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  • Top 9 Sex Travel Destinations for Swingers

    Top 9 Sex Travel Destinations for Swingers

    When it comes to talking about the best places to travel to as a swinger, there are many differences in opinions. There are three basic things to consider when choosing your sexual vacation: resort quality, price of the trip, and how erotic you want the experience to be. Each of the following options (in no particular order) will give you a different experience and as such, all are not for everyone. And so … pack up your luggage and here we go:

    Hedonism II. Probably one of the more famous and talked about resorts. It is located in Negril, Jamaica and is very well established. That is both good and bad depending on what you are looking for in your vacation. A well-established resort also means an older one, but they have done some major renovations in recent years. In addition, such resorts also tend to attract an older crowd. As such, my suggestion would be to find a compatible group which has organized a trip there and travel with them. Swingers Group Trips are the best ways to experience all that the resort has to offer.

    Desire Resort & Spa and Desire Pearl Resort & Spa. I put these two resorts together as it is hard for me to talk about one of them without a comparison. They are both located in the Riviera Maya area of Mexico, and while their facilities are nicer than the ones you will find at Hedonism, do expect to pay more for your stay. These are strictly couples-only resorts, except on special occasions where they have weeks dedicated to threesomes. Again, I would suggest traveling with a group that is already going because it can be a little quiet during off-peak season. Both Desire resorts are definitely above average in their “hotness”. If you are looking for something more on the erotic side but also quite upscale, then spring for Desire Pearl, it will cost more but it is worth every penny for the extra luxury.

    Cruise Ship Takeovers. These are not your average cruise vacation. A swinger’s cruise can be as spicy as you want; you decide the areas of the ship you visit! From the clothing optional pool deck to the “play rooms”, things can get pretty wild. It is pretty much a non-stop swingers party where most of the guests are between mid-30s to mid-50s. If you are not up to going to the group rooms for sex and prefer things a bit more low key, then meet new friends at the pool party or hang out in the disco or other dance areas where while things are erotic and sensual, but no sexual activities are allowed. If you want to dive into the action, then make sure to visit the “play rooms” where you can literally expand your sexual horizons. Each cruise is different and there may be theme areas like dungeons, dark rooms, and even rooms just for the ladies.

    Hidden Beach. Now, this is the only “true” five-star resort in the swinger’s category. It is operated by the company that owns El Dorado Resorts, a four-star resort and its sister property. Hidden Beach is a totally private, clothing-optional resort that is both elegant and exquisite. All guests of Hidden Beach can enjoy the restaurants and amenities at El Dorado (which is not clothing-optional).

    Spice Resort. Located on Lanzarote, one of the Spanish Canary Islands, Spice Resort was established in June 2010 as an all-inclusive, adults only, clothing optional European-based property. Spice resort compares favorably to Desire Resort in Cancun, although the former is attractive to open-minded nudists as well as swingers. The offering of high-end food rounds out this erotic resort. In fact, this may be an easier travel destination for those coming from Europe.

    Temptation. This resort is located in Cancun, Mexico and is a good start for those who are not too keen to jump on the idea of a full-fledged swinger’s vacation. It is topless optional rather than clothing optional which can be less intimidating for some. Their upbeat sensual vibe is instrumental in creating an enticing atmosphere which is both invigorating and relaxing. This resort caters to all adults as compared to couples-only resorts such as Desire. They are also a little less blatant in their sexual nature and are recommended for those who just are not sure if a sex vacation is for them … yet.

    Caliente Resort. This is officially a nudist resort, but in recent years Caliente Resort has been catering more towards the sensual side of one being naked with special theme nights catering to swingers. They are located in Florida just north of Tampa and have amazing accommodations. This is definitely a great travel destination for those in the US looking for somewhere a little more local.

    Rama Kien Lifestyle Resort. Located in the heart of Pattaya, Thailand, it is a small hidden resort where liberated couples can fulfil their sexual fantasies in a mysterious and exotic location. It is a small resort (only 15 guest rooms) where guests can meet each other around the pool and then proceed to make their own party. Every day at Rama Kien is a new day to explore your fantasies.

    No matter which trip you decide you want to try, I’d strongly suggest that you try and arrange your schedule to travel with a swinger’s group as this not only makes it easier for you to meet people, it also allows you to book your trip getting the best rate available. In addition, there are also speciality group trips catering to “bucket list” locations, or mini-takeovers of a floor of a hotel somewhere exotic, like Italy or Iceland. Whatever the nature of your holiday may be, let us know because we are here to help at Tryst Travel.

    Enjoy, Sandi

    www.SandiOnSwinging.com

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  • Swinging In Your Holiday Lingerie

    Swinging In Your Holiday Lingerie

    When thinking about Christmas, one can’t help but be reminded of presents (both giving and receiving), the excitement of unwrapping gifts. Well, I am here to put a bit of a twist on traditional (or not so traditional) lingerie gift giving and hopefully add a sassy inspirational touch to this festive time of the year. So picture yourself being given a present which is beautifully wrapped and you start to tear open the paper in excitement! Now, your lady walks into the room and there she is, all beautifully ‘decorated’ in the finest lingerie, just waiting for you to undress her. Talk about bursting in excitement!

    Imagine yourself and your wife again, invited over to another swinger couple’s house for dinner and some ‘wink, wink’ sexy time. You show up with two gift bags, one for the beautiful hostess and the other for your beautiful wife. The ladies open up their gifts and find a corset for one and a lace chemise for the other. Excitedly, they go upstairs to try on their new outfits and as they walk down the stairs in those delicious outfits, both you and your mate have your tongues hanging down and that’s just right before dinner too. And now, both of you get to dig into the scrumptious Christmas dinner and the scantily clad eye candy in full view. Talk about anticipation!

    Other options on how to include lingerie when attending a swinger’s party at this festive time of the year is to use it to your full advantage and spice things up more than a little. Instead of a Chanel handbag and a pair of Christian Louboutin heels, change things around and take pleasure in giving your woman some fetish wear or a sexy fantasy costume. This may just open the door to fulfilling some of your (and her) fantasies.

    Now, let’s talk about holiday classics: Miss naughty elf, sexy Mrs. Claus, and raunchy reindeer. Nothing beats taking your partner along to the boutique for some lingerie shopping or you could even go online together and pick out an outfit or two. Don’t forget to dress up sexily for her as well. Lingerie is not solely for ladies and we are sure she will be more than happy to see you in a sexy mistletoe G-string. How about those who already have made plans to check out one of the many Christmas parties at your local swingers club? Well, holiday lingerie is always a great choice for a sexy festive outfit. In addition, for the ladies out there with plans to go to an on-premise club, do note that the standard practice is for guests to leave their “outdoor clothes” before entering the play rooms. This is the perfect chance for you to put on a …


    babydoll 11, chemise Red-Hot-Sexy-Sheer-Lace-Chemise-with-Thong-LC21075-600x600 , or teddy Sexy-Ribbon-Lace-up-Front-Black-Teddy-LC3166-600x600
    (all available here).

    Remember that be it whatever outfit you choose to wear, it should be one that is easy to remove for quicker ‘playtime’.
    There are many ways to enhance your holiday merriment with lingerie, so why limit yourself to plain old green and red undies?
    We all love putting on new clothes, even if they are only worn in your bedroom … and the bedrooms of your swinger friends. 😉

    Happy Swinging and Season’s Greetings!

    Sandi
    www.SandiOnSwinging.com

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  • The Single Male’s ‘P’s and Q’s’ to Swinging

    The Single Male’s ‘P’s and Q’s’ to Swinging

    Why are all single guys not allowed into swing clubs? Well, that is actually a pretty easy answer for me. Basically, it is because most single men don’t know how to behave. Now I’m not asking every single guy out there to be the perfect gentleman (although that would be nice), what I am saying is that just because you are at a club filled with swingers, that does not mean you are guaranteed to get sex, let alone sex from any woman that you fancy.

    I am sure you will encounter a lot of women who spark your interest, especially when they are most likely dressed VERY sexily—I’m talking skin tight dresses, high stiletto heels, stockings, and very possibly … no panties. A typical single guy who finds him surrounded by all these delicious ladies will most likely approach them and assuming that they are also there for sex, he probably doesn’t see the need to be polite to them. He may be grabby, had too much to drink (because of nerves), or could even be somewhat crude. Well, I’m sorry, but just because she is there with the intention of having sex does not mean she should not be treated like a lady!

    Make that tiny bit of extra effort and treat her well. Compliment her looks, outfit, and those beautiful eyes. Then once she gets to know you a bit and gives you some signals that she is also interested in you, ask her nicely if she would like to go to the play room. This will definitely go a long way into getting you laid and honestly, this is pretty much how you should treat a lady in a normal non-swinging situation as well.

    Now that you realize how many women have been groped, talked down to, and basically just treated poorly in swingers clubs just because the single men there have figured they are there for sex, so they can be treated badly, you are probably starting to understand why single men are not permitted into all swing clubs. That said, there are some clubs out there that will allow single males in as long as they are ‘chaperoned’ by a couple that is pretty much responsible for him and will vouch that he will not act aggressively. A couple of other clubs have special nights that allow singles to enter. In fact, these days, with the increasing number of couples looking to add a single male into their mix, there are even some that welcome. single males with literally ‘open arms’. This can be either in the form of a third (wife’s fantasy of having two men at the same time), or a male engaged to have sex with a woman while her husband watches.

    There are lots of rooms (no pun intended) for single men in the world of swingers. So look around and find a club that best suits your preference and when you go, PLEASE remember to act like a gentleman.

    PS: You can also find swingers looking for single men on my site. Give it a try—what do you have to lose?

    Till then, enjoy!
    Sandi
    www.SandiOnSwinging.com

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  • Are my new friends swingers?

    Are my new friends swingers?

    So … you’ve found a couple of people both of you find appealing and now you are thinking that you are interested in swinging with them, but how on earth can you discreetly find out if they are swingers or have even considered swinging? Honesty, that won’t be as easy as it sounds, but it is possible. First off, there is always the secret swinger’s handshake 😉 Don’t worry if you don’t know that one yet, it is more of a joke among swingers than an actual thing. With only about 5% of the general population being swingers, there is a good chance that they will not be interested.

    The key here is to go slow. Get to know them, learn their likes and dislikes. That will give you clues as to their swinging interest.  There are a few really good swinger ‘indicators’. Talk about places you like to travel and encourage them to tell you where they have been. If you say you’ve been to Jamaica (if you want to be less subtle then say Hedo) and find out if they have as well. Ask if they have ever come across a bartender named Delroy—that will let you know that Hedo is on their list of play resorts. If they say they use www.TrystTravel.com to book all their trips, you are all set!

    If they (or you) have a hot tub, joke about whether suits are required. You can tell a lot about them from their responses. If they mention that they always wear suits because it would just be awkward otherwise … my advise is to give up … at least for now. However, if she grabs your butt as she strolls by, or much better still, your lady’s butt, you’re golden!

    My point is, odds are that your new friends are not swingers but that does not mean that won’t change over time. Some people have just not been exposed to swinging yet, and you can slowly ‘nurture and educate them’. In the meantime, focus on building the friendships as you’ll never know what’s in store for you. Though I must caution you that you stand a very high risk of losing your new friends by trying to introduce swinging to those who are not ready to embrace it (and the majority are not). In addition, jealousy can be a terrible monster and can quickly emerge in the wrong situation, sending your new friends running for the hills. So be careful, because just by asking if they are swingers could lose you some really potential good friends. So remember, slow and steady gets the sex!

    Enjoy,
    Sandi
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  • Secrets to Getting Your First Invite To A Swingers House Party

    Secrets to Getting Your First Invite To A Swingers House Party

    So you want to get invited to a house party designed for swingers. Well, I have to warn you that it can be both easy and hard at the same time to get that elusive invite. Don’t worry, I know it sounds confusing, but you have me to help you through it!

    The easiest step is to get things started. All you have to do is find a swinger who is hosting a swinger’s party, or simply someone who is going to attend one, and then convince them to let you tag along. Okay, so that first step is exactly not as simple to accomplish as it was for me to write it down.

    Let’s start with meeting someone first.

    Always keep a lookout for the outgoing couple as they usually get more than the average of number party invites. Guess having a fun personality is something people want to be around. Go figure. So next time you are at a swing club, don’t be that wall flower hiding in the corner. Instead, why not take a seat at the bar? It is so much easier to meet other people when you are at the bar; everybody will want a drink at some point throughout the evening so there is a good chance they will end up right beside you. Now, get the ball rolling by saying something really ‘interesting’ to them like … “Hello”, keeping in mind they are there to meet compatible people too. By just saying hi, you have made yourself open for them to speak with you as these very people may be a little nervous as well, so do your best to keep the conversation going. For all you know, you might just end up chatting the night away with someone really interesting. The more people you meet the more likely you will find someone compatible.

    During such conversations, be sure to mention that you are thinking about attending a house party, that you have never experienced one and that you are curious as to what to expect. Never be aggressive, just inquiring. Showing an interest can be the one thing that will get you an invitation. Remember that although there are swinger house parties that take place on a regular basis, the group of people you are talking to may not have one planned out at this point in time. Be patient and you will be on your way to your first house party circuit. In the meantime, do continue to enjoy yourself at the club and strike up friendship with some of these great folks.

    House party attendees generally consist of a good mix of seasoned veterans and newbies. A lot of hosts like to help beginners get started in a low pressure atmosphere, which is precisely what a house party is. Tell the people you meet that you are new (that is if you are—it is not a good idea to lie) and the odds are that seeing you are a newbie, someone will definitely ‘jump on you’, so to speak. In fact, what I am saying is that since everyone has been a beginner at some point, we all aim to help the “newbies” out, which is what you will be called for a little while. Don’t worry though, it is not that bad and you will grow out of that label really fast.

    Congratulations! You now have a friend or two in the <a href=”http://www.SandiOnSwinging.com“>Swingers Lifestyle</a>. Now, we are off to your next swinger’s house party or … you can also come visit me and maybe you will  <a href=”http://www.SandiOnSwinging.com“> meet other fellow swingers </a> too … Enjoy! 🙂

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  • Let’s Introduce Your Partner to Swinging

    Let’s Introduce Your Partner to Swinging

    So you have been thinking that you and your partner should trying swinging. Why not? It sounds like a lot of great (sexual) fun, doesn’t it? Well … there are a few things you should know before you dive right in.

    First, you need to approach your partner to see if she or he is even interested in having sex with another couple. I have suggested to many people who have contacted me for advice on this, that I feel the best way to approach the subject is while both of you are in bed. A great way to bring this up would possibly while making love, you could take the opportunity to tell your partner, “So imagine that there was someone else here with us, doing … to/with you”. Later on, you can ask them if they found the thought of someone else in your bed erotic and exciting and then you have your answer as to their interest level.

    We’re both interested… Let’s have sex!
    Not quite yet.
    Next, you need to make sure you two have talked about it in details. Finding out what limits your partner should be a priority. You should set some ground rules with your partner first to be sure you are on the same page, otherwise you could run into problems when things get down and dirty so to speak. Don’t worry; you should totally expect your rules to change and evolve as you get more comfortable in the swinging world. Just don’t force your partner or anyone else for that matter, into doing anything they don’t want to do.

    Many people, especially men, tend to want to dive right in and start having sex, lots and lots of sex. But things will turn out so much better if you take things just a little slower.

    So ground rules are set… Let’s have sex!
    Still not just yet.
    Now you have the challenge of finding other couples to play with. You can approach friends (I would not recommend that unless you are willing to lose them as friends-and possible have word get out that you two are swingers). You can go to a swingers club (good way to meet a lot of people in a shorts period of time). You can also post a profile on any one of the many swingers sites out there (takes some effort on your part to fill out your profile and reply to other members). All three of these options have their pros and cons and you have to try to figure out which method will work best for the two of you. That said, don’t feel that you are limited to one, try all three ways to meet other swingers if you want.

    So what else before we can have sex?
    Actually, that is the basics of what you need to know. If you want to learn more before jumping in, I would suggest you visit my www.SandiOnSwinging.com site and read some of the info I have posted there especially for new swingers just like you. I will also be going into more details here on this site, so keep your eyes out for my next post. Till then, enjoy yourselves … Sandi

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  • Sexy Getaways For Two Or More

    Sexy Getaways For Two Or More

    So you are thinking of a sexy getaway with your significant other, or maybe a group of swinger friends are wanting to hang out together and “play”. Well let me give you a quickie overview of some of your options.

    Hotel: Grab a room (or five or a whole floor) in a local hotel. If there are a few of you, they may give you a better than normal rate. Bring some candles (tea lights travel well), lighter, some wine, music, and sexy clothes or lingerie to wear. If possible get two of the rooms to be adjoining ones, that way you can have everyone together in those rooms to make it the “party suite”.

    Regular Resort: On your own, this can be a hit and miss option. My suggestion would be to at least pick an adults only resort. That way you do not have a bunch of screaming kids running all over, this is supposed to be a getaway for the two of you isn’t it? If you have a group of friends joining you, I would still suggest an adults only resort at the minimum. Make sure when booking that you get a block of rooms together. That way you spend less time running from room to room.

    Lifestyle Resort or Cruise Ship Takeover: There are more of these to choose from than ever before. It used to be that you had to go to Hedonism II in Jamaica to be able to hang out on the beach with like-minded people. Now you can also go to Mexico, Dominican, along with other various resort takeovers and also cruise ship traveling to multiple locations. Resorts which cater to swingers have the advantage that you can just kick back and watch others partake in the sexual fun (bringing out the voyeur in you), jump into the action yourself in a group area (let go the exhibitionist), or meet up with another couple and head to the privacy of your own room. The choice is yours.

    Lifestyle Convention: These conventions take place all around the world, but mainly in the US. At a “Swingers” convention there will be activities designed for you to be able to meet others, hopefully with similar interests. There are designated “play rooms” where all the “action” takes place. There are also regular social activities available, so if you are not sure that you want to take things to the next level you don’t have to worry about being pressured into doing something you are not comfortable doing.

    Obviously, this just touches the surface of the different options available to you. If you want more information read about the different resorts and group trips at http://www.TrystTravel.com, where we specialize in Erotic vacations for Adults. Till then, enjoy your vacation 🙂

    ~ Sandi
    www.SandiOnSwinging.com
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  • Making A Sex list For Valentine’s Day

    Making A Sex list For Valentine’s Day

    Many people have a bucket list of things they want to do before they die. Well I think even more important than that would be to have a sexual bucket list or sex list, if you will. So bear with me while I try to give you some ideas on things you can add to your own sex list and no, that does not mean I am giving you my personal list. A girl has to keep some secrets, doesn’t she?

    Let’s start right off with a big one which is on many guy’s (and believe it or not, many girl’s) minds … How about talking to your partner about becoming a swinger? There are a lot of resources out there, such as my site, to help guide you through this big decision, and it is not to be taken lightly. Both partners must be willing to try swinging or it will just not work.

    Now let’s say you are already a swinger, or maybe just quite adventurous. One thing you may not have tried yet is to be part of an Orgy. Yes, I’m talking about having sex in a group situation. According to Wikipedia, “an orgy is a sex party where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex.” Sounds good to me! Having an orgy is a common sexual fantasy, so why not add it to your Sexlist and work on making it a reality?

    If an orgy sounds too intimidating, how about trying a threesome? Even if you don’t have a same sex fantasy, there are other options available. A threesome can be two “straight” girls concentrating their sexual prowess on one guy, with no interaction between the ladies. Same can be said for two guys with one girl. Everyone can still have lots of fun, trust me. Oops, did I let out one of my secrets?

    If you like to travel, let’s add going on a Swinger’s Cruise Takeover, where an entire cruise ship gets chartered just for one big party on the high seas. Not a water baby, then there are also resort takeovers which may tickle your fancy.

    If some of my suggestions so far have been a little bit out there for you to even consider, let me give you a couple of more traditional things you many want to try.

    How about trying some new sex positions? Admit it, the same old position all the time can get a little boring after a while, so let’s take it to the next level. If not a new position, let’s go for a change of scenery. Try it in the shower, on the living room couch (like when you were a teenager), or in the car. As they say a change is as good as a rest. Let’s be more sexually spontaneous, you won’t regret the reaction.

    Along with the new sex positions, how about we take a look for your (or her) g-spot? It’s in there somewhere, and once you find it your world will no longer be the same. I hope I’ve been able to ignite your sexual creativity, and you will come up with a VERY adventurous sex list. Please let me know what you come up with, I’m always looking to add to my list of things to do/try. 😉

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  • So … have you been Naughty or Nice this year?

    So … have you been Naughty or Nice this year?

    So this time of year everyone is talking about Santa and his all knowing list with promises of bringing toys to the good little girls and boys. Now how about the adults? Does he have a separate list with different criteria for them? I don’t know about you but I sure do hope so. I have actually been counting on it. In my world, naughty is usually rewarded, not punished with coal in your stocking. Unless you are into getting “punished” that is.

    Christmas is also the time for get togethers, Christmas parties at work, with friends, with family, in the neighbourhood. Well Swinger’s clubs are no different in that they also have Christmas themed parties, the only thing is that you are encouraged to dress a lot differently for these parties. It is customary to see some of the ladies dressed as a naughty Mrs. Claus, Sexy Santas, I have even seen a few evil elves. (You can find some new outfits at great prices by going to http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com.) The sexier the better. One cool thing that you may not realize is that a lot of the swing clubs also do some good deeds of their own, especially this time of year, many collect donations for the food bank at their Christmas dance.

    Gift giving among swingers is also a bit different than you may be used to. Toys for the kids become sex toys (like vibrators) for the adults. Pajamas turn into sexy lingerie as a good choice for the lady (or ladies) in your life. Hopefully she will model it and maybe let you take it off of her later.

    Even sending Christmas cards gets “sexier” among swingers. I can’t count how many cards I have received over the years that I was just not able to display in the living room with the regular ones and I have reserved these special cards for the bedroom. Cards with naughty pictures, sexy sayings, New year promises of sex the next time we saw that couple again. I’m sure you get the picture.

    There is pretty much nothing that does not get swingerized this time of year. And that is definitely NOT a complaint.

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