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  • The Stigma Of Sex Work Part I

    The Stigma Of Sex Work Part I

    I am an Escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator and I love my job. I’ve been escorting for nine years now (on and off) and web-camming for almost two years but it’s the last year that I have really been expanding my business and my ‘brand’.

    I love meeting new people, whether that is in person or via webcam and helping them explore their fantasies. I love interacting with people on webcam and the phone. But more than anything, I love helping those people that need the special interaction that only sex and a sex worker can give them. For those people, it isn’t just about sex; it’s about being intimate and close to someone, which is something they don’t get in their personal lives.

    During the COVID pandemic and lockdown, I have not been able to meet clients, so I have turned my focus to online services; webcam sites and uploading videos and pictures onto selling and subscription sites. I have been very aware that so many people need someone to talk to, especially if they are isolating at home alone and I always greet people who come into my chatrooms on the webcam sites as I want everyone to feel welcome, whether they have money to spend or not; it’s a difficult time for everyone at the moment. So many people have thanked me for talking to them. Those who cannot afford to pay for private shows today, might be able to another day.

    With any job, there are parts of it you don’t enjoy; time wasters are a nuisance and some people feel you are there just to talk to them any time of the day or night without any mention of paying for services. I get phone calls from private numbers a lot which can get very annoying; it’s very disrespectful but over time, you develop ways to handle them.

    There’s more admin than most people realise. We don’t have a team of administrators (I wish I did) so every phone call, text message and email can only be replied to by me, and every promotional poster and social media post is created and uploaded by me. I also have my accounts to produce for my tax returns. I wouldn’t want to do any other job though.

    Stigma That Surrounds Sex Work Today

    There are many people that are completely fine with sex work and find it all really interesting. There are other people that are fine with the online work but isn’t comfortable about the escorting. Unfortunately, the vast majority of people see it as a negative. They think it’s dirty and seedy and can’t understand why someone would sell themselves. They also believe, all people that seek services from sex workers are grubby, middle-aged men that have no regard for you as a person. In my experience, this has not been the case and these assumptions and stereotypes are incorrect.

    Dehumanising sex workers happens too often. Sex workers are made to feel like they don’t matter or that their lives aren’t important due to narrow-mindedness and people’s morals. The media doesn’t help this by only reporting on the very tragic or the very glamourous sex workers. It feels very apparent that the media doesn’t want to normalise the sex industry.

    Simple things, like opening a business bank account has been very difficult for me. I am registered as self employed with HMRC (Her Majesty’s Revenue and Customs) as an Escort. Escorting in the UK is legal. I had four bank account applications turned down. My credit history is very good. I was not asking for an overdraft or a bank loan; just a bank account in my business name so my clients did not know my real name and keeps me and my family safe. Three bank accounts would not explain why my application was declined. The fourth one was honest enough to tell me that “we cannot support someone in your line of work”. In the end, I seeked advice to ensure I couldn’t get in trouble and applied for a bank account as a beautician. My application was accepted within a few days. Since then, I have moved bank accounts and it is stated on their terms and conditions that you cannot receive any money for sex related work. It is a worry but I need a business account.

    Adult content and web-camming sites have shocked me, as the vast majority of them are very anti-escorting. It is fine for you to sell pornographic material or sell private webcam shows but if they find out you are an escort they can delete your page without warning and in most cases, keep the money you have earned. I didn’t realise how split the adult industry was; some aspects of it is okay yet other aspects aren’t.

    Even in my personal life, stigma is everywhere. My parents don’t want anyone to know what I do because they are embarrassed. They support me the best they can but they would rather I had a “normal” job. My family lie to my grandparents, uncle’s and auntie’s, and in turn, so do I.

    It is the negative connotations and stigma surrounding the job I love, that stops me from shouting from the rooftops that “I’m a sex worker and proud of it”!! This is a career I have chosen but I know my children would have a difficult time through bullying or name calling if locals knew and I don’t want that for them.

    The media love to portray the extreme cases, either the tragedy or the glamorous but there are people like me that sit nicely in the middle that are just as important in this industry. It is only by showing the full spectrum, can people start to understand what our work is like, and hopefully walls can start to be broken down. I can’t help but feel like the media doesn’t want to ‘normalise’ sex work.

    Sadie – I am a sexy, sensual British SSBBW, UK size 32. I’m an escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator. I am very down to earth and my clients say I’m very easy to talk to and to open up to. My main escort service is GFE (Girlfriend Experience) as I love kissing, touching and caressing and my clients really enjoy that with me. I am also part of the Rose Talks Sex debate team, which you can follow on Twitter @rosetalkssex .

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    With COVID, all escorting is on hold but I am working very hard to create more content for online and give my subscribers and buyers what they want. I’m looking into setting up my own website although that will take a while. I am also making contact with other sex workers so that we can collaborate on some work once it is safe to meet up after COVID. So watch this space!!

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  • Why You Should Enjoy Montreal With A Companion

    Why You Should Enjoy Montreal With A Companion

    I would like to mention that I have never worked for an agency so I can only speak of my experience as an independent companion, that being said, I think escorting is a largely misunderstood industry full of unwarranted, negative misconceptions. Escorting may not be for everyone, and I definitely suggest doing research before booking your first client, but for those who want to try it, I highly recommend it.

    I started my research simply by Googling how to be an escort and just went from there. Since becoming a companion, my quality of life has improved significantly in many ways, and my only regret is that I didn’t start sooner. I have gained so much confidence and self esteem. It is a huge rush of empowerment to be paid for my time. Yes there are risks, but since I have a screening process that all potential clients must complete before I meet them, I honestly don’t think escorting is any more or less dangerous than traditional dating.

    Strangers are strangers, no matter how or where you meet them. The incredible people I have met, the fantastic experiences I have had, and the spectacular opportunities that have presented themselves that I otherwise would have missed out on, are life changing rewards that far outweigh the risks.

    What Makes Me An Ideal Companion

    I am your typical fiery red head. Full of passion and lust for life and adventure. As independent and free spirited as I am, I’m also very intuitive and affectionate. I believe it’s this balance of affectionate independence that makes me an ideal companion. It means I am especially attentive to my date’s needs while also knowing when to back off and never seem needy. I have a more submissive personality in general but I love expanding my boundaries so I never pass up the chance to play a more dominant role when requested.

    I have a particularly unique blend of shy yet playful sensuality, mixed with confident desire that is very attractive to my dates. I also have a quick and witty sense of humour and I love to laugh. Having fun is always my goal no matter what I’m doing, however I do understand how to remain tasteful and appropriate to the specific situation. My sense of fun and adventure and positivity are all attitudes that my dates find very attractive.

    My easy going nature means I adapt seamlessly to any situation and feel comfortable just about anywhere, allowing my dates to be reassured I will always be enhancing their experience no matter where we go or what we do. I’m as comfortable at the ballet or theatre as I am in a strip club and I love balancing the formal fancy evenings with the more casual and kinky events. I love dressing up and being glamorous as much as I love getting dirty.

    How To Enjoy Montreal With Me!

    To have the best, most well rounded experience of both me and Montreal, I like to spend at least 2-3 days with my clients. I am happy to spend just an hour or two with my date, and can still create an intimate and passionate atmosphere, but having 2 to 3 days together allows for even more passion and intimacy to build and develop. The extra time provides a much more exciting and attractive experience. Plus, there is so much to do in a city like Montreal and something for every taste.

    I love to customize dates according to my clients interests. Just a few examples include spa themed weekends, sporting events, live music, theatre and ballet themed weekends, even kinky sex dungeon, and swingers club themed weekends. In a city like Montreal, the possibilities are truly endless. From the casino for fun and gambling, to old Montreal and the old port for some culture and history, to the downtown core for all the best shopping, to La Ronde, the amusement park with the evening fireworks display that is always exciting and romantic. Not to mention the wonderful museum exhibits to visit, gourmet restaurants to try and festivals to experience.

    If it’s not possible to spend 2 or 3 days with me, I can easily rearrange any portion of the themed dates to fit whatever time we do have together and still create a sensual world just for us. I have no doubt social distancing will continue to limit the events available throughout the next few months, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still have fun, we just have to be a bit more creative.

    What A Gentlemen Needs To Prepare Prior To Our Engagement

    The first thing the potential client should do is visit my web site to verify my rates and services to make sure I am offering what they are looking for at a budget they can afford. The next thing a potential client should do is plan which days and what times they would like to schedule with me. They should then contact me at least 24 hours before they would like to see me to make sure I am available. This gives me the time I need to check my schedule and get ready without having to rush. The last thing a potential client should prepare is the screening info I ask for, which is either a picture of their face, a copy of their ID or active social media info, or a reference of another provider they have seen in recent months.

    My preference is a picture of their face but depending on the situation, the other forms of screening info can also be accepted. It may shock some people to know I ask for pictures of clients faces, but a lot of clients actually take the initiative and send me selfies even before I ask for them. I understand if this can be uncomfortable for some clients which is why I offer other methods. If a client is uncomfortable with every method and does not want to give any screening info then I don’t schedule the date.

    Rules To Follow During Our Time Together

    Impeccable personal hygiene is a top priority. Showering everyday and certainly before we meet, making sure everything is fresh and clean is the most important. Also, proper manners are a must. Please and thank you are very sexy to me. I like doors being opened for me, and my chair being pulled out for me, and any chivalrous opportunity is well appreciated.

    Respecting boundaries, and asking permission before doing anything are also very good habits for a client to have. Usually, as long as a client is courteous and treats me with respect, most everything else tends to fall into place on it’s own.

    Krissy Phoenix – Fiery red head who is the perfect combination of sweet and sultry. Born in Canada from Scottish/Hungarian heritage. At 5’8″, 130lbs and size 8 feet, I have a slim build with long slender legs, perky, natural breasts, luscious ruby lips, sparkling green eyes, a gorgeous thick mane of curly red hair and smooth silky skin. Along with my physical attributes, my positivity, warm smile and playful giggle are just some of my most attractive features.

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  • Meet The Male Escort Women Pay To Sensually Dominate Them

    Meet The Male Escort Women Pay To Sensually Dominate Them

    My personal views about sex work is that all humans crave and deserve to feel connected, satiated and whole with another. Sex itself is more powerful, vast and deeper than most realize. Different cultures have developed sciences (systems) of cultivating sexual energy. On one end of the spectrum sex may be employed to feel the warmth of a lover. On the opposite end of the spectrum it may be used to become clairvoyant or communicate with other beings, spirits, etc, by delaying orgasm long enough to send a partner(s) into an ecstatic trance. Of course, a sexual embrace can be used for anything along the spectrum.

    Providing companionship to women is a compassionate, honorable and a very much needed profession. Many women go unfulfilled inside and outside of the bedroom. When a woman pushes past society’s biases and misconception about engaging me, she usually says that she wished she had engaged me much sooner.

    Are More Women Engaging Male Escorts Today?

    Certainly. In certain socioeconomic circles, straight male escorts for women are widely known, utilized and encouraged by women; sometimes even by their husbands or boyfriends. Many women prefer engaging a male escort to dating. They feel that most men lack even the basic dating, sensual or social skills. And that most, at least in the USA, are overly obsessed with their own sexual gratification, sports, violence and protecting their fragile egos.

    For the longest time it was a luxury available to only the super rich. But that’s not so now since many women are climbing the economic ladder. 

    Reasons Women Engage Male Escorts

    Women engage male escorts for many different reasons, more than I can enumerate but here are the top six reasons they engage me:

    • A partner for sensual adventures
    • A partner to dance or engage in a hobby or activity with her
    • Feel attended to and have her needs, wants and desires cared for
    • A couple engages me for a threesome or foursome
    • Accompaniment to an event
    • To know what it feels like to be with a black man

    What To Know Before Engaging A Male Escort

    First a word of caution: Most guys who are in this business shouldn’t be anywhere near this business. They don’t know the first thing about being a companion to women. Also, they either do not invest any or enough money and time to learn how to become a male escort, study the business of providing companionship to women or even develop themselves as human beings. Some may become dangerous, and violent. Others may be predators posing as escorts. Thus, a woman should exercise due diligence for her comfort and safety.

    Here are a few tips:

    • Educate yourself about engaging straight male companions for women. I recommend looking at http://www.conciergedumonde.com. It’s older and doesn’t have much activity. But it does contain good information for ladies who engage male companions or are considering doing so. The forum and its content was created by ladies who are/were clients of straight male escorts. A newer and upcoming forum is http://womenscompanionforum.eu/. Although it doesn’t contain as much information as the older one it’s nevertheless a valuable resource. It was jointly created by a client of male companion and a male companion.
    • Thoroughly investigate your potential companion’s website, social media presence, references, referrals, etc., in order to get a feel for him and what he provides.
    • Adhere to your companion’s contact, booking and etiquette instructions.
    • Study some form of combative martial arts. I highly recommend Krav Maga.

    Top 3 Misconceptions People Have About Providing Companionship To Women

    1. That a woman hires a male escort only for sex. It isn’t always about sex and it is not only about sex. It’s more about a woman who wants to connect with a man who fulfills her on multiple levels.
    2. Women who engage male escorts are desperate, unattractive, can’t get a man, etc. – First, standards of beauty are culturally defined, secondly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Finally, many knock out gorgeous women engage me.
    3. That anyone with a penis can do this work. – Many guys try to become a straight male escort for women but they don’t have what it takes. It’s really a discipline that requires certain skills and characteristics. In North America there’s only three guys who I respect as quality companions. It takes much more than a cell phone, website and a penis to do this.

    Types Of Women Who Engage Me

    In addition to what was mentioned above about feeling connected, satiated and whole, my clients want to feel their own feminine energy and power through my masculine energy and power.

    They span the gamut of nationalities, cultures, races and religions. Some are heterosexual woman, while some are bisexual. Many have bachelors degrees and most have Masters and PHDs. In terms of professions, some are doctors, lawyers, CPA’s, college professors, business executives, entrepreneurs, athletes, artists, teachers, entertainers and even sex workers. Some are single, married, divorced, etc.

    The Stigma Associated With Sex Work

    I think that it’s hypocritical puritanical bullsh*t. Everyone craves to feel a connection, whole and satiated with another human being. Why should anyone else have a say in or even care about what consenting adults do in private to receive what we all deeply desire.

    Why Is Sensual Domination Popular Among Women?

    It’s been my experience that when a woman is very attracted to man, she really wants him to dominate and devastate her in the bedroom. Sensual domination involves taking control and leading her into an amazing sensual experience(s).

    A Typical Sensual Domination Session

    The ambiance of the room is set with candlelight, aromatherapy and music. Concerned with your pleasure and safety, I inquire about your comfort level with sensuality, and kink.

    Lightly restrained, feathery light strokes tease, sliding over the bottom of the feet to the calves, thighs, buttocks, back up to the neck. Hands follow tenderly caressing the soft tissues of the body; kneading the harder ones.

    Perfectly relaxed with my touch, you melt with eager anticipation of what’s to come next. A variety of tools and techniques are employed.

    Firm caresses slowly increase the intensity of your pleasure. You begin to tense up as the touch becomes more intimate. I take you right up to the edge of an ecstatic release. With an ever engulfing desire to be satiated, your breathing becomes shallow. The back arches, spontaneously moaning with passion.

    Sensing that the tension in your body has become both titillating and unbearable, you receive permission to release. The sexual energy pulsating throughout the entire body you burst with excitement, quivering. You bask in the afterglow, exhilarated with both the journey and finish line.

    Deep feelings of joy and connection are engendered as you lay gasping, exhilarated and breathtakingly pleased with my touch and the sensual healing secrets that you tasted. Wrapped in a blanket, I’m there with you as you calm down. You beam in the afterglow savoring the adventure that we shared together.

    Anthony Asanti – Straight Male Escort providing warm, sensual and professional companionship to women only. A Sensual Warrior who’s the world’s first and only Straight Male Escort catering exclusively to women certified in Bondassage and providing it exclusively to women. He is a formally trained CHEF in the U.S. Military who delights in preparing a succulent tasting vegan-vegetarian dining experience for the special friend. He’s appeared in many print and online media outlets, podcast articles in addition to his own articles on providing High-end Male Companionship to women which have been re-blogged and re-distributed worldwide. He has a fervent love for the arts, studying ancient and indigenous civilizations, human rights & justice, and martial arts.

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    My in-person sessions, tours, and travels were halted during this Covid-19 pandemic but have since resumed. I was scheduled to be in Huston, TX July 10th – Jul 13th. But since NY recently imposed a mandatory quarantine from those traveling from TX and a few other states more, the trip was postponed. Subscribe to my newsletter via the footer of my website for my upcoming news, tours, and travels.

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  • What Does The Future Hold For The Sex Work Industry?

    What Does The Future Hold For The Sex Work Industry?

    Sex work is the oldest profession for a reason. Early on, we humans realized that in order for civilization to be civilized, it’s base compulsions and behaviors needed an ordered focus. Enter religion, arena sports and sex work. Brothels were some of the most successful businesses’ and prostitutes were property owners and political leaders in ancient Egypt, Greece and Rome.

    They (pun intended) had their finger in every aspect of the daily life of their community. I am proud to be a part of this industry! I believe the modern provider has the opportunity to be just as influential as their ancient counterparts.

    What The Industry Was Like Pre-Covid

    I started in the industry before the internet when advertising was done on the Sunday sports page, back pages of free weekly’s (yes that’s why and where Backpage started) and in the phone book. The internet changed everything. It expedited the process of finding and booking quality encounters. It also made it easier to communicate with other providers and patrons in real time. The information exchange was crucial to safety, discretion and independence.

    The biggest change began during FOSTA/SESTA and has been exacerbated by the pandemic scare. It’s widen the divide between everybody. Our industry feels sometimes like a deserted island. However, services like cashapp and venmo are game changers and have made it easier and safer between client and provider exchanges. Now, the independent provider has the opportunity to do what third party platforms like webcamming could only provide. It’s exciting because it broadens your reach and opportunities from small local and touring markets to world wide possibilities.

    How Covid Has Changed The Industry

    Initially it was scary because overnight, the world was shut down. I am also a bartender in the French Quarter and we had no notice or time to prepare. We were affected weeks before everybody else. If it were not for our resourcefulness that NOLA’s always been about when it comes to helping each other, I’ve no idea what I and my co-workers and other friends in the hospitality industry would have done.

    I started a Gofundme that first week because even my Mom thought I was overreacting. We had ZERO money coming in and most of us are hand to mouth and paid under the table. My patrons and fellow bartenders came through with online money immediately. The very first and now largest relief efforts outside of that help has been provided by the FQ hospitality industry. During the stay at home order, the worse thing really was the BOREDOM. Everybody felt that.

    Adapting To The New Norm

    I’ve started things like the Gofundme I mentioned earlier to honestly guilt some people into understanding service work of any sort cannot be addressed with a 9-5 mentality generally, but especially in a crisis. I’ve begun to use the online cash exchanges and concentrated on building my brand in a more online intensive direction.

    I just launched my ONLYFANS page and am amazed at the response. The change feels great! After all, the concern is for our health and wealth, and we are poised to turn the corner stronger as people and providers deciding what’s right for us.

    Shaping The Future Of Sex Work

    Online services and branding in social media expanding beyond where it is now. We had a fight with navigating the debacle that was FOSTA/SESTA especially and the government and law enforcement response. As a member of ESPU and SWOP, our challenge is to educate everyone on why working together is the only way to move forward. There simply is no other choice.

    There has been a disturbing misogynistic trend with a lot of the online sites and businesses’ that ‘cater to the provider. Everything changed instantly. None of the sites that protected us still exist. It’s trial and error. It can be disheartening and defeating. We are more exposed to abuse and violence than ever before with less recourse. That’s what’s exciting and a relief about online services. You’re more independent and are removed from the possibilities of the ‘worse case scenarios.’ It still doesn’t solve the issues we face and will continue to until the work is decriminalized. That has little chance of happening when we are up against a government that is out of touch.

    The National Council On Women’s Health which passes laws governing what we are allowed to do with our physical bodies as women has ZERO women sitting on it. Until that type of inequity changes, we are fucked as a country and a world. Pandemic or no.

    Advice For Future Sex Workers

    Be smart. Never rush into anything. Develop your persona and image. The consistency with how you look and book will affect your revenue. There is no magic solution but if you treat the business as such and realize how much fun you can have while making sometimes in an hour what most make in a week, it will be hard to have a civilian job ever again. However, NEVER lose sight that no matter what, your safety and peace of mind are more valuable than any amount of money. Scared money never wins.

    Jodi Jonez – I am a New Orleans premier mature companion. Southern born and bred showing you a good time’s in my DNA! LAISSEZ LES BON TEMPS ROULER!

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  • Coming Out As A Sex Worker

    Coming Out As A Sex Worker

    My view towards sex is still the shaming of how women ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t’ use their bodies, like for instance, having people think it’s acceptable to so easily say it’s morally, ethically or not ‘ladylike’ of one another when they are probably going home with someone for a one off night. Slut-shaming is still so in the norm that we as women don’t feel as if we have a say over ‘our’ body’, drastically getting bullied for something we have chosen consensually to do.

    I lost my virginity quite late, it was a few weeks before my 18th birthday which was very behind a lot of people. Growing up, I was very much the late bloomer and a bit nerdy/awkward. I grew up with loving and supportive parents, private school education and security, So it has nothing to do with my upbringing but still people expected a different me and was shocked that I was engaging in such an act that I simply enjoy and know that it is one of the most natural things a human being experiences. This is my body, my decision, and I have complete control over myself.

    The amazing diversity of my job, how much I feel empowered by my work, and that it has allowed me to truly be confident within my own skin. I know that I have respect and love for myself and stigma does not effect my drive to not be ashamed.

    Coming Out To Family & Friends

    It was just more beneficial for me not to keep it a secret anymore. My parents had suspicions of what I was doing. I went eight months without telling anyone but my sister and it was hard and isolating. Sadly, my sister passed away two months after I started. So I was alone for a bit, balancing a double life. People questioned me about it regularly. They would ask me about what it’s like. I love to educate people, any questions I’m open to speak freely. I’ve opened peoples’ minds to respect and appreciate people in the independent industry.

    I absolutely love to support and help those who are in the industry or just starting, because a mentor would have really helped me in the past. So I’ve experienced the highs and lows and everything in between. Essentially, my parents are not happy about it but they accept it to a point. Mostly because they do not understand the industry and try to dismiss the topic. Very common for generation clashes.

    When I told my friends, most of them were pretty open-minded about it, but I have lost a couple of long time friends from me telling them. And I’ve really learnt who my true friends are and who deserves my energy and love. I just knew they would judge me to start with. I in fact prepared myself for it. There’s so much discrimination surrounding sex workers in the general community: I expected my family and friends to view me that way too. People not exposed to people in our industry generally don’t understand the difference between a prostitute (the oldest profession) and a high class independent escort.

    Being An Elite Escort

    The elite escort of today showcases what I feel is one of the most beautiful profession of all, and the industrious business woman behind it.

    Sex work not only performed its required function of paying my bills and clearing my debt, it broadened my horizons and introduced me to the kind of life I would wish any woman to have in her early adult years; one of curiosity and experimentation, of financial ease, of obstacles, of discovery and intimacy and adventure. Something out of the 9-5 job.

    I started into this business almost two years ago and I entered completely blind sighted. It’s much easier to think this is an industry full of people who are damaged or funding a drug addiction and there is that sad side to it. But there are also smart, intelligent women who choose to do this. People dismiss the topic of sex from how they have had engraved in their minds, so why does sex work cause such a big outrage?

    Choosing escorting as a career is undeniably a savage business decision. Women are becoming more and more independent and want to live life on their terms. I find it empowering and possibly one of the most feminist decisions a women could do in taking control of their bodies.

    If a woman decides to enter the world of escorting to exploit her natural gifts, that will in turn give her ultimate freedom, by choosing when to work and with whom. Then I fully support these women. Sex workers are perceived as uniquely incapable of this professional requirement, but it’s actually sex workers who “often have the most deeply honed in knowledge and practice of ethical principles, such as boundaries and confidentiality, of any profession”. Not only wrongful discrimination but a great loss to the profession.

    As a supporter of sex workers, you might think sex work offers a vital service to, for instance, disabled clients. For the women who do it including myself, it is a fun and empowering part of work. You might then think that sex work should be celebrated, normalised as an integral part of any healthy, functioning society.

    I appreciate and genuinely love sharing such special connections, This work has truly opened my mind and made me grow as a strong women, which I wouldn’t change for anything. My decision to start this profession was the pure desire to be able to engage in spiritual connections and mental stimulation, which as human beings we crave.

    Marley is a young Luxury independent companion based in Melbourne, Australia. This soul healing, adventurous vixen model escort is always exploring and experiencing the wonders of being in the sex industry. Having a liking to   travelling, refined cuisine and intellectual conversations.

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  • Ways The Escorting Industry Can Improve

    Ways The Escorting Industry Can Improve

    I feel quite passionately towards sex work. It is something I look upon as a great privilege for both him and I or her and her/him and him. To be able to provide such an intimate service for another person, to me, it is something to be greatly respected. As a natural historian, I have sort to explore the origins of stigma around sex work and can certainly see why it is such a struggle to accept sex work these days as something beautiful rather than ugly.

    The problem is, these old and ingrained rumors of sex work have made my profession almost completely void from the truth of its true purpose. To provide love. Or if that is too much to swallow, to provide a Quality Human Connection.

    Challenges Facing Sex Workers Today

    Fear! Hands down, fear of speaking up, fear of speaking up amongst the community of other businesses. We can’t have normal business conversations from a business operations perspective because we still aren’t allowed to talk openly and frankly about our business. This means we face greater challenges of being able to evolve or develop healthier business attitudes and leadership toward and in our industry.

    We cannot openly participate in business development forums, workshops, proper advertising and general development of healthy business structures. That means we remain an incredibly vulnerable market, a market mostly full of woman. It allows stigma to be further etched into our collective thoughts and feelings, causing us to remain fearful of doing something as simple as asserting a basic human right like safety in fear of the repercussions (can’t spell that one).

    A great example of this is Covid-19 business restrictions. Though we live in a fantastic country where we are decriminalised, our industry has had ZERO LEADERSHIP from any formal body including its own sex working collective on how we are to operate safely in our different alert levels. This is simply tragic and unnecessary. This could cause a serious health risk to a massive task that all of NZ undertook to remain COVID free.

    What It Takes For The Industry To Improve

    This industry must take itself seriously and stop waiting for others to take us seriously if we are to improve. We can improve greatly by simply raising our own standards first, role model the high standard in which we would like to be seen in by others and take it from there. It will take a shift in attitude and perspective, and is going to take courage but we can do it.

    From this, other forms of development in our industry will evolve organically such as workshops, being able to be part of proper business training and management. These are all things that I can offer as a trained and qualified mentor, social worker and life coach. Also regular meetings, changes in legislation and policy, stronger and more transparent relationship building between us, our stakeholders and our communities will start to happen if we put ourselves forward.

    I understand it is scary to step up and be seen in an industry where we feel we have to hide, but it is having the opposite impact, it is keeping us vulnerable, not safe. WE have to step forward and be heard and seen.

    Misconceptions About Physical Appearances Of Sex Workers

    I personally believe there is. My belief was that I needed to be young, good looking, slim and prepared to have sex with anyone. That was my belief when I entered, I have heard this has been a similar belief for others and not like this at all for other people. Overall, I experience there being a lot of misconceptions about who we are and what we actually do

    What Can Be Done For Sex Workers To Feel Confident?

    A lot, that could be a documentary in itself, it’s a deep and complex matter. I always say start with yourself, “be the change you want to see happening” I genuinely live by that. Sex workers themselves need to take themselves seriously and stop waiting for a miracle out there to happen, it’s not going to happen, we have to pave the way and be strong about that.

    We call the shots, not them, not ever. Our bodies, our work, our thoughts our lives our expertise, we are the source of knowledge and expertise.

    How I See The Industry Evolving In The Coming Years

    At this rate, painfully slowly and much at all but at the same time I do see attitudes slowly changing and governments being more open in some places to the idea of legitimizing sex work. I would like to see more leadership coming together with other leadership in a way that is seen, transparent and effective for us as a whole.

    I do also see the industry gaining momentum with individual independent workers which I feel is giving birth to a new and more modern wave of sex workers who are more vocal about their right to work as a sex worker.

    Bella Petite – I’m a deep thinker and often find myself-looking at the big picture. I enthusiastically believe in raising the bar. My desire is for you, the client, to confidently know without hesitation you are employing my services with the same level of trust, quality and professional etiquette and accountability you would expect from any other highly successful business.

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  • 20 Questions With Adult Model Hadi Hart

    20 Questions With Adult Model Hadi Hart

    SimplySxy follows up with Hadi Hart after her feature on Loving Blowjobs. Find out more below and things you never knew about Hadi before!

    1) Tell me about yourself?

    My name is Hadi. I’m 23, Dominican born and raised in Miami Florida. I’m just your regular college graduate who loves to fuck and doesn’t care who knows it.

    2) How did you decide that you want to try something exciting like this?

    I started on Tumblr when I was 18 and I mostly just did it for my self-esteem I would take nudes and just love the feedback I got. It wasn’t until I was like 19? Then I met a friend who got me into the sugar baby lifestyle. And that really opened my eyes to the sex work community. And I just kept going and I loved recording and being recorded. It just seemed like the next best step for me personally.

    And I am kind of a nympho maniac so it keeps me at bay honestly. But to be fair I had no idea about online sex work until my friend told me about it, he convinced me to start a Twitter. And it was one of the smartest things I have ever done.

    3) What excites you the most about your work here?

    What excites me most is seeing my fans happy, I love feeling the power and seeing the excitement on their face or hearing about how happy I make them. It started off and is mostly about body positivity when it comes to my work but I do have to say I have a slight sadistic side to me that gets off on getting people off.

    4) When your fans comment on your body, how do you feel?

    Sometimes it hurts, I’m human. And I’m not perfect and that’s ok. But luckily I have an amazing support system which keeps me grounded at all times. Self esteem will always be an issue for me and a lot of others but it’s an every day job to love yourself.

    5) How did you loose your virginity?

    I actually planned it…like a weirdo. A lot of my friends wanted it (my virginity) and I was like fuck that. I’m gonna decide. So I chose a kid that was apart of my group of friends and I thought he was cute and I lost my virginity in a house with my best friends in the other rooms also having sex….I was a very weird/wild 17 year old.

    6) Any interesting stories, that you would like to share with your fans?

    Honestly I have too many horror stories to tell but I have definite rules to follow. Never have sex because you feel pressure. If you’re not ready, you’re not ready and that’s ok. Never feel like if you’re not a sexual person that something is wrong with you. And being different is fucking awesome. Be who you are and fuck everyone who tells you to change.

    7) What turns you on?

    Confidence, and honestly good conversation. If you can talk and actually have something start to say then you’re halfway there with me.

    8) What are your hidden fantasies?

    My hidden fantasies, hmmmm that’s interesting, I have a lot of them. But I would have to say that I would love to be “kidnapped” and “taken advantage of” and gangbanged. I’m a very sexually deviant person and love weird things!

    9) Do you love kinky gifts? Give some examples!

    YES! I love kinky gifts! I have a few onesies and even nipple clamps that I got from some fans that I use all the time during play!

    10) When you posted your first naked picture on Twitter, where you nervous/excited?

    I was super excited, I was like fuck yes, finally. I’m actually doing this.

    11) What is your favorite position?

    With an ass like mine?….Hellloooo definitely doggy. Or I like to be on top haha.

    12) What do you like sexually? What get you wet?

    I’m the kind of person that gets hot even by someone’s voice. Just by saying the right things to me can get me wet. I love being embarrassed or humiliated in a way. I love to be challenged and made to back down.

    13) Are you submissive or dominant?

    I am actually a switch. I’m dominant with women but submissive with men most of the time. I’m a brat and love to challenge people sexually.

    14) What was your favorite porn genre?

    Lesbian definitely. My first ever porn was a girl orgy funny enough.

    15) Do you have any favorite movies?

    The Harry Potter series will always have my heart.

    16) What is your favorite food?

    Right now it’s anything peanut buttery.

    17) What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?

    Hmmmm I’ve eaten and finger fucked a mans’ ass?

    18) Are there things you do at home that you won’t do at work or vice versa?

    When it comes to my vanilla job I’m obviously a different person, but to be honest, porn me and the real me are the same person.

    19) What are your views on public sex or showing off your body in public?

    I’m okay with it as long as you don’t involve anyone else who’s non-consenting into it. Other then that fucking go for it!

    20) What will be your message to your lovely fans out there?

    Thank you to everyone who’s been here with me from the beginning! I appreciate all the love from my fans and friends from the SW community. I love what I do and I hope you’re enjoying what I do as well. Thank you for being a fan, and for those who don’t know me. Come check me out!

    Hadi Hart – I’m 23 and just graduated with my Bachelors. I have been in sex work since I was 19, and fell in love with the body positivity and acceptance movement of it all. I’m from Miami and am a BBW content creator.

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  • Sharing My Sex Work Experiences

    Sharing My Sex Work Experiences

    As far as I can remember, I’ve always been intrigued by sex work. It started when I found some erotic magazines of my dad, followed by seeing strippers or escorts in movies. After that, watching my first porno. But what really intrigued me was when I first met my first professional escort. I had to know more! I was raised with a really open mom, she explained sex to me a little earlier than most (was living with my single dad at the time so it seemed fit).

    I feel that I always been curious about sexuality, so when I first met that girl I already had quite a lot of experience and it seemed like a good way to help me through schools, little that I know, I am still doing it even if I am done with school. Sex work is a place where I can be my real self sexually. Only thing I really hate about this job is all the stigma and normality of girls getting in bad situation as if they deserve it. We are all humans and most of the ladies I know in the industry are good person.

    Remembering My First Client Experience

    I remember like it was yesterday, I feel it’s something you never forget. At the time, I was lucky enough to work with an agency that cared about us. She made sure my first client was a good client, he ended up being a regular of mine afterwards until I moved out of Quebec City. For the purpose of this interview, let’s call him Mike.

    I was so nervous to see him since I didn’t know what to expect at all. I met him in a motel around 9pm. When Mike opened the door I could see he was about 30-35 , and he looked a little bit nervous. With time I found out he was not really nervous but it’s just how he is. Talks extremely fast and seems anxious all the time. We talked a little bit at the beginning and then proceeded to the main action. I can still taste the mix of mouthwash and cigarette in his mouth. All I can say is he respected all my boundaries and didn’t push me around to do anything.

    How My Experiences Have Generally Been

    In general, most of my experiences were positive with the agency and since I started to be independent. I had a couple of bad ones here and there while I was learning the ropes of the industry but most of it was good. Only really bad experience would be that I got robbed on my first tour in Vancouver. At the time I didn’t know about references, screening process or asking for a deposit. I was lucky enough to not have too much money with me and that he didn’t hurt me too much.

    What Constitutes A Good Experience To Me

    I feel that what I would consider a good experience is when there is chemistry with both of you and the person understand and respect all your boundaries. As much as I do enjoy a dinner date or travel, this doesn’t mean it will be a good experience… some of my best times were seeing someone for about two hours since it leaves us time to get to know each other a little bit more and make the “stress” go away.

    I won’t lie about the fact that I do enjoy being treated like the goddess that I am, so a good diner with good drinks never hurts… A little gift here and there as well.

    Have You Had Any Unfortunate Experiences?

    As mentioned earlier, I did get robbed once. Also I did encounter some drunk and hard drug users when I tried working late nights. I had a guy also when I first started with the agency I was with that tried to take the condom off while I wasn’t facing him, luckily I caught him in time. He was banned afterwards from the agency.

    Now that I know more about all the screening process, I haven’t had any bad experience. It is not a 100% sure deal while screening but prevents a lot of bad encounter. Asking for a deposit as well helps weed out the robbers and time wasters.

    Advice For New Sex Workers

    Don’t stress yourself out, at the beginning we all make mistakes and probably don’t know exactly what we are doing. But I really believe screening really helps. Also, don’t be shy to ask others for tips when you begin. I know some other SW aren’t too keen about giving help on how to or give tips but a lot are really helpful when they know you are beginning.

    I personally encourage you to contact me on Twitter if ever you have any questions. Last thing, don’t follow the exact same steps as someone else, we all have a different style and approach, find out what works for you the best.

    Bonnie – 25 year old French courtesan based out Edmonton, Canada. Tour sometimes and open To FMTY. Started in the industry at 19 with some pauses in between until today.

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  • Why Do Women Engage Male Escorts?

    Why Do Women Engage Male Escorts?

    There is no doubt that escorting is the most intimate type of work that can be done! It’s exhilarating when meeting a new client yet relaxing once you’ve both crossed the finish line. Fulfilling when a client sees their own body with new, more positive eyes, yet tense when navigating the pain. It can be lucrative, but also very demanding after a month of advertising costs and no clients to cover those costs.

    How I Got Started Into Escorting

    In university, I found a lot of interest in my Psychology of Women classes. I was very pleased to receive 98% percent as a final grade, but my knowledge alone did not make me any type of James Bond for the ladies. In an attempt to balance my tall 6ft 4 frame throughout my university years, I dedicated time to learning about the female anatomy and the female psyche. Where most men take to this task with motives of sexual conquest, I truly approached learning from the appreciation of women. I grew up with Christian values at home where female beauty is placed at the peak of physical creation. And I mean, isn’t that the truth, when even straight women are attracted to women in a way that straight men just aren’t attracted to men.

    All this to say that my adherence to religious rules on sex was in question. I found myself at the end of a hard drawn out break up where money, emotion, physical closeness were all lacking. Maybe it was the influence of a strong mother, or the hardships of loss, along with the well timed idea from a close friend. All influences considered, it all led me to find a place in sex work where I could celebrate women.

    What Makes Me Unique

    One of my goals as a male escort is to focus on the experience of pleasure for my client, specifically by attending to their needs by giving my best. In any relationship there are key psychological wants/needs that we have to address to feel satisfied; survival, fun, freedom, power, belonging (I happen to like Glasser’s Five Needs, the best part is you get to choose your needs/desires). In the first 10 minutes of meeting a client, I want to know why they are with me and which desire my client is looking to fulfil.

    Fundamentally, we all share the same basic needs. Each client has different needs (sometimes a new need or want by the day), and every need has different motivations, and she will likely express those needs differently than any other client. But the differences in how we behave are shown through our individual past experiences. Often our needs emerge from an emotion, or a thought, or even conflicting thoughts. Which is why I love to listen, and be attentive to uncover those desires. The intimacy that sex can provide can be effective at satisfying those emotional, physical, and spiritual needs.

    Why Women Engage Male Sex Workers

    As much as I’d love to believe that I’m the expert on why women engage with male sex workers, because I AM a male sex worker and I SHOULD know why my clients book. Don’t worry, I do but it’s just more complicated than you might think. Here’s my best to offer several reasons why women can be drawn to male sex workers.

    Let’s first consider her needs! Are they coming to a sex worker because they feel as though they haven’t had enough freedom in their life, marriage, job? Perhaps they need an avenue to explore their sexual imagination freely without judgement. Or the lawyer that needs to schedule sex into her life because if she doesn’t, she notices a decline in her work performance. Each reason to engage sex workers is valid. Whether you do it to give up control or to gain it, maybe to experience a sense of safety through intimacy, or even creating a safe space to grow from past trauma. Maybe a wild birthday celebration!

    What My Regular Clients Are Like

    My first job was probably the best training I could ask for. I worked at a chocolate shop where I was able to learn each guest’s palate. If they preferred mint chocolate, creams, hazelnut, liqueurs, ganache or praline. I heard many moans of enjoyment when it was time to pass free samples. Like a box of chocolates, my clients are sweet, sensual and oh so tasty. Humour aside, they are assorted! Clients come in every shape, personality, temperament each with their own variety of tastes. There are a few similarities that my clients share. They always have a level of openness or defiance, curiosity and a degree of playfulness. It must be that same thinking that opens you up to hiring an escort.

    My mother worked hard to provide for her family, early on I learned what a strong, focused, and dedicated woman looks like. I’ll say with 100% certainty, you don’t have to look far in the sex work industry before you’ll find a strong woman. Sometimes that’s the explorative client, or the corporate business woman who needs to let all the racing thoughts go for a few hours, just to relax. Sometimes other female sex workers will encourage their own clients to hire me to have more enjoyment out of an encounter!

    What I Have Learnt About Women

    If I could distill this all down to one idea, it goes without saying that I am thankful to each one of my clients who have ultimately helped me learn this! We all strive to feel competent, autonomous and safe in each interaction. Every woman is magical, sensual, creative, hilarious, quirky, cute. If I can care, give attention, and respect her, she will want to open up. When she does, there will be more of her to be enjoyed!

    Damien is a student of human connection. His studies come from his work as a male escort learning to be a passionate lover, a giver, and a pleaser for women. A very positive and ambitious thinker who always has a new podcast on the go.

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  • Why I’m Proud To Be In Sex Work (Part II)

    Why I’m Proud To Be In Sex Work (Part II)

    Read Part I here

    To me as a SW, It is important to look past peoples’ flaws, and to cater to their needs. If someone is disrespectful or totally unpleasant, I will simply not see him again. If he is respectful and caring, that is all that matters to me.

    You are not gonna get along or have chemistry with everybody and not everyone is gonna like you but that is okay too.  Not everyone is going to be a repeated client, and that is ok too. I think if I meet someone where it doesn’t click, or if it gets uncomfortable I try to lighten things up with a small gesture, initiate contact, take their hands, and place them on me. At the end of the day, they pay for your services, they crave your body, and your pleasure, it does not really matter if you get along or not, as long as they are respectful. If they are not respectful or totally unpleasant, I will either tell them to leave or block them after our meeting to prevent them from contacting me again. To avoid such situations, I usually only see clients that are 30 or older and I try to read them through their initial communication with me, but sometimes it is not enough, and you are gonna come across people that you cannot stand.

    I had people making me extremely uncomfortable. I can give examples, some men I have experienced focus on what they expect from you instead of focusing on you. “Call me daddy, when you first open the door, hug me, take me to the bedroom and bend over.” I mean that might sound sexy coming from a boyfriend, but with a client that you meet for the first time, it takes time to get comfortable and it is totally out of place to behave like this.

    I am shocked to hear from some of them. ”Pardon me? I am not a sexual robot, I am a person with feelings that you are supposed to be considerate towards to make this an enjoyable experience” I want clients that are trying to get to know me because they first liked my profile and description. I will refuse any immature clients that see me solely for my body and treat me like I am not a women with feelings too. It really takes two people to make a sexual or any experience enjoyable. Men with this attitude will never please any women.

    Some will tell you how to behave in the bedroom, it is such a turn off for me because the whole beauty of sexuality is to be 100% yourself even it can get weird or gross, it does not matter as long as it is enjoyable for you and in accordance with the provider rules. I also do not like when men ask me what I like while we are at it. I mean it is totally respectful and a normal behavior to wonder if the other person likes it or not, but I would rather have me tell them or them trying it on me. Just go for it and if I don’t like it, I will say so. I think every women likes a men that can be confident, is in charge and expresses his own desires without asking how it is done even if it is not done perfectly. And the same goes for women. I think the biggest turn on for everybody, is a person that is fully herself and doing what makes him/her enjoying himself/herself while being considerate of the other persons’ pleasure of course.

    Some will mention their wife to me, that is something that I hate. “Let me talk to you later, I am with my wife right now.” It is ok to mention it or discreetly let me know but sometimes it gets too much. I am a woman, and like any other women, I like to feel special, and feel respected and your first contact and communication with me will greatly change how I feel about you and how much I will enjoy our experience.

    But again, every service worker is different and their style and type of services is also different. I would rather provide a girlfriend experience, but I am always open to different requests and trying new things and fetishes with a client that likes me. It is not always the action itself that I like or not, that turns me on or off, but the connection I have with the men that I meet.

    Why I’m Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    I would say that I am proud to talk and to be open about it because it shows how confident I am as a person. A lot of people rely on other peoples’ opinions to make their own, but I think we should rely on ourselves and on who we are, on how we feel and on what makes us truly happy. It reminds me everyday to never ever let someone bring me down for what I do or any decision I make, no matter what the majority of people think, it reminds me everyday how important it is to stand for yourself even if you are standing alone. And not a lot of people understands that. It takes a lot of wisdom and courage.

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