4u.co

    http://www.girl4u.co/girls/female-escort/addison-lane-private-escort-wellington-central-1611.html

    You will find Addison in Wellington most days. She has toured to Auckland and Christchurch but Wellington is home at the moment.

    Images courtesy of Addison Lane

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  • Does Penis Size Matter?

    Does Penis Size Matter?

    Sex to me is a shared desire between people for a higher level of understanding of the self, the other, and the world. It is a beautiful space, where you can be exactly who you want to be, and share that intimately with another. A space to open yourself up to love, your natural vibration, be it physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual.  I really believe that the manifestation of love for everyone and everything is my purpose in life, hence my career in human rights. Love is who we are, how we were created, and what we are made of.

    Why Does Size Matter To Men

    I can only assume that it’s an insecurity thing. Which is totally understandable. I think this probably comes down to the unrealistic expectations perpetuated through a lot of porn (which is a whole topic in itself).

    Does Size Matter For Women

    I’m going to preface this answer by saying – for me personally it is less about length, and more about girth, but every woman is different. Generally, I don’t think size is the be all and end all. Of course, any woman would be lying if she said that a good sized, thick penis didn’t feel incredible, but sex, especially for women, is so much more than penetration. This in real stats, translates to 75% of all women, never reaching an orgasm from intercourse alone.

    I’ve actually found that guys with big dicks often put in way less effort than their slightly smaller counterparts, it’s almost like they wish they could say to you “I’ve got a big dick, isn’t that enough”. Well PSA to guys with big dicks, it’s most definitely not. If you don’t like giving women oral, and you don’t even attempt to find their clit, you lose. Oh and also, if you think that a woman giving you some direction, so that she can enjoy herself, is emasculating… get a grip.

    Tips To Enjoy A Small Penis

    I mean of course it feels different, as I’m sure you can imagine. But how it feels really depends on how a guy uses it. Sex for me is about passion and love. And when I say love I don’t mean nuclear family love. I think love comes in so many forms and I really believe that you should see every day and every sexual encounter, as an opportunity to manifest it.

    Even if you’re just having casual sex, it doesn’t mean you can’t love every moment with that other person, without traditionally ‘loving’ them. Being a sex worker has taught me that the ‘love’ two people can give each other, be it mentally or physically, can have a really big impact on the lives of both parties. That’s why I think ‘making love’ or should I say ‘manifesting love’, is so important to every sexual experience.

    Penis Turn-Offs For Me

    Honestly, the only turn off I have is bad hygiene or lack thereof. I think everyone has had an experience…or two, that involves you going down on a partner only to be faced with a distinctly unpleasant smell. Obviously, not every impromptu sexual encounter starts with a shower, but I think it’s just common courtesy to excuse yourself and quickly give your penis a rinse, before you expect someone to put it in their mouth. The same goes for vaginas!

    Also guys should be lucky, sinks are basically penis height…vaginas on the other hand, well they can’t even get close to the tap.  Also if a guy doesn’t manscape, at all, it can be a bit of a turn off. Now don’t get me wrong, I let all of my body hair grow out naturally, but I still lightly trim my pubic hair. I personally don’t want a big mouthful of hair while I’m trying to give oral.

    Lana Rose – You can call me Lana Rose. I am a Sydney based, passionate, erotic, and discreet luxury companion. Most importantly, I am a believer in the power of love. A shared desire between people for a higher level of understanding of the self, the other, and the world.

    Follow Lana Rose on:

    Website: www.experiencelanarose.com
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/escortlanarose

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    Upcoming Tours:

    Brisbane Tour: 18 – 28 December, 2017.

    Melbourne Tour:  21 – 27 February, 2018.

    Images courtesy of Karl Clifford https://karlclifford.com/

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  • Why Couples Should Choose An Escort For Their First Threesome

    Why Couples Should Choose An Escort For Their First Threesome

    I find, personally, threesomes need to be carefully cultivated. You need to figure out you and your partner’s level of comfort – for example, do both of you have your eye on a particular friend? Is this a friendship you trust? Can you handle seeing that same person again afterwards? And on the flipside – would you both prefer a stranger? Are you willing to take that risk? How are you going to go about meeting her? Tinder? A bar? The club? A vacation? I would think there’s a lot more to discuss about a threesome prior to actually initiating it, less you wind up in a devastating blow-up from poor planning. A threesome should be a fun, erotic adventure for the two of you – and absolutely not something that could come back to haunt either of you. So essentially I think like with anything in life, they come at a risk – and a great payout.

    Should Couples Try A Threesome At Least Once?

    I wouldn’t actually say they had to. This may not sound interesting to some people. For some – a tangled mess of bodies, writhing, moaning, delighted with each other, is a dream. For others, flip it, and it’s a tangled mess  of bodies, rubbing the wrong things, getting in the way, sweating on their clean sheets. Nightmare. I think if it’s a scenario both couples want, they should try it… exploring your sexual side is always exciting. But if you don’t want it, don’t force the situation, it’ll just be hell on everyone involved. There are other fun things to explore, anyways.

    Benefits Of Engaging An Escort

    I think hiring an escort for your first threesome (especially if you intend to have many more than just one) is a great idea. These girls are professionals. They know what they’re doing, and they’re guaranteed comfortable and confident in their own bodies. There’s no elaborate seduction (unless you ask for that scene!) and everything can go to your plan. When you hire an escort, they are there to please you. There’s no intense romantic emotions tied in, no risk of day-after talks about unwanted feelings, and I stress the romantic emotions as of course your escort will be enjoying herself and very much into the two of you, just no worries about any disturbance afterwards or during. As well – an escort could offer many other things you want in a session, a specific outfit, a roleplay idea… etc, that you may feel uncomfortable asking a civilian girl you met at a bar. These types of encounters are carefully controlled, safe, and most important of all – very exciting.

    How To Ensure Everyone Gets Equal Action

    Ask. I always ask what someone wants to do. That’s the easiest way. If say, I’ve been with the girl too long and he’s been sitting there – you can easily say ‘Do you want to -do X thing- too?’, and bam, no more outsider. And you really just have to pay attention to both parties – make sure one isn’t just watching (unless they want to) and always try and pull them in. Just make sure hands are everywhere, all the time. Haha.

    Rules & Etiquette To Follow

    I couldn’t give you a direct list, but always listen to any restrictions (physical or otherwise) that either party has laid out in advance. You don’t want the threesome stopped because someone kissed or penetrated somewhere they shouldn’t have – what an uncomfortable, awkward experience. And as always, always use protection with someone new.

    Daisy Mae – Ottawa-based independent escort. Currently busy re-creating Noah’s Ark, traveling, immersing myself in artistic endeavors, and sucking dick to a prestigious degree. Tacky romance novels are my secret sin.

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  • How To Feel Pleasure During Sex

    How To Feel Pleasure During Sex

    Sex is such a deep rooted part of being a human, and I love that our society is growing more and more open about sex, what turns them on and what they’re happy to talk about with other people. It is so intimately connected to our psyche and we really have no reason to be ashamed about talking about it or having sex – but a lot of people really don’t know what they’re doing! Sex really can be an artform – it can take time to figure out especially with women and what will make them cum.

    How Underrated Is Foreplay?

    SUPER UNDERRATED!!! Women really need to be warmed up – it plays a massive role in whether she will orgasm or not. But take care – all women warm up differently.  For example, a lot of women can have clitoral orgasms but it isn’t for me – I’m just too sensitive and it actually makes it harder to relax. So you really need to ask her what feels good to her, and maybe even ask her to show you, if you want to get it right and give her a mind blowing experience.  Some examples include body strokes, breast massages, running your fingers around the opening of her pussy, gentle and slow strokes inside it, body kissing….. there is a lot that you can do. But too much foreplay or foreplay that is too rough can also be overstimulating and makes it harder. So go gently and tune into the signs of whether it’s turning her on or turning her off…. And ask her to give you directions!

    Possible Reasons Women Don’t Get Orgasms

    I wrote a blog not long ago about the pleasure spots on a woman and there are many more than men probably realize – there are five alone related to the pussy! Like I said earlier, not all spots work for all and it’s a bit of  combination practice sometimes to figure out what someone likes.

    Sometimes women are our own worst enemy too – a stressful day can make it infinitely harder to relax and tune into our bodies. On the flip side, sometimes men will also experience this although usually it results in them not paying attention to what the woman wants…. They’re just focused on getting what they need from sex, and forget sometimes that someone else is there that also wants to get off.

    And sometimes, sadly, we let societal pressures get in our head. For some women, they don’t like sex – it feels dirty, they feel uncomfortable, they have this irrational notion in their head that lots of sex is bad. Maybe they’re fearful of how they will be perceived by their partner if they just let go, or explore their deepest fantasies, so it’s easier to just not have sex. And some women just don’t have a sex drive although honestly I believe that everyone has one to tap into – it all comes down to if you explore it the correct way.

    Absolute Deal-breakers Guys Make During Sex

    Doing something she is not comfortable with is deal breaker number one. Mind blowing orgasms rely upon a really trusting relationship, and if you’re trying to sneak fingers into holes you’re not allowed, or sticking tongues in her ears when it feels gross to her, it’s just not going to happen – sorry, not sorry.

    Any time you play with a pussy with your fingers too the strokes should be soft and firm but please, for god’s sake…. Don’t act like you’re a diabetic in an insulin crisis desperately scooping ice cream from a tub. Don’t poke your finger in hard and consistently like when your phone refuses to hang up at the end of a call – no manic button pressing please. It feels horrible.

    But other than that, if she’s down and you’re down, there aren’t really many general deal breakers. It will just be deal breakers specifically to her or to you, so just be open enough with each other that you can tell each other if you’re going somewhere you don’t want to go.

    Ways To Heat Sex Up

    Sex toys are the fucking bomb. You know how I said earlier that everyone is different, everyone gets off differently? There’s a sex toy for every possible combination out there. It took me four purchases to find my favourite and now, even though I struggle to come from sex, this toy will crack me in under two minutes consistently. I had my first double orgasm with it.

    Just purchase according to the spots that you know feel the best for you. For me, I like penetration but found that a little bit of clitoral stimulation sent me over the edge – so I purchased a rabbit toy with a curve at the end to hit the A spot (the most important spot for me).

    Keep an open mind too – sex toys aren’t just for women. There are incredible prostate toys out there for men, and I honestly think that all men should have a go at prostate play at some point in their life. It may not be for you, but if you find out it is…..well, you’re welcome in advance.

    Roleplay is super fun, you can consider scripted vs unscripted. I personally find unscripted roleplay suits me best, but sometimes you do need a script in advance – especially if you’re a little more nervous about it. It will just take the improv pressure off so you can enjoy it more.

    My personal way to spice things up – I am a food junkie, so let me eat food off your body and I’m a happy camper. There are so many ways you can put a twist on sex, just think about some of the things that you love to do and incorporate them. If you’re an outdoorsy type, go away for a naughty camping trip. If you love to be pampered, draw a bath together – fooling around in water is super sexy too. There will always be a way to incorporate what you love into sex, just get creative.

    Tips For Solo Play

    Honestly, again everyone is different. I generally need toys for masturbation because my favourite pleasure spots are deeper and toys just make it a hell of a lot easier to reach them…it means I don’t have to scrabble for them. I suggest taking some time to relax beforehand, stroke your body, warm yourself up before you go straight to masturbation – it honestly helps. And I love to think of fantasies, it really helps me get over that edge.

    Charlie Forde is a very down to earth, goofy gal well known for the twinkle in her eye, her natural and toned body and her slight geeky side. She loves helping people to explore their sexuality, and shares a lot of information via her blog on her personal site. Lover of gin, dogs, the outdoors and video gaming, experiences with her are chilled, full of intellect and ultimately unforgettable.

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    Charlie tours by invitation throughout the year, so contact Charlie if you would like a booking outside of her hometown of Brisbane.

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  • Developing Sexual Intimacy With Strangers

    Developing Sexual Intimacy With Strangers

    I think that sex can be an amazing release and a way for us to lose ourselves in pleasure, whether that is simply the pleasure of another’s body or the thrill of living out a fantasy. Sex can be many things, but in the right context it can be healing and rejuvenating.

    One Of The Top Sexual Fantasies

    There is definitely an element of sexual arousal at the thought of having sex with someone you have only just met – dropping all the cultural conventions of ‘getting to know you’ and following our desires fully. This in itself is a source of fantasy; it’s certainly a part of my work that I enjoy!

    However, for many people there are also other dynamics at work in this kind of encounter. Often I think we crave sexual connections with strangers because, oddly, they can allow people to let go and behave more freely than would be possible in daily life. With a paid companion the experience is also confidential, allowing desires and feelings to be explored that might not be so easy to talk about with partners and friends.

    Sex With A Stranger vs A Partner

    I alluded to this a little already, but I think sex with a companion is not the same experience as sex with a partner. This is not to diminish the importance of sexual connection between long term partners; simply that sexual encounters with paid companions play a different role to those with everyday lovers.

    I have sometimes come across the idea (from those who have never spent time as a client) that booking a paid companion would be an awkward, embarrassing or stilted experience. The reality couldn’t be further from the truth. As a professional companion, I have a knack for making people feel comfortable and at ease in an extremely short period of time. A session with me will allow you to let go of yourself, even if only for an hour. The sexual and emotional release that this grants can be a fantastic feeling! Many of my clients are first-timers and my inbox is full of thank you notes and messages expressing delight at our amazing time together. Whilst I imagine Tinder dates have the potential to be somewhat awkward, those with professional companions are anything but.

    Creating Intimacy With A Stranger

    The needs and wants of my clients are very different, so the way that intimacy builds for us in our sessions together is always a unique process.

    As in any human relationship, listening and mutual respect will almost always serve to enhance sexual intimacy. It’s important to listen to body language, as well as words. Open discussion of our desires, fantasies, and feelings, as I mentioned earlier, can often be easier with a paid companion than with those we see on different terms.

    In fact, in a long term provider-client relationship, our sexual experiences usually just get better and better. Our bodies become more familiar with each other and our individual rhythms, likes and desires. This enhances the trust and shared connection that exists in these relationships.

    Tips For An Amazing Sexual Experience

    My main tip would be to always listen to your partner(s) and respect their wishes fully. Practicing good consent is an indispensable part of having an amazing sexual experience, whether with a stranger (paid or otherwise) or someone in your personal life.

    If there’s a specific fantasy you’ve always wanted to explore, or you’d simply like to spend a few hours in my arms, just get in touch. I’ll make sure your experience is an amazing one!

    Chloe Vega – Chloe Vega is a petite, independent English escort with long locks of hair, porcelain skin and a youthful style. She loves to travel and can be found working her magic in Berlin, London, Melbourne and Edinburgh. Chloe offers a vivacious and sensual Girl Friend Experience, as well as kinkier sub and switch sessions.

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    Be sure to catch Chloe Vega at the following dates:

    Berlin, DE until September 19th
    Leeds, UK September 20th – 26th

    Berlin DE until October 20th

    Sydney/Melbourne in November (to be confirmed)

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  • Sexuality As A Plus Size Woman

    Sexuality As A Plus Size Woman

    I’ve had a long and often complicated relationship towards sex – as a young girl I had a voracious appetite, but I grew up in a fairly conservative environment and my desires were frequently shamed by my peers. As I grew into myself, and my body, my sexuality has blossomed – and I now take great pleasure in exploring new forms of desire and new ways to provide pleasure for myself and my lovers.

    Discovering BDSM also had a huge impact on my views about sex. Becoming part of a community who not only embraces but encourages all the things which I felt ashamed of when I was younger has been groundbreaking. Kink has also given me the confidence to communicate my desires more clearly. This is obviously an ongoing process, and I’m definitely still learning, but feeling confident in articulating what you do and don’t like makes such a difference towards sexual experiences, and sexuality in general! In more ‘vanilla’ contexts this is sometimes seen to ‘ruin the moment’ but I think everyone would benefit from taking the time to openly discuss how they feel about and what they want from sex, before they start having it!

    Embracing Sexuality & Being Confident

    My relationship to my body has been equally turbulent. I used to have horrific body image, I was convinced I was ugly and unlovable, my body was a constant source of disappointment to me. Ironically, I’m now the largest I’ve ever been, but whilst I used to shy away from anything revealing, now I am happy to wear next to nothing in public, if the context is appropriate. I love my figure, and take great joy in the pleasure it brings both me and my partners.

    Becoming more involved in the London kink and play party scene has given my confidence a huge boost. Entering spaces where people of all shapes and sizes are happily walking around semi clothed, playing and having sex with almost no inhibition, was a complete revelation. Surrounding myself with people for whom body size doesn’t equate to attractiveness was also a huge help. I just won’t engage with people who see fat women as automatically unlovable – they don’t deserve an ounce of my time. My partners love my body, but they also love me – I’m more than a plus size woman and their attraction to me is not dependent on my size.

    I think taking the stigma out of the word fat is a really important issue, for me. I happily describe myself as a fat woman – because it’s just a word. Fat doesn’t mean ugly, fat doesn’t mean bad, and once we start to dismantle the idea that it does, I think that accepting and loving your body becomes a lot easier.

    Of course, there are still days when I feel the unpleasant and all too familiar twinge of body shame, but I try not to beat myself up too much. As a plus size woman, especially one who speaks openly about the love I have for my figure, there’s an expectation that I must always love my body – but plus size women are allowed to feel however they want. We’re not here to be ‘inspirational’ and we can have days where we don’t feel great, just like everyone else.

    Common Misconceptions About Plus Size Escorts

    I think that the prevailing social stigma around plus size women, that we’re unlovable, unattractive etc, does seep into the escort world, and unfortunately this is something which often comes from other companions. I frequently see references to being larger as a bad thing, and it isn’t unusual to see an escort’s ‘Friends’ page devoid of anyone over a size 12. I think there’s a pervasive and saddening view that it might harm their ‘brand’ to work with a plus size escort – but in my experience, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

    I think there’s also a belief that the only people who book plus size escorts are BBW fetishists, and whilst I in no way wish to denigrate that group of clients, it’s simply not true! I have clients who exclusively see plus size escorts, but I also have clients who see plus size and straight size escorts, who book duos with me and a girl who is several sizes smaller than me. We appeal to everyone – plus size escorts, like all women, are more than our bodies, and there are many wonderful clients who appreciate that.

    Tips To Have Amazing Sex With Plus Size Women

    Sex with a plus size woman is just like sex with a straight size woman, the most important thing is to communicate about both of your needs and desires in order to have the most amazing experience. Make sure she’s comfortable, both physically and mentally! Take some time before having sex to chat through your expectations, what you’d like to do, or not do. There’s a trope that the best sex should always be wild and spontaneous, but a little advance preparation can make everything so much better, especially if you haven’t played together before.

    Think carefully about how you compliment her body – avoid fetishizing her size as much as you avoid making negative comments, and don’t assume anything. There are some positions which some women might find more comfortable, but this will vary – again, communication is crucial here. Some women might be uncomfortable with you touching certain parts of her body – respect this. Whilst you undoubtedly find her curves and rolls gorgeous, she might be working through some body issues, and you need to give her space to do this.

    Things I Love To Do To Make Sex Kinkier

    I’m a switch, both in my professional and personal lives, and kink is a big part of my sexuality. Whilst my love of BDSM has changed and grown as I’ve developed, I have an enduring obsession with impact play – it’s probably one of the easiest ways to dip a toe into the world of kink, but once you’ve started, the possibilities are endless.

    Once you’ve spoken to your partner, and both of you have agreed it’s something you’d like to try, I’d recommend beginning with a light hand spanking. This can be gently built up into something more intense – but start slow! From then you can move onto floggers, paddles, canes, whatever takes your fancy – and it can easily be combined with a host of other filthy activities.

    Amelia Swann is a curvy redheaded companion, with extreme proportions and a spirit to match her hair. Based in London, she is a professional switch, harbouring an obsession for kink, corsetry and classic glamour. She is committed to body positivity and self-love.

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