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  • Fetish Porn: A Growing Niche within the Adult Industry

    Fetish Porn: A Growing Niche within the Adult Industry

    Introduction to Fetish Porn

    Fetish porn refers to explicit material featuring specific elements or scenarios that cater to unusual or niche sexual tastes. These can range from dress codes like schoolgirl uniforms or nurse costumes to more extreme activities like bondage, watersports, or even bestiality. 

    Despite controversy surrounding certain aspects of fetish porn, interest in exploring diverse sexual interests through visual media continues to grow.

    With advancements in filmmaking equipment and editing software, amateur and professional creators alike produce captivating content tailored to various kinks.

    Exploring Fetish Porn Options

    For those curious about indulging in fetish porn, finding affordable options can be challenging. Fortunately, two popular platforms offer substantial savings on membership fees: BangBros Discounts ( https://www.bangbrosdiscounts.com ) and AdultTime Discount ( https://www.adultdazzle.com/discount/adulttime ).

    Both provide access to high-quality videos showcasing a wide variety of fetishes while ensuring user privacy and protection against malicious content.

    One advantage of exploring fetish porn via these platforms is the opportunity to discover new interests or expand existing ones, check out a beginner’s guide to BDSM ( http://simplysxy.com/articles/2023/05/24/a-beginners-guide-to-bdsm/ ). Viewers can encounter unexpected turn-ons or learn about unfamiliar practices. Interactive communities also exist where users share their own experiences or ask questions about featured acts.

    Engaging with fellow enthusiasts helps build a sense of community and normalizes discussions surrounding alternative sexual preferences.

    Critics argue that fetish porn objectifies women by promoting sexist attitudes towards, but others believe it provides opportunities for self-expression and personal fulfillment.

    Discovering New Interests Through Fetish Porn

    Women are not the only subjects of fetish porn objectification; men also face similar issues when portrayed as dominant figures in BDSM scenes or as submissive partners in cuckold fantasies. However, some viewers appreciate the escapism offered by such depictions, allowing them to explore otherwise suppressed desires or empathize with characters’ situations. 

    Fetish Porn perspective and conclusion

    Ultimately, whether fetish porn represents oppression or liberation depends on individual perspectives and experiences.

    In conclusion, fetish porn remains an intriguing aspect of adult entertainment, offering a glimpse into the fascinating world of human sexual diversity. By acknowledging its existence and understanding its nuances, we can better support healthier conversations around alternative sexual preferences and promote safer spaces for all individuals to express themselves freely without fear of judgment or discrimination.

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  • Spanking Fetish As A Favorite Impact Play

    Spanking Fetish As A Favorite Impact Play

    Have you ever thought why men just love slapping a woman’s ass so much? It is the most human-like way to express our animalistic nature! There are people, tho, who have accepted this nature, and they are quite happy! Being able to spank your partner without worrying about how they are going to accept this action is one of the best things in our lives. But it turns out to be a fetish? Do you have it, too? Check out now for some spanking porn at PornOne !

    Can Spanking Be A Fetish

    The answer is a bit ambiguous, depending on how you see stuff. For some people, it may be totally inappropriate to spank your partner from time to time. For others, it can be absolutely fine and even recommended for the well-being of a relationship. Let’s be honest! There is nothing wrong with giving your partner a couple of spanking punishments when they have been a bit naughty! I mean… It happens for a reason! Why not give them a reason to do the naughty thing again!

    Can it be a fetish really? Spanking feels so good on both sides of the play. It is a very nice feeling that you have all of the control or to lose all of the control. It can really relieve you from some of the stress that you have!

    This feeling of mental relief and sometimes even physical is the action of the hormone of happiness getting emitted. In this sense, this sexual practice really changes the biochemistry of your body. Thus, now you see that when I say that spanking is addictive, I am not lying. It is literally addictive! So, yeah, this naughty impact play can really turn into an actual fetish!

    Are People Crazy To Enjoy This Pain

    The answer is a crazy NO. Suppose you are living a very hasty life, with too many responsibilities, with too much pressure, with specific strong behavior. In that case, it is only natural that you would want to do something naughty from time to time! However, these naughty actions deserve punishment, and this punishment brings some pain. On the other hand, the part of the brain which is in charge of the pain is in charge of the physical pleasure. And mistakes happen. But this is one of those mistakes with a ‘Sorry Not Sorry’ attitude!

    Why People Love Spanking So Much

    The answer would be different for everybody, but generally, this is an Impact play with not that big of an impact. This is the best of it all! You can enjoy it today with your partner, and tomorrow nobody will know! Nobody can tell that you cummed yesterday while laying on the knees of somebody who slapped the shit out of you! So convenient, right?

    Do People Need Something

    Another cool thing about the slap fetish is that it is disengaging. Besides the mutual consent for this to happen, you do not need any accessories to execute this activity. You just need one stable hand to raise!

    Of course, if you are really into this and do it quite often, it is absolutely okay to get bored with that hand sometimes. To keep it fun forever, people have invented different tools to use for spanking. Here are the best options if you are a newbie with a newly discovered fetish!

    1. A Plank
      Planks are great for people who have just started exploring this fetish! They are glide and provide a bigger impact on your skin. The fact that they are usually bigger than your dom’s hand makes it show more impact not only to the skin but to the muscles, too. It is not impossible to get a bruise or two when using a plank for the good slap. A big inconvenience, tho, is that planks are a much louder source of pleasure! Beware of that!
    2. A Riding Crop
      A riding crop is a great option for people how are into spanking from afar. Yes, you had it right! There are people who like their sub lying on the bed while they are standing from above. It is a very appealing view! This is why people have invented a little plank at the end of a long a little flexible stick!
      It is very convenient, and it gives an additional feeling of control standing from above or an additional feeling of humiliation…Depending on which is your side of the play! But humans in our nature need a little from both!
    3. A Flogger
      This is a tool that is very suitable for someone who needs a bigger and more intense impact on their body. It is a very loud tool as well, but what really matters is that it will give you the pain to die for! Depending on your choice of a flogger, bruises might be different, but they are all coming in the area of play!

    When it comes to floggers, you have to pick up the material wisely. For a regular intensity of the impact play, most people prefer the rubber. It gives enough pain, but it does not leave as deep marks as the leather one. However, if you want to see the over the left of your naughty behavior and its punishment, then leather should work perfectly fine for you!

    After all, spanking is one of the most popular fetishes for a reason! You have tried it for sure, but do not let this burning desire for it to die unsatisfied! It is just natural to be naughty and to get what you deserve! Do not miss a good spank today if you want to get slapped tomorrow!

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  • What To Know About Milking & Lactation Fetish

    What To Know About Milking & Lactation Fetish

    As a professional Dominatrix, I spend most days dealing with sexual fetishes of one kind or another and (even after many years in the sex industry, in one form or another) I never cease to be surprised at the diversity of fetishes and I come across!

    My chosen profession would obviously indicate that I am of a broadminded disposition and there’s little that fazes Me when it comes to sexual kinks – plus I have always been adventurous and willing to experiment and try new things.

    As a result, I have enjoyed an extremely full and eclectic sex-life since My late teens and there’s little that I haven’t tried, as I always say, “don’t knock it until you’ve tried it” (well with a few exceptions that just don’t appeal to Me as a personal preference).

    I am of the opinion that indulging our sexual kinks and fetishes is the perfect way for us to spice-up our sex-lives as, let’s face it, just indulging in ‘vanilla’ sex all the time could become a little tedious.

    What Is Milking?

    ‘Milking’ is a practice which I discovered some years ago when I first ventured into the realms of Fem-Dom and began crafting My skills as a professional Dominatrix.

    It basically involves coaxing a sub’ male to produce a particularly copious quantity of semen to prove his devotion to me (his Mistress) using various techniques and/or specialist equipment – possibly multiple times during a session if I so demand.

    I have invested in equipment designed specifically for this purpose – My favourite device being a Venus2000 ‘Milking’ machine which I had shipped specially from the USA at considerable cost some years ago.

    This machine produces a powerful pulsating suction action within the receiving tube – a clear cylinder into which the slave’s erection is inserted – and I am then able to adjust both the suction power and speed intensity of the device using a remote-control unit.

    This device produces a similar action to the heavy-duty apparatus designed to milk cows, rhythmically sucking at the slave’s penis and building up pressure so as to literally suck every last drop of spunk from his balls!
    With practice, I have discovered that I can also employ the use of electrics (such as a shock delivered to a steel butt-plug inserted into the stave’s anus, just at the moment of ejaculation) will stimulate the prostate gland and induce an intensely powerful orgasm.

    So, by the time I have finished ‘milking’ a slave during a session in My playroom, he can be sure that his balls will have been totally drained of every last drop of sperm (indeed, slaves leaving barely able to walk after the experience, is not uncommon!).

    Reasons Sub Love Milking

    Well, of course it is an act of total submission To Me, for a slave to surrender himself to Me, and offer his most intimate parts purely for Me to do whatever I wish to!

    My favoured way to ‘milk’ a slave is to secure him naked to My St Andrews cross or on My punishment table, which is complete with gynaecological stirrups to secure his legs in position to allow Me free and unfettered access to his genitals.

    To then have a powerful suction device attached to his erect penis and lay there knowing that I have total control over how high and will choose to crank-up the machine must be terrifying for the naked slave strapped into position – LOL!

    So, he will be totally at My mercy and knows that I will delight in watching him suffer at My hands as I toy with him, bringing him almost to the point of ejaculation again and again – repeatedly edging him even closer to spunking until I finally decide that it is time for him to cum!

    The end result is to see how much semen I can extract from a slave’s balls and he will therefore hope to impress Me with the amount of ‘cream’ he produces – although if he fails to do so, he will expect to receive a suitable punishment for disappointing Me!

    Common Misconceptions Of Milking

    Some people seem to think that ‘Milking’ in the context of a Fem-Dom session, simply involves the Dominatrix performing a straightforward hand-job on her slave until he ejaculates – and I suppose for some amateur ‘hooker-doms’ that is indeed the case!

    I pride myself in having taken the practice to a somewhat more sophisticated level by honing My expertise through repeated practice on (un)willing subjects to attain a level of skill in extracting sometimes HUGE loads of spunk from my subjects.

    What Does A Session Of Milking Play Typically Involve?

    Prior to attending an appointment with Me, I instruct all slaves to abstain from ejaculation for a period of at least 72 hours (or even sometimes up to a week!) to ensure that their balls are fully charged ready for Me to drain.

    Of course, this also has the added advantageous side-effect that a slave is desperate to cum by the time he reports to Me – a fact that I will use to My advantage as of course, he will not be allowed to ejaculate until I decide that he may do so!

    During the course of a ‘milking’ session I will build the anticipation of being allowed to ejaculate until the poor wretch under My power is begging Me to let him squirt – which is when I will put My apparatus to use in ensuring that when he does cum, he does so spectacularly!

    There’s little that amuses Me more than watching a slave’s body jerk uncontrollably whilst My Venus 2000 is at full power, seeing the clear perspex receiving tube being filled with thick white fluid as his balls are literally sucked dry!

    How To Ensure Safe Milking Play

    Well, the Venus 2000 has to be utilised carefully, with the power and intensity being built-up gradually, as simply cranking it straight up to maximum would likely result in a less than  enjoyable experience for the slave.

    High levels of suction are built-up and this, combined with skilful ‘edging’ techniques, means that when a slave is finally ‘milked’, the orgasm he experiences will be extremely intensive – even more so if I am also using electro-stimulation to his prostate at the point of ejaculation!

    So, I have to be mindful of not over-stimulating a slave and causing them to pass-out before I have finished with them – although I must confess that this has happened on a couple of occasions (hence I always keep some smelling-salts handy!)

    I sometimes amuse myself by wondering whether it would be possible to actually suck a slave’s balls out through his dick with My apparatus at full power?  Probably not, but it might be fun to find out!

    I am Mistress Carly and as you will no doubt have realised, I am indeed a MILFstress (a Mistress you’d like to ****)  Well, I am fully aware that men find Me to be highly sexually desirable and I enjoy wielding the power My sexuality affords Me over those lucky sub’ males who are privileged enough to be allowed to serve Me.

    So, if you yearn to be owned by a highly skilled beautiful Dominatrix with a body worthy of your absolute adoration and a wickedly inventive mind that will delight in teasing & tormenting you to your absolute limits, then you are invited to delve further into My world of sensual Domination and devote yourself entirely to Me.

    I am quite different to most Dominatrix in that in addition to practicing the generally accepted activities that would be included within a Fem-Dom scenario, I actively enjoy using My slaves as My own personal sex-toys, utilising every part of their bodies for My own personal amusement & pleasure!  The act of inflicting pain on a slave is something I find to be highly arousing and when I’m turned-on I want to be satisfied sexually, so I reserve the absolute right to put a slave’s tongue and/or erect penis to full use to achieve My own personal satisfaction.

    Intrigued?  Then you have My permission to enter My world and discover a whole new world of exquisitely sensual, sexual Domination.

    Website: www.mistresscarly.co.uk

    OnlyFans: @mistresscarly

    Twitter: @MistressCarlyUK

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  • What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 3)

    What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 3)

    Are you kinky?

    You find out when the regular sex just doesn’t float your boat anymore. You begin to seek out alternative pleasure sources.

    The more open-minded, willing, curious you are, the most chance you have to find what erotic desires, fetishes, kinky games to get your panty soaked. Being kinky is a bit naughty, almost socially forbidden and so freaking sexy (if you ask me). You start to explore new ideas in the bedroom by opening up your body, mind and soul for new erotic pleasures. You start to notice new things and desires about yourself. You feel to expand your knowledge on the topic try these few ideas for beginners in BDSM:

    3 Softcore BDSM practise for beginners:

    -Tie & Tease:

    It’s a light form of BDSM sex. Ideal for beginners, because you can try without any particular setup or equipment. It’s a practice of one tying up the hands, legs or the whole body. It can be performed on the bed, tied up to the door or using restrainers. Tying your hands behind your back. Use a few tie and attach those hands to the bed. The one who does the tease would be the Dominant ( active person who is in control) and whom the bondage will be performed will be the passive or Submissive in this play. The dominant will tease the partner until a point where they get so excited that they could have an orgasm. Tease could happen by using feather, silk, wax or simply by touching the body.

    The tied partner is usually stimulated repeatedly without relief. By carefully varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is held in this highly-aroused state near orgasm. The tied partner’s urge to orgasm can become overwhelming.

    If the tied partner is allowed to climax it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation. The tied partner may also instead be denied orgasm or be given a ruined orgasm in which case they will feel strong feelings of sexual frustration.

    Extra tip: Use Blindfold

    Advance tip: Use a mouth gag or/and some sex toys on the submissive during the scene to increase sensations. 

    Spanking:

    Spanking can also be performed without no equipment, just by using your palms.

    If you liked the test-drive with the hands, you could always get a paddle, wooden stick, crop, but my experience hands would do just fine.

    How to do it: You can bend over to your partner’s lap. It’s super stimulating while you are spanking to have nasty dirty things said to you. Example: “You have been a naughty, dirty little girl/boy. You deserve to be punished. At this point, you should spank the buttock. Starting light intensity and as the sexual tension grows to bring more power into your hits too.

    Tip: You can play a school-girl/boy-teacher scene here.

    The teacher can drop the chalk down to the floor. Demanding the schoolgirl to pick it up, who refuse this. It will generate the punishment. Be creative and improvise. Keep talking and let your imagination fly so the fun could be greater during the play.

    If you are new to spanking, always ask your partner, if she/he is okay with the strength and the way of spanking. It’s super important to playing safe and doing things that will bring pleasure to both.

    Facesitting (eating out a girl):

    This is one of my favourite BDSM activity. You can perform it together with a sensual tie and tease. Tie your man up to the bed. Rub your body against his. Stimulate his erogenic zones. Stroke his genitals, tease him with words and gentle touches around the body.  Standing on top of him ( very empowering feeling, ladies!) spread your legs wide across in front of his face. Show him your panties under that short mini-skirt. Make him want to pull that tiny pantie away to see and taste your lotus flower. Be sensual, seduce and play with him. It’s your time to be in control. Let me know if he is going to be a good boy, but only then he might taste your juices. Keep eye-contact when talking down to him. Show him that you are a strong, confident, sexy women who knows what she wants. Man would go crazy from this. As in their nature to be dominant, powerful and now they all tied up in your hand.

    Slowly squat down to your man’s mouth. Tease him more by touching rubbing your clit through your panties. Ask them: if he wants to lick or eat your pussy out? (Always use language you feel comfortable with!)

    Be sure at this point they are ready to beg to taste you.  You’ve decided how long you will keep teasing him. Once you feel willing to give in and let him taste your juices. Remove your panties, or just you can just sit on his face still wearing your panties. I would do the second option to arouse more the sexual tension and desire. Demand him to smell your pussy, but tell him straight if he still can’t taste it. You can order him to inhale your smell. 

    Slide your panties away and let him taste your pussy.

    Be confident. You are in charge. You are the goddess who needs to be nurtured, loved and worshipped. You set the rhythm, time and intensity of this play. Have fun with it and let him eat your pussy like as a hot cake until you are so satisfied that you can move to the next step.

    Advanced Tips:

    Breath control play while face-sitting

    Sit on your partner’s face, covering up all face, including the nose too. Count to 10 and release. Breath control if done correctly could be a euphoric sensation for man while licking pussy. ( For more advanced pussy eaters sit on it until he starts struggles under you!)

    How to set up your BDSM scene / Fantasy Play?

    What is a fantasy game? Otherwise, also called role-play. Where you and your partner create characters, create a scenario and play it out with a sexual outcome.

    Have you ever wanted to be an actor/actress?

    Here is your chance to shine!

    It’s similar like attending a psychodrama class. You can channel your inner desires and become anyone for the act.

    The most common erotic plays are the doctor/patient, boss/secretary, teacher/ student but you can create your own.

    Personally, I got a fetish for suits. Yeah, as crazy it sounds I love dark blue suits with crisp ironed white shirt. It immediately symbolises status and power and brings eroticism into my mind.

    BDSM is all about the power dynamic. You need to do some erotic experiments and see what triggers you.

    When I play, I like to dress up as a secretary. The scenario would be that I’m negligent in my work and my boss catches me doing something else then work during work hours. He obliges me to his office. He commands me to crawl on the floor to his legs or ask me to bend over the table. Telling me how bad I’m in my work and if I want to keep it better try to please him somehow. Otherwise, he will punish me being such a naughty negligent worker. And the story goes on and on. It’s up to your fantasy now to complete it. 🙂

    Corporate punishment (spanking) if done with ‘mindfuck’ could be such a freeing sexual experience! It triggers within me the need to please him and order to keep my job. I’m willing to do whatever it takes. Don’t we all women, just born with a high need to please man? Why not make this human need a playful BDSM act?

    Hope this article helped you to have a wider knowledge of BDSM sex and courage to give it a try!? Let me know if you do! I would love hearing about all it!

    Keep safe and be Naughty,

    Xoxo

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

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    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 2)

    What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 2)

    What isn’t BDSM?

    Let’s clear some of the biggest myths around BDSM.

    What are the top 5 Myths in BDSM?

    #Myth 1: BDSM is a Fetish

    BDSM is not a fetish. It’s an erotic behaviour or kink. A fetish is admiring something that not exclusively sexual but has erotic stimulating qualities. For example these days one of the most popular fetishes is foot fetish. Feet aren’t sexy for most people, but for someone with a foot fetish, they can quickly become the object of desire.

    #Myth 2: BDSM is Uncommon

    BDSM might be a taboo, but it’s far from rare. Especially since 2015 when the movie 50 Shades of Grey stormed into our lives. Durex survey revealed that out of five participants, one has already been engaged in some form of light bondage during sex. These numbers have shown a respective 37% in the U.K and 35% in the U.S.  Not surprisingly the same number is around 65% with people fantasise to try it.

    #Myth 3 People are always Submissive or Dominant

    In BDSM the fulfilment requires having both roles during the role-play.  In these scenes, the Dominant (or Dom/Top/Master) will have the power over the submissive. The Dom can humiliate, punish, control or reward the Submissive (Sub/Slave/Bottom) depending on how much they able to meet the Dom’s expectations.  During these power-mind-games, both will have tremendous pleasure, sexual arousal and satisfaction from the power dynamic. A good D/S relationship when both meet their human need. The Dominant being powerful and significant. The submissive being in service and contributing to her/his Master’s pleasure and well-being.

    However, bare in mind that if one relationship you act Dominant does not mean you have an overall Dom personality. Usually, dominant people like to stay in control, and submissive people like to obey and serve, so it’s a win-win. Individuals who are enjoying variety could switch from one role to another. These people love the mental challenge to expand their erotic boundaries. This type called: Switch.

    #Myth 4 It’s all about abuse and pain

    Rightly sadist and masochist can be these cases. However, most kinkers in the BDSM community mainly involved some for of bondage and D/S games. BDSM sex should be a situation where you can’t wait to see your partner to give or receive sensations. Create a fun, playful, naughty and erotically exciting sexual playground where people free to express their deepest desires to one other. It never should hurt, unless someone gets turned on by pain.

    # Myth 5 It’s all about Sex

    BDSM is rarely about sex. It might contain the element of sexual activities, but it’s not the payoff.  Sometimes you can feel sexually so stimulated by certain scenes, mind-fucking manipulations that it would feel intimate, almost as good as having an orgasm without an actual ejaculation. Some people say it can be better than traditional sex. Only one way to find out if that’s true for you – try some BDSM sex tonight!

    What’s all about the BDSM clothing?

    There are a lot of hot kinky materials that stimulate the skin, such as rubber, latex, leather or wearing sexy uniforms such as school girl, nurse or dominatrix. Cross-dressing also a fun way to explore some of your kinkier sides. The term stands for cloth swapping. Example: Your man would like to wear your lingerie, stockings, panties or whatever he fancies during sex. Put some lipstick, make-up or wig on. Why not? It’s no harm to explore new things in the bedroom. Remember it just play, an act. You could become anyone you want to be for an hour or two. Who would you be?

    Who practices BDSM sex can’t enjoy Vanilla Sex?

    Vanilla sex refers to ordinary (aka traditional) sex.

    Trying BDSM sex is like topping up your vanilla ice-cream with some chocolate sprinkles or syrup. You can add on the ice-cream or leave it. Both way you could enjoy the ice-cream right? The same applies to BDSM sex.  In my opinion who practise any form of BDSM just has a wider range of colours to paint in the bedroom. Giving more sensations, attention and pleasure to their partner by respect and understand their true sexual desires.

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • How To Explore My Fetishes With A Companion

    How To Explore My Fetishes With A Companion

    I love companionship. For me, it’s one of the most self-indulgent things you can treat yourself to. It’s always a thrill to look forward to a new meet, as there are so many possibilities. When I’m with a client, I truly feel as if they’re treating themselves – between the whisky, cheeseboards, and hum of excitement in the air, it feels like we’re both getting the worlds best present. I love being able to share myself and my passions with another, and feel them reciprocated with the same fervor. I’ve always lived in the moment, and there’s a certain kind of exhilaration in giving yourself entirely to a stranger.

    Similarly, I feel my clients shrug off the stresses of the world with me while they step into a fantasy where nothing matters except the next moment together. It really does feel like we’re outside of time, often in a world all of our own – it’s hypnotic, in a way. I’m grateful every day to be able to explore this side of myself with those who place their trust so deeply in me.

    How I Got Interested In Fetishes

    My interests in fetishes actually started with fandom and fan fiction! I remember huddling under my blankets at night, reading novels about my favourite characters – except all of a sudden, they would be tying each other up, and I was reacting in ways I never thought possible.

    I only started exploring the BDSM community when I was 20 when one of my work friends invited me to a night out, and my interest spiralled from there. My first encounter felt like I had stepped into the fantasy world of my dreams! I’m actually still in contact with the first man who ever spanked me, and to this day, he’s constantly teaching me new things.

    I ended up offering pro submission work, given that I enjoyed it so much, and as I attended skillshares, my hard skills increased to the level that I began offering pro domme work alongside it. These days, I tend to switch (someone who both submits and dominates people) fairly evenly, with a particular love of spanking, Shibari, needle play, wax play, and fisting. I’ve previously co-presented educational workshops about Shibari at Sexpo in 2019, and was lucky enough to tutor under one of Australia’s best needle play mentors a few years ago.

    What Makes Me An Ideal Companion To Explore Your Fetishes With

    I think the most important thing for any companion, kink or vanilla, is to keep an open mind about everything! I’ve always approached life with a “try everything once” philosophy, and I carry over that same line of thinking to my kink exploration. There have been plenty of times clients have approached me with fetishes I know nothing about, and I’ve had a ball exploring it with them!

    It’s important to have open and honest communication between you both, including disclosing any triggers, past injuries, and level of experience, as well as what you’re hoping to get out of the play; there’s a huge difference between a rhythmic meditative flogging, and a flogging that’s designed to break skin and bruise!

    I would also consider myself a very curious person, so when I am approached with a new fetish request, I happily spend hours researching it – including any safety aspects I might need to consider.

    Ideal Duration To Explore Fetishes Together

    This is so highly dependent on the fetish, and what you’re hoping to achieve during the session. For newbies, I tend to recommend around three hours, to cover important negotiation time, slow introduction, allow plenty of time for feedback and questioning, and plenty of aftercare at the end! I’ve given light spankings in 30 minutes, and I’ve done a needle session for four hours.

    I find multi day sessions to be too strenuous when it comes to intense kink, although I know some providers who excel at them, but I simply find staying in the headspace for that long far too taxing on both of us! As a general rule, I suggest between 2-4 hours to explore fetish and kink with me. When we play, we release some really powerful chemicals – adrenaline and endorphins flood our body, so it’s important to factor in time at the end to come back to earth, reassure each other that everything was okay, and reflect on the session at the end.

    Some sessions also involve a lot of cleanup too – rope takes time to untie, sploshing means the floors need to be mopped, and needle play means that wounds need to be tended to. It’s certainly not something I would do in a 15 minute lunchtime quickie.

    How Do You Calm Someone Who Is Nervous?

    I’ve actually never had this problem! Is that bad of me? I think booking any session, there’s always going to be some nerves, but I’ve never found anyone to be overly shy upon meeting me. Usually, they’re full of enthusiasm to finally live out their fantasy!

    I tend to write a lot about BDSM on my blog, which probably helps – explaining the fetish beforehand through the lens of personal experience tends to quell any nervous butterflies. I’ve always had quite a big personality, and my genuine excitement to meet new people spills over into any meeting, so I think it’s quite hard for anyone not to be swept up in that and be equally as excited. Enthusiasm is infectious, after all.

    Follow These Rules During Our Time Together

    There would be no consent without boundaries – your power to say yes only lies in your ability to say no. I pre negotiate each individual session over text, and again at the start of the session, but I have a few ground rules: no hardsports, nothing that impacts on my safety, and nothing illegal.

    Additionally, if you don’t have any boundaries of your own, I’ll feel uneasy playing with you and will likely cancel. My favourite clients are those who listen to my boundaries, honor my space, and openly communicate their own. Nothing is worse than calling a client a name mid session, only to have them burst into tears and end the session.

    Kristen Jade – An Australian escort, pro kinkster, and content creator. She has been described as an “unrepentant brat” and refuses to take life too seriously. On her off days, you’ll find her cuddling up with her two cats and getting her ass kicked in video games. She has been a sex worker for six years and a BDSM educator for three, as well as touring the Shibari performance circuit across Australia and being invited to sexuality retreats. You’ll often find her travelling interstate, fuelled by passion and desire to explore the unknown.

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    Kristen resides in Sydney, but will be in Melbourne 4-8 May, Canberra 22-27 May, and Hobart 8-12 of June. She has plans to visit Brisbane, Darwin, and Perth later in the year. In the meantime, she regularly releases porn on her ManyVids, as well as writing on her blog at www.kristenjadeaus.com/blog

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  • What I Love About Being A Submissive

    What I Love About Being A Submissive

    Kink has always been a huge part of my life and is very close to my heart. My personal views towards life in general but also towards kink and alternate lifestyles is… Do whatever you want as long as you’re not hurting yourself or others…make sure everything is always safe, sane, and consensual. And the best way to do that is with EDUCATION!

    You cannot consent to something if you do not know what it is, which is why education is HUGE for me with BDSM. I have played as a submissive for around 10 years, as well as worked on and off camera, as a professional submissive and done sex work in general for about five years now and I am always learning and educating myself further. 

    How I Got Started Into BDSM

    I have always been into the darker things in life. Growing up I would have labeled myself as goth, and truly saw the beauty in all things dark and creepy. I have always had submissive tendencies my entire life. It might have started from watching porn as a teen; my favourite starlets were Sasha Grey and Bonnie Rotten who usually performed in very hardcore BDSM scenes, and I always thought to myself, “I WANT TO DO THAT!”

    It was my dream to become a pornstar one day, although life got in the way and I got caught up in the wonderful world of FSSW working as a professional submissive (but that’s another story for another day). I am back on track of achieving my dream to become a pornstar. My biggest goal is to work with kink.com and I’m hoping once the world settles down, that I can make this dream a reality.

    Aside from porn, Tumblr was also a huge influence on me being attracted to BDSM (I met my first “online” Dom from Tumblr) and found many more pornstars, kinks/fetishes, and BDSM education from Tumblr (like links to books, videos, and other BDSM educators) and from there I found Fetlife (if you don’t know about it, Fetlife is basically Facebook for kinky people), new partners, all while continuing to educate myself on the subject.

    My first real life Dom partner was someone I met online and probably a mistake. We both were not educated enough at the time, and a lot went wrong in that relationship. This is why I’m such a stickler for telling people that education is key to consent! You can end up in really horrible situations and get very hurt, if you’re not educating yourself before meeting someone and playing. 

    Did Being A Sub Come Naturally?

    Yes, I have always had very submissive qualities even in platonic vanilla relationships. I live to please everyone around me. I am also constantly told that “this is what I was born to do, I live to please.” by numerous people that I have encountered through out my life.

    Even my parents say “I’m great at helping people and that I love to help people”. I’m just a natural born pleaser, and I always aim to please in all aspects of my life.

    My Favorite Kinks & Fetishes

    Some of my favourite kinks/fetishes are:

    • Shoes (pleasure heels)
    • Piss play 
    • Pain play
    • Humiliation / degradation 
    • Bimbofication
    • Cuckolding 
    • Hotwifing 

    I love shoes, I only recently realized that it’s an actual fetish… I love to wear them as a form of bondage and I love to clean and lick other women’s heels, I find it degrading to be treated as less than everyone else and to serve “real women” by licking their heels clean. Plus with my oral fixation, I love to deepthroat and gag on women’s heels. I don’t know why, I just love it! I guess it’s the degradation that really gets me going. Which is another big one for me.

    I love being humiliated and degraded, and doing things publicly is my favourite. I love when everyone is staring at me and freaking out, and I guess I’m just an attention whore at heart. I love anything to do with pee play, getting peed on, drinking it, pissing myself, I love all of it. It makes me feel dirty and used in ways that other fluids just can’t LOL.

    Bimbofication for me just goes hand in hand with humiliation and degradation, being a goth slut forced to look like a pretty Barbie, is probably the best humiliation punishment you can give me.  

    Hotwifing is similar to cuck holding, except my partner is not a cuck. They enjoy watching me act like a slut and I do not humiliate them in anyway. For cuckolding I enjoy being the cuck, I like to watch my Dom or partner be with other women, it’s a huge turn on for me.

    Lastly, pain play. I think it basically comes with the territory of being a submissive but I truly get a release and high after doing a very intense scene. It’s almost like an out of body experience and I live for that feeling. Just like an athlete, I’m always trying to push myself and my limits always trying to do better and achieve more. It really is like a sport for me. 

    How I Explored My Limits & Knowledge

    I’m constantly educating myself every day, as you can never stop learning. I am always watching videos, reading books, and attending events where I can learn more. As for IRL exploration, I only play with safe trusted and educated partners when exploring my kinks and fetishes.

    I have a long distance Dom/Top friend who used to “own” me in the submissive term. However, the distance was rough for me and we only play together when we can now. However, he is the only one I trust right now to really push my limits pain wise and see how far I can go, and this is after years of getting to know each other and a confirmed list of limits, that we always adjust as needed.

    Aside from that, I do have a few Domme female friends that have gotten to know me very well and I can always trust them to help me explore as well, and we usually play together at kink events.

    Important Tips For Submissives

    Please pleaseee educate yourself before playing. And by education I do not mean watching 50 Shades of Grey…. Actually, first of all, please wait until you’re 18+ before you start playing and exploring. I know it sucks to wait but that gives you lots of time to educate yourself and learn everything you can about BDSM before exploring in real life.

    There are many great BDSM educators on YouTube now. Evie lupine being one of my favourites. Although online content is great for education, please also read books, and if you can find your local dungeon and take some classes. Education is key to consent because you can’t consent to something if you don’t know what it is.

    If you make an account on Fetlife you can find local events, dungeons and education classes in your area. It’s a great tool to find events where you can educate yourself and explore. Please please please for the love of Satan, do not treat Fetlife as a dating website. I don’t recommend meeting people of Fetlife. Use it to find events and education classes in your area, and meet people that way (and then you can add each other on Fetlife of course)

    But please, it is not a dating website so don’t treat it as such, and I can promise you the people that don’t follow this rule on Fetlife are not the people you want to be “meeting” or “exploring” with. There are dangerous people all over the internet, that’s why education is key!

    Vera Lynn – Toronto’s favourite submissive fetish model. She ditched the 9-5 lifestyle to enjoy a happy life working as an Adult content creator, fetish model, and professional submissive. In her spare time She loves learning more about BDSM, attending BDSM / fetish events, and going to concerts with her friends.

    For all my online content and submissive / kinky stuff you can follow me as Vera Lynn. I’m vl_fetmodel on every platform and you can find photo shoots and links to all my content platforms on my website VeraLynn.ca

    Website: veralynn.ca

    Twitter: @vl_fetmodel

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  • What To Know About Being A Switch

    What To Know About Being A Switch

    I’m a scholar of the SSC school of BDSM, meaning I know there’s always more to learn and I’m always happy to share what I know. So far, Safe, Sane and Consensual practices inform my views of how kinky play should unfold; so, if the anticipated types of activities aren’t physically safe, being performed by parties who are of sound mind and are actively consenting, they don’t have a place in play space(s).

    I like to think that BDSM is like garlic—you can never have too much of it and it always adds the right amount of flare to any experience as long as all parties involved are fully informed and enthusiastic about their involvement. Kink was first introduced to me through an ex who was extremely into bondage and my own personal interests in heavy rubber, ball gags, body worship, breath play and impact play.

    Also, seeing Dita Von Teese editorials and the Matrix films when I was younger heavily influenced my style and appetites now. The more mainstream that kink becomes through media portrayals—like Netflix’s Bonding, Shameless, and P-Valley—as well as the rise in sex workers and sex and kink educators, the more we’re going to have society exploring deeper and more delicious ways to express and indulge in physical intimacy, and that’s something to celebrate!

    What Does It Mean To Be A Switch?

    Simply put, a switch is an individual who is comfortable in either the dominant or submissive role but they do not feel strongly tied to identifying as either in a consensual kink experience. Often, it’s because a switch has discerned specific types of play and or dominants that they like to be submissive toward as well as the types of submissives they enjoy seeing.

    People who identify as dominants or submissives are dominants or submissives 24/7. Dominance or submissiveness is woven into their personality type, and I’d argue the same for a switch—we’re just interested in exploring our kinky duality with our partners. For some switches, it’s a pretty even split with no preference for which role they’re in. For other switches—like myself—there’s a tendency to lean more towards the one role over the other.

    As a dominant-leaning switch, I prefer to lead play in a sensual, sadistic style. I don’t consider myself a dominant because I don’t feel compelled or want to be dominant in all types of play but I also won’t submit to just anyone. I have to know the person I allow to dominate me will respect my soft and hard limits and not push me into a type of play I’ve explicitly stated that I will not engage in; I also prefer sensual dominants versus sadists—probably because I’m a sadist myself.

    I also prefer to sub for very specific types of kink, like rope bondage; forced orgasms; over the knee impact play (OTK); and tickling, which means I also require dominants who are specifically skilled in those types of play. Whereas, as a domme, my expertise and my own interest lies in pegging, breath play (more commonly known as choking), human furniture, chastity, verbal humiliation and degradation, body parts worship (like foot or ass worship), latex/pvc/heavy rubber fetish, and sensory deprivation—so people tend to seek me out for those types of play scenarios.

    I relish in the delight that comes from being a switch and exploring various types of play as a sub and a domme, but I’m extremely particular about the types of play partners I have—both for business and for my own pleasure.

    Misconceptions Of Being A Switch

    The switch plight is pretty similar to the same weird shame culture surrounding proud and out bisexuals. We’re often thought of as competitive or greedy. There’s also the persistent desire to pigeonhole us as being either just dominants or submissives all the time. Or that we’re “in denial” about being submissives—that’s probably my favorite because it always makes me laugh.   

    How Do I Know If I’m A Switch?

    There are tons of informal BDSM questionnaires all over the web and surely there’s some lengthy threads on Fetlife or Reddit to mine for research and consideration. But it’s really as easy as understanding and applying how you feel.

    Do you enjoy being dominant sometimes? Do you enjoy being submissive sometimes? Are you comfortable leading the play if you’re established as the dominant? Are you comfortable allowing someone else to lead if and when you’re a submissive? Have you played enough to know the difference in what role you like and under what circumstances and with what type of other kinky roleplayer(s)? If you can answer yes to all of these, then you, my dear, may also be a switch.  

    Can One Be A Switch In Vanilla Relationships?

    Absolutely! It may not come up as often or be something that you recognize as switch tendencies with particular power dynamics, but vanilla relationships still offer opportunities for kinky play and thus more experiences for both of you to switch. For instance, you may find that you initiate sex more than your partner or perhaps you’re more vocal during sex than your partner so you end up directing more of what takes place such as, “Spank me while you fuck me like that!” or “Pull my hair!” or “I love it when you let me spit in your mouth.”

    Maybe you love that your partner is inherently more dominant or submissive with you and it’s the entire driving force of your relationship but you’re allowed to be a brat sometimes and top from the bottom or there’s just a natural trade off that you both are comfortable with where neither has to be dominant or submissive when they don’t want to be. Whatever the case, there’s always the possibility to flow from your typical type of dynamic to something else. Don’t be afraid to switch it up!

    Tips To Follow When Exploring Being A Switch

    Figure out your boundaries—or your hard limits! I can’t stress that enough with people who are new to kink because unfortunately, we live in the reality post-50 Shades of Grey where every other person on Tinder thinks they’re a dominant! But you need to know what you’re not willing to do and have firm and clear lines of communication so that all parties stay safe and happy; never be afraid to pull the plug on play if you feel that your boundaries have been crossed. After that, have fun with it!

    Being a switch is the ultimate chameleon ability so enjoy it with people who make you feel sexy, safe, secure and affirmed! You don’t have to turn every date into a kink marathon where all parties try to be more dominant or more submissive like a weird kinky practice session. Focus more on the experience you’d like to have with individuals who are already either submissive or dominant and know their strengths and weaknesses in those roles.

    Focus on those who you already know that you enjoy their company and that they will remain safe during kink sessions and not push you unconsensually past your limits. Decide on a couple of types of kinks you’d like to explore or indulge in—like sensory deprivation, light bondage, and breath play—and spend time in both the submissive and dominant role.   

    As the would-be lovechild of Grace Jones and Morrissey, Atlanta-native Dakota Harper now dazzles privately as Philadelphia, PA’s premier professional kinky switch escort and alternative lifestyle companion. With an affinity for everything from old school anime to high end lingerie, a velvet touch and a honey tongue, she’s sure to leave a lingering impression in more ways than one. Get in touch and make her your new Muse de Mid-day today via DateDakotaHarper@gmail.com.

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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Shibari

    How To Explore & Enjoy Shibari

    Those who practice BDSM have the pursuit of pleasure as their goal and during the session, it is possible to carry out this search with the most disparate tools. Within the practice, we can explore our desires and share them with the person we play with. We can feel ashamed, cry, relax, enjoy, be afraid, let go of control in total freedom, without worrying about the judgment of who is there with us at that moment. This allows us to get closer, to get more intimate with your partner.

    I do not share only my body with you but I open a window on my secrets and allow you to see things about me that on other occasions I do not show. In addition, as individuals, practicing BDSM leads us to ask ourselves what we are looking for in a relationship (whether it lasts in the time of a session or whether it is the relationship with our partner), who we are, what we want. In short, from my point of view, it is a full-blown self-determination tool.

    Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model Momo Usagi; Pic by Vazkor

    How My Interest In Shibari Developed

    As a child I loved to tie things up. I used what must have been a jump rope: chairs, tables, bottles, nothing could stay in its place. I built forts, tents, castles. Upon reaching sexual maturity, I started fantasizing about bonding people. In a short time, the fantasy became reality. I felt, however, that something was missing. Using scarves and belts wasn’t that satisfying. Playing with wax and having extreme sex with the people I dated didn’t tell everything about me. Also, I needed to talk to someone who had my same instincts, I needed confrontation. So I asked for advice from a friend who I knew had the same interests as me and she suggested that I join FetLife, a social network dedicated to BDSM that has nearly nine million subscribers around the world. Here I discovered the existence of a community in Turin, the city where I live, of parties and bondage workshops.

    I am a curious person and as soon as I approached bondage I began to explore the various existing styles, to research the most famous masters, and so I discovered shibari and chose who I wanted to study with. The further I went along my path, the more I realized how relevant this was becoming in my life, how ropes had become one of my favorite communication tools and certainly my favorite BDSM practice.

    Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme; Pic by Vazkor

    Is It Easy To Learn Shibari?

    It all depends on what is the goal you want to achieve.

    You can start playing safely very quickly. The important thing is to know what your abilities are and not to overdo it, not to try to do things that have not yet been learned. Those who want to learn to suspend have a longer course of study ahead of them but the duration depends on several factors, for example on what is the goal of the people who are studying and how much time they dedicate to practice and training. For those who, like me, love shibari and decide to cultivate it and perfect (and to perfect/refine) technique and aesthetics, the path can last a lifetime.

    What I Love About Shibari

    I’d like to say that I love everything about Shibari! I love tools, aesthetics, technique, communication. The most important thing for me I think is the relationship that is created between rigger and rope bottom. Trust, communication, understanding, eroticism are essential components for me in my practice.

    Sometimes I play as a bottom with my partner. In that case, I love to feel his desire for me. As I said before, ropes have become one of my favorite communication tools, it’s amazing how much they can amplify what rigger and rope bottom want to say to each other.

    GyakuEbi Ropes and Pic Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme

    Safety Precautions Before & During A Session

    Based on their experience, everyone develops their own personal security strategies. The advice I can personally give are: to know what the health conditions of the rope bottom are (for example if they have had joint problems, if they suffer from claustrophobia or low blood pressure), to gradually increase the intensity of the tying to give way to the rope bottom to feel what is happening (both to enjoy the moment more and to communicate if there is something wrong), to read the signals of the rope bottom’s body to understand if everything is okay, be aware of your abilities and not overdo it, not to try ties that are not mastered during a session, especially when if you are a beginner.

    Alithia Maltese pic by Vazkor

    What To Expect As A Beginner

    I recommend starting with a workshop held by a reliable teacher. Look at the photos, follow people on social networks, ask for feedback from those who have already studied or done Kinbaku with them, ask someone who is part of the community. This also applies to those who want to be tied up.

    The sensations experienced in Shibari are very intense. If you are looking for something comfortable, Shibari is not for you. If instead you want to start a journey, perhaps together with your partner, if you are ready to share your deepest emotions with this person, then give it a chance.

    Maybe there will be times when studying will seem boring or frustrating, but if you are willing to overcome them you will be rewarded and you will discover a new world, something you didn’t even know existed before.

    Alithia Maltese is a rigger, an alternative sexuality educator, a kinbaku teacher. She lives in Turin, Italy.

    Alithia organizes events about consent, meetings for people interested in BDSM, classes on non-verbal communication and bondage workshops. Her main interest is interpersonal communication and she has found in ropes the tool that allows her to express herself at best. She is convinced that BDSM can be a great way to learn to communicate through our body, so she studies its potential.

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  • What I Love About Spanking

    What I Love About Spanking

    I think kink and kinky people are great! Kink helps people express themselves and it’s what makes us all unique. 

    What I Love About Spanking

    I have been obsessed with spanking since I was five years old. I am a spanking fetishist, as pure as they come. I had been thinking about spanking for a long time, so when I began indulging in my spanking fantasies when I was 19 years old, everything came quite naturally for me. I had a few different play partners that I switched with, and many of my partners gifted me with implements, and that’s how my implement collection quickly began to grow. I attended my first spanking party (Shadow Lane in Las Vegas) in 2017 and began my professional spanking and modeling career then. I’ve been doing this for over three years now. 

    I love that spanking is so pure and domestic. I especially love the headspace, pain and passion that goes into each scene. You really don’t need any fancy whips or paddles or implements to do it. All you really need is a willing bottom and a good hand and you’re good to go. But you can also grab a hairbrush off of your nightstand, or whip off your belt. That works too. 😉

    Why Is Spanking Popular?

    I think spanking is so popular because you can make it any way you want it to be. It can be soft and sensual like a relaxing massage, or disciplinary and harsh, or a blend of both. The butt is so round, so soft, and simply the safest and sexiest place to hit! 

    Favorite Props For Spanking

    It all depends on the situation and if I am topping or bottoming. I personally love anything leather, because the impact feels so divine. When I am delivering a good, hard strapping, it gets me into a wonderful buzzing headspace. 

    I recently had purchased a new leather belt. I was shopping with my play partner, Miss Rachel, and had her bend over so I could give her a few swats with the belt. She approved and returned the favor, it was a done deal. 

    I also really love the hairbrush. It is so classic and feminine. You can also carry it around discreetly in your purse, a secret little thrill!

    Is There A Correct Way To Spank?

    Absolutely. It is important for anyone to know that you must avoid hitting any bones or vital organs. That means don’t be hitting too high (too close to the tailbone) or too low (thighs are okay to hit, but not every bottom enjoys being smacked there, so discuss with your partner). Your main focus is on the fattiest, juiciest area on the behind; just below the equator. Avoid wrapping too far around the side of the butt/hip and striking one cheek more than the other. Keep in mind symmetry and keeping things even. Both sides need love. 

    Checking in with your partner is key! That goes to say, everyone has their own style. I spank both right and left handed, which helps even things out a lot. As a switch, I think all tops should get a feel for the implement they will be using so you can gauge what the implement feels like and what works and doesn’t. 

    Recommended Spanking Aftercare

    After a good spanking session, I rub lotion on the spankee’s bottom and give them a nice butt massage. I recommend Cetaphil’s body moisturizing cream for very dry, sensitive skin.

    Post-spanking, the bottom tends to dry up, so moisturizing really helps restore and repair the skin. 

    Cassidy Lau – I am a Professional Spanko-Switch and Entertainer and based in Austin, TX. I provide in-person spanking sessions as a top, bottom or switch. You can also interact with me and my real-life Top and spanking partner, Miss Rachel, on our OnlyFans page. We livestream weekly real-life spankings and discuss our home life and domestic dynamics. 

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    Twitter: @SassyXOLassy

    Email: SassyXOLassy@gmail.com and LadiesRoomSpanking@gmail.com

    Fetlife: SassyXLassy

    Upcoming Tours:

    Pre-COVID, I had traveled a lot. Assuming things clear up in 2021 with COVID, my travel schedule will be as as followed:
    Atlanta, GA: January 15-16
    Las Vegas, NV (Shadow Lodge Spanking Party): February 25-28
    Dallas, TX (Texas All State Spanking Party): June 24-28
    Houston, TX (Lone Star Spanking Party): November 11-14

    I am based in Austin, TX but I travel back home to Seattle once a month. 

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