Category: Sex Ed

How To Cum Together At The Same Time During Sex

Sex is the foundation of our existence. Without it none of us would be here. As I grew up, it became natural. A certain habit that I needed to feed, explore and expend. In my opinion the experimentation and search for your ultimate pleasure in this big range of possibilities is a sort of journey trough life. A lot of people don’t get this message.

Sex should be illuminating and extraordinary. It should be the highlight of your day!

Having An Orgasm At The Same Time

If sex would be a story, your orgasm would be the climax. To share this moment with a partner at the exact same moment makes it epic.

The moment I come is the moment the world stops turning. Every muscle in my body goes in an extension followed by little shakes that hit my body like earthquakes, right from my feet till the top of my head. And afterwards I fall away in this relaxed state of mind…for there is only love and peace in my mind at that moment.

When I am able to have this moment with a partner and I feel his body entering this state….It’s insane. It is this very moment of connection that you will not experience with someone else or at any another moment. Since it’s this little unique moment in time together.

Is It Achievable?

I would say that it is more complicated. During a certain moment in sex one of you needs to balance on the edge of coming, creating the time and pleasure of bringing your partner to that same moment. This is the moment you want to explode although you can’t. Since this act demands a high level of control, it is not the easy role to play.

While in masturbation you only need to control your own body. It’s all about informing each other on how far you are. So in my opinion masturbation is way easier.

How Important Is It To Come Together?

For me it makes the difference between casual and exceptional. Important it is!

Tips To Come Together!

Everybody has sex of course on his own way. But If I would have to give any advice it would be this one:

Go slow in the beginning and build it from there; from slow to fast and from soft to a bit harder. Find the rhythm that makes the two of you become one.

Search the right position, definitely when your coming to the moment of coming. To be in the right position is extremely important. You want to explode and then fall into a coma. However, this would not be possible in a position like the suspended scissors.

For this reason I would advise you to go for a position in where there is a connection, preferable a face to face position. You don’t want to miss the moment.

Depending on how well you know your partner, this will make the difference. If you know your partner quite well, you’ll probably know when he arrives at the moment of coming and in this case you may even know what buttons to push to get him/her there.

If you’re having a one-night stand, it’s like searching for something invisible in the dark. Luckily there is one golden rule to help you through; mind the breathing. When his/hers breaths become shorter and faster, you know you’re doing good and you’re probably going for to that elevating moment.

Have a nice fuck!

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March 10, 2016
Best Position To Deepthroat

Which position is more comfortable for myself to try deep-throating? Lying on my back or being in front of him?

This is a really interesting question for which I don’t have a concrete answer. I’ve always found with deep-throating it’s more about the ‘angle of the dangle’. My position and level of comfort as a giver is generally dependent on any natural curve or tilt of the cock I am engaged with. The size of the dick itself (both length and girth) also has much to do with the comfort levels. It’s also very much dependent on your own gag reflex and how much control you wish to exercise over it.

If you haven’t tried deep throat before, it’s a good idea to explore your gag reflex with your fingers, or even a dildo. Primarily, you can begin to find the points that trigger your gag, and possible positions that decrease or increase the effect. Be sure to try positions that allow your neck to stretch; a stretched neck can be really helpful in creating a more open throat. Once you’re comfortable with initiating a gag reflex, you can learn some control. I find focusing on breathing helps a lot. The gag reflex is a panic reflex set up by our subconscious – breathing deep, down to the diaphragm, will instantly subdue the reflex. It’s unlikely to stop altogether, but it can give you enough reprieve to exhale and take another slow, deep breath. This is a really amazing exercise in controlling your body – mind over matter. You’ll find it won’t take long to start de-sensitising your gag, and that in itself will give you a fairly good confidence boost.

When you do try this with your boyfriend, be sure to allow it to happen at your pace, and try not to rush. The main thing to consider is the best way to line the entry of your throat up with the line his cock takes as it slides into your mouth. If he’s on his back, you can try sitting on folded knees, facing his feet, and leaning over his cock. This often makes a fairly natural fit. You can also lie on your back with your head tilted slightly over the end of the bed, and ask your partner to try a couple of entry points.

When exploring any new sexual encounter it’s really important to make it fun. When we play and explore without expectations or pressure, we often discover abilities we didn’t know we possess. Make this a a playful game of oral fun, and you’ll find the position that’s right for you.

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March 9, 2016
Tips To Enjoy Rough Sex

In my opinion, sex is something that has to do with an open mind without any complex. For a long time I’ve believed sex was a taboo subject, that is the way my social surroundings taught me; one day I decided to bring down such barriers and started exploring my own body.

I see sex now as something necessary (at least for me) whether if it’s masturbation or as a couple.

For me the daily worries or stressful situations are prohibited during sexual encounters. It’s my own way of meditation, whereas the possibilities of fun are infinite, such as toys, places, role play, sexual positions, in turn can be your job as well.

My Interest In Rough Sex

The interest in me started through my partner. One day he decided to tie me up just for fun, and started behaving in a more “rough” way. At that moment I realized I really enjoyed it, although I have to confess that at first I felt embarrassed by it.

Why It Turns Me On

Rough sex allows me to unload all stress within in a more intense manner, than “vanilla” sex would and to be able to give control of the situation and my body to a person I completely trust, is probably what I like the most, since that way I can concentrate on obeying and enjoy the experience.

Types Of Rough Sex I Like

Forms that I like the most are those related to bondage, since I play a submissive role, I truly enjoy the Japanese fetish called “Shibari”

I enjoy spanking, hot wax, being tied up with my arms behind my back while being penetrated doggie style, it drives me insane because it is so much fun for me.

Also I truly enjoy public sex in which my partner forces me as part of the fetish fantasy (although it is voluntary on my side), the adrenaline rush of being caught is incredible and immensely exciting.

Tips To Enjoy Rough Sex

1. Do it with someone you completely trust, no strangers ever for real.

2. You have to plan and discuss whatever you’re going to do in advance, especially if you’re newbies at any kind of fetish.

3. Apply the same rules always as you would do any BDSM relationship.

You don’t have to believe the “Christian Grey” model; rough sex has to be safe, intelligent and most of all consensual at all times

4. Manage limits, create limits of all things you’re not ready or ever able to do, and your partner has to understand such limits. ALWAYS Use a “safe word”, this way your partner knows when to stop especially in bondage fetish situations

5. Do not use equipment difficult to use or complicated, ie. use sex toys as dildos, not fruits or vegetables such as a cucumber or banana.

6. Again nothing with strangers, unless you are with someone you trust, if so, then just enjoy the ride!

7. Lastly, respect, respect, respect. Even if your fantasy fools you into believing your partner belongs to you, it doesn’t, and he/she will never be your property.

Try Rough Sex Out Now!

I do recommend rough sex to every girl that is looking for new experiences or are tired of boring “vanilla” sex, even if the typical fetishes available are not their cup of tea; still, do remember to start slow, from the minimal tying up of your hands or arms or putting a bandana over your eyes, until you can advance to rougher styles like ropes or hot wax.

If you follow the rules that I have talked about before, I’m pretty sure you will have nothing to fear and you will enjoy it as much as I do!

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March 8, 2016
Outdoor Sex Is The Ultimate Sex To Have

You know how everybody claims that sex should be kept behind walls in order to live a healthy, long-lasting relationship? Well, they couldn’t be more wrong! Our first sexual experience was a threesome with a friend of us, I believe that’s when we realized we were meant for each other.

Sometimes you just feel stuck in the moral thoughts that you have to find a nice boy/girl, settle down and keep sex behind doors for neighbours not to judge you. Well, we are here to show the neighbours how we fuck and to invite them over, too.

The purpose of the human race on earth is not certain, and yet it seems obvious that sex is meant for us to reproduce. Still we choose to jerk off since the very first day we are conscious of our private parts because it gives us pleasure, as well as we also eat chocolates and sweets instead of just the food our body needs, and what’s better than having a big sweet melting ice-cream in the beach for everyone to see?

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The First Time Outdoors

Our first outdoors experience was the classic road trip quickie, only that it ended inside a thermal pool with a guy staring at us from not that far away. Before we could finish he came closer to talk to us, to tell us that he had seen us. I mean, I was still topless so we laughed our heads off. From that day on we realized we loved being looked at while fucking, even just the mere possibility of somebody peeking through a window gets our libido to the skies.

This experience led us into lots of swinger clubs and finally into Chaturbate, where not only do we get aroused by the thousands of people watching us on cam but also, we discovered new fetishes we now love sharing with the public.

Why We Love Outdoor Sex

It’s a mixture of freedom, of animal instinct, of the sun caressing you in the best possible moment. You see dogs fucking on streets without any moral question, but we cannot because we invented a system that does not allow us to do the same. Still everyone you talk to has the same fantasy of “sex on the beach, on the woods, etc.” and public sex is one of the categories most watched online, so it seems that we love it but we don’t allow it.

That’s the reason we love fucking outdoors, feeling the nature, the reality, it’s just knowing that it’s morally wrong but also that there are other people stroking their cocks and pussies by the sight of us. It’s thinking that life could be a huge orgy where we all surrender to desire and stop judging each other, but at the same time knowing that it won’t happen because we all want to be respected professionals. It’s all about the right and wrong, the reality and the fiction, as if we lived in a parallel world when we take our sex to the streets.

Most Memorable Outdoor Sex Experience

Our favourite experience was the day we were going back home from Catania (Sicily) and we found a highway under construction, and as we happened to have our rollerblades in the trunk of the car so, why not have some fun? It was Paolo’s first time roller skating and it had started raining so we went inside a tunnel to keep having fun there.

I was wearing a tiny red skirt and teasing him, making turns and showing him my ass, so things got heat up and I gave him a blowjob until he came in my mouth, it was awesome. The bad part is that a couple of minutes later we were approached by a patrol car and got fined, these policemen were furious, but it was absolutely worthy, especially because now we have an awesome video! (https://www.manyvids.com/Video/141174/Highway-Roller-Skating/).

Favourite Outdoor Locations To Have Sex

There is no such thing as a favourite place because what we love about outdoors sex is that we never know when or where it’s going to happen. Our fetish consists of being spontaneous and letting the places find us. What we really love is being in contact with nature, we love the blazing sun in a beach that makes us sweat over each other and we love the pouring rain of a dark storm in the middle of the route filling our lungs with the sweet smell of the earth. The best part is exposing all our senses to pleasure while there’s always a slight sense of fear popping in your mind and body.

The most amazing part of outdoors sex is when you start finding the best places for you and your partner, you start getting to know each other better, and yourself, too; whether you like the heat or the cold, the beach or the forest, your friend’s backyard or the fitting room of a shopping. Just make a first panoramic view to feel comfortable with the place, its surroundings and the people passing by and just lose yourself to sex. Think that people don’t actually expect you to be fucking in public, so even if they see you, act cool, they will probably just turn around and leave (yes, from personal experience).

Tips To Have Sex Outdoors

Start little by little, a blowjob in a car is the typical fantasy of every guy, but don’t forget about your fantasies, don’t be shy, ask him to lick your pussy while you drive, too.

Also, recording the moment is a good resource because it will let you watch yourself afterwards and remember it forever, it´s a good tool to push you to new outdoors adventures, because having your own porn in your computer is the best material for masturbation. You will stop searching for your fantasies in porn websites and start masturbating to your own intimacy and that will bring you two closer and kinkier than ever.

Try to start in places where nobody you know can find you. The fear of any member of your family seeing you is not so hot. I always try to wear comfortable clothes in case the moment comes up, of course in summer it’s a lot easier, but in winter you might as well replace those pantyhose for a nice pair of stockings that will leave you free to fuck without the need to pull down your pants. Forget about prejudice and free your mind, but don’t forget to always keep an eye on the surroundings, just in case.

And last but not least, don’t forget to always carry wet towels wherever you go, you never know when you’ll find an awesome spot and hygiene is fundamental for outdoor sex.

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March 7, 2016
Premature Ejaculation: The Tantric Treatment
Premature Ejaculation: The Tantric Treatment

Let’s set the scene. You’ve had a nice romantic evening with your partner. Your date concluded with a romantic candlelit dinner. Both of you are feeling in the mood to be amorous so you rush home. Once indoors one thing leads to another, and you both end up in the bedroom. At this point, you look forward to a passionate conclusion to your evening together. Sadly for you, things take a somewhat abrupt and unfortunate end.

Why? You’ve discovered that you’ve exploded with delight way too early. As you’re now spent, the mood is no longer fuelled with passion and there’s nothing else to do now but sleep!

Premature ejaculation is an issue that many males will experience at some point in life. Some may view the issue in a stereotypical way, but it’s no laughing matter. The truth is, premature ejaculation can challenge a person’s confidence as well as effect relationships and some men may even end up living alone in fear of their “embarrassing problem.”

Suffering in silence

The sad truth is that many do suffer in silence, afraid to tell anyone about their situation. Those that have the courage to see their doctor get told they have a psychological issue, sufferers may get prescribed different types of treatment and in a lot of circumstances they do little to help.

Of course, Western medicine and medical teachings don’t have the answer to everything. In fact, when it comes to treating premature ejaculation, there is another technique that has some great results when practiced regularly, let’s talk about Tantra!

What is Tantra?

The Tantric roots stem from Hindu and Buddhist traditions that date back circa 5000 years, the basis of the practice is yoga/meditation, and there are hundreds of practices that fall under the Tantric umbrella, each with a slightly different approach.

Some of the practices actively harness life force energy or known as sexual energy for optimum health and vitality, through various mental and physical techniques and exercises.

So how can this help with premature ejaculation? Building a new relationship with your mind and body around sexual pleasure is imperative and looking at existing patterns of behaviour that maybe contributing to the levels of heightened sensitivity. Bringing more awareness to these areas and learning new techniques that can change existing patterns.

The benefits of Tantric treatment as an aid for premature ejaculation

Tantra helps us to be more aware of our relationship with our self, our physical body, our personal relationships and that of our environment, these all factor into how we look at improving this challenging situation.

So, what are the benefits of the Tantric treatment for premature ejaculation? For a start, one learns more about the sources of the issue, e.g has it been an issue since puberty or was it triggered by an event or situation. Stress can also play a big part, so looking at where there are situations that cause elevated stress levels and learning how to manage those better.

Tantric treatment can help boost confidence too, men can get very disheartened and loose trust in their bodies ability to perform as they would like it to. Learn new ways to stimulate and experience pleasure, that result in longer lasting pleasure time for you and your partner.

Some key components of the Tantric treatment

The journey involves several key components, some of which are as follows:
- Re-evaluating the thought process before self-pleasure and sex. Often, many men will only think about reaching orgasm. Tantra teaches us that there are no goals, it’s the approach and the journey that counts.
- Being present in time. A lot of anxiety and fear comes from either living in the past or the future. Tantric treatments are all about being present and aware, the breath and all the sensations in the body, not just being a genital experience. Men with heightened sensitivity often disengage with their bodies when they become stimulated, the Tantric approach is learning to be fully engaged and connected with the body.
- Repetition and expansion of the new techniques is important. The mind and body are amazing and have the ability to adjust however reverting back to old behavioural patterns only reinforces those, keeping within good practice for lasting results.
If there are concerns an initial appointment with your doctor is advisable, some medication can cause premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction. It is always best to rule out any possible medical conditions in the first instance.

The Tantric approach is a complimentary approach.

Thank you for reading!

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March 6, 2016
Tips For Having An Amazing MMF Threesome
I think threesomes are a lot of fun. I prefer FFM threesomes but MMF can be fun if done with the right people and the right way. I am a very sexual gal and I love to play. One on one sex is fun but when you add another person, it just increases the pleasure for everyone. If the chemistry is there, a threesome can be a whole new world that you get to discover. If you are open to the experience and want to learn some new things, I highly recommend threesomes.

Why Are Threesomes So Kinky?

Threesomes are kinky because there are more than two people who are involved. Three different personalities all trying to get on the same level and having sex. So many different thoughts, opinions and idea. So many new things that you will be able to try. MMF threesome can be a lot of fun especially for the girl because she usually gets spoiled. I think another reason threesomes are so fun is because it makes you feel like you are breaking the rules of sex. Most people who think of sex think two people, not three.

The Feeling Of Being Double Penetrated

When I am in double penetration it is a rush. I mean 2 holes being penetrated at once, that is a lot of pounding which causes a lot of happy juices flowing. I think it is super hot and when in a MMF threesome, it is a must.

Great Positions For MMF Threesome?

It is really hard for me to recommend some great positions for a MMF threesome because the ones I have experience were not good. I had a lot of fun, but it could have been better.

The guys need to be comfortable with each other otherwise the threesome does not work very well. They need to realize their swords might cross and not freak out when this happens. A position that is fun to try but is difficult is the female riding one male but not sitting down all way and she lifts her butt up in the air so the other guy can insert his cock in the other available hole.

Another position that works well is the female is on her hands and knees sucking on a cock and the other one takes her from behind.

One other position is one of the males picks up the female, puts her on his cock as she wraps her legs around him and the other male takes the other hole from behind. (this position is difficult but can be a lot of fun if done right).

Tips To Make A MMF Threesome Hotter!

Some tips I could share to make the MMF threesome hotter are:
- Make sure all parties are comfortable with each other and all rules have been discussed before starting.
- Make sure to have plenty of lube especially if you are going to go with DP.
- Just have fun and try to relax. Some of the parties might be tense because it’s a new experience, but if you all relax, things will be so much more fun.
Sex should be fun not stressful.

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March 3, 2016
Naughty Places To Have Sex

Of course I love sex… I wouldn’t be an Adult Film Star if I didn’t… I love sex with men, women and myself LOL.

The First Time I Had Sex

I was 16 and with my boyfriend at the time… I really just wanted to lose my virginity because I was the only virgin left out of my friends. I remember we were in his brothers’ bedroom and it just happened, I was thinking that I was going to bleed a lot and be embarrassed but it was only a little. I remember he didn’t last very long either hahaha.

What Makes Me Horny

I like the foreplay to build up to the sex… Kissing, touching, grabbing my booty, squeezing the back of my neck and pulling me in close. I love a man who will go down on me till I’m dripping wet then flip me over and bury his face in my ass. I love very dominant men in the bedroom who take charge and have their way with me but want to please me at the same time.

What Can A Guy Do Make Me Orgasm?

Pin me down and fuck me hard!

Favorite Sex Positions

I like cowgirl and standing doggy but if I’m really into the guy, I like the good ol’ missionary with lots of kissing.

Naughtiest Places I Have Had Sex

I’ve had a lot of sex in very naughty places…. The most daring was probably in a church. The entire time all I could think of was that we were going to jail LOL! I’ve had sex in dressing rooms, a hockey locker room, and I jerked off my ex under the table at a restaurant one time.

My sex life at home is beyond great, it never gets boring! I feel that it’s more freeing and I can be myself, relax and enjoy it.

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March 2, 2016
Rape Fantasies: Does It Mean Anything?

I have a forced/simulated rape fetish although I have never told anyone or tried it with my current girlfriend. Am I normal?

Rape fantasies are very common, across genders. In fact, most things that are taboo are common fantasies. Specifically, giving up power and taking power are common themes in many sexual desires and fetishes.

Finding these things arousing does not mean you want to hurt people or be hurt by them. Taking power allows us to feel potent, in control, larger than life. It allows us to determine the course of someone else’s experience. It allows us to feel strong and powerful. Giving up power allows us to release, to surrender, to feel small and insignificant. It allows us not to be in control, not to make decisions.

All of these desires are human, common, and normal. Everyone craves some or all of them sometimes. The key is to venture into these territories consensually. When it’s what we want, all of these experiences release endorphins and feel pleasurable. They build trust between the partners and deepen the bond.

As for you, you have options: If it feels too scary to address with your girlfriend, you could keep these desires strictly private. Nothing wrong with that. You can enjoy them by yourself.

Or you can let her in on your fantasies. Given that rape and sexual violence are real sources of fear and hurt for many women, your empathy and consideration is important. You can share your desires as part of a more general sharing of all kinds of desires for both of you. You can also share these specific ones about rape with a measure of concern. The catch in both of these cases is that you’re talking about desire, not initiating action. Make that clear.

Talk about these things when you’re not having sex. Talk about all kinds of desires. Be open to thought-experiments: Would it turn you on if you are the one being forced? Be curious about what turns each of you on by changing the variables of the fantasies: Would it turn her on if you were whispering? What if you were yelling? Or silent? Would it turn you on if she were acquiescing? Or struggling? Talk about limits: How would you feel if she slapped you as part of the scene? How does she feel being held down? Or bound?

Take your time, and have these conversations slowly. Take a break if either of you are feeling threatened or defensive, angry or resentful. Neither one of you should feel pushed into anything, or made to feel their desires are bad or wrong. Desires are just desires, turn-ons just turn-ons. What you choose to do as a couple is up to you. Remind yourselves that you don’t – you really don’t – have to fulfill each other’s every fantasy. And you don’t have to have perfectly matched turn-ons to have a great sex life.

Talk about everything only as possibilities, knowing that some of the desires you each have will be doable, and others not. And remember that, you’re not wanting to rape your girlfriend. You’re wanting to experience a fantasy with her if and only if she also wants to experience it with you. And in that realm, there are many possibilities.

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Karen B. K. Chan is a sex educator, emotional literacy trainer, and speaker in Toronto, Canada. Above all, she’s dedicated to widening the definitions of what’s erotic, cultivating ease and acceptance, and proving that emotional literacy, play, and honesty are sexy. Read the rest of her profile below!

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February 27, 2016
Should Pornstars Wear Condoms?

Since I was a little girl, I always dreamt about having sex and never-ending orgasms. And only at the age of 19 I had it (not talking about blowjobs etc.) for the first time. Why so late? Maybe because if you wish for something so much, you are then afraid it won’t be that perfect as you were imaging it for so long? Who knows… It is like with anal sex. Most of the girls are skeptical about it because they find it weird and are afraid of pain. But once you finally decide to try it, it is definitely not bad at all.

Is Sex More Enjoyable With Or Without Condoms?

There are so many different kinds of condoms, that everyone can find the most suitable one. I don’t see any real difference between sex with or without a condom. If you like your partner and am excited about him, your pussy does get wet and enjoys having sex with him even when he uses a condom. The only difficulty I see is when you are actually planning to get pregnant, then the condom might be a bit problematic.

No Condoms In Porn

I have been told that using condoms in porn is disturbing people who are watching it. Because people want to see natural sex, not sex with condom. But in your real life, isn’t it natural having sex with a condom, when “meeting” someone for the first time?

Should Pornstars Wear Condoms?

Until there are existing performers who are under the effect of antibiotics when getting tested (yes, antibiotics do influence the test results, so even if you are positive on an STD, your STD test results will come out negative) or until there are existing performers who are having unprotected sex the night before their shoot (and yes, they are happy to share that on their social medias), then porn performers should definitely use condoms. Not to protect only their own health but mainly the health of all the others and their families.

When I was still working without condom, I rather had sex with a condom with my own husband. Isn’t that a bit weird? Imagine that after my first week in porn I was infected with gonorrhoea and he obviously caught it from me immediately. Therefore I then told to myself “no way” and I started to perform with a condom only.

If everyone starts using condoms in porn, everyone will find it normal. So no, it won’t change the industry in anyhow. Apart from performers being always healthy and so being able to work.

How Will Porn Evolve With Condoms?

In my opinion it will be exactly the same like now, you take out the condom just before the cumshot. If you want to see a creampie, well then the performers can do it with their life-partners (majority of pornstars are married anyway and most likely their husband/wife works also in porn), or simply use some cinematographic effects as it is already in use now.

Lynna Nilsson (Ms.Lynna) is an international full-time Photomodel, T-DJ and Adult Performer of Swedish-Czech origin. Since 2007 Lynna has worked internationally as Model and since 2013 also as DJ who in an exceptionally short time has come a long way. Read the rest of her profile below and follow her on facebook.com/Ms.Lynna and www.twitter.com/MissLynnaCom

Her new membership site, Lynna’s Sex World lynnasexworld.com is a blog where you can read about a unique opportunity to shoot a scene with her, even if you are not from the porn business. With condom and valid STD obviously 😉

Images courtesy of Lynna Nilsson
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February 26, 2016
Masturbate Before Sex To Last Longer?

I am worried of premature ejaculation and was wondering if masturbating in private before sex will help me last longer and avoid this embarrassment?

Many men do masturbate before sex in order to last longer when they are with a partner. If that works for you, then by all means please do what works. But I would also like to encourage you to stop worrying. If you have a more relaxed attitude toward sex and don’t approach it like something you need to “perform,” you are more likely to last longer and enjoy sex more.

If premature ejaculation continues to be a problem I recommend you consult with a professional sexologist who can help you explore the many possible causes and solutions. There are in fact many reasons premature ejaculation can occur. Likewise, there are many possible solutions. Even one session with a certified sexologist could provide you with the insights you need to vastly improve your sex life!

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Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM is a Relationship Coach, Certified Sexologist and Anger Management Specialist. You can schedule your session via Skype or telephone by emailing her at Veronica@TheShameFreeZone.com. Follow her website on www.TheShameFreeZone.com

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February 25, 2016