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  • How A Dominant Submissive Relationship Works

    How A Dominant Submissive Relationship Works

    I personally like alternative lifestyles and think they can make life a lot more interesting. I have played around with alternative lifestyles myself and it makes for much more of a stronger relationship bond, I believe. As you are both involved in something bigger (and sort of secretive).

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    Characteristics Of Dom/sub relationships

    Well, the characteristics of a Dom/sub relationship, to me, is something much more soft than I see most dominant/submissive relationships playout.  When I was in a dominant/ submissive relationship, I saw it more as a protective person helping me out with my decisions, because I am into age play. Rather than me being a slave or my dominant being a master.

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    What Makes A Good Relationship

    I think that a good Dom is someone that doesn’t take everything so seriously, but also understands how important his advice and guidance is to a sub. A sub is someone who can know her limits, but also be willing to submit to the guidance and nurturance of her Dom.

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    Common Kink Plays

    The most common BDSM in a dom/sub relationship would probably just be tying up, spanking, handcuffing, whipping, pretty much a bunch of disciplinary acts in general.

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    Rules To Follow

    I don’t think there are any rules to follow for anyone looking to try out a dom/sub relationship except maybe know your limits (both submissive and dominant) and know what you are doing. There are so many different sub-categories of dominant and submissive, it’s such a broad term and I don’t think people quite understand that yet. You have a lot of different options in the dominant and submissive world and that’s what makes it so cool!


    My name is Ava Little and I am 21 years old from Charlotte, NC. I love to dance and have spent some time doing that. I have been in the adult industry for about 3 months now and so far I love it!

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  • How To Role Play In Bed

    How To Role Play In Bed

    Sex is freedom, it’s love, it’s acceptance, it’s safe; it’s permission to be vulnerable, a bit out of body but at the same time, you feel everything without thinking. It’s something that fulfills and triggers those things spoken and unspoken. It can be loving, dirty, naughty, erotic, sensual, emotional, and purely physical. Embracing sex as a regular part of life, like eating, puts you more in touch with yourself and ultimately with the experience of being alive.

    Why I Love Role Playing

    What I like about role play is that it’s a fantasy, that it lets you tap into things you might not get to do or be 24/7. I like that it’s a safe, non-judgemental (or it should be) space to let go of inhibitions and play. That play can be a release, a stress reliever, it can be cathartic, take the stigma out of good/bad ideas someone may have about what’s acceptable. I like that overall it’s fun, it’s exciting, you use your imagination, it’s a way to connect with someone in a space you might not otherwise have.

    Since I do a lot of role play not in person (online as a WebCam Model, during a Skype show or in chat messaging), I love being able to allow someone else to experience whatever fantasy they have, for whatever reason they have it, need it or enjoy it.

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    Favorite Role Play Characters

    I LOVE playing the little girl, fuck toy, flirt/tease roles. Someone else might see it as submissive, and in a way it is; but it can also be a control role reversal for me. I’m toying with you by allowing you to tell me what to do, I’m playing along; giving you permission to put me up to things, to demand I do this or that. I am still choosing to let you control me; so I am ultimately still in control.

    Tips For Beginners

    Have ground rules, including a ‘safe word’. With something like that in place, it can help you feel more comfortable to let loose. Enjoy yourself. Maybe start with re-enacting something from a movie, pretend to be a character you like, or fantasize about being more like in ‘real life’.

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    2 Ways to Kink It Up

    1. Involve other people, and new settings?

    2. Take something non-sexual and make it sexual?

    4 Rules To Role Playing

    1. Mutual respect, a ‘safe word’, even if you don’t use it.

    2. Discretion. Again, a lot of mine occurs in cyberspace, privacy and confidentiality is very important.

    3. Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

    4. Have fun, enjoy yourself! Have no shame!!!

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    I’m Candee Minx, a WebCam Model/Entertainer and aspiring Alt Model. I am new to this industry. I’ve always had a fascination with prostitutes, pole dancers and strippers;women who are unapologetically in control of their sexuality, how and with whom they share it with. I’m at a place in life where I want to live with no regrets and have no shame about how I enjoy it and share that with others. In an unexpected way, I feel I have found my calling where I am able to combine my interests of entertaining, sexuality, helping others, connecting with people and am absolutely loving it.

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  • The Unlikely Raw Bar: My Nyotaimori Experience

    The Unlikely Raw Bar: My Nyotaimori Experience

    P1040863Perhaps like some of you, I had never heard of nyotaimori (aka eating sushi off a naked woman) until very recently. The feminist side of me was like WTF, while the exhibitionist side of me was definitely curious (and kind of into it). I wanted to learn more about nyotaimori but I didn’t just want to just read about it—I wanted to do it. So I decided that I would host a body sushi night, with myself as the “female platter.” I got some friends together to try on this nyotaimori for size … literally.

    But before we start, you may be curious about where the hell did this sexy, fishy practice came from.

    Nyotaimori, in Japanese roughly translates to “female body presentation” and is the (sometimes fetishized) practice of eating sushi from the naked body of a woman. Sounds steamy right? Supposedly, the art of nyotaimori was a subculture of the geishas during the Samurai era. Geishas would host a celebratory meal for the Samurai warriors after they returned home from a victorious battle; the meal was served on the geisha’s bodies. They are supposed to stay still and silent as the men enjoy their victory feast.

    Nyotaimori is no longer an exclusive Japanese practice; it has since become more Westernized and popular in the U.S. In present day, nyotaimori seems to be most common in two spheres: a unique catering experience and as a fetishized practice within couples and group sex. Several catering companies, like those in Los Angeles and Miami have created thriving businesses off of this idea of body sushi. It’s titillating to see a beautiful naked model while stuffing your face with a shrimp tempura roll. Personally, I would appreciate nyotaimori in a more private setting where some sort of sexual play may or may not be taking place after the meal.

    My body sushi experience was neither a fancy catered event nor an erotic group sex experience, but it did have the essentials for a successful body sushi night: A female body platter (me), sushi, and friends to enjoy the aforementioned body and sushi.

    I was fairly selective in who I invited to participate in this sushi extravaganza. I didn’t feel comfortable including some of my male friends, some of whom are partners of my close girlfriends. I was choosy about who I invited because I didn’t want to feel objectified by the guys and I believed I would feel less ogled by my female friends. I know that this is a big assumption on my part of my male friends; maybe they all would have been respectful and wouldn’t have made comments about my tit size or new tattoo. I wanted this experience to be more about enjoying the food and company while trying my best to adhere to the nyotaimori etiquette and wanted it to be less about sneaking peeks of my boobs.

    After I decided it was a ladies only event, I had to plan out the sushi menu. I purchased several sushi rolls but had to accommodate a few of my guests who don’t like sushi or fish. For those guests, my friends and I made candy and fruit sushi instead using things like gummy fish and worm candy with fruit strips and rice krispie treats. It took the equivalent of five rolls of sushi to cover most of me and we only made enough for one course!

    Typically during a nyotaimori experience, the model or “platter” is not supposed to move and must remain silent for hours. She is supposed to lay still as others replenish her body with sushi; she can only move when the meal is over. It was very difficult to keep still and to keep myself from laughing and talking with my guests. We did lose a few pieces of sushi due to a case of the giggles.

    After the night was over, stomachs were satiated and my clothes were back on, I chatted with my friends about their experience. The general consensus was that it was fun but it was a lot of work and would especially be a lot of work to do with or for a partner. None of them found the experience to be erotic but that is likely because some of them dislike sushi and/or aren’t attracted to women (the two major factors of nyotaimori). Had their partners been lying on the floor decoratively covered with pizza slices, they may have thought differently!

    As for me, the “platter”, I had a lot of fun! It was rousing to lay there naked on display while one of my guests plated the sushi on me. I didn’t feel objectified—I felt sexy. I also liked feeling a bit out of control when it was time to plate the sushi. It was out of my hands and all I could do was lay there and trust that all would go to plan; the power dynamic between me as the “platter” and my guests was more palpable than I thought it would be and I liked it. For these reasons, I can see why body sushi can be so erotic for some; you are a piece of pleasurable, beautiful art that first can satisfy the stomach and then the heart.

    Eat your heart out friends but save room for the California roll.

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    Nicole Nelson is currently in school obtaining her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from Smith College with a focus on LGBTQ issues and couples/marriage therapy. Nicole hopes to become a certified sex therapist to continue educating clients and helping people advocate for and embrace their sexuality. Read the rest of her profile below and the links to follow her!


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  • I Have A Daddy / Daughter Fantasy Fetish

    I Have A Daddy / Daughter Fantasy Fetish

    I have a fetish for the Daddy/Daughter fantasy. Though I don’t say it, I fantasize about it whenever I have sex and get my partner to play dress up occasionally. Is this healthy?

    Fantasies and fetishes are not uncommon. And the Daddy/daughter one is a classic. Fantasies help us to get inspired for example.

    Now, fetishes become a problem when they start being a problem in our life: when you cannot get aroused unless you use/do something related to the fetish 100% of the time, when the person you are with becomes less important than the fetish and when the fetish and thinking about it starts to affect other areas of your life.

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  • Rape Fantasies: Does It Mean Anything?

    Rape Fantasies: Does It Mean Anything?

    I have a forced/simulated rape fetish although I have never told anyone or tried it with my current girlfriend. Am I normal?

    Rape fantasies are very common, across genders. In fact, most things that are taboo are common fantasies. Specifically, giving up power and taking power are common themes in many sexual desires and fetishes.

    Finding these things arousing does not mean you want to hurt people or be hurt by them. Taking power allows us to feel potent, in control, larger than life. It allows us to determine the course of someone else’s experience. It allows us to feel strong and powerful. Giving up power allows us to release, to surrender, to feel small and insignificant. It allows us not to be in control, not to make decisions.

    All of these desires are human, common, and normal. Everyone craves some or all of them sometimes. The key is to venture into these territories consensually. When it’s what we want, all of these experiences release endorphins and feel pleasurable. They build trust between the partners and deepen the bond.

    As for you, you have options: If it feels too scary to address with your girlfriend, you could keep these desires strictly private. Nothing wrong with that. You can enjoy them by yourself.

    Or you can let her in on your fantasies. Given that rape and sexual violence are real sources of fear and hurt for many women, your empathy and consideration is important. You can share your desires as part of a more general sharing of all kinds of desires for both of you. You can also share these specific ones about rape with a measure of concern. The catch in both of these cases is that you’re talking about desire, not initiating action. Make that clear.

    Talk about these things when you’re not having sex. Talk about all kinds of desires. Be open to thought-experiments: Would it turn you on if you are the one being forced? Be curious about what turns each of you on by changing the variables of the fantasies: Would it turn her on if you were whispering? What if you were yelling? Or silent? Would it turn you on if she were acquiescing? Or struggling? Talk about limits: How would you feel if she slapped you as part of the scene? How does she feel being held down? Or bound?

    Take your time, and have these conversations slowly. Take a break if either of you are feeling threatened or defensive, angry or resentful. Neither one of you should feel pushed into anything, or made to feel their desires are bad or wrong. Desires are just desires, turn-ons just turn-ons. What you choose to do as a couple is up to you. Remind yourselves that you don’t – you really don’t – have to fulfill each other’s every fantasy. And you don’t have to have perfectly matched turn-ons to have a great sex life.

    Talk about everything only as possibilities, knowing that some of the desires you each have will be doable, and others not. And remember that, you’re not wanting to rape your girlfriend. You’re wanting to experience a fantasy with her if and only if she also wants to experience it with you. And in that realm, there are many possibilities.

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    Karen B. K. Chan is a sex educator, emotional literacy trainer, and speaker in Toronto, Canada. Above all, she’s dedicated to widening the definitions of what’s erotic, cultivating ease and acceptance, and proving that emotional literacy, play, and honesty are sexy. Read the rest of her profile below!


     

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  • Kink Up Your Sex Life

    Kink Up Your Sex Life

    I’m a bit of a masochist and definitely submissive. But, I’m a strong submissive, so I’m attracted to soft dominant types and they compliment me the best when it comes to a relationship. A soft dominant would be a man (or woman) who enjoys inflicting pain and asserting their dominance in bed, but are generally gentle and kind as people outside of the bedroom. A strong submissive would enjoy enduring a dominant’s desires, but generally has a more assertive personality in all other matters. You get the idea.

    I don’t consider too many things that I do as kinky, because for me, it’s just normal. I once heard someone say that ‘swallowing’ was a kink, but for me that was always just natural for me do to. I’ve tried anal a couple times. As it is, I’m not a huge fan, though obviously I couldn’t have thought so bad of it or I wouldn’t have tried it more than once. I really like having risky sex such as giving head on the road and doing a quickie outdoors. I have an assortment of fetishes. Some, as mentioned, are related to BDSM and others are not.

    What I Like A Guy To Do During Sex

    There are times I like it when he is dedicated to trying to get me off first, and others when we both know that he needs to get his rocks off. It depends on the chemistry between us. When the sex is meant to meet my needs first, I like when he dirty talks to me and changes position until he can see (or hear) which one feels the best. The important thing about that is to stay there, unless my climax is purposely being denied. Then that’s hot. I love when he teases me with his hard-on by pressing it against me or slapping me in the face with it, and forcing me to take his length when I go down on him until I gag a bit. Having my clit tended to by him pressing or rubbing it while he pounds me is bomb. But, more than that, I love to start out by flirting and taking intuitive myself. Putting myself on top is also a sure way to make it fun for me when I’m in that sort of mood. That way, I get the best view of his sex faces. Sex faces that arise despite his best intention to control himself. There is something amazing about that.

    When it comes to the more primal sex on his part, (the sex where his needs are met first) I love to be bent over spontaneously on some piece of furniture – a counter, a chair arm, a dresser, then let him go at it until he’s done. Sometimes this isn’t the best option, except I can’t help but loving the idea of a guy taking his frustration out on me in that way.

    Tips To Kink Up Your Sex Life

    1. I would suggest exchanging any fetishes you may have. Think of ways they can be incorporated.

     

    1. Watch some porn for inspiration.

     

    1. Try to push your boundaries in order to make your fantasies real.

     

    1. Remember to bring it up with your partner before you take initiative.

     

    1. Don’t be too disappointed if your attempts don’t work out the way you wanted them to. After all, we all start out awkward in most things.

    20 year old Cam Model and erotic content creator. In social media, I go by the alias MoonConjured but am more personally known as Alira Latex. I’m a visual artist by aspiration and admire all practices of creativity. Follow me on Twitter @MoonConjured, Instagram @MoonConjured, ManyVids www.ManyVids.com/MoonConjured and Chaturbate www.Chaturbate.com/MoonConjured.


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  • Do you exactly know how unusual your kink is?

    Do you exactly know how unusual your kink is?

    I have frequently written about the myth of ‘unusual sex’. While most media representations tend to portray sex as an extremely standardized activity (namely: heterosexual missionary coitus between athletic young  persons uninterested in anything but vaginal penetration, giving them simultaneous orgasms), reality is very different. The truth of the matter is that everyone has sexual fantasies, that entertaining them doesn’t make them real fetishisms and can be very healthy, and – in the words of a sexologist friend of mine – «unless you are into three or four kinks at the least, chances are the weird one is you».

    Last week however Canadian researchers published the results of a study that finally measures exactly how uncommon many sexual inclinations are. Before looking at them, a few caveats are due. The first is that, although the number of surveyed people was sufficiently high, the research took place in Quebec, which can hardly be considered a mirror of the world at large. Canada has a strong culture of respect, generally good sex education programs, a particular climate, and higher sexual restraint than many Western countries. In other words, they aren’t as wild (and irresponsible) as others.

    Also, my impression is that a few questions were a bit too vague: there is a possibility that they might have been misinterpreted in part, so I am looking forward to the results of any validation study to be done in other countries or with a more specific wording. This aside, the research does offer a really unique and important innovation in how it precisely defined a series of categories for sexual fantasies. Here they are:

    Typical – A fantasy shared by more than 84.1% of the population sample;
    Common – Over 50% (half of) the people;
    Unusual – Less than 15.9% of the interviewees enjoys this;
    Rare – Less than 2.3% are into that.
    Keen-eyed readers will notice there is a grey zone between 16 and 49.9%. I have no idea why either: let’s just consider it a “kinda funny, but not really weird” area.

    The research identified 54 main different fantasies and their incidence among males and females. Reading the resulting table isn’t especially easy unless you are a statistician and you copied it in a sortable spreadsheet. Lucky me, then, since I had both at hand and I can summarize some interesting data while we wait for the Canadian team to release more detailed results. Since this is what all of you are waiting for, here’s the scoop:

    The three most frequent female sexual fantasies are – Romantic sex, a sexy atmosphere, romantic places.
    The top three common female sexual fantasies are – Doing it in an unusual place, receiving oral sex, giving oral sex.
    The top three unusual female sexual fantasies are – Sex with a prostitute or a stripper, a female androgynous partner, doing it with a drunk, asleep or unconscious person.

    The top three rare female sexual fantasies are – Being pissed on, pissing on the partner, zoophilia.

    Talking about males, however:

    The three most frequent male sexual fantasies are – Romantic sex, receiving fellatio, having sex with two women.
    The top three common male sexual fantasies are – Cheating with an acquaintance, doing it in unusual places, watching two women making love.
    The top three unusual male sexual fantasies are – Taking part to an orgy, taking part to an all-male orgy, wearing female clothes.
    The top three rare male sexual fantasies are – Pissing on the partner, zoophilia, sex with a child under 12.

    The research results can be used to gain even more interesting insights however:

    The most unfulfilled female fantasies is – Participating to an orgy (wanted by 56.5% of women, but just 15,8% of men)

    The most unfulfilled male fantasies is – Participating to an orgy. No, there is no error here: fact is, while women fantasize about group sex with both males and females, men dream of having sex with more than three women together, being the only male in the group (75.3% of men, vs. 24.7% of women)

    The most disliked kink of them all is – Pedophilia. That was easy – but only because necrophilia wasn’t even considered.

    Women are much more inclined towards – Homosexuality, apparently, with 36.9% aspiring lesbians against 20.6% male fantasy gays.

    Men are much more inclined towards – Large breasts (68.6%) than women. Only 18.6% of females go for big boobs.

    Quebecoises are a kinky bunch – Over 40% of the population is into BDSM (meant as the combination of domination, bondage and spanking/whipping)

    So… do you still believe that you have strange tastes when it comes to sex?


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  • Why Men Love Being Feminized & Humiliated

    Why Men Love Being Feminized & Humiliated

    The Kink and Fetish community is great outlet for people to express parts of themselves they otherwise would have had to keep hidden. It’s not only perfectly healthy to have kinks, but theraputic to explore them, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the level of respect and unity I see between us fellow kinksters.

    My Femdom Interest

    My interest in Femdom began when I first was hired as a camgirl four years ago. I was thoroughly bored, almost uncomfortable with the interaction I had with most clients, until someone submissive would come along. I decided to chase that feeling of satisfaction I got after humiliating a client who really enjoyed it, and eventually opened up a clip store in 2012.

    I think a lot of parts of Domming came naturally once I put my foot in the water. I notice now that all the teasing I did to make guy friends, kiss and cross dress in high school definitely paved the path to being a full-time Domme.

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    Why Men Love To Be Feminized And Humiliated

    I think most men have been socially programmed to always be in control of things. Gender roles specifically have led many men to feel obligated to never feel emotions, especially feelings of weakness and vulnerability. If you’ve been holding in those feelings for years, release is almost necessary – but still guilt-inducing. The best outlet to release those feelings is one that is “forced”.

    I notice this especially within feminization. Many men have accepted this idea that they can’t have any feminine qualities whatsoever, even if those qualities are healthy: things like crying, expressing any emotion, and enjoying softer things. It’s easier for a Domme to come around and “force” you into being okay with these things. Ultimately that “forced” feminization can lead to the client accepting all parts of themselves as being okay, despite what ideals they were raised with.

    My Favorite Forms Of Humiliation And Punishment

    I often go into phases with what tasks and types of humiliation I enjoy, but I will always like things like cock and ball torture, public humiliation like going outside in a collar, or really disgusting things like making clients lick dirty toilets.

    Anything that makes me giggle is usually up my alley, like making guys do slutty dances for me – especially if I can see they’re embarrassed by it. I also really enjoy forced bi and making clients suck on phallic items. It’s good practice and hilarious to watch.

    Extreme Requests

    I definitely will always get extreme requests. The most extreme ones usually involve animal cruelty, which I do not support in any way. One weird request I’ll never forget was someone wanting me to find a freshly-killed turkey “with the feathers still on it” and prepare to eat it, pretending that was the client.

    The most extreme thing I’ve probably made a client do is fuck himself in the ass with a dildo then clean it off with his mouth. It’s always their idea, too.

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    Rules For Submissives

    Before anything, I ensure they will always be respectful and refer to me by my name, “Mistress Bijoux”. I make sure they use correct punctuation and will judge a submissive off of their ability to remember that. I also expect any submissive contacting me to have sent a payment before asking for anything, in any way, ever. If I am being asked for something and receiving nothing in return, I expect that client to not be worth my time.

    Within sessions, I always expect submissives to lay out their interests (so I can use it against them), their limits, and their financial situation, like how much they can spend that day. Any other rules I make are flexible depending on the session I’m in. I always like to gently push limits and be sure my submissives have tasks to work on to prove themselves to me., whether within a session or in between them. This also gives submissives continuity and an ability to grow and improve as a sub.


    Mistress Bijoux is a 24 year old full time Pro-Domme in the South Florida area. With a wide variety of interests, some favorites include financial domination, forced bi, humiliation, and cuckolding.

    She has over 600 fetish and femdom videos and makes all of video content and websites herself from scratch. Considered by her submissives to be deticated to her work, Mistress Bijoux is often caring and supportive of her submissives but is also known for her ability to be extremely ruthless and cruel when needed. Follow her on:

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  • What To Know About Shoe Fetishes & Domination

    What To Know About Shoe Fetishes & Domination

    I find kink, fetishes, and BDSM fascinating and super fun! When done right, I think they can be a really healthy way of expressing desires and emotions that we otherwise don’t have many constructive outlets for. And I absolutely love the Femdom lifestyle! I think it’s really subversive and empowering.

    How My Kink Interest Came About

    I’ve actually been interested in kink since before I even started practicing it! When I was 18, a friend and I would spend hours looking at fetish porn websites out of fascination. We always talked about how we would totally be fetish models and now here I am, doing it! I started practicing BDSM in my personal sex life about 6 years ago. When I decided to go into the adult industry, focusing on Femdom and fetish was a natural move.

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    My Favorite Fetishes

    I’m really into foot and high heel domination because I love having my feet worshipped! Something about foot scenes is just so intimate and sexy to me. I’m also all about Goddess worship, orgasm denial/chastity, stocking and lingerie fetishes, and I’m currently brushing up on hypnosis to expand my skills in mindfuckery. Mental, emotional and psychological domination are really erotic to me – it’s so powerful to go beneath the surface and really get into another person’s mind.

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    What Are Shoe Fetishes?

    There are lots of types of shoe fetishes- some people are into dirty sneakers for example, while others like high heel dangling or boot domination. Since I’m a Domme, I tend to lean toward shoe domination and humiliation – making subs worship my feet in high heels or boots, ordering them to sniff and lick my shoes, and degrading them for being foot slaves. Something I’m dying to try is using high heels as a means of inflicting pain, like for CBT (cock and ball torture) or trampling.

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    Popular Shoes For Shoe Fetishism

    High heels, of course – usually the higher the better. Boots, especially knee-high or thigh-high. Leather and shiny materials like latex and PVC are also really popular, but why wouldn’t they be? I’m getting hot right now just thinking about thigh-high latex boots.

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    Just One Thing You Have To Do For Luna Sapphire

    Worship my feet and buy me lots of sexy heels!

    My ideal sub is very loyal and devoted, respectful, tributes consistently and is down for letting me take out my evil side on them! I like to assign tasks, play games, and inflict pain… but every sub is different, so each arrangement is customized to something that makes both of us happy.

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    Why I Enjoy A Subs Worship

    The feeling of control and power. I get into a different head space when I’m dominating someone or making videos; I tap into some dark parts of myself and get a “high” off of the power trip. But it’s also all about the trust and devotion of the sub. Knowing that I can be fucking evil and the other person is comfortable with what’s happening and just loving every minute of it – that’s awesome.


    Luna Sapphire is a 25-year-old Domme, clip producer, and fetish model. I am located in the Pacific Northwest. I am available for Femdom and fetish photo shoots, videos, and cam sessions. My interests include BDSM, yoga, hiking, LGBTQ activism, cats and art. Follow me on:

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    Keep an eye on my clip sites! I am really throwing myself into clip production this winter so I have lots of upcoming femdom and fetish content, including holiday themed clips!


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  • What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    Put simply, I view kink and Findom as a method to feel – illusions or delusions; whatever you’re searching for. I look for a gloried connection with a slave. Modern day relationships bore me, I’m not into the cookie cutter, sweet tooth, hold hands in public bullshit. I like to draw a thick line between the superior and the inferior. Findom is a give and take relationship: pig gives and I take. I like being the queen and taking control.

    My Interest in Findom

    I have always had a dominate personality. When I was younger, I had a short fling with a rather handsome older man who bathed me in cash. He liked foot worship, humiliation and, verbal abuse. I was new to that kind of sexual degradation of men, but soon found my place as a rightful dominatrix. From there I found the Findom community online and have thrived.

    My Specialties As A Findom

    There are so many unique Findommes in our community, each as ravishing as the next.

    I stand out because of my bizarre tasks I assign.

    When a paypig tributes and devotes himself to his queen, I ask numerous questions to see what they’re into, their limits, experience, income, home life, etc. I assign tasks accordingly. I’m more of a lifestyle Findom.

    One rough example: A man with a wife is into sissifaction – He wears his wife’s lingerie then cums into a glass of water, making them into ice cubes. Putting them into his and his wife’s drink. Proof of pictures are required.

    What Are Pay Pigs Like

    Paypigs / human ATMs /cash cows are men who surrender their entire life over to a Domme. Once a pig has tributes and signed our contract, we rule their finances. I personally go a little further then most.

    I have found that most of my pigs have higher food chain roles at their workplace (mangers, CEOs, etc). I think they seek out ladies such as myself to get away from that pressure. We’re a relief. We provide what their wives cannot, and what is outside of their norm.

    They’re just normal people. You couldn’t pick them out of a group. One of my pigs is actually a competitive body builder. Biggest man I’ve ever seen, it’s amusing how much of a pansy I turn him into.

    I refer to them as: slaves, subs, losers, piggie, and any other belittling words I can think of. They’re nice guys, thankful for being able to view your photos, give you money, and your attention.

    My Pay Pig Requirements

    When a potential pay pig messages me, I first demand a tribute. I get up to 10 time wasters a day so it’s hard to decipher true pigs without tributes.

    I calculate their finances. I see Findom as giving to your superior a little more than is comfortable. I don’t want to dedicate my attention to a pig who can only tribute a maximum of $90 a week. I put a lot of time and effort into thinking of tasks, shows, and videos designed for that pig.

    And lastly, their attitude. They need to worship me. Be thankful of everything I give them. I am sugar coated, on the back seat full of vanity, gloriously sweet, born to be the other woman, yet I demand to be treated as number one.

    Do’s And Don’ts For Every Pay Pig

    Do’s:

    – Tribute all you can spare. Give us your cash. Send us presents. Spoil your queen. And then tribute that cash you can’t. Send in your savings. You can live off toast for the next week, your cash looks better on my feet anyway.

    – Thank your queen for everything.

    – Agree to everything she says. Does she want you to go gay tonight? Real slutty, faggoty, spit roasted gay? You do as she says.

    Don’ts:

    – Tell her you can’t afford her. This is FINDOM. If you can’t tribute then you have no reason to be in our messages. No one will take your broke ass.

    – Tell her irrelevant shit. Oh you’re taking your wife to dinner tonight? Shouldn’t you be spending that money on a new designer dress for me? Oh you’re going to the game? Perhaps I want you to stay home and amuse me, yes. In fact, you’re not going anymore.


    I am Queen Valarie! I am a Femdom cam girl. I dabble in all fetishes and primary thrive through Findom. My selfish attitude is intoxicating and addictive. I can make you feel things, darling.

    Follow Queen Valarie on Twitter @QueenValariee and on MyFreeCams at Queen Valarie


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