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  • Passionate Ideas For Passionate People

    Passionate Ideas For Passionate People

    Passion is hardly ever under total control. Passionate people like doing what they like, and they despise wasting time. Do you find yourself in these words? Are these statements that you can identify with?

    Well, if that’s the case, it might be a good idea to read through what we have in store for you, and who knows—perhaps you’ll find the job of your dreams.

    Why Male Escort?

    High-value women who like to spend their time on self-care, careers, sports, education, and other variants of self-improvement aren’t ready to settle down.

    That’s why such women often supplement their love life with a gentleman that will please them no matter the time of the day. If you’re a woman pleaser, this may not shock you, but girls like to be treated like a priority. That’s why they go for a passionate lover in the form of a male escort.

    Many women wouldn’t like to settle down at the moment and have unnecessary companionship filled with too much drama and “romance” in their life. Well, we think that a male escort service isn’t such a bad idea for those types of women.

    What’s In It For The Men?

    Although it may seem redundant to ask “what’s in it for the guys,” it’s not such a silly question at all. First, we’re eager to tell you that this job has much more benefits than an average outside observer might suggest.

    Young men pursuing a career in male escort services are freer to do anything they want.

    “What that might mean?” you must be asking.

    No Strings

    Let’s start with the obvious: there are no strings attached. Even if you have a regular customer, there aren’t any obligations outside of the conducting of your business that you must oblige to.

    Women who enjoy the company of male escorts usually stay as far away as possible from commitments, so there are no strings attached which is a phenomenal perk for young men. You still have the emotional availability to find yourself and fill your sexual and love life how you see fit.

    Free Time

    A 9-to-5 job doesn’t leave you with much maneuvering space regarding your hobbies, outside interests, or affinities.

    While being a male escort provides you with plenty of free time, loads of energy, and enough room to live your life as you please. Want to see a movie? No problems. Desire to go on a trip for a week or two? Alright.

    When a job is as flexible as this one, the passions outside your line of work don’t have to suffer because of your lack of energy or time.

    Fitness

    Keeping your body in good shape is an overall win for all men. A healthy body houses a healthy mind. You have plenty of time to stay fit when you’re as free as people in the male escort business. Whether that means lifting weights or time for long cardio (jogging, running, etc.), you’ll most certainly find the time for that.

    Another beneficial thing in this setup is that you’ll have to keep your body looking and feeling good to have more success in your line of work.

    This doubles as motivation and encouragement for young men in this industry to work on their looks. It’s always important to look and feel good, but when you have enough time to work on that and profit off of it on top of everything else, passionate young men have a winning combo.

    To Sum Up

    If you don’t know what to do, but know that you’d like to have some spare time to do the things you enjoy, here’s an inspirational idea for a passionate man: look into the things we’ve discussed and weigh the benefits against the cons.

    Pretty soon, you’ll know whether you’ve taken an interest in a new lifestyle created for passionate men and women alike. The question is, who’s the customer and who’s the pleaser?

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  • Why I Feel Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    Why I Feel Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    I just celebrated my first anniversary as a provider a few months ago, but it feels like I’ve been the industry for so much longer. I previously had a few years experience as a sugar baby, and while this was quite fulfilling as well, there is nothing quite as prideful and enriching as being an independent professional. Unlike sugaring, the provider’s boundaries, safety, and preferences are first and foremost, therefore making me proud to be a part of this community and profession. If I could scream “I’m proud to be a sex worker!” from Toronto’s rooftops all day everyday, I would!

    My First Impression Of Sex Work

    Before I dipped my toe into professional companionship, I was lucky enough to have several friends in the industry, so my impression of sex work was likely slightly more educated than the average person’s. Even still, I had no idea how much I’d intimately connect with my clients and how much I’d enjoy their company. Nor did I expect how supportive and uplifting the community would be. I’m happy to say that it’s been a dream to enter this world.

    Misconceptions That Still Exist Today

    Despite a thriving culture of companions that participate in consensual sex work, there are still so many misconceptions about the industry. It seems this wonderful world is hidden away to most, and so even the idea of sex work being consensual can be contentious. Some laymen believe we’re somehow coerced or that we’re shameful and unhappy in our choice to become a sex worker. I’m here to say that is utterly and unequivocally false. I believe that if more people spoke to professional companions, a lot of unfounded ideas and prolific stigma about the industry would easily fall away.

    What Makes Me Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    I get to fulfill wishes for a living. Not just sexually (although that is a very integral part!), but rather I create moments completely independent from the worries and complications of everyday life: a private oasis curator, if you will. I’m here to listen, excite, and steal you away from your life for awhile. For me, when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I go to a masseuse. For my clients, they come to me. That feeling of making someone’s day, week, month, or year is so enriching. My job is to spread love, what’s not to love about that?

    Why Am I An Ideal Companion?

    I’ve always been a people person. However I was never the girl with a sea of friends at the club. Instead, I’ve always been one to get cosy on the couch with a glass of wine to catch up with a friend and then realize eight hours had passed since we sat down together. I love losing track of time because we’re just so engrossed in each other. Whether we’re getting down and dirty for a few hours or delving head-first into one another for a weekend, I’ve found there’s always a connection to get lost in.

    Advice For Aspiring Sex Workers

    For prospective professional companions, I say do your research. While I was in the sugar industry, I spent an entire twelve month period researching my now-colleagues and contemporaries. I visited at websites, blogs, podcasts, provider’s social medias, and more. There are so many resources to attain knowledge of the sex work industry. Some great places to start, which helped me begin, are: The Escort Deconstructed podcast, SimplySxy.com articles (I swear I’m not pandering, these were very helpful to me!), the book ‘Thriving in Sex Work’, and the KLE Collective podcast.

    Eleanore Arden, who some describe as ‘Canada’s Blonde Bombshell,’ is a companion born and raised in downtown Toronto. She enjoys long walks on the beach, flirting over oysters, and a nice, well made pair of handcuffs. When not spending time with well selected company, she is pursuing her University degree, planning her next travel adventure, or playing with her spoiled-rotten cats.

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  • What It’s Like Being A Black Adult Performer

    What It’s Like Being A Black Adult Performer

    OtR = in a time like this, it is bittersweet. The movement for social justice has pushed people to think about diversity and being inclusive but AVN hasn’t recognized any black performers. While they may have been presenters in the show, they didn’t receive any awards so it can be bittersweet but you love yourself and love your people so I love being black and I love what I do.

    Personal Views Towards Sex Work

    I think people need to recognize it is a part of society as well as the interntaional economy. Sex workers are underpaid and work in dangerous conditions with little to no benefits. There needs to be options for people in this field to work safely, be compensated and without the stigma.

    What Inspired Me To Go Into Sex Work

    Honestly…I love NASTY sex!!! Do you remember when we were young and we would see the late night HBO, Showtime or Cinemax specials where you get to view soft core porn? Thinking that people are actually making money doing this was so enticing. Of course, as your understanding of reality and sexuality evolves, so does your motivation LOL. But if you are very passionate about sex if you see a way to make a living, why not? Plus the people you’re having sex with (in the films LOL) are usually gorgeous, visually stunning human masterpieces.

    Preconceived Notions Of Sex Work

    How many preconceived notions are based on sex and the performers: people have trouble separating the performer from the real-life human being. Thinking people who perform in films don’t have families or that their life is in abundance of coincidental non-practical sexual situations like having sex with a pizza guy LOL.

    Also, it is a lot of hard work and doesn’t pay very well in the beginning. Especially if you are a performer of color because there are less booking options for you.

    Challenges I Face As A Black Adult Performer

    As stated, as you are already a marginalized minority, there are limited options for you to get booked. You often get paid blessed. Being black means a white performer has the opportunity of looking at performing with you as either a sacrifice or a benefit. What is surreal about the adult film industry is the fact someone can pay you less money or choose not to work with you on the base of the color of your skin that legally.

    There’s the other dynamic of people looking at being black as a fetish. Thinking it’s a compliment if they say “I only take BBC” or “I’m a Queen of Spades”. Why performance don’t have to experience this.

    Common Misconceptions

    A lot of stereotypes get perpetuated by various people. Even people who look like myself where things like us being difficult to work with, always being associated with unprofessionalism, being late, hostile or uneducated. Also, people tend to think of white performers as more “mainstream”

    The Change I Hope For

    The change must come from society and influence the adult film industry. Along with better pay and safer working conditions for performers, I would like to see a reduction in the stigma around sex work. I also would like to see more black representation and black ownership. I would like for award shows and festivals dedicated to adult industry and alternative lifestyle to do better at making space for black representation in black ownership.

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  • Why Every Man Should Engage A Companion At Least Once

    Why Every Man Should Engage A Companion At Least Once

    My views towards companionship have changed over the years with every new life experience. When I was younger and had never experienced this world myself, first-hand, I could only go by what mainstream media painted this industry as: a dirty one, something someone engages in out of desperation. I thought only people with trauma or a poor upbringing would be involved in any type of adult work, but then, after graduating college and having some debt I found myself immersed in it.

    I thought I would get in, pay-off my student loans, and get out. But then, once I slowly discovered all the different layers to this fascinating industry, I realized it makes a lot of sense, as a woman, to be involved. I highly enjoy my companionship job. I have met men and women of all walks of life all around the world, and I’ve been treated better by my clients than any “normal” boyfriend ever treated me. There are never any mind-games involved. People think everyone is coerced into this industry, and although that may certainly be true for some, it’s very far from the truth for many others.

    I know many educated ladies who come from “good” families who do this job. We are service providers like any other. Men have the need for intimacy, I don’t mean just sex, I mean intimacy. They come to us because with us, they can be themselves without the pressure of always having to portray themselves as masculine and having all the answers. With us, they get to be vulnerable. They get to enjoy a fun, relaxing time, get a stress-free release, that every human-being needs, and then go back to their world, without the drama and expectations of a traditional relationship. I view companionship as a necessity for the successful functioning of society.

    Popular Reasons For Men To Engage A Companion

    In my particular case, men come to me for intimacy. I’m a low volume provider, or companion, which means I don’t see a lot of people every day. I accompany gentlemen to dinner, a theater show, an event, a vacation, or a staycation… Men engage a companion because they seek a judgement-free person to spend time with.

    I know a lot of personal details of my regular clients, and this stems from the trust built over the years. It has become a friendship. They feel the need to talk about the realities of their job, or the pressures they face at home, because society, unfortunately, views men as weak if they show emotions and vulnerabilities. They engage a companion because they get to be vulnerable for once.

    What Makes Me An Ideal Companion

    In my personal life, I keep to myself. I only have a few close friends and I spend a lot of time with my family when I’m on time off. My work persona is a kind, nurturing, understanding lady. I am very laid back, relaxed, and I do not judge the gentlemen or couples that seek me out.

    When I feel totally comfortable with someone, I’m quirky and funny. I believe I’m very confident, and I try to see the world from multiple different lenses and not just my own. I feel the only way to be a successful companion is to put yourself in other people’s shoes.

    Do First Timers Feel Nervous When Meeting You?

    When I realize someone is nervous because they are new to this world, I always tell them to relax, to view me as their friend. They don’t have to put on an act to impress me. I always ask them what their fantasies are, what they want to talk about, how their day was, and I try to get them to open up.

    I’m kind of like a naked psychologist. But they correlate their “appointment with their naked psychologist”  as a fun, nurturing time. They correlate me to positivity.

    Mistakes To Avoid When Engaging You

    Yes. One should be respectful of my time. I am not on-call. I am appointment-based. This is a service I am providing. A service YOU need. So it’s important to respectfully approach me and make an appointment in advance, so I can also schedule my life. I do not only do this job. I do other things in my life too, hence why I am so well-rounded, and can offer you such a good service.

    I value good hygiene, good manners, and also it’s important to read the “etiquette” portion on my website. It’s in poor taste to make your companion ask for the monetary gift. It should be given on your own, at the beginning of our meeting, and always the correct amount. It’s also uncomfortable for me to count it in front of you, so it’s important for you to use the restroom to freshen-up, so I can then count the gift in private.

    Those formalities must be out of the way from the very beginning so we can enjoy our quality time together. Such simple little steps go a very long way when making the appointment super positive and memorable for both of us.

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  • Disability & Sex Work

    Disability & Sex Work

    I love sex! LOL. The weirder the better, I love roleplays and kinks, and people being fully themselves during sex. But in general, I think sexuality is an opportunity for joy.

    My Companionship Style

    I don’t think I’m necessarily the ideal companion for everyone. I’m a fat and curvy redhead who is pushing 40, and I like seeing people who appreciate that about me and see all of those things as positives. I also love seeing people who are disabled and/or kinky and/or marginalized who are looking for an authentic connection based on mutual respect and fun!

    I see all respectful clients 21+ and love vanilla sessions too, but I particularly specialize in clients with disabilities, Milf/mommy, and catering to non-impact kinks and fantasies. I have my own disabilities which limit things like hiking or going to the beach so an ideal match are clients who are comfortable with spending more indoor time. (smiling devil emoji LOL).

    Misconceptions About The Sex Lives Of People With Disabilities

    How much time do you have? I think it’s generally that disabled people aren’t sexual and aren’t currently having a ton of great sex. A lot of sex workers and clients are disabled but we don’t really talk about it that much, which is a mistake. It can give us an opportunity to connect and help me really be able to meet clients’ intimacy needs which includes their access needs.

    Exploring One’s Sexual Needs With A Disability

    I think the thing that is important is to know it’s okay to be disabled during sex. It’s okay to not want to do certain positions or not be able to do certain things, in fact – it’s normal. Everyone has sexual things that we like and don’t like, and this may or may not be related to our disabilities.

    We should all be thinking about the way our minds affect our sexuality, and disability is just one aspect. I also really encourage people to reach out to disabled sex workers if they have the ability. The relationship between an escort and a client is unique and can be a great way to help you learn about what you like and don’t like with someone who has no other agenda than your (and mutual) pleasure and joy.

    Recommended Sexual Activities Together

    I recommend people work on seeing whatever makes them unique as a strength sexually, rather than a negative. While they also affect my ability to work as much as I’d like, my chronic and mental illnesses have helped me be able to connect to clients better, even non-disabled ones. I know so much more about bodies now than I did before I was disabled.

    Don”t Be Afraid To Explore Your Sexual Needs!

    I think a lot of times, stigma is the hardest part of all. I recommend that you talk openly about disabilities and the way they affect or don’t your sex life. Of course this is AFTER you are in a sexual relationship with a disabled person. It is rude to ask disabled people about their sexuality or what they are able to do unless you are in a sexual relationship with us.

    But just like most things, I recommend having as much fun as possible and exploring whatever sounds the most pleasurable!  Sometimes that may not be sex but may be a back rub or something else! There are a lot of ways that we can be intimate with each other and disabilities only increase those opportunities!

    Kitty Milford is a Syracuse, NY based sex worker with big tits, a big, ass, and a big personality. She’s a BBW Milf redhead specializing in Milf/Mommy, non-impact kink/roleplay, gfe, and clients with disabilities. She is also a writer and used to be a lawyer and loves books, seltzer, and lingerie. Since the pandemic she’s been focusing on virtual services. See more at kittymilford.com or email her at kittymilford@gmail.com. 

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  • How People With Disabilities Explore Their Sexual Needs With Sex Workers

    How People With Disabilities Explore Their Sexual Needs With Sex Workers

    I used to be very traditional when it came to sex, but over the years, Mr Jones and I have explored and grown together into a very sex positive couple who live a very open and sexually free lifestyle.

    Misconceptions About The Sex Lives Of People With Disabilities

    People often think those that are disabled can’t have sex or don’t want to. It’s important to not jump to these conclusions. Mr Jones often says we are still humans just like everyone else, and we deserve the chance to feel pleasure even if it may not be in the traditional way.

    Exploring Mr Jones’ Sexual Needs

    Mr Jones is 35 and born with Cerebral Palsy. He uses a manual wheelchair, but honestly lives a very normal life as a husband and a father. When exploring, it is important to have constant communication and not get too discouraged if something doesn’t work.

    If we have an epic fail, we usually just laugh it off and go back to the drawing board. If we are both satisfied by the end, who cares how we had to get there as long as we got there.

    Sexual Activities We Do Together

    We do anything and everything we want, it’s just that sometimes, we have to adapt positions to match Mr. Jones physical abilities. We find it very helpful to include sex toys and even sex furniture to help enhance the experience.

    Encouraging People With Disabilities To Explore Their Sexual Needs

    Most importantly, talk openly, don’t be shy or embarrassed and communicate what you both need from each other. Do research, talk to others in similar situations as yours. Use the internet to connect and network.

    We welcome anyone to reach out to us on our social media as we are always happy to connect and talk. We use a Reddit group called r/disablednudes to connect and explore with others, and highly recommend it.

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  • Importance Of STI Safety In Sex Work

    Importance Of STI Safety In Sex Work

    Sex is my love language. Ever since I was little, I’ve too much enjoyed touches, being exposed, and being voyeuristic. Once I lost my virginity. my entire world view changed. I went from devout evangelical to devout hedonist overnight, going to sex clubs, finding strangers on craigslist personals, and becoming a sex worker.

    I believe there are ways we can tap into a shared consciousness through our bodies, through art, music etc., and sex is my my gateway into that shared consciousness. It’s a meditation on what it is to be human, and alive, and inside a body. And it’s beautiful.

    Practicing Safe Sex For Myself

    I get tested frequently and set boundaries. I feel most safe with someone who can express authenticity and communicating openly. I try to foster an environment where others feel safe to communicate openly with me so that the scary and gross topics don’t have to be off the table.

    To that end, always use a condom in work encounters. I only offer bareback services under specific conditions after that client-provider trust has been built.

    Misconceptions About Sex Workers & STIs

    People are sometimes wary of sex workers because they think we have a higher rate of STI’s — which just isn’t true. While our volume of encounters vary from worker to worker, we are on average doing more to screen our suitors, to enact strict boundaries, to skill share and learn from one another. We are better at this than you, I promise!

    Are There Rules & Boundaries?

    Yes, absolutely. Rules and boundaries are how we keep ourselves and each other safe. Every person should have their own boundaries around work-life balance, regardless if they’re a sex worker or not.

    What Activities Are High Risk For Sex Workers?

    I think the term “high-risk” is made up; it’s a classist term that is used to shame people into thinking their behaviors are somehow immoral. We all take risks every day, and the sexual risks we take as sexual beings aren’t exacerbated by doing sex work.

    That being said, it’s always risky to sleep with someone new. To kiss someone new. To meet someone at a bar. To fall in love. To have a child. It’s especially risky when your own economic situation is such that you have to ignore your instincts in order to make money. It’s risky to walk the streets alone, but doing so with another worker can lead to a trafficking charge.

    It’s risky to fuck a stranger without a condom, but for many of us it’s one form of survival or another—”Either I take this risk, or I don’t eat, pay rent, or buy diapers until I do.” The best thing you can do to reduce “risk” is to educate yourself and use your autonomy wherever possible.

    What Happens If A Sex Worker Gets A STI?

    First of all — Most people have HSV (herpes, cold sores) or HPV (human papilloma virus). You should always assume any given partner has one or both of these and make your choices from a place of that reality.

    When a sex worker contracts something other than those very common viruses, we do the same thing everyone else does — we try to get better and (hopefully) alert recent partners.

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  • What People Don’t See About Sex Work

    What People Don’t See About Sex Work

    I love sex work. I have gone through a rollercoaster of feelings regarding the industry. There’s a lot of shame due to the stigma society has placed on it. In my first year in the industry, I was outed by a companion who did not even know me. She found out my personal information from a photographer. I am very active in non-profit volunteer work, and this woman contacted them. Shortly after that, I retired then eventually rebranded. Because of this, it made me not trust any other women in the industry until these two beautiful women, Ava and Miranda, took me under their wings and showed me how beautiful relationships in the industry could and should be.

    I have met the most amazing people in this line of work. These deep connections are something that I will always hold very close to my heart. A month ago, I released my face and showed all my tattoos, it was a scary decision, but I decided to do this because I love what I do, and I am tired of pretending that I don’t. I am even more tired of hiding.

    Misconceptions About Sex Workers

    A lot of people view sex workers as not being smart people. I am educated, and I am currently working on another degree. Most of the women that I work with are also educated. I know from when I have shared my secret with people in my “civvie” life that think it’s dirty or gross. I am a very clean person.

    When I hear sexual stories from my civvie friends, I am like, woah; I would never do that. I do a lot of research and background check the people I see. And the people I see I truly do connect with – If I sense that anything is off in the screening, I will not book. My safety is of the utmost importance to me.

    All sex workers are different. We are human, and just like in any industry, all the people involved are different. Yes, I like money. Most people from normal society view us as gold diggers or money-hungry. With the money I make in the industry, I have created impressive businesses, events, volunteer opportunities, and non-profits. 

    How Competitive Is The Sex Work Industry?

    I recently moved to Tampa from Michigan. And have spent a significant time in NYC. My favorite city hands down is NYC. I’m still new to Tampa, so I am still feeling out the industry. I think my price point for this area is much higher than the average rate.

    I haven’t met with a lot of people since my move here. I have heard from other ladies in the area that it’s not a super busy place, but I am close to the airport so it is working for me! 🙂 I have amazing people who book Fly Me To You’s, which is my preference anyway. 

    Challenges & Difficulties Facing Sex Workers

    How we connect to people is on a deep level. I can’t speak for all sex workers, but for myself, I’ve had challenges when I see the same person every week, then all of a sudden I don’t hear from them again. This is part of the work and part of the transaction piece, so I get it, but I am still human and have a very big heart.

    My main duo partner retired amidst a tour we were supposed to do together. She was one of my closest friends. When she retired, it felt like a breakup. I am still pretty sad about it all.

    But another huge challenge is keeping the lies straight if you’re hiding your secret life. Many people will ask me where I am and what I’m doing. I can’t tell them that I’m flying here or there because that will get more questions. People in my personal life who do not know all of me assume I sit at home with my cats all the time. 

    Will The Situation Change For Sex Workers In Future?

    To be successful in this career, you have to keep a strong balance. Open your heart enough to connect fully. Connection is the main piece of fully healing. But also, keep up a boundary so that you don’t become too attached and hurt. The tools that I use in sex work are the same tools I use with therapy clients.

    For me, a good self-care routine is essential: Meditation, yoga, rituals, journaling, reading, and being out in nature. It is also vital that you feel yourself coming out of balance to take a step back, deep breath, and process it all. To me, sex-work is healing work, and if you, the healer, aren’t healed, that energy will transfer over to your client. 

    Advice For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Sex work can be a very beautiful experience. If you are not mentally aligned though, it can chew you up and spit you out. Good friends in the industry help, having support, community, and advice has changed my life. Be careful who you allow yourself to connect with, though, not everyone is nice. 

    Brooklyn Monroe – Sacred Confidant, sexual healer, partner in crime.

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    2020 has been an incredible year. I sold my business in Michigan. I am currently working on a brand new holistic/witchy online store where I will be giving special discounts for sex workers. I am in a training program to facilitate plant medicines. And once planes start flying, I plan to open a center in Central America. I want to create large retreats for sex workers where they can process everything and heal. If the retreat is only for sex-workers, I feel like no one will have to hide, and that is where true healing will come. I am working on a degree in Behavioral Sciences that I will be finishing in August. My goal is to become a therapist for sex workers. Good Mental health is critical to me. When people know that I am a sex worker, they will feel comfortable talking to me about everything. Some ups and downs come with sex work, and I want to help when the downs are there. Additionally, I’m working on a clothing line where all profits will go to a non-profit in Detroit, Answer Detroit. 

    My home base is currently Tampa; I would love to meet more friends in the area.

    My upcoming tours are:

    12.11: My Birthday 🙂

    1.18-1.19 Detroit, Troy MI w/ Zara Brooks

    1.19-1.22: Michigan w/ Zara

    2.5.21-2.8.21: Tucson

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  • My Experiences In Sex Work

    My Experiences In Sex Work

    Since I have become a sex worker, I have come to understand sex as a genuine means of expression. A craft if you will, that improves and expands, and makes everybody unique. It can be used to express emotion: love, happiness… It can even serve as a refuge for sadness.

    My Understanding Of Sex Work Before Going Into It

    I have always been curious about it, because I was aware of the power of female sexuality.

    I was especially enticed after reading the book King Kong Theorie by Virginie Despentes, who used to be a sex worker herself, and who was at the time the partner of Queer philosopher Beatriz Preciado. Thanks to these authors, I began to see sex work as a means of female empowerment, as it was related to sex-positive feminism.

    Why I Love Sex Work

    I got initiated to sex work by sugaring. I like the thrill, the ability to meet people I would otherwise never meet, and of course the financial freedom it provides.

    Misconceptions About Sex Work

    I think a lot of people think sex workers are shallow and materialistic. There are shallow and materialistic people everywhere. But some of the escorts I know are amongst some of the most intelligent, cultivated and creative people I have met.

    What Is The Sex Work Industry Like?

    This is a really broad question. There are many branches of sex work: high end escorting, escorting, camming, sugaring, BDSM… Then inside those categories, there are the individuals that make each business (the business being: the person) unique in it’s own way. It’s an industry where you are allowed and encouraged to use your creativity.

    Advice To Aspiring Sex Workers

    I think it’s important to consume as much material as you can on the subjects. As an escort, I consume books, YouTube videos and podcasts about escorting. This is to know about the craft, but also in order to feel like I belong somewhere and what I do is legitimate work. It’s very easy to feel alone in this business or to feel that you are doing something “wrong”, if you don’t have the right support system.

    Lia Lazuli – An international high-class companion based in Brussels. Lia speaks 5 languages and loves reading, jogging and hiking. Her clients are mostly classy gentlemen, who are also up for a good laugh and of course, a nice conversation. 

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  • The Stigma Of Sex Work Part II – How It Compromises Sex Workers

    The Stigma Of Sex Work Part II – How It Compromises Sex Workers

    The vast number of people I see and speak to are very respectful and they appreciate the time I give them. There are people that feel they have a right to waste our time, maybe because they don’t feel sex workers should be respected; they will ask for you to send free pictures or videos, as if it is our job to encourage their business by giving them free services. I usually ask them, “would you go to work if your boss wasn’t going to pay you? So why should I?” There can also be complete disrespect for your work/life balance as they feel you must work 24/7.

    I have a very strict boundary around my work and my personal life and my work does not happen at my home. If I had £1 for every time someone asked if I could do a video call in the bathroom whilst I’m at home with my family, I’d be a millionaire!!

    There is also the nastier side to the stigma around sex workers, that make some people feel like they have paid for us so our body are theirs to use as they wish, regardless of our own personal boundaries and limits. I am very fortunate that I have never seen anyone like this and I truly feel that organisations like Client Eye and National Ugly Mugs help identify these individuals and ensure escorts have a better understanding of the people they will potentially meet, but I am aware that not all sex workers have been as lucky as me.

    It is not just clients we have to be cautious of. The police are also a cause for concern. These are the people who are supposed to protect every citizen, the people I pay my taxes to ensure they are defending our streets. There should not be bias or prejudice and yet some of them are.

    In 2013, 25 premises in Soho, London were raided by the Police. The police invited members of the media to take pictures and document the raids. It was stated that the raids were to look for stolen goods, drug dealing and to tackle trafficking but sex workers were removed from their flats, some dragged out half naked into the street and arrested. Their money and possessions were confiscated by the police. This was all done to ‘save’ the sex workers from this life but the way they were treated was disgusting. Any migrant sex worker was turned over to the UK Border Agency under the assumption that they were victims of trafficking.

    Many of the sex workers stated that they were not being forced to work, but were handed over regardless. The officers during this raid did not care about the safety of these women or the effect it would have on their personal lives. The media and the general public who posted pictures of these women online didn’t care for their safety or the effect it would have on their personal lives. Sex work is legal in the UK. There are elements that aren’t, such as no more than one sex worker in the same property. There was no evidence that any of the women from the raids were in that situation yet they were all treated as criminals.

    When the people that are in the position of holding up the law, treats sex workers like vermin and allow the press to be part of it, how can we possibly break down the walls of stigma and prejudice.

    Is This Situation Due To A Lack Of Education Or Ignorance?

    I think it’s both. Generations have looked down on sex workers. Families have educated and continued to embed these same false stereotypes to their children but thankfully, the current young generation are questioning all they are being taught and as a result have become more open, liberal and accepting, to the groups of people that for generations, have been tarnished with these stigmas and stereotypes. The young are starting to make change possible.

    Mainstream media does not help at all. Just a few months ago, there was a show broadcast in the UK that had me screaming at my TV because they portrayed the sex workers in the show in a very negative light. I believe they wanted the nation to think all sex workers are ‘broken’ but that isn’t the case. Sex work empowers both men and women to take control of their sexuality. This work has empowered me and so many others; so many sex workers choose this profession over regular jobs. I have never been as enthusiastic and passionate about any other job than I am about my work right now.

    How Can These Stigma Be Removed Or Reduced?

    Why do newspapers, TV, media feel that showing sex workers in a negative light is the right way to portray us? I am sure they think that they will encourage a whole generation to become sex workers but that would not be the case. The same way that I could not be a carer in a nursing home wiping faeces from pensioners arseholes, is the same way not every person could be a sex worker. It takes a special kind of person and it’s not for everyone.

    I know there are many men and women in the sex industry that have had horrific experiences and I don’t wish to disregard what has happened to them and I don’t wish the media to overlook them either but until the media starts showing sex workers from every angle, the good, the bad and including male sex workers, who never seem to get a mention, then people won’t be able to see the full spectrum of sex workers, from street sex workers to high class escorts and everything in between. Every one of us has stories to tell about our experiences, whether positive or negative but we need a non-judgmental, non-biased format to do it. Not a TV company knowing how they want the end production to look like, but an open-minded production that allows the stories of everyone to naturally progress rather than twisting them.

    We live in a world that makes it very difficult to change people’s opinions. Even though society has progressed massively with regards to sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, race and religion, those changes have not been quick and are still nowhere near eradicated. The stigma and stereotyping around sex workers will not disappear over night.

    In all of the cases, to quote the late Whitney Houston, “I believe the children are our future”. They are the ones who will question the bigots and the uneducated. They are the ones who will demolish those walls, but there are many things we can do in the meantime.

    We all need to do our bit to start removing the bricks from those walls. Portray the image that we want for sex workers, demanding the respect we deserve, call-out the media when they are negatively portraying us. We can make a difference, even if it’s only small because if we aren’t willing to fight for the equality we deserve, who else will.

    “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

    Sadie – I am a sexy, sensual British SSBBW, UK size 32. I’m an escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator. I am very down to earth and my clients say I’m very easy to talk to and to open up to. My main escort service is GFE (Girlfriend Experience) as I love kissing, touching and caressing and my clients really enjoy that with me. I am also part of the Rose Talks Sex debate team, which you can follow on Twitter @rosetalkssex .

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    With COVID, all escorting is on hold but I am working very hard to create more content for online and give my subscribers and buyers what they want. I’m looking into setting up my own website although that will take a while. I am also making contact with other sex workers so that we can collaborate on some work once it is safe to meet up after COVID. So watch this space!!

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