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  • Ways To Explore BDSM & Fetishes

    Ways To Explore BDSM & Fetishes

    There’s a huge taboo around kink and anything beyond the heteronormative views of sex that we are fed in common culture and media today. Ask the Average Joe these days and sex means penis in vagina, missionary – maybe doggy if you’re feeling crazy, and oral if you’re really out there.

    Besides the fact that this view basically makes queer sex impossible, I don’t think even Average Joe thinks that it really fits the definition of great sex. When it comes to our views on what makes sex amazing, almost every person I know is at least a little bit kinky.  Whether it’s wishing your partner would get a little rougher, bite a little harder, or completely take over tenderly and sweetly worshipping every inch of your body, that’s a desire for kinkier sex!

    I think more people should embrace kink. It leads to greater intimacy, a better sense of who you are and what you want and ultimately, better sex.

    How I Got Started Into BDSM

    I mean, I grew up Catholic, so getting off on shame came very naturally to me. All jokes aside, I feel like I was one of those people who was just born with darker tastes. Even in my earliest memories of learning about sex and discovering my sexuality, I craved power imbalances and a kind of love that felt so good it hurt. I think I always looked for those kinds of examples in books, art, movies, etc.

    It wasn’t until I got into college actually that I started to learn about BDSM itself and I started to explore the kink community. I think I got the idea from a roommate who was ranting about how terrible 50 Shades was/is, and I was finally old enough and independent enough to feel comfortable seeking more information in books and on the internet until I felt good and ready to start meeting people in real life.

    My first munch was at this horrible diner in NYC and I had to take an hour long train to get there, but it was really awesome and I’ve never looked back.

    My Favorite Fetishes

    OOF. That’s a toughie because, as a performer, I have favorite fetishes in content creation and then I have personal favorites. I think my favorite fetish is probably tease and denial. I love embracing my inner Goddess, taking control of a partner – especially if they’re much bigger than me and could otherwise overpower me – tying them down somewhere and then teasing them until they’re a writhing, sobbing mess under me.

    I love, love, love torturing them with pleasure. I think it looks great for the camera and it is really fun to record.

    Know This Before Exploring Your Fetishes

    Make real plans for how you will handle it when things get ugly. Any time you try something new, failures are a given and even if you’re usually cool with that, experiencing it in the bedroom where all your vulnerabilities are out in the open is a totally different experience.

    Don’t make the mistake of thinking that there’s a way to explore sexuality and push limits without ever reaching one. I’ve had my share of scenes that I thought were going to be so fun and I ended up in tears, but it was OK because I had talked with my partner about what to do and how we would recover from that. You really need to ask yourself, what will make me feel safe if I get too scared? What will make me feel better if I get too embarrassed? What will calm me down if I start to panic? And go from there.

    Have an exit strategy – you don’t want to be caught in a situation where you thought, “yeah let’s try pegging” and then whatever you ate for dinner has other plans and things get messy real fast, but those knots you used to tie up your partner take even longer to undo. Communicate and be prepared!

    Misconceptions About BDSM & Fetishes

    I don’t think people respond to the words the same way. If I tell people I’m into BDSM, their mind goes straight to pain and sado-masochism. If I tell people I have a lot of fetishes, they go straight for feet and cosplay and odd insertions.

    I think the biggest misconception is that there is one way to engage in kink, one way to be a Dom, one way to be a sub, etc. The truth is that there is no template that a person can use to decide how to have sex. You have to figure these things out for yourself by just experimenting and communicating.

    How To Introduce A Fetish To Your Partner

    It can be really difficult to start a conversation with your partner about a secret desire you have, but it’s so worth it. I think the best way is to find an example in media of some kind, whether that’s an erotic novel, a movie or a porn film, and give it to your partner to take in some time when they’re alone. This takes the pressure off your partner to have the reaction you want and allows them to really sit with their own thoughts and feelings about a scene like that.

    For instance, I’m really into consensual non-consent, where I want my partner to continue doing whatever they want to me regardless of how I say no or struggle and only stop if I use my safe word. That can be a really intense and scary experience for people and I didn’t want my partner to feel like he had to do that for me. So I told him it was a fantasy of mine, sent him a literotica link, gave him some space and then asked about his thoughts.

    Turns out he was really cool with it, but he thanked me for the space because it gave him time to think about what it would be like and to think about what his limits would be and how he would envision the scene playing out. That’s what you want. Don’t surprise someone or put them on the spot – it won’t lead to a good scene.

    Pearl Sinclair is an up and coming adult performer with dreams of a long career in the industry.. Originally from Atlanta, Georgia, Pearl is now based in Portland, Oregon where she lives with her partner, their ginger cat and their smush-faced dog. She creates her own content as well as working with producers on larger projects and hopes to someday work with companies like TrenchcoatX, Transfixed, Girlsway and Tushy. She enjoys rosé, harlequin romances, stilettos and black coffee.

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    Twitter: @PearlSinclair3 (https://twitter.com/PearlSinclair3)

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  • What To Know About Feedism & Fat Fetish

    What To Know About Feedism & Fat Fetish

    When I first started, I had no idea what feedism or feederism even was.  My now current girlfriend gave little hints that she liked fat or liked it when girls ate. She slowly introduced me to the fetish. One day she got up the courage and just fed me. I saw how much it turned her on, which of course turned me on. It made me feel good. I enjoyed having someone look at me and be turned on that I was fatter.

    I got to enjoy eating like I always did and have someone want me for it. I didn’t have to hide enjoying food anymore. I didn’t have to be that fat girl that had to hide wanting to just eat. Feedism Gave me a whole new level of confidence I didn’t know I had. I never knew food could be sexual but feederism makes it sexual and I enjoy that.

    As time passed, my girlfriend would introduce me to more and more of the fetish and well, it led me to be a gainer model! I even won 2019 Feedee of the Year at the BBW awards show!

    What Does Feedism Involve?

    Feedism can be a number of things. For starters, it’s when a person enjoys feeding or being fed. I, for instance, am a feedee or gainer model if you will. I enjoy being fed till I feel like I’m about to pop. My girlfriend enjoys seeing me really stuffed and likes to feed me.

    Feedism or fat fetish is so many things. It can include funneling, squashing, wearing tight clothes, being degraded by being called pig, slob, cow whatever it is you like. Over the years, I’ve realized how sexual feedism can really be. It gets so hot! Getting hand fed by someone you find so sexy can be really erotic. A lot of feedee models enjoy getting their bellies rubbed after a long feeding session. I know I do!

    Popular Fat Fetish Play Activities

    I do a lot of stuffing videos. Not just eating but eating to the point where moving is unbearable sometimes. I’ve done funneling which is where you fill a funnel with soda, beer, weightgain shakes and chug it all down. Busting out of my clothes is something my girlfriend really enjoys seeing and I noticed a lot of my fans do as well. Funneling is another fun activity! Who doesn’t want to see how much soda or shake they can fit in their expanding bellies lol.

    Common Misconceptions About Feedism & Fat Fetishes

    A big one is not all feedees are unhealthy! My doctor always says how healthy I am for my weight and what I eat. I know fatty greasy food all the time is bad for you…eventually, but right now I’m enjoying the fetish and all there is to eat.

    Another misconception I’ve heard is people think because we are into this that we are gross and don’t take care of ourselves. I can rest assure you that I am just fat, not dirty. We have personal hygiene like everyone else.

    Tips For Those Keen To Be A Feedee

    Never be shy or embarrassed! You never know who else will be into the return as well. I went from not knowing anything about it to being 2019 Feedee of the Year!

    If it’s something you are dabbling in to see if you enjoy it, join chat rooms on Kik, websites relegated to feederism/feedism, search Twitter! There are so many platforms to find like-minded people! The community is huge and very welcoming!

    Queen Ivy – BBW/Fetish Model, Feedee, and gainer. Model since 2016. BBW awards show Nominee and 2019 Winner for Feedee of the Year

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    Queeenivy.manyvids.com

    https://fancentro.com/queenivybbw

    Twitter:  @queeenivy

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  • What To Know About Forced Bi

    What To Know About Forced Bi

    Hi SimplySxy, thank you for inviting me to feature in your article on forced bi. I’m a male escort and Pro Dom. I specialise in forced bi sessions and I’m the preferred duo partner of dozens of Mistresses in London who all regularly invite me to join in their sessions when clients ask for a male escort.

    I was kinky before I started escorting and my sex life outside of sex work is far from vanilla.

    My own sexual preferences are complicated and ever changing. I love new experiences in all things. Especially sex.

    As far as other peoples kinkiness, if someone isn’t kinky at all and enjoys their vanilla sex life, I’m happy for them. Why not? Not everyone needs to be kinky. If they are kinky and they’re having fun exploring their fetishes and fantasies with other consenting adults, that’s great too. And if they have fantasies but don’t have anyone they feel comfortable exploring those fantasies with, then I hope they contact a professional and make their fantasy a reality!

    Fortunately for me, I’m very good at what I do and there’s a large market for the services I provide.

    Finding a good male escort for forced bi isn’t easy. You should expect at a minimum that he can reliably show up to a session on time, not be high on drugs or desperate for his next fix, understand that the session is about the client’s enjoyment not his own, and be able to get hard, stay hard and cum. Guys who can perform under pressure with anyone and everyone are rare. Those who start in the industry with this ability often quickly lose it due to burnout and/or drug abuse. Fortunately, I have zero interest in drugs, a massively high libido and modest financial targets. This means I usually see just a few people per day and feel zero pressure to accept bookings when I’m tired.

    What Is Forced Bi?

    Forced Bi is a popular fetish role-play scenario involving a man being “forced” into sex acts with another man. Usually a Dominant woman is doing the “forcing.” The scene is one that has been requested by the man and the details of the scene have been negotiated beforehand so there’s no real force involved. Everything is consensual.

    Many submissive men who see professional Mistresses, enjoy doing one on one role plays whereby he can explore his curiosity about sex with other men by having a Mistress verbally humiliate him with talk of how she’s going to invite a man to come over and use him sexually.

    This fantasy role play is usually played as a kind of humiliation scenario. ie in the fantasy, he’s a straight man who doesn’t want to have sex with men but is being “forced” to do it. Like many fantasies that male clients visit female professional Mistresses to explore, it’s about power exchange. Giving up control. Submitting oneself before a powerful, dominant woman and then exploring different fantasies within that context.

    Some men with this fantasy go so far as to request toys and strap-ons up their asses. Some want bondage. Some want sissification whereby the Mistress dresses him up in women’s clothes. And some go all the way and arrange to pay for a male escort like me to join in the session.

    Plucking up the courage to take this step of inviting a male escort to join in a duo session with himself and his Mistress can take years or even decades for some men. It’s a big deal to them and I don’t take this lightly.

    When I’m invited I do everything I can to make sure that client has the best possible session tailored exactly to their needs. I want these guys to enjoy themselves and it’s very important to me to maintain my reputation amongst Mistresses as the best of the best when it comes to forced bi.

    Misconceptions About Forced Bi

    Clients who request me to come and join in a Forced Bi session all know exactly what Forced Bi is. The Mistresses I do duos with are all very professional so the session wouldn’t be happening if they weren’t sure that the client knew exactly what he was getting himself in for.

    I guess if someone was encountering the concept for the first time they might be confused about the “forced” part and worry that some kind of assault is implied. In fact I’m always very tuned into a clients reactions and always looking for any sign that he might be struggling or in any state of distress or discomfort. I always make sure any client of mine knows he can opt out at any moment.

    What Typically Happens In Forced Bi Play & Sessions?

    It’s different every time depending on the clients wants and needs. Some Forced Bi sessions involve sissification, humiliation, bondage, impact play etc. I’ve done forced bi scenes where the guy has been suspended with his back in a sling and wrists and ankles cuffed. I have one regular who I see with one of my Mistress duo partners who’s an adult baby so he’s in a big nappy whenever I see him. When we do Forced Bi with him, he calls her mummy and I’m mummy’s friend. In most cases they want to be told to suck my cock and/or to bend over and take my cock up their ass.

    Things To Know Before Trying Out Forced Bi

    If a Forced Bi client wants anal, most Mistresses will make sure he knows how to use an anal douche, or shower hose attachment to clean inside their ass beforehand. Some Mistresses will physically assist with administering an enema or similar. The anal sex should never be messy or painful. We always start slow, for example with a finger in a rubber glove, plenty of lube, start with smaller toys, Mistresses strap-on etc and work up to being able to take my cock only once he’s used to the sensations and relaxed and ready.

    Oz – Hi, see the number one male escort in the world! If you Google “forced bi male escort” or “cuckolding male escort” or “duos male escort” , I’m the top result on Google for an independent. If you do a Google news search for “Aussie Male Escort” you’ll see that dozens of newspapers, magazines and websites from around the world have published articles about me.

    I’m from Australia and usually based in London. My discreet, private, luxury incall studio is located in Mayfair, 1 block from Bond Street tube station.

    I’m tall (6’5?/195cm), very toned and athletic, very well endowed (9?/22cm) uncut and good looking. I’m a trained and licensed masseur having completed courses in Swedish, Thai and Tantric massage. If you’d like to read about my international tours and adventures, erotic and otherwise, please subscribe to My Blog.

    People often tell me I’m very relaxing to be around and they find me a calming influence etc so I’m great with nervous first timers eg bi or kink curious guys who’ve never been with a man or never tried BDSM, people trying out other fantasies and fetishes for the first time and couples trying their first MMF threesome or guys trying their first MMF escort duo always seem to go from being tense and nervous at first to feeling relaxed and horny very quickly when they’re with me. I only see a few people per day so there will never be anyone leaving when you arrive or arriving when you’re leaving etc. You won’t feel rushed and I don’t mind if you go a bit over the hour. I’m happy to extend if you want an additional hour.

    You’ll find that I’m always exactly on time for your outcall and 100% prepared to see you at the time you book for your incall. I never take drugs, never bareback and I get tested regularly. I don’t kiss men but I do enjoy oral and sex with men. I’ll get hard for you, guaranteed, and stay that way and if you want me to cum, I will.

    Let me know if you’d like me to arrange escort duos or four handed massages with female and transsexual escorts. I can arrange multiple escorts if you’re planning a party and I know a lot of Mistresses in London and around the world who I do forced-bi, cuckolding and double domination sessions with.

    I charge £200 for incalls and £250 for outcalls for 1 hour.

    Follow Oz on

    Website:  https://ozinlondon.co.uk

    Twitter:  https://twitter.com/ozbigdownunder

    Please visit my friends page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/friends if you’d like to see me for a duo session with another escort or with a Mistress. Visit my blog page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/blog to read about my kinky adventures, and my contact page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/contact to arrange to see me.

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  • What To Know About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    What To Know About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    Alternative lifestyles intrigue the hell out of me. I love watching people go against the norm, I love seeing people flourish in ways where they were told they can’t. I just love seeing people live their truth and be completely and wholeheartedly who they are, their individual selves. That’s what makes humans so fascinating and interesting to be around, their individuality.

    I have always known I wanted to live an alternative lifestyle. I grew up with Catholic and Evangelical Christian influences, very conservative people. Very bland, very boring. I knew from a young age I didn’t want to be like them, look like them, or conform in the ways they wanted me to. They wanted me religious, my hair kept long and natural, no tattoos, no crazy styled clothing, no “weird” relationships, they wanted me to be some cookie cutter kid- but that was never on my agenda.

    Since a kid I’ve been researching kink lifestyles and now that I’m older and understand myself, my dream of being that “alternative weird girl” was finally coming true. Sorry mom, but I have plans to tat my whole body, I have already started piercing myself, I have been in a few relationships where BDSM and taboo roleplaying has been a huge part of who we are as a couple, and of course, I have shaved my head.

    What Does The Head/Brow Shaving Fetish Constitute?

    Honestly, I never thought I would EVER shave my head, let alone shave my eye brows! If you told me two years ago when I started this job that I’d be shaving my head and then doing it for money, I would’ve laughed at you. I used to be so damn attached to my hair, I still am not 100% sure how I feel about my brows being gone, but I absolutely love my head buzzed or smooth.

    It all started about five months ago, I decided I was serious about the big shave. I had been thinking about it seriously for maybe six months before that, my hair was so damaged and it started killing my confidence. I was watching tons of YouTube videos trying to get used to the buzzed look, I was afraid my head was going to be shaped weird and because I wasn’t seeing many pictures or videos of plus size women with a buzzed head, I was scared it wasn’t going to look good on me.

    One day, I just did it. I’m always asked why I didn’t film the initial shave but long story short, it was emotional for me. I love this fetish because my confidence has grown a ton. I was unsure of it at first, because of how drastic of a change it was, but I truly love it now. It makes me feel free, I don’t have to worry about styling my hair, my showers are shorter, and I’ve gained new fans from it too. I still have fans from my cam days, still following me from over a year and a half ago, telling me how much I’ve grown in my craft and how confident I’ve grown to be. Other’s in the industry tell me the same thing and that makes me so happy to hear.

    How Common Is This Fetish?

    Once I gained new followers from the head shaving clips, I was offered to do a custom head and brow shave and then I had two more people come to me for the same custom fetish clips. So, for me, I think this fetish has gained quick traction! My first brow, head, and pubic shaving custom is $29.99 on all platforms and has resold nine times in under two weeks. That’s really impressive for me and I will only keep improving!

    Personally, before I shaved my own head, I thought this fetish was very rare. The first two people to approach me about creating this content has told me not many women participate, that’s when I knew I needed to try it out.

    Common Misconceptions About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    The first question is always “So you just shave your head on camera and, that’s it?”. In a short answer, yes, but the longer answer isn’t quite as simple.

    The men that have inquired about this fetish have said a lot in common. What I have gathered, is that they love the transformation of seeing all of the hair come off, how different It looks after. I have also been told they like women who go against society’s standards, browless and bald women do exactly that. So, what do I do on camera if I don’t just plainly shave on video? My first few inquiries have also had a BDSM theme to them. A few ideas, including the video I released, wanted to act reluctant to shave, or doing it because I want to make them happy. I enjoy expressing my submissive side so this was an added bonus for me. I hope I keep getting interesting shaving inquiries, I love custom work especially when creating fetish/taboo content.

    Another misconception about these men is that they are lonely, creepy, or grossly perverted men because “who would ever become sexually aroused by that?”. They are ordinary men from all different parts of the world. They’ve emailed or direct messaged me very appropriately, making sure not to offend me by their requests – which is always adorable and refreshing compared to how I’m usually approached. The head shaving community has made me the most money for this one fetish, they appreciate my work and actually PAY my worth and it feels absolutely amazing. They may be perverts and they may watch porn, but they’re the best perverts who support small businesses and pay for their entertainment, I appreciate them.

    How Does One Explore This Fetish For The First Time?

    Well first, decide that shaving your head, or shaving another person’s head, is right for you. Some people are aroused by watching others shave, some want to watch someone shave another person, some want their own head shaved, or they enjoy all of these ideas. Just make sure you are two consenting adults and give it a go! Buzzcuts only require clippers, but if you want to go smooth, make sure you or your partner know how to handle a straight razor or just grab a regular four blade handheld shaver and your favorite shaving cream.

    If you are using clippers for the first time, make sure you’re buzzing at the level you want, I go down to a zero (no guard) with clippers, and when using a razor, I shave with my hair growth, not against it like I would when I shave my legs. Any new fetish you’re interested in should always be handled with care, do your research! Understand what you and/or your partner likes, and have fun with this.

    The reviews on my brow and head shave clip were positive because they loved how real it was, the role I played for this person actually felt real, so if you’re looking to film this type of content, keep that in mind. I see tons of videos of people just shaving, no talking, not even engaging with the camera. Although some viewers enjoy this, most want a personal experience, so create a theme or short story line, look directly into the camera when speaking, and be yourself.

    No matter HOW you enjoy this fetish, just have fun with it!

    Briana Black – Briana Black has been an online Sex Worker since July 2017 and recently started pro shoots in January of 2019. Specializing in fetish content, her favorite kink related clip topics are submissive themes and shaving. You don’t want to miss out on this 5’7, plump, bald headed woman bringing your most secret fantasies to reality.

    Follow Briana Black on

    ManyVids – BrianaBlack.manyvids.com

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    FanCentro – fancentro.com/brianablack

    I want to keep shooting with TheScoreGroup (XLGirls.com) so go check out my first pro porn scenes there and let them know you want to see me back! Here’s the direct link to my profile: https://www.xlgirls.com/bbw-models/Briana-Black/8838/?nats=MTAwNC45LjcuNy42ODQuMC4wLjAuMA

    Social Media

    Public Snapchat: @curvypalebabe

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    Email for inquiries

    brianablackofficial@protonmail.com

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  • An Introduction to Bondage

    An Introduction to Bondage

    I honestly believe that the word “kink” has a bad perception in most people’s minds.  They think that it is wrong, weird and that people who are “kinky” want to do bad things to themselves and others.  I come from a conservative place and have met some of the nicest, most genuine and caring people in the “kink” community.

    An alternative lifestyle is one that I live every day compared to most people and I get genuine love and satisfaction from it.  But hey, I am a normal caring loving supportive woman who enjoys doing very normal things that most people would be surprised to learn about me hehe.

    How My Interest In Bondage Started

    I was introduced to the world of BDSM through a friend of mine.  She taught me the basics after seeing her in action during a session and I was instantly hooked.  From there, my love of bondage grew and grew to where it is now.  It is my passion and my fetish and I am always looking to improve.  I have taken 2 workshops on it in the last 6 months.

    Japanese bondage particularly interests me and I have been fortunate enough to learn “Shibari” which is stunningly beautiful when done right.  Not only is it art, but the submissive can walk away knowing that they have enjoyed a truly memorable experience and not have been hurt.  I am also proud to say that I have given lessons to a few of my friends (who are also Professional Dominatrix’s) over the last few months in such bondage which was real fun for me.

    My Favorite Bondage Activities

    I used to love Predicament bondage greatly (it is still really really fun seeing that look of surprise in my submissive’s eyes when he realizes movement is not easy haha) but now it has shifted to more artistic Japanese style bondage as I mentioned before.  The artistic webs and intricate rope bondage is just amazing……not only does it look beautiful it allows me to really enjoy my sessions as well with my sub’s.

    Also, mummification combined with bondage……just simply WOW.  Good bondage takes time and care.  The last thing I want is to hurt my client through restricting blood supply anywhere on the body and communication is key to ensure this doesn’t happen.  Practice, practice, practice and constant communication is really the only way to create the perfect moment.

    I am lucky in that I have my very own personal rope bunny to practice on.  I may be concentrating on my artistic bondage and he might be watching Netflix, but hey it works hehe.

    Tools Every Beginner To Bondage Must Have

    Good quality rope.  It is that simple.  Cheap quality rope will itch, burn and fall apart.  I have been fortunate enough to have access to Japanese treated Jute rope which is just fantastic for bondage.  It doesn’t itch, its incredibly strong (can be used for suspension) and lasts a long time.  Also, and from personal experience, have a pair of scissors handy at all times (not a knife haha).

    Stepping Up To More Advanced Bondage

    Depending on where you are playing, working or experimenting you need something strong to tie the ropes to.  A good bed with a frame is ideal, however with an active imagination a couch, a strong table, or a chair can be just as good.  Of course, bondage furniture is the ultimate goal for bondage and I have enjoyed many amazing sessions in dungeons around the world which has such facilities.

    I am also lucky in that I have my very own personally made bondage bed which is well in a word……amazing.  As your skills grow, mummification is a great form of bondage.  It looks extreme, however when done right is fun, challenging, restrictive and is a constant sensory deprivation and memorable experience for the submissive.  Cling wrap and duct tape are a great combination.

    How To Make Bondage Safe & Fun

    Firstly, communication for the safety aspect.  You can easily get lost in a session and be in “Domme Space” just as much as the sub can be in “sub space”.  I always communicate by simply asking if you are okay and not in pain which unless it’s a specific requirement is never the aim.  Bondage is about restriction of movement and being uncomfortable and to make it fun for both myself and my submissive there are many ways to do this.

    Always take care and time to ensure that the knots are comfortable on the body and not digging into bones or sensitive areas on the body.  Sensory deprivation by hoods, eye shades and other methods allows for me to start using the situation within the agreed limitations of the sub but pushing them at the same time.

    Queen Kali Rain – I am Queen Kali Rain, Asia’s Premier Professional Dominatrix. I am highly skilled, passionate and very Dominant.  I am accomplished in every aspect of BDSM.  I am sadistic and enjoy giving pain and I can be extreme or I can be mild and once you enter my world you will never look back.   I have many favourite session scenarios and I look forward to you serving me on your knees soon.

    Follow Queen Kali Rain on

    Website: www.queenkalirain.com

    Twitter: @queenkalirain

    Instagram: @queenkalirain

    I will be travelling extensively in 2019.  Keep a close watch on the travel page on my website and also my twitter an Instagram.   In 2019 I will be travelling to Dubai, Bangkok, Hong Kong, Kuala Lumpur, Singapore, Glasgow, Dublin as well as some European cities.

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  • Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

    Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

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    I love different kinks, and I aim to embrace them in my community. I myself am a big fan of kinks and fetishes. My work is specialized in FinDom, JOI, tease and denial, sissification, and humiliation to name a few.

    How My Interest In Kink Started

    I knew I was a fan of more than vanilla sex from the age of 16/17 but didn’t have the ability to explore my kinks. I discovered my specific interests initially through porn, but have been able to divulge into every fantasy as a dominatrix/switch.

    How Does One Know What Kink They Are Into?

    Sometimes it’s completely by accident; you might see something in a film, or someone walking past you in the street and see something peculiar that turns you on. It can be a trial and error, especially for specific kinks, but porn and the Twitter dominatrix/camming universe is a good place to start.

    Tips To Get Into The Kink Lifestyle

    Try joining a community such as Fetlife, which is like facebook for us kinky folk, and start talking to people about it. Reading up on things online is good too. I have a folder on my computer with images and links of all the things I want to try.

    Websites like this one is a good way to learn more too. The talented people who are featured in articles will know even more than what they can put on a page, so try joining their community.

    Popular Fetishes & Kinks

    The most popular I’ve found is DDLG (daddy domme, little girl), JOI (jerk on instruction), feet worship, ass worship, sissification, and humiliation. These are all amazing kinks to have a start with, especially JOI which is really good to look into as beginners.

    As a Domme, I’m into FinDom (financial domination), JOI, body worship, humiliation, sissification, blackmail, chastity, and tease and denial. In my personal life away from work, I’d consider myself more of a sub/switch, into knife play, asphyxiation, DDLG, bondage (there’s this really tasteful Japanese art form of rope bondage which is really cool) and more.

    I find that being a Domme and camgirl as a job is amazing as an outlet. There’s just something about telling someone they can’t cum, or telling them they’re pathetic, that really relieves stress.

    Tips For Beginners To Explore Their Kinks

    Fetlife and Twitter is a good place to start. There are also some amazing dedicated discord servers to specific fetishes that can be found online. From there, Domme cam models are a good place to try out the experience tailored to you.

    If you have a partner, it’s always good to be open sexually and talk about what you would like to try, with both of you respecting each other’s boundaries. If your partner isn’t into, do not pressure them into trying something they don’t feel comfortable.

    As with anything else, consent must be given first. This also goes to cam models and other people you might go to try our possible kinks: if a Domme or anyone whose job is to do that says they do not cater to or are uncomfortable with that fetish or kink, don’t push.

    All in all, have fun, stay safe, stay sexy.

    Poppy Swallows xoxo

    Poppy Swallows – I’m Poppy! Camgirl and fet-lover, I spend most nights performing and pleasing the masses. I love sleep, food, animals, gaming, and food. I specialize in JOI and sell custom videos and photos too. I do skype sessions and I’m always up for a casual chat.

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/poppyswallows

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    Websites:

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    I don’t have anything coming up, but I am planning on going to the SuicideGirls/MFC show in London in June, so if you’d like to see me there, come along and make it happen!!

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    My subs must understand they are here for me, to please me and create value in my life, otherwise I am not interested to spend my time dominating them. It’s really simple and straight-forward. Those who want a NSA service should go to a pro domme.

    How My Interest As A Domme Started

    I was just curious about alternative lifestyles in general and bored of my 9 to 5 jobs.

    What It Means To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    I suppose that´s what I have wanted all along but to earn money I had to see clients in the hope that some of them might become my real slaves which eventually happened. After about ten years on the scene I decided to retire as a pro domme as I was bored of the clients and wanted to focus on the selected few personal slaves.

    Difference From Being A Pro Domme

    It´s completely different. You see whom you want, when you want and do only what you want and many of the personal slaves are quite generous. Unlike clients who only tribute by the hour my real slaves pay for my spa, weekends away, gifts etc on top of the monetary tributes and the best thing is that most of them stay with me for years.

    Favorite Domme Play Sessions

    I always challenge myself to come with something new for the individual slave as I love to surprise, impress and create something memorable. Mind games tend to play bigger role than the physical domination.

    What To Know Before Being A Lifestyle Domme

    It is actually very hard to find genuine subs who aim to please. Most wannabe slaves just want to take advantage of the dominant female, especially an inexperienced one in order to get something for nothing. It´s always the same old story “I will do anything for you but not this or that and God forbid it should cost me something – you are here to service me and my needs and kinks”.

    You will learn fast enough to weed these timewasters out. If anyone refers to himself as a “worm” or “useless”, he very likely is and you certainly don´t want to have anything to do with him.

    Mistress Arella – Retired after ten years on the scene as a pro domme, now dominating my loyal personal slaves only and that´s how I like it. It´s hard to impress me but anyone can try.

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  • How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    When it comes to sex, it’s always nice to switch things up from time to time. If you keep doing the same things over and over, eventually sex becomes stale and you just lose all the enjoyment that it used to have. Of course, if you have a partner who is willing to experiment with new things, this isn’t a problem. Chances are, whatever you suggest they’ll be more than happy to try out. The problem arises if your partner doesn’t want to try anything new. This might be because they’re a bit conservative, or perhaps they’re scared from what could happened if they changed things up, especially in the domain of sex.

    Today we’re exploring what the best ways are to convince your significant other to try out new things. It doesn’t matter whether you’re with a man or a woman, what matters is that you need to find a way to get through to them that they need to change things up in the bedroom. And we all know that if they don’t, you’ll end up getting someone who will on the side. Since we probably don’t want that to happen if you’re in a monogamous relationship, here are the top 3 ways in which you can ease your partner into some hot and kinky scenarios.

    1# Surprise them on a special date with something sexy

    Everyone likes surprises. And it’s in these euphoric moments that we can really get our blood pumping, and this is the prime time for trying out new things. Wait until it’s your anniversary, or perhaps it’s yours or your partner’s birthday to surprise them with a hot outfit or some kinky objects that you can try out in your bedroom. Chances are, they’ll be eager to try something out with you then.

    2# Start out small and then work your way up the ladder

    If the only thing you and your partner have been having in terms of sex is some straight vanilla bullshit, then there’s no way that they’ll jump into some heavy BDSM action straight away. Try getting them into the world with some hot lingerie. Then you can try out some bondage. Perhaps you could try a bit of light roleplay as well. Work your way up from there.

    3# Show your partner hot BDSM in porn and games

    Sometimes they need to see what they’re missing out on. This isn’t a full-proof way to get them to like BDSM or anything kinky in general, but it’s worth the shot. Show them one of your favorite BDSM videos or a fetish porno that gets you going. If the video is well made and everyone looks like they’re having fun in it, then chances are that they could change their mind as well. Similarly, games are an easy way to get them trying out something new. Try out the Best Free Sex Games in order to get that train rolling.

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  • What To Know About Ballbusting

    What To Know About Ballbusting

    I am very kink and sex positive. I believe in safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) play and think kink is a great escape from “vanilla” life. Building D/s relationships or just playing with subs is so rewarding. Be safe and smart, but have even more fun.

    What Is Ball Busting?

    Ballbusting is the act of kicking and beating a person in their balls/testicles. I am inherently sadistic; I love causing pain (to consenting people). I will say it’s a lot of fun to see a client become aroused solely from ballbusting. There’s also an intimate aspect to it, because someone is trusting you entirely to safely cause them pain. Establishing that power exchange, bond, and trust is satisfying.

    Reasons Subs Love It

    There is either an element of being aroused by pain or curiosity to experience ball busting.

    Some submissives crave relinquishing autonomy to please and serve their Dominant. I’ve had someone ask to be kicked in the balls solely because they knew how much I love it.

    There are solely masochists who just enjoy the intense pain brought from ballbusting. Some are just plain curious and would prefer to hire a professional for discretion, safety, fantasy, etc.

    Misconceptions About Ball Busting

    I think some people think that Dommes literally want to bust open a client’s testicles and sometimes the skin. I have heard some horror stories, but that’s atypical. Ballbusting is a really great power exchange for sadomasochistic sessions.

    Some may think of ball busting as “just” kicking someone in the balls, but there is an art to it in my opinion. I am tactical with my moves. Also, ballbusting can be accomplished with punches, slapping, and kneeing as well – it is not limited to kicking.

    What Happens In A Ball Busting Sessions

    Before we begin, we decide on using either a safe word or stop light colors to check in on pain level. We’ll discuss experience level and if limits want to be pushed. After answering any questions, we begin our session. Typically, I alternate between kicking, punching, slapping, and kneeing so there’s variation in sensation. I personally prefer kicking as I get to use my full body for momentum and power.

    Safety Precautions To Take Note

    I believe it is important to be cautious when causing another person pain. I begin with softer blows to gauge their pain tolerance and my force. I monitor their physical reactions closely and adjust strength as needed. Changing up the intensity sometimes helps and is a bit fun, too.

    I also just love hearing “Harder, Goddess”. Depending on the ballbustee’s experience level and desired experience, I may take breaks every 10-20 minutes or so to allow for a quick breather. Respect physical limits/safe word and communicate so the session is pleasurable and memorable. The goal is to have fun, after all.

    Chloe Mason – A professional Dominatrix and published fetish model based in Austin, Texas. She has a BA in Psychology and trains krav maga. Chloe is playful in her sessions but loves satiating her sadistic cravings and specializes in ball busting. Outside of kink, she enjoys traveling, going to concerts, and dancing ballet.

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    Websites:

    ChloeManson.com

    OnlyFans.com/ChloeManson

    iWantChloeManson.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheChloeManson

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thechloemanson/

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  • How To Be A Good Submissive

    How To Be A Good Submissive

    I remember going to my first fetish party years ago. I remember my friend going to the bathroom and me standing awkwardly with our drinks around the bar, feeling excited but also intimidated by everyone. A group of people suddenly came up to me and asked me if it was my first time, I proclaimed it was and they said it was theirs too. Instantly, I felt at ease and we discussed many things: our kinks, experience, what we did for work, anything you could think of.

    I had never felt so comfortable talking to strangers about my kinks, especially while being half naked! I think it had a lot to do with the space and how safe I felt in it. The kink community holds so much importance on being welcoming, non-judgemental and offering a safe, sane and consensual space.

    It’s an atmosphere like no other.

    What It Means To Be A Sub

    There are many types of submissives, everyone is different in what they like and in their personality. D/s (Dominance/submission) activities are about a power exchange, to be a sub is to relinquish control to your Dom.

    Misconceptions About Submissives

    The media usually depicts the submissive as weak and abused. This is not the case, with D/s activities both the Dom and sub have equal power. The sub chooses to submit to the Dom under agreement that limits are respected. The Dom then chooses to take the Sub on the basis of the agreement. When limits are crossed, the agreement is breached, making the activity non consensual.

    A lot of people, like myself, enjoy subbing because they love to please and like to give up that control. It takes time for trust to be built up between a sub and a Dom, like any type of relationship, it gets better with time and experience.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub

    Being a good sub is being clear and honest with your Dom, before, during and after a scene. Whether about your experience in kink, how you felt during and after the last scene, and what you would like your future scenes to include.

    Discovering If You’re A Dom Or Sub

    When entering the kink scene, you do not have to choose to identify as a Dom or sub straight away. Some people know well before they have entered, and some take their time trying different roles. It is also okay to want to change your role for different partners, different scenes or at different times in your life. Someone like myself who likes to take on both roles usually identifies as a switch.

    Advice For New Sub

    If you are new to submission, start slowly by getting to know what you like. Do your research: read online blogs and watch porn (hard homework, I know!)

    Most importantly, know that it is okay to not like something and to speak up when you are uncomfortable or unsure. Kink is a two way street and everyone should be enjoying themselves.

    Scarlett May – An Australian independent switch based in London. She’s 5’8, with a small waist and pert round bottom – perfect for spanking. She loves giving and receiving humiliation, and especially enjoys role plays … the more taboo the better. She offers a safe and non-judgemental space for you to explore your true desires.

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    Twitter: @SubScarlettMay

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