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  • Escort Services: Useful or Harmful?

    Escort Services: Useful or Harmful?

    Present-day life can provide a person with anything he/she may want. Are you hungry at midnight? A 24/7 catering company will deliver food. Do you need to make reservations on a vacation? In a couple of clicks, everything is booked. Do you need a companion for an event? No problem, you can find a date for a party thanks to special escort services.

    The latter seems to be a great solution to busy people who sometimes need someone to go out with. Indeed, this is quite easy: you open the website of rougeboulevard — UK escorts, choose a girl you like, get in touch, and that’s it. However, is everything so easy? Let’s take a deeper look at the matter.

    Any Possible Flaws?

    Every person who has decided to use the services of the escort has no appropriate candidate among acquaintances to accompany for an event or simply to spend some good time together. Hence, this person has got certain expectations. Though, there can be still some disadvantages to this choice:

    • The decision is made mostly based on the outer looks. Thus, it is impossible to predict the behavior, voice, and habits of a girl who will attend an event with you. It means that for an important official venue, especially the one related to work, it is better to choose a companion who you already know.
    • This solution cannot substitute real relationships if a person has got such intentions. It is essential to remember that a woman with you is working, thus, there is no room for feelings.

    Undeniable Benefits of the Service

    Even though the solution to invite an escort is not perfect, everything initially depends on intentions. Thus, a person should at first decide which relationships he is interested in. If you are willing to build a family, no need to use the service. However, if a companion is needed for a venue, that is a great possibility to spend time with an attractive hot girl that will join you. Among the other advantages, it is possible to mention:

    1. Convenient and quick alternative: it is feasible to find a woman, request if she is available, set the date and time, and that’s it.
    2. Pleasant and captivating conversations: these women do know how to behave and interact. One will undoubtedly like the time spent with such a woman.
    3. Sexy and hot model with you: it is not so easy to meet such an attractive woman somewhere in a cafe. With such services, one may opt for a woman who he likes most of all and enjoy the most pleasant experience with her.

    In general, escort services are intended to help a person quickly find a companion. The disadvantages of this solution are linked to possible confusion in intentions. Thus, if a person is sure what he wants, that is a great opportunity to spend an unforgettable time with an attractive woman.

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  • Common Misconceptions About Sex Work

    Common Misconceptions About Sex Work

    I truly have an undying respect, as well as a great deal of admiration for all types of sex workers. There are those of us who are privileged enough to be able to share what we do with our loved ones, but for many, our job, and lifestyle is our greatest secret. There is always the threat of being doxed or outed, which comes with having the possibility of our worlds turned totally upside down. This can come with a loss in employment from our “civilian jobs”, as well as a potential loss in relationships with our loved ones.

    For some of us who are out, we deal with pressure from our friends and family to find a “real job”. We’re told by society that our jobs and lifestyles are not valid, and we have to fight for people to understand the validity and importance of what we do, as well as fight the stigma that says that we all must be victims of circumstance, but the truth is more often in several shades of grey, and rarely so black and white.

    The truth, at least from my point of view, is that we live in a world and time where the simple pleasures of life are so few and far between, that those who can offer a gentle touch, a kind word, or a sensual romp should be admired as care-givers all the same, and not as criminals or social pariahs.

    My Perception Of The Sex Work Industry Prior To Joining

    I’m not proud to admit this, but before I joined the industry, I had some fairly negative views, and used some unkind language when I spoke of sex workers. I was young, and my opinions never came from a place of malice, but from a place of complete, and utter ignorance. Everything that I thought I knew about sex work, and sex workers was from what I saw on television, and in movies.

    These movies never included disabled workers, authors, those in highly regarded positions in government, trans workers, and/or students who managed to put themselves through school with little to no debt. I assumed that all escorts had pimps, and were all victims of broken families. No escort WANTS to escort, no stripper WANTS to strip. They do it because they have to – is what I believed. I didn’t realize that there are those who are prideful, and rightfully so, and choose these professions above other, “more respected” endeavors, because they find fulfillment in it. I didn’t realize that for some, this industry was a means to an end, and towards something different, but for others, it’s the long-term career they chose!

    This industry is not one-size-fits-all. Many of us are running our dealings either how we have to, how we see fit, and how it works for us and our separate business models. For better or for worse, we are all uniquely ourselves, and it is so important that society sees us as distinct individuals, instead of victims, and only that.

    How My Perception Has Changed Since

    I commonly hear from those who I tell about my job, a few common misconceptions. The most common that I hear is that all clients visiting full-service workers are married. In my experience, it’s true that a lot of my clients are married men, though an even larger portion are of a completely different variety. It’s not uncommon to see those who are newly single, and unable to emotionally commit to a new partner, and aren’t looking for a one-night-stand.

    I have seen those who are looking to practice emotional, and physical intimacy – and those visitors are not always looking to have any sex at all. I have had the opportunity to visit those who have physical disabilities that can make dating, and intimacy more difficult. Lastly, I have met men who are new to all forms of sex and romanticism, are ready to lose their virginity, and haven’t met anyone to lose it to. For myself, what I like to think we can offer all of our suitors is an uncomplicated, drama-free, intimate experience, that lets them know that their needs are well taken care of.

    What Should Aspiring Sex Workers Be Prepared For?

    If I were to share what knowledge I have of the industry, I would say that there are ways to mitigate risk, and that safety is so important. I’ll note my privilege here, but will say that screening has been the best way that I’ve managed to stay safe. You’ll find many forums that host different types of screening. Find what works for you.

    There is also safety, and importance in community, and keeping a select few of your peers close, as friends, will help you stay safe, and sane. My friends and family know about what I do, but they aren’t able to understand the less glamorous parts of the industry, and to have those who can empathize is imperative.

    Saving your money is key. This industry ebbs and flows in how busy it is. Saving your money, and knowing that you’ll make it through the lulls will stop you from taking risks to see clients who might not have your best interests in mind.

    Taking time to disconnect from your work is important, whether that be putting away your work phone, or turning off your work Twitter. I think any small business owner will tell you the same thing. Our business becomes an extension of ourselves, and disconnecting will allow you to keep the distinction in your mind, that you are NOT your work – not all the time.

    My name is Brea Fawn – a late-twenties, Edmonton based full-service escort. I have been working independently as a companion for less than a year, but also spent time as a cam girl for a brief period of time. I am passionate about this industry, and it’s many offshoots. Working as a sex worker has given me a great deal of intimate fulfillment, and gratification as I have seen my small, personal business grow and evolve over time.

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  • What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    At any rate, allow yourself to expand your definition of sex. Relative to my peers, I stumbled late into the party and much preferred to hang out by first-floor windows for less-than-erotic escapes. My early university years proudly presented sex in all its glory. It wasn’t until after I popped my cherry out of much pent-up sexual frustration and making the call on a pricey Brazilian (wax) that I began to draw on what it meant to me to feel desired.

    In allowing myself to first get deeply personal, I found what turned me on increasingly more enjoyable. Teasing neck bites in-between the pillows could cast the same frenzy as holding a hushed conversation inches from a stranger’s ear at the bar, well-wrapped up around their thumb. It won’t be the last time you hear it, but for all my firsts out there, know this: a climax cannot be appreciated without breaking a sweat, working out the kinks of foreplay.

    How Are First Timer Clients Like?

    My first timers are some of the sweetest nuggets out there. They constitute a little less than 15% of my reach who also book. They’re drawn to the playful humour and sly wit they see online and I think show up with just the faintest hope I’ll use it to help quell their nerves in person. They also send the best memes. Hands down.

    I’d be naïve to think I could speak for all companions or sex providers (SPs). I find, however, that my first timers either ask all the questions or none. Experienced patrons can be no different but also include ‘not enough’ despite knowing better, you’d think. Our latter group here is not necessarily immune to mounting nervous energy either. It is, after all, a real date.

    As with any real date, respectful, non-pushy use of language before and/or during this encounter involve understanding that requesting ‘menus’ right off the bat is off-putting to some SPs, including myself. With first timers and experienced patrons alike, I actively work to normalize effectively communicating boundaries to build an initial sense of trust in these sessions. Listening here is the power move. Both groups typically understand consent once raised—at least, in my experience. I cannot emphasize enough that consent is best expressed verbally by all parties involved to not shoot the mood for the evening. For our readers asking, ‘what if…’, I garner that you’re both adults—an email exchanging written confirmation of consensual acts beforehand is a green-light technicality.

    When the door opens, there are a few from both groups that don’t seem to know what to do with themselves and I’m reminded of myself. I find it charming. I’d say I’m quicker now to Shepard’s crook them by the belt holes before they bolt—assuming I’m hosting, of course. Given the sound of room service trolleys fast approaching anywhere, I’ve never been all that slow or shy to lift a few jaws on the walk in. This is only a subtle reminder to have your Do-Not-Disturb signs ready in hand, gents.

    Preparing For Your SP Before She Arrives

    Prep has got to be half the fun. It’s highly likely the SP’s given you a little reading material for the nights you’ve been sitting up in bed, still awake in anticipation.

    Work knocks you out good? Yeah, you can catch their Tweets on your commute to work or in an unassuming corner of the office during your lunch break. The most logical order IMO is starting with the website. Read it proper. If you’re not sold, or just want more than you’d like to admit, hit up the Media section on their Twitter—especially if you’re more of a ‘visuals person’. Then take a moment to check their Likes section to see if they’re still sane enough for you.

    Confirmations—along with a complete form submission—can be very important for many SPs. This may include a deposit, which you’ll have made note of if you’ve read her website (proper). Confirm at least the day before. I would advise against looking to confirm more than twice for any date as unnecessary persistence begins to raise yellow flags.

    If you’re working with a longer date, be considerate and well-prepared to offer them a bite (check for allergies, nutter butt) and glass of water at least. Drink some yourself. While you’re at it, moisturize your lips and tend to all grooming and hygiene needs. A little rinsey rinsey under the sink faucets would be most unwise. Even I’d pray for you. If the SP appears rather vocal online, do yourself a favor and don’t let yourself be sub-tweeted at. Tend twice to any areas you’d like to be appreciated.

    Be mindful to have the compensation ready for them in an envelope or whatever means they’d prefer. Location-wise, it should be in plain sight. You can’t mess this instruction up—it’s my easiest one. Tidy up the place if need be and upon offering to take their coat past the door, kindly also direct their gaze to said patronage along with some direction to the nearest bathroom. I’ll add that this is part of the foreplay I stressed earlier. Though I don’t know you, reader, I do want you to have an amazing time nonetheless. Do as their websites instruct you. Waiting to present their compensation till the end leaves many slightly more reserved in session. The wrap-up at the end is actually a window better suited to tips. On tips, I would say if you have the means to be generous and truly enjoyed your time, prepare this while they’re showering. Even if you’re not tipping, do the decency of giving them the privacy to get ready in there alone. Trust me on this one too. I gargle often and spit facts.

    Though not necessary, try to have a bottle of mouthwash, fresh bath towels and a neutral or relatively less ‘masculine’ smelling body wash available for their use at the end of the date. Your SP will appreciate it and not use your liquid hand soap by the sink. Should you fail to do so, don’t comment on how ingenious [she/they] smells.

    Once The Meet Up Begins…

    You’ve prepared yourself well! Assuming you read most of my last bit. The excitement’s got to be near through the roof at this point, I’ll bet.

    I hope you both have a lovely little or long time together. Don’t know what that entails? Did you plan a theater outing together? Holding hands doing nothing? A couples mani pedi before your kink dungeon date? Snakes and Ladders, maybe? An indoor board game atop a new and *very* doable cuddling position? Or was it erotic wrestling? A home-cooked meal for two? Or season two of some genius Netflix realm while you practise your rope basics? Well, why don’t you ask them…?

    Ways To Ease Nerves For A First Timer

    As if I haven’t been already, this will be a space to be blunt. To engage earnestly with your SP and in more of a wholesome manner at that, do not excessively drink and/or abuse substances to ‘escape’ your nerves prior to your meeting, gentlemen. Even your boss could tell you that. If you’re your own boss, I just did, so have your delusions call my people, if you so must.

    Second, read as much as want about your provider until you think you’re ready. This will still not mean you’re actually ready for whatever you’re expecting. Dates may flow every which way and controlling the stream too firm with expectation is a harder take than necessary; you could guarantee a flop. Be present and trust your SP. True intimacy is rooted in that initial trust.

    Third, I’d like to separate this little bit of advice about trusting yourself. You have no one to be but yourself on this date. Feel no need to overcompensate or tear yourself down. Unless, of course, that’s your kink, then you will need to express this to your SP before the date to not make things awkward. Communicate what space you want or need with your SP verbally. This could mean starting the date seated across/next to each other and draw yourself closer as you feel more comfortable with each smile. Meet anxiety with some eye contact and a little willingness to laugh in the face of it.

    First Timer Etiquette Tips 

    My advice for etiquette lies on and in-between the lines I’ve provided above. Everything said pertaining to hygiene, surrounding misc. preparations, and pre-date exchanges are very important. Be on time but don’t be one to watch the clock, that goes for SPs and patrons alike. Leaving on time is major, too. Overstaying your welcome or holding an SP from having to leave is a faux pas, meaning don’t you dare do it. I would also emphasize making sure to brush up on safe sex practices and communicating with your SP that you understand them.

    Once the date has started, try to keep your reservations at bay and tune into your newest muse. Feel no pressure for anyone to claim to have climaxed two minutes of walking through that door. Most likely, this will be a mutual feeling for your SP. The real takeaway will be in how well the both of you listen to each other during foreplay. Come as your best self. Be ready to be open and/or equally ready to listen. Have fun!

    Léa Rose – Seemingly yet another self-proclaimed high-end companion to the Rose kin, this pun-lovin’, long-limbed lynx reckons you’ll be inquiring more about her writing outlets and phon-atic musings at some point or another. Often tuned into a different frequency having secured her travel bag with a bit of head start than most, she’s a millennial milking every bit of having to stay stagnant living and working in the ever-growing metropolis that is Toronto, ON.

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    Having successfully just wrapped up her 2020 tours of San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Houston, you can catch Léa shimmying somewhere in Boston, New York City, Las Vegas, Vancouver, Montreal, Ottawa, Edmonton, and Calgary next.

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  • What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    To be honest, when I was just a civie, I never thought I would enter sex work. I never demonized it. I always knew woman were using sex work as a catapult to move up the socioeconomic ladder in society, so I was all for it, but as a career choice I never saw myself becoming a companion. Consequently, myself like most others, associated a stigma with SP’s, Sex work and the industry as whole. There are always questions about sanitation safety, location, how reliable is the money and confidentiality.

    For starters, to burst that bubble of sex workers are “dirty” because we sleep with X amount of men is so untrue. I would say 90% of the sex workers I know including myself  are “safe play only” providers. Which means everything is covered, and there is no bodily fluid contact or exchange. So, on top of offering safe services, we also get tested frequently, evidently because of the career choice we are in. There’s an awesome book to understand the psyche of a sex worker or just to understand the business as a whole called “Thriving In Sex Work, Heartfelt Advice For Staying Sane In The Sex Industry” by Lola Devine. I’m in the process of reading the last two chapters and it’s a good book for both civies and sex workers to get a general grasp of the business.

    Looking back to when I first started, I was very ignorant towards the fact that yes, sex work is a multifaceted rewarding job and SP’s wear many hats between being our own boss. We are also our own marketing team, accountant, web designer, blogger and receptionist/secretary, just to name a few. I personally feel SP’s are true hustlers to the very core and essence. We embody the true saying of “getting to the bag“. I love sex work. It has granted me many opportunities and also the freedom to do what I want, when I want, and has helped me grow individually as a person and as a business women too. Sex work is work and to thrive in this business, you must treat it as such.

    How Do You Screen Clients?

    I love this question. Let me start by saying, the first forms of screening are initiated within first contact. What a lot of potential clients don’t realize is how you present yourself, whether it be through your first text or email to me, I’m analyzing it and can pretty much tell whether or not I want to engage further or even finish reading your text or email. As SP’s we get so, so many texts and emails a day that it becomes very apparent who is a time waster and who genuinely would like to book a rendezvous.

    When you first make that initial contact with a SP, start with a short introduction “Hi my name is ________ , I am _________ . I saw your add on ________ , I would like to book you for ______ hours on __________.” That is good and all that is needed with first contact. After I have received a bit of info on you, it is my pleasure to respond and send you my booking form via email which includes light screening (i.e. two references, photo ID with pertinent info blacked out, work info and an email back from your work email or LinkedIn and a deposit). If a potential client can’t provide all the info, there are ways to work around it as not all methods are required to confirm booking.

    One thing though I would really like clients to understand is we as SP’s don’t know nothing about you. Them on the other hand, if they have done their due diligence, have taken the time to read our websites, visited our social media handles and reviewed our adds, which gives you a better understanding and idea of who we are and what type of provider we are.

    It’s only fair to give us that common courtesy in return. First impressions are everything, make sure to introduce yourself during initial contact.

    Do’s & Don’ts For Clients To Follow

    Yes there are some “ Do’s and Don’ts “

    1. Do be polite. I know I speak for myself and many other SP’s. Don’t just text Avail? at three in the morning. Read our website to know what times we are available at so you can get a faster response. And even if we are available, it doesn’t mean we are ready right now for you to pop up at our incall.
    2. Don’t bombard our phones with multiple back to back texts or emails. If we haven’t responded, chances are we are catching up on texts or emails and will respond to you as soon as possible or you haven’t really peaked our interest to return an email or text back because you haven’t taken the time to introduce yourself.
    3. Do try to send screening info and references promptly. If you are aware that we are the type of provider to screen, provide the info and if you’re mid-comfortable with a providers’ screening method, they are not the provider for you.
    4. Do not haggle or negotiate rates. My rates are firm and are set to that amount for very specific reasons. Trying to lowball me will get you blacklisted.
    5. Do be yourself. There are a lot of nerves involved in the whole process between booking and when our eyes first. Take a deep breath and be present in the moment. This is your time you booked with me. I live for genuine moments so let’s create them.

    What Happens At The Meet Up

    When we first meet, my donation should be the first thing taken care of always. Business before pleasure. I prefer it to be given to me in my hand where then, while you get yourself comfortable, I can excuse myself to count it then return to start our rendezvous. I do offer GFE so depending on what the client prefers, we can curl up on the couch, and start off with a movie.

    I can chef it up in the kitchen or we could take it to the bedroom where I could give you a sensual massage. It’s really up to the client and what he needs/wants. As long as the clients ask me to do something that’s offered in my services, I will be more than happy to fulfil their request. Be vocal with me so I can know what you, that way you leave as a happy client.

    Ways To Ease Any Nerves

    First off, I always greet my clients with a smile. I feel that’s so important to let you know everything is fine. Absolutely you will be well taken care of. I am a very bubbly person and love to have conversations, so expect me to strike up a conversation. I hate when interactions become mechanical. We are two human beings not robots.

    I know for some clients, the whole process can be nerve racking. I usually start by asking them how their day was, and offer them a drink. I love when my clients are able to slip away into total bliss, let go and feel welcome and wanted. Even if it’s just for a short time, I feel like we create our own little Utopia together.

    Client Etiquette To Follow

    Yes, there is etiquette I would like potential clients to know. I pride myself on cleanliness and I expect my clients to reciprocate that. Please wash up when you come. If you have had a long day at work or even if you showered 2-3 hours before coming, please freshen up. There are toiletries and towels available for use. Secondly, please be mindful of the amount of time you booked. It gets very uncomfortable when I have to remind clients it’s time to get ready to leave. About ten minutes before our session is supposed to end is a good amount time to start freshening up.

    How A Client Can Become My Favorite

    A client can become my favourite with one being polite (as you can see, respect goes a long way with me) to filling out my booking form fully and correctly and sending a deposit. We SP’s love deposits because it reassures us you are committed to showing up for your booking. A lot of time and preparation goes into a booking on our end. So, even if a client has to cancel last minute because of an emergency or simply re-schedule, the deposit compensates me for a portion of my time, money and effort spent on the preparation to host and look fabulous for our time together. Also, doing/giving tokens of appreciation go a long way. I happen to be human and a woman too hahaha.

    Surprising me with items from my wish lists is very much appreciated or simply asking what I like before hand so you can bring a gift to our appointment works too. In regards to safety and screening, potential clients need to keep in mind we do not know what you look like or know who you are. Chances are though, you as the potential client have done your due diligence in selecting a companion. You have checked all our social media handles. Have even check out our blog and current adds. Extend the same courtesy to us by giving us basic info on who you are, when you would like to book for and for how long.

    Also, tipping a little extra is highly recommended if you enjoyed our services. I’m not sure why tipping sex workers is not a more common thing. As far as longer dates go which I actually prefer, making reservations for us in a nice upscale restaurant for dinner, drinks and dessert is always a win in my books. At the end of the day, if you want to be my favourite you must go the extra mile to prove so. I’m a classy woman and old fashioned, I like to be wined and dined.

    Stormy Webbs – Greetings, my name is Stormy Webbs. I am a VIP companion, webcam model and content creator based out of Toronto, Canada. I ooze radiance and confidence when I enter the room and smile. I am a connoisseur of the finer things in life and love to experience new things, whether it be a new restaurant, exhibit attraction, or simply a new movie. I get a thrill out of first experiences. Follow me on Twitter and Snapchat to see more or visit my website to book a session with me!

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  • My Experience As A Sex Worker

    My Experience As A Sex Worker

    I believe that sex work can be the most feminist thing you can do. I own my body and rights completely. I work for myself and have started my own business. Sex workers help the economy. We are the oldest running profession and deserve much more respect than we are getting.  We truly make the world go round!

    Why I Decided To Go Into Sex Work

    I was 21 when I first started as a stripper in Portland Oregon. I was tired of making little money in retail and being treated less than. This girl who would come into my retail place said I would definitely make money as a stripper. I waited to turn 21 because the club she worked at wouldn’t hire under 21. It was the best choice I have ever made. It changed my life in a very powerful way. From stripping, I met my first sugar daddy. Then got into escorting from there.

    Does Being In Sex Work Affect Ones’ Non-Sex Work Relationships?

    I don’t think being a sex worker should affect any of my relationships but sadly, it can. I just don’t give those people the time of day. I won’t give my energy to people who can’t understand what I do. I mean, I can’t tell my family sadly, but they don’t need to know what I do exactly.

    Challenges I Experienced So Far

    Well some challenges I have faced are mostly due to my body not being this “certain” type. Plus I am alternative as well. It only has stopped me from working at the “nicer” clubs but still make great money working the clubs I do. Plus, I don’t see it as a challenge any longer!

    Weirdest Requests From Clients?

    I don’t like to use the word weird but since I am open-minded I get guys wanting things that maybe not all sex workers would be open to doing. I just know I am very non-judgmental. (:

    Typical Myths About Sex Work

    To the people who think we are all forced into doing this, YOU are very wrong. We are not all forced (and to the people who are, I feel for them and hope to see change in that) we want to do what we do. Which is making others happy and supporting our own dreams. I am privileged to be able to use my looks and my mind to help achieve my goals. I am truly blessed with the life I have, meeting so many wonderful sex workers along the way!

    Mila Pixie Rose – Mila is a sex worker from Portland Oregon. A magical and ethereal Goddess to help fantasies come true. She is a writer, director, designer and soon to be tattoo artist. She is a very ambitious and strong willed young woman, follow her on her journey!

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  • Travelling On Extended Dates With Your Favorite Companion

    Travelling On Extended Dates With Your Favorite Companion

    I believe traveling and going on extended dates is gaining in popularity. In my opinion, it seemed as though it was previously restricted to mistresses and sugar babies. However, it appears that the idea of travelling with, or spending long durations with your escort is growing in popularity.

    I’m always reminding clients and civilians that while of course there’s the boundaries within the framework of the client/companion relationship – there’s ultimately no rules in terms of how you can spend your time together. It is in fact, a relationship, albeit an unconventional one.

    When I originally began in this industry, it seemed as if extended duration dates weren’t exactly in demand (or maybe they weren’t for me!)

    Many of my clients didn’t realize that I’d even be open to the idea of spending longer with them, let alone feel ecstatic. I know many providers also feel the same way.

    I think people are beginning to understand that the friendship you can create with your favourite provider is both of yours to design. We can see each other as often, or as infrequent as you want, and for as long as we’re both comfortable.

    Reasons Clients Engage A Travelling Companion

    Travelling can be such an amazing experience. Being a big backpacker myself, I’m often finding myself in serene moments, wishing I had someone to share it with.

    I think that as the relationship between a companion and her client develops, it can turn into this wonderfully fulfilling, mutually enjoyable experience. It truly is a friendship, and often times, at the end of our dates, my clients and I both wish we had longer together.

    Sneaking away for a long weekend, or few days away, allows us to fully let our hair down and unwind from the daily stressors of life. You can be absent from office politics, deadlines, family conflict, and truly be in the moment with her. Think of it as an oasis. There’s something extraordinarily healing when you’re only thought is the way her skin feels under your fingertips.

    Preparation Required For The Client Before The Date

    This depends on whether you’re meeting her for the first time, or she’s already an established friend.

    Some of my best experiences came from a leap of faith, where I flew across the country to spend a few days with a new gentleman. Travelling together on a first date isn’t common, but it does take a lot more preparation on both ends.

    For the gentleman, I’d hope that you’ve done your research, and chosen to reach out to someone who really vibes with you. Does her personality seem introverted or extroverted? Do you like the same hobbies? Spending several days together can be either be the most rewarding, or painful experience – make sure you’re spending time with someone you’ll really get along with.

    Regardless whether it’s a new friend, or someone you’ve known for a while, there’s still quite a bit of communication required before either of you get on a plane.

    How long have you agreed to spend together? When does the time begin? Will you be travelling separately, or together? What is the exact compensation, and how will she receive it? I know it can seem transactional to go over the finer details, however, assumptions and important information left to chance can spoil even the most romantic getaway. Make sure you’re both on the same page.

    Last but not least, consider your companion’s preferences, and work out a system that works for you both. As I mentioned, it is a relationship after all. Is she an early bird, or a night owl? Does she need caffeine before functioning? Is there anything you can prepare ahead of time to make her time with you more comfortable? Gentlemanliness goes a long way.

    Are There Rules?

    Often times, yes! However, every companion is vastly different, as is every client.

    When spending extended time together, I encourage both parties to be upfront about their needs. Does he need to fit in a workout first thing? Does she have a daily yoga practice she’s hoping not to neglect? An hour at night for both to catch up on business?

    Don’t be afraid to design an environment and relationship that makes you both comfortable. I know of several companions who require a little “alone time” here and there to recharge, while I’m generally okay without it.

    Personally, I absolutely must sleep 8+ hours a night, and have tea in the a.m.

    My only rule: “Don’t wake me up!”

    Madison Winter – Madison Winter, Canada’s self-proclaimed ‘girl next door’ is a high-end companion who lives and works out of Toronto, ON.

    She’s left a career in finance to become a provider, and now specializes in long engagements and relationship-based dates. In her spare time, she’s usually collecting passport stamps, or at home with her two dogs jamming out to 80’s rock.

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  • Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Humans are social animals. We need meaningful connections with other humans on a regular basis in order to be healthy, happy, and productive. It’s an unfortunate truth that life can get in the way of staying close with friends from adolescence and it can be really tough, especially for men, to make deep friendships as adults. The result? Loneliness is becoming a real public health problem.

    Dating can help combat that. On a date, you can enjoy great conversation and laughter with someone you wouldn’t have met otherwise. There’s no anxiety over whether the person wants to be there with you, or if they’re judging you. You can see a show, share a meal at a nice restaurant, and just open up to someone who’s happy to listen.

    Physical affection is also necessary for optimal health and happiness, whether that’s a warm hug, movie cuddles, or something steamier.  Dating is a great way to find a consenting, enthusiastic partner, so everyone can win and we can all feel great.

    For partnered people in relationships with a libido imbalance, it can be a good way to take the pressure off of the lower libido partner and help keep both partners happy and satisfied in their stable relationship. I like nutrition – healthy eating is important, but nutritional supplements can help make up any gaps. Extramarital dating can do the same for long term relationships, so that an otherwise great couple doesn’t have to breakup just because of differences in sexual appetite.

    Aside from all the health and happiness benefits, dating is also just a great way to destress, meet cool people you wouldn’t have otherwise, and have a good time!

    How Do Women & Men View First Dates?

    I’ve heard a lot of guy friends say that first dates can feel like interviews. From the moment the date starts, they’re just trying to ‘win her over’ and make a good impression, so that they can secure a second date and, from there, the relationship or intimacy that they desire.

    Girlfriends confirm that – they often say that they’re not really there to have fun on a first date, they’re there to assess the guy. Is he interesting, intelligent, funny, successful, well put together, generous, attractive, in line with their vision for what their boyfriend should be? Does he seem like he’s looking for something serious or just playing the field?

    Instead of playing together as teammates, with the same goal of enjoying each other’s company in mind, men and women are often positioning themselves as opponents – awful as it sounds, sometimes it really seems like they’re painting it as a game of predator-and-prey, rather than a meeting of equals.

    I think that’s such an unfortunate take! It makes the whole thing more stressful than it needs to be, instead of just fun. I love dating as a companion because it gets rid of all of those unnecessary strings, expectations, and barriers that stand in the way of two people just really connecting and having a great time together.

    Have You Been On A Bad Date?

    I’ve been lucky not to have had any bad dates, but I’ve heard other women say that they’ve encountered rudeness and men who were after only one thing, and as much of it as they could possibly pack into their shared time. Everything has its place and I think that, especially on first dates, people should always expect to spend a little time getting to know their date through conversation before beginning a nonverbal conversation.

    Expectations I Have Of My Date

    I expect my date to be freshly showered, always respectful, mindful of good sense safety practices, communicative of both their desires and anything that makes them uncomfortable, and more focused on the comprehensive experience than accomplishing a checklist of tasks. This is true whether my date is a man, a woman, nonbinary, or a couple.

    In return, I am fully present and engaged, enthusiastic, focused on my date, and genuinely committed for the duration of our time together to providing the experience for them that they’re seeking.

    First Date Turn Offs Men Should Never Make

    Hygiene is so important, please always show up freshly showered and with fresh breath. If your date is at 3pm in the afternoon, having brushed your teeth that morning isn’t enough!

    It’s also always really important to be respectful and not pushy. When you’re respectful, kind, and generous, you make your date want to show you a great time. That’s so much better than demanding it, for everyone involved.

    Natalie Hepburn – Multiracial, multilingual, misbehaving Ivy grad. Wanderlusting cutie, sashimi fiend, and cuddly luxury companion in NYC and worldwide.

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    Twitter: twitter.com/newyorknatalie

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  • What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    My relationship towards sex has evolved over the years, and I fully expect it to change in years to come! With every positive sexual interaction I’ve had, I’ve realized more and more that sex (for me) is about connection in all forms, and someone’s personal reason for seeking connection is not for anyone else to judge.

    Sex can meet your need for love and caring and affection, but it can also be utilized to process grief and anger, to fight loneliness, or to discover, accept, and even love parts of yourself that you can’t indulge in anywhere else. It can be furious, healing, ridiculous, relaxing, whatever is true and authentic for you and your partner(s) in the moment, it’s all valid.

    At this point in my life, having sex is most often a celebration of how deeply I can enjoy myself and others, and I’m grateful for the opportunities to do so!

    Why Non-Monogamy Appeals To Me

    Most importantly, consensual non-monogamy allows for the flexibility to ask for what you want and need from your partner(s), and for your boundaries to adjust with you as you all change and grow. I’ve never been a person who makes choices based on what is most widely accepted, but rather based off of what I want, and what aligns with my own internal moral compass; so the option to curate relationships in a way that feels right to me is essential!

    Open relationships also require you to have confidence in your own inherent value, to be in tune with your emotions, and to keep your communication with your partner(s) open and honest. These skills are incredibly important to me in any relationship, and dating in a non-monogamous way has helped me develop them for myself as well.

    I also choose consensual non-monogamy as a feminist statement. When I am not sexually bound to only one person, it is undeniably clear that I belong to no one. I am a fiercely independent person, and the only person that I want to have ownership over my sexuality is me.

    And yes, open relationships are a lot more work, but they are also a hell of a lot more fun! As someone whose hedonistic side roars quite strongly, it’s essential to me that I be allowed the freedom to follow my impulses when I think it’s safe and appropriate to do so. It’s also fun to reconnect with your partner(s) after a sexy escapade with someone else… sharing some special details can keep the spark in a primary relationship burning brightly, and at the very least it’s almost guaranteed to make you feel grateful to be able to come home to someone who knows and loves you after an exhausting night out.

    Is There A Stigma About Open Relationships?

    Absolutely, there are a ton of biases and misconceptions that people have. Some of the more common negative misunderstandings are:

    – People in open relationships are afraid of commitment

    – Real, trusting, romantic relationships can’t exist without monogamy

    – People in open relationships are wildly promiscuous/hypersexual

    – Open relationships require no boundaries

    – Non-monogamy is inherently immoral or dangerous

    – Having an open relationship increases the likelihood that your partner will leave you

    There are also plenty of people who are open to consensual non-monogamy, but perhaps have misplaced expectations about what that will look like, including:

    – Having an open relationship will fix all issues with my current partner

    – Engaging in non-monogamous dating means that I don’t need to have accountability to my partner(s)

    – I will now always be in competition with other people for my partner’s attention

    Rules In Open Relationships

    The best part about being in an open relationship is that the rules are what you make them! No two non-monogamous relationships are exactly alike, because there is no reinforced, socially accepted structure that everyone is expected to follow. What I usually require is that everyone involved communicates honestly about their needs, comfort levels, and personal boundaries… but I think that would be beneficial in any relationship, monogamous or not.

    Trust in a relationship is built by not only honoring the boundaries that all parties have agreed to, but also being upfront and speaking your mind (in a caring and respectful way) if you’d like those boundaries to change BEFORE acting on any desires.

    Tips For Couples To Explore Open Relationships

    In my personal experience, there must be a base of mutual trust, care, communication, and respect in your relationship before you start including other people in it. If you and your partner are comfortable being vulnerable with each other, asking each other for reassurance, and validating each other’s experiences and emotions, you have a lot of the tools you’ll need to navigate consensual non-monogamy!

    It’s also important to know that, especially at first, choosing to try an open relationship will most likely feel uncomfortable. This does NOT mean that non-monogamy is not for you! Changing up the familiar and stepping outside of your comfort zone is always going to feel weird, probably even painful. It’s up to you to decide how much discomfort you want to try and work through.

    It’s helpful to be extra caring, attentive, and affectionate with your partner during moments of discomfort, and it’s ok to ask for that care in return! Knowing that you and your partner have each other’s best interests at heart, and that you both value the bond you’ve created together, will ease the transitions in your dynamic.

    I would also recommend that if you’re considering opening up your relationship, you not only think about what it will feel like for you to connect with other people, but what it will feel like when your partner does the same. It’s easy to get swept up in the (admittedly hot) fantasies about all the adventures you’re going to have, and forget that you may feel very differently about it when your partner wants to have those same adventures. Don’t create boundaries based only off of your own desires, but also off of how much freedom you feel you can offer your partner without resentment.

    Victoria Lindelle – Victoria is a warm, playful, and elegant provider offering otherworldly companionship in Los Angeles. A life-long lover of sensuality and affection, she strives to always cultivate authentic connections, and to enjoy the best cheese and chocolates life has to offer.

    Follow Victoria Lindelle on

    Website: MissVLindelle.com 

    Twitter: @MissVLindelle

    Email: MissVLindelle@protonmail.ch

    Tours: Victoria is always available to meet new friends in LA, or to fly to you! Inquire via her website

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  • How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    I believe our individual sexuality is a gift, something to be cherished and embraced.  I see sex work as an opportunity for those who want to fully and freely enjoy their sexuality and preferences without the strings of a conventional relationship.

    Whether they are denied that gift through circumstance, repression, opportunity or personal lack of self confidence in the dating world.  The recently divorced male for whom another relationship would be too soon. A widowed gentleman, still in his sexual prime. An executive too busy for the hassle of dating. A handicapped guy who might never find an intimate partner.  The cross dresser who is not allowed to express that side of himself at home. There’s always been a need in society for our services and I see myself as a facilitator to allow my client friend’s intimate desires, fantasies and fetishes to be realized.

    How I Got Into Escorting

    Frankly, an inadequate income in high end commissioned sales. I’d been in the “lifestyle” and a nudist for several years, married and than as a single woman. Highly sexual and comfortable in my sexuality.  By chance, I saw an ad in the Tampa newspaper looking for classy women for upscale lingerie modeling.

    I was offered the “night shift.”  From 6-10ish each evening after my day job. All the daytime spots were filled.  I called and asked, “Would you be interested in a mature woman for the position?”  The reply was absolutely and I wore a beautiful silk suit to the interview. Underneath a low black top, black stockings and gorgeous black stiletto heels.

    The manager of the shop was a stunning young woman.  We discussed my background and she said, “I like your look.  When can you begin?”

    The next Monday was my debut night.  No training in how to work, no idea or opportunity to screen the gent if he came through the outer door.  A dangerous part of the city. On my own, I decided to offer something more upscale. I carted in crystal glasses, Perrier, my own music, candles and an elegant wardrobe.

    My first client that evening resulted in a profit of $100.  When money is tight, that is a big deal. But even more importantly, I absolutely loved what I was doing. I felt I’d found my calling.

    To shorten this, I stayed three weeks, the management thrilled that I was making money for them during the slowest hours.  Jealousy amongst the daytime girls set in and it was time for me to go. Lies were spread. Thankfully, I had met the sales manager of the local adult magazine and he directed me to the world of internet escorting. I did my research and three weeks later, my first ad appeared on Eros. A month later, I resigned from my sales position and the rest of this joyous adventure began.

    What It’s Like Being A Mature Escort

    It’s enjoyable and it’s becoming more and more common.  Some of the top escorts in the world are older women. I get a kick out of being the age I am and being attractive to men of all ages and backgrounds.  I’ve visited all over the US, the UK and Ireland. It’s allowed me opportunities I’d never have experienced in my previous life. And….it keeps ME young.

    Advantages Of Being A Mature Escort

    It’s my observation that we attract a different type of client.  One who appreciates a keen intellect, the social ease one achieves from living life, the sexual experience and comfort with herself, rather than only a perfect body and face. I feel we attract the more thoughtful type of gentleman, no matter his age.

    What Does It Take To Be Successful In This Competitive Industry?

    There’s no doubt it’s highly competitive but I feel the key to success is to be authentically unique and to build your brand upon that uniqueness.  Obviously, you must take good care of yourself and your appearance but be happy about who you are.

    And like any other successful business, offer consistent exemplary service. If you treat your customer like a king, you’ll always be a queen. It costs nothing to be kind. In the end, everyone wants to be treated with respect and kindness.

    Advice For Clients Before Engaging A Mature Escort

    That she most certainly knows her own mind so treat her with respect and read her website before you contact her. Being a gentlemen is the key to a wonderful experience.

    Anneke Van Buren -A little bit older, a whole lot wiser. Ageless beauty, exceptional skills, a warm heart and a lusty soul. One of whom you will say, “How did she know?” Your mature lover, fetish goddess, sensual domina and confidant with no strings.

    Follow Anneke Van Buren on

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Annekenordstrum

    Websites:

    www.annekepleasures.nl (escort website)

    www.annekexposed.com (my personal adult film site)

    Instagram: @annekevanburen8357

    Skype: Anneke33548

    Home base; Tampa, FL Albany, NY

    Upcoming tours:

    Albany, NY December 3-7

    Chicago, downtown, December 8-11

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  • The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    Companionship is turning out to be quite the hot button topic in the 21st century. The word has the ability to take on numerous different meanings and implicates a variety of occupations. Escorts are increasingly referring to themselves as companions as this summation accurately embodies our role in modern society. Utilizing new terminology enables us to reclaim and clarify our value in society while also warding off the lingering stigma associated with being a sex worker.

    People are increasingly seeking companionship whether it be in one industry or another to regain a feeling of connection to others in our modernized world. Whether it be for a few hours, an evening, or more and whether it be classified as this, that, or the other. The rise of arrangements, escorts, and other forms of companionship are proof that there is a growing need for access to intimate relationships offering less pressure and commitment than the traditional models.

    It is really up to the consumer to define the companionship they seek based on comfort levels and preference, but they are all essentially the same activity with different labels. Companionship is immensely beneficial for mental health when untaken with the right individuals under the right circumstances. It is definitely in the running for the prize of one of the best forms of self-care available. Escorts are just one way of obtaining companionship while therapists, masseuses, active social circles, cuddle buddies, virtual relationships, and domesticated pets are all others.

    Companionship offers connection, and ultimately it focuses on tapping into love in the world by sharing it with another. When considered from an in-depth philosophical stand-point it makes little sense to stigmatize one form of companionship over another simply due to the nature of the intimacy. The most beautiful part of companionship is that anyone can be a companion. Everyone possesses a fundamental desire to feel connected to the world and be loved by its fellow inhabitants.

    What I Love About Providing Companionship As An Escort

    For me, what makes escorting so enticing will always be the freedom and connection. The freedom to make my own schedule, work with who I please, abide by my own code of conduct, be responsible for my own successes and failures, and of course the freedom the finances provide for me to utilize my free time on other aspirations. Of course, I am very lucky to meet such amazingly intellectual people I would otherwise never get the chance to be face to face with.

    I am also quite addicted to the spontaneity this occupation provides, clients and I share a dirty little hedonistic secret together as it is still taboo in our society which can add to fun. There is a kind of adrenaline rush from not being in an office all day and enjoying life’s intimate pleasures with people finally being their authentic selves. It is infinitely cool to see people finally be themselves because there is no expectation of who they have to be, and they don’t need to impress me. I don’t need any client to be anything apart from respectful. They can be themselves with no added pressure and finally express their genuine desires and personalities.

    It is the epitome of a safe space allowing them to focus mainly on their own enjoyment for once. This results in a re-connection to their authentic selves and feelings of happiness. Escorting presents as one of the realest industries in a world full of fake industries hinting at things and not actually saying what they mean. People are finally themselves which is tremendously refreshing.

    Common Reasons For Seeking Companionship

    To be honest, a lot of clients are married individuals that feel one person cannot fulfill all the love and connection they need in life. Companions offer a supplement to what’s lacking in a way that makes them happier in their relationships at home and in their day-to-day lives. Escorts are simply one version of companionship that allows them to retain their personal identities and meet their individualized needs. It is another form of seeking out a professional to cater to your personal needs. Clients are not individuals seeking out a new relationship.

    Companionship means a feeling of fellowship or friendship. Seeing a companion caters to a fundamental need, being an escort is an extension of being a friend. Intimacy is often the first thing to be deprioritized as it is not essential to someone’s functionality. And yet, intimacy is the source of most of our overall happiness. Intimacy isn’t a requirement of survival so it is often neglected. That intimacy is what can be most effective and beneficial to someone’s mental health because it is the epitome of sharing love and acceptance in the world.

    Companionship is fundamental because feeling a connection to others in life is fundamental. If people just wanted to have intimate fun, they could do that alone. Seeing a companion must then be providing something extra that benefits their mental health.

    What Should One Know Before Being An Escort?

    Being an escort requires a lot of behind the scenes work, it is easily a full-time occupation even for those attempting part-time work. Escorts must be able to mould themselves into whatever sculpture a client needs when they arrive. It entails a lot of resilience, confidence, and time management skills. Be aware that there is a large majority of the population that will not respect your decisions and the laws in place in this industry are not conducive to it being the safest it could be.

    I think the image portrayed of who an escort is is still wildly misunderstood and mischaracterized as a result of their depiction in media and literature over centuries. Anyone can be an escort.

    I really wanted to showcase how many amazing people are in this industry while attempting to shed light on the ways companionship is being inappropriately undertaken in a way that exploits vulnerable or misinformed people. Misinformation about the escorting industry still seems to reign supreme. I couldn’t think of a better way to let the industry speak for itself than to create a podcast to act as a platform for these extraordinary individuals and the people that hire them to share their experiences and what they’ve learnt.

    If you’d like to hear firsthand accounts from escorts and clients in the industry, I would recommend tuning in to hear what they have to say on the podcast. It all starts with a willingness to hear the differing sides of the story from the people actually working in and benefiting from the industry.

    Sienna Hunter – Luxury companion based in Toronto, Canada. I am a slender, athletic, passionate little go-getter in my mid-twenties. I relish being a companion and the endless opportunities and forms of beauty it presents. I am fond of delving a little deeper into the most enjoyable facets of life with whomever needs a little break from the repetition of daily routines.

    Follow Sienna Hunter on

    Personal website: www.siennahunter.com

    Twitter: @SiennaHunterTO

    Instagram: @SiennaHunterTO

    Other Works:

    Podcast called ‘The Escort: Deconstructed” and can be found wherever you listen to podcasts or with the follow links.

    Podcast Website: www.theescortdeconstructed.love

    Twitter: @TheEscort_Pod

    Instagram: @TheEscort_Pod

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