Being a male sex worker for women – I love sex. It is – and should be – a fun way to explore and experience your body and your partner’s. It shouldn’t be a source of shame. It should be a way to grow as a person
Why I Love Giving Oral Sex
I love giving oral sex just for the experience itself, but also to be able to do something that a woman enjoys and is just about her. I like feeling her respond and finding what works for her best and hopefully helping her to reach orgasm.
Are There Men Who Don’t Enjoy Going Down?
Most women tell me that the men they have been with, short and long term, simply aren’t interested in giving oral sex, or actively don’t like to do it – or in some cases are just really bad at it. Despite a lot of progress in the last several decades, there are a lot of men who still feel no pressure (by example, education, or even porn) to give their partner oral.
Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky (to some degree) made men receiving blowjobs from women more acceptable. Perhaps we need an equivalent political scandal to let everyone know that it’s ok (actually good) to give women oral too…
What Do Women Want?
Every woman is different in what she wants. Some women are *really* sensitive. Some women aren’t. Some women like intense oral. Some don’t. Some women like deep G-spot stimulation with fingers, or a toy. Some don’t.
You need to ask her what she likes and wants and listen when she tells you – even (especially?) if she says “I don’t know“. Biggest mistakes that men make: not asking/listening, being in a rush (to do other things), putting too much pressure on their partner to have an orgasm (plenty of women love oral even if they don’t orgasm from it).
Ways To Kink Up Oral Sex
There are plenty – but before you do anything that pushes boundaries, you need to ask for and get consent from your partner and make sure you continue to do so during play. It could include: anal play, which most women enjoy *if* they are introduced to it responsibly and consensual (and with plenty of lube).
You can also just add any other kinky play you can think of, like restraint, spreader bars, voyeurism – whatever works for you and your partner.
I am John Oh, a straight male sex worker for women. I live and work in Sydney, Australia and have been a male sex worker for women since 2010. I offer everything from virtual online experiences (text and email chat and video), to in person bookings (from an hour or two, to overnight, to multi day bookings), to interstate and overseas travel (pandemics permitting). I am in my late forties, tall and medium of build. I’m Australian born and university educated.
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