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More orgasms, less pain


More orgasms, less pain

Forget pain relievers – have an orgasm instead!  Self-medicating with an orgasm can cause relief from severe headaches, generalized muscular pain, and even a migraine.  If you have one at the beginning of your migraine it is possible at times to stop it from progressing.  Orgasms are also amazing stress relievers.  Of course when you are in pain you may not feel like having sex but using it therapeutically can be very beneficial.

Sex releases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, which helps manage pain – causing a 70% pain decrease on average.  Who wouldn’t want to have an orgasm over taking Aspirin or Ibuprofen?

When you have an orgasm it has a natural pain killing effect on the body.  Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone, Oxytocin, surge to five times their normal level.  This activates the release of endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from muscle pain to arthritis and those irritating migraine headaches.  For women, sex also prompts the production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

When sex is not desired, you can use masturbation that ends with an orgasm to produce the exact same pain relieving effects.  For women, getting a clitoral stimulator, which can bring about orgasm quickly, is very useful (most well-known is the Hitachi Magic Wand).  It can also save time if sex isn’t an option.


A research study showed that orgasm induces elevations in blood pressure and pulse, as well as neurotransmitters and hormones responsible for mood.  Sexual arousal stimulates vital hormones in women that lead to more intense orgasmic response and feelings of sexual desire.  Oxytocin is a chemical hormone that increases during orgasm in both men and women.  It has been reported that oxytocin levels increase in association with massage and with positive emotion, but decreased in relation to sad emotion.  Social stimuli are thought to cause oxytocin release, and as a result make positive social contact more rewarding.  A 20-second hug can be enough to stimulate oxytocin release and bring about a change in emotion.  Oxytocin enhances the level of subjective arousal and pleasure when women experience orgasm, and have an effect similar to endorphins, which play a role in the human sexual response.  Either way, the release of oxytocin during the sexual response has pain-relieving benefits.

Research studies on oxytocin report that women have higher oxytocin levels when they are in a close relationship, during positive emotional states, and when they are more secure in their relationships.  Women, not in a relationship, have lower oxytocin levels and more difficulty with emotional openness.  In the more secure subjects, the higher levels of oxytocin seemed in turn to reinforce their bond with their partners.

Emotional Pain

Emotional withdrawal can be the result of emotional pain and sometimes depression.  The symptoms are lack of energy and fatigue.  If a person is in pain it restricts the ability to reach out emotionally, it depletes one’s energy and impairs physical ability to participate socially.  This leads to social deprivation and loss of interest in activities.  This can develop into a loss of self-esteem.  Emotional withdrawal is both the cause and effect of fatigue, pain, and social deprivation.

Happy social interplay is energizing.  Who doesn’t like to play?  It distracts the perception of pain, and enhances the sense of self-esteem.  Sexual interplay is the most intimate and meaningful of social interplay.  It is the most powerful remedy for the de-energizing loss of self-esteem.  Consider different positions and methods of providing sexual pleasure with a partner.  The capacity for natural enjoyment is impaired by the loss of self-esteem, physical difficulties, and pain.  The best support and medicine is a loving, caring sexual encounter that can be practised frequently!


Studies report that having sex even a few times a week can lead to overall health benefits including:

  • Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges causing stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain’s olfactory bulb, the smell center.
  • Reduced risk of heart disease: A study reported that having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half.
  • Weight loss, overall fitness: Sex is the best source of exercise and can burn up to 200 calories — about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of a person working out at maximum effort.
  • Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and thorax.  Sex also boosts production of testosterone, which leads to stronger bones and muscles.

Is it possible to have too much sex?

Good news ladies!  For women, probably not, for men, yes!  University of Bristol researcher, Dr. Claire Bailey, says that there is little to no risk of women having too much sex, in fact, regular sex improves posture and firms your thighs and butt.  For men, the penile tissues can sustain damage from too rough of sex and overuse which can lead to permanent damage.  Viagra and Levitra are drugs that give men more staying power than is actually good for them – being sexually active is healthy but putting too much demand on the body can sometimes be physically more than the body can handle.

Shannon Chavez

Dr. Shannon Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist with an expertise in female sexual health. She works with women of all ages and backgrounds helping guide them from sexual concerns to sexual empowerment. Dr. Chavez believes that the heart of sexual intimacy is connection. Her work with couples focuses on adult sex education, intimacy issues, mindful sex therapy, and reconnection through self-exploration, discovery and personal growth. She also specializes in the treatment of sexual trauma and abuse, sexual dysfunction, and compulsive behaviors surrounding love, romance, and relationships. Dr. Chavez has written a guide for clinicians on the treatment of love addiction through the use of attachment-oriented therapy. She completed her professional training in Beverly Hills, California where she attained a postdoctoral fellowship in sexual health treatment. She holds a doctorate in clinical psychology and master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. She is an active member of the Institute for the Scientific Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), and the American Psychological Association. Dr. Chavez currently has a private practice in Beverly Hills, California and uses a mind-body approach to sexual health wellness and a treatment approach that integrates both physical and psychological needs. Her passion is sexual awareness and education through teaching, workshops, and writing. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, Latino Perspectives, and Self Magazines; and is a frequent contributor to the website She has also appeared on national news and radio as an expert on sexuality and women’s health.


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