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  • How To Have Amazing Sex

    How To Have Amazing Sex

    My personal thoughts towards sex have changed immensely over these past 4 years. All throughout my teens, I had split my time between living in two very conservative households, where there was never a dialogue about sex at all. You would assume that like for many younger people, pornography would have became an educational tool of some kind; though, truthfully, I don’t think I actually had accessed the internet for leisurely purposes until I had been about 17 or 18. I had to figure out everything on my own, and would still say that I am in the process of doing so, as funny as that may sound coming from a sex worker who has been in the industry for nearly a year and a half.

    There was somewhat of a religious element incorporated into my upbringing, that had often been used as a scare tactic, when assumed that I was coming into my own, and possibly starting to become a sexual being. I felt I was conditioned to feel ashamed about my curiosity. I know that what I’m speaking about rings true for many women, in fact. I placed such a high-value on this patriarchal concept of virginity; I had lost mine at the age of 20 and had wanted my first time to be absolutely perfect. It wasn’t; though I am fortunate that my first encounter shattered those preconceived ideas I had. Now, I view sex as a light-hearted, yet beautifully vulnerable exchange. It’s fun; I’ve learned so much about myself, and have taken interest in things I would have never thought I’d consider.

    What I Consider As Amazing Sex

    Honestly, there’s no way to truly answer this. Communication is the most important, and most simple element, which unfortunately, so often gets overlooked. I think we could all learn to be more mindful of ourselves, and how we may unintentionally impact others. Not to mention, find more confidence in ourselves, in order to be more assertive about speaking up about what we want, and also setting boundaries in a healthy, and safe way.

    Memorable Sexual Experiences

    I’ve had hundreds and would say that nearly every encounter is memorable; and all for different reasons. I see such an interesting range of clients; I’ve had many people acquire me for my GFE services; I also have people that book me to specifically explore fetishes; I love both demographics equally!

    I would say that anything fetish-related may be more demanding, in the sense that you have to really be on at all times, but the payoff is so rewarding! I learn something new about myself each time, and since mutual respect and trust is the key component, it’s absolutely as intimate, if not more intimate than sleeping with someone, in my opinion. I am not submissive in my personal life, or with clients, but I am always amazed by and appreciative of the people who are willing to submit themselves to me; especially any who are male, or identify as one –  it’s so powerful.

    Things Men Don’t Get During Sex

    Like I had touched on earlier about women being spoon-fed conflicted ideas about sexuality while they grow up, I think it’s safe to say that everyone deals with this in some capacity. Men have a pressure on them to always be strong, and logical, versus getting in touch with their emotional intelligence; this has absolutely impacted the approach that many take to sexuality. And it’s not a generational problem either; I would actually say that I observe this most with many middle-aged men.

    I find that the word “no” has seemed to have lost its meaning. Men don’t get that it means something affirmative; it’s not a game. It’s not a coy hint at our desire for them to continue to be persistent, and eventually, we’ll give into what they want. You should want enthusiastic consent from your partner, opposed to doing as you wish till you’ve possibly pushed, and/or overstepped their boundaries. Men need to lose the machismo that is taught to them, and learn to listen to their partners. We understand our bodies best; men can let go of the idea that they always need to take the lead and be in control.

    Ways To Spice Sex Up

    I figure that anything that falls into the realm of safer practices is something I’ll likely be open to trying at least once. If I try something I didn’t care for with someone else, so long as I wouldn’t deem it a terrible experience, I’d be curious to give it another go; perhaps I had chosen not the best fit or partner before, or I may have needed to be in a different headspace than I was. I say to try everything twice!

    With elements of BDSM now having a place in modern pop-culture, most sexually active people must dabble in certain areas of it, not always even realizing this. I would say to take small steps while exploring kink, if you’re someone with no experience essentially. You don’t want to get too ahead of yourself, and possibly close yourself off to something you may have really ended up enjoying. Also, when trying to build a fantasy with your partner, if either you or they want to dive into something that both people are not on board with, please express that indifference or discomfort respectfully. There’s no need for anyone to feel put down or shamed, and if this is the end result, it may hinder your communication and curb another suggestion to try something you both had been curious about, and both might have loved.

    Respect that this is not something both people want to explore, and if your partner changes their mind later on, let them come to you to voice their change in perspective. Safe words should be established ahead of time. Another thing to consider, I don’t recommend that anyone expands their boundaries during an encounter; decide this once you have some time to reflect. You have something to look forward to next time, be it with the same partner, or a different one!

    If you’re the shy type, and/or riding solo, try enhancing or taking away a different sense while masturbating. You could blindfold yourself, or mix a bit of pain in there by incorporating nipple clamps, or once you’re warmed up, introduce some slapping motions all over your body, specifically focusing on your genitals.

    So many men and women like anal play. In porn, we never see all the work that goes into it. If you’re curious, make sure to use lube, and lots of it! Silicone based lubricants are sometimes preferred for this, as they don’t dry out as quickly; but you also have to consider (if you’re using any) toy material, as there are some combinations which are simply not compatible, same deal with condoms.

    Start with a finger or two; never push. Once you’re relaxed, everything will fit into place. If you want to expand, look at beginner plugs. There are many glass ones at economical prices; they’re non-porous and easy to clean! Not to mention, fairly light-weight, so you could likely wear it discreetly while clothed, if you wanted to. Silicone and metal are other materials to consider, and possibly test out, to find what you like best! For any kind of play, I would deter anyone from using jelly-like toys; many toys made for anal are unfortunately made of this material.

    Tegan West – Tegan is a 24 year old companion, born and raised in Toronto. She is fetish-friendly and enjoys the company of couples, as well as embraces clients of all gender identities, and ethnicities of those who are aged 18 and older. She prefers a more intimate approach to her work, and therefore, likes seeing people for longer arrangements, where she can really get to know them and connect with them on a deeper level. She is also available for social dates, and loves trying new fusion cuisines, as well as going out to see comedy and drag performances. She’s the perfect partner in crime for a night on the town!

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/DateTegan

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  • Pricing Your Rates As An Escort

    Pricing Your Rates As An Escort

    Escorting is one of the oldest hustles in the book because everyone craves companionship. It is built into our DNA. The crave for attention with sexual satisfaction will never go away. Every day people go on dates, text, talk on the phone, send sexy pictures, have sex and hangout for free. I, however , am compensated for participating in these same activities.

    As an independent escort, I control the hours I work, which clients I see, my hourly rate, and where to work. Because of escorting, I have been able to travel to many different places within the US. I look forward to traveling abroad to expand my brand. I love this profession and have the freedom that I want. I thoroughly enjoy what I do. I am a rebel at heart and escorting gives me the freedom to do as I please.

    Typical Rates For Escorting

    There is no “standard” rate with escorting. An escort can price their time however they’d like. Finding the correct rate can be tricky. Rates depend on many things, such as: location, niche, competition, services, etc. An escort can price themselves at 600 an hour in New York and do well there, but might not do so well in a small city of Utah. This can be because the clients in New York make more and/or the minimum wage is higher there.

    Is Price A Determining Factor?

    Just like anything a person pays for, rates are a determining factor. Same thing with choosing an escort. It’s like searching for a new car. You may see something you like but can you afford it? Can you pay for it all at once or do you need to save? Some clients consider hiring an escort, a luxury. These clients care more about the overall experience versus just a “wham, bam, thank you ma’m”.

    There are clients who save up to see an escort, which may warrant them a few visits out of the year. There are also clients who see escorts weekly or a few times a week. The rate a client is comfortable with paying depends on them. Some clients wouldn’t dare pay over $200 an hour to see an escort versus clients that pay $700+ and are happy they did it. There’s escorts at all price ranges so there are clients at all price ranges. Clients spend what they’re comfortable with.

    Common Misconceptions About Pricing

    There are common misconceptions in relation to rates. I’m going to touch on three:

    A) Escorts with lower rates are low class

    This is not true. Rates do NOT determine social class. An escort can charge what she wants for her time.

    B) Escorts with a higher rate (high end) make more money

    In relation to rates, this isn’t necessarily true. This depends on how many clients the escort is seeing a day. Just because an escort’s rate is higher, doesn’t mean she makes more than an escort who’s rate is lower. Some high end escorts are low volume, meaning they see an average of one client a day. Some escorts are higher end, specifically to be low volume.

    A higher end provider may be out of reach (price wise) for the average client, hence being low volume at a higher rate. There are escorts with lower rates who are high volume and see anywhere from 3+ clients a day, for many reasons. Some escorts prefer lower rates because they love being busy (high volume). Some escorts have lower rates due to being survival escorts, meaning they work to make ends meet. An escorts’ rate doesn’t determine their actual worth but how busy they’d like to be and how much they wish to make per day.

    C) Escorts with a higher rate are more successful

    Everyone determines success differently. There is no universal definition for success. Escorting can be done in many ways and rates reflect that. An escort can charge whatever for their time. There are escorts who start out with lower rates and gradually rise over time and experience. There are also escorts who start out higher end. The only way to determine if an escort is successful is to ask them directly. Many escorts are open to sharing their journey if asked.

    Sasha Benjamin – I am a Northern California girl  based in Central Florida. I hold a baccalaureate degree and am currently working towards a degree in Naturopathic Medicine. I love to travel, eat and laugh. My biggest guide in life is, “Do whatever makes you happy.” This guide helps me live to the best of my abilities. Life is too short to not enjoy.

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    Personal website: https://www.sashabenjamin.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/SashaBenjamin_

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sashabenjamin/

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  • Sightseeing With An Escort

    Sightseeing With An Escort

    A professional escort is a career that requires the psychic skills of a telepath, the touch of a physical therapist, the wit of a stand-up comedian, and the patience of Buddha.  The Buddha part is the toughest.  LOL.  In my case, it also requires the cat-herding skills of a tour leader.

    There is no such thing as the perfect escort, we are always improving ourselves.  Also, the perfect-ness of our time together is determined by the chemistry that develops with you.  A style of escort that matches the client personality is just as important as looking hot.

    Being an escort is a career for me.  Like other jobs, it has good days and bad days.  Most important to me is finding ways to share the good days and to learn and move on from the bad days.

    Popularity Of Travel Requests

    On average I am asked to travel to another city once per week.  Many of those people who request that I travel to them run away when I ask them to provide a deposit.  What a surprise!  So in reality, I only travel outside of my tour city maybe once each month.

    Some super clients have flown me to Singapore, Thailand, and several cities in China.  I really enjoy those mini tours!  I can focus on my client and build a great connection with him.

    More often the client is arriving in my city and books me for a day or two.  These “stay-at-home” tour requests are getting more popular.  I think this is popular with my clients who are business travelers.  I think when you only have a weekend or one night to play, when do you have time to plan?  That’s how I can help!

    Reasons For Engaging A Travel Companion

    I would only recommend booking me as a travelling companion after we have had a date. It is important to have some chemistry, even a little bit.  In addition, very few escorts are willing to travel to you for concerns about their personal security.  A previous date allows me a chance to know you better.  This lets me feel safe with you in another city.

    The few of us that do specialize as travelling companions will enhance every aspect of your trip.  A simple reason for one of my clients to request a travel booking is that he was going to a foreign country where he did not speak the language.  Another long-term client simply wanted someone he trusted in his room as he slept.  By the way, do you ever notice the guy who walks in with a cute girl?  Uh-huh, everyone does!  We have gotten better tables in a restaurant and an upgraded room in the resort.

    Advantages Of Sightseeing With An Escort

    Booking me for a tour session in Shanghai is a custom tour package.  I will plan our events for the date.  For example, what sights we will go see, our meals, and of course our play time!  You just need to complete your deposit and we will talk about how you would like to enjoy your day with me.  Then let me take care of the details.  Your day is already busy enough with your work and business travel stress.  Let me plan a relaxing tour for both of us to enjoy.

    A “stay-at-home” tour is a great way to enjoy a city with a fun and playful companion.

    Let me tell you about a recent booking.  The client was only in Shanghai for one night and contacted me two weeks before the booking date.  This is great because we had time to arrange both of our schedules.  We chatted and agreed on the tour then after two days, I received his deposit.  When he arrived, I met him at his hotel and we had our welcome “kiss”.  I had pre-arranged a car since waiting for taxis always kills the mood.  He took us to the Yu Gardens, and the Old City.  It was a sunny day and we snacked on sweets and posed for selfies like the other happy couples.  Later that evening, we enjoyed dinner on the Bund in a restaurant that I reserved for us the previous week.  We returned to the room so I could change into my party dress and then we went dancing at the clubs where we both could enjoy a different kind of sightseeing.

    Client Expectations For Bookings

    Let me first explain that a Travel booking is not the same as a Sightseeing booking.  I have more requirements before I accept a travel booking and only a few for Sightseeing.  The amount of planning for a travel booking requires more time and effort from me so please do not be shocked by my deposit request.

    If you act like a gentlemen during the tours then, inside the room, I will act like the girl of your dreams.

    We will need to chat about details like who buys the airplane tickets, who books the hotels and how do we meet up?

    I can tell you tell the best way.  My VIP client bought the plane tickets, booked the hotel under my name, pre-paid for it with cash, then he met me at the arrival airport (with flowers *smile*).  We enjoyed a wonderful 3 days together.

    During a trip, please allow me some “alone” time.  I need to check my messages and check-in with my friends. Plus, I go to the gym every day, alone.

    Mimi Tram – My name is Mimi Tram originally from Vietnam. I am a professional escort now based in the Shanghai region. If you are visiting Shanghai or live here, I would be very pleased to accompany you. I speak English fluently and some people even say I am witty. We can just meet for a couple hours or I can plan an entire day of sight-seeing for the two of us. I can also travel to you if would like to fly me to your city.

    Follow Mimi on

    Website: www.mimiVgirl.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/mimiVgirl

    Only Fans: mimiVgirl (I am also listed on Escorts of Singapore as a 5 Star video verified Featured Escort.)

    I am planning tours in Shenzhen and Singapore. I need to pre-book at least 10 hours to confirm those tours. In the month of April, I will audition for a new company to create more sexy content for my OnlyFans page.

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  • Benefits of Massaging Sessions With Escorting

    Benefits of Massaging Sessions With Escorting

    There is a common misconception about sex as being dirty or sinful. Quite the contrary, sex is beautiful, meaningful, and essential to the human experience. At its most shallow, sex is a fun and exhilarating experience. At its best, sex is a tool for healing and connection between one (or more) person(s) to the next. Sex is one of humanity’s strongest instincts. It’s beautiful.

    Why I Love Escorting

    What I love most about sex work is that it gives me the freedom to pursue my dreams and goals while simultaneously bringing joy to the lives of others. Sex work allows me to travel as far as I wish and connect with people from all walks of life. It allows me to establish meaningful relationships that attribute to my (and their) personal growth. The unique experience that is sex work brought my self worth to the forefront of my life. In “real life”, there remains negative stigmas against voluptuous women. Whereas in sex work, not only is my body celebrated, it is a deeply desired human form. It is truly liberating. My expertise in the field is massage therapy. Not only is it a powerful method of relaxation, it bridges the gap between two strangers’ nervousness to a sensual wave of bliss and release.

    Advantages Of Massages

    As mentioned before, massage is a comforting segue to sex. I want my clients to feel safe and relaxed during our time together. Massages physically and mentally releases tension. Clients are encouraged to unwind. There is no rush during our time together. My ultimate goal is to melt the stress of every day life and bring comfort their lives.

    Which Is Most Popular?

    Nuru massage is the most popular massage. It is an erotic Japanese technique which originated in the city of Kawasaki. Nuru itself roughly translates to “slippery”. During the massage, the masseuse will try to get the widest possible physical contact, often using their entire body. Strong tactile sensations are triggered that are designed to relieve stress.

    What You Should Know When Engaging An Escort

    Escorts are people. Escorts are people with feelings and emotions. When engaging, keep in mind their humanity and personhood. Escorts run a business. It is a business of luxury and fantasy but a business nonetheless. Like with any career, after they clock out, they are off the clock. Escorts are not their jobs. They have time away from the office like everyone else. Most importantly, discretion and privacy are imperative. Respect that and respect their rules. All rules are in place for their personal safety and yours.

    Angel Amore – Angel Amore was born in Catalina, Puerto Rico and grew up in the diverse Brooklyn, NYC. A proud Afro-latina. Since the age of 5 she’s been a book worm, and honor student. Now a successful therapist and doctoral student. She’s a mystery waiting to be discovered and a thrill waiting to be seeked.

    Follow Angel Amore on

    Website: www.angel-amore.com

    Twitter: @AngelAmoreXoXo

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  • Is The GFE Right For You?

    Is The GFE Right For You?

    Sex is something that I have always been very open minded about. It is really hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of monogamy. I do agree that sex is better when you have a connection with a person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have connections with multiple people. A connection doesn’t mean love. A connection is a mutual attraction.

    I believe you can love someone and have a connection with another person (or people) at the same time. As long as you are being safe, I do not see a reason that you shouldn’t be able to have as much sex, with as many partners as you please. Most people do not have the same views as me, which is why I will likely be single forever. Oh well…. who wants to bang? 🙂

    What Is The GFE?

    GFE stands for Girl Friend Experience. While this is a very common term among the sex worker community, its meaning can vary a little from provider to provider. Generally, it is a service that provides you time with a provider with whom you will feel is your girlfriend while with her. Contrary to most encounters with an escort, a GFE encounter will (likely) include cuddling, kissing, mutual pleasuring, conversation, and BBBJ (Bare Back Blow Job). While some believe GFE also includes BBFS (Bare Back Full Service), I believe this is unsafe, irresponsible, and foolish for any sex worker or client to engage in.

    Best Things About The GFE

    I enjoy the connections I make. Remember when I said I believe sex is best when you have a connection with a person? Being a GFE provider allows me to meet all kinds of people to develop connections with, which means I get to have all kinds of great sex! Mindless sex with someone I don’t have a connection with does not interest me much. Most men I see that are just looking for a hole to stick their dick in and nothing more are rarely repeat customers; I am not their ideal provider and they are not my ideal client.

    I get to know my clients very well sometimes on a very personal level. Some use me as a therapist and will talk to me about their work and even home problems. While I make it a rule that I never reach out to clients, I do know that I have such a relationship with some that I could count on them to help me if I were to ever ask, no matter what I would need. I also enjoy cuddling, which I get to indulge in being a GFE provider.

    Why The GFE Is Ideal For Men

    I would say that 90% of my clients are married. I believe that this is because most marriages lose that spark and lighthearted fun that began the relationship. As a GFE provider, I give men that easy going, fun, flirty vibe that they miss in their marriage. It isn’t that they don’t love their wife, they just aren’t getting the exciting and engaging conversation and sex that they crave. Seeing a GFE provider gives them those exciting feelings again without threatening their marriage. If they were to engage in these things with just a random woman from a bar or the internet they risk her being a crazy chick who might contact their wife or become clingy and then demand more from the relationship.

    With an escort, that is never a concern; but most escorts don’t provide the personal touch that a lot of men want in addition to the physical aspect. Seeing a GFE provider gives men a way to have a girlfriend without it being risky like an affair would be. For the single guys, it provides them with the girlfriend time and attention they want without having the fear of attachment. Also, some guys just don’t have time for a girlfriend but want to have the intimacy from time to time with someone they trust.

    Tips For Clients To Enjoy The GFE

    Do your research. Any legit professional is going to have lots of information about them on the internet and this holds true for escorts. They will have a website with photos, links to reviews, rates, and other information about them. You want to make sure it is someone you are attracted to and can feel comfortable with. Obviously, you won’t know how you will connect until you meet but you should be able to get a pretty good feel for them based on the content on their website as well as social media posts. Once you decide on who you would like to spend time with, contact them by way of call, text, email, or contact form on their website depending on their preference. Some will only communicate via phone call, while others prefer e-mail or text.

    Be prepared to hand over personal information. For safety purposes only, I do a screening on all new clients.

    Be respectful of your new temporary girlfriend’s time. Most clients do not ever get to see the behind the scenes work that high end escorts do. There’s bookkeeping (yes, I pay taxes), advertising, responding to inquiries, travel arrangements, personal beauty care, upkeep of website and social media pages, and a mountain of other time consuming tasks.

    Spoil a little for better service. My clients that send me items from my wishlist and/or tip well get special treatment. I will carry on text conversations and linger after paid time is up more with generous clients more so than with those who moan and groan about rates. If you send a wish list item at the time of your booking request I guarantee you will get bumped to the top of the list!

    Southern Jade – Southern Jade, 31, is an escort specializing in GFE, based out of Bismarck, ND. She has been a professional escort in the Bismarck area since April of 2017 but originally got her start while in college in Oklahoma. She is very passionate about her career and spends all of her time outside of her home life building her brand and running her business.

    Follow Southern Jade on

    Website: www.southern-jade.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/SouthernJadeND

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/SouthernJadeND/

    Want me to visit your city? See my Fly Me To You section at www.southern-jade.com/rates. Or simply send me a text or e-mail with a request for your city and I’ll be happy to check on travel costs and advertise to gauge interest in your area! If enough inquiries, I will put it on my calendar!

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    All article photos taken by Tony Thompson Tony Thompson Productions

    E-mail: Tonythompsonproductions@gmail.com

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  • True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    I believe sex can be one of the truest forms of self-expression. It’s an artwork painted and sung by our mind, body and soul. It can leave us completely exposed and vulnerable, but can allow some great introspection into our own uniqueness as individuals.

    My “sexual awakening”, as I like to call it, only began roughly two years ago. Its been an incredible journey! Not only have I rid myself of years of deeply internalized shame and body image issues, I have also discovered the incredible things my body can do. Sex and sex work have not only improved my self-esteem and confidence but have also broadened my mind to the ways it can heal and strengthen a person. It’s with that mind-set that I hope to share these experiences with others.

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    The Girlfriend Experience can mean many things to clients as well as providers. This can create some confusion as to what the Girlfriend Experience truly means.

    For myself, GFE is not about a certain set of services provided. But rather about creating a finely tuned and specific experience for each client I meet. This experience is intimate, much more than your average massage and happy ending. I like to get the chance to speak with each client before we meet. Common interests and some insight into someone’s personality allows me to provide a much more meaningful experience with each person. Sometimes these sessions will be more focused on light touches, teasing, cuddling and kissing. Other sessions might include specific outfits. The GND (Girl Next Door) look is very popular with clients looking for an authentic GFE.

    Why Is The GFE Powerful?

    I believe that the GFE can be a powerfully therapeutic and healing experience. Clients come to me for all sorts of reasons. They may not even know that the Girlfriend Experience was a service offered and have no idea that that is what they were looking for or needed in the first place. For example, I have met clients who suffer from anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues. The idea of finding a girlfriend may feel like a daunting if not impossible feat. In a session focused on GFE, I hope to build up a client’s confidence. Allow them to express themselves, their needs (sexual and emotional) and hopefully in time they can practice those skills outside the comfort zone of a session and into the world.

    For some clients, it can be as simple as accommodating a busy lifestyle. Some clients may not have the time to pursue a relationship or maintain a healthy relationship. They may lack intimacy and connection in their private lives, so that’s where I come in! I can be the girlfriend they need, whether for an hour or five, or maybe even a weekend away. No strings attached, but more than just a physical encounter.

    Misconceptions About The GFE

    Misconception should probably be my middle name!

    I hear a lot of providers and clients alike comment on how they believe GFE is unsafe. Many have the idea that a true GFE session allows for unprotected services. For myself, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I will always educate and advocate on safe sex, mutual consent and regular screening for STIs.

    Preparation For A GFE Session

    Like any session, I like to be in a good state of mind before meeting a client. I don’t want to bring my problems into that environment and allow it to transfer over to my clients.

    I like to “leave my problems at the door” so to speak.

    I feel that if I am mentally prepared before a session it allows me to be a better listener, to be more patient and understanding, and to empathize more in certain cases.

    Second and just as important, hygiene! With the intimacy and closeness involved in my sessions I like to be as clean as possible. I like light scents, no heavy perfumes. Fresh breath and clean outfits. This obviously goes both ways. I very much appreciate a client who has been just as considerate in their grooming as I have. I will always offer to shower with my clients as well. Not only is it an enjoyable way to be close and allow for some fun exploration of each other’s bodies, but that extra fresh feeling is always pleasant as well. If you scrub my back, I’ll gladly scrub yours!

    Cassie King – A MA working out of Paradise Spa/Angel’s Touch in Ottawa, ON Canada. She is a full-time student, avid reader and closet nerd. In her spare time, she enjoys meeting new dogs everywhere she goes, practicing dad-jokes and drinking too much coffee.

    Follow Cassie on

    Website: www.cassieking.org

    Twitter: @CassieKingMA1

    Paradise/Angels profile: www.angelstouchmassage.ca/site/cassies-profile

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  • Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Good question…. Be honest with yourself about what the job entails. Decide what you are prepared to do and not prepared to do. If you believe french kissing is too personal on the job so you won’t be offering it, that is totally your choice. What your boundaries are may change, but it is better to go slow on this one.

    Talk to someone who has been part of the industry for at least 5 years, if not longer. New Zealand has the New Zealand Prostitute Collective which not only offers advice but a free starter kit and a safe space to talk to other working girls, as well as a little shop for all your supplies.

    Decide if you will work whilst you have your period or not.

    Think about who you will tell and who you won’t about your new job choice. I have been disowned by two people of the small group of people I chose to tell. However I have gained close allies in the industry which has made it easier to bear being disowned.

    Think about if you want to work as a private escort or work for somebody. Or if you want to work at a club. Working in New Zealand as a private escort appears to be much easier than in Australia, so this might be something you need to research about. Go and talk to the girls at a potential place of work and see what the atmosphere is like. Talk to the person who runs the rooms and work out what working environment is going to work best for you. I know girls who work in a club as well as privately, and others who work privately in New Zealand and in brothels in Australia. The combination allows more income, as well as being able to see regular clients. So find out what will work for you.

    Have a STD and HIV checkup before you start working and then once every three months. Your health is your everything. If you get sick or develop an STD, you are the one losing money because your health is compromised. Look after yourself, see yourself as an investment, because you and your health are your job.

    Put together a bag or suitcase of what you need for a booking. To start, I only had two sets of lingerie, a fancy dress, heels, make up, condoms, lube, a list of what I was offering and my prices (unless you are working for someone). Then once you are a few bookings in, I treated myself to a new lingerie set and some nicer heels. It’s a wonderful excuse to go shopping!

    Photos, photos, photos! Visual is all important in this industry but spend within your budget and upgrade as you go. My friend took mine to get me started and three months into working I got a photographer to take ten new ones. You can spend lots of money or you can go mid-priced but you need photos and remember, they are what your client spends most of his/her time looking at before booking you. I’ve been booked by someone who hadn’t even read my profile – no surprise really lol.

    Also think about advertising and research what is available. If you are working for someone then they may include advertising in the arrangement. As a private escort, I have tried a variety of advertising techniques from NZ Girls, to Ted, to free advertising. At the moment, I do most of my advertising on Cracker with the support of free advertising from the NZ Pleasures and Girl4U. My friend swears by NZ Girls, as do a number of girls I have spoken to, however it is about find what/who works best for you.

    Read part I on What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2018/01/07/being-an-escort/

    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

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  • What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    I initially considered escorting as an job option because of the money, I love sex and the hours were flexible. But it did take me three months of reading and talking to people at the New Zealand Prostitute’s Collective before I was certain it was what I wanted to do.

    What really kick started things for me was a friend who shared her story with me and then went on to guide me through my first two days. It was the best introduction one could ask for – my friend answered all my questions, helped me write my first advert, took my photos and equipped me with pretty much everything I needed to continue working when she continued her tour. I consider myself pretty lucky to have had such a good introduction into being a working girl.

    What Does Being An Escort Involve?

    At first, the double persona and the excessive amount of texts and/or phone calls are a bit intense to adjust to. But after abit, one adjusts and manages to breathe more easily.

    For me, this meant  I have gotten pretty organised and can do my makeup a lot faster than previously. I find I enjoy my clients more now – I don’t feel so rushed or nervous these days.

    I really enjoy being an escort in most cases. I really enjoy the physical contact, the compliments, meeting new clients and spending time with each unique client. The best bookings are when the client is into pleasing me as much as I am into pleasing him/her.

    What does it involve? I think most people know what it involves so I’ll tell  you some things I didn’t know were involved before I joined the industry…

    A lot of girls offer the Girlfriend Experience but that doesn’t mean you are allowed to kiss the girl. That’s what a girlfriend does doesn’t she? You need to check on that! It depends on the girl.

    Showering with your client before or after or both is definitely something easy to add to your service that offers a lot of delight to your client.

    Age seems to be a huge factor in how many bookings you get.

    Unfortunately, you will be asked weird questions from potential clients and some clients think it’s okay to verbally abuse the working girl.

    You can get a booking anytime of the day – including 2am, 4am or some other crazy hour.

    There are some crazy acronyms out there but it doesn’t hurt to learn a few relevant to the sex industry.

    Misconceptions About Escorting

    Common misconceptions about working girls tend to be around judgments of girls and their personal life. I think it depends what town, city and country you are working in, but being in New Zealand, where it is legal to be an escort, there appears to be a heated debate about the pros and cons of legalisation. I initially thought legalisation was an all positive move, but hearing both sides of the story proves that there is no one solution for all.

    Another misconception is around working girls are drug or alcohol addicts, single and come from the “wrong side of the track” but my view shows this can’t be further from the truth. Work girls are friends, sisters, mothers, daughters, the girl next door and sometimes not the HOT chick on the bus every night. Working girls are no longer squashed to the outskirts of society and they definitely have legal rights.

    I see and hear a lot of working girls standing up for their rights, believing in themselves, and sticking to their own  personal morals whether it means work or no work. This is empowerment and it’s really great to see. Everyone from the working girl beside her to all of her clients benefit from this positive approach to working in the industry and seeing the industry trying to clean itself up.

    I think men who book working girls have very little knowledge to how the industry works though. And maybe that is something they don’t want to think about, especially when they have to choose which girl to book 🙂

    And that filters into the clients and how they treat and perceive working girls so I think there are less negative misconceptions about working girls and more about the industry where men don’t have much of an idea how the industry works or is run and how that affects the girls on that side of things.

    But because we are talking about humans, I think we need to remember, this is my experience to date, my perception. And others have different experiences and perceptions so we need to keep talking. Interviews carried out by SimplySxy and other organisations help keep it real.

    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

    Follow Addison Lane on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/addisonlane_nz
    Websites:

    Cracker (previously Backpage)

    http://wellington.cracker.com/FemaleEscorts/buxon-babe-sexy-and-naughty-xx/4138407

    NZ Pleasures

    https://eroticescortsnz.co.nz/listing/addison-lane/

    www.girl4u.co

    http://www.girl4u.co/girls/female-escort/addison-lane-private-escort-wellington-central-1611.html

    You will find Addison in Wellington most days. She has toured to Auckland and Christchurch but Wellington is home at the moment.

    Images courtesy of Addison Lane

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  • Does Penis Size Matter?

    Does Penis Size Matter?

    Sex to me is a shared desire between people for a higher level of understanding of the self, the other, and the world. It is a beautiful space, where you can be exactly who you want to be, and share that intimately with another. A space to open yourself up to love, your natural vibration, be it physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual.  I really believe that the manifestation of love for everyone and everything is my purpose in life, hence my career in human rights. Love is who we are, how we were created, and what we are made of.

    Why Does Size Matter To Men

    I can only assume that it’s an insecurity thing. Which is totally understandable. I think this probably comes down to the unrealistic expectations perpetuated through a lot of porn (which is a whole topic in itself).

    Does Size Matter For Women

    I’m going to preface this answer by saying – for me personally it is less about length, and more about girth, but every woman is different. Generally, I don’t think size is the be all and end all. Of course, any woman would be lying if she said that a good sized, thick penis didn’t feel incredible, but sex, especially for women, is so much more than penetration. This in real stats, translates to 75% of all women, never reaching an orgasm from intercourse alone.

    I’ve actually found that guys with big dicks often put in way less effort than their slightly smaller counterparts, it’s almost like they wish they could say to you “I’ve got a big dick, isn’t that enough”. Well PSA to guys with big dicks, it’s most definitely not. If you don’t like giving women oral, and you don’t even attempt to find their clit, you lose. Oh and also, if you think that a woman giving you some direction, so that she can enjoy herself, is emasculating… get a grip.

    Tips To Enjoy A Small Penis

    I mean of course it feels different, as I’m sure you can imagine. But how it feels really depends on how a guy uses it. Sex for me is about passion and love. And when I say love I don’t mean nuclear family love. I think love comes in so many forms and I really believe that you should see every day and every sexual encounter, as an opportunity to manifest it.

    Even if you’re just having casual sex, it doesn’t mean you can’t love every moment with that other person, without traditionally ‘loving’ them. Being a sex worker has taught me that the ‘love’ two people can give each other, be it mentally or physically, can have a really big impact on the lives of both parties. That’s why I think ‘making love’ or should I say ‘manifesting love’, is so important to every sexual experience.

    Penis Turn-Offs For Me

    Honestly, the only turn off I have is bad hygiene or lack thereof. I think everyone has had an experience…or two, that involves you going down on a partner only to be faced with a distinctly unpleasant smell. Obviously, not every impromptu sexual encounter starts with a shower, but I think it’s just common courtesy to excuse yourself and quickly give your penis a rinse, before you expect someone to put it in their mouth. The same goes for vaginas!

    Also guys should be lucky, sinks are basically penis height…vaginas on the other hand, well they can’t even get close to the tap.  Also if a guy doesn’t manscape, at all, it can be a bit of a turn off. Now don’t get me wrong, I let all of my body hair grow out naturally, but I still lightly trim my pubic hair. I personally don’t want a big mouthful of hair while I’m trying to give oral.

    Lana Rose – You can call me Lana Rose. I am a Sydney based, passionate, erotic, and discreet luxury companion. Most importantly, I am a believer in the power of love. A shared desire between people for a higher level of understanding of the self, the other, and the world.

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    Website: www.experiencelanarose.com
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/escortlanarose

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    Upcoming Tours:

    Brisbane Tour: 18 – 28 December, 2017.

    Melbourne Tour:  21 – 27 February, 2018.

    Images courtesy of Karl Clifford https://karlclifford.com/

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  • Why Couples Should Choose An Escort For Their First Threesome

    Why Couples Should Choose An Escort For Their First Threesome

    I find, personally, threesomes need to be carefully cultivated. You need to figure out you and your partner’s level of comfort – for example, do both of you have your eye on a particular friend? Is this a friendship you trust? Can you handle seeing that same person again afterwards? And on the flipside – would you both prefer a stranger? Are you willing to take that risk? How are you going to go about meeting her? Tinder? A bar? The club? A vacation? I would think there’s a lot more to discuss about a threesome prior to actually initiating it, less you wind up in a devastating blow-up from poor planning. A threesome should be a fun, erotic adventure for the two of you – and absolutely not something that could come back to haunt either of you. So essentially I think like with anything in life, they come at a risk – and a great payout.

    Should Couples Try A Threesome At Least Once?

    I wouldn’t actually say they had to. This may not sound interesting to some people. For some – a tangled mess of bodies, writhing, moaning, delighted with each other, is a dream. For others, flip it, and it’s a tangled mess  of bodies, rubbing the wrong things, getting in the way, sweating on their clean sheets. Nightmare. I think if it’s a scenario both couples want, they should try it… exploring your sexual side is always exciting. But if you don’t want it, don’t force the situation, it’ll just be hell on everyone involved. There are other fun things to explore, anyways.

    Benefits Of Engaging An Escort

    I think hiring an escort for your first threesome (especially if you intend to have many more than just one) is a great idea. These girls are professionals. They know what they’re doing, and they’re guaranteed comfortable and confident in their own bodies. There’s no elaborate seduction (unless you ask for that scene!) and everything can go to your plan. When you hire an escort, they are there to please you. There’s no intense romantic emotions tied in, no risk of day-after talks about unwanted feelings, and I stress the romantic emotions as of course your escort will be enjoying herself and very much into the two of you, just no worries about any disturbance afterwards or during. As well – an escort could offer many other things you want in a session, a specific outfit, a roleplay idea… etc, that you may feel uncomfortable asking a civilian girl you met at a bar. These types of encounters are carefully controlled, safe, and most important of all – very exciting.

    How To Ensure Everyone Gets Equal Action

    Ask. I always ask what someone wants to do. That’s the easiest way. If say, I’ve been with the girl too long and he’s been sitting there – you can easily say ‘Do you want to -do X thing- too?’, and bam, no more outsider. And you really just have to pay attention to both parties – make sure one isn’t just watching (unless they want to) and always try and pull them in. Just make sure hands are everywhere, all the time. Haha.

    Rules & Etiquette To Follow

    I couldn’t give you a direct list, but always listen to any restrictions (physical or otherwise) that either party has laid out in advance. You don’t want the threesome stopped because someone kissed or penetrated somewhere they shouldn’t have – what an uncomfortable, awkward experience. And as always, always use protection with someone new.

    Daisy Mae – Ottawa-based independent escort. Currently busy re-creating Noah’s Ark, traveling, immersing myself in artistic endeavors, and sucking dick to a prestigious degree. Tacky romance novels are my secret sin.

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