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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Gender Play

    How To Explore & Enjoy Gender Play

    Kink has been part of My entire adult life.  I am not sure if I am wired that way or if it was finding an old stash of True Detective magazines as a youngster.  For those that don’t know, those mags pictured women bound, gagged, etc.  My first long term boyfriend was kinky and we explored a lot together but none of it was specifically tied to BDSM. 

    FemDom didn’t come until later, again at the introduction of a significant other.  It was a natural fit, coinciding  with a time when I was very engaged in a corporate career.  It further boosted My confidence by allowing Me to own My sexuality and take that power of confidence into the workplace. Little is more powerful than a woman who knows the affect she has on you and uses it ruthlessly.  I never looked back. 

    What Is Gender Play?

    It’s a broad spectrum form of play and it just keeps getting broader with our exposure to non-traditional gender identities like non-binary, gender fluid, transgender, etc.  Regarding My gender play, which is almost exclusively with men, it’s about taking them out of the confines of their born gender –  what they are programmed to feel and believe about themselves, and how they identify with their gender. 

    That can be as simple as donning a pair of panties and teetering around in high heels, to full transformations and getting a public response to them in a feminine role – and everything in between.  And it’s more than just the physical aspect.  For many, taking on feminine characteristics and wearing womanly trappings pushes their comfort zone, makes them feel out of control and therefore more submissive and that is where D/s play enters. 

    Gender play often provides a jumping off point for FemDom and BDSM scenarios.  Gender play on its own is not specifically part of FemDom or BDSM, in My opinion. 

    Misconceptions Of Gender Play

    The biggest one is that it’s all about humiliation.  Up until the last five years or so, I would say that was mostly accurate.  At that time, gender play revolved mostly around sissy play and emasculation of the male ego.  Now I see more and more men who want to feel empowered by feeling feminine and being viewed as a woman.  Because of that, My skills have had to grow.  I took lessons in transgender makeup and fleshed out My client wardrobe to include elegant attire too. 

    The other big misconception is that gender play is only for bi-sexuals.  That is an absolute falsehood. 

    Reasons Subs Loves Gender Play

    Well, for most it’s just kinky fun.  For sissies, the erotic humiliation gets their juices flowing.  For others, shedding their male responsibilities for a few hours and feeling the dichotomy of what women often feel; sexy, desired, objectified, pursued, vulnerable exposed – can be a real rush. 

    But there can also be a serious side to gender play.  I have had more than a few clients that are exploring the possibility of transitioning and a professional dominant can provide the safe space for them to take on that role for a manageable time.   

    What A Typical Gender Play Session Is Like

    I don’t know if there is a true “typical” but nowadays I enjoy the “female empowerment” scenes best.  I’ve always felt that using feminization to emasculate a man was unfair to the female ideal.  Why should being feminine make you less of a man and therefore humiliated?  Shouldn’t a man be honored to be remade in the image of Us?  I think that is just one of the ways our thinking is slowly changing. 

    So, the scenes that involve full transformations and realistic cross-dressing are My current favorite.  I love to wait and reveal the final results after everything is done:  hair, makeup, dress, shoes, nails, etc.  The look on some of their faces is priceless.  Of course, the transformation is just the first part of the scene for most.  Sometimes we engage in medical play that can result to a trip to the OBGYN table and maybe a mock castration and gender reassignment.  Maybe we discover the goddess Venus is resident in them and engage in strap on play.  Public outings are always fun and liberating too.

    What To Expect Before Exploring Gender Play

    As I briefly mentioned earlier, gender play will not make you gay or cause you to question your sexuality in a negative way.  Some men get fully dressed for the first time and declare themselves lesbians.  Others crave to suck cock, but I don’t think it’s done anything more than bring to the surface what has been swirling around underneath. 

    As with any form of play, choose your partner carefully.  If seeing a professional, make sure they have all the accouctrement you seek.  If you want a full transformation, make sure they have a good stock of fem gear and preferably a dedicated feminization area. A verifiable track record of working in gender play is imperative too.  Seek out reviews and other information outside of their website to make sure you are a good fit.

    In short, do your research, choose well and communicate your desires and limits clearly. 

    Mistress Ayn – A professional Dominatrix residing in Atlanta, Georgia.  She has been part of the BDSM lifestyle for over 20 years and a professional dominant since 2010.  In person sessions are conducted at the renowned Atlanta Dungeon and in 2016 she launched the incomparable FemDom Mansion.  Mistress Ayn was recognized by her peers for her contributions to the FemDom community as a Guest of Honor at DomCon 2019.

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  • Here’s What You Need To Know About Being A Brat In BDSM

    Here’s What You Need To Know About Being A Brat In BDSM

    We’re all familiar with the concept of a spoiled brat, but do you know what it means to be a brat in BDSM? For submissives who want to spice it up a little during sex play, being a brat can be exhilarating, as you get to let your naturally playful personality shine while engaging in BDSM. Moreover, being a brat is a great way to get your dom’s attention, since you have to playfully provoke them to get the reaction that you desire. If you want to take on a submissive role that’s a bit sassier than usual, here’s what you need to know about being a brat in BDSM.

    What does it mean to be a brat?

    A submissive who’s a brat loves to push their dom’s buttons by breaking the rules. But it’s not about being blatantly disobedient – it’s more about being mischievous. Your dom is called a brat-tamer, and the brat-tamer’s role is to punish the brat for bad behavior, usually with some impact play, prolonged edging, or restraints. During a scene, a brat can be a spoiled student who refuses to listen to their teacher, or a little girl who doesn’t want to follow what their daddy says, so it also works if you have a DDLG dynamic. 

    Before engaging in brat and brat-tamer BDSM, talk to your dom about it so that they know how to respond accordingly to your behavior and to have some rules in place. Next, get into the submissive head space by wearing kinky clothing and accessories, such as kawaii lingerie, a school girl outfit, some thigh highs, or a collar. Once you’ve established boundaries and are properly geared up, get ready to act out a scene with your dom.

    How to act it out

    To act all bratty, start by pestering your dom while they’re engaged in other tasks. Try sending a naked picture of yourself while they’re on a call, or if they’re at work, send them naughty text messages demanding for them to come home so they can pamper you. You can also refuse or ignore commands, or do something to rile your dom up. For instance, you can fling their shoes towards the other side of the room, and tell your dom, “Yes, I threw your shoes. What are you gonna do about it, daddy?” Say it with a grin, and in a cheeky way, rather than in a bitchy manner. You can also speak in a higher tone to engage your bratty side. Later, take your punishment like the spoiled baby that you are.

    Being a brat makes being a submissive extra fun, so try the brat/brat-tamer dynamic with your dom the next time you engage in BDSM. Be playful, have fun with it, and unleash your inner brat to get what you desire.      

    Photo by Artem Labunsky on Unsplash

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Producer

    What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Producer

    I’ve always had a complicated relationship with sex, but I don’t think I am abnormal in that respect. I know that I find it difficult to climax and yet I am almost always aroused. It’s quite frustrating sometimes. But looking back, I think this has made me a better escort and a better fetish model. I feel quite relaxed with other peoples (mostly guys) kinks. Even the strangest requests do not really freak me out. I don’t think I’m jaded. I am still very young. But I am tolerant of deviancy. To me, being a pervert is normal and most importantly honest.

    So I guess you could say that my sexual desire and appetite and fulfilment is achieved through another person. I’m like an orgasm cuckoo haha. But, that’s not to say that I am selfish in the bed at all. Now that I think about it, it’s quite odd. I don’t have personal relationships with boyfriends etc, I am in a relationship with my kink. That kink is deviancy. Mm…not sure if you can understand that? I am a work in progress 🙂

    How I Started Producing Fetish Content

    I met my favourite producers Benson Media who I think are unique in the adult industry. The founder Simon Benson has been in the industry for 20 years and is a famous BDSM illustrator. I saw some of his drawings when I was much younger and they stirred something inside. Many years later when we met, I was so in awe. And yet, he and his company are very down to earth. I guess they took me under their wing and I was allowed to discover and understand more about my kinky side.

    I was shown that my kinky side is the real me and nothing to be ashamed of. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t spend 24/7 in a mist of latex and leather. But I certainly feel relaxed about my perverse thoughts. We co-produce my Onlyfans and launched my own porn website cherrythedoll.com which I consider ‘my place’ where all my inner fantasies can be played out for others to enjoy 🙂

    We launched Cherrythedoll during lockdown so it was quite intense being locked in with a director, shooting every day but I loved every minute of it. I would love to live in a fetish bubble, like a walled compound of sorts haha!

    Favorite Content Produced So Far

    My website has 5 themes –  Cute, Fetish, Toys, The Doll and POV. These are the four main fetishes I am interested in. The fifth, ‘Fetish’ is a catch all. My favourite of all these themes is ‘The Doll’. It’s dark, creepy and I guess it has all my fantasies intertwined. It has a loose linear storyline, so it’s exciting to see in what direction it will go.

    The scripts are written by Simon Benson so they are quite twisted and creepy – in a sexy cool way. The Doll has DDlg / ageplay themes. So it’s taboo and controversial. But I think viewers should understand that this content truly represents my thoughts and fantasies. It’s definitely not victim driven or anything that seeks to promote anything unlawful.

    What’s The Process Of Creating A Video Like?

    Firstly, we discuss the script. The script is important as I have to give some kind of performance. Then we look at props. Props are important as they set the tone for the scene. For example, we filmed a scene with a creepy dolls head with a rubber dildo attached. It was quite a weird looking object in itself. Obviously the entire scene was dominated by this prop, it created energy and kind of drove the action within the scene. Simon made the ‘dildo doll’ himself haha!

    We shoot on a main camera and a b-camera. We shoot ProRes on a Blackmagic using 16mm cine primes which gives a nice filmic look and usually the b-camera is a GH4 or a GoPro. Sound is captured off camera. Benson Media handle all the post production – thank god!! It’s a lot of editing time 🙂 I much prefer to play with my doggy and PS4 instead haha!

    Being Open To Exploring My Kink

    I have no boundaries. There are some things I don’t do on camera for legal reasons. But I spend a lot of time in Japan where most things I am interested in are acceptable as long as you exercise discretion. It’s a bit of a cliche, but your sex life is a journey. It twists and turns throughout your life. So why not go with your feelings?

    Cherry English – Fetish Model, International Companion and Maiko

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    Tours:

    New York January 2021

    Tokyo March 2021

    London March 2021

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  • What To Expect From Your First Rope Bottom Class

    What To Expect From Your First Rope Bottom Class

    I enjoy being tied up. With my partner we practice Japanese inspired rope bondage – Kinbaku. It started as a casual bedroom play, and developed over time into something very special – very deep and intimate way of communication between us which i cannot compare to anything else really. In Kinbaku I found a very special – ritualistic – space where i can enjoy playing with power exchange – offering  myself, surrendering  myself to the will of my partner.

    Outside of Kinbaku ritualistic space, we are a normal couple. We decide on many things together and ask each others’ advices and support. In Kinbaku space, we allow ourselves to play different roles, to open up and be vulnerable and touch on our “shadow” parts, the parts that maybe we don’t fully understand or accept about ourselves. We can play with fear and shame and other dark emotions. Sometimes, it touches some very sensitive parts.

    In Kinbaku, we use the ropes for inducing the impact on the body and mind of the person being tied – that would be me. Over time, I definitely developed a fetish for a feeling of rope on my body. I love everything about it: its smell, touch, sound, its versatility – for all the different qualities and emotions it can convey, when it’s in the hands of my partner…

    Why I Love Rope Bottoming

    In ropes, I seek to surrender. It is erotic to me, to be desired, to be taken. I enjoy being “made” into a beautiful thing for the pleasure of my rigger. I want to become a clay and I want to be touched, moved, split open, taken, rejected, objectified, worshipped, penetrated… Ultimately, I seek to surrender to the core of my being, to the point of dissolving my mental resistance and becoming nothing but a pulsating body, like one of the plants of the flower. On the way there, it might call out different emotions in me, sometimes it is hot as fuck, sometimes, it calls out a layer of deep sadness…

    We do Seme-nawa – “challenging ropes”, those that have power to move something in me, to melt me, to transform me into something else. I don’t seek pain, I do seek challenge. Challenge that brings me to my limits, to my resistance, my fears and my choices. When I’m up there and no way to move, no way to breathe properly, and my fear is so haptic – I can touch it – only choice is left to surrender to what is happening. This intensity brings me back to myself, reminding me that the truth is what I feel, not what I think I should feel. This intensity I rarely experience in “normal” life and this is one of the gifts that rope gives me. It is cleansing, and softens me.

    I think one part of this “cleansing” is about having a space for “Drama”, having a space to discharge emotions, especially dark destructive emotions, that I get to accumulate throughout the day… Anger, hate, self-hate, fear, anxiety…? We are not supposed to show such feelings in social situations, we are almost denied to have them, but they are there. It is a blessing to have a space to live them out through crying, sweating, shaking – there is a feeling of relief and lightness that often comes afterwards.

    How My Interest In Rope Bottoming Start

    My partner – who was already engaged with BDSM before – introduced me. The story was, I saw the photograph on the wall of the girl tied up – so I asked him what that was and he said, “I’ll show you, baby” and I liked what he showed me. There was something about the feeling of rope from the very first moment it touched my skin. There was something about the rope being so powerful, that it felt right for me to obey to what it wanted. I just had to follow my desire and discover more of that. This is how it started.

    At the beginning, I had a phase of confusion. At that time – almost 10 years ago – it was difficult to find any teachings, workshops or books, anything really – about rope bottoming. However, I had a very clear and strong desire for rope, I was confused in many aspects: how to handle pain or bad emotions, or how to communicate with my partner, or what exercises I needed to stay safe and healthy – not so unimportant aspects after all…

    I had to learn by doing and that wasn’t always easy. At that time, I dealt a lot with embodiment – developing a capacity for feeling inside of your own body, for living through my own body, so to say. That has changed my approach to rope bottoming – I was getting deeper and deeper into my own body, feeling my feelings, living my own “story” with rope, concentrating less on what I thought I “should” do. I hope it makes sense! For me it was a turning point in my rope bottoming. This is also the journey that I write in my book about.

    Reasons Beginners Should Join A Rope Bottoming Class To Learn

    For several reasons… First of all, raising the awareness and the self-responsibility – in rope bondage, being tied up, we are not a “passive” object, but there are always shared risks and shared responsibility with the rigger. For instance, when it comes to safety. The technical skills of the rigger are of course very important, but they just don’t feel your limps the way you feel them. Therefore, it is also your own responsibility to learn what you can do to stay safe and healthy when playing with rope bondage.

    When it comes to rope bottoming, I believe this is a somatic practice. It is something that we learn with our bodies, over time. And that with a bit of effort and exercise, you can improve and deepen your own experience.

    I don’t think one has to attend the bottoming classes in order to be tied up. One can do just fine without it. However, I think there is not enough awareness of how much learning actually there is possible if one wants to take rope bottoming seriously and advance on this pathway. I have often heard rope bottoms saying, “I started as a rope bottom, but then I wanted to grow, so I started to tie”. I don’t think that becoming a rigger is the only possibility to grow for the rope bottom. I think there is a lot to learn and to discover on the pathway of “just” being a rope bottom.

    I believe, “good” rope bottoming takes time, practice, and patience. Good, in a sense, that it’s fulfilling, enriching, and deep play – for yourself and your partner. That’s just my personal opinion.

    It is not just something that your rigger brings to you or “does” with you. You, your attitude, your mindset also will affect the session tremendously. You co-create the sessions together with your partner. 

    My teaching for bottoms is not aiming for the “right answer for everybody”, but rather about assisting you to find right answers in your body. We are unique and our reasons, why and how we enjoy the rope, are very different. There is not “one answer fits all” approach. Rather the intention of going deeper with yourself.

    How A Typical First Session Is Like

    The first session in ropes? I guess that can look very different as people are different… there is not really such a thing as a “typical” session I would say. People have very different desires and intentions for playing with ropes. How about instead, I could share my suggestions for those who are new, what they could do to enjoy the first session and avoid having a bad experience.

    Slow down! Learn properly how your body reacts in ropes before increasing the intensity – by going in the air, for instance. Many want to experience the suspension right away. I believe, if you take it slow in the beginning, you grow your self-trust and self-knowledge, that would later allow you to “relax” into and really enjoy the suspension later.

    Go slow, do less. Define what your comfort zone is (the amount of impact that you are pretty sure you can process) and communicate it as your limit. For instance, this sounds to me like a reasonable limit for a very first session: short (10-15 minutes); low intensity: floor work, no suspension; just 1-2 ropes, without gagging and blindfolding. You will get enough of the impact to process, believe me!

    You can always be tied up again, but you won’t be able to reverse something that was too much. Take your time to integrate, up to a few days. You will feel how your body and your mind react, what is happening with you afterwards. 

    Advice For My Rope Bottoming Classes

    Some more advices for the beginners, maybe?..

    Learn from the beginning to show up in the process. I do not mean to take a control of the session. By showing up, I really mean expressing yourself, how you feel, what is happening with you: physically, emotionally.

    Develop your way of expressing yourself depending on what feels natural to you, so that you keep your rigger in the loop as to how you are doing, using your tone of voice, breathing, moaning, making sounds, movements, you can let them know when you are close to the limit. Generally, if you don’t show up in the process, you risk that your partner will do too much or too little…

    Natasha NawaTaNeko is an accomplished rope bottom and educator – together with her partner @discoverkinbaku they teach and perform internationally. In Kinbaku, Natasha is looking for true emotions and authenticity and sees rope bondage as deeply intimate and erotic practice that has also a profound transformational potential. Natasha recently published a book sharing her experience with being tied up: “Somatics for Rope Bottoms”.

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    Websites:

    www.RopeSomatics.com

    www.DiscoverKinbaku.com

    There is a book I wrote about rope bottoming and its potential for personal, intimate self-inquiry: called “Somatics for Rope Bottoms”. The book consists of 12 essays – Somatic Inquiries – inspiring the readers to look for the answers in their own body and re-claim their agency for the most important decisions that come up when we decide to explore kink. The book is available for purchase on Amazon in both Paperback and E-book formats.

    I also offer coaching for rope bottoms if they like to tackle specific topics they are struggling with, also online through Skype. The information can be found on my website RopeSomatics.com

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  • How To Explore My Foot & Shoe Fetish

    How To Explore My Foot & Shoe Fetish

    My personal thoughts towards BDSM and kink: It is about trust, playing with creativeness, allowing you to explore and communicating the needs and desires of your fetish and fantasies to create personalized experiences in a D/s relationship.

    BDSM is not just showing how powerful Dominatrix are, it is about transforming submission into a freedom. A freedom to enjoy and experience this magnificent feeling of submission towards a person whom you don’t know, but trust him/her with your fetish and fantasies.

    How I Started Into The World Of Kink

    It was started when my friend introduced me to a Dominatrix woman based in Singapore, Mistress Airah, and during my training with her, I met this American man at Clarke Quay Bay Singapore. He was into foot and shoe fetishes which before, I had no idea that someone would have this kind of fetish.

    So since then, I started exploring the kink side of me. Studying more about the different kind of fetishes, and how I can execute them during my sessions with him. We get along so well and we travel together and he will buy new shoes and will worship me even in public areas, inside taxis, inside elevators,and restaurants etc.

    I explore kink in more creative ways and any filthy thoughts I think when it comes to his fetish, which are the fetishes I also love and enjoy, which he will do without hesitation.

    My Journey Towards Being A Pro Domme

    My journey was not really easy at first since I was leading a double life as an office lady by day and a Dominatrix by night or during my free time. And even when I started, I felt that I didn’t have the power to transform myself into a Dominatrix, but eventually, I started to love and discover that I had this side of personality that was hidden. Maybe because I was brought up in a very strict and conservative family and every mistake you had there had a punishment and consequence, and even in the school I was studying before.

    My style or way of session is to empower my slave in becoming the other person they want to be. Most of them are nervous, specially the beginners or newbies but I encourage them to release their inner self and fantasies as I am here to guide them every step of the way and I know they are unique and so my sessions should be too so I have to be creative most of the time.

    Foot & Shoe Fetish Misconceptions

    The misconceptions I hear about foot and shoe fetishes specially to a newbie slave who wants to try it or is curious about it, is that they think it’s weird, that they are perverted to have that kind of fetish and they might have a psychological problem.

    But in reality, they are just a person who has a preference like anyone else that happens to be less common than the traditional choices in sexual intercourse. They have this specific object or body part that they need for sexual satisfaction for them to experience pleasure and orgasm while worshiping someones’ feet and shoes.

    How Popular Are Foot & Shoe Fetishes?

    From my experience, since I started offering foot and shoe fetishes sessions way back in 2012 in Singapore and Dubai, or when I travel to Europe. They are becoming more popular as majority of my clients or subs are into foot and shoe fetishes.

    What I like about this fetish is that they see it like a Goddess’ feet that is needed to be worshiped all the time, 24 hours a day. They buy new shoes, new boots, new nail polish, etc. And looking at their eyes while they are under my feet feels incredible, that one part of my body many men adore, care and worship my precious feet. Also, the fact that my beautiful feet are earning some cash for me, can you imagine that?!

    Tips For Beginners

    For someone new and looking to explore foot and shoe fetishes, they must do their own research about it and if they feel they are ready for that, they have a choice to ask their girlfriend, or wife or even contact a pro-Domme offering foot or shoe fetishes for them to experience it to themselves.

    If they have decided to go for a pro-Domme like me, I usually start from the beginning to ask them to kneel and kiss my shoes, let them feel and familiarize with the smell and ask them to remove my shoes. But they should ask me for permission first, so then I know that they are ready to explore more and are ready to surrender and be under my mercy.  

    Don’t Be Afraid To Try It Out!

    My tips to those looking to explore foot and shoe fetishes and understand what this fetish is about is to ask yourself if are you into it or just curious about it. Because you never know what to expect or what can happen to you during a session. You might have some dirty shoes filthy with dog shit and the Mistress will ask you to lick it and yet you might not like it. So make sure you are ready for it and inform the Mistress what are your do’s and don’ts before you will attend the session.

    Most of all, enjoy the process of worshiping womens’ feet because that is the most unexplainable feelings in the world of submission in BDSM.

    Mistress Cruwella – The Asian Dominatrix in Asia, Middle East, UK and Europe. 

    I am your Mistress that can turn you into Sluts, Perverts and can give you two types of pain…One that hurts you and the other that changes you!!

    As much as my profession is about my entertainment and pleasure, I am looking for  men who can crawl before me on a daily basis literally do anything I ask and they can perform like sluts, slaves, sissies or whatever else my dirty mind can think of at any given moment.   

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    Upcoming Tours: I will be in Slovakia and Austria around February 2021 for 1 month. For booking please email me ladywella4u@gmail.com

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  • How To Explore Full Body Lockup Fetish

    How To Explore Full Body Lockup Fetish

    I think that alternative lifestyles and kink are infinitely varied. I belong to the BDSM subculture. I am a lifestyle Mistress and latex outfits lover.

    My personal views are very tolerant to the most alternative lifestyles and kink. If both partners are enjoying, then for me everything looks good.

    You can bring more colors in your life with opening imagination, love and exploring your own body.

    What Are Full Body Lockups?

    Full body lockup is bondage in the BDSM, when a partner cannot move any part of the body, strict physically bondaged in a variety of methods, without any possibilities to release.

    One of my favorite methods is the total rubber enclosure using an inflatable rubber body bag. It is a kind of rubber sleepsack with a sub’s body inside. Each side of the bag you can inflate using a compressor. The body is pressed between inflated rubber sheets and it is not possible to move a centimeter in it. In such games, it is possible to add gas masks, blindfolds, and gags.

    Also, there is an alternative to the inflatable bag. It is the vacuum bed. The body is placed between two rubber sheets, which is fixed on a frame. The slave’s body will be locked up between two latex sheets, and air is sucked out using a suction pump or vacuum cleaner. In using the vacuum bed, the sub’s mouth must have an added tube for breathing.

    Another method of a body lockup is known as the “Mummification”. The body is totally wrapped tight in polyethylene film, and it looks like a mummy. For extra fixation, it is possible to use ropes and a bondage bed.

    There are different types of BDSM furniture and rope bondage which are usable for body lock ups as well.

    Why Subs Love Being Locked Up

    The slave feels weak when being in full body lockup, he/she feels like a prisoner, and he is owned. He/she gives his/her body in total use for the Mistress’s/Master’s desire.

    During such games, the submissive partner can’t think about anything else other than his Mistress and her next action. A blindfold can increase the sensitivity of the body. Obedience, trust, and loyalty are all in the bondaged body.

    What Goes On In A Typical Session

    In most full body lockups, there remains some nude parts of the body, which are very usable, be it the penis, ass or nipples. One can be strictly locked up using chastity cages for the penis, and masks with limitation for breathing.

    I like playing CBT (cock bondage torture), giving tormented pleasure for the partner using different electro toys, sounds, balls stretchers and crushers. Teasing nipples with fingers, soft and nice, and after going harder with nipples clamps. Teasing the ass with anal plugs, speculum, balls, and strap-ons. Sometimes, I can leave the slave for awhile in his tight prison.

    Body lockups and SM games are limited only by your imagination and the possibilities of the slave’s body.

    Safety Precautions To Note

    I think most precautions are necessary for locking body with ropes, because of blood circulation. Do not make it too tight.

    And it is good to have a sharp special knife to cut ropes off.

    What To Expect Before Trying Full Body Lockups

    If the person really is getting horny of the idea to be a prisoner, then he/she should not worry about anything in the first session. With the right suitable Mistress/Master, everything will be great. During such sessions, an exciting connection can happen between Dominant and sub. I never had the experience with tantra, but probably it is something like this, feeling waves and exchanges of energy.

    For curious people, who are searching and exploring one’s self, and they do not have any ideas about their own reaction, I can give a recommendation: always be honest that it is your first time, decide with the Dominant a “magic” word to stop the game, the word which you never will forget, even during a panic attack. Some people can forget it unexpectedly during their first time.

    My name is Alice MissWoW – Lifestyle Mistress for over 10 years. I found my way to professional dominance as a career path in the Netherlands for the last six years. Originally I am Russian.

    I am an unusual fantasy specialist in tight shinny latex outfits. My greatest satisfaction is having total control over my slave’s excitement and orgasm capability. My techniques combine pain with pleasure, giving my slaves a sense of insecurity of not knowing what to expect.

    I have a large collection of BDSM TOYS whips, electro toys, bondage, sounds, training plugs, strap-ons, gags and more.

    Ready For My whips, little man?)

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    Upcoming Works: in during last year everything is a bit different, but I am open for dates in few SM places in the Netherlands, it is in Den Haag and Rotterdam.

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  • How To Serve A Pro Dominatrix Properly

    How To Serve A Pro Dominatrix Properly

    I see BDSM as a sane way to subvert power relations, because in BDSM, there is a very important thing: consent, and it is BDSM only if there is consent, else it is abuse.

    So such exchange is a viable alternative to the non-consensual power structures which permeate our modern world.

    How I Became A Dominatrix

    When I was a teenager, I started to slap my first boyfriend on his face and get turned on by that. I was 15 and didn’t know why I liked that, I didn’t know if it was normal or if there was something wrong with me.

    A bit older, I got in touch with BDSM and realized that that was what I liked and I felt comfortable with the idea that my desires were not following the norms and it was all right. I started to explore it more and more and try different things.

    I became a professional domme because of Dommenique Luxor, she is the biggest dominatrix in Brazil and I always admired her so much, followed her channel on social media and listened to her speeches. She started to teach and I became her student, after that, I was ready to start working.

    My Dominatrix Style

    I am very playful, I like to laugh a lot and make fun while I am playing. I also enjoy moments of silence, I am not the kind of domina that will be talking all the time during a session, and I find silenence important to access other states of mind.

    I also like to play creative games, absurd scenes and perform in situations where my slave can be seen by more people, like outdoors play for example.

    Four Expectations Of My Subs

    Complete devotion, obedience, creativity to please me and trust.

    #1 Rule All Subs Must Follow

    Rule number one is: Don’t do anything without your Mistress’ permission, you must ask first obviously.​

    Remember This Before Submitting

    This is serious business, once you are with a domina, you must be fully present and give yourself totally. There is no such thing as a bit of devotion, either it is completely surrender or it is nothing.

    Mistress Amandara – Perverted, with no traces of morality.

    With a very sadistic side, I am merciless. You will feel my extremely rough approach, as well as my softness and attention to fragility.

    What I like is to see men getting out of their comfort zone, pushing their limits and putting themselves in a grace state of vulnerability. I see endless beauty in this state.

    We will get in touch with our wildest fantasies as a process of getting to our creative source to feed ourselves, returning new and refreshed.

    My radical training will transform your way of being in the world beyond the sessions. Your self-sacrifice will be a demonstration of your devotion and claim for change.

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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Nipple Play

    How To Explore & Enjoy Nipple Play

    First of all, I believe that BDSM is different for everyone and will vary from person to person. In the Dom/sub relationship, communication is essential, it will build a bond based on trust and respect. Therefore, one of my first roles as a Dominant is to pay attention to the words and body language of the submissives to know how far they can go.

    As for kinky, for me, kinky means going beyond standard forms of sexual expression.

    What Is Nipple Play?

    Nipple torture is a BDSM activity in which the dominant partner causes pain or intense stimulation of the submissive partner’s breasts. We are aware of how sensitive our nipples are and how intense pleasure can be achieved when we take care of them properly.

    We are also aware that these nipples are for something. From this analogy, a natural question arises: if these “two little ones” are already there, perhaps we can deal with them somehow?

    Why Me & My Subs Love Nipple Play

    A good nipple play session always excites me. I love it when my subjects give in to nipple experiments (this gives me an impetus to experiment)…

    Since the nipples are erogenous zones, the sensation of torturing the nipples is said to be pain mixed with pleasure.

    Favorite Nipple Play Props

    My favorite games include nipple clamps and flogging. The recipient of such activities may receive direct physical pleasure through masochism, emotional pleasure through erotic humiliation or the knowledge that the game is pleasing to a sadistic dominant.

    One Tip For Beginners

    If someone is just starting to play with their nipples, start by using their hands. This is the most basic way to tease. Breast tissue is usually more sensitive and can hurt quickly.

    Mistress Nadia – Hi. My name is Nadja. Polish-Russian blood flows in my veins. I am a very experienced woman with style and my own label. I am a lady who, despite her innocent nature, has a devil and an angel on her shoulders.

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  • What To Know About Slut Training

    What To Know About Slut Training

    Kink and alternative lifestyles are a wonderful way to sexually explore your likes. Therapeutic for some and it’s interactive entertainment. I have always beaten to my own drum and when I discovered so many alternative lifestyles, I immediately thought, now this is me seeing people live the way they want to live safely that I’m always for. 

    What Is Slut Training?

    Slut training consists of a Dominant partner teaching the submissive to behave in an overtly sexual manner, from their clothing, behavior and mindset. While some may see being a slut as a negative, slut training encourages very promiscuous behavior. 

    Reasons For Undergoing Slut Training

    Most subs just want a feeling of being used. They want to let all inhibitions go and just please and serve being a toy for pleasure. 

    My Domme Style

    I’m a natural sensual dominant who specializes in  mental / psychological sadism.

    Slut training is a highly mental training, and you are shifting ones’ mindset on how to behave. Most submissives undergoing slut training are going to be reluctant, embarrassed and shamed at times. I always help to make sure they overcome these emotions and sometimes use them for humiliation. 

    A Typical Slut Training Session

    First and foremost, all of my sessions start with a brief reminder of RACK (risk-aware consensual kink) and a safe word is established. 

    I don’t have a typical training because each session is based on what I feel the submissive needs. So it can be focusing on learning how to properly suck cock, to undergoing intense slut training hypno. 

    What To Expect From Your First Session

    You should know that while you are expected to oblige your Dominants commands, you should always partake slut training with who you feel comfortable with. You will usually be learning and trying things you never experienced and want to feel safe and have an open mind. 

    Empress Katana – Enchanting Queer Dominant. I pride myself in creating safe kink spaces both online and in person.

    I’m currently not touring due to the pandemic. 2021 I will return to traveling starting with Los Angeles and then all over Europe. 

    Not Your Babe is a brand I’m creating featuring sex worker positive apparel and work related items. 

    Feel free to check out my link.tree/EmpressKatana and main site AllHailKatana.com for more information about me, my BDSM lifestyle and events. 

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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Watersports Play

    How To Explore & Enjoy Watersports Play

    I’m thankful to exist in a world/time where certain lifestyles and sexualities aren’t considered taboo. I’ve lived both sides, the vanilla lifestyle and my sex work lifestyle, and on both sides of the fence I never feel judged. I think that says a lot about society’s acceptance of alternative lifestyles and kink. 

    How Did You Learn To Squirt?

    LOL I don’t think anyone learns how to squirt. I was in a very complicated engagement a couple of years ago, the physical attraction was lost and I felt like my pussy was “dead” metaphorically speaking. While I was single, a girlfriend of mine gifted me a cute rechargeable bullet.

    After months without any sex, one day in the parking lot of a local grocery store I decided to give myself pleasure. I had never been comfortable with masturbating but I was desperate from so many months without sex. I squirted all over the car in embarrassment. I’m not sure why it was embarrassing before but now I love it and I love masturbating. 

    Why I Love Squirting

    The thing I love most about squirting is that I can only squirt when I’m extremely relaxed and in absolute pleasure. It’s almost like heaven. It’s my biggest stress reliever to just sneak away for a moment and please my body.

    Once my pussy squirts I feel tired, dizzy, hungry, and adrenaline all at once. I have trouble sleeping most nights but a nice squirting orgasm can cure the insomnia in an instant. 

    Why Men Enjoy Watersports

    Most of the men that enjoy squirting are submissive in some way. Either that or they’re trying to execute something from their bucket-list LOL. Some are so vanilla that they don’t even realize they’re subs. They will meet my every need and or command just for a chance to get their face/body soaked by Miss Trina. I give them just what they need but not without making them drool first.

    Preparing For A Watersports Session

    You would think that I would have some type of set up ready but fortunately, I enjoy the impromptu clean up after I squirt. Generally I keep a towel close by but that’s only after the first round. I like to keep it spontaneous, maybe he will catch it all in his mouth so we don’t need the towel LOL.

    One of my favorite lovers would hurry to the bathtub and lay down in it with me standing over him squirting uncontrollably. There’s really no way to prepare. 

    What To Expect For First Timers

    One of the biggest myths about squirting is that the liquid is urine and it really isn’t. Before I became a squirter, I didn’t know whether it was urine or not. I didn’t really believe that it was possible for someone’s pussy to squirt but I made a girlfriend of mine squirt and that was the first time I found out that what I saw in the porn shows wasn’t fake.

    It also wasn’t urine. It doesn’t taste like anything to me. If you are with a woman who squirts, you are a special kind of lucky. 

    I’m Katrina. I have light gray/blue eyes and nice natural DDs.  I’m 5’6” 140lbs of exotic beauty. Art keeps my attention along with the right man. I am selective but very easy to please. If you can make me laugh We’ll probably hit it off. Planning a trip to Miami? spend time indoors, go on dinner dates, or a night club and anything else we want to keep us both satisfied.

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