Best Position To Deepthroat

Which position is more comfortable for myself to try deep-throating? Lying on my back or being in front of him?

This is a really interesting question for which I don’t have a concrete answer. I’ve always found with deep-throating it’s more about the ‘angle of the dangle’. My position and level of comfort as a giver is generally dependent on any natural curve or tilt of the cock I am engaged with. The size of the dick itself (both length and girth) also has much to do with the comfort levels. It’s also very much dependent on your own gag reflex and how much control you wish to exercise over it.

If you haven’t tried deep throat before, it’s a good idea to explore your gag reflex with your fingers, or even a dildo. Primarily, you can begin to find the points that trigger your gag, and possible positions that decrease or increase the effect. Be sure to try positions that allow your neck to stretch; a stretched neck can be really helpful in creating a more open throat. Once you’re comfortable with initiating a gag reflex, you can learn some control. I find focusing on breathing helps a lot. The gag reflex is a panic reflex set up by our subconscious – breathing deep, down to the diaphragm, will instantly subdue the reflex. It’s unlikely to stop altogether, but it can give you enough reprieve to exhale and take another slow, deep breath. This is a really amazing exercise in controlling your body – mind over matter. You’ll find it won’t take long to start de-sensitising your gag, and that in itself will give you a fairly good confidence boost.

When you do try this with your boyfriend, be sure to allow it to happen at your pace, and try not to rush. The main thing to consider is the best way to line the entry of your throat up with the line his cock takes as it slides into your mouth. If he’s on his back, you can try sitting on folded knees, facing his feet, and leaning over his cock. This often makes a fairly natural fit. You can also lie on your back with your head tilted slightly over the end of the bed, and ask your partner to try a couple of entry points.

When exploring any new sexual encounter it’s really important to make it fun. When we play and explore without expectations or pressure, we often discover abilities we didn’t know we possess. Make this a a playful game of oral fun, and you’ll find the position that’s right for you.

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