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  • Personal Relationships Of An Escort

    Personal Relationships Of An Escort

    To paraphrase Belle de Jour, we live in a ‘hook-up culture’ which accepts the idea of people meeting at a club, having unsafe and probably unsatisfactory sex and never seeing each other again, but introduce money into the equation and we have a problem. Like most women my age doing a liberal arts degree, I was conditioned to be very wary of the commodification of my body, but while I paid for that degree, I was working exhausting minimum wage jobs, selling smiles, my time and labour for barely enough to survive on. I was sneered at, exploited and sexually assaulted in those jobs, and was never in control of my environment.

    There is a logical inconsistency here. I was raised by a single mother who worked two degrading and back-breaking jobs simultaneously to support us and I never heard complaints that she was being exploited. I have always had a high libido and before escorting was persistently having regrettable sex. I’m still having a lot of sex, only now I have more control over when, where and how, and I am financially rewarded. Being an independent escort, I am in complete control of every aspect of my time and labour. It allows me to make the money I need to work toward my chosen career and live the lifestyle I want in the meantime. The only limitation is the amount of work I choose to invest in generating that income.

    The stigma attached to this one detail is residual of a moralising and sanctimonious cultural history. A history of black and white moral imperatives, one of little nuance: right or wrong, love or sex, Madonna or whore, master or slave, bought or offered freely… I believe I tow these lines constantly. Sometimes sex with clients is mechanical, sometimes it’s fluid and explosive and genuinely fulfilling. Sometimes they irritate me, sometimes I feel sincere passion. I experienced all of this before I was ever paid for sex. There are women today who still marry men purely for financial security. Perhaps they can learn to love them, or at the very least tolerate them. That’s the exchange. The only significant difference between them and us is that we know when the time is up.

     

    Personal Relationships With Family & Friends

    I’m a firm believer in the notion that anyone you have to lie to wasn’t worth the lie in the first place. Obviously I take my anonymity very seriously because I’m aware of the stigma. I would love to live in a world where I could have every aspect of my identity and lifestyle integrated without repercussions, but I’m not willing to make that sacrifice. I deeply admire all the strong and intelligent sex workers who have chosen to have public profiles, but I have other plans.

    I’m fortunate enough to have carved out an existence surrounded by weird and wonderful people who are first and foremost non-judgmental. I am engaged quite heavily in the fetish scene where it’s easy to be honest with strangers about my profession. Beyond that I lead a very compartmentalised life and people who aren’t particularly important to me don’t need to know how I make money. In a nutshell, it hasn’t changed anything fundamental. The family I considered family are still family, and the friends worth considering friends are still friends.

    I know other escorts who lead such secretive lives that they feel totally alienated. I have been an open book and I have had that trust deeply betrayed, but I would rather take that risk and discover people who are unconditionally loving and supportive, than live in the safety of total isolation.

    Clients Who Request To Be Friends

    Boundaries need to be clear at all times. As much as this job consists of uniquely blurred lines, it is ultimately a service we are providing. As much as I have genuinely enjoyed the company of clients, even missed them or have been sad to leave, my only real motivation for being there is the money. A professional relationship is never going to be equivalent to a non-professional relationship because I tolerate things I wouldn’t tolerate otherwise, for the money, as I suspect we all do.

    In other words I am a far more easy-going whore than I am a girlfriend. The perfect client understands and respects this distinction. Some tend to fantasize or try to manipulate you to reach beyond the professional version of you. Frankly I have no tolerance for this. I respect the privacy of my clients so when they try to breach this trust I am as annoyed as I suspect a nurse would be if she were expected to give a patient a handjob by virtue of the fact that she’s already in close physical proximity to him.

    Reasons Married Men Engage Escorts

    I had a client who took a plane to spend the night with me because his wife was disgusted by his particular fetish. She knew that it was a big deal for him, an integral part of his sexuality, when she married him. Lots of women think they can change men, it makes us feel special. I think it’s a result of the historical inseparability of femininity and narcissism. But a fetish isn’t going to disappear just because you don’t like it, even if he loves you. Lots of men see us because there are dirty little secrets they’re too embarrassed to share with their wives. A man once told me he loves anal but would never do it with his wife because she’s the mother of his child. It’s that Madonna/whore thing again. We live in a culture which utilises sex to sell anything and everything but ultimately the mainstream is still repressed.

    Aside from that, monogamy is an idea I believe was introduced to societies when it was socio-politically beneficial, and at a time when the average life span was shorter. I don’t think we’re naturally inclined to be monogamous, whatever naturally means, and it’s asking an awful lot for an ever-changing individual to remain forever fulfilled with the same partner for decades.

    Ethically this is a minefield for me. Could I ever be married with children after living with intimate knowledge of what so many men really want, how broken the institution is? If I discovered my husband had seen an escort behind my back I would be devastated, but that obviously hasn’t changed my behaviour. I’m ultimately amoral over the issue. There was a sociologist who claimed that our profession serves a vital purpose in keeping the institution of marriage intact and, for better or worse, I agree.

     

    My Escort Experiences

    Any readers hoping for sensationalist tales of danger and tragedy are going to be sorely disappointed. I set my fees at a rate to attract a certain demographic of clientele and work hard to ensure my safety. This means that generally speaking I am treated better by clients than I have been by boyfriends. It’s remarkable the effort clients will put into treating you like a princess when they’ve already paid for what they want. I’ve been greeted with expensive champagne, flowers and given gifts.

    I once made an outcall to a young man on business at a very plush hotel who was nervous about his submissive instincts, so he let me take the lead. I drank what I wanted from his mini bar, made him watch me make myself squirt all over his sheets, had him worship me and edged him for an hour.

    There was a client who spent the better part of our overnight booking rimming me while I drank his champagne; that was when I wasn’t pegging him. Then there are the fetishists. I’ve had clients who only get hard if I ‘lift and carry’ them. One who spends a lot of time licking my armpits. Recently I’ve been working duos with my beautiful dominatrix friend Adreena Angela, during which we are waited on hand and foot while we play with hot wax, whips and rope bondage, and have clients thank us for the privilege of drinking our urine.

    I’ve always been naturally submissive and have experienced extreme measures of the dynamic, which gives me good intuition of what a sub needs. My recent foray onto the other side has been terribly exciting. Be sure to follow us both on Twitter, if only to live vicariously, because there’s no way you’re having as much fun as we are.

    Amelia is a sex worker, writer and dancer straddling the worlds of kink, academia and nerd culture. Based in London but with a serious case of wanderlust. She’s on a mission to never have to die regretting not having tried something at least once.

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    Website: https://www.adultwork.com/Amelia+Rose+Chambers
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    Email: ameliarosechambers@gmail.com

    Check this blog out from Amelia sharing on her 4 years as a stripper! https://strippedinpieces.wordpress.com/

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  • Why You Should Book An Escort For Your Couple Threesome

    Why You Should Book An Escort For Your Couple Threesome

    I get the greatest sexual pleasure from the intimacy and passion within which sex is experienced. From the moment I walk through your door, catching a glimpse of you undressing me with your eyes, I get butterflies knowing how much you want to devour me. As I sit down with you, my heart skips a beat as you reach for my hand and give me a cheeky little kiss. I grow closer to you as we discuss topics dear to both our hearts. I let you stimulate my most powerful sexual organ – my mind. This is where sex begins for me.

    Sexual acts only come in to complete the picture, but are hardly the centre of the experience. I can tell you which position will make me orgasm the quickest, but will always ensure that you know it is never the end goal. Well, not mine anyway. What matters to me most, if you want to please me, is the quality of our time together, the connection we share and the passion we enthral ourselves in (and just so you know, these intensify my orgasms).

    Chances are we will share a precious few hours together and days, weeks or months will pass until we see each other again. In between these times, while I will remember you for how much pleasure you have given me, what truly leaves an imprint in my heart is the person that you are and the way you make me feel.

    Why I Love Couple Sessions

    As a lover of men and women, I adore couple sessions. With men, I love feeling feminine and vulnerable in their presence. From their strong embraces and masculine touches, I delight in sexual energy. With women, I relish the sensual and visual of the feminine form, the emotional closeness and special female bond. Couple bookings give me an opportunity to experience the best of both worlds and I am always almost too excited when I receive an enquiry for one!

    My interest in joining couples started before I became an escort. It was one of the things that I had wanted to try since the day I knew I was bisexual. But it had taken me a long time before I finally met a couple where both people were attracted to me and whom I feel comfortable with. My first couple play turned out to be all that I had dreamed of. He knew how to multitask (gentlemen, take note!) and she was the most delicious thing that certainly knew her way around the female body. I was spoilt rotten from the very start.

    As both of them were keeping me busy, I lost count of how many orgasms she and I had in that long lustful session (and he swore he was the luckiest man alive). Since that day I have joined many more couples in my personal life as well as professionally as an escort. What I enjoy most in couple bookings is being able to help partners share an adventurous sexual experience of a threesome, knowing that I have added a little spice to their relationship and made their life just a little richer.

    Why Should Every Couple Try A Threesome With An Escort

    The theory is that female sexuality is more fluid than that of male’s (I am not going to bore you with the details but if you are interested here is one of the many studies on the topic http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/brv.12278/abstract). In short, women are rarely strictly heterosexual. When it comes to what turns them on, women are either bisexual or gay. Their sexual preferences tend to be a grey area rather than black and white. So even though women say they are straight, they may sometimes be attracted to beautiful women.

    This is often the experience I share with the female part of many couples I have come to know. Many women in heterosexual relationships craves a woman’s touch and are excited at the thought of being sexual with another woman. Inviting a second lady into your bedroom (with your partner’s consent, of course) is a great way to allow her to explore her sexuality in a safe environment. However, having spent considerable time in the swinging scene (please don’t judge) I can tell you that it is nearly impossible to find genuinely bisexual, sexually liberated, willing AND attractive single females to join you for a threesome because they are highly sought after by couples like yourselves, plus all the men in this world. This is why they are often referred to as the “unicorns” in the swinging/polyamory community because it is so rare to find one in the real world, almost as if they are a mystical creature!

    Most unicorns will realise at some point how valuable they are and turn professional (like yours truly). Hiring a professional is therefore much easier. Because there are so many of us, you will have a privilege to choose one that tickles both of your fantasies, plus a sex worker that is experienced in couple bookings can guide you into the direction that will yield the most satisfying result for you both, especially if it is your first time.

    Less common in my experience is one partner gets involved only to please the other partner and that is fine, as long as you do not feel pressured into it but please take precautions that I will discuss in the next section. Keep in mind that booking an escort to join you and your partner in the bedroom means that you are allowing someone else to enter into the sacred and a very intimate space between you two. It can therefore evoke some strong emotions and is something I will recommend only if you have considered and discussed in length with your partner.

    Do’s & Don’ts When Booking A Session

    As I have been on both sides of the equation, I can give a little advice for any couples who are looking to enrich their relationships with the help of a professional escort.

    DO’s

    Do know why you are doing this for. Is it for her to explore her bi-curiosity? Or she is fully bisexual and craves a woman’s touch once in a while? Is it for him to realise his fantasy? Or you are trialling the idea to see if it can spice up your sex life? There are various reasons why a couple may seek to book an escort for a threesome and these different reasons should guide how you and your escort tailor the experience to be satisfying for both of you.

    Do know your boundaries and talk it out with your escort. Often the boundaries you set will be linked to the reason why you are doing this in the first place. As a professional unicorn, I often find that different couples have different levels of comfort. For a total satisfaction for both female and male of the couple, I recommend that you find out among yourselves where your comfort level lies. It is important to go at the pace you are both comfortable with, no need to be too brave especially if it is your first time. For example, if you are doing this for her to explore her bi-curiosity, you may agree to a full lesbian play between the females and only foreplay between the male and the escort. See how you go and decide if you want to go further next time. No one should be pushing anyone to do what they are not comfortable with

    Do observe how your partner is feeling at all times because they should come first if you care about your relationship. If at any point you notice that your partner is being consumed by jealousy, stop what you are doing and attend to their feelings. Any professional experienced with couples would understand when this happens and it does more than you may think. You may have discussed the idea with your partner plenty of times before actually taking the plunge, but the reality might be very different from what you expected. Keep in mind that you are entering a territory where logic does not apply. So even if you think you are above jealousy, you may not be and that is absolutely fine (because hey, love isn’t rational anyway!) This will be the opportunity to acknowledge that your relationship may not be ready for this just yet and remember that most relationships will never get there and that is fine. There are plenty of fun things to do sexually. If you still want to explore threesomes, discuss the problem in length with your partner, increase your boundaries, start from tiny baby step (how about starting with you two ladies play while your man watch and he is allowed to touch only if you feel like it? I’m sure he doesn’t mind that)

    DON’Ts

    Do not do this just to please your partner when you are not into it yourself. Likewise, do not push your partner into this if you feel it will only be for your pleasure. Remember, threesomes should be all about enhancing your relationship and reinforcing your connection, so the motivation to do this should come from both of you. If only one of you is keen on the idea, it is time to re-evaluate what is important in your relationship. Are you making your partner feel inadequate because you want to add somebody else to the equation? Are regret, distrust and insecurities worth a couple of hours of fun? A threesome can wait. There are and will be endless supply of providers experienced in couple bookings for when you are ready.

    Tips For Equal Threesome Play

    As I have explained before there are different dynamics of a threesome which can be tailored to your desire and best discussed with an experienced provider. This means equal playtime may not be a requirement. But if you are worried I would advise you to learn to multitask (very important, gentlemen). Ladies, if you are anything like me, you will appreciate another female form being presented in front of you and I am sure you will find the way to keep each other busy!

    Another thing is, do not be afraid to be creative. In threesome textbooks, there are proper positions that you can learn and that is fantastic (have you heard of the Eiffel Tower?!) but in reality, most of the time you will find yourselves entangled in awkward positions and that is great too. I think it adds to the fun to improvise and try to utilise that idle hand or tongue!

    My name is Monica La Bella. I’m a professional sweetheart, hopeless romantic and strikingly beautiful distraction. Available to please and inspire in Melbourne, Australia and world-wide by invitation

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  • Why Do Men See Escorts

    Why Do Men See Escorts

    I love sex!  Sex is best with someone you care deeply for, but I have enjoyed it greatly when that’s not the case as well.  I waited a while to become sexually active in life, but have always had a positive, empowered, guilt-free, drama-less relationship with the act of sex.  It’s one of life’s great pleasures…no church, government or individual is going to convince me that it’s ever something about which we should feel shame or upset.  Relax, folks…we all do it, it’s great (when consent is there…duh), and it’s just not that big a deal.  If it’s causing problems, perhaps you’re doing it wrong.  Haha.

    The Appeal Of Escorts To Men

    Successful escorts are usually very beautiful, very good at dating/conversation/flattery/attention-giving, able to devote time and energy to men because they’re not otherwise occupied or employed with other things, and are new and “unspoiled” to the client by virtue of not being a woman he’s had fights or much negative history with.  It’s all the benefit of the perfect new companion, for as much time (can be a single appointment or a relationship of decades, or anything in between) as the client wants, and gone whenever he doesn’t want.  It’s on-demand attention from a gorgeous woman, with a supply of hundreds of thousands of different types, and no hassles when the client doesn’t want them around.  Who wouldn’t find that appealing?

    Difference Between Visiting An Escort & A Brothel For Sex

    An escort does not sell sex (escort and prostitute are not synonyms, despite many prostitutes calling themselves escorts in an effort to evade law enforcement in countries in which prostitution is illegal); I think you may mean the difference between hiring a prostitute and visiting a brothel?  If so, I’m not sure, as I’ve never done either of those things.

    Reasons Men Visit Escorts

    To be around a gorgeous new woman, to be paid attention to, to have a new and exciting relationship, and mostly (I suspect) to enjoy time with a woman who is paid to be attentive and undistracted by the normal perhaps-boring-to-the-client other parts of life in the way that a wife or girlfriend can be.  But you’d have to ask them…in my experience, the reasons men hire escorts are as varied as men themselves.

    Does It Always Involve Sex?

    No; to my knowledge and in my experience, sex is not what’s hired when one hires an escort.  I have read and heard that the two (escorting and sex) are often combined in a job that’s partly emotional labor and companionship, and part sex work…but societies don’t really have a term for that at this time.  Escorting, by definition, is not a job that includes sex.

    Amy Taylor is a native Californian.  While spending nearly 2 decades as a published model, she also received her undergraduate degree in Berkeley, MBA in Los Angeles, and commercial pilot’s licenses in Arizona.  When she’s not found in front of the camera, she’s enjoying the sunny skies flying, keeping fit at her local gym, or at the beach playing with her dog.

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  • How To Be An Escorts Favorite Client

    How To Be An Escorts Favorite Client

    I’ve been in this industry for 13 months, and it was the best decision I ever made. Like most, I had no idea the business existed. I simply assumed that my male colleagues had long lunch meetings.

    The more time I spend in this business however, the more genius it seems. Both the client, and the escort gain from their arrangement. I get an opportunity to explore my sensuality, and am paid to have stimulating conversations, and try things I’ve always wanted to try anyway. My client, gets the opportunity to be unjudged, appreciated, and ravished.. then sneak back to his regular world.

    Typical Clients I See

    A huge misconception of men who see escorts, is that they’re seedy, unsafe, or crooked individuals. This is entirely the opposite. The mass majority of my clients are white collar, educated, even attractive gentlemen who treat me like gold. I see real estate agents, graphic design artists, doctors, senior finance professionals, and more.

    Tips To Be My Favourite Client

    Escorting, like any job, requires the worker to feel appreciated and valued in order to keep working. Many clients don’t realize the many hats we wear, and how much time, money, and emotional energy we spend making ourselves the perfect companion. It’s sometimes physically and emotionally exhausting.

    My favourite clients, are the ones who get it. They treat me with respect and dignity, and show ample appreciation. That could mean basic things such as leaving on time, and investing a few minutes of our date on conversation.. to more extravagant things such as tipping or bringing a small gift.

    I’ve had new clients show up, and dash to the shower without so much as a hello, then expect intimacy immediately after. Granted, that is the jyst of what a client is paying for, and I understand that. However, nothing makes you feel more like a blow up doll than obvious disinterest in you as a person.

    Madison Winter – Consider me your approachable, yet classy girl next door. I love nothing more than sharing a meal or glass of red wine over stimulating conversation. Let’s unravel the layers of each other; I really love to take my time exploring… Cant wait to discover you.

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  • How To Satisfy A Lady

    How To Satisfy A Lady

    I’m very liberal about sex; I fuck when I want (with the consent of the other person/people, of course), I don’t when I don’t want to, I don’t feel guilty if I want to, and I don’t use it as a leverage tool or play games with sex (not hot, in my mind).  My parents raised me not to feel any guilt about a natural human drive…I do it safely, of course, but I don’t worry too much about it.  People attach far too much guilt and shame to sex, in my opinion.  Not sure if that comes from religion or bad parenting, but it is awfully silly.  Waste of energy.

    How Important Foreplay Is

    Foreplay is vital; without it, her orgasm is surely fake.  Maybe men don’t care, or maybe they believe the films in which people get right to the sex without much foreplay, or maybe women don’t yet feel the right to ask for proper foreplay…but there sure is a lot of bad sex going around.  Sad.  Oh, and sure, I suppose there can obviously be TOO much…too much friction will render a woman sore after a bit, of course.  One wants to take one’s time, but not overdo it.  And I’m quite sure that the “right” amount depends upon the woman and on the mood at the time.

    Tips To Please Your Lady

    Learn her…everyone is different, and sleeping around in lots of shallow relationships will guarantee you’re horrid in bed.  It takes time for a woman to feel safe and trust you to show you her needs, so the first few times her orgasms are unlikely to be real (sorry, just telling you a truth that most women don’t).  Invest the time, and you’ll reap the rewards.  Oh, and stop learning from porn…that stuff is garbage if you want a woman to actually enjoy the sex.  It’s a fine art, but it’s performative.  The women are faking it in porn, gentlemen.  You fuck like those films, your partner will be as well.

    Experiment During Sex Or Keep To The Usual

    Don’t do either of those thing ALWAYS.  Do the known good stuff now and then, and try new stuff now and then.  And above all, find out what she wants.  When surprising her with something new, PAY ATTENTION (you’ll know if it’s going badly and you can quit, or if it’s going well and it should perhaps be incorporated and/or expanded into your sex life with her).

    When To Use Sex Toys & Roleplay

    All of those things can be great; it depends upon your partner’s desires.  If you need inspiration, find out what turns her on, and perhaps gently introduce her into what turns you on.  And honestly, sex is awesome…why does it always have to be heated up?  For me, it’s like pizza…I never don’t want it.  If you’re really that bored, geez…you’re kinda demanding of life, aren’t you?  I mean, sex is already incredible.  Never in my life have I found it boring, haha…even crappy sex was still pretty fun.

    What To Avoid Doing

    No consent, of course, from your partner.  And doing things she hates, I suppose (I’d never allow this, but in some relationships of unequal power the woman finds herself having to have performative sex that she hates, to keep a man happy…this is hideous, and in my mind is tantamount to rape).  But then again, I’m only one woman, so I only know what doesn’t work for ME.  Top of my no-no list?  Wearing a clown suit.  Sorry, no judgment to clown suit fetishists out there (is that a thing?)…LOL.

    Amy Taylor is a native Californian.  While spending nearly 2 decades as a published model, she also received her undergraduate degree in Berkeley, MBA in Los Angeles, and commercial pilot’s licenses in Arizona.  When she’s not found in front of the camera, she’s enjoying the sunny skies flying, keeping fit at her local gym, or at the beach playing with her dog.

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  • Tips For Men When Hiring An Escort

    Tips For Men When Hiring An Escort

    I love escorting, I love the money and the people I’ve come across. I got into the industry a few years ago; it’s not a sad story that resembles a plot from Law and Order: SVU nor was it something I did out of desperation. I was fresh out of college and working in a nightclub making decent money at the time. My life changed when I was asked by someone to take me home and I jokingly replied with “sure for 5k“. He paid it and that got my ball rolling. I think many people have a misunderstanding about escorting and sex work, there’s so many stereotypes out there that don’t apply to all of us. We’re not riddled with STI’s, we don’t all offer the same things, we don’t all “walk track”, we don’t see everyone who contacts us…. the list goes on.

    Yes some women in the industry are easier to peg than others but we’re all different. I find it empowering and it allows me to meet different people from all walks of life. I’ve had all kinds of clients, they’ve been men who work blue collar jobs, white collar jobs, celebs and athletes.

    I don’t do anything I’m uncomfortable with and my clients are good to me. I enjoy the work I do, it’s not for everyone but, it works for me.

    Importance Of Privacy & Discretion

    Privacy and discretion is a huge deal for both sex workers and clients, always. My partner as well as close family and friends know what line of work I’m in but I don’t share every detail. They’re unaware of what my “work” name is or what my ad looks like. I don’t sit and discuss my sessions with them either. I like to keep my real self and alter ego separate and for that reason I keep my private life private from my clients. As for my clients some are in relationships with families or some are single. I don’t share information about my clients or keep in contact with anyone unless it’s a regular client that’s asked to keep in touch. When choosing a place to work I make sure it’s discrete as possible, whether it’s a hotel with a side door or a condo that doesn’t have a concierge. Any personal information clients give me is kept with me. There needs to be some form of trust between myself and my clients in order to keep the relationship going.

    Tips To Spot A Fake Escort

    I mainly advertise via Backpage (BP) as well as a review board. There’s very few fake ads on review boards but many on BP.

    Anytime a client is browsing through BP I suggest to go with their gut first and foremost. If the pictures look too good to be true… most times they are. Some red flags are mismatched photos (photos of more than one girl but only one girl advertised), professional photos but no website link, ad titles with “available 24/7, party girl”

    Second, google reverse search a few images to see if they have any hits anywhere else. If they have hits all over the country or world, she may be fake. Sometimes photos are taken from Instagram models, porn stars, cam girls or other escorts. Some girls use photos that may resemble themselves for privacy reasons, however, some use photos that look nothing like them. When texting her if her rates don’t match up with what she’s offering it could also be a red flag.

    Third, if you’re on a review board search her name and see if she has any reviews.

    Finally, when texting her, if she’s asking for an EMT and requests the password prior to arrival, major red flag! Never give a password prior to the arrival of an escort and make sure the question is something that can’t easily be figured out.

    The only way to really be sure is to actually go see the girl to confirm she’s actually the girl on the photos or at least resembles the girl in the ad.

    Information Escorts Require From Clients

    Typical things an escort may ask a client during a screening process is a name, two or more references from other reputable escorts, a deposit or a photo of their ID. Most escorts also won’t see clients who attempt to book via text app.

    Do’s & Don’ts When Meeting An Escort

    When meeting an escort do come prepared. Arrive with the correct amount discussed prior to booking.

    If she has a website, do check it out prior to booking. See what the the requirements are in order to get a booking, look at her rates, schedule and services. It makes booking much easier!

    Do reconfirm your appointment if she hasn’t already, at least an hour prior. If you’ll be late or cancelling, let her know as well.

    Do tip if you wish. It isn’t necessary but definitely appreciated.

    As long as you’re kind and respectful there should be minimal problems once you meet. Chemistry may or may not always be there but you never know until you go for it!

    My name is Leila Carerra, I’m a Canada wide escort. I’ve been in the industry 3 years. I am university/ college educated with a background in western history and critical thinking as well as cosmetics and business management. Follow me on:

    Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/LeilaCarerra
    Website: https://leilacarerra.com/

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  • Escort Etiquette Advice For Clients

    Escort Etiquette Advice For Clients

    Before I began working as an escort I was a certified Pillow Princess! I was too shy and self-conscious to take control in the bedroom. Sex was enjoyable for me but inherently intimidating, especially with someone I really liked or admired. But now? Sex is nothing short of liberating, an exhilarating adventure with every encounter!

    There are the obvious reasons why sex can create instant intimacy for most… The sensation of touching one another… Syncing your gyrations to move as one… Exploring each other’s hidden carnal desires… The ecstasy fueled release in climax… But, in my opinion, the best part of sex is EXACTLY what used to intimidate me the most! It’s the connection that is created between you and the other person in that stolen moment. It’s the eye contact, the giggles, the moans, the voyeurism in watching one another climax. For me, it’s more than just touch and sensation that creates intimacy, and good sex is impossible without intimacy.

    I love creating and partaking in those passionate moments. Escorting has helped me to overcome my insecurities and mental blocks to really enjoy sex without getting wrapped up in “doing it right.” Now I’m able to let go in the moment and venture with another to find that connection in tried and true, yet pleasurably unique ways every time.

    Clients I Prefer Seeing

    The only preferences I have regarding clients I am willing to see are that they must be hygienic and respectful. A cleanly shaven face (or well-groomed beard), FRESH breath, clean and trimmed fingernails, as well as a working knowledge of why one must never venture from front to back… are all vastly underrated and GREATLY appreciated qualities in clients. As far as being respectful goes there is not a punitive, demanding, or vindictive bone in my body. If you try to contact me and you are pushy, uncouth, start trying to negotiate donations, or avoid screening, I will simply disengage. I have never believed in doing anything that feels like a waste of time or energy. Therefore, I have no interest in arguing or begging, nor do I have the patience for either. No booking is that important to me.

    How My Screening Process Works

    I do not make appointments over the phone. Other providers might, and more power to them! But it has proven to be more of a hassle and a drain on my time and energy reserves trying to do so. Every call I receive, I respond with a text redirecting you to my website as soon as my schedule permits me to do so. Sometimes I will screen or take information via text, but I prefer to correspond via email (ExclusiveJourdanJames@Protonmail.com) or to receive meeting requests via the secure booking form on my website.

    Importance Of Personal & Client Privacy

    As of right now my privacy, health, and safety are all equally paramount and non-negotiable aspects of escorting for me. There are providers who show their full face in their ads and social media, but I don’t see that in my future any time soon. I have so much admiration and respect for career escorts, but that trajectory is not why I began escorting. I don’t think escorting should affect someone’s other personal and professional endeavors, but I can’t really control the sway of social stigma..

    Right now I’m just hoping to use escorting as a stepping stone into the next chapter of my life. I have not been contacted by someone I know personally in a professional capacity and truthfully, I hope it never happens. I’d only be willing to share my legal name with a sponsor who is interested in entering into a formal arrangement. But that’s the type of dynamic that requires a substantial amount of mutual trust. That level of trust can only be fostered and proven with actions that betray each individual’s character over a significant amount of time.

    Common Mistakes Clients Make

    A guaranteed way to get blacklisted or ignored by me is to contact me and attempt to goad me into giving you a moment-by-moment breakdown of our prospective time together. I am a companion. I provide an experience. If you really are eager to meet me, then why not expedite the process by reading through my website and reviews before contacting me? If you are unsure about anything you’ve read I would be delighted to clarify any concerns you might have! But once you start throwing acronyms at me and pandering for a play-by-play, I move your information to the blocked list. If you read through my website most of the questions you could have will likely be acknowledged there. I don’t have the energy for time-wasters and I have no interest in incriminating myself.

    Tips For First-Timer Clients

    A lot of girls will refuse to see you unless you provide them with your legal name, regardless of any screening site or review board membership you might have. We don’t care who you’re married to or who your boss is, and I’m sure as hell not going to call anyone (though some providers do and that is their prerogative). We are just looking for some basic information to verify your identity for our safety. Historically, there have been a lot fewer providers who can behaviorally be likened to Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction and a lot more clients who can be likened to Christian Bale in American Psycho. Having “BulgingJohn6969” saved in our calendar doesn’t do much to lead the police to our body after we’ve lost in a race against you and your chainsaw, if you know what I mean.

    I can promise you, I am just as anxious and eager to meet you as you are to meet me! So when you reach out to me, make it easier on both of us and help expedite the process. Fill out the booking form on a provider’s website as completely as possible and with as much information as possible. Better yet, contact a provider with a quick introduction and the date, time, and desired duration of your meeting (feel free to throw in a modest compliment if you’re feeling flirty!).

    Follow that introduction with a link to your LinkedIn profile or work website and the websites and email addresses (or phone numbers) of 2 providers you’ve met with recently. Follow these instructions and you can contact me personally to complain if the lucky lady you’ve messaged isn’t concealing a raging river flowing with excitement and anticipation the moment she opens the door to meet you!

    Jourdan James is Chicago’s premier executive companion. She’s eager to please, but I wouldn’t recommend asking her opinion if you don’t want to hear the truth! There’s nothing she enjoys more than creating a private world wherein you are the center of her universe. Her dry wit, effervescent personality, and effortlessly sensual demeanor will always leave you wanting more. Follow Jourdan on:

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    In the coming month Jourdan will begin publishing a monthly blog post to her website! If you’ve enjoyed her unique perspective here at SimplySxy, be sure to head over to her website or follow her on Twitter so you don’t miss out on updates!

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  • My Sex Preferences and Favorite Positions

    My Sex Preferences and Favorite Positions

    Sex is wonderful. Sex is amazing. Sex is so many things. It can be a kinky, hot, sweaty mess or an amazing opportunity to connect with someone. Our urbanized society puts such a taboo on it that we forget how fun, orgasmic and liberating it can be. Sex is the reason I get to have so much fun doing what I do.

    Sex is what brings us together. Look at me, sounding like a hippie. Really though, you build chemistry the moment you meet, connect physically, do what turns you on and have amazing orgasms. It’s so simple!

    Some of us get so caught up hiding our porn, our sexual preferences and our deepest sexual desires that we forget to let them loose with the right people. Which really sucks. I get so turned on when a guy comes to me and says “I have something I want to try with you.”

    Sex should be liberating. It should be a go to, an escape, an amazing experience, and most of all it should be explosive. Orgasmic. Let’s have more sex, and create more orgasms.

    One Major Mistake Men Make During Sex

    Worrying. Stop it. I know it’s like saying “calm down” when you’re pissed but it ruins the whole experience. Guys worry so much if they are “doing it right” that they forget to just relax and enjoy the experience.

    All you have to do is show up and enjoy yourself. Do what you want and enjoy. If you push the limits I will let you know but I want to see you enjoy. It turns me on.

    My Favorite Sex Position

    Me on top or doggystyle any day. Something about the way I can really feel a man inside of me during both of those.

    When I’m on top I have more control, but something about the way I can feel the man completely inside of me when I am sitting on top of him, really gets me going. I’m wet just thinking about it right now.

    Doggystyle allows a man to grab me from behind and have their way with me. I find that such a turn on.

    Quickies Or Long-Lasting Sex?

    Both. They are so different. Long-lasting sex can lead to multiple orgasms, exploration of each other, different positions and acts, and of course moaning. Long lasting sex can leave you in a daze hours after.

    Quickies are like a straight shot, a concentrated dose of pleasure in a short amount of time. They leave you breathless.

    How I Love To Kink Sex Up

    I like to grab onto a man or at least touch him somewhere like his leg or his shoulder during the act. It’s an extra boost to the pleasure.

    Changing the speed of our rhythm during the act. When it’s really heated up, slow down. It gets you to the edge and back, leaving you wanting to come even more.

    Brielle Barnes – Real, classy and unique. I have a great smile and an all-natural body. I’m sensual, adventurous, discreet and flirty. I am open-minded so we can build a great connection together. I’m your sweetheart girl next door with a wild side. Our time together is laid back, yet full of passion. Find out more about me on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/briellebarnes7
    Website: www.briellebarnes.com

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  • A Courtesan’s Advice For Clients

    A Courtesan’s Advice For Clients

    Sex is something that is ever changing from having a deep connection to it just being carnal lust.  It can involve multiple partners whether it be another woman, a man, or even both. That’s why I love it so much! It is never the same experience.  The creativity of each intimate encounter is always unpredictable but my anticipation and excitement aren’t.  Growing up in a conservative European home, sex was considered taboo. We never spoke of it nor was it ever acknowledged. It wasn’t until I reached high school that I first discovered myself and sex. It was empowering as much as it was arousing. It became one of my favorite things to talk, write, and experiment. The intimate moments of ecstasy, the humorous orgasmic expressions, the droplets of lustful sweat, the secretive fantasies and kinks, the erotic whispers and moans, etc. Sex has endless possibilities of exploration bringing out a part of a person that isn’t publicly displayed.

    Types Of Clients I See

    Clients come in different ages, sizes, races, gender, and backgrounds. However, my preference seems to lean towards older men. It is not that I am not keen on men my age, it is just the majority have a strong attitude of self entitlement and lack mannerisms. Older men are finely aged and have an array of interests. I am quite selective of whom I see and I always favor a person who takes their time to send me a lovely email describing themselves. Discretion and safety is always of concern hence, why a screening process exists. This process is in place to keep both myself and the client safe. There are different methods of screening to accommodate everyone’s comfort. From employment verification, background checks, references, or verification services such as P411. As always discretion is of the utmost importance and verification information submitted is deleted after an initial engagement.

    What A Client Is Expected To Know Before Booking

    A smooth booking occurs after a proper screening. A mistake that is often made is when a client fills out a screening form incorrectly such as submitting a false name or information. Another common mistake is inquiring about detailed services whether it be with the usage of acronyms or not.  Both of these mistakes can easily land someone in the Do Not See list. Filling out the form correctly will assure for a smooth process. Clients should rest assure that their information is handled with discretion and will never be shared. Remember, discretion is a two way street.

    Mistakes Clients Make When Meeting

    To err is human and mistakes often occur.  A lot goes through someone’s mind when they first meet and without realizing they often forget to place down the envelope. I understand for I have also been taken by the moment our eyes met. To avoid interrupting the flow of an engagement it is best to place the envelope down as soon as you meet. If you are in a public setting it is proper to place it in a greeting card or in a gift bag. It is incredibly disrespectful to hand the envelope directly or having me wait until it is awkwardly brought up.

    Another frequent mistake is lack of consideration towards their hygiene. A lovely English gentleman once visited and greeted me with toothpaste kisses. He later explained that he had just smoked and ate some toothpaste to avoid tasting like cigarettes.  If you feel the need to freshen up please feel free to excuse yourself to the restroom. I take my time to be presentable and expect my date to do so as well. From time to time I encounter a gentleman who with good intent brings their own lubricant or toys. While it is a gesture with harmful intent I personally do not utilize it. I only utilize my own products that I know will not effect my body chemistry. As for toys if they are in an unopened package then I will gladly use them after cleaning them.

    Is Any Topic Of Conversation Out Of Bounds?

    I am lover of conversation and feel like a wide spectrum of topics helps get to know someone. Often, people say not to discuss politics nor religion for it can cause conflict. However, I have yet to have a problem arise from doing so. There is an art and beauty into the attempt to understand someone else’s point of view.  One of the topics that makes me cringe in the inside is when they talk about the similarities I share with their daughter. I don’t mind hearing about their children but it is a completely different thing to be compared. Aside from that the time spent together is a time to truly liberate yourself and share anything you desire.

    Claire Lamoureux – Originally from Southern France, this wanderlust debutante became a worldwide courtesan. She is an international companion who adores jet setting adventures and collecting books. Although she is only twenty two years old she has an appetite for culture and languages. Claire is a multilingual biochemist with an insatiable lust and true passion for opening others to new experiences.

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    Website: http://claire-lamoureux.com/

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  • My Experiences As An Escort

    My Experiences As An Escort

    Honestly, everyone should be having more sex then things would be more at ease with much less stress in our lives. It is a natural wonderful thing. I personally love it.

    How I Began Escorting & Why I Love It

    Oh boy, here we go….haha.

    I inadvertently got started, really did. I went on a sugar baby site and the first person I met, we had an arrangement. We saw each other for 5 months while his start up business started up. Unfortunately, his business never did start up, that was sad for him and me too, I liked him. The next 2 people I met was NOT like what I had initially. I didn’t know any different, and was wondering why are we not having an arrangement and started to question what was going on. Then low and behold I met one other from the sugar site and we did a lot of talking about how when he was younger he was in some very interesting situations and that he got so and so started in the escort biz and she makes blah blah blah. The more he talked the more I listened. I knew about escorts of course, but had NO idea how it actually was right there on the internet, that easy.

    So I went home and googled this woman, got the gist of it and put up some ad.

    The next day he calls and said “Summer what are you doing!” I said, “You did a lot of talking, I did a lot of listening”. He said, “If you are going to do this, you need to do it right” and told me about screening, website, reviews. I was blown away at how organized it all was. He started my review page, left the first one and I was off to the races. Crazy right? See, inadvertently.

    I enjoy how most people treat me, they are very happy to see me and I feel great about that. I learn different things from different people that I would have never learned had I not met them. Some bring gifts as their token of appreciation, so awesome. Some like to treat me like a princess, they go above and beyond. I am always smiling, wouldn’t you be if everyone was in awe of you!

    My Specialties

    Truth be told…my specialty is myself. I am genuine. I never had a game or an act. I was just me from day one and it has worked wonders. How easy it is just to be yourself! MANY, nearly everyone tells me how nice it is to be with someone who is chill and down to earth and can laugh at herself, they always use the word sexy. Pretentious is not me at all. I would be a very bad actress at this life. Just go with the flow, whatever company you may be in, you naturally go with the vibe

    My Off Limits

    I will not rim a man. Never, not happening. Weird, well it is a bit weird to be called mommy and tell him he is a good boy. That is indifferent, and he’s older than me. Regardless of who is older, it is weird. Mostly everything else is just people, with a fetish or fantasy. I love accommodating foot fetishes, that’s my absolute favorite. So far so good.

    How I Prepare To Meet A Client

    Well of course he is already screened and we have a date, time and place set. I always like to keep a tan, so I have a spray tan machine I do at home at least once a week.

    I look great with a tan, makes a difference to me. I always do my makeup and my hair is simple, long straight and blonde. Depending on where we are meeting depends on what I wear. If he is coming to me I am wearing something very sexy to open the door with equally sexy lingerie to match, and always the heels, always. If he had made an outfit request in an email I accommodate that. If I am meeting him out or at his location it is a combo of classic yet sexy, and again, always those heels. What happens is a flow of conversation to get to know one another, perhaps a glass of wine. Always Moscato wine, that is my favorite. I used to like vodka on ice but it catches up quick. Then what happens…. well, a lady never kisses and tells. xoxox

    Summer The One – Philadelphia’s Top 5 Consistently Rated Companions. Self described Tall Cool One, that oozes sex appeal and intelligence. Easy going, down to earth, sexy with a West Coast vibe…. The One. Lover of the Ocean, intricate artist and seasoned lover.

    Follow Summer on:
    Website:     www.Summertheone.com

    Twitter: www.twitter.com/summertheone99

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