It was a beautiful hot summer day and my wife and I were driving to a local wine festival in our community. There was nothing particularly special about this day except for my wife’s willingness to visit the wine festival due to her not having a fondness for the taste of wine.
Little Kaninchen and myself blend right into the crowd at events such as this. We are both in our early 40’s, athletic and both of us are successful professionals. Our children were just beginning to become mature enough that we could venture out without them in tow, just the two of us again. We hadn’t been on a date in ages, maybe even since pre-children, as sad as that truth may be.
As we strolled from one winery to the next, tasting almost every wine imaginable, we began to relax from the everyday pressures of life in general. About halfway through the event, we steered for a large cluster of Clumped Birch trees that were running along the center edge of the festival. The trees were offering some desperately needed shade from the scorching summer sun.
We laid on our backs in the cool shade cast below the Birch Trees, eating and drinking and laughing for almost an hour. It was the best time that I can remember having with my wife in years.
And then suddenly out of nowhere my wife said that she was no longer happy in our marriage.
LK and I have always been that ‘perfect couple’… I am sure that you have met others like ourselves, high school sweethearts that have been together since we were 15 years old and married at the tender age of only 18 years old. We were supposed to celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary that year.
For once I was completely speechless. I had thought that we had a wonderful marriage or at least a typical loving marriage.
LK went on to explain that she had read a book and that the book had really spoken to her. She went on to confess that this book has given her the courage to be honest with me but even more importantly, that it has given her the courage to be honest with herself in regards to her true desires and the life that she wants to live.
Again, speechless… I was certain that she had already planned, in great detail, her departure from our marriage without even allowing me a single opportunity to make things right.
My normally well calculated thoughts were now in disarray and confused. Before I could even utter a word, LK went on to say that her repressed desires were to submit to me sexually. If I was in a state of confusion at the onset of this conversation I was completely disoriented now and was almost positive that she didn’t know what she was saying to me.
I believe that quite possibly for the first time in our entire relationship LK had the floor, she was doing all of the talking with literally no response from myself.
It would be revealed during this conversation that the book that encouraged my LK to confront her true desire of submission was none other than the popular Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. While reading FSOG she began to discover the many similarities between the main characters and herself.
Little Kaninchen had spent most of her life trying to be what society would consider ‘a good girl’, which has an entire different meaning to us today.
The FSOG trilogy was not a how-to guide for a BDSM relationship but it did allow her to be introduced to a non-judgmental world within the confines of it’s pages.
My wife was drowning in our vanilla relationship that had become stagnant for many reasons over the years, all of which I will personally take responsibility for. Fifty Shades of Grey encouraged my wife to realize that she could confront the societal pressures and prejudice placed on what a loving relationship is supposed to look like. And more importantly what a ‘good wife’ is supposed to be.
Mr. Fox
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19 responses to “How Fifty Shades of Grey Saved My Marriage”
Their advise and guidance has saved my marriage.
What a great article – I can definitely identify with their experience. Love the folks over at submrs.com, and all of the great advice they’ve given me.
I would like to thank Mr. Fox and little Kaninchen for helping my Sir and I start out in this amazing D/s married journey. They have built a community that is amazing for us married couples to learn and relate with others who are new to the D/s world. Please come join this amazing site SubMRS.com
I can’t begin to say how much knowing this couple and learning about their D/s journey has helped me and my marriage. Learning how to incorporate D/s into our marriage has been amazing. It really has changed the way we live. Thank you Mr. Fox and LK for sharing your lives with us.
I read the books and when I finished them I closed the books and cried for what seemed hours… I wanted this so deeply. How could I live this fairytale? I knew in my heart I could…So… I did… Thank you Sir for accepting my challenge. All my luv and submission! LK
I can not say enough wonderful things about this couple and the sites they have created. Love all the people I have met on SubMRS.com and all the help I have recieved.
subMRS. And HusDom have been an absolute lifesaver! Mr. Fox and little kaninchen are such amazing examples of how beautiful this lifestyle can be! I am so happy that my Sir and I found their sites. They truly have saved our marriage. No longer do we have to just get by in our marriage, we thrive! Everyday we wake up in love, lust and with more desire for each other. If you have even a moment of question or curiosity, take a look! You will see what everyone is talking about….. thank you Mr. Fox and LK! Much love….. KLB
I am so thankful for this couple and these sites!!! I too read fifty shades and was drawn to the dominate/submissive lifestyle . I can remember crying in the grocery store parking lot telling my husband how I wanted to submit to him !! Mr fox had mentored my husband and Lk has mentored myself and 18 months later our journey is as strong as ever and our friendships with these two are a blessing !! Thank you and I hope that other’s are able to find their desires through their story!!!❤️
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Wonderfully written. My Sir and I have learned so much about this dynamic through your sites husDom and subMrs and are so happy to be a part of this loving, supporting group.
I’m really glad to have found them, despite the fact that the book didn’t really save anything for me, it did open a Pandora’s box of questions and nagging feelings that if I hadn’t entered Lk’s site I would’ve never gotten them answered. If their journey started thanks to 50 shades… I guess then, I’m pretty grateful someone wrote it.
Thank you, thank you, thank you Lk, Mr.Fox, and E. L. James! Thriving not just surviving in our marriage! Sir Silver Fox and I are living each day in our D/s Marriage thinking doesn’t get better than this! Much love! ❤️❤️❤️
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And here I stand, in a very similar situation, on the brink of a failure, and eager to take the control that has been asked of me, and that I am certain beyond a shadow of a doubt I am capable of. With nothing but crickets in the background, and a whole bunch of books that really offer me nothing in the way of what I need to guide me. HusDom is the first voice I have heard, in this dark forest. Thank you.
My Kitten and I also had what seemed like the perfect relationship, but something was always missing. Weekly we were working to balance the frequency of our intimacy, but when we found HusDom and began our journey we found an intimacy and fulfillment beyound the sex itself. Love the community and the effort put in by everyone to be helpful and welcoming.
HusDom and LK’s site have been a wonderful source of information for LW and I, as well as good internet friends. Both Mr. Fox and LK can relate to the D/s long term relation on a very close level because they are there themselves. FSOG trilogy has open a whole new group of people looking for some guidance and they have been the go to sites for many people.
Ironically my wife could not bring herself to read 50 shades because she is very well read and picky about the styles she reads. We found our path threw differnt and unpredictable means but we are grateful we have and grateful for the support we have found in this comunity.
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