Sex is one of the most natural and potentially pleasurable things on earth! Not everyone has the time, social fluency, or luck to successfully seek out the kind of sex they desire. I see nothing wrong with consenting adults paying one another to engage in sex and intimacy, be it a run-of-the-mill roll in the hay or a unique and specific kinky fantasy. Of course sex trafficking is a problem, but the more we move towards decriminalization and allow consenting adults to make these decisions for themselves, the more time and attention we can put towards helping those in the industry due to coercion or financial constraints to find support and alternative income sources.
I realized a number of years ago that a combination of attractive features, charm, intellect, conversational skills and a genuine enjoyment of sex and sexuality made sex work a natural choice for me. I’m very glad I looked past the stigma and explored a path less traveled.
The Client Screening Process
Screening begins with how one writes and introduces themself. I see clients of all backgrounds and certainly don’t judge the grammatical errors of non-native English speakers, but general lazy writing and one-word replies are telling.
I do need to know a client’s name. We can communicate using a texting app if discretion is a concern, but I do generally need to receive a confirmation text from their regular phone number. Beyond that, I am flexible with regards to what screening info a client is comfortable sharing. References from an established provider with a website and social media presence are great. Workplace information is also great. I appreciate the way that American clients are much more forthcoming with screening information. Canadian clients, please take note!
Try to understand that screening is done for escorts’ safety – I know sharing personal information is a little nerve-wracking, but as long as you have done your homework and chosen an escort with a website, social media presence, etc, you have little to worry about. Most escorts take their client’s discretion seriously and keep personal information private. And once your chosen escort feels confident that you are being honest about who you are, they will relax and enjoy themselves that much more during the date – resulting in a better experience for you!
Expectations Of My Clients
I expect prospective clients to visit my website and read through the info posted – it’s there for their benefit. I also expect clients to take note of how I prefer to be contacted (no phone calls, please!) and take the time to write a proper introduction. It need not be long nor especially eloquent, but they should be polite and include their name, where they saw my ad, and preferred booking time/availability.
I don’t mind a few additional questions – provided the answers aren’t easily found on my website, of course 😉 Some clients are nervous and I want to help them relax and feel comfortable when we meet.
Basic Etiquette Rules For Clients
Remember that the escort you are contacting has a life outside of this profession – while you wait for a response, they may be with friends or family, completing some errands, collecting tax documents for their accountant, or simply taking some time to themselves. Please be patient, answer their questions and respect their procedures and policies.
When the moment arrives – it’s ok to be nervous! Pay attention to your personal hygiene, and do make use of the shower, mouthwash, etc if needed or if she requests you to. Remember that she wants you to enjoy your time with her, so don’t be afraid to (politely) ask for what you want. Maybe you’d like a cuddle session, or more time chatting on the couch, or to massage her feet – if it’s a reasonable request, chances are she’ll be happy to oblige. That said, please respect her answer if she says no!
For most escorts charging an hourly rate, the session isn’t finished as soon as you finish. Feel free to relax and chat for the full length of your session, but do keep an eye on the clock, and give yourself a few minutes towards the end of your time to get dressed and collect your belongings. She might be working in a shared space with other escorts, so it’s important to be respectful of her scheduling.
How To Be The Client An Escort Looks Forward To Seeing
For new clients, I take note of respectful, clear communication. I don’t require deposits or pre-payment, but I appreciate when a client offers to do so, as it allows us to simply get to know one another and enjoy our time together from the moment I open the door!
Many of my favourite clients are those whom I’ve built a connection with over time. I enjoy good conversationalists, who ask insightful questions and have interesting anecdotes to share. When clients ask me about things I discussed during a previous date, or topics I’ve posted on my Twitter feed, it shows that they value my thoughts and ideas as much as the more physical side of our time together. I love feeling heard and appreciated!
Ruby Labelle is an escort based out of the heart of Canada’s prairies- the humble city of Winnipeg- with a penchant for travel. She loves long bike rides, great books, good coffee, and discovering what makes a person light up with excitement. Spend time with her in Winnipeg or take advantage of her ‘fly me to you’ option- she’d love to see more of Canada, or visit country #20!
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I have no upcoming events scheduled, however, I would like to visit Vancouver Island this summer and could either fly or make a road trip out of it! If you’re a prospective client in Calgary, Edmonton, Vancouver, Victoria, or elsewhere in Western Canada, please get in touch and express your interest. 🙂
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