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  • Etiquette Tips When Engaging An Escort

    Etiquette Tips When Engaging An Escort

    Sex is one of the most natural and potentially pleasurable things on earth! Not everyone has the time, social fluency, or luck to successfully seek out the kind of sex they desire. I see nothing wrong with consenting adults paying one another to engage in sex and intimacy, be it a run-of-the-mill roll in the hay or a unique and specific kinky fantasy. Of course sex trafficking is a problem, but the more we move towards decriminalization and allow consenting adults to make these decisions for themselves, the more time and attention we can put towards helping those in the industry due to coercion or financial constraints to find support and alternative income sources.

    I realized a number of years ago that a combination of attractive features, charm, intellect, conversational skills and a genuine enjoyment of sex and sexuality made sex work a natural choice for me. I’m very glad I looked past the stigma and explored a path less traveled.

    The Client Screening Process

    Screening begins with how one writes and introduces themself. I see clients of all backgrounds and certainly don’t judge the grammatical errors of non-native English speakers, but general lazy writing and one-word replies are telling.

    I do need to know a client’s name. We can communicate using a texting app if discretion is a concern, but I do generally need to receive a confirmation text from their regular phone number. Beyond that, I am flexible with regards to what screening info a client is comfortable sharing. References from an established provider with a website and social media presence are great. Workplace information is also great. I appreciate the way that American clients are much more forthcoming with screening information. Canadian clients, please take note!

    Try to understand that screening is done for escorts’ safety – I know sharing personal information is a little nerve-wracking, but as long as you have done your homework and chosen an escort with a website, social media presence, etc, you have little to worry about. Most escorts take their client’s discretion seriously and keep personal information private. And once your chosen escort feels confident that you are being honest about who you are, they will relax and enjoy themselves that much more during the date – resulting in a better experience for you!

    Expectations Of My Clients

    I expect prospective clients to visit my website and read through the info posted – it’s there for their benefit. I also expect clients to take note of how I prefer to be contacted (no phone calls, please!) and take the time to write a proper introduction. It need not be long nor especially eloquent, but they should be polite and include their name, where they saw my ad, and preferred booking time/availability.

    I don’t mind a few additional questions – provided the answers aren’t easily found on my website, of course 😉 Some clients are nervous and I want to help them relax and feel comfortable when we meet.

    Basic Etiquette Rules For Clients

    Remember that the escort you are contacting has a life outside of this profession – while you wait for a response, they may be with friends or family, completing some errands, collecting tax documents for their accountant, or simply taking some time to themselves. Please be patient, answer their questions and respect their procedures and policies.

    When the moment arrives – it’s ok to be nervous! Pay attention to your personal hygiene, and do make use of the shower, mouthwash, etc if needed or if she requests you to. Remember that she wants you to enjoy your time with her, so don’t be afraid to (politely) ask for what you want. Maybe you’d like a cuddle session, or more time chatting on the couch, or to massage her feet – if it’s a reasonable request, chances are she’ll be happy to oblige. That said, please respect her answer if she says no!

    For most escorts charging an hourly rate, the session isn’t finished as soon as you finish. Feel free to relax and chat for the full length of your session, but do keep an eye on the clock, and give yourself a few minutes towards the end of your time to get dressed and collect your belongings. She might be working in a shared space with other escorts, so it’s important to be respectful of her scheduling.

    How To Be The Client An Escort Looks Forward To Seeing

    For new clients, I take note of respectful, clear communication. I don’t require deposits or pre-payment, but I appreciate when a client offers to do so, as it allows us to simply get to know one another and enjoy our time together from the moment I open the door!

    Many of my favourite clients are those whom I’ve built a connection with over time. I enjoy good conversationalists, who ask insightful questions and have interesting anecdotes to share. When clients ask me about things I discussed during a previous date, or topics I’ve posted on my Twitter feed, it shows that they value my thoughts and ideas as much as the more physical side of our time together. I love feeling heard and appreciated!

    Ruby Labelle is an escort based out of the heart of Canada’s prairies- the humble city of Winnipeg- with a penchant for travel. She loves long bike rides, great books, good coffee, and discovering what makes a person light up with excitement.  Spend time with her in Winnipeg or take advantage of her ‘fly me to you’ option- she’d love to see more of Canada, or visit country #20!

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    Website: www.rubylabelle.com

    Twitter: @rubylabelle_xo

    I have no upcoming events scheduled, however, I would like to visit Vancouver Island this summer and could either fly or make a road trip out of it! If you’re a prospective client in Calgary, Edmonton, Vancouver, Victoria, or elsewhere in Western Canada, please get in touch and express your interest. 🙂

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  • Enjoy The Best Escort Service When Searching For NZ Escorts

    Enjoy The Best Escort Service When Searching For NZ Escorts

    There are premiere escort agencies in New Zealand, and they provide exclusive personal escort girls for any purpose. Usually, the best NZ escorts sites in New Zealand are interested in the confidentiality of their ladies, and quality of service to clients. While offering professional companionship, these adult service directories display the aesthetics and features of their escort girls. They often categorize their services as strip show performers, BDSM, topless dancers, erotic massage providers, independents, erotic clubs, and agency escorts.

    Getting Started With NZ Escorts

    New Zealand (NZ) is filled with ethically-run brothels and escort agency directories. You can enjoy a plethora of beautiful and scenic views in most NZ cities. Most adult males need a hot date or two without facing unnecessary competitions. Unlike asking a girl out, our online adult service directory saves you from the hassles of talking. Usually, men often do not have the patience caressing sexy girls before sliding their penis into their cunts when lonely and horny. So, the escort agency serves as a sex-negotiating community that connects clients with prostitutes. 

    After subscribing to the social platform’s service, you can have a conversation with your ideal companion. The type of escort service (short or extended time), dirty talks, pricelist, and the designated place of sex are often negotiated. 

    During your NZ escorts trip, you’ll find the right choice of sexy adult mate. Most of the pretty and luxurious girls with curvy features and elite escort ladies often have expensive hire rates. In New Zealand, the rate per hour for call girls varies according to their elegance, age, and taste. Generally, the high-class adult service providers are very classy, and intelligent. They can provide escort services for formal or corporate functions, and give you mouth-watering sex outside office hours.  

    Do you need a beautiful blonde or brunette as a partner during your business meeting? It’s not all escort services that requires sex because there are companions for business trips and career meetings. However, you might need to prep them so they can work as a team member. It’s not difficult to find corporate escorts for business meetings because high-end adult advertisement agencies display brief descriptions of their portfolios.

    Do You Have High Sexual Demands For Our NZ Escort? 

    We provide an online platform for elite escort services, and regular ‘privates’ to work in your apartment. We also make advertisements for ex-porn stars, independent adult entertainers, and university undergraduates that are prostitutes. While satisfying both foreign and domestic clients, our high-class escorts are capable of offering unforgettable moments. Depending on the negotiation with clients, most of these erotic companions can perform nude dances, offer sex from different positions, use sex toys, costumes, and massage therapy.

    A stylish client that need NZ escort service from luxurious ladies will get fashionable and sensual women from elite escort directories. This rich clientele might choose the fantastic atmosphere of a nightclub for pleasure. Also, the demands could be a private striptease with great music with plenty of drinks to trigger the right mood. I’ll advise such foreign client or domestic gentleman to arrange for a gang bang with some exotic New Zealand escort.

    Are you interested in travelling around? Try Wellington Escorts

    When travelling around New Zealand then Wellington escorts are the ones who you have to try. The city itself is very beautiful and will offer a lot of different activities what sex tourism can offer. There are strip clubs, private houses, agency houses, you can get a happy ending massage or all the things what you can dream of. In my mind escorts wellington are the most beautiful girl in the country. I haven’t tried them all but according to the sites and the research what I have been doing, escort in wellington is an experience what you have to try.  

    Travelling to Prague? Try a search word “bezpasaka” or “naprivat”

    SecretGirl also offers a wide selection of eskort girls in Ceczh Republic. If you happen to visit Prague you can recognize similar adult entertainment as in New Zealand. There are private girls and also agency girls available. The regulation of the industry is quite liberal and you can basically order any service what you can dream of. When searching for the best place to contact girls, try secretgirlprague.com. Or if you want to browse different directories, you can try to search by “bezpasaka” or “naprivat” from Google.

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  • Benefits Of NZgirls Independent Escort Service

    Benefits Of NZgirls Independent Escort Service

    The NZgirls escort industry has come a long way and now there are a plethora of services to choose from. Independent escort services offered by independent service providers tend to weigh better than agency escorts. Basically, an independent escort service evokes the impression of being confident in your own work and being liberated in your own work. 

    They are the most customer-friendly and favourable service providers than other contracted agencies out there. Independent Auckland escort provide a first-hand experience of true companionship with high-end sophisticated ladies. The major benefits of going for an independent escort in New Zealand.

    Price

    The main benefit of hiring NZ escort independent services is the price. Compared to contracted escort agencies, the relative price you pay for independent NZ escorts is relatively cheaper. Most of the time, the price is slashed by half when you go the private route. What you would pay for a one-hour session with an agency would take two hours with a private escort. 

    If that wasn’t enough, the pricing is usually not fixed as it is with agencies. It is always open for negotiation between you and suited companion. The price varies depending on what you want services you would want to be included for your session.

    Versatility

    Even though the escort industry is majorly dominated by escort agencies, independent escort services are more versatile compared to what you can get from an agency. It is the main reason that motivates Auckland escort to tap into the private market. With agencies, you never know what could happen. For instance, when a back page is gone, what can the agency do now? The inconsistency of agency sites is what birthed the onset of private escort service providers. Now, the ladies have become wise enough to go solo but sourcing their services on directory websites such as SecretGirl NZ.

    Auckland escorts are more open to service clients in more distinctive arrangements. Since independent escorts are not under any authority of being dictated, the freedom between the client and independent escort is genuine and unlimited. Some agency escorts tend to be more grumpy and frustrated especially when the agencies are taking a huge chunk of the profit. 

    It is up to you and the escort to decide what both of you prefer without rushing things over. Due to this negotiation window period, clients are more likely to get a better deal and leave more satisfied than ever before. Everything is more straightforward, and that is why NZgirls escorts are more desired.

    Customer-oriented Services

    Independent escorts focus on providing first-hand services to all the clients. Back page escorts Auckland are more diligent when it comes to serving their clients. For any independent Auckland escorts, escorting is not an employment to them, but rather, it’s a self-imposed engagement or hobby that they wish to provide services for. 

    Therefore, they take more time and energy to invest in the engagement and meet people with whom they can connect with and spend some unforgettable time with NZgirls.

    Travelling to Prague? Just search Sex Praha from Google

    Secretgirl has a website in Prague as well. When travelling to Prague in Cezch Republic you only have to go to google and type in Sex Praha and you can find us there. Prague nightlife is quite mesmerizing and vivid when going there for the first time. Sex tourism is booming there and people go there from all over the world. As in New Zealand the Praha sex tourism is categorized between private and agency houses. Private workers are more open and willing to try different things. Agency escorts are mostly sex workers from abroad and they are not that keen on trying different things and they are for sure pricier than their co workers from independent sex industry. But, as always there is a but, agency workers tend to be more beautiful. So there you have it, now it is your time to act!

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  • How To Create A Real Connection With A Client

    How To Create A Real Connection With A Client

    Like many girls, living on the edge led me to escorting. After several years of attending university while working full time, my health deteriorated, and I relapsed into depression and anxiety.

    It was at that time that a friend introduced me to sex work, and I fearfully decided to give it a shot. The first time was challenging for me. Prior to the date, I was very nervous and nightmares kept me up at night. After the date, I did not understand anything anymore. I enjoyed the experience, and I felt so good with my client and, most importantly, with myself. I could not help but wonder why my predictions had been so terrible. I found myself slowly gaining awareness of the heavy stigma that I just overcame and its effect on my future in this industry.

    I initially started working at an escort agency. But when they failed to meet my standards and enforced abusive conditions on their girls for the three months I was working with them, I decided to empower myself as a woman and sex worker. I started meeting other workers and clients who would become great friends and offer me a helping hand in becoming an independent escort. It was then when I confidently decided how I wanted to work and with whom, that Anna Stephan was born. I met people who currently occupy very important spots in my life, and I have lived enriching experiences that would have been out of reach otherwise.

    I see this work as a path that can be forked into several directions. Being conscious of where this lifestyle is leading you and staying determined to build the future you truly envision for yourself helps to create the life most ambitious young women desire and breaks society’s stigma of who a sex worker is supposed to be. Sex work can drag you down easily, but it can also lift you up even higher. It all comes down to the choices we make. Most importantly, escorts are like every other woman and clients are like every other man. We are only human, and there is nothing inhuman about the services we provide.

    Reasons Men Engage A Companion

    Sex work is not all about sex. Personally, I have seen a bit of everything. But for most clients, sex is only one element of the greater experience. My clients tend to be men traveling a lot for work, desiring to enjoy the company of an attractive and intelligent lady. They are looking for a natural girl, someone who makes them feel as if they are on a regular date and agree to the terms it is based on. I always say that I specialize in the GFE, because it makes me feel the most comfortable. It feels natural as if we would have met in a bar or on a random afternoon.

    Importance Of Establishing A Connection With A Client

    Without a basic offline connection, my appointments would not work out. A mental connection to discuss common ideas, for example, can end in the strongest sexual connection ever experienced. Prioritizing this connection on a date is the additional value that makes it real and unique. Both escorts and clients deserve respect and sincerity regardless of the places in life they occupy. Relationships are what moves the world, and that is why I think it is so important to connect, influence and contribute to the lives of others.

    What Makes The Connection Work

    I believe that sincerity is the most important ingredient to establish a connection and a meaningful relationship with a client. Sincerity and empathy go hand-in-hand in consummating a successful date where both parties enjoy the best experience. Following the idea of “we attract what we are,”- if you as an escort stay loyal to yourself, you and the client seeking to be with you will most probably click, since the image you are projecting already represents your true nature.

    Tips For Aspiring Companions

    First and foremost, forget about all prejudice. Read and inform yourself very well and, once inside the industry, don’t be shy to seek advice and experience for yourself. Other sex workers can give you a thousand tips to build your business model, but don’t forget that it’s in the small details where you can stand out.

    The road to success does not start by following a pattern, it starts by being yourself. Being myself has been the best marketing, the motivation behind my way of working and, above all, the main reason why I have connected with gentlemen from all over the world.

    Anna Stephan – I tend to define myself as a calm woman with an engaging smile, self-confident and ambitious in life in the healthiest possible sense. To me, the path to obtaining my objectives is always as important as achieving the end goal itself.

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    Website: www.annastephan.es

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/msannastephan

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msannastephan/

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  • How To Be Your Escort’s No 1 Favourite Client

    How To Be Your Escort’s No 1 Favourite Client

    Adult services brings unique individuals together, whatever their preferences. It can be perfect for modern gentlemen and ladies who know what they want and aren’t afraid to ask for it.

    So, whatever your heart desires if you’re in search of a fabulously sensual experience it helps to learn the right etiquette when connecting with an escort.

    If you want to be a great client and who doesn’t, understanding what to do and what not to do are fundamental to the ultimate service experience. Take the time to discover what makes a great client!

    Step 1. Do Your Due Diligence

    Wherever you happen to discover your escort, research him or her. Does he or she have a website? How long has your escort been listed? Similarly, expect your preferred escort to prefer to screen you for their own safety. Take a breath, be respectful and provide whatever information is required to seal the deal.

    Step 2. Time Is Money

    Try to be punctual. Telephone if you look like being more than 10 minutes late. Unless you provide your escort with advance notice of a time change, you can expect to pay for any time you missed. If your one-hour appointment was meant to start at 8:00pm and you arrived at 8:15, you still need to leave at 9:00pm.

    Respect your escort’s time. Don’t linger. Like the rest of us working stiffs, he or she is probably on a schedule. If you would like more time, ask. If the answer is “Yes” expect to pay for it at the previously agreed rate.

    Step 3. Check The Menu

    Always understand what services are available in advance and what the rates are. Do not deviate from it or expect something for nothing. Familiarise yourself with escort code. Expect to encounter abbreviations like, CIM, CIF Greek, GFE or PSE. As always, Google is your friend and be sure to check beforehand.

    Step 4. Don’t Do Dumb Things

    Never ever, ever discuss money, sexual acts or preferences in person. This is for your own safety! If it is a sting, the boys and girls in blue will attempt to coerce you to say out loud precisely what you are there for. This is why online ads, email and messaging services exist! When in doubt, suggest your escort get more comfortable. If they comply, it’s a go!

    Step 5. Money Before Pleasure!

    You’re not buying a car here, there’s no such thing as trying before you buy. The money thing happens first, always! Never refer directly to it. If you have to, call it a gift. Similarly, never hand the money directly to your escort. Place it somewhere they can see it, or wherever you agreed to beforehand.

    Step 6. Class Shows

    Show some class, treat your escorts nicely and be respectful. Your escort is a real person. You shouldn’t feel intimidated and nor should you feel superior.

    Step 7. Its Not The Sexual Olympics

    There’s no expectation you will be a god in the bedroom. Your escort is there to please you. Don’t hold back because you want to last for your escort. This can end in tears. There is no pressure to perform.

    Step 8. It’s OK To Just Leave

    Your escort is unlikely to be offended if you need to leave right afterwards. Time is money after all. If you need to get back to the office, or cuddling or idle conversation isn’t your thing, that’s OK too.

    Step 9. Always Tip

    We live in a service economy, so always tip unless they were crap. Tipping signals your escort that you liked them and you appreciate their time and skills. This is particularly crucial if you wish to see the same escort again. Also, if you went for a twofer, tip extra lavishly!

    Step 10. Offer A Review

    Afterwards, check with your escort of they would like to be reviewed. If yes, keep it simple, you’re not writing an essay and don’t fake it.

    Step 11. The Shower Is Also Your Friend

    Cleanliness not only gets you laid, it gets you welcomed back. Make sure you are clean! Deodorant was invented for a reason unless you really want to be the “Smegma-Guy.”

    Bonus Point

    Bring a gift or wine.

    Double Bonus Points

    Buy your escort drinks or dinner first but remember you are on the clock!

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  • What Is The Girlfriend Experience Like

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience Like

    To me, the girlfriend experience is the connection and rapport you have with someone. To have fun, talk and connect sexually and physically. It’s a great experience for me because it adds another level to our time together.

    GFE Misconceptions

    I think the biggest misconception about the GFE is it stands for kissing and OWO. It’s a much bigger experience than just that.

    Appeal Of The GFE

    My clients choose a GFE because they want total relaxation and enjoyment. Our time together should flow naturally and enjoyably, without the feeling you’re paying a lady to be with you.

    What Is Important For A Successful GFE

    For a lady to make the GFE successful, you are naturally warm, attentive and personable. To take real enjoyment out of what you’re doing and experiencing.

    Lauren Banks – Experienced high end Escort Companion. I am naturally a very warm and attentive person, my touch is soft and gentle; making the most of every moment and taking exquisite care in giving and receiving pleasures!

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  • Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    It should go without saying that I’m a huge supporter of a woman’s right to do whatever she’d like with her body, including participating in sex work. I’ve been in the industry on and off for about five years now and it was originally a means of survival for me. My mental health was at an all-time low after I graduated University. Depression and anxiety were taking over my life and I couldn’t hold down a “regular” 9-5 job because getting out of bed or taking care of myself was simply impossible some days. Sex work saved my life during this period. I was working with an agency and it was great being able to support myself during such an emotionally and financially difficult point in my life.

    I took a break for a few years but now I’m back in the industry from a healthier place. I have a “regular” job now but I enjoy sex work too much to give it up. The main difference is I work independently now and I’ve never felt more empowered. I love being in charge of who I see, when I see them, what we do and how much I take home at the end of the day. I have made so many genuine friends and connections through sex work and met so many amazing men and women who I’d otherwise have never had to chance to get to know.

    I’m tired of society painting us with a wide paintbrush and saying we’re all victims or that sex work shouldn’t be decriminalized. Who exactly are we hurting by doing the work that we do? Contrary to what society would have you believe, the industry is NOT just junkies and trafficking victims. Countless women choose sex work as a career and actually enjoy it, from the extra money to the extra free time and flexibility it affords, to the connections that are formed.

    Sex work is like any other form of labor to me and deserves to be seen as such. To those who see it as demeaning: I personally don’t see anything especially empowering about working minimum wage retail or food service and struggling to get by, but it’s up to each person to choose their own path. Sex work is not for everyone, but it certainly deserves the respect of everyone.

    Things I Wished I Knew Before Starting Out

    I wish I’d transitioned into working independently sooner. I was intimidated by the idea of it when I first began, but now I can’t imagine ever working for an agency again. It’s just not for me. There are certainly positives to working for an agency: it was nice having incall locations available last minute, as well as having a driver and free photoshoots and advertising, but having the agency take almost half of my earnings got really old really fast. I wish I’d done my research and had the confidence to be my own boss sooner.

    I also wish someone had told me it was okay to say no. I started out with the mindset that since the gentlemen were paying for my time, that I had to do whatever they wanted during our time together to keep them happy and wanting to come back again. I endured way too many clients who were either under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which made me uncomfortable, or those who had bad hygiene, or those who’d pressure me for my real name and personal details I was not comfortable sharing. At the agency I worked for, we’d never discussed how to turn down a client which made me feel like it wasn’t okay to turn down a client.

    How It Felt Like Initially

    I was so nervous on my very first day! It was Halloween night and I had no idea what to expect. I was with an agency, so the driver picked me up at home and dropped me off at the incall location, which was a condo building in downtown Toronto. Luckily my first client was very nice. I shared with him that it was my first time and he thankfully took charge of the situation — I love when dates do this in my personal life as well. He did not become a regular of mine, but we had a lovely time together.

    How To Stand Out & Be Unique

    All you can really do is be yourself. Ultimately, if you try too hard or come up with a gimmick to stand out, it’s going to get you noticed but for all the wrong reasons. Personality wins every time. Just be yourself on your social media and website, and when interacting via email. Don’t feel like you have to curate yourself, because when you meet that client in the real world, they’re going to see who you really are anyway.

    Don’t let them fall for an illusion or some photoshopped pictures. It’s okay to listen to Taylor Swift instead of classical. It’s okay to like beer instead of whiskey. It’s okay to not be the “cool girl”. These gentlemen are paying for time with YOU, not with a false and idealized version of you.

    How I See The Escorting Industry Evolving

    I hope the industry continues to evolve and I hope the stigma surrounding sex work and sex workers begins to fade. It’s an honest job and should be seen as such. We are not just selling sex. We are selling our time, our energy, our companionship, a tender touch, a devilish glance, an escape from your real life and a vacation into the dreamworld we’ve created for you. We’re selling a collection of uncrushed moments you can replay in your mind for a lifetime after our time together is actually over.

    I’d also like to change the way certain sex workers see their peers who are perhaps not doing as well as they are. It’s great if you’re a high-end companion and going on extravagant trips and receiving luxury gifts, but please, don’t look down on those who are working the street, working out of their cars, or offering quickie sessions or lower rates. At the end of the day, we are all sex workers and we have to stand by each other if we’re ever going to survive as an industry. Society is already trying to dismantle us — let’s not help them by creating divides between us.

    7 Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Don’t get into this industry expecting it to be easy money. It’s a lot of work behind the scenes, especially if you’re working independently without the assistance of an agency. You need to build a website, you need quality photos and constantly updated photos — I’d say hire a professional photographer who is sex-worker-friendly for your initial photos, but also invest in a selfie stick and tripod. They’re cheap and they’re a great way to update your site or your socials with new pictures, without spending an arm and a leg.

    Figure out what your rates will be! Have a look at what other providers in your area are charging. Remember: it’s always easier to raise your rates than to lower them. And work that new-girl energy!

    Be active on social media. Don’t just post ads — actually engage in conversations and let your personality shine through. A lot of clients will lurk your social media for awhile to get a feel for who you are, and they can’t do that if all you’re posting is ads. I personally prefer switter.at and twitter.com

    Decide whether you’ll be offering both incall and outcall service, and, if you’re offering incall, will you host in your own space or will you go the route of Airbnb and hotels? If you are in a larger city like New York or San Francisco, find apps that will offer you cheap day rates or pay-per-minute. They’re out there and they exist.

    Will you be touring? This is a great way to expand your network of clients, and also a nice way to see more of the world if you’re so inclined. Sign up for an air miles card and / or a hotel loyalty card that offers rewards when you use them. Research online beforehand to see which hotels are more provider-friendly. For discretion, I tend to choose large hotels where everyone just blends in.

    Screening! Figure out how you’re going to make sure your potential new client is a safe client. I like to get at least two references from past providers. Get familiar with the blacklist sites for your area as well. Will you be seeing newbies who do not have past provider references? That’s fine, just make sure you have other ways to thoroughly screen, such as: getting their full legal name, government ID, real-world employment information, and go from there.

    Don’t forget to also take care of yourself. It’s easy to get burnt out when your job revolves around taking care of others, but it’s like the airplane adage that everyone repeats these days: you need to put your own mask on before helping others. Take a day off, or take a week off. Check in with yourself regularly and don’t be afraid to turn down a date if you need that extra you-time.

    Hadley Darling – Hadley Darling is a companion based in Toronto, Canada, but also tours regularly to visit her friends worldwide. She graduated from university with a major in Communications, minor in English, but now chooses sex work instead, because of the companionship, income, and free time it affords her to do other good things, like volunteering with animals and the less fortunate. When she’s not on dates with refined gentlemen, she can usually be found experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen, tending to her garden, binge watching Law and Order SVU, or fawning over her kitty.

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    Website: http://hadleydarling.wixsite.com/home

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/DarlingHadley

    Switter: https://switter.at/web/accounts/59607

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  • How Is Escorting and Mental Health Linked?

    How Is Escorting and Mental Health Linked?

    I have been escorting now for nearly two years and think it has been a very liberating experience. It allows women like myself to take full control over our work, life and financial choices which are almost impossible to have in a normal 9-5 job. Because of this, escorting can be incredibly empowering and allows women to have opportunities that are denied in ‘normal society ‘.

    Is There Any Correlation Between Escorting & Mental Health?

    I don’t believe escorting itself can cause mental health issues, however, I do believe that the stigma escorts face on a daily basis causes unnecessary stress.

    A lot of people wrongly promote the idea that all escorts are troubled in some way which instead of helping SWs, just spreads misconceptions about our industry.

    Contributing Factors That Affect The Mental Health Of Escorts

    Because sex work is still seen as taboo, a lot of SWs have to lie to friends and family which causes huge amounts of stress and anxiety. Loneliness is also a big factor, many escorts work alone with only online friends to talk to and this can be very isolating.

    Another factor is being self employed in a very competitive online environment, there is constant pressure to work longer hours, take better photos and have a bigger presence.

    Is There A Difference Working Independently & For An Agency?

    I think working independently, whilst making more financial sense, is a lot harder than being attached to an agency because you don’t have any support or back up when finding clients, screening clients etc. However, working for an agency can mean working for unscrupulous people on very inconvenient hours. I think both independent and agency escorts face the same mental health challenges.

    Does Making Escorting Legal Help Escorts Have Better Mental Health?

    Yes! Escorts would be free to be honest with doctors and health professionals and state exactly what they need without fear of repercussions. They would feel safe approaching the police and financially would not have the stress of worrying about how to approach banks to handle their earnings.

    What Can An Escort Turn To If She Is Down?

    I’m very lucky in that I have a couple of close friends whom I can talk to and meet up with but a lot of escorts don’t have that luxury. I would talk to other escorts online, use forums or if you can, go to a trusted health professional.

    I would also suggest taking regular breaks, turning your phone off when not available and pampering — going for a massage or doing ‘normal’ things like going to the cinema or finding a meaningful hobby. Having a healthy separation between work and me time is essential.

    Advice For Those Keen To Go Into Escorting

    Escorting is not an easy job and it takes patience, assertiveness and a genuine enjoyment of the job. If done right, it can be very rewarding. My main piece of advice would be to work on your own terms with what you feel comfortable with. If you want to be porn star escort, goth escort or a no make-up jeans and t-shirt escort, go for it. Don’t be put under pressure to pretend to be someone you’re not.

    Estella Brown – Estella Brown is a London based Escort. She is also a writer, a lover of vintage lingerie and an avid Twitterer.

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  • Satiating your Lust: Does Your Escort Truly Know How To Please You?

    Satiating your Lust: Does Your Escort Truly Know How To Please You?

    With over 60,879 females and 44,085 males working within the escorting industry in the UK alone, you may naturally start to feel a little overwhelmed when you start to scroll through the internet in order to locate perfect companion. Whether you have gone online to find an escorting agency or have heard through word of mouth that a local independent escort truly knows how to please, you need to make sure that your companion knows how to fully satisfy you and all of your desires.

    Sometimes an unsuccessful date with an escort can emerge just because you and your companion just are not suited to each other. Your personalities might just not merge together or you may just not feel comfortable enough to express all of your sexual desires when you arrive at a hotel room together. What matters is that you take your time and truly get to know your companion. If there is something that you do not like then let her (or him) know as fast as possible. Never keep this knowledge to yourself!

    Have You Picked The Right Category Of Escort?

    Everyone knows that human sexuality is something that is very difficult to be pinned down. You cannot define it solely as one sort of sexual interest or flame. Not when there are so many fetishes out there that some people even choose to make a part of their lifestyle. These fetishes can be softcore or even extremely hardcore. The categories of these fetishes tend to fall under:

    • Roleplay Fetishes
    • Costume Fetishes
    • Body Part Fetishes

    What is important about meeting an escort to address these fetishes is that you remain honest about them. Your escort will not judge you on them, but they will judge you if you decide to keep something secret from them. Your companion is an experienced adult worker and will have interacted with a whole range of fetishes and strange requests. This means that there is genuinely nothing left that will surprise her. If she is uncomfortable about your request then she will certainly not be keeping it a secret from you.

    One of the worst things that could happen during a meeting with an escort is to begin being intimate, but then again having no satisfaction from the encounter. If you are not completely honest about what you want then you may find that your companion just will not be able to fully satisfy you. Whilst you can request for small changes to be made during the date, if you suddenly request a whole new fetish or sexual request to be added to the date, you may suddenly find that your request is denied. If you cannot pay for this action, or your companion simply does not have the time to compare for it, you will simply leave the date feeling worse than when you first met your beautiful companion.

    So always be open and honest about the things you want and expect from your escort. If your escort simply cannot please you, or if you find that she/he is a little amateur at best with their sexual prowess, there is no harm in stopping the date or just not booking with her in the future. Your escort should be worth her rates, so if you do not like her, then do not just keep going back to her. Find someone new who will genuinely be able to please you.

    What Is Your Attitude Towards Your Escort?

    Forming a relationship with a beautiful escort is one that is based upon respect and trust. After all, you are putting your fetishes and deepest sexual desires in her hands. You expect her to retain your privacy and make you feel calm before you undertake to satisfy your hidden kinks.

    The last thing that needs to happen on a date is either party making the other feel uncomfortable due to their attitude or commentary. The high-end escorts all know that the best way to gain loyalty from their clients is to remain optimistic and accepting of all sexualities and fetishes. That way, a client who may lack the self-confidence to fully accept themselves will feel warm and welcome. They will feel like they are normal people and an escort’s encounter may even bring them the confidence needed to get out there and meet like-minded individuals.

    One little-misplaced comment or action is all it takes to destroy this foundation of trust. That is why both you and your escort need to watch what you say. Do not be aggressive with your escort, but also do not take any sort of humiliation or insults in regards to your sexuality and requests. If you are being respectful about what you want, and you are not pressurising or rude, then your escort has no right to make you feel uncomfortable about yourself. Never instigate a situation where you and your escort may have a “falling out.” If you think a date is simply not working out then you have every right to end it, the same way that your escort also has the right to end the date if they think you are mistreating them.

    Always keep your attitude in check and remain respectful whilst on a date. Whilst not all personalities will click together perfectly, there is no harm in admitting that the date just did not contain the spark needed to satiate you. Just as long as you remain calm, collected and respectful, then you have every right to simply find a different escort that would suit your personality and specific sexual needs.

    Agency VS Independent Escorts

    Before you even think about hiring a sexy companion, you need to start considering what sort of worker you want to invest in. Companion agencies, like Mr Smith Escorts, will provide you with a wide range of escorts under one brand name. One of the best things about working with an escorting agency is in regards to the diversity of companions you will get to meet. Each escorting company will have different categories, locations and prices for you to choose from. That means you can find a dream escort that will fully suit all of your kinks and desires, as well as look at previous reviews about how good her service truly.

    A true escorting agency will only put up ladies on their website that are completely real. Usually, a problem associated with online escorts, as well as the occasional independent escort, is the fear that they are not real. Skip-the-Games.Com, an escorting directory, listed that online adult community can be an attractive domain for scammers who create and provide “Completely fake ads by posters who are just looking for money, ads where a scammer tries to steal your credit card information, providers who don’t look anything like their photos and escort bookings that end with the customer being robbed.”

    Any self-respecting agency will never allow this to happen, as they all screen their photographs, meet the models or ask them to provide selfies to prove that they look the way they have described. This means that you can always ensure that the models you meet will always be a perfect fit for you.

    However, as an agency does tend to host a large array of young women and men, you may find that the sort of people that advertise for may look a little bland. After all, they are simply lumped together under one category and have no spice to make them stand out. This may lead to you feeling like you cannot satisfy all of your sexual fantasies with them.

    That is why you should also consider an independent escort. An independent escort will stand out amongst her fellow companions as she owns her own business. She will use her stunning personality as her selling point and knows exactly what sort of clientele she is ready to please. If you are willing to take a little more time to uncover the perfect independent escort, then you will always find a tailored service that is personalised to your own fetishes. An independent escort will know everything that is needed to please someone who likes a specific fetish, so you can feel rest assured that your sexual desires will be held in good hands.

    The only thing that you may find a little frustrating about an independent escort is their lack of flexibility. If you have more than one fetish, then you may realise that your independent companion can only really satisfy one of them instead of taking care of all of your needs. This may mean that you end up having to find a different independent escort in order to feel fully satisfied. Be sure to always read an independent escort’s sexual skills carefully so that you can see whether or not she will be able to suit you and your specific tastes.

    Are You Getting The Most Out Of Your Escorting Experience?

    When it comes to finding the perfect sexual companion, you deserve to be treated like royalty. You are paying to make sure that all of your desires are satiated, thus you should not take lacklustre service in return for your money. The moment you feel uncomfortable with your companion, or think that their services are just not up to scratch, do not be scared to initiate conversation. Do not become aggressive or frustrated. Instead, be kind and patient and talk to them about where they may be going wrong or may need to slow down.

    Your escort cannot read your mind, thus you will need to be open and honest with them about how you are feeling. If all else fails, then you can simply not see them for another date. The world of escorts is your oyster when it comes to the internet. So take your time and find a perfect companion to soothe your naughtiest desires.

    Content Writer: Hannah Fletcher

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  • Why You Need An Escort Management Software To Run An Escort Agency

    Why You Need An Escort Management Software To Run An Escort Agency

    Businesses use different software to accomplish different tasks. More often than not, software solutions are used to manage and monitor inventory levels, automate several complex tasks, fulfil accounting, invoicing and billing responsibilities, etc. In simple words, software solutions help businesses grow.

    The importance of software in any industry / niche cannot be discounted. Global sex industry is no different. This industry is crowded with escort agencies, brothels, sex workers, pimps, etc. In UK and the US, the economics of sex is beyond the comprehension of industry experts.

    Truth be told, software can do precious little to control brothels, sex workers and pimps. However, when it comes to driving the business of an escort agency, an escort management software can do wonders!

    #1: It lets you build an escort site

    Just glance through popular discussion forums like Reddit. The most frequently asked questions are – how to start an escort agency, how to become an escort in UK, etc.

    Let me throw some light on how to start an escort business.

    There are two steps:

    • Have a digital presence
    • Have a robust business model

    The first and foremost step is to have a digital presence. In other words, an escort website is mandatory.

    To create an escort website, you require an escort management software.

    Of course, you can hire a web developer, a tester and an API developer from freelancing marketplaces. An experienced programmer charges you nothing less than $25 USD per hour. Smart entrepreneurs know that this age old method of hiring programmers and testers is not financially feasible.

    The next step is to have a robust business model.

    Read on.

    #2: It powers your business model

    Very often, I’m asked this question – How do escort services work?

    Allow me to explain how an escort agency works in the 21st century.

    Step #1: Clients register themselves on the agency website, pay a subscription fee to unlock exclusive features and check the availability status of their favorite models. More often than not, payment gateways like CCBill are used to facilitate internet transactions.

    Clients send not more than a couple of messages to escorts to conclude the booking process. This is accomplished through an internal messaging feature.

    Step #2: Models get paid to work as escorts. They register on the escort site. They pay a fee to get their respective profiles featured. They respond to the messages of clients i.e., either accept or reject the booking(s).

    Step #3: The escort site owner makes money when users book escorts i.e., a portion of users’ money is credited into his account. And yes, he makes money when escorts pay a monthly recurring subscription fee to get featured on his escort website.

    Admin / Owner can also make money by featuring banner ads. He can sell adult merchandize – like used panties and lingerie of escorts, sex toys, etc.

    In essence, an escort management software powers the business model of escort agencies by virtue of cutting-edge monetization channels.

    #3: It helps you overhaul every activity

    No activity is too insignificant to be ignored. Right from assisting you in banning haughty users to monitoring the transaction status of clients, a feature-rich escort management software will help you overhaul every activity of business management.

    As an admin, you get complete access to source code. You can view and analyze user subscriptions. You can manage escort feature listings. There’s an admin dashboard that facilitates business management. You can set a commission fee for agency bookings. You are all powerful!

    #4: It allows you to scale your business

    An escort management software helps you build websites that are horizontally salable. As a matter of fact, horizontally scalable websites can handle insane volumes of web traffic and internet activity.

    To tap clients from other countries, you can use a GEO based currency converter module. This module shows currencies based on the client’s country.

    And yes, cutting edge escort management scripts use Google translate API to extend multi-language support.

    #5: It enhances customer experience

    Customers love to search escorts by distance, filter profiles by categories, etc.

    First timers usually love to read reviews and of different escorts. Clients like to rate escorts based on their experience. They like to share their experience.

    Your escort website should take customer experience to the best possible level.

    A vast majority of websites are mobile-responsive. Your escort agency website should be no exception. Modern day escort agency scripts let you build mobile-responsive websites that look pixel perfect on every screen.

    Now that you know how to start an escort service and why you require an escort management software, let me summarize the list of must-have features that an escort agency software should have.

    1. Free installation
    2. Free and easy set-up
    3. Free lifetime support
    4. Free lifetime upgrades
    5. Mobile app support
    6. Brand building features to customize every aspect of site template, incorporate logos, etc.
    7. Booking panel to control, monitor and accelerate bookings
    8. Customer experience enhancers like filters, reviews, coupon code generators
    9. Payment gateway
    10. Horizontally scalable site architecture

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