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  • What To Know About Chastity

    What To Know About Chastity

    I have always been an “alternative” thinker. I’d say I was around age 19 when I acknowledged my own kinkiness and started to explore BDSM. Those were rough years; I had a lot of healing to do and in a major way, kink was an elemental tool in my own empowerment. Kink is really about expanding the realm of pleasure and expression and to me, it became a path that led me to finding myself and creating my own happiness.

    I remember that growing up, I’d imagine eventually I’d drop out of mainstream society and live differently and I’m fortunate my passion for kink provided an inlet to do that. Through kink, I’ve not only found empowerment, pleasure, and financial stability for myself, I’ve made incredible relationships and deep bonds with people I’d otherwise never meet. In this realm, we’re working with authentic desire, which means our authentic selves. It’s beautiful.

    What Is Chastity?

    A male chastity cage or belt is a specially designed device placed over the shaft and head of the penis. Once on, it is locked (and the key given to a designated “key holder”) to prevent full erections. While locked up, you cannot masturbate or have penetrative sex, and the cage should only be removed by your key holder.

    When a man is in chastity, one of the more common side effects is he becomes more attentive. He becomes very sexually focused on his keyholder and nothing else. This happens because he knows his release is controlled by this person, so the focus tends to shift to that one person. When he becomes aroused, he will feel the cage or belt against his penis. It can be anything from a gentle reminder to a vicelike grip. And whenever this happens, his mind automatically turns to the key holder.

    Why Do Men Enjoy Chastity?

    Being caged can be very exciting and fulfilling. I think many men enjoy it because they like the way it feels emotionally. They’ve given up a level of control to someone and they don’t have to decide anymore (this can make a submissive feel quite safe.)

    Likewise, others enjoy the way it feels physically.  With chastity, there’s a feeling of enclosure, every part or the cock is completely encased, enclosed. It reinforces that kinky headspace!

    Some men just enjoy having a woman control their sexual behavior. One of the biggest influences is the tease and denial aspect. This tension increases as the sub realizes there’s literally nothing he can do about it. He’s forced to savor the moment rather than racing to orgasm.

    Why I Love It

    The power a key can give me is both physical and psychological. Chastity affirms me that my submissives cannot engage in active penetrative sex. Instead they’ll be more focused and attentive to me. There’s certainly a feminization aspect to it as well that I really like. I like that they can’t stand up and use the toilet. It’s kinda smashing the hetero-patriarchy in a way.

    Mostly I enjoy the feeling of having power over my counterpart. By wearing the keys, I’m constantly reminded of that power. The continual heightened state of dominance – that’s what I crave.

    Types Of Chastity Cages

    There are, in fact, several designs to meet various needs or levels of play. (Open-ended, caged, partially closed, completely closed, metal, silicone plastic, etc.) There aren’t any definitive names – each brand or company makes their own. This is definitely something you want to spend a lot of time researching and there are many websites that can guide you.

    What Subs Should Know Before Exploring Chastity

    Communication is going to be key (pun intended.) In my experiences, chastity is a long-term game. For most of my subs in chastity devices, it’s a 24/7 affair-literally around the clock.

    If you’re not capable of remaining in a submissive headspace for more than a few hours-you should ask your partner, before the padlock clicks shut, just how long they intend to keep you locked.

    Witchy Woman – I’m an collector of chastity keys and coffee mugs. Florida lifestyle and online Dominatrix.

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  • What To Know About Findom

    What To Know About Findom

    I am myself a kinkster, and love exploring different fetishes and kinks. Leading a dual life is fun. Usually vanilla life is mundane and not so spicy, but when it comes to the kinky alternative lifestyle, where one doesn’t need to restrict his or her desires, is simply stupendous.

    I really love leading a dominant lifestyle, 24*7 but apart from that when I have a little me-time, I don’t mind exploring different fetishes myself and exploring my sexuality and being really adventurous!

    Why I Enjoy Financial Domination

    Financial domination for me is the real exchange of power. In today’s materialistic world, where everything is ascertained in terms of worth or monetary value, when a submissive surrender his finances to me, that’s the ultimate submission! No D/s relationship or bonding would be complete, unless it has the element of financial domination in it.

    Simply put, financial domination or findom is a fetish where a submissive will give away his money to financial dominant, in the form of gifts, tributes or just cash. Findom is just money fetish, wherein one can find the exchange of money and power, which immensely turns a submissive on. We call the submissives in a findom relationship paypig, cashcow, human atm, finsub to name a few. The submissive gives away his money and power, without getting anything in return.

    I certainly love and cherish the power exchange, the submissive giving in and letting me control such an important aspect of his life – finances! That’s really something which I love about the entire financial domination concept.

    Why Findom Is Popular Today

    With time, submissive men are really understanding the concept of domme-sub relationship. It is no longer confined to punishment tasks and dungeons and infliction of pain. A dungeon is not the only place or set up where men would like to lose control, underneath a latex clad domme’s high heels! A man would also like to lose control of himself to the hot brat next door, in casual outfits or something skimpy like bikini, who will just take all of his money, drain him dry, and not even touch his body once.

    The fact that a findom relationship can be tried just virtually/online without the need to meet the domme, unless it’s a cash meet which is done physically, is a great way to just test out the water before venturing further. Many paypigs are actually powerful and respected people outside this findom world, so some might even be wary of meeting on the first go, so findom is the perfect choice overall.

    Misconceptions About Findom

    There are many many misconceptions about financial domination. I am going to put down a few which i think are absolutely myths, with no truths in them whatsoever.

    It’s so easy for a young lady to pose as a findomme and earn money, since many men are so weak to give her money – It’s not at all so. Even today, though financial domination is gaining popularity, men like to masturbate to the fact that a powerful woman is taking away his money, leaving him powerless, but would not really go ahead and give it a shot in real life by exchanging money in reality. I still get many ‘roleplay’ requests to play findomme-paypig, without them really doing anything which would fall under the category of true financial domination.

    Manipulating a person’s mind and really making him a paypig is nothing but hard work and requires skill.

    Findomme training courses – That’s utter rubbish! There is no one way of becoming a findomme. There is not even one method of gaining or acquiring paypigs. Different submissives will have different preferences, so if one tries to copy another famous and successful findomme thinking they will succeed, it would not be long, that he or she would fail! Originality is the key.

    Fan following matters – Not always. Some of the best paypigs I had previously, were when I really had very less fan following on the social media. A submissive will not notice how popular you are or how many people liked your pictures or posts, if your approach of domination seems right to him, no matter how less of fans you have, he will give in his wallet. But definitely when a lot of people are following a domme, the chances of having more paypigs in the list of fan following are high.

    You can lead a lavish lifestyle based on just financial domination – Not always true! People who are real paypigs, are less, very less in number. So unless you really have some other avenue to earn from, you can’t really lead even a decent life just by financially dominating men. Yes, there might be a few findommes who claim to lead their lavish lifestyle on findomme alone, but still there would be some sort of side business like providing sessions in real time or skype, or even content creating.

    Overnight rags to riches findomme stories – That’s what we call findomme bragging. Not true! Success does not come so easy, and never over night. Years of hard work has to be put in, to really be successful as a financial dominant. The overnight success stories, will have some other big story behind the black screen, so never go by what you see online!

    The younger you are, more successful you are – Not always. There are many findommes who are matured and not in their early twenties, but yet laughing their way to bank. Age is just a number, what matters is her presence. Also the unique way of communicating with her fans and submissives and getting them under her control – that’s usually a skill and requires bit of time to develop.

    Findom is no work – Financial domination is actually a lot of work. May not be when you actually get a paypig to rinse, but you have to put in your time, effort and be consistent in order to get paypigs to actually contact you. Supply exceeds by million times, when it comes to demand of findoms, so there is a lot of competition definitely. If one is not working at all, and thinks findom is all play and no work, is definitely relying only on luck and that may not eventually turn out to be good luck until some one puts in all the effort.

    Incorporating Findom Into My Lifestyle

    I am a dominant woman always. So be it my vanilla life, or alternative lifestyle, I like to manipulate men to give in to me and submit themselves totally which would also include their finances. Personally, I can’t think of any relationship with a man which would not be based on money. I love the way I take money away from a paypig and giving him nothing in return. Sometimes. I also love controlling orgasms of a man, based on his spending towards me.

    Favorite Findom Ideas

    We, financial dominants have different ways of dominating and controlling wallets. All are unique and I think all the ideas that I previously had, changed over time. I really believe in working hard and putting in effort on all the avenues of earning, rather than relying on paypigs. Usually paypigs have the tendency to cut contact after a period of time and they might even relapse, but the focus should not be on the paypigs or submissives, but on myself, always. That’s what I do, and keeps me going.

    Princess Pramila – I am a financial dominatrix from Kolkata, India. I am also a fetish and femdom clip and content maker, and provide femdom sessions and prodomme services. Being naturally dominant and very kinky really helps me to lead a dominant lifestyle 24*7 even outside of sessions. I love taking money from men, and teasing them, leaving them with nothing. My biggest fantasy is to ruin a man so well that he would have no point of return. I love watching big grown up men cry. Besides findom, I also enjoy humiliating, degrading men. I also like to play blackmail games with some of my submissives, and i believe in total power exchange and complete enslavement of men.

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  • How To Worship A Goddess

    How To Worship A Goddess

    “An artist is someone who can hold two opposing viewpoints and still remain fully functional.” I believe that there is an artist in all of us kinky creatures. The kinks / alternative lifestyles unleash the alter ego within us, and with a healthy balance between vanilla and alternatives, they keep us function better.

    I see alternative lifestyles as very much about power exchange. When you hand over the control and let go of yourself to someone you trust and like, you release the tension in your day to day life and enter another realm of enjoyment.

    What Goddess Worship Involves

    In the most straightforward sense, worshipping a goddess involves worshipping her body and her wearings, such as kissing her feet, heels, boots, stockings, gloves, panties.

    Apart from the basics, a slave would worship even the floor the goddess steps on, the cigarette she smokes, and the fluids from her body, etc.

    In a broader sense, worshipping a goddess doesn’t have to be in a session. Buying her gifts, treating her to a meal, a drink, a holiday, being her chauffeur, doing tasks for her – things that genuinely adds value and/or enjoyment to her life can all be considered worshipping her.

    Worshipping a goddess is giving / doing for her what she loves, in true form of servitude.

    For example, travelling is one of the many many things I love. I go for private trips with my slaves every now and then. Treating me to a holiday and serving me along the way makes me feel worshipped, and makes them special for me. I also love massages, so I allow some of my slaves to massage my body either in and outside of sessions (they have to learn the professional techniques, otherwise I will teach them the hard way in the session). I find my body is better worshipped this way than having the slave licking my feet (the latter is more about degradation for the slave over enjoyment for my feet, although I love to have my feet worshipped in all sorts of ways).

    Why Goddess Worship Is Popular

    For the domme, being worshipped is satisfying. she received the pleasure, and knows that she has the power and she is admired.

    For the sub, to worship is to show his submission to his domme. For a submissive man, the feeling of  letting go of his own sense of self and giving to  / pleasing the lady he adores is indulging.

    Typical Types Of Worships

    In sessions, worshipping feet, butt, and any other parts of the body that she allows, heels / boots, stockings, fetishwears.

    Outside of sessions, gifts, trips, and dining.

    What Subs Should Know Before Worshipping A Goddess

    Know her preference – such as which part of the body she likes to be worshipped more / most. How she likes to be worshipped. Whether she prefers the sub to be shaved.

    Know her limits – which parts she doesn’t allow contact.

    Shower and clean thoroughly before getting close to the goddess.

    Asking for permission before the act is always a good sub etiquette.

    Mistress Yui – I am an adventurer in sexuality and domination. Gifted with beauty and in constant pursuit of higher power and finer things. I put men in their place, and free their spirits. Above all, I am fun, mostly harmless!

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  • Ways To Explore Domination

    Ways To Explore Domination

    My personal view towards kink is that it’s healthy, natural, and fun.  Kink is a journey of perpetual self-discovery and exploration.  It’s a constructive way to delve into the complicated twists of your psyche, experience, and sexuality; while finding meaningful ways to connect with other people.

    Why I Love Domination

    I love the power that is created and shared between dominant and submissive.  It’s almost like a magical dance with all participants sharing the created energy.  The dominant getting to feel the control of steering the session and the submissive getting to explore their personal sexual boundaries.  I really get off on making kinky people’s darkest dreams come to life.

    Favorite Domination Activities

    I love to do just about everything, but if I had to pick a favorite, I’d say the psychological side of domination.  While manacles and other bondage have their joys, the mind is the sexiest weapon in anyone’s arsenal.  I love sissification/crossdressing, pet training and roleplay.

    Common Misconceptions About Domination

    The one that seems to appear often is that Dominants are always mean.  When you really look into the real traits of a Dominant, they’re those of a truly nurturing figure.  It’s one of the reasons I love to play “Dommy-Mommy” roles. Mother figures are the first true Dominant figures in our lives, but their true character is someone who lets us explore our world in safety.

    Tips To Explore Kink & Domination

    Education is vital.  Learn as much as you can about kink first, as it lets you play without the risk of physical, mental or emotional harm.  Most major cities will have at least one group where you can be educated and build your experience.  Kink is much like every other aspect of our lives; knowledge is power.

    Larkin Love – SFW Twitter of adult star & fetish expert

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  • The Strangest Fetishes that can be found on the Web

    The Strangest Fetishes that can be found on the Web

    Welcome to the Internet! Whilst it is one of the greatest archives of human knowledge in assistance, once you go to the Adult Section of this archive, you will find that it cesspool of dirty kinks. These kinks are usually dominated by Rule 34, aka. the idea that if it exists then there will be porn of it. Whilst you may be used to the idea of some of the weirder things out there, like foot fetishes and diaper fetishes, there are other kinks that may have been outside of your knowledge, or maybe things you just did not want to know about. Here are some of the most obscure kinks that can only be understood through research on the internet.

    Agalmatophilia

     Sexual Arousal to Statues

    When it comes admiring art, Agalmatophilia takes this to a whole new level. Whilst you may think that this may just include ogling a number of Greek statues with their curves and breasts fully displayed, it also references naked dolls and mannequins. Whilst some just feel sexual arousal to these sort of body-shaped objects, there are others who indulge in the paralysis fetish and actually feel like they have fallen in love with the statues. This includes one 40-year-old woman who fell in love with a three-foot statue of the Greek God Adonis. She bought the statue for £395 and treats him like a living companion. These actions include reading and talking to him, kissing and caressing him and even eating dinner with him.

    The feelings of arousal and intimacy can come from the idea of seeing human perfection in an inanimate object. They have the perfect body, therefore the owner can envision their own personality and attributes around them.

    Brat Play

    Sexual Arousal to Disobeying the Instructions of the Dominative Partner

    This mostly refers to the idea of Sub/Dom play, where the “brat” (aka. the sub) purposefully disobeys the dom in order to get their “negative attention.” Of Course, this negative attention usually ends with them being sexually punished until the obey the command. Usually, depending on how extreme the sub/dom relationship is, the punishments will also get more sexual/extreme the more that the sub disobeys.

    Daddy Kink

    Sexual Arousal to a Dominative Male Partner

    Now, this is a kink that is relatively straight forward. It is the idea of calling a dominative partner “Daddy” during sex as an act of submission. Usually, it can accompany the submissive partner being spanked or sexually pleasured until they say it.

    Feederism

    Sexual Arousal to either being fed or doing the feeding

    This tends to fall under the idea of Fat Fetishism. Usually, there tend to be two participants in this act. One is the feeder, who cooks the meals and feeds the other, and the feedee, the one who eats the food. The main object is to make the feedee gain weight. Both are interested in either being (or being with) a larger partner. However, the extremity of the feeding relationship tends to depend on the couple. Some are happy with simply gaining a few pounds whilst others take it to the extreme and attempt to gain intimacy from helping their partner become obese. This may even get to the point where the feedee becomes fully dependent on the feeder for daily tasks.

    Katoptronophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Mirrors

    You have heard of the story of Narcissus before, but you probably have not heard of Katoptronophilia! Though both link to the idea of being turned on to an image of yourself, the idea of sexual arousal in front of a mirror also allows for your partner to join in on the fun. Whether it is a long-term boy/girlfriend, a quick hook up or even one of the gorgeous Croydon Escorts, this kink tends to be a little more time, as it entails that you can watch yourself enjoy being pleasured, but it can also be a great ego booster. No longer do you need to watch porn to indulge your kinks, instead, you can be the pornstar in your own personal mirror show!

    Knismolagnia

    Sexual Arousal to Tickling

    If you go on the weird side of DeviantArt, this is a fetish that is normally captured by artists that reside in a fanbase. Whilst it may sound weird that tickling someone could cause sexual arousal, it is a form of sensation play that can bring a couple together. It is also the feeling of domination that can arrive from being at the mercy of someone else, especially if the “ticklee” is tied up and cannot stop the “tickler.” This is something that can also involve tickle machines and play objects, such as feathers (which leads to a different kink, known as “Pteronphilia”) and soft whips.

    Macrophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Giantess Sex

    If a person is a macrophiliac, then you will find that they are extremely attracted to someone who is extremely large in comparison to themselves. They may find themselves extremely turned on by the idea of giants or being stepped on by the giant themselves.

    Psellismophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Stuttering

    When it comes to kinks, this may be a smaller one, but it truly proves that if it exists in the universe then you can create a sexual fetish out of it. But some people really do get excited over the idea of people stuttering. Whilst it can just be the idea of stuttering in general, it can also be a sexy submission tactic which can turn on the dom.

    Stygiophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Damnation and Hell

    Whilst this is a more abstract kink, it is more common than you think, as it is an attraction to the idea of “sinful” sex being able to send them to hell. Whilst the sex does not excite the user, the idea of damnation certainly does. A person with this kink may feel excited about the idea of sex taking place whilst being surrounded by heat and flames. They may also be heavily into Pecattiphilia, which is the idea where sexual arousal can come from the committing of sin and the experience of guilt.

    Ursusagalmatophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Teddy Bears

    When it comes to Teddy Bears, there are some people who want to do a lot more than just cuddling them! Take, for instance, Charles Marshall, an Ohio Resident, who was arrested four times for having intercourse with a teddy bear in a public place. In this case, it is most likely to keep your sexual activities hidden in the bedroom.

    Yiffing

    Sexual Arousal within the Furry Community

    If you are a regular visitor to the internet, you must know about Furries. Furries are people who are anthropomorphized animals enthusiasts. The animals have human characteristics and the furries tend to enjoy dressing up as them. They will use their created character online as a “fursona” and even go to conventions in a “pursuit.” This is the same for “Scalies”, except the furry animal personal is replaced with a reptile persona.

    Whilst this is a normal part of the internet, there has been controversy around the idea of “Yiffing”. Yiffing refers to sexual activity that happens amongst fursuiters, the name is created from the sound that foxes make during sex. This can involve furry pornography, cybersexing with other furries and even fully having sex in fursuits.

    Whilst the act of sex itself is not controversial, the fact that some furries were known for their sexual acts in public and in their convention hotels gave them a bad reputation. Although not all furries act in this manner, as some make it extremely clear that they are not interested in the sexual side of the fandom, some furries even go so far as to do cam sessions or sexy photo shoots whilst they are in their costumes.

    Zelophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Jealousy

    Although some couples are happy to indulge in the occasional swinging affair, there are other couples who actually get aroused from feeling jealous. This can be just from their partner flirting with someone else to actually watching them have sex with someone else!

    Get your Freak on!

    As the saying goes, “to each his own”, meaning that when it comes to sexual kinks and fantasies, everyone is an individual and is interested in their own kind of kicks. Whilst some may more extreme than others, we cannot deny that the internet is a dirty place. It brings forth some of the strangest kinks that we have never had previously assumed were even a thing. Try not to judge the kinks too harshly for, who knows, you might end up indulging in one in the future!

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Wrestler

    What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Wrestler

    I knew I was going to be a part of the alternative and kinky fetish lifestyle for quite sometime. I went to college in the Greater New York area and was dabbling into various BDSM through modeling, art, and clubs since I was 21 so finding those with the same mindset was essential in my life as I love to feel this bliss and spread that feeling to others also.

    What Does Fetish Wrestling Involve?

    Fetish wrestling is having a kink for fighting and typically mixed with whatever fetish you are interested in (tickling, messy, bondage, etc). It is mixed between using actual martial arts (BJJ, Judo, Karate, etc.) techniques and strength (i.e. headscissors, pins, submissions, etc.). It can include ropes, oil, jello, mud, etc. and usually ends with some form of punishment (spanking, feet worshipping, camel clutching, hogtying, etc.)

    Why People Love Fetish Wrestling

    They love exploring the fetish and fighting for the win. The dominant one obviously aiming to punish as the submissive one is usually aiming to get punished. The dynamics for this is different as it depends on what rules and regulations pertains and is agreed upon prior to the match.

    How Did You Become A Fetish Wrestler?

    I got into it via Doom Maidens which are known for their bondage wrestling. I realized how much I was into it and they held (and still do) different classes to train for safety and techniques. They hold monthly meetings to talk about what we can do to improve with our skills as well as kept up to date with current (fetish) wrestling events.

    Misconceptions About Fetish Wrestling

    The most common misconception when people know I am a fetish wrestler is “Ultimate Surrender” type match which is also in the realm of fetish wrestling but usually ends with someone being vaginally/anally penetrated at the end. That is not what I do nor offer as many have limits. My hard limits are no penetration, masturbation, or any exchange in bodily fluids/urine/faeces so please DO NOT reach out to me for this type of session/production.

    Tips To Try Fetish Wrestling For The First Time

    Do your research and make sure you take the time out to find out who your ideal sessiongirl would be. Pay for your clips and your sessions accordingly as we work our asses off to make sure you get to fulfill your fantasy on camera or in person with the proper techniques and training.

    After you pick your ideal sessiongirl and if correspondence goes well and communication is clear, be honest to her so you can get your money’s worth on the dream session you are looking for which hopefully gets you to want to explore it some more.

    Kim Chi – Funsize and feisty little Asian firecracker originating out of the Greater New York Area and relocated to the Nation’s Capital. I am a professional switch (dom/sub) that travels for hire. I am a jill of most trades so if you need front end, back end, or inbetween end work — I am here.

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  • What To Know About Domestic Discipline & Spanking

    What To Know About Domestic Discipline & Spanking

    I believe that kink is part of the human condition, maybe even integral to life itself. All the way back to bacteria in the primordial soup. Kink is an expression of life’s longing for variation. Everything being relative, all lifestyles are an alternative to something. Even that nuclear family aesthetic they pushed in the 50’s wasn’t ever “normal” and now I know several couples who live out those so-called traditional gender roles as part of their kinky alternative lifestyle.

    What Does Domestic Discipline Involve?

    Domestic discipline actually ties in very nicely with the 50’s aesthetic; the bread-winner husband comes home to find the home-maker wife burnt dinner and puts her over his knee for a sound spanking, that’s hot!

    Equally as hot would be hubby coming home and admitting that he didn’t get that raise he promised and ending over his wife’s knee. Although I’ve seen role plays of being punished by mom or dad under the heading of domestic discipline, I feel that it is mostly a dynamic of two people who share a domicile where one is the disciplinarian over the other.

    Why Subs Enjoy Being Disciplined

    This is such a complicated question, specifically when it comes to spanking, because it definitely occupies the same part of the brain as sex, but isn’t necessarily sexual for every sub. Some people who are “into” spanking were never spanked as a child and attribute the desire to experiencing something they missed out on, while others were spanked regularly and attribute it to that.

    Also, the word “enjoy” is not exactly right, because I’ve known subs to say that while they are being spanked they aren’t enjoying it but, at the same time, they don’t want it to stop because it’s what they need or deserve. “Why do subs desire being disciplined?” Or, even better, feel a “need” to be disciplined, is the question. As with many activities that fall under the BDSM heading, spanking has an element of power exchange.

    Giving your will over to someone in authority, who has your best interest at heart and is just giving you the direction you need via a good long spanking, is comforting in a way.

    Favorite Forms Of Punishment

    I really like to have a sub over my knees. I like to feel the tension in their body rise and fall as the spanking progresses. I like to feel their bodies shake with the strain of holding themselves in position while enduring their punishment, and then, finally, to feel them relax as they give in, that’s the best.

    Why Is Spanking Appealing To Both Parties?

    The first thing that comes to mind for me is “control”, giving it over and/or having control over someone. I think when being spanked myself, I ultimately want the person spanking me to be in charge. Of course, whenever you’re playing with anyone, consent is king and checking in is very important. But for me, I wouldn’t be over your knee if I didn’t trust you and wasn’t ready to get the spanking I deserve.

    Favorite Spanking Items!

    I always like to start with my hand. I give a very hard hand spanking. I’ve been told that my hand feels like a paddle. Although I have many implements that are designed specifically for spanking, I like to use things that can be found around the house like hair brushes, bath brushes, wooden spoons and belts. As far as being spanked, it’s pretty much the same.

    Ways To Kink Up Spanking Play

    Oh sure! You can add rope play, blind folds, tickling… Enemas are popular in some circles, especially making a sub hold it in during a spanking. Forced orgasm while being spanked is a fun variation.

    Just use your imagination and happy spanking!

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  • A Foodplay Session

    A Foodplay Session

    A Foodplay Session In Hong Kong

    I had exchanged some messages with R., whom I thought was an expatriate, given his name. I was in no hurry to meet him because, after a correspondence of several days, I noticed that he was in high demand, and someone acting with too much haste doesn’t get the same result from me. Also, someone listening to his own impulses at the expense of exchange doesn’t attract me. Nevertheless, I went there out of curiosity, willing to amuse myself. I didn’t show any desire to participate in the outdoor play fantasy he mentioned, a right I reserve to the submissives I already know.

    We had an appointment on a Wednesday of March at teatime in a hotel in Central. On the menu of the session, some practices for which we shared the craze: golden shower, foodplay and possibly shaving. I did not shave him for a good reason: the rest of the session was entertaining enough.

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    At the door, the young Chinese man might have read the surprise on my face. His face looked much more youthful than 39 years old, half of it spent in Canada, the other half in Hong Kong. During a preliminary discussion, he mentioned his outdoor play fantasy again, and being sensitive to his positive energy, thinking that it could be funny, I accepted to play outside the next time we will meet, after my next trip to Shanghai. It seemed to excite him to the highest degree; however being watched by some potential witnesses also seemed quite scary for him: the conservatism of some Hong-Kong people might be a problem for the two perverse children that we are, and we could get into serious trouble. He seemed to enjoy playing attack and defense in a friendly match between being passionate and reasonable. His rhetoric didn’t convince me to make any decision regarding these activities. Therefore I concluded that we will leave room for improvisation next time, and not try to achieve any goal, any ideal session; this attitude might actually hinder the pleasure of these “forbidden games”. As expected for this foodplay session, R. had brought some small cupcakes for me to eat, or to be exact, to chew and spit on him. A banana, two cakes, and an ice cream were waiting for their conviction.

    Grabbing my leather handcuffs, I tied his hands in his back, threw him on the bed and straddle him. I began to tear his T-shirt apart brutally and to stuff his mouth with the pieces of tissue crushed in my hand. Surprise and fright suddenly appeared on his ephebe face, and I felt the desire to capture the moment. He accepted my request. I still remember this lovely face, even if my phone would disappear in a plane from Shanghai to Hong Kong a few days later, and with it, some photos from different BDSM sessions in Hong Kong.

    Time for some ice cream. Dipping a spoon into the cup, I started melting the cream into my mouth and spat it on his face, conscientiously. Soon, his eyes, nose, and mouth were covered of a thin layer of cream – I had spared his jet-black hair. Then I dropped his pants on his knees with authority, a gesture that I usually perform during a session of discipline, before a corporal punishment. This time I had the feeling that I was on the verge of sexually assaulting a very innocent young ephebe face… BDSM practices enable us to satisfy fantasies in a caring environment or to become aware of some hidden inclinations naturally… Standing on the bed, my feet on either side of his chest, I spat again and spread other ice cream chunks on his plexus. The bed quickly resembled a turbulent child’s room, littered with torn clothes, crushed ice and soon yellow stains. I threw some pieces of lemon cake on the floor, as I would have fed a wild dog, except that this dog had his hands tied behind his back and shreds of clothes miserably hanging on his body. The dog did not seem happy to crawl on the floor, pants down on his ankles.

    I told him to crawl to the shower and lie on his back. I spread my legs above his face. “Open your mouth and swallow!” He told me afterward that it was the first time he had drunk this way. It surprised me because of the ease with which he executed my order. The bathroom became the backdrop of some photography I took from him and parts of his body: his hair, his eyes that stared at me, and his incredible hands, as thin and graceful as most women’s hands.

    The shower tray was full of different mixtures made of cakes, liquid ice cream, and body liquids, to which I added a banana that I started crushing under my feet. Picking up the pieces, my toes dipped in and disappeared into his lips, then his tongue licked and swallowed my foot meticulously – I did not know if I was dealing with a young slave captive of my perverted games, or with a loyal and obedient dog.

    Time out of time, out of everything, as only BDSM plays can set out: we then started sharing about our personal experiences, following the thread of our fantasies, while I was still standing above him, alternating the proximity of my toes in front of his face, which he kept on worshipping with dedication.

    His first experience was in Toronto when a friend of his had scheduled a meeting with him in a BDSM bar. He did not know this last detail. It was, in fact, an ambush: three to four women, probably dominatrixes, had tied him up and tore off his clothes until he was naked in front of them. To my question, he replied that he did not know at that moment if he appreciated the experience of embarrassment. It was once the action was accomplished and processed that he had wished to feel the thrill of disgrace again – and had to acknowledge that he was one of “them,” these BDSM players.

    At the end of the session, I set up one of my favorite little game, which I enjoy declining in diverse variations. In front of a square of toilet paper, in front of his knees, he had to cum while respecting the stopwatch. The dice that I always keep in my bag turned into a stopwatch: he rolled it and found three. Three exact minutes and not a drop out of the square of paper. I tied his frail, slender thumbs together to make this task a little more difficult. After a minute, I could not restrain myself from bursting out laughing: his enjoyment had rudely snubbed the square of paper and lied on the floor, at least thirty centimeters away. He seemed astonished and disappointed that he could not respect my constraints: he really believed that he had reached the right timing.

    We decided to meet again for our outdoor session once I would be back from Shanghai. In the meantime, I will lose my phone on the Shanghai plane, and with it all my data and the photographs of my sessions. However, all my BDSM sessions of these first few months in Hong Kong have been written in my diary, including this one.

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  • Exploring One’s Fetishes & Kinks

    Exploring One’s Fetishes & Kinks

    My personal thoughts on kinks and fetishes is, don’t ever be afraid or ashamed of what turns you on. We all have at least one thing that is not socially acceptable. As long as you are being safe and have a willing partner, the sky is the limit.

    My Interest In Kink

    My interest in kink started very early on and if I had to pinpoint one thing, I would have to say I have always had a thing for older men.

    Top Fetishes Of Mine

    I don’t really have any one fetish I like above anything else. I have been in the lifestyle for many years so have had the pleasure of exploring anything that caught my attention. I love being a dominatrix though. The exhilaration of being in charge of someone else’s pleasure while exerting my natural dominance in whatever I do.

    One Important Tip Before Exploring A Fetish

    When starting to explore a new fetish or kink, knowledge is key. I cannot express enough that you must gather enough info to be able to explore safely. There is no stupid question, just stupid people, in my opinion. I very much believe in learning from someone who has more knowledge on something before I explore on my own.

    Misconceptions About Fetishes

    Ignorance on a kink/fetish is the number one reason that people get talked down upon for liking certain things or wanting certain things done to them. The number one thing you hear is that people must be sick in the head for wanting certain things. What people don’t understand is we didn’t know what happened to that person to mould them like that.

    Introducing A Fetish To Your Partner

    The hardest part about introducing a partner to a new fetish is worrying about what they will think of you. I have learned that you have to introduce it slowly and to make any relationship last, you must be open minded yourself. You must be willing to alter or include things your partner wants. You cannot be selfish and just expect to get what you want all the time.

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  • Incorporating Impact & Wax Play In Rope Bondage

    Incorporating Impact & Wax Play In Rope Bondage

    I usually experience rope bondage (especially in regards to ‘Shibari’ style, not bedroom bondage) as something that is artistic, emotional, expressive, and connective.

    I was introduced to rope bondage through a friend after seeing a beautiful photo of her suspended from the branches of a tree. It was artfully done and she looked so serene and peaceful. I knew I wanted to give it a try. So I suppose, right from the start, I was already seeing rope bondage in an artistic sense.

    Why Is Rope Bondage Popular?

    I can’t speak for everybody, but I think a huge part of the appeal is the connection you can create with others. It’s such a unique way to connect and mesh with another person. It lets you experience sensations and feelings that you might not have anywhere else, and be close to someone in a whole new way. I think with any kink a lot of trust and consent is involved, and part of the appeal for me is that I’ve learnt so much about boundaries and communication because of my experiences in rope.

    Also, I think for a lot of people, and certainly for me, it’s also the medium of the rope that’s incredibly appealing. It’s the feel and the scent of the rope, the way the rope creaks when it’s under tension, how it hugs you and holds you. It’s all part of the charm.

    I’ve heard a lot of people speak about how they love to be tied because they can give up control to somebody else. Sometimes I feel that way, on some level, for example if I’ve had a stressful day and I can just be tied by a good friend and let the world melt away and know that I can just fall into a nice rope headspace. But generally, I find it’s more of an expression of my own power, and sharing that discovery and expression with someone, rather than it is about being dominated or about giving up control. Sometimes, people assume that I am a submissive or s-type just because I want to be tied up. I don’t identify as a submissive, but I enjoy connecting with my riggers as well as exploring emotions and connectivity through the medium of rope.

    Favorite Bondage Positions

    I usually love hanging in an upside-down suspension. It doesn’t always work for me, but when I’m in the mood, it’s my favourite thing. Being suspended by a good single Futomomo (when your leg is bent at the knee and tied shin-to-thigh) can feel amazing in a pain versus pleasure kind of way. It helps me feel less stressed, I can just melt into it. Sometimes I like hanging by my ankles, straight down, so that my spine decompresses and I can just stretch out. I work on computers all day so I really need that release sometimes! Also, I believe that’s one of the reasons why people do aerial yoga (which I still haven’t tried!).

    I also have often enjoyed being tied on the floor, without suspension involved at all. Suspension is sometimes seen as the primary target for rope bondage, but it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ve had some amazing experiences with just floor rope. I like ones where I can curl up and have my arms in front of myself, and my legs wrapped up nice and tight.

    How To Incorporate Impact Play Into Rope Bondage

    I think it depends what you wish to focus on, and what mood you might be in.

    If wanting to focus more on the impact play, you might use quite minimal bondage. For example, I’ve had my arms tied and lifted above my head so that I’m standing and being whipped from behind. I’ve laid on a bench with my arms and legs tied to the four corners of it while being beaten with a cane. Those methods place a larger emphasis on the impact play more than the bondage – the bondage was only there to stop me from moving around during impact play. So that was coming more from a place of wanting catharsis via the pain and rhythm and sensation of impact play.

    If the focus is more on rope bondage and you’re wanting to bringing some impact play elements into it, you could do whatever kind of tie you like that you feel will also enable you to do some impact play. I would suggest thinking about what parts of the body you’d prefer to aim for, and make sure they are accessible. I’ve been tied in a suspension before where I was in a hip harness and a sort of backbend, and my thighs were being flogged. There’s a lot of ways you could play around with positions for this.

    Why I Love Mixing Wax Play With Bondage

    I’m not sure I’ve really put it into words before, but I think I love the mix of sensations! Rope can be so comforting or challenging depending on the position and vibe put into the tie. It can be relaxing, or aggressive, or anything between and beyond.

    Wax can be warm and gooey and lovely, or it can be really hot and piercing and shocking. Both rope and wax together I think creates a wonderful mix where you can have an ebb and flow of sensations and intensities. There’s just such a range to play with!

    Tips For First Timers To Get Started

    With wax play, at least to start with, I would suggest getting candles that are soy based (and unfragranced if you have sensitive skin). They tend to be gentler and nicer to play with than a candle that is made with something like paraffin wax. You can try with all different kinds of candles and see what you prefer. Some are sharper and sting more than others. Also, be aware of the size of the candle – get a wider/thicker one if you can. The size of a candle versus the wick placement will affect how hot the melted wax is when it reaches your body. The larger the candle, the cooler the wax will be when it hits your skin, because it’s had to travel further from the flame. If you’re using a really skinny candle (like a birthday cake candle), the wax will be hotter as it’s basically come right from the flame itself.

    You can, of course, try it on yourself before asking someone else to do it for you. Try dripping wax on your arms, legs, feet. Be aware and take care of potentially sensitive areas such as the inner thighs.

    With impact play, you can also try implements on yourself first (depending on what the implement is, the ease of this will vary). If I’m not sure I’ll like a particular implement or toy, sometimes I’ll use it against my own thigh to get a small taste of it before asking someone else to try it on me.

    If you can go to a class or event in your local kink/bondage scene, that might work out really well for you. I’ve been to a workshop with a friend where we were given opportunities to try different implements for impact play (including our own hands, of course!). It’s a good way to experiment whilst also getting guidance from people with experience. I felt like I learned a lot from doing it in a workshop setting!

    Ellie Neptune – Ellie Neptune is a shibari-bat from Australia who loves hanging upside-down. She discovered rope bondage via a friend in 2014 and has never looked back! Ellie enjoys exploring connectivity, art, and emotion through rope bondage.

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