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  • What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    To be honest, when I was just a civie, I never thought I would enter sex work. I never demonized it. I always knew woman were using sex work as a catapult to move up the socioeconomic ladder in society, so I was all for it, but as a career choice I never saw myself becoming a companion. Consequently, myself like most others, associated a stigma with SP’s, Sex work and the industry as whole. There are always questions about sanitation safety, location, how reliable is the money and confidentiality.

    For starters, to burst that bubble of sex workers are “dirty” because we sleep with X amount of men is so untrue. I would say 90% of the sex workers I know including myself  are “safe play only” providers. Which means everything is covered, and there is no bodily fluid contact or exchange. So, on top of offering safe services, we also get tested frequently, evidently because of the career choice we are in. There’s an awesome book to understand the psyche of a sex worker or just to understand the business as a whole called “Thriving In Sex Work, Heartfelt Advice For Staying Sane In The Sex Industry” by Lola Devine. I’m in the process of reading the last two chapters and it’s a good book for both civies and sex workers to get a general grasp of the business.

    Looking back to when I first started, I was very ignorant towards the fact that yes, sex work is a multifaceted rewarding job and SP’s wear many hats between being our own boss. We are also our own marketing team, accountant, web designer, blogger and receptionist/secretary, just to name a few. I personally feel SP’s are true hustlers to the very core and essence. We embody the true saying of “getting to the bag“. I love sex work. It has granted me many opportunities and also the freedom to do what I want, when I want, and has helped me grow individually as a person and as a business women too. Sex work is work and to thrive in this business, you must treat it as such.

    How Do You Screen Clients?

    I love this question. Let me start by saying, the first forms of screening are initiated within first contact. What a lot of potential clients don’t realize is how you present yourself, whether it be through your first text or email to me, I’m analyzing it and can pretty much tell whether or not I want to engage further or even finish reading your text or email. As SP’s we get so, so many texts and emails a day that it becomes very apparent who is a time waster and who genuinely would like to book a rendezvous.

    When you first make that initial contact with a SP, start with a short introduction “Hi my name is ________ , I am _________ . I saw your add on ________ , I would like to book you for ______ hours on __________.” That is good and all that is needed with first contact. After I have received a bit of info on you, it is my pleasure to respond and send you my booking form via email which includes light screening (i.e. two references, photo ID with pertinent info blacked out, work info and an email back from your work email or LinkedIn and a deposit). If a potential client can’t provide all the info, there are ways to work around it as not all methods are required to confirm booking.

    One thing though I would really like clients to understand is we as SP’s don’t know nothing about you. Them on the other hand, if they have done their due diligence, have taken the time to read our websites, visited our social media handles and reviewed our adds, which gives you a better understanding and idea of who we are and what type of provider we are.

    It’s only fair to give us that common courtesy in return. First impressions are everything, make sure to introduce yourself during initial contact.

    Do’s & Don’ts For Clients To Follow

    Yes there are some “ Do’s and Don’ts “

    1. Do be polite. I know I speak for myself and many other SP’s. Don’t just text Avail? at three in the morning. Read our website to know what times we are available at so you can get a faster response. And even if we are available, it doesn’t mean we are ready right now for you to pop up at our incall.
    2. Don’t bombard our phones with multiple back to back texts or emails. If we haven’t responded, chances are we are catching up on texts or emails and will respond to you as soon as possible or you haven’t really peaked our interest to return an email or text back because you haven’t taken the time to introduce yourself.
    3. Do try to send screening info and references promptly. If you are aware that we are the type of provider to screen, provide the info and if you’re mid-comfortable with a providers’ screening method, they are not the provider for you.
    4. Do not haggle or negotiate rates. My rates are firm and are set to that amount for very specific reasons. Trying to lowball me will get you blacklisted.
    5. Do be yourself. There are a lot of nerves involved in the whole process between booking and when our eyes first. Take a deep breath and be present in the moment. This is your time you booked with me. I live for genuine moments so let’s create them.

    What Happens At The Meet Up

    When we first meet, my donation should be the first thing taken care of always. Business before pleasure. I prefer it to be given to me in my hand where then, while you get yourself comfortable, I can excuse myself to count it then return to start our rendezvous. I do offer GFE so depending on what the client prefers, we can curl up on the couch, and start off with a movie.

    I can chef it up in the kitchen or we could take it to the bedroom where I could give you a sensual massage. It’s really up to the client and what he needs/wants. As long as the clients ask me to do something that’s offered in my services, I will be more than happy to fulfil their request. Be vocal with me so I can know what you, that way you leave as a happy client.

    Ways To Ease Any Nerves

    First off, I always greet my clients with a smile. I feel that’s so important to let you know everything is fine. Absolutely you will be well taken care of. I am a very bubbly person and love to have conversations, so expect me to strike up a conversation. I hate when interactions become mechanical. We are two human beings not robots.

    I know for some clients, the whole process can be nerve racking. I usually start by asking them how their day was, and offer them a drink. I love when my clients are able to slip away into total bliss, let go and feel welcome and wanted. Even if it’s just for a short time, I feel like we create our own little Utopia together.

    Client Etiquette To Follow

    Yes, there is etiquette I would like potential clients to know. I pride myself on cleanliness and I expect my clients to reciprocate that. Please wash up when you come. If you have had a long day at work or even if you showered 2-3 hours before coming, please freshen up. There are toiletries and towels available for use. Secondly, please be mindful of the amount of time you booked. It gets very uncomfortable when I have to remind clients it’s time to get ready to leave. About ten minutes before our session is supposed to end is a good amount time to start freshening up.

    How A Client Can Become My Favorite

    A client can become my favourite with one being polite (as you can see, respect goes a long way with me) to filling out my booking form fully and correctly and sending a deposit. We SP’s love deposits because it reassures us you are committed to showing up for your booking. A lot of time and preparation goes into a booking on our end. So, even if a client has to cancel last minute because of an emergency or simply re-schedule, the deposit compensates me for a portion of my time, money and effort spent on the preparation to host and look fabulous for our time together. Also, doing/giving tokens of appreciation go a long way. I happen to be human and a woman too hahaha.

    Surprising me with items from my wish lists is very much appreciated or simply asking what I like before hand so you can bring a gift to our appointment works too. In regards to safety and screening, potential clients need to keep in mind we do not know what you look like or know who you are. Chances are though, you as the potential client have done your due diligence in selecting a companion. You have checked all our social media handles. Have even check out our blog and current adds. Extend the same courtesy to us by giving us basic info on who you are, when you would like to book for and for how long.

    Also, tipping a little extra is highly recommended if you enjoyed our services. I’m not sure why tipping sex workers is not a more common thing. As far as longer dates go which I actually prefer, making reservations for us in a nice upscale restaurant for dinner, drinks and dessert is always a win in my books. At the end of the day, if you want to be my favourite you must go the extra mile to prove so. I’m a classy woman and old fashioned, I like to be wined and dined.

    Stormy Webbs – Greetings, my name is Stormy Webbs. I am a VIP companion, webcam model and content creator based out of Toronto, Canada. I ooze radiance and confidence when I enter the room and smile. I am a connoisseur of the finer things in life and love to experience new things, whether it be a new restaurant, exhibit attraction, or simply a new movie. I get a thrill out of first experiences. Follow me on Twitter and Snapchat to see more or visit my website to book a session with me!

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  • My Experience As A Sex Worker

    My Experience As A Sex Worker

    I believe that sex work can be the most feminist thing you can do. I own my body and rights completely. I work for myself and have started my own business. Sex workers help the economy. We are the oldest running profession and deserve much more respect than we are getting.  We truly make the world go round!

    Why I Decided To Go Into Sex Work

    I was 21 when I first started as a stripper in Portland Oregon. I was tired of making little money in retail and being treated less than. This girl who would come into my retail place said I would definitely make money as a stripper. I waited to turn 21 because the club she worked at wouldn’t hire under 21. It was the best choice I have ever made. It changed my life in a very powerful way. From stripping, I met my first sugar daddy. Then got into escorting from there.

    Does Being In Sex Work Affect Ones’ Non-Sex Work Relationships?

    I don’t think being a sex worker should affect any of my relationships but sadly, it can. I just don’t give those people the time of day. I won’t give my energy to people who can’t understand what I do. I mean, I can’t tell my family sadly, but they don’t need to know what I do exactly.

    Challenges I Experienced So Far

    Well some challenges I have faced are mostly due to my body not being this “certain” type. Plus I am alternative as well. It only has stopped me from working at the “nicer” clubs but still make great money working the clubs I do. Plus, I don’t see it as a challenge any longer!

    Weirdest Requests From Clients?

    I don’t like to use the word weird but since I am open-minded I get guys wanting things that maybe not all sex workers would be open to doing. I just know I am very non-judgmental. (:

    Typical Myths About Sex Work

    To the people who think we are all forced into doing this, YOU are very wrong. We are not all forced (and to the people who are, I feel for them and hope to see change in that) we want to do what we do. Which is making others happy and supporting our own dreams. I am privileged to be able to use my looks and my mind to help achieve my goals. I am truly blessed with the life I have, meeting so many wonderful sex workers along the way!

    Mila Pixie Rose – Mila is a sex worker from Portland Oregon. A magical and ethereal Goddess to help fantasies come true. She is a writer, director, designer and soon to be tattoo artist. She is a very ambitious and strong willed young woman, follow her on her journey!

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  • Travelling On Extended Dates With Your Favorite Companion

    Travelling On Extended Dates With Your Favorite Companion

    I believe traveling and going on extended dates is gaining in popularity. In my opinion, it seemed as though it was previously restricted to mistresses and sugar babies. However, it appears that the idea of travelling with, or spending long durations with your escort is growing in popularity.

    I’m always reminding clients and civilians that while of course there’s the boundaries within the framework of the client/companion relationship – there’s ultimately no rules in terms of how you can spend your time together. It is in fact, a relationship, albeit an unconventional one.

    When I originally began in this industry, it seemed as if extended duration dates weren’t exactly in demand (or maybe they weren’t for me!)

    Many of my clients didn’t realize that I’d even be open to the idea of spending longer with them, let alone feel ecstatic. I know many providers also feel the same way.

    I think people are beginning to understand that the friendship you can create with your favourite provider is both of yours to design. We can see each other as often, or as infrequent as you want, and for as long as we’re both comfortable.

    Reasons Clients Engage A Travelling Companion

    Travelling can be such an amazing experience. Being a big backpacker myself, I’m often finding myself in serene moments, wishing I had someone to share it with.

    I think that as the relationship between a companion and her client develops, it can turn into this wonderfully fulfilling, mutually enjoyable experience. It truly is a friendship, and often times, at the end of our dates, my clients and I both wish we had longer together.

    Sneaking away for a long weekend, or few days away, allows us to fully let our hair down and unwind from the daily stressors of life. You can be absent from office politics, deadlines, family conflict, and truly be in the moment with her. Think of it as an oasis. There’s something extraordinarily healing when you’re only thought is the way her skin feels under your fingertips.

    Preparation Required For The Client Before The Date

    This depends on whether you’re meeting her for the first time, or she’s already an established friend.

    Some of my best experiences came from a leap of faith, where I flew across the country to spend a few days with a new gentleman. Travelling together on a first date isn’t common, but it does take a lot more preparation on both ends.

    For the gentleman, I’d hope that you’ve done your research, and chosen to reach out to someone who really vibes with you. Does her personality seem introverted or extroverted? Do you like the same hobbies? Spending several days together can be either be the most rewarding, or painful experience – make sure you’re spending time with someone you’ll really get along with.

    Regardless whether it’s a new friend, or someone you’ve known for a while, there’s still quite a bit of communication required before either of you get on a plane.

    How long have you agreed to spend together? When does the time begin? Will you be travelling separately, or together? What is the exact compensation, and how will she receive it? I know it can seem transactional to go over the finer details, however, assumptions and important information left to chance can spoil even the most romantic getaway. Make sure you’re both on the same page.

    Last but not least, consider your companion’s preferences, and work out a system that works for you both. As I mentioned, it is a relationship after all. Is she an early bird, or a night owl? Does she need caffeine before functioning? Is there anything you can prepare ahead of time to make her time with you more comfortable? Gentlemanliness goes a long way.

    Are There Rules?

    Often times, yes! However, every companion is vastly different, as is every client.

    When spending extended time together, I encourage both parties to be upfront about their needs. Does he need to fit in a workout first thing? Does she have a daily yoga practice she’s hoping not to neglect? An hour at night for both to catch up on business?

    Don’t be afraid to design an environment and relationship that makes you both comfortable. I know of several companions who require a little “alone time” here and there to recharge, while I’m generally okay without it.

    Personally, I absolutely must sleep 8+ hours a night, and have tea in the a.m.

    My only rule: “Don’t wake me up!”

    Madison Winter – Madison Winter, Canada’s self-proclaimed ‘girl next door’ is a high-end companion who lives and works out of Toronto, ON.

    She’s left a career in finance to become a provider, and now specializes in long engagements and relationship-based dates. In her spare time, she’s usually collecting passport stamps, or at home with her two dogs jamming out to 80’s rock.

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  • Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Humans are social animals. We need meaningful connections with other humans on a regular basis in order to be healthy, happy, and productive. It’s an unfortunate truth that life can get in the way of staying close with friends from adolescence and it can be really tough, especially for men, to make deep friendships as adults. The result? Loneliness is becoming a real public health problem.

    Dating can help combat that. On a date, you can enjoy great conversation and laughter with someone you wouldn’t have met otherwise. There’s no anxiety over whether the person wants to be there with you, or if they’re judging you. You can see a show, share a meal at a nice restaurant, and just open up to someone who’s happy to listen.

    Physical affection is also necessary for optimal health and happiness, whether that’s a warm hug, movie cuddles, or something steamier.  Dating is a great way to find a consenting, enthusiastic partner, so everyone can win and we can all feel great.

    For partnered people in relationships with a libido imbalance, it can be a good way to take the pressure off of the lower libido partner and help keep both partners happy and satisfied in their stable relationship. I like nutrition – healthy eating is important, but nutritional supplements can help make up any gaps. Extramarital dating can do the same for long term relationships, so that an otherwise great couple doesn’t have to breakup just because of differences in sexual appetite.

    Aside from all the health and happiness benefits, dating is also just a great way to destress, meet cool people you wouldn’t have otherwise, and have a good time!

    How Do Women & Men View First Dates?

    I’ve heard a lot of guy friends say that first dates can feel like interviews. From the moment the date starts, they’re just trying to ‘win her over’ and make a good impression, so that they can secure a second date and, from there, the relationship or intimacy that they desire.

    Girlfriends confirm that – they often say that they’re not really there to have fun on a first date, they’re there to assess the guy. Is he interesting, intelligent, funny, successful, well put together, generous, attractive, in line with their vision for what their boyfriend should be? Does he seem like he’s looking for something serious or just playing the field?

    Instead of playing together as teammates, with the same goal of enjoying each other’s company in mind, men and women are often positioning themselves as opponents – awful as it sounds, sometimes it really seems like they’re painting it as a game of predator-and-prey, rather than a meeting of equals.

    I think that’s such an unfortunate take! It makes the whole thing more stressful than it needs to be, instead of just fun. I love dating as a companion because it gets rid of all of those unnecessary strings, expectations, and barriers that stand in the way of two people just really connecting and having a great time together.

    Have You Been On A Bad Date?

    I’ve been lucky not to have had any bad dates, but I’ve heard other women say that they’ve encountered rudeness and men who were after only one thing, and as much of it as they could possibly pack into their shared time. Everything has its place and I think that, especially on first dates, people should always expect to spend a little time getting to know their date through conversation before beginning a nonverbal conversation.

    Expectations I Have Of My Date

    I expect my date to be freshly showered, always respectful, mindful of good sense safety practices, communicative of both their desires and anything that makes them uncomfortable, and more focused on the comprehensive experience than accomplishing a checklist of tasks. This is true whether my date is a man, a woman, nonbinary, or a couple.

    In return, I am fully present and engaged, enthusiastic, focused on my date, and genuinely committed for the duration of our time together to providing the experience for them that they’re seeking.

    First Date Turn Offs Men Should Never Make

    Hygiene is so important, please always show up freshly showered and with fresh breath. If your date is at 3pm in the afternoon, having brushed your teeth that morning isn’t enough!

    It’s also always really important to be respectful and not pushy. When you’re respectful, kind, and generous, you make your date want to show you a great time. That’s so much better than demanding it, for everyone involved.

    Natalie Hepburn – Multiracial, multilingual, misbehaving Ivy grad. Wanderlusting cutie, sashimi fiend, and cuddly luxury companion in NYC and worldwide.

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  • What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    My relationship towards sex has evolved over the years, and I fully expect it to change in years to come! With every positive sexual interaction I’ve had, I’ve realized more and more that sex (for me) is about connection in all forms, and someone’s personal reason for seeking connection is not for anyone else to judge.

    Sex can meet your need for love and caring and affection, but it can also be utilized to process grief and anger, to fight loneliness, or to discover, accept, and even love parts of yourself that you can’t indulge in anywhere else. It can be furious, healing, ridiculous, relaxing, whatever is true and authentic for you and your partner(s) in the moment, it’s all valid.

    At this point in my life, having sex is most often a celebration of how deeply I can enjoy myself and others, and I’m grateful for the opportunities to do so!

    Why Non-Monogamy Appeals To Me

    Most importantly, consensual non-monogamy allows for the flexibility to ask for what you want and need from your partner(s), and for your boundaries to adjust with you as you all change and grow. I’ve never been a person who makes choices based on what is most widely accepted, but rather based off of what I want, and what aligns with my own internal moral compass; so the option to curate relationships in a way that feels right to me is essential!

    Open relationships also require you to have confidence in your own inherent value, to be in tune with your emotions, and to keep your communication with your partner(s) open and honest. These skills are incredibly important to me in any relationship, and dating in a non-monogamous way has helped me develop them for myself as well.

    I also choose consensual non-monogamy as a feminist statement. When I am not sexually bound to only one person, it is undeniably clear that I belong to no one. I am a fiercely independent person, and the only person that I want to have ownership over my sexuality is me.

    And yes, open relationships are a lot more work, but they are also a hell of a lot more fun! As someone whose hedonistic side roars quite strongly, it’s essential to me that I be allowed the freedom to follow my impulses when I think it’s safe and appropriate to do so. It’s also fun to reconnect with your partner(s) after a sexy escapade with someone else… sharing some special details can keep the spark in a primary relationship burning brightly, and at the very least it’s almost guaranteed to make you feel grateful to be able to come home to someone who knows and loves you after an exhausting night out.

    Is There A Stigma About Open Relationships?

    Absolutely, there are a ton of biases and misconceptions that people have. Some of the more common negative misunderstandings are:

    – People in open relationships are afraid of commitment

    – Real, trusting, romantic relationships can’t exist without monogamy

    – People in open relationships are wildly promiscuous/hypersexual

    – Open relationships require no boundaries

    – Non-monogamy is inherently immoral or dangerous

    – Having an open relationship increases the likelihood that your partner will leave you

    There are also plenty of people who are open to consensual non-monogamy, but perhaps have misplaced expectations about what that will look like, including:

    – Having an open relationship will fix all issues with my current partner

    – Engaging in non-monogamous dating means that I don’t need to have accountability to my partner(s)

    – I will now always be in competition with other people for my partner’s attention

    Rules In Open Relationships

    The best part about being in an open relationship is that the rules are what you make them! No two non-monogamous relationships are exactly alike, because there is no reinforced, socially accepted structure that everyone is expected to follow. What I usually require is that everyone involved communicates honestly about their needs, comfort levels, and personal boundaries… but I think that would be beneficial in any relationship, monogamous or not.

    Trust in a relationship is built by not only honoring the boundaries that all parties have agreed to, but also being upfront and speaking your mind (in a caring and respectful way) if you’d like those boundaries to change BEFORE acting on any desires.

    Tips For Couples To Explore Open Relationships

    In my personal experience, there must be a base of mutual trust, care, communication, and respect in your relationship before you start including other people in it. If you and your partner are comfortable being vulnerable with each other, asking each other for reassurance, and validating each other’s experiences and emotions, you have a lot of the tools you’ll need to navigate consensual non-monogamy!

    It’s also important to know that, especially at first, choosing to try an open relationship will most likely feel uncomfortable. This does NOT mean that non-monogamy is not for you! Changing up the familiar and stepping outside of your comfort zone is always going to feel weird, probably even painful. It’s up to you to decide how much discomfort you want to try and work through.

    It’s helpful to be extra caring, attentive, and affectionate with your partner during moments of discomfort, and it’s ok to ask for that care in return! Knowing that you and your partner have each other’s best interests at heart, and that you both value the bond you’ve created together, will ease the transitions in your dynamic.

    I would also recommend that if you’re considering opening up your relationship, you not only think about what it will feel like for you to connect with other people, but what it will feel like when your partner does the same. It’s easy to get swept up in the (admittedly hot) fantasies about all the adventures you’re going to have, and forget that you may feel very differently about it when your partner wants to have those same adventures. Don’t create boundaries based only off of your own desires, but also off of how much freedom you feel you can offer your partner without resentment.

    Victoria Lindelle – Victoria is a warm, playful, and elegant provider offering otherworldly companionship in Los Angeles. A life-long lover of sensuality and affection, she strives to always cultivate authentic connections, and to enjoy the best cheese and chocolates life has to offer.

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  • The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    Companionship is turning out to be quite the hot button topic in the 21st century. The word has the ability to take on numerous different meanings and implicates a variety of occupations. Escorts are increasingly referring to themselves as companions as this summation accurately embodies our role in modern society. Utilizing new terminology enables us to reclaim and clarify our value in society while also warding off the lingering stigma associated with being a sex worker.

    People are increasingly seeking companionship whether it be in one industry or another to regain a feeling of connection to others in our modernized world. Whether it be for a few hours, an evening, or more and whether it be classified as this, that, or the other. The rise of arrangements, escorts, and other forms of companionship are proof that there is a growing need for access to intimate relationships offering less pressure and commitment than the traditional models.

    It is really up to the consumer to define the companionship they seek based on comfort levels and preference, but they are all essentially the same activity with different labels. Companionship is immensely beneficial for mental health when untaken with the right individuals under the right circumstances. It is definitely in the running for the prize of one of the best forms of self-care available. Escorts are just one way of obtaining companionship while therapists, masseuses, active social circles, cuddle buddies, virtual relationships, and domesticated pets are all others.

    Companionship offers connection, and ultimately it focuses on tapping into love in the world by sharing it with another. When considered from an in-depth philosophical stand-point it makes little sense to stigmatize one form of companionship over another simply due to the nature of the intimacy. The most beautiful part of companionship is that anyone can be a companion. Everyone possesses a fundamental desire to feel connected to the world and be loved by its fellow inhabitants.

    What I Love About Providing Companionship As An Escort

    For me, what makes escorting so enticing will always be the freedom and connection. The freedom to make my own schedule, work with who I please, abide by my own code of conduct, be responsible for my own successes and failures, and of course the freedom the finances provide for me to utilize my free time on other aspirations. Of course, I am very lucky to meet such amazingly intellectual people I would otherwise never get the chance to be face to face with.

    I am also quite addicted to the spontaneity this occupation provides, clients and I share a dirty little hedonistic secret together as it is still taboo in our society which can add to fun. There is a kind of adrenaline rush from not being in an office all day and enjoying life’s intimate pleasures with people finally being their authentic selves. It is infinitely cool to see people finally be themselves because there is no expectation of who they have to be, and they don’t need to impress me. I don’t need any client to be anything apart from respectful. They can be themselves with no added pressure and finally express their genuine desires and personalities.

    It is the epitome of a safe space allowing them to focus mainly on their own enjoyment for once. This results in a re-connection to their authentic selves and feelings of happiness. Escorting presents as one of the realest industries in a world full of fake industries hinting at things and not actually saying what they mean. People are finally themselves which is tremendously refreshing.

    Common Reasons For Seeking Companionship

    To be honest, a lot of clients are married individuals that feel one person cannot fulfill all the love and connection they need in life. Companions offer a supplement to what’s lacking in a way that makes them happier in their relationships at home and in their day-to-day lives. Escorts are simply one version of companionship that allows them to retain their personal identities and meet their individualized needs. It is another form of seeking out a professional to cater to your personal needs. Clients are not individuals seeking out a new relationship.

    Companionship means a feeling of fellowship or friendship. Seeing a companion caters to a fundamental need, being an escort is an extension of being a friend. Intimacy is often the first thing to be deprioritized as it is not essential to someone’s functionality. And yet, intimacy is the source of most of our overall happiness. Intimacy isn’t a requirement of survival so it is often neglected. That intimacy is what can be most effective and beneficial to someone’s mental health because it is the epitome of sharing love and acceptance in the world.

    Companionship is fundamental because feeling a connection to others in life is fundamental. If people just wanted to have intimate fun, they could do that alone. Seeing a companion must then be providing something extra that benefits their mental health.

    What Should One Know Before Being An Escort?

    Being an escort requires a lot of behind the scenes work, it is easily a full-time occupation even for those attempting part-time work. Escorts must be able to mould themselves into whatever sculpture a client needs when they arrive. It entails a lot of resilience, confidence, and time management skills. Be aware that there is a large majority of the population that will not respect your decisions and the laws in place in this industry are not conducive to it being the safest it could be.

    I think the image portrayed of who an escort is is still wildly misunderstood and mischaracterized as a result of their depiction in media and literature over centuries. Anyone can be an escort.

    I really wanted to showcase how many amazing people are in this industry while attempting to shed light on the ways companionship is being inappropriately undertaken in a way that exploits vulnerable or misinformed people. Misinformation about the escorting industry still seems to reign supreme. I couldn’t think of a better way to let the industry speak for itself than to create a podcast to act as a platform for these extraordinary individuals and the people that hire them to share their experiences and what they’ve learnt.

    If you’d like to hear firsthand accounts from escorts and clients in the industry, I would recommend tuning in to hear what they have to say on the podcast. It all starts with a willingness to hear the differing sides of the story from the people actually working in and benefiting from the industry.

    Sienna Hunter – Luxury companion based in Toronto, Canada. I am a slender, athletic, passionate little go-getter in my mid-twenties. I relish being a companion and the endless opportunities and forms of beauty it presents. I am fond of delving a little deeper into the most enjoyable facets of life with whomever needs a little break from the repetition of daily routines.

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    Personal website: www.siennahunter.com

    Twitter: @SiennaHunterTO

    Instagram: @SiennaHunterTO

    Other Works:

    Podcast called ‘The Escort: Deconstructed” and can be found wherever you listen to podcasts or with the follow links.

    Podcast Website: www.theescortdeconstructed.love

    Twitter: @TheEscort_Pod

    Instagram: @TheEscort_Pod

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  • What To Expect When Engaging A Companion

    What To Expect When Engaging A Companion

    I think companionship is something we as social beings all need. There are different types and levels of companionship and as humans we like to spend time with the people that ‘get’ us, that make us feel happy and comfortable with ourselves and that appreciate and support us.

    Personally, I love meeting new people. Sharing with others and learning different personalities and perspectives is one of the reasons that I choose companionship as my work. I enjoy spending time with people, and I am lucky enough to meet people who are well educated, have done well for themselves and have the time to enjoy some of the better things that life has to offer. They have diverse interests and I enjoy hearing about their lives, stories and engaging with them.

    How Popular Are Companion Requests?

    I would say fairly frequent! I love all the experiences that companionship opens up for me – I’ve traveled to places I wouldn’t have visited otherwise, I’ve gone hiking and trekking and fishing, and engaged in fantastic experiences. Frankly, even when back to the tried and true places, it’s the fact that I am with new people that makes those places new to me.

    I think the one thing I would say I love the most is that it allows me to step out of my comfort zone and do things that are not part of other people’s daily average life. I feel honored, humbled and truly excited by my experiences and it keeps me engaged more wholly.

    Advantages Of Engaging A Companion

    I would say if you are looking for an elevated, professional experience when it comes to sharing time with another person, you should engage a companion. Companions are punctual, well groomed, experienced, detail oriented, fun and outgoing people who love to get to know you! The time that you have together is yours and you can shape and curate that in any way you like. They are looking to craft experiences with you and share in your interests.

    I often see sides to my clients that their friends, family and business partners do not see. I can see who they are honestly, and sometimes, who they would like to be! It comes across in their communication and requests. I had one client who wanted to go for a hike with me since they missed doing that with their grown children. It was a teaching moment for them, and since I had never hiked before, it was a bonding experience for the both of us, and a wonderful learning experience for me. I had so much fun on that hike, learning from a professional and appreciating the time spent engaging in something that brings so much joy to another person.

    What You Should Know Before Engaging A Companion

    I think, like with everything else in life, doing your research and seeing who’s out there that matches you is the best way in which to make sure you’re with the right person. Learn about their personalities from Twitter and their website and understand that they have their own boundaries, as do all people. Communication with them is key to make sure you’re both on the same page.

    Do’s & Don’ts To Follow When Engaging A Companion

    I think a number of problem areas are caused when expectations on both sides are not complied with, or there is a lack of professionalism from either party.

    If people thought about engaging a companion like it was looking for a business partner with whom they would like to engage socially, a lot of questions get resolved. Companions are business people, and there is process and streamlining in place in order to ensure our safety, as well as the safety of our clients.

    I think clients also need to think about the reasons that they are reaching out to a companion. It is not just hooking up or ‘hanging out’, there are tons of dating sites for that. You’re looking for someone professional, well maintained, who will have respect for your time and your requests. If this is the case, acting unprofessionally will not get you the response that you seek from a companion.

    My simple tips are

    • Always respect the companions protocol, as they would respect your requests
    • Please be professional with all administrative dealings
    • Please read the website and feel free to ask questions, we will not bite you, (unless you request it!) but asking for anything above and beyond is at the discretion of the companion, much as you would expect from a business partner!

    Indiya Summer – An elite companion based in NYC. She loves travel, warm weather and meeting new people!

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    Contact: indiyasummer@protonmail.com

    Indiya Summer is available in NYC, and worldwide for FMTY

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  • Advantages of Seeing A Cougar

    Advantages of Seeing A Cougar

    I think sex is necessary in every intimate relationship and plays a huge part. Everyone wants to feel desired and wanted by their partner or another individual. Sex is that way of showing the person how much you desire and want them. Even if it’s only for that moment in time or longer.

    For some of us, sex is constantly a driver for things we do in our day to day life. It’s something almost everyone thinks about and hopefully wants! I personally have not found a balance yet in dating and being a companion at the same time. I am a man stuck in a woman’s body in that I think about sex every hour of every day.

    Does Age Matter To You?

    Age does matter to me. I personally have had some of the best sex of my life with much younger men as they want to fulfill that hot mom next door fantasy. There is usually role playing involved and that can lead to some incredible and very explosive dates.

    Benefits Of Seeing A Cougar

    Women are like fine wine and become better in all ways with age if they take care of themselves. Males sexually peak much sooner than females. By the time a female is in her 40’s, she is more confident than she was in her 20’s. She knows her body much better and has discovered her likes and dislikes and what needs to be done to achieve an orgasm. She is usually much more vocal and gives direction about what she wants and how to pleasure her.

    What To Know Before Seeing A Cougar

    I wouldn’t say there are any rules. I would say the male should be prepared for a Cougar to be more confident in her skin and know how to pleasure you as well as herself. She is skilled in a wide variety of techniques and wants her own pleasure just as much as she wants to give pleasure to you.

    Tips To Have A Successful Cougar Experience

    Do your research on the woman you desire to spend time with and don’t be afraid to ask for any special requests. We are not mind readers and the more open you are, the more you will get out of the experience.

    Riley Blonde – I am the epitome of sensual sophistication while being down to earth, playful and fun! I find it truly thrilling and can guarantee that our rendezvous will be as pleasurable for me as it is for you.I consider myself an ideal choice for those who seek and appreciate the finer things in life.

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/RBlonde24

    Website: http://www.rileycougerblonde.com

    P411: My P411 Profile

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  • How To Select An Escort For The First Time

    How To Select An Escort For The First Time

    I tend to meet a lot of first-timers. That is, gentlemen who have never been with a companion before. I’m always incredibly honoured not only because they chose me for their first date, but that I have the opportunity to introduce them to this wild, wonderful, and complex world.

    Nerves is almost always an issue, but it’s not always exclusive to first timer gentlemen. It’s relatively often that when I’m meeting my date for the first time, it’s apparent that he has spent a lot of time anticipating, imagining, and sometimes stressing about our encounter.

    Is It Normal For First Timers To Feel Nervous?

    Absolutely, first date jitters is completely normal. Given the nature of our encounter, I understand the source. Not only are you meeting someone that you’ve likely admired from afar for months (which is nerve-racking in itself), the stakes are high!

    There’s a significant investment on the client’s part, which I try not to take for granted. He’s investing his capital, of course, but also a chunk of his time that’s irreplaceable. In addition to both of these things – there’s also the anxiety provoking stereotypes about escorts that first timer’s sometimes have in the back of their mind. Is she enjoying herself? Is she here because she wants to be?

    I encourage my clients to remember that these thoughts are normal and valid. You’re about to enter completely new territory, and your body is reacting, physiologically speaking, in a normal and expected way. It’d be amiss if I didn’t mention that If something feels off, acknowledge that. If there are red flags, take note of them. We should both be doing this in the days leading up to our encounter.

    That being said, don’t underestimate the importance of research, and ultimately, trusting your provider. You’re in good hands.

    Importance Of Choosing A Good Escort For Your First Time

    Researching your provider, and the industry that you’re about to dabble in is important, and comes in various formats.

    Firstly, you can peruse various advertising platforms. It’s not just about photos. I always advise reading numerous provider’s copy – their website, and bios. What resonates with you? Who leaves you curious, and wanting more?

    Does this provider have social media? Do they promote themselves in a way that’s attractive to you? Do you have similar interests – is your intrigue mounting? Furthermore, do you sense a level of professionalism? Does she appear to have a verifiable reputation?

    I think it’s necessary to remember that while physical attractiveness is of course important (and subjective), try not to neglect emotional attractiveness. A name and a photo won’t give you clues about the kind of person you’re meeting, and the experience you’ll have.

    My best clients are the ones that paid attention, and did their homework. They read my website in its entirety, took note of my likes and dislikes, followed me on social media, and eventually got to the point where their gut instinct was: “we’re going to get along.”

    How A Good Escort Can Calm A Clients’ Nerves

    I think a good escort is somebody who has a high level of EQ, and a high sensitivity for empathy. Most of us in this business got into it in the first place because we adore fostering connections. She’s here because she understands people, and all the idiosyncrasies that come along with them, nerves included.

    Chances are, we already know you’re nervous.

    The beauty of this business is that all of us, while similar in some ways, operate in a completely different fashion. My approach when meeting a nerve ridden client is to somewhat ignore the problem. I personally find that hyper focusing and dwelling on nervousness isn’t the most effective.

    Also – I treat my dates like any other first date. We’re here to get to know each other, and we’re both a little nervous. I try to be authentic, transparent, and give genuine compliments if they’re due. I’ll ask thoughtful questions and give you my honest opinions.

    As the night progresses, your shoulders might lower, your jaw might unclench, and we might find ourselves laughing and flirting. Usually before the evening’s over, we’ve found a way to connect in a real and sincere way, and all of a sudden, the nerves that we both felt at the beginning are no longer an issue.

    Last Tips For First Timer Clients

    My biggest tip: trust her.

    Nerves are normal, and totally ok. However, that chemistry you’re feeling? It’s very real and palpable.

    Try your best not to let anxiousness, self-doubt, and internal worries override the experience you’re having… because it just might turn into something wonderful.

    Madison Winter – Madison Winter, Canada’s self-proclaimed ‘girl next door’ is a high-end companion who lives and works out of Toronto, ON.

    She’s left a career in finance to become a provider, and now specializes in long engagements and relationship-based dates. In her spare time, she’s usually collecting passport stamps, or at home with her two dogs jamming out to 80’s rock.

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    Website: https://madisonwinterto.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/madisonwinterto

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  • An Insight Into The Life Of A Sex Worker

    An Insight Into The Life Of A Sex Worker

    Sex work gave me my life back. Before working as an escort, I was at risk of losing my home and being unable to continue my studies. My depression was at its worst, my confidence was weak and I felt my life had no direction. These are all things that people would associate with somebody doing sex work but for me, it pulled me out of those lows. It was my saviour.

    I think it is very important to make clear distinctions between sex work and trafficking. Trafficking is slavery and is not sex work. That is not what we are talking about here. The narrative must change. I am loved, I am not a drug addict, and I am my own boss.

    Photo: http://www.emirparrotta.com

    What Made Me Decide To Get Into Sex Work

    I started escorting in the beginning for the quick cash when regular working routes failed me. I have two degrees, and studying for my third. I had plenty of experience and am an excellent candidate but the job market can be fickle and I had bills to pay. A friends’ girlfriend was a call girl and he thought I’d do well and could learn from her. She is intelligent and articulate so I met up with her for a coffee, and the rest is history!

    Steve Joliffe @ https://www.progressivephotography.co.uk

    Was Sex Work What You Thought It Was?

    What took me by surprise was how suited I am and in many ways, it’s my perfect career. All my skills fit perfectly and I truly feel satisfied and rewarded as a proud business woman.

    Initially, I worried about the dangers. Unfortunately some workers do get attacked, but I have had more incidents and assaults in my personal dating life than anything at ‘work’.

    I didn’t realise how kind some of my clients would be and how much I would change their lives for the better. At first, I thought selling sex was about sexual gratification but it is so much more than that. It’s about connection and intimacy, to be touched by another. We are selling escapism and release in more ways than one, not just hand jobs.

    Photo: Steve Joliffe @ https://www.progressivephotography.co.uk

    Challenges I Face As A Sex Worker

    The main challenge I face is the stigma around sex work. Some men don’t want to date me personally for their own insecurities but even some feminists feel we are playing against them. Others think we are dirty or virtueless. We are people, we have lovers, families and friends.

    An annoying assumption is that this work is easy or a get rich quick scheme. It is many things but easy is not one of them, and although my business is building, money isn’t the driving force. I continue to do this line of work because I enjoy it. I feel high levels of job satisfaction and maybe one day I’ll be able to buy my own apartment.

    Clients are normal everyday men you see in your life. They aren’t all perverts on the edge of society. Husbands, fathers, sons, businessmen. You probably know some without realising it. Many men have paid for sex, but are also worried about being labelled. Majority of whom value the companionship provided with respect and care.

    How Competitive Is The Sex Work Industry?

    Sex work has given me access to a community of incredible strong supportive women and men whom I now call friends. The industry can be competitive depending on where you work. In every corner of the world, there are various styles and types of sex work, but the community has been incredibly welcoming, uplifting and supportive. We are here together and try to keep each other safe. As much as we are all selling sex, our approach, methods and style are all different giving us our unique selling point. I like to think there is room for all of us.

    Steve Joliffe @ https://www.progressivephotography.co.uk

    What Clients Should Know Before Engaging A Sex Worker

    Clients should know to do some research on their provider before choosing one, simply because we all offer different things. They may need to pass screening and/or pay deposits. They must shower and arrive fresh to their appointment. We are not interested in ‘outing’ them to their families or colleagues – that’s bad for business and discretion is a priority, we just want to keep safe and have a good time.

    Kate Bouvier – High-Class Escort offering companionship bookings to distinguished gentlemen in Madrid, Spain. A proud Sex Worker, passionate about ending violence against women and keeping the community safe, Kate speaks openly to end stigma around the profession.

    Whether you are seeking a dinner date or attending a work function, British Kate genuinely adores meeting new people and would love to accompany you for the evening during your trip. Or perhaps you are a companion yourself, Kate would love to hear from you to share stories over a glass of wine.

    Follow Kate on

    Website: katebouviermadrid.com

    Twitter: @katebbouvier / https://twitter.com/katebbouvier

    Blog: https://katebouviermadrid.com/blog/

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