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Making A Sex list For Valentine’s Day


Making A Sex list For Valentine’s Day

Many people have a bucket list of things they want to do before they die. Well I think even more important than that would be to have a sexual bucket list or sex list, if you will. So bear with me while I try to give you some ideas on things you can add to your own sex list and no, that does not mean I am giving you my personal list. A girl has to keep some secrets, doesn’t she?

Let’s start right off with a big one which is on many guy’s (and believe it or not, many girl’s) minds … How about talking to your partner about becoming a swinger? There are a lot of resources out there, such as my site, to help guide you through this big decision, and it is not to be taken lightly. Both partners must be willing to try swinging or it will just not work.

Now let’s say you are already a swinger, or maybe just quite adventurous. One thing you may not have tried yet is to be part of an Orgy. Yes, I’m talking about having sex in a group situation. According to Wikipedia, “an orgy is a sex party where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex.” Sounds good to me! Having an orgy is a common sexual fantasy, so why not add it to your Sexlist and work on making it a reality?

If an orgy sounds too intimidating, how about trying a threesome? Even if you don’t have a same sex fantasy, there are other options available. A threesome can be two “straight” girls concentrating their sexual prowess on one guy, with no interaction between the ladies. Same can be said for two guys with one girl. Everyone can still have lots of fun, trust me. Oops, did I let out one of my secrets?

If you like to travel, let’s add going on a Swinger’s Cruise Takeover, where an entire cruise ship gets chartered just for one big party on the high seas. Not a water baby, then there are also resort takeovers which may tickle your fancy.

If some of my suggestions so far have been a little bit out there for you to even consider, let me give you a couple of more traditional things you many want to try.

How about trying some new sex positions? Admit it, the same old position all the time can get a little boring after a while, so let’s take it to the next level. If not a new position, let’s go for a change of scenery. Try it in the shower, on the living room couch (like when you were a teenager), or in the car. As they say a change is as good as a rest. Let’s be more sexually spontaneous, you won’t regret the reaction.

Along with the new sex positions, how about we take a look for your (or her) g-spot? It’s in there somewhere, and once you find it your world will no longer be the same. I hope I’ve been able to ignite your sexual creativity, and you will come up with a VERY adventurous sex list. Please let me know what you come up with, I’m always looking to add to my list of things to do/try. 😉

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Sandi Andersen

Sandi Andersen has been personally helping Swingers meet since 1993, with the help of her magazines Tryst (est. 1981) and Tab (est. 1956), which are no longer available in print form, and her website (est. 1995). She has a straight forward approach to topics of swinging and sex which comes through in her writing. Promoting healthy, safe sexual relationships with two or more people being involved, as in the Swinging Lifestyle, she has attended and presented many seminars on the subject at Lifestyle conventions and trade shows in Canada and across the United States. Her theory is that sometimes being able to talk with someone (or read about others' experiences and concerns) can make all the difference in allowing yourself the freedom to enjoy your sexuality to the fullest. Sandi also runs an online travel agency specializing in Adults Only Erotic Vacations under the main URL of, where she will help you pick the erotic vacation best suited for the two of you or for you to join in with a group of travelers.

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