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  • How To Do A Sexy Striptease

    How To Do A Sexy Striptease

    I believe that sex begins and ends in the mind.  The rest of it occurs throughout the body and the heart.  A private striptease for a lover or a performance for a room filled audience is very sexy and unique. Stripteases allow us all to explore sexuality together without crossing too many boundaries. Alternatively, if you’re interested in breaking the rules and have the desire to try something new yet familiar, then striptease is the perfect thing for you.  In some ways it can be therapeutic, and in others it can be the sexiest thing you’ve ever been involved in.

    Whether it’s a private invitation to the bedroom wearing midnight lingerie or something dark, wicked and kinky involving all black latex, a whip and collar, nothing is more seductive for getting the mind to run wild with lustful fantasies than a striptease. Naughty or nice, it feels incredibly sexy feeling my audience undress me with their eyes as I walk into the room. I love seduction and feeling sexy with my hands, body, and mind. Proud of my sexuality and confidence, without striptease I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

    How My Interest In Striptease Began

    My interest in striptease began at an early age, during my teen years. Before I ever began HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for male-to-female transition in the Spring of 2016.  I used to be a teen male model overseas in Thailand. During the ages of 14-17 years old, I modeled for Pepsi, Milo chocolate drink, a hard candy called Heartbeat, and for my international high-school magazine which was used to advertise new schools for parents to send their children. There were 3 male models in the entire school, I was one of them.  I was never good as selling the actual products, but for some reason I got a lot of attention towards my body.

    As time passed and I grew to be an adult, I was exposed to more clothing styles which brought attention to certain parts of the body.  In my mid-20s I discovered a website called PartyHardcore.com which featured male strippers performing in front of drunken amateurs in a club. Around the same time I found a website / desktop service called VirtuaGuy and VirtuaGirl (now known as iStripper), which featured girls and guys stripteasing directly on your desktop in different styles of outfits. The level of sensuality was very erotic, relaxing to watch, and very sexy. I quickly learned that striptease can occur while wearing any outfit, in any setting.

    I began teaching myself how to striptease as a male performer in 2011, and performed numerous private shows for friends and a few clients. Then in 2012 I learned how to massage with my hands. So putting striptease and massage together I developed my own styles of teasing, whether the audience is one person or many. I had to relearn how to dance and striptease all over again in 2015 just before I began my hormone transition on March 1, 2016. I honestly enjoy stripping more as a girl than as a guy.  There’s so much more I can do with my body and many more outfits to wear.

    Whether your hands are touching me or not, it’s my job to make sure that you feel like you’re ready for sex by the time I’m done touching myself and taking off my clothes while doing so, without ever actually having sex itself.  If you can have an erotic moment in your eyes, thoughts, and even your hearts, then I’ve done my job of turning you on, teasing you and making you want much more after I’m done with the performance. My goal is to make you part of my performance. Without the audience, a striptease is more of a dance. Engaging the audience with my eyes, my body, and occasionally my touch, that’s what makes a striptease erotic and such a thing can even become quite personal.

    Is Song Choice Important?

    Yes, the choice and accompaniment of music can play an important role in the striptease. Music isn’t always necessary, especially between lovers that already know each other. However, the audience member(s) may like or dislike the music being played in the background or in some cases the main part of the show.  What attracts the most in a striptease is the freedom of movement, confidence, and the sexual nature in which the dancer / performer is revealing themselves towards the audience.

    If the music plays too slow or fast, it may change the mood of the entire performance and the speed at which the striptease is happening, even if clothes aren’t fully being taken off yet. As more skin is revealed and you connect with your audience, be it an individual or a room full of people, sometimes the music can assist in how playful or erotic the striptease is. For sure music certainly helps in getting the attention of people, exposing their sensuality and allowing personal space to get more comfortable and more erotic.

    Favorite Outfits For A Striptease

    I do have a few favorites, not a single outfit in particular. A classic choice of clothing will always be lingerie, stockings, high heels, and any other props or clothing that you would typically wear in the bedroom. However, my personal style of clothing for stripping is something that I wouldn’t mind wearing outside in public. I find it to be more erotic and playful; knowing that whatever I’m wearing can be worn by anybody or taken off by anybody.  What’s different is the way I appear to move in my outfits. Being playful with my attitude, body, and of course the way I take off each piece of my outfit will change depending on what I’m wearing.

    For example, wearing lingerie I may want to move slowly and more seductively. Alternatively when wearing a yoga or dancers outfit I can still move slowly, but I might move faster or just move my body in a different way to accompany the feeling I’m trying to project with that style of clothing. Yet both the dancer and lingerie outfits can use a bra and high heels. So the way I’d move or reveal my skin when I’m taking off my bra and heels will change depending which outfit I’m wearing. I have no favorite, but if the outfit allows me to become playful and explore my own sexuality, then I’m going to wear it, or rather take it off for you, haha!

    Other Important Things To Note

    Striptease is like a massage for the eyes and the erotic zones of the mind.  Eye contact is very important. If you have props then that’s fun and can really spice up the performance.  Through my experience I’ve found three important elements for any striptease: confidence, playfulness, and engagement.

    Whether you’re aging or in the younger years of your life, fat or slim, it’s important to believe in yourself. Emitting confidence is very sexy and showing that you’re comfortable exploring your own body will often make your audience want to touch you and explore your body for themselves. Making them want you more is always a good thing. Believing in yourself will allow the audience to believe in you as well.

    Being playful is important. Let’s say you cannot dance at all, you have never danced before and have no desire to in the future. You can still striptease. If you cannot rotate your hips then it’s okay.  Striptease is about allowing your audience to look over your entire body inch by inch. They are checking you out with their eyes, but most likely having sex with you in their minds. Here’s an example for both guys and girls, unbuttoning your shirt will give your audience a view that’s very teasing, giving them that desire to see more of what’s underneath your shirt. Let them watch, they are becoming part of the show and may not even know it yet.

    This brings me to engagement, the last part of a good striptease. If your audience isn’t allowed to touch you then sometimes being off limits can be a tease in and of itself. But let’s say for instance, that an audience member is handicapped, cannot see or hear as well as others. You always want to engage in eye contact. But if they can’t see you then you can gently touch them in seductive ways. If they cannot hear your voice as you speak seductively to them, you can still breathe very sensually on their skin. If your audience is shy and is all giggles because they don’t want to be embarrassed, then you can still gently put your body against theirs allowing them to smell your perfume. Or even grab their hands and move them around your body to explore as you would yourself.

    Striptease Tips For Beginners

    Beginners who are interested in stripteasing for the first time, I highly recommend first getting comfortable with your own reflection in mirror and touching your bodies.  Don’t be afraid to explore your own sexuality. When you’re comfortable with touching yourself all over, it’s time to begin getting comfortable in clothing.  Exploring your body in clothes is different than when totally nude.

    Anybody can take off their clothes, but there’s no secret to taking off a particular piece of clothing to make it look erotic.  If you move your body in small ways, even slowly moving your hips, legs, back, or shoulders while taking off a shirt can be very erotic. Showing your body from all angles is entertaining. Turning around once in a while or even getting on the floor can add a sexy touch to the striptease, before any skin is revealed.

    Remember to make eye contact with your audience. It’s understandable to look at your own body to ensure you’re taking off your clothes without getting things caught in a zipper or stuck button.  If you’re having trouble taking off a piece of clothing, you can even let the audience take off just one little piece for you.  This will allow them to become part of the show and it adds a personal touch.  Just remember to look at the person you’re stripteasing for instead of focusing on dance moves.  Even if you can’t dance at all, that’s okay.  It’s about engaging contact with your audience, while at the same time being playful and sexy with your own body. They will know and can feel your energy. The erotic desire and sexy vibes will fill the room very quickly. Have fun, stay sexy, and remember to love your body and your audience will love you back.

    Hi everybody! My name is Jamie Gaymer, I’m Thai-Chinese and American. I’m also a transgirl and I absolutely love porn and design. In my free time I’m a camgirl on Chaturbate, and I enjoy performing and producing in the adult industry. My goals are to become a successful trans model in the porn industry and since I’m also a video game designer I plan to release at least 2 video game titles in my life. Lately singing and dancing has filled me with great joy, and I can’t wait to share my smile, love and passion with all of you! Follow me on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/TSJamieGaymer
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    ManyVIds: JamieGaymer.manyvids.com
    Shemaleyum: http://www.shemaleyum.com/tour/models/jamie-gaymer.html

    I’m always looking for new opportunities for solo work, as well as other models to work with. I’ve been involved with adult content since 2015, but my career started to broaden since Nov 2016. I look forward to all the opportunities this year in 2017.

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  • How To Make Sexy Videos & Photo Sets

    How To Make Sexy Videos & Photo Sets

    Camming was a way for me to open up and explore my sexuality. I was very shy and reserved when the topic of sex came up before camming. Now, it has made me feel proud to express my sexuality, desires, kinks, everything. It’s also helped me learn to be more sociable, making friends with a wide variety of people online. We as cam girls learn to entertain an online audience, whether it be with our bodies, talents, or even straight up personality. That to me is ridiculously empowering; men as well as women coming to us and paying us for our time, for looks and into ourselves. The ability to work from home and adjust everything to your own comfort levels is better than any other jobs I can think of. As well as member friendships, the cam girl community is a beautiful, supportive place. I’ve met some of the sweetest and most caring women in the industry, which I think is something people on the outside don’t expect.

    Videos I Enjoy Making

    When it comes to video themes, cosplay and costume themes have to be my all time favorite. Getting to dress up as you or someone else’s favorite character, channeling their personality into an erotic setting; what could be better than that? You can choose to dress up as an exact likeness to the character, or create your own sexy spin on their look. You get to become an entirely different person with each video, which always brings something new to the table. Cosplay videos are definitely becoming a more popular and beloved theme among the video creators as well as customers. I love being able to make those kinds of fantasies come to life for buyers.

    How To Make A Good Video

    Making videos can be a difficult, lengthy process, just as well as any form of art. I always try to do research before making a video; watching similar videos made by other women, to get ideas and the general tone I may want for it. Sometimes for more detailed videos, I find it helpful to make a basic outline for what you’re going to do in the video. What kind of positions, things you’re going to wear, what you’re going to say if there’s talking involved, etc. If I’m nervous about a particular video, sometimes I’ll have a drink or two to loosen up and shake my nerves (only consider that advice if you’re 21+!).

    To make a video exactly how I want it, I may re-shoot a specific part multiple times to see which one has the right look and feel that I wanted at the start. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and shoot the same scene over and over until you get it right. There will more than likely always be bloopers, awkward camera angle changing, just small mistakes scattered throughout a video shoot. Editing is also very important, making sure you catch all of the mistakes before you put out the final cut. I’ve had a few moments in the beginning of my career where some were missed, and the video wasn’t how I wanted it to be.

    Differences Between Video & Photo Sets

    Photo sets to me have always been much more time consuming, as well as a little more frustrating. I can sit there and take 100+ pictures, and end up only liking 10 of them enough to use in the set. For editing, you want to go through and make sure your pictures look flawless, as well as keeping a natural look to them. You don’t want to put out a photoset that’s been photoshopped so much you can’t even enjoy the resulting product.

    Tips To Take Sexy Selfies

    Have fun with it! Try taking all different types of pictures; amateur phone pictures, ones with professional lighting and a DLSR camera, etc. See the variety of results you get and what kind of feel you’re looking for. Camera timers are also going to be your best friend. If you aren’t comfortable with having a photographer or someone to take them for you, just set the timer and pose! When it comes to poses and angles, I’ve realized that what poses and angles look good for others may not be the best for yourself. Try all different angles to show off your sexy body, and you’ll soon find out which ones work best for you.

    Hi there, I’m Miss Moon Moon, but you can just call me Moon. I’ve been in the sex industry for almost four years; started out with camming, now I make and sell sexy content. I’m a traditional artist (drawing) as well as a visual artist, creating erotic videos and photo sets that appeal to a variety of people. Follow me on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Miss_MoonMoon
    Twitter (Findom Account): https://twitter.com/SpoiledMoonMoon

    ManyVids: https://www.manyvids.com/Profile/400120/Miss_MoonMoon/
    iWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/63486/PrincessMoon

    YouKandy: http://www.youkandy.com/princessmoon

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  • Tips For Men When Hiring An Escort

    Tips For Men When Hiring An Escort

    I love escorting, I love the money and the people I’ve come across. I got into the industry a few years ago; it’s not a sad story that resembles a plot from Law and Order: SVU nor was it something I did out of desperation. I was fresh out of college and working in a nightclub making decent money at the time. My life changed when I was asked by someone to take me home and I jokingly replied with “sure for 5k“. He paid it and that got my ball rolling. I think many people have a misunderstanding about escorting and sex work, there’s so many stereotypes out there that don’t apply to all of us. We’re not riddled with STI’s, we don’t all offer the same things, we don’t all “walk track”, we don’t see everyone who contacts us…. the list goes on.

    Yes some women in the industry are easier to peg than others but we’re all different. I find it empowering and it allows me to meet different people from all walks of life. I’ve had all kinds of clients, they’ve been men who work blue collar jobs, white collar jobs, celebs and athletes.

    I don’t do anything I’m uncomfortable with and my clients are good to me. I enjoy the work I do, it’s not for everyone but, it works for me.

    Importance Of Privacy & Discretion

    Privacy and discretion is a huge deal for both sex workers and clients, always. My partner as well as close family and friends know what line of work I’m in but I don’t share every detail. They’re unaware of what my “work” name is or what my ad looks like. I don’t sit and discuss my sessions with them either. I like to keep my real self and alter ego separate and for that reason I keep my private life private from my clients. As for my clients some are in relationships with families or some are single. I don’t share information about my clients or keep in contact with anyone unless it’s a regular client that’s asked to keep in touch. When choosing a place to work I make sure it’s discrete as possible, whether it’s a hotel with a side door or a condo that doesn’t have a concierge. Any personal information clients give me is kept with me. There needs to be some form of trust between myself and my clients in order to keep the relationship going.

    Tips To Spot A Fake Escort

    I mainly advertise via Backpage (BP) as well as a review board. There’s very few fake ads on review boards but many on BP.

    Anytime a client is browsing through BP I suggest to go with their gut first and foremost. If the pictures look too good to be true… most times they are. Some red flags are mismatched photos (photos of more than one girl but only one girl advertised), professional photos but no website link, ad titles with “available 24/7, party girl”

    Second, google reverse search a few images to see if they have any hits anywhere else. If they have hits all over the country or world, she may be fake. Sometimes photos are taken from Instagram models, porn stars, cam girls or other escorts. Some girls use photos that may resemble themselves for privacy reasons, however, some use photos that look nothing like them. When texting her if her rates don’t match up with what she’s offering it could also be a red flag.

    Third, if you’re on a review board search her name and see if she has any reviews.

    Finally, when texting her, if she’s asking for an EMT and requests the password prior to arrival, major red flag! Never give a password prior to the arrival of an escort and make sure the question is something that can’t easily be figured out.

    The only way to really be sure is to actually go see the girl to confirm she’s actually the girl on the photos or at least resembles the girl in the ad.

    Information Escorts Require From Clients

    Typical things an escort may ask a client during a screening process is a name, two or more references from other reputable escorts, a deposit or a photo of their ID. Most escorts also won’t see clients who attempt to book via text app.

    Do’s & Don’ts When Meeting An Escort

    When meeting an escort do come prepared. Arrive with the correct amount discussed prior to booking.

    If she has a website, do check it out prior to booking. See what the the requirements are in order to get a booking, look at her rates, schedule and services. It makes booking much easier!

    Do reconfirm your appointment if she hasn’t already, at least an hour prior. If you’ll be late or cancelling, let her know as well.

    Do tip if you wish. It isn’t necessary but definitely appreciated.

    As long as you’re kind and respectful there should be minimal problems once you meet. Chemistry may or may not always be there but you never know until you go for it!

    My name is Leila Carerra, I’m a Canada wide escort. I’ve been in the industry 3 years. I am university/ college educated with a background in western history and critical thinking as well as cosmetics and business management. Follow me on:

    Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/LeilaCarerra
    Website: https://leilacarerra.com/

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  • How To Satisfy Her Breasts

    How To Satisfy Her Breasts

    I don’t think its a secret that I’m a huge fan of Sex! Its definitely #1 of the best ways I could think of to spend my day. Male, female, or solo, there is nothing else I’d really rather be doing.  That is probably one of the reasons why I chose to become an adult entertainer. It was something I enjoyed to do, and being watched while I was being pleasured/pleasuring myself made the idea so much more fun. Stress relief and spending my day doing my favorite thing ever….. Me!

    How Important Is Foreplay For You?

    Foreplay for me depends on my mood really.  Being seductively caressed with hands covering every inch of my body and feeling the breath on the back of my neck is a huge weakness for me. One hand firmly grasping my tit and the other teasing me down between my thighs. Or it can be as simple as being pushed down and bent over, having my hair pulled from the back while being fucked rough and hard. Whatever the mood, pleasure is always the main goal.

    Breast Play Tips To Share

    I can only speak from personal experience. All women have different sensitivity levels. I’m very busty, wearing 38DDD and I also have my nipples pierced.

    Gentle is good with most women I assume, just lightly feeling the tips of fingers sliding across the aureola, teasing while grasping her tit in your hand. Feeling the wetness of your mouth as you softly lick and suck upon her hard nipples. However, when it comes to my tits…..  Cup, grasp, fondle and squeeze, and don’t be shy. I want to know you are there. Pinching, sucking, biting, licking softly, and flicking your tongue on my nipples as I watch. Always a turn on!

    What Guys Should Never Do

    Don’t be too rough, and if it’s an issue ask her where her pain limits are. Don’t be scared to ask a partner what they want. I think that is probably the most important aspect in sex. Ask a women what she wants or make it a treasure hunt for you both, and try to find out for yourself.

    How I Love My Breasts Satisfied

    Rough, rough, rough! Slap, pinch, pull and squeeze. It’s been a long time since I’ve said it’s too rough. With or without my nipple rings, rough is always my favorite thing when it comes to my nipples and tits while being fucked. Then again I’m kind of a masochist in that way, Pain equals pleasure for me in more ways than one. I think that’s why I’m pierced and have an ever growing tattoo collection.

    For those that do not know me, I am MaryJane Maxx formerly known as MaryJane38DD. I’ve been doing Cam Shows for almost 3 years now at various places as well as making Custom Clips for my fans. I’m a Nerdy, chubby, busty beauty that enjoys doing kinky things while you watch. I love showing off, teasing, pleasing, and being the the girl that fulfills the naughtiest of fantasies. Come let me help to fulfill yours. Follow me on:

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    Join my public Snapchat, be part of my daily adventures, and come see me for yourself, add: MaryJane38DD.

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  • 3 Sure Fire Ways For Successful Body Shaming

    3 Sure Fire Ways For Successful Body Shaming

    Well kids, if you’re looking for some fun this weekend or are just lying around bored with Snap Chat or the latest Netflix offering, why not get in on the latest best-est most viral-est craze modern man (and woman) has come to lately…body shaming. Yes, you can exert your unfounded feelings of superiority, bully from afar, become part of that conversation you know is always happening around you and lift yourself up to the level of one of the cooler peeps by giving some relief to that itchy Twitter or staving off texting for a millisec and call people names for what you and a few others perceive as less than perfect, or in most cases, too big body parts.

    But how do you get in on this new phenomena? What are the rules and tools needed to play to win? Let’s face it, not everybody is going to be good at this, some people just won’t have the guts or won’t be smart enough to keep up.

    But we know you can do it, right?

    Below are Three Sure Fire Ways For Successful Body Shaming so you can rise to the head of the class of being a jerk.

    1. Be a celebrity. Really, nobody cares what you have to say. Your friends on Instagram are part of the great unwashed just like you are. What you really need to truly wage a successful body shamming campaign or to make a mark beyond just your friend’s Twitter feed is to be famous. If you are, then when you call a girlfriend out for her small breasts or cellulite, or a guy friend for not having abbs as tight as yours, your shamming will go that much farther and further, upper and outter. And no, the person you are shamming doesn’t have to be a celeb like you (though it helps).

    2. Be perfect yourself or if not perfect, make sure to photoshop those parts of you that aren’t.

    3. Only ever shame across social media. Really, what is this 1984?? when we look somebody in the eye and tell them face-to-face what we think of them! Snap Chat, Twitter all the rest of it was invented exactly because we don’t really want to see the other person face-to-face, leave our houses, be physically present when we interact or insult somebody. Download the necessary apps, get your fingers up to speed and be constantly checking your phone…as any above the line competent shammer does these days.

    There are plenty more tips to being a good body shammer, but begin with the above and work your way up to expert. The net is your oyster, go call-out those fat pearls.

    Ralph Greco, Jr – I am the P.R. liaison for The Erotic Heritage Museum: http://www.eroticmuseumvegas.com/ writer for the blog here at: https://dawnamatrix.com/ editor-in-chief of this global latex quarterly magazine and its site: http://vongutenberg.com/ editor-in-chief of this weekly column: http://www.shortandsweetnyc.com/category/features/sex/ and a teacher/freelance writer in the adult field.

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  • What You Must Know About Sex Parties

    What You Must Know About Sex Parties

    Sex parties are some of my favorite events to attend – and not just for the orgasms! I love the open and free environment that these parties foster. There is always fun to be had and memories to be made, even if you don’t end up getting frisky on that particular night. Plus, the people I’ve met at sex parties are some of the most friendly, open, creative, and wonderful people I know. And as far as the sex goes – there are endless opportunities to try new things, play with new people, and fulfill fantasies!

    How Sex Parties Are Organized

    It depends on who’s organizing them and where they’re held. Usually they are organized by a core team of 2-5 people, with some extra volunteers if necessary. The ones I’ve been to are non-profit, community based events, so most attendees help out with things like set up, music, bringing food and drinks, or clean up. There is usually a Facebook event for them, as that’s an easy way to share information and keep everyone updated.

    As far as accessibility goes, these are private, invite-only events. Usually the organizers invite people they know from the community, and often those invited are allowed to bring a friend or two along, but it depends on the size of the space and the rules of the party. It’s important that everyone at the party feels safe and comfortable with each other, and that everyone can be trusted, which is why there are never public open invites.

    This doesn’t mean that these parties are impossible to attend though! If you make an effort to get to know people in your city through Fetlife (the BDSM social network), swingers communities, clubs, or even burner communities, you will probably start hearing about local events in no time.

    What Typically Happens At A Sex Party

    There’s always such a wonderful variety of interactions happening at sex parties, so I wouldn’t say that there’s anything really “typical”. From cuddling and dancing, to massages and Shibari, to wild foursomes and intense Master/slave play. At the first sex party I ever attended, one of the first interactions I saw was a 5’4” woman flogging a 6’2” man for 20 minutes straight!

    I had one of my most memorable experiences later that evening – I was naked on a mattress in the middle of a room, giving a blowjob to someone. People started asking if they could join us and/or touch me, and next thing I knew I was also giving a hand job, receiving oral sex, and being touched by 5 or 6 people in total. I lost track of who’s hands were who, and it was really overwhelming in an absolutely wonderful way!

    Basic Sex Party Rules To Follow

    I’ve been to sex parties at a variety of places, including private apartments, BDSM dungeons, and rented event spaces. There are always some basic consent rules that can be summarized into “don’t touch anyone, initiate sexual acts, or escalate a sexual situation without getting clear verbal consent first.” There is a zero tolerance policy for breaking that basic rule at all of the parties I go to.

    There are also sometimes rules around sobriety – many people choose to have a couple drinks, but getting heavily intoxicated is at the very least looked down upon, and at the most a violation of rules.

    Some parties also use the PAL (Pervy Activity Liaison) system. In this system everyone must have one or two PALs at the party who are decided on in advance. PALs must know and trust each other, and arrive at the party together. You are responsible for your PAL’s behavior and they are responsible for yours, so if anyone violates the rules both (or all three) PALs will be held responsible. This helps keep everyone responsible and ethical, and prevents people from bringing along that one friend they worry will break the rules.

    Tips When Attending A Sex Party For The First Time

    I think it’s easy to get nervous and intimidated if you are attending an event like this for the first time – so just relax! People I’ve met at sex parties tend to be the most kind, friendly, and welcoming people I know. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, and definitely don’t feel like you have to jump into anything you’re not ready for yet!

    I also really recommend volunteering to help decorate, organize, or set up, if that is something that is needed for the event you are attending. It’s a great way to get involved and meet people before the event starts. I helped decorate the space before the first sex party I attended, and not only was it fun, but it really helped me feel comfortable in the space and with the people.

    Lucy Huxley is a cam girl, model, and porn performer based in Berlin, Germany. She is a polyamorous Domme, hedonist, and feminist. She currently produces ethical porn with her partner Hunter S. Johnson. Follow Lucy on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/lucyhuxleyXXX
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    Upcoming Works: My partner Hunter and I have a very special project coming up in June. Make sure to follow us on Twitter for updates!

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  • Escort Etiquette Advice For Clients

    Escort Etiquette Advice For Clients

    Before I began working as an escort I was a certified Pillow Princess! I was too shy and self-conscious to take control in the bedroom. Sex was enjoyable for me but inherently intimidating, especially with someone I really liked or admired. But now? Sex is nothing short of liberating, an exhilarating adventure with every encounter!

    There are the obvious reasons why sex can create instant intimacy for most… The sensation of touching one another… Syncing your gyrations to move as one… Exploring each other’s hidden carnal desires… The ecstasy fueled release in climax… But, in my opinion, the best part of sex is EXACTLY what used to intimidate me the most! It’s the connection that is created between you and the other person in that stolen moment. It’s the eye contact, the giggles, the moans, the voyeurism in watching one another climax. For me, it’s more than just touch and sensation that creates intimacy, and good sex is impossible without intimacy.

    I love creating and partaking in those passionate moments. Escorting has helped me to overcome my insecurities and mental blocks to really enjoy sex without getting wrapped up in “doing it right.” Now I’m able to let go in the moment and venture with another to find that connection in tried and true, yet pleasurably unique ways every time.

    Clients I Prefer Seeing

    The only preferences I have regarding clients I am willing to see are that they must be hygienic and respectful. A cleanly shaven face (or well-groomed beard), FRESH breath, clean and trimmed fingernails, as well as a working knowledge of why one must never venture from front to back… are all vastly underrated and GREATLY appreciated qualities in clients. As far as being respectful goes there is not a punitive, demanding, or vindictive bone in my body. If you try to contact me and you are pushy, uncouth, start trying to negotiate donations, or avoid screening, I will simply disengage. I have never believed in doing anything that feels like a waste of time or energy. Therefore, I have no interest in arguing or begging, nor do I have the patience for either. No booking is that important to me.

    How My Screening Process Works

    I do not make appointments over the phone. Other providers might, and more power to them! But it has proven to be more of a hassle and a drain on my time and energy reserves trying to do so. Every call I receive, I respond with a text redirecting you to my website as soon as my schedule permits me to do so. Sometimes I will screen or take information via text, but I prefer to correspond via email (ExclusiveJourdanJames@Protonmail.com) or to receive meeting requests via the secure booking form on my website.

    Importance Of Personal & Client Privacy

    As of right now my privacy, health, and safety are all equally paramount and non-negotiable aspects of escorting for me. There are providers who show their full face in their ads and social media, but I don’t see that in my future any time soon. I have so much admiration and respect for career escorts, but that trajectory is not why I began escorting. I don’t think escorting should affect someone’s other personal and professional endeavors, but I can’t really control the sway of social stigma..

    Right now I’m just hoping to use escorting as a stepping stone into the next chapter of my life. I have not been contacted by someone I know personally in a professional capacity and truthfully, I hope it never happens. I’d only be willing to share my legal name with a sponsor who is interested in entering into a formal arrangement. But that’s the type of dynamic that requires a substantial amount of mutual trust. That level of trust can only be fostered and proven with actions that betray each individual’s character over a significant amount of time.

    Common Mistakes Clients Make

    A guaranteed way to get blacklisted or ignored by me is to contact me and attempt to goad me into giving you a moment-by-moment breakdown of our prospective time together. I am a companion. I provide an experience. If you really are eager to meet me, then why not expedite the process by reading through my website and reviews before contacting me? If you are unsure about anything you’ve read I would be delighted to clarify any concerns you might have! But once you start throwing acronyms at me and pandering for a play-by-play, I move your information to the blocked list. If you read through my website most of the questions you could have will likely be acknowledged there. I don’t have the energy for time-wasters and I have no interest in incriminating myself.

    Tips For First-Timer Clients

    A lot of girls will refuse to see you unless you provide them with your legal name, regardless of any screening site or review board membership you might have. We don’t care who you’re married to or who your boss is, and I’m sure as hell not going to call anyone (though some providers do and that is their prerogative). We are just looking for some basic information to verify your identity for our safety. Historically, there have been a lot fewer providers who can behaviorally be likened to Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction and a lot more clients who can be likened to Christian Bale in American Psycho. Having “BulgingJohn6969” saved in our calendar doesn’t do much to lead the police to our body after we’ve lost in a race against you and your chainsaw, if you know what I mean.

    I can promise you, I am just as anxious and eager to meet you as you are to meet me! So when you reach out to me, make it easier on both of us and help expedite the process. Fill out the booking form on a provider’s website as completely as possible and with as much information as possible. Better yet, contact a provider with a quick introduction and the date, time, and desired duration of your meeting (feel free to throw in a modest compliment if you’re feeling flirty!).

    Follow that introduction with a link to your LinkedIn profile or work website and the websites and email addresses (or phone numbers) of 2 providers you’ve met with recently. Follow these instructions and you can contact me personally to complain if the lucky lady you’ve messaged isn’t concealing a raging river flowing with excitement and anticipation the moment she opens the door to meet you!

    Jourdan James is Chicago’s premier executive companion. She’s eager to please, but I wouldn’t recommend asking her opinion if you don’t want to hear the truth! There’s nothing she enjoys more than creating a private world wherein you are the center of her universe. Her dry wit, effervescent personality, and effortlessly sensual demeanor will always leave you wanting more. Follow Jourdan on:

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  • My Sex Preferences and Favorite Positions

    My Sex Preferences and Favorite Positions

    Sex is wonderful. Sex is amazing. Sex is so many things. It can be a kinky, hot, sweaty mess or an amazing opportunity to connect with someone. Our urbanized society puts such a taboo on it that we forget how fun, orgasmic and liberating it can be. Sex is the reason I get to have so much fun doing what I do.

    Sex is what brings us together. Look at me, sounding like a hippie. Really though, you build chemistry the moment you meet, connect physically, do what turns you on and have amazing orgasms. It’s so simple!

    Some of us get so caught up hiding our porn, our sexual preferences and our deepest sexual desires that we forget to let them loose with the right people. Which really sucks. I get so turned on when a guy comes to me and says “I have something I want to try with you.”

    Sex should be liberating. It should be a go to, an escape, an amazing experience, and most of all it should be explosive. Orgasmic. Let’s have more sex, and create more orgasms.

    One Major Mistake Men Make During Sex

    Worrying. Stop it. I know it’s like saying “calm down” when you’re pissed but it ruins the whole experience. Guys worry so much if they are “doing it right” that they forget to just relax and enjoy the experience.

    All you have to do is show up and enjoy yourself. Do what you want and enjoy. If you push the limits I will let you know but I want to see you enjoy. It turns me on.

    My Favorite Sex Position

    Me on top or doggystyle any day. Something about the way I can really feel a man inside of me during both of those.

    When I’m on top I have more control, but something about the way I can feel the man completely inside of me when I am sitting on top of him, really gets me going. I’m wet just thinking about it right now.

    Doggystyle allows a man to grab me from behind and have their way with me. I find that such a turn on.

    Quickies Or Long-Lasting Sex?

    Both. They are so different. Long-lasting sex can lead to multiple orgasms, exploration of each other, different positions and acts, and of course moaning. Long lasting sex can leave you in a daze hours after.

    Quickies are like a straight shot, a concentrated dose of pleasure in a short amount of time. They leave you breathless.

    How I Love To Kink Sex Up

    I like to grab onto a man or at least touch him somewhere like his leg or his shoulder during the act. It’s an extra boost to the pleasure.

    Changing the speed of our rhythm during the act. When it’s really heated up, slow down. It gets you to the edge and back, leaving you wanting to come even more.

    Brielle Barnes – Real, classy and unique. I have a great smile and an all-natural body. I’m sensual, adventurous, discreet and flirty. I am open-minded so we can build a great connection together. I’m your sweetheart girl next door with a wild side. Our time together is laid back, yet full of passion. Find out more about me on:

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  • What I Love About Blowjobs!

    What I Love About Blowjobs!

    I personally think giving your man a blowjob is the most loving and caring thing you can do for him. When I’m giving him a blowjob, I am being completely submissive and just focusing on his needs. Nothing is sexier in my mind than allowing a man to be a man.

    Why I Love It!

    Like most girls, I gave my first blowjob to my high school boyfriend before I was ready to have actual intercourse. As I matured as an adult, and matured through the years sexually, its always been my go to foreplay especially when it’s unexpected. I’m the girl who will grab for your zipper, drop to her knees and start blowing you. I love everything about it from the moan to the taste after a guy cums.

    Do You Get Turned On?

    I’m so turned on by giving a guy a blowjob, especially when he moans loudly, completely relaxing him and demonstrating his intense enjoyment.

    Any Penis Preferences?

    Personally, I have no preferences towards penis size or shape. I think men obsess more about that than women. It’s very similar to how women often obsess about not having large enough breasts. Obviously, if a guy has a smaller penis, we have to be open to trying different positions, until the desired penetration is satisfying to both people involved.

    Favorite Blowjob Moves

    I’m a zipper grabbing, drop to my knees kind of girl. I love giving my guy oral. I try to use little hand action and take as much of the cock in my mouth as possible.  I love running my tongue up and down the shaft in between sucking. I love it when a guy moans loudly. The louder you get, the more action I will give.

    To Spit Or Swallow?

    I’m a swallower even before I was in porn.  When I’m giving oral and my guy is close to orgasm, and I pull him out of my mouth to jerk him off, I feel like I’m leaving him hanging because his orgasm isn’t going be as intense. Cumming feels great, I know, but not as good as when the guy is about to cum and he can let himself go and enjoy. I’m so turned on by a guy who moans loudly and is comfortable with me letting himself go and filling my mouth or pussy with his amazing cum.

    Danni Dawson – I love being an adult film actress! I began camming a few years ago and then decided became a porn actress, which I absolutely love. I’ve always loved sex, and to be in front of the camera having sex is just unbelievable! I am so grateful for my growing fan base, and can’t wait to shoot more scenes and hopefully win an AVN!

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  • How To Deepthroat & Love It

    How To Deepthroat & Love It

    Personally, I just find deepthroating to be really fun. And I think for me, as far as at least blowjobs go, the reason I like doing it is because I like seeing the reaction. Like the reaction I get out of the guy. With sex you’re kind of distracted. It’s a two way street, whereas giving a blow job it’s just me focusing on him kind of thing. And so I can see what causes certain reactions.

    Do You Love Deepthroating?

    Yes, actually I really do. As far as it goes, if I’m not deepthroating, I can’t stand the feeling when it gets stuck in the back of the throat. And you know how some girls can only go so far into their mouths and then that’s it for them. And I’m like brah there’s a whole frigging inch that I didn’t even freaking touch and that’s so boring to me. That and the fact that I love the facial reaction when I finally do, because most people don’t see it coming.  It’s fun.

    How It Feels When Deepthroating

    Honestly it’s not very describable, you can feel your throat squeezing against it.  And if you aren’t panicking, it doesn’t hurt at all.  It’s just hard to put into words.

    Does Size Matter?

    I think once you hit a certain point, large is large. If it can physically fit down my esophagus then yes I can take it. After I hit like a 5 to 6 inch mark, I can take anything down. I haven’t met one that I can’t yet. So, yeah.

    Tips To Deepthroat Successfully

    One is finding the right angle. It is very hard to try and go against the way your throat is naturally shaped. So like I said before, if you do it in the laying down position where the guy is laying down and you’re kind of on top it’s easier to do it in a 69 position. But you don’t necessarily have to have your vagina in his face because that’s distracting for you, but it’s easier to do it in the 69 position because you can curve with your throat. If he’s sitting down it’s a little bit easier.

    And then one of my personal favorites is when you hang your head off the end of the bed. Because it’s more of a straight shot, it makes it a little bit easier instead of having to you know, work against it. But if it is a situation where you have to work against it, don’t think about it. If you have to think about it and you have to tell yourself, hey I need to swallow at this point, you’re just going to get distracted and sometimes it doesn’t work the way you want it to; but if just start at the very top and just go down in one fluid motion, it works a lot easier.

    Instead of you know, hitting a point and you’re like oh fuck now they’re at my throat, what the fuck do I do. Just boom go straight down without thinking about it. And it helps if you like take a breath and swallow. But another problem with trying to force is you can cause a gag reflex and you can end up vomiting and that’s never a fun situation. So part of the reason I say, don’t ever force it. Don’t think about it. Just jump in off the diving board.

    What You Should Never Do When Deepthroating

    Um, I think going back to that whole trying to force yourself. If you can’t do it at the time, don’t make yourself do it because it can end up going badly for you and you’re going to end up like I said before, vomiting and activating your gag reflex and just kind of makes it harder and then don’t hold down longer than you can, like don’t black out. That’s not something that you want to do. You have to come back up and take a breath, be proud of yourself that you made it all the way down and then try it again once you got more air.

    And don’t just deepthroat, it gets boring when you keep doing the same thing over and over and over again. Sometimes I keep a bag of tricks and I hold those tricks off to the side and it’s like rotating your wardrobe almost. Like I don’t wear the same shirts all the time. I’ll wear like the same 4 shirts and then I’ll go and I’ll rotate out my wardrobe and I’ll wear a bunch of different shirts. It’s kind of the same thing as what you are doing with blowjobs, like don’t use the same trick every time because then you get predictable and boring.

    How Do You Like Him To Finish?

    Okay if I am doing it for a scene, I do facials but that’s just because it kind of works towards the viewer a little more as they can actually see how it ends, but if it’s just me doing it on my own personal time, I’m a swallower. I really like to swallow. Everybody looks at me like I’m crazy when I say this, I actually like the way it tastes. Don’t get that a lot, I know it’s weird.

    Little Miss Kay is a very knowledgeable and talented individual despite her young age. Her skillset includes massive squirting, deepthroating and some more fun stuff we all like but she’s being recognized for her not common 36F boobs. Because her name comes from the BDSM term “Little” which is absolutely cute to admire whenever she’s on that mode, you’ll get to enjoy her wild side whenever she’s not in it.

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