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Secrets to Getting Your First Invite To A Swingers House Party


Secrets to Getting Your First Invite To A Swingers House Party

So you want to get invited to a house party designed for swingers. Well, I have to warn you that it can be both easy and hard at the same time to get that elusive invite. Don’t worry, I know it sounds confusing, but you have me to help you through it!

The easiest step is to get things started. All you have to do is find a swinger who is hosting a swinger’s party, or simply someone who is going to attend one, and then convince them to let you tag along. Okay, so that first step is exactly not as simple to accomplish as it was for me to write it down.

Let’s start with meeting someone first.

Always keep a lookout for the outgoing couple as they usually get more than the average of number party invites. Guess having a fun personality is something people want to be around. Go figure. So next time you are at a swing club, don’t be that wall flower hiding in the corner. Instead, why not take a seat at the bar? It is so much easier to meet other people when you are at the bar; everybody will want a drink at some point throughout the evening so there is a good chance they will end up right beside you. Now, get the ball rolling by saying something really ‘interesting’ to them like … “Hello”, keeping in mind they are there to meet compatible people too. By just saying hi, you have made yourself open for them to speak with you as these very people may be a little nervous as well, so do your best to keep the conversation going. For all you know, you might just end up chatting the night away with someone really interesting. The more people you meet the more likely you will find someone compatible.

During such conversations, be sure to mention that you are thinking about attending a house party, that you have never experienced one and that you are curious as to what to expect. Never be aggressive, just inquiring. Showing an interest can be the one thing that will get you an invitation. Remember that although there are swinger house parties that take place on a regular basis, the group of people you are talking to may not have one planned out at this point in time. Be patient and you will be on your way to your first house party circuit. In the meantime, do continue to enjoy yourself at the club and strike up friendship with some of these great folks.

House party attendees generally consist of a good mix of seasoned veterans and newbies. A lot of hosts like to help beginners get started in a low pressure atmosphere, which is precisely what a house party is. Tell the people you meet that you are new (that is if you are—it is not a good idea to lie) and the odds are that seeing you are a newbie, someone will definitely ‘jump on you’, so to speak. In fact, what I am saying is that since everyone has been a beginner at some point, we all aim to help the “newbies” out, which is what you will be called for a little while. Don’t worry though, it is not that bad and you will grow out of that label really fast.

Congratulations! You now have a friend or two in the <a href=”“>Swingers Lifestyle</a>. Now, we are off to your next swinger’s house party or … you can also come visit me and maybe you will  <a href=”“> meet other fellow swingers </a> too … Enjoy! 🙂

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Sandi Andersen

Sandi Andersen has been personally helping Swingers meet since 1993, with the help of her magazines Tryst (est. 1981) and Tab (est. 1956), which are no longer available in print form, and her website (est. 1995). She has a straight forward approach to topics of swinging and sex which comes through in her writing. Promoting healthy, safe sexual relationships with two or more people being involved, as in the Swinging Lifestyle, she has attended and presented many seminars on the subject at Lifestyle conventions and trade shows in Canada and across the United States. Her theory is that sometimes being able to talk with someone (or read about others' experiences and concerns) can make all the difference in allowing yourself the freedom to enjoy your sexuality to the fullest. Sandi also runs an online travel agency specializing in Adults Only Erotic Vacations under the main URL of, where she will help you pick the erotic vacation best suited for the two of you or for you to join in with a group of travelers.

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