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Big is Sexy – BBW is In!
The definition of a feeder is usually a male who likes to encourage weight gain in his partner through the consumption of food. Feeders differ from FA (fat admirer), whilst an FA is attracted to big girls, a feeder gets turned on by making a thin girl fat … or a big girl even bigger. Every feeder has a ideal weight they fantasize about fattening a girl up to. Some want to see how the body grows and expands and where all the fat goes, will it go to her butt or belly or boobs? Will the fat be hard or soft and jiggly. Its a love affair with the actual fat on her growing body.

Then there are the guys who want to immobilize a girl by getting her too fat for her body to handle. These guys like girls around 150 lbs to start gaining weight till they are 500 or 600 lbs. This happens but is really rare, it is mostly a fantasy or the girls who gain stop gaining after a certain point. This is perhaps the more controversial part of the BBW (big beautiful woman) niche because the guys really like the woman to be so fat they cannot move. However, not every fat admirer likes feeding, its a very niche part of being a BBW, but it sells the most because not many girls are willing to gain weight.

My personal experience with gaining is a little different. I don’t have one specific feeder who wants me to gain or achieve a goal weight. I just eat what I want when I want and do not stress about my size. I have gained around 90 lbs over the last three years in the industry. I went from 190 lbs to about 230 lbs when I first entered the industry and found the fetish. Then I became pregnant so my body naturally gained weight and I was about 260 lbs after. With the birth control I started on after I delivered, I gained about 20 lbs, which my doctor said is very normal. Through out my weight gain, I have dominated my niche with two AVN nominations for BBW of the year, five nominations for BBW fanfest awards, and modeling for Hustler and Evil Angel. Apart from that, I produce a lot of content for other BBWs and myself to sell on our personal sites. I tend to do a lot of weighing videos where I am stepping on the scale. The video clips are about two mins per weigh in and I have one of the top selling BBW site in the world. Its so simple and my fans love it. Realistically, I have gained all that I can so I am shooting on other fetishes as well.

Men have all kinds of fetishes and nuances in all those particularities. The BBW niche is no exception. There are all kinds of belly play, slapping, rough, punching, jiggling, fucking the actual belly fat or belly button fucking. I recently shot a hot boy girl scene for a site called plumperpass with the legendary Shane Diesel and belly play is a staple in their shooting routine. His monster cock was buried in my belly button and my fans went crazy for it. I love it when my man worships every inch of my body and my stomach is no exception. That is what belly play is all about, kissing and caressing another part of your BBW partner’s body that you enjoy. Most women are so self conscious of their mid-section but body acceptance actually begins inside yourself, and having your partner eagerly accepting your whole body makes it easier.
My take on all of it really is that everyone has some kink. Whether it is liking blondes or fake tits or fat girls, everyone has a right to enjoy their preferences without chastisement as long as all parties are willing. We are all adults after all. Does me being fat and having a good sex life take away from your ability to do the same? Happy fucking!

Check out SimplySxy’s other two featured articles by BBW’s Kimmie Kaboom and Sarah Reign

http://simplysxy.com/articles/2015/02/20/of-ravishing-bbw/

http://simplysxy.com/articles/2015/02/19/bbw-is-not-a-fetish/

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February 21, 2015
Of Ravishing BBW

When emailed about writing an article for SimplySxy the topic was “Why sex is more fun with BBWs”, I wasn’t exactly comfortable with it and I am grateful that SimplySxy was so flexible in allowing me to approach this topic my way. Mostly because I think it is unfair and even a bit egomaniacal for one to think that sex with a particular body type is better than another body type or is it? If there is anything I have learned over the years and especially since beginning my porn career is that there is a niche for everyone.

Big beautiful woman (BBW) being one of those niches and with that being said it hasn’t always been socially acceptable. Looking back 10–15 years ago, BBW were not as mainstream as they are today. For that, all of us as well as myself should be very grateful that wonderful BBWs like Sam38G and Ms. Maria Moore opened those doors and paved the way for other BBWs. Not just for those of us in the porn industry but for all women, they helped bring out the sexiness in all of us. They helped break through those society based stereotypes and showed everyone that yes, the chubby, the BBW can be sexy. They can be desired by men and even women for that matter. I love being a BBW, especially in porn. I feel more sexy, more desired, more wanted and even more self confident than I ever have.

Basically I guess what I feel is that BBWs and Barbie doll types (for lake of a better phrase) are like any other fetish or genre for men and women to lust after. I don’t think that I or any other women hold the key, magic spell or potion for the holy grail of sex. I think that having self confidence in who you are and knowing what you desire and those desires of your partner are what makes for the best sex ever.

I didn’t want to write this without getting my husband, Mr. KaBoom’s opinion as I felt that a male perspective was important. He said that he feels the reasons he has always liked the BBW is their voluptuous figure and their boobs of course, spoken like a true boob man. Again, feeding into that niche or genre. When asking other male opinions, I was disappointed to learn that many men prey on the BBW or SSBBW types because many of these women have low self esteem and feel the need to please and be completely submissive or less likely to say “NO” to some things in the bedroom. The same men also told me that they felt they didn’t have anything to prove either. That they too, felt the pressure of being “society” perfect to obtain the “society” perfect women. I really didn’t want to believe this so I went to a few women I knew to get their take on this. I did indeed, learn that three of the four I spoke with confirmed some of the things the men told me. They said they didn’t feel like body wise, they lived up to other society based women (barbie dolls) and that giving in to sexual requests and being submissive in the bedroom gave them that sense of control and self esteem. Therefore, empowering them and making them feel dominant in the bedroom.

Which leaves me asking “Is sex more fun with a BBW?” I know that since I have been in the porn business, my husband and my sex life has been even better than before, NOT that there was anything wrong with it before. We have always had a healthy sex life and still do. The thing is that with all the popularity with my work and ever growing fan base, it has only increased my self confidence and has made me feel more comfortable in my own skin. So, perhaps sex with us BBWs are more fun. And husbands out there, remember that when your barbie doll wife bares your children and gains an extra 40 pounds over the course of your marriage. Remember sex isn’t dead but can actually just be getting good, perhaps even the best of your life 😉

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February 20, 2015
Big Beautiful Women attraction is not a Fetish!

Attraction and beauty is relative. What works for one may not work for the next. What do you look for in a significant other? A slim waist? Beautiful smile? nice hair? Long legs? These are all just preferences that enhance our general interest in a partner.

Maybe you’re captivated by something that goes against the social norm of slim women and prefer everything extra large. You like BBWs or Big Beautiful Women. There is nothing else that lures you in like a big girl and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! BBWs are becoming more in demand these days (I know because I am a BBW). It’s actually been this way since ancient times; where a big woman was worshiped and seen as fertile and attractive. Everything comes full circle in history as we are coming from the social norm of the last 50 years where “thin is in” and into “big is beautiful”. I believe ALL WOMEN are beautiful no matter their size, but we can touch upon that another time.

Most men who like BBWs are attracted to more than just their visual characteristics. I’ve been told that personalities play a huge (pun intended) role. Apparently, big girls are just more enjoyable to be around, “aren’t as vain”, are confident and that they “will actually eat real food out on a date”. I don’t know what it is about guys, but they definitely like girls who will eat and not complain about it (from what I’ve been told). The confidence in some women, especially with plus sized ones is “increasingly sexy”. Men should be proud to have a big, beautiful, intelligent down-to-earth girl under their arm.

What comes with going against the grain and procuring a propensity for large, plus bodies opens up the possibilities of attracting negativity; that to me partial to these types of women means you have some assortment of fetishes. Fetish are nowhere near as adverse as people assume. Nearly everybody has some sort of fetish. I have plenty (I’m a kinky deviant) and I am 100% open minded to the kink world. In this instance, I am implicating fetish in how those of negative mind apply it; that BBW are only identified as sexual objects to be fetishized by those who may have a hidden fat fetish. I have observed this multiple times on mainstream entertainment such as TV shows, movies, online and even heard the stereotype in person.

Whilst this does happen, it’s not very frequent. To make this clear; BBWs are NOT a fetish. We are an inviting preference to men who certainly love us as any other may be attracted to blondes, green eyes or even short women. The fetish aspect in my opinion develops when both parties consent to indulging in fantasies each may have, which enhances their sex life and strengthens their bond. Activities that they may partake in appear just as common as not. Everything depends exclusively on each individual’s comfort level as well as if they do in fact possess the fetish or any fetishes at all.

These misconceptions (that BBWs are a fetish) have been debunked in my own personal experience as well as via people I have spoken to regarding this topic of interest. Personally, most men I meet are genuine and enjoy my company, appreciate me and don’t seem to treat me any differently than a woman of smaller stature. Honestly, I would like to see more BBW perceived as a standard of beauty just as women of any size or ethnicity should be. There is beauty at every size. Nobody should feel intimidated, embarrassed or be scrutinized for preferring the alternative. This is what is beautiful: Diversity in the Laws of Attraction.

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February 19, 2015
Will I make a good Submissive?
Am I really cut out to be… a submissive?

It’s a common and concerning question for many of us when we first begin to explore ourselves. Where do I belong in the jungle of this lifestyle? What is right for me among all these titles? Am I really cut out to be a…submissive? It can be a little alarming, and a bit confusing. For those of us who are submissive, we usually learn that way pretty quickly. For myself, I always lived this way before I started to really “live” this way. I’ve always, even at a young age, had that inner desire to serve and please.

Many things can lead us away from the path of submission. Lack of confidence, being unsure about what we really and fully desire, and of course… not knowing what we should do, or what will be expected of us. I’ve also heard some expressed worry that they will lose who they are, or lose power over themselves. I want to discuss these topics and hopefully put some minds at ease, and perhaps help others decide if this is the right path for them.

Confidence.

This is a biggie. Like most things in life, if we do not have confidence, we will constantly doubt ourselves. We all struggle with this at times. And usually, there is a reason behind why we feel this way, beyond all that Dr. Freud-type self analyzing.

A common reason would be: We feel less confident because we worry about what people may say or how they may think about us. How people will look at us differently perhaps. Some people that may be unfamiliar with the lifestyle can picture a submissive as a weak, small thing with no confidence. Someone with no voice. And one of the worst that I have heard… a door mat. I am here to tell you, that is so far from the truth. And the good news is, that old visual of us is not as popular as it once was. Thanks to the internet, books, and even mainstream movies, many more people now understand, even if it is not something that they would consider for themselves.

The fact is, the more submissives you meet, the more you will see that they are usually opposite from those old stereotypes. They are empowered, free, often very strong willed… some even impishly so *cough*, and anything but weak or lacking confidence.

With that said, I’ll let you in on something else I have learned. I have never, ever in my life until Sir and I entered the local and online community… seen such a loving bunch of people. One of the most common rules I see given to submissives, are ones that help them RAISE their confidence. Or ones that do not allow them to self bad talk. Not many Dominant’s will tolerate their sub bad talking themselves. We get taught to love ourselves, and take care of ourselves – inside and out.

Not being sure if it’s what you desire.

This one, I think, is the easiest to cover. Almost every single submissive I have ever spoken with has agreed that it’s not something that we do, or just want. It’s part of who we are. It doesn’t go away. The desire to please is often strong in us, especially once we realize it is there. Does it mean that we are submissive in all aspects of our lives? Of course not, there are many submissive’s that are fully dominant in other areas such as parenting, work, or other vanilla areas in life.

The biggest thing I tell those new to the lifestyle who have came to me has been this – stop worrying about what is right for everyone else, and take a look into yourself. Is this who you are? Do you have that desire to please? Are you eager to hear words of approval and satisfaction? From serving Him/Her coffee in a way that pleases Them, to greeting Them at the foot of the bed or by the front door at the end of the day. It’s there inside of you. Sometimes, you just need to stop worrying about what comes after, and acknowledge that it is in fact there, and a part of who you are.

Being unsure of what to do, or what will be expected of you.

Is He/She really going to want me to do this or that….? Is He/She really going to throw me over a stool and spank me pink?! Will I have to kneel on, ack, Legos?! Well, maybe. But, remember, there are limits in everything. And here is where you can be at ease and know, if you do not already, that all respectful Dominants respect Hard and Soft limits, even in punishment.

They will also follow things like, Safe Sane and Consensual, or RACK.
- SSC: Safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
Sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible frame of mind

Consensual: all activities should involve the full consent of all parties involved.
- RACK: Risk-aware: Both or all partners are well-informed of the risks involved in the proposed activity.
Consensual: In light of those risks, both or all partners have, of sound mind, offered preliminary consent to engage in said activity.

Kink: Said activity can be classified as alternative sex.

One of the many things to enjoy in being a submissive, is learning and trying new things. And with the right Dominant, you will hopefully find someone who will know when to help you push your limits, if you want them pushed. Nothing is more important than FULL honesty, and FULL communication. It also means establishing trust. Your Dominant, would and should expect full honesty in all things; not to be some nosy bossy type, but to keep you safe. Mentally and physically.

Worries of losing who you are.

One of the biggest things I have found in myself since I started embracing my submissiveness and living this way 24/7, is that I haven’t lost any parts of me. Instead, I have gained. It set me free from things deep within myself that are hard to even put into words. I don’t feel I have lost the power over myself, but that I have gained it. I think you’ll find many who agree on this, for it’s a common self-realization many of us seem to have. It’s hard to explain, but trust me on this – if you find that this is the path for you, and can work through these very normal, initial feelings – you will get it. For me, when I hit that point, it was as if a huge light bulb went on over my head.

I understood where I belonged, finally. I understood my deepest desires, and that me being submissive wasn’t something to learn, but rather something to embrace. It goes beyond any physical act or lessons that we can be taught. It’s there, deep inside of you, and once you recognize that it’s there.. you can, without a doubt be cut out to be a submissive. Trust your feelings, trust who you are, and then get ready for the ride of your life. It’s truly one of the most fulfilling and satisfying things you will ever do, if it is indeed your path. After that, the rest will come. Sore bottoms, Lego kneeling and all.

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February 13, 2015
How To Spank Your Wife
Hi, DH here! I told Julia I had an idea for a blog post about how to give a spanking, and she asked me to actually write it! What follows is my best attempt.

My beautiful wife and I have been practicing ttwd for the better part of a year now. Our understanding of what ‘that thing we do’ means has changed dramatically over time. In the beginning, it was just me spanking her, usually after she asked for it repeatedly, and then finding out that the spanking wasn’t long enough afterward. Things have since changed. Just a couple of days ago, I felt myself starting to melt down under the stress of working at home with a flaky VPN connection, getting ready to leave early to see my oldest daughter safely on campus, and some critical tasks at work that were hanging over my head. I turned to Julia and told her I felt like I was ‘jumping the rails.’

Julia: You’re not jumping the rails, though.
Me: I know, but I am so frustrated! Nothing is working!
Julia: I understand. What do you want to do?
Me: I … I want to give you a spanking!
Julia: OK. You are the head of the house. Why don’t you?
Me: Yeah, that’s right! Why don’t I?

I bent her over our bed right there and started spanking her as hard as I could though her jeans. She started whimpering right away—I really let her have it. After about 20 swats, my hand hurt so badly I had to switch sides, and then started spanking her just as hard with my other hand. With every muffled swat, I could feel my rational mind returning. Even before we were done, I had figured out a plan for solving my problems. That spanking made the difference between having a horrible, frustrating, failure of a day, and what it actually was: one of our best days ever.

The person who really benefited the most from the spanking? Me.

We’ve both experimented. Julia used to make me work a little to get her to submit to a spanking, but noticed that I respond better when she offers her submission instead. This has changed the dynamic between us and strengthened our trust. We’ve experimented with rules, but I give her a spanking at least once a week, no matter what. I am constantly asking her how she feels and I read her blog to find out what her perceptions are after a spanking. I’ve learned a lot that way!

To be honest, Julia started us on this journey. She read about it on TakenInHand and thought it would be a good direction for us. She was basically wearing the pants in our relationship at that time and was really tired of doing all of the heavy lifting. Looking back, I believe that many men have been unmanned by the feminism movement, to the point of disengaging with relationships because we just don’t understand what women WANT anymore. In my case, I’d also lost my job during the recession and my confidence as well. When she started pointing me at TakenInHand’s articles after we had the ‘spanking talk’, I started to realize the potential implications if we tried this in our marriage: what if one of us decided we didn’t want to anymore? What if I actually hurt her and she didn’t trust me anymore? What if I could never ‘do it right?’

What if trying ttwd ruined our marriage?

But I liked it. She liked it. I’m unbalancing my laptop on my lap just typing about it. We talked about various scenarios,about how we would talk about how we felt at each step along the way. I promised her that if we tried it, I would always go slowly, no matter what. We realized an essential, permanent truth: once we started on this path, we wouldn’t be going back.

So this is my little guide for seekers of information about giving your wife a spanking. While I’m writing this with the first-time spanking couple in mind, I also hope that most of these steps apply to every spanking.
1. Take her in hand. When it’s time for a spanking, gently take her by the hand and lead her to your spanking place. Tell her it’s time for a spanking to help her get ready. Be firm, but friendly. Strong, but kind. Patient, but absolutely unwilling to back down once you establish that this event, this spanking is on. I tell Julia to go get ready for her spanking, which can mean a particular pair of panties, or sometimes her whole outfit. I tell her to get a particular implement and put it within easy reach. I like to have her wait for me by standing by our bed so that she has time to think about the spanking coming up.
2. Discuss safety. Let her have a ‘safe’ word, or some other way to tell you to stop for real if she’s having a serious problem. Like everything else I’ve experienced in ttwd, the safety talk works for you AND her: it reminds you that her safety is important, and that you have her trust to keep her safe.
3. Go slowly, always. Agree with her that it’s OK to have a light spanking that doesn’t do much, especially when trying a new implement. Most guys aren’t born knowing how to spank, so my advice is to freely admit that you don’t know what you’re doing right away, and try to set expectations accordingly. Our first spanking was nothing more than some light slaps on her ass that really didn’t amount to much. I take the same approach with each new implement we try. The truth is that I don’t want to hurt her, and at the same time, I want to find out where her limit is for the spanking. The only way to do that is to take a slow approach and give yourself plenty of time DURING the spanking to figure it out. There’s nothing wrong with stopping and just caressing her with your hand (or the implement you happen to be using at the time) until you start up again.
4. Talk to her while you’re spanking. I love to lecture Julia about why I’m spanking her, even if she’s not in trouble. I tell her about how much more confident I am at work, or how much I love the shape of her ass as I’m spanking it. I tell her when I’m switching implements so she has time to get ready for the feel of the paddle when I bring it out. Sometimes, I have her count the swats when I’m spanking her hard across both cheeks. On a few occasions, it’s been necessary for me to lecture Julia about rules she’s broken, which is the only time I will require her to answer me during a spanking.
5. Always (always!) follow through. Until recently, I have been really bad with this. Julia has been very frustrated on more than one occasion where I promised her a spanking earlier in the day, and then failed to deliver. Not cool! For us, I think the best method is not saying anything about an upcoming spanking until I tell her to get ready for it. I can’t always guarantee that I’ll have enough energy at the end of the day to make good on a promise I made in the younger, fresher part of the day.
6. Don’t spank angry. Or, don’t spank her angrily. Even if she’s broken a critical rule (one of ours is that Julia may not leave the house without her phone), I am committed to letting the spanking do the work of correction for both of us, without needing to yell at her or punish her in some other way. The spanking itself is the way we hold each other accountable.
7. Dominate her. I used to make the mistake of asking Julia if she wanted a spanking. Looking back, it seems silly, almost like me asking her if I could go to the bathroom. It’s not her decision! If there’s going to be a spanking, I’m going to be the one giving it out, and I’ll be deciding how, when, and where. I will gently lead her to the time, place, and method, and administer the spanking. In one of our recent spankings, I had her turn around and bend over to show me her thong. I let her stand there, bent over, so I could enjoy the view, while I lightly played with her ass.
8. Warm her up, and cool her down. This is really a style issue, but it could be useful for beginners. My spankings are typically 3 parts: warm up, which I perform with my hand over her panties, and then on her bare skin. When her ass is glowing red, I switch to an implement (like our favorite leather paddle), and spank her with that. I like to vary the tempo to keep her guessing about when the next strike will come, and also give her a little time to recover. I finish every spanking with my hand again, which is the ‘cool down’ phase.
9. Express your love for her after the spanking. We usually end up making love after a spanking, which lets me continue dominating her. She’s been able to have multiple orgasms after we started ttwd, and I think the spanking heightens her sexual experience. I always hold her and make sure she knows I love her after spanking her.
10. Listen and learn. Listen to what she says during a spanking, and after. Let her give feedback on the implements you use, but make the final decisions on what you actually use 😉 Let her speak ‘out of character’ once in a while so you can have a frank discussion about where you really are. Julia and I love this part of our relationship, where we can step out these roles and talk about what we’re doing. After all, we chose to pursue this lifestyle.
What do you think? What other things should be on this list? How does a man successfully spank his wife?

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February 12, 2015
3 Shibari Rope Bondage positions you should know

There are many kinds of Shibari patterns and positions. There are standing positions, sitting positions, lying positions, suspension bondage positions. We see lots of suspension bondage in the performance, but it requires advanced techniques and experience, if we don’t do them correctly, suspension bondage can be very dangerous.

Each Shibari specialists have more or less their own style. But there are some basic techniques people can start to learn.

I am going to introduce some of them below.

Takatekote Shibari

Kikkou Shibari

Gyaku ebi Shibari (Hogtie)

Bondage is for everybody, those who wants to bind their partner, and those who want to be tied up by their partner. Body shape and size does not matter. Ropes are flexible material that can adapt to any shapes/size of people, and we can also adjust the bondage technique to be suitable in any case. I myself have put hundreds of different people into my rope bondage, they are in various shapes and conditions, some are big, some are small, some are very tall, some are not flexible, some have physical disability etc. Each time for each person, I have made some adjustments and customized the best bondage for them.

I offer Japanese rope bondage private lessons/workshops to the people who want to learn it. When bondage is applied safely and correctly, it becomes a special and interesting sexual game, but if it is applied wrongly, it can be dangerous and damage the body. Nowadays there are many images of Shibari on the Internet, and some text explanations, so it looks as if we can just try by looking at. But in my opinion, it is better to take a course from rope bondage specialists and learn about safety cautions and the right techniques (patterns, knots, positions, pressure, places to avoid, time length, etc). For the Shibari, looking and trying it out is entirely different. To become good at rope bondage, you just need to learn the right techniques and practice it over and over. The more you practice on your partner, the more effective and beautiful bondage you are able to make. And don’t forget to always keep asking the partner how they feel during the bondage. Make sure that he or she is not having any pain, numbness or discomfort. As soon as they start to feel uncomfortable, they must be released, otherwise it can harm their body.

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January 20, 2015
Fetish for semen stained underwear and used condoms

For many years now I have had a perculiar habit; I have been in the habit of sniffing dirty knickers as I masturbate. How I started this habit is another story that I shall leave for another time. For a long time I believed I was alone in my perculiar habit; it is not something you can discuss with your mates. It was through the internet that I became aware that I was not alone. The internet also opened up a means of obtaining dirty knickers on-line, though this costs money to buy the soiled items, it does mean that one can obtain them legitimately and not have to steal them from a friend’s laundry basket when visiting them. Something I have done for many years in constant fear of being caught. Not only do I sniff the knickers of the wives and daughters of friends I have visited, being bisexual, I have also sniff my friend’s underpants.

Buying dirty knickers and underpants on-line can be an expensive business, which is why I decided a few months ago to sell my own dirty underwear. You would be surprised at the number of women and men who sell their dirty underwear. More surprisingly are the number of people who buy such items and the prices they are prepared to pay for underwear in a well worn and soiled condition.

When it comes to sniffing knickers, I particulary enjoy the genital odour of the person they belong too combined with a whiff of stale urine. It is the genital odour and stale urine that attracts me to men’s underpants as well, but the presense of semen on a men’s underwear is the real attraction for me. With knickers I love to sniff them as I masturbate then ejaculate into them. I do this also with men’s underpants, but afterwards I like to wear them with my dry semen in them along with the original owner’s semen. I am kept in a state of arousal all the time I wear them and obtain even greater pleasure masturbating in them once again.

When buying men’s dirty underpants on-line I always request that the seller masturbates and ejaculates into them. This is a popular request I find when selling my undies, but I have had other requests such as wetting myself whilst wearing them and had one request to shit myself in them and send them off with the shit. I personally am not into shit play, but shitting my underpants for that guy really turned me on so much that I masturbated again and had another orgasm more intense than the first. I believe it is the intensity of a masturbatory orgasm that attracts people like myself to this perculiar habit of sniffing underwear.

While seeking dirty underwear on-line I came across a guy selling used condoms. I so was intriged and curious about this that I bought a used condom. I recieved it complete with a ‘load’ of semen. What other guys do with a ‘loaded’ used condom I do not know, but I poured it on a pair of briefs and sniffed at the aroma it gave off as I masturbated. I then ejaculated my semen onto the other guys and wore the briefs soaked in mine and the other guy’s semen. Ecstacy indeed!

Along with my dirty underwear I now sell condoms I have worn while masturbating and deposit a ‘load’ in them for other guys to enjoy. As of yet I have had no strange requests regading used condoms.

The underwear I have for sale along with my used condoms can be found at http://tonysthings.myadpost.com. Take a look and don’t be shy about your requests as I will honour your every wish.

Antony Gee

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January 18, 2015
Perks of selling your used panties

My name is “tiny” Leticia and I’m an independent seller of my “dirty” used panties. Currently residing in the midwest, where I’ve sold hundreds of my sweet little panties for over 2 years and hope to sell hundreds more.

It began while I was researching the word pheromones and stumbled across women selling their used panties. It looked like a fun sexy way to make a little extra cash and an excuse to take sexy pictures. I made a little website and started on my journey of being a fetishist of used panties. Along the way, I’ve met some wonderful people including other sexy sellers as well as my awesome buyers.

There are many misconceptions about being a seller of your unmentionables such as it being an easy way to make money. Being a panty seller is your own little business which takes A LOT of time, energy and patience. Just like any other business, the time you put into selling will make you as successful as you want to be. There is more to it than sexy undies. Your postman knows your name and is probably curious in the discrete packages you ship daily.

One of the main and most important things to note are ….PIC, .PICS and more PICS! We know men are visual creatures and they want to see you in the panties they are buying. I for one have taken thousands of sexy photos which is something I absolutely love. It’s one of the perks of selling your panties of course! Having good clear communication with your buyers is key.

Another misconception is I am a prostitute or offer sexual favours. I love all women and we have the freedom to choose what we do with our sexuality as it is our own, and for me, I choose to strictly sell only my panties. Sorry boys..

My panties are sized extra small to small, never bigger. My particular size soaring heights of a mere 4’11 makes me stand out a little from my “voluptuous peer sellers.” With my seller name of Tiny Leticia, I learned at the beginning that this would be my niche. I embrace my sexuality in my size. There is a buffet of beautiful sellers in this fetish, and if a man is partial to a small latina, I’m their pint size seller.

One of my best sellers is the extra small G-string, preferably one from Victoria’s secret. It usually lasts only a few hours on the market. Its doll size is suits men looking for the ass scent in a tiny package.

I have ways my buyers can “customize” the panties I wear for them to capture the scent or visual which turns them on. Thongs or G-strings are more for the back-end scent. Whether they like the smell of straight body odour, or add hint of perfume, my unique smell which buyers go crazy over for is my musky sweet scent. For an experienced collector of panties knows exactly what he wants.

One of the sexy perks of selling is I get paid to play in my panties. Once I had a buyer pay me to play eight times and wear for four days straight. I do four day wears very rarely because it is a tough order. These particular panties were one of the dirtiest to date, but he was very pleased with the soiled panties and strong scent which he purchased and is still a buyer to this day. I understand all my buyers are different and I try to accommodate them all.

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January 18, 2015
Do fetishes require a Health and Safety warning?

As a now qualified psychologist, and practicing psychotherapist, I believe it is an aspect of my duty as a sex and relationship specialist to inform my readers that some fetishes require such warnings. It has been well documented since the early 17th century that men are dying due to their passion for sexual fetishes and the accessing of their fantasies, which are subsequently being played out. Therefore, some of these fetishes are quite historic in nature.

I hear more and more in the British press that LGBT men and men from the greater community are not always taking into consideration that various fetishes are in fact dangerous, if not health threatening. Two come to mind, a 32-year-old BBC presenter Kristian Digby died in December 2010 from a sex game that went wrong. He accidentally suffocated himself while attempting to achieve a fetish known as an ‘auto-erotic asphyxiation’ (AeA a bondage sex game consisting of partial, or total wrapping in cling film ‘mummification’). Recently, a 47-year-old Alun Williams partook in a similar sex game, where he fully wrapped himself in the same material and suffocated in August 2014. The United States of America estimate that the total death rate due to ‘AeA’ falls between 500 to a 1,000 nationwide per year. Unfortunately, due to the taboo nature, the United Kingdom and North America do not hold actual figures.

Unfortunately, rationality goes out of the window when the sexual drive is all so powerfully active that one does not learn from others demise, and die in vein of similar fetishes. Of recent years, I have noticed various men contact me requesting advice on what fetishes they could attempt. This, of course, is quite a challenging prospect and consideration for me to take on as fetishes are individually founded in preference. Such a preference is driven by sexual arousal, imagination, sexual fantasies, and quite possibly, lack of adventure in everyday life.

If such drives are fundamentally conceived by a lack of adventure in one’s day, when sexual awareness appears limp in all states of carnal consciousness such as: physical arousal, spiritual arousal, and a cognizant arousal. Then, the unconscious will collect material from everyday experience and process it in order to be drawn upon at a later date. Of course, if one becomes aroused within the process of obtaining such material, then there is every chance one will be aroused when processing, however distorted the material might become. It is important to appreciate ones sexual desire (libido) derives from an innate motivational energy that consists of any of the following: predisposition, drive, want, wish, need, sexual attraction, lust, or urge.

There are three factors to consider, ‘Drive’, ‘Motivation’, and ‘Wish’. There are explained herewith: drive equates to the organic/ genetic element, for example, anatomically. Then, motivation, which equates to the psychological element, which when dissected, indicates one’s mental states, for example, their mood, their interactive states when with another, for example, their mutual affection, or dislike with the other, as well as their social circumstance, whether they are within a relationship, or a casual affair. Then finally, the wish, which equates to the cultural element. This, when dissected, would contemplate the individuals’ cultural idealisms, their value system, and conditioned procedures regarding the individuals’outer sexual expression.

To end on an informative note, I have researched the top 15 sexual fetishes, which might span from developing a mask fetish, drinking blood, acting out animalistically as a furry, and to nappy wearing. According to http://www.cbsnews.com (2014), this is the list in no particular order: Agalmatophilia: Mannequin Love, Ursusagalmatophilia: Plushies (furries), Partialism/Gas Pedal Honeys, Salirophilia: I Like It Dirty, Paraphilic Infantilism: Diaper Me, Hybristophilia: Criminal Love, Hematolagnia: Vampire Sex, Mechanophilia: Inspector Gadgets, Claustrophilia: Love of Tight Places, Odaxelagnia: Bite Me, Dacryphilia: Are Those Tears?, Masks: Blindfold Me, Autoandrophilia: Just Pretend I’m a Boy, Acrotomophilia: Amputees, and Somnophilia: Sleeping Beauty.

If this floats your boat, please research, enjoy, and recognise your fetish limitations. After all, sex is for the living and I can guarantee, you will not gain sexual enjoyment after your death.

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January 17, 2015
Buy my used panties with a customised video

I started selling my used panties about a year ago, when I stumbled across an article online discussing the topic. I figured it wouldn’t hurt to try and being a full-time student, the extra money would be nice. The article I read suggested selling on Craigslist, but as you can guess, that didn’t work out or last very long. There were way too many creeps for my comfort. Once I saw the potential this panty selling business had, I decided it was be a good idea to invest in my own website. With the help of an amazing web designer Alex (alexgarciarubio1@gmail.com), I now have my own website (www.nikkipantyshop.com) which is currently finding its way to the top pages on google!

I personally believe panty selling is a creative way to express your sexuality while providing a means to help support myself at the same time. Most people would probably think I only do this for the money and that I am very desperate. But to be honest if this actually wasn’t a fetish or turn on for me, I would not be doing it! I really don’t have many fears when it comes to selling my used panties. I guess the one fear most girls would have with this kind of business is having someone find out where you live or any kind of personal information, so I believe it is very important to remain discrete no matter how close you become with your customers. I had one guy that emailed me for a while just looking for a free show, and he brought up the point one day asking if I ever feared someone using my DNA to cover their tracks at a crime scene. This was very comical and creepy as well to me so I never emailed him again.

Personally I think the sexiness of the panties depends on what looks best on that particular woman. For me, I have been told I look very sexy in lace boy-cut panties and I also sell several plain cotton bikini styles. Many customers have requested me to keep buying the bikini style because it complements my butt. I’m not sure if I offer anything much different or unique than other sellers out there, but when I do have an order I also try to let the customer customize as much as they please to ensure they are satisfied. For example when someone places an order that may include a 5 minute video, I will also email the customer and ask if there are any special requests they would like me to do in the vid. My best sellers would probably be thongs or bikini style with masturbation and usually with a 5 minute video.

One particular order I remember was when the customer asked if he could shoot a video of himself masturbating to my pictures and then send it over to me. I of course said yes, because it did turn me on thinking about it, so once it was time to make his video for him, I watched his video on my cell phone while masturbating in the pair of panties he ordered. I remember the whole thing was such a turn on that I was able to reach orgasm before the video was even half way over!

A special shoutout to my web designer Alex for the great job on www.nikkipantyshop.com

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January 17, 2015