Category: Sex Ed

Ideal Penis Size For Orgasms

Sex is such an incredible thing, the variety and types orgasms can be mind blowing. I love having sex, especially with different partners, now don’t get me wrong I have a spouse that I enjoy having sex with, but different partners bring different things to the table.

Does Size Matter?

Well as far as penis size, I’m definitely a believer in bigger is better! I love the feeling of a really thick cock stretching my pussy to its limits! It touches different nerves and brings such a feeling of being full that I’m actually getting wet just thinking about it. LOL. A really thick cock will almost remind me of the first time I had sex as it pushes into my pussy for the first couple of strokes and I almost cum right away.

I’m not overly picky when it comes to shape, but I do prefer a cock that has a little bit of an upward curve to it, it just seems to help stimulate my G-spot better.

Multiple Orgasms

That depends on my partner. I usually like to cum a couple of times, but having back to back orgasms really depends on how well my partner performs. I like having my pussy fucked hard, I’m petite but I’m not going to break damn it!

How To Take In A Huge Penis

Lots of lube if you’re not really wet, and start slow. You kinda have to have a hungry mindset, that you want to take it. By all means don’t force it right away, because a big dick will rip you…

Tips For Men

Don’t be afraid to man-handle your woman a little, I’m not saying smack her around, but pull her hair, grab her by her hips and move her, and TAKE CHARGE! Show her you’re a MAN!

I’m Joy Cummings, I’m 42, 5’8″ about 125lbs, and 36B. I’m also a Size Queen, meaning that I crave large cocks, in particular black ones… lol… I have always craved thick cocks for the most obvious reasons, because they are amazing! I have done a few adult films, and am still stock piling footage for my own site. I’m a very down to earth girl and am quite approachable. So don’t be shy, find me on Twitter @just4joyxxx and say hi.

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February 11, 2016
My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be His Sex Slave!

My boyfriend brought up the idea of me being his sex slave and I am happy to explore it out, but are there any boundaries I should follow that it does not go out of hand?”

It is nice of you to be open to pursue your boyfriend’s idea.

One thing about BDSM is that the main rule is that it needs to be sane, safe and consensual. That being said, I suggest you to read about BDSM and sexual slavery practices as much as you can and even explore filling a play list where you let him know, which practices you find interesting, which ones you might like and which are a hard limit.

Each other has their boundaries, and it needs to be something both sides agree enough.

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February 10, 2016
Fingering Tips And Common Mistakes

I’ve always been curious sexually since I was young, first started playing with myself at 8 and had sex for the first time when I was 14. I have always been surrounded by sex early on watching movies, TV, books and porn. Sex has always come natural to me but I’m always learning new and exciting things about sex and what turns me on. I’ve always been comfortable with my own body, and when you’re comfortable with yourself naked, it creates for better sex.

A Memorable Sexual Experience

Well where do I start? There are so many, where do I start! I would have to say the most memorable sexual experience would have to be when I squirted for the time all over my boyfriend. I was 19 years old and dating a more experience guy who was 25-year-old. It was the first time, that I have choked and pushed and gagged. I never knew that those would be pleasurable for me. He was fingering me while choking me, and all of sudden I squirted all over place. I was so embarrassed, all over the face that I didn’t know if I peed or not haha.

My Fingering Preferences

It’s really difficult to find a guy that can properly figure me, better than I can. My preferences are 2 to 4 fingers deep, hard and fast. His fingers are slightly hooked to hit my g-spot. The harder the better for me, with a little bit of slapping of my pussy. It never fails if a guy does it properly, and I will squirt everywhere.

Favorite Positions To Be Fingered

I’m old fashioned and like to lay down or sit down with my legs spread apart. For me fingering should be pleasurable and relaxing, no need to do anything special so close your eyes and enjoy it. In my experience being fingered in different positions, you tend to be more tense and less in the moment.

When Will He Know You Are Close?

Oh he will know haha. I’m a screamer but when I’m close to or achieving an orgasm, I moan ever so lightly and my whole body feels like I’m on vibrate mode.

Kinky Places I’ve Been Fingered

I’ve been fingered in some crazy places, I don’t know if anyone else thinks they are kinky but they are pretty wild. My number one would have to be Central Park, followed by the thanksgiving table with my family, out to dinner with my ex-boyfriends parents, bars, and in the movie theatre.

Common Mistakes Guys Make

I would have say the number 1 mistake guys make a lot is using not enough fingers. I just don’t get pleasured by 1 finger going slow inside me. They should never stop after 30 secs of fingering you, especially if you are in a public place where having sex is out of the question.

I’m a 22 year old, recently started cam modeling a few months ago on myfreecams. Outside of camming, I’m finishing my masters in media studies, part time professional ballerina, and drawing. Love to try new exciting things sexually, life, food, and talking/meeting new people. Follow me on Twitter @farfromrest1 and MyFreeCams www.mfc.im/Farfromrest.

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February 9, 2016
Convincing Your Partner To Try New Things In Bed
“I am keen to try new things in the bedroom other than our normal sex routine but she does not. How can I convince her to do so or attempt to try something new?”

I would definitely start with recommending something a little on the softer side if your partner is not too keen on trying new things. For example, instead of pulling out a huge dildo what if you started with some romance to open her up like:
1. Candles – candlelight is really flattering to women and makes them feel sensual. For an added bonus make sure one of the candles is a soy massage candle. Not only is it great for the light but the wax melts down and can be used for a great massage!
2. Rose Petals – a dozen roses go a long way. Take the petals off of 6 of them and create a path leading to the bedroom or in front of a fireplace. Scatter them around and make sure there are some lingering on her pillow. She’s guaranteed to feel special!
3. How about a luscious chocolate mint organic lubricant like no other that is going to knock her socks off? Ever heard of Sex Butter? (http://www.sexbutter.net) Not only will she be ready and willing in minutes and there for the duration – both of you will enjoy the intensified sensation bonus when it comes to the big O!
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Bonnie Gayle, Body Image Expert and the Founder of Boudoir Butter & Sex Butter, educates hosts the podcast show on 65 networks, “Body Beautiful” covering feeling comfortable & confident in your body, connecting intimately & stepping into your sexual deliciousness. Bonnie’s believes releasing yourself from body bondage, body and sexual shame and learning to love your self are “an inside job”! Her products, Boudoir Butter & Sex Butter are sexually empowering pleasure enhancements made with organic plant-based oils to inspire your own natural juiciness!

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February 8, 2016
Why Does Sex Hurt

My girlfriend and I have just recently started having sex, and she complains of the pain every time during penetration. Am not sure if she is too small or if I am too big for her as this is causing some frustration for us. Is there anything we can do?

Pain during intercourse can be caused by a number of factors: hormone levels, pelvic floor health, and built up tension causing painful sensations during sex. There are also two types of pain: acute and chronic. You want to make sure your girlfriend rules out any medical or physiological cause of the pain.

I would recommend she make an appointment with her OB/GYN for a pelvic exam. Pain can be caused by nerve problems, endometriosis, and even medications with sexual side effects (such as birth control, chronic antibiotic use, acne medications, and even antidepressants). If there is no medical concern causing the pain, I would recommend a series of exercises to help your girlfriend feel more comfortable during sex and learn to relax her body, engage her pelvic floor, learn to self-stimulate to build the mind/body connection, and prime her body for pain-free sex.

The first step is to have your girlfriend start self-stimulating and experiencing solo pleasure. Self-pleasure increases blood flow to the genitals, which helps alleviate pain and tightness during sex. It also increases pelvic floor strength that will allow for better orgasms and improvement in partnered sex. The vagina is a muscle that can be stretched and exercised to allow for different sexual activities. If it can stretch and adapt to childbirth, it can accommodate any size of penis during partnered sex.

I would also recommend spending more time on foreplay to ensure she is getting enough time for arousal to take place. It takes a good twenty minutes for a woman’s body to become fully aroused. This state of arousal will allow for more comfortable sexual positions and play while giving her the most pleasure. Take your time during partnered sex and start with using your hands. Caress, rub, and stimulate her body first with hands and fingers.

When you start with penetration make sure she is adequately lubricated and in a comfortable position. Be supportive of your girlfriend as she deals with addressing the pain. It can affect self-esteem and body image. Research shows that the more you focus on the pain, the more intense your perception of the pain. Be supportive and learn to focus outside of sex and intercourse for the time being. I suggest sensual massage, kissing, and outer-course (pleasuring the body outside of the genitals).

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Dr. Shannon Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist with an expertise in female sexual health. She works with women of all ages and backgrounds helping guide them from sexual concerns to sexual empowerment. Read the rest of her profile below and follow her on Facebook at Dr.Shannon.Chavez

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February 6, 2016
Sex Tips And Pleasure Positions For Overweight People
My husband and I are on the weighty side and a lot of sex positions are challenging for us to try. What are some recommendations or tweaks we can do instead of the usual missionary?

You may want to consider having a few of the following little helpers on hand to make different positions more exciting and/or more comfortable.
1. Lube is a wonderful sexy tool to have regardless of you and your partner’s shape. Water based or silicone lube is great to have on hand in order to make entry easier for your husband and can make penetration comfortable and safer for you. (If your husband tries to penetrate you when you aren’t lubricated it can be painful and can cause micro-tears in your vagina that can cause infection and we don’t want that!)
2. Having firm pillows in the bedroom can make sexual positions easier for you and your husband. For example, sometimes placing a firm pillow underneath your abdomen during doggy-style can make the position more comfortable for you and can increase your stamina.
3. Blindfolds and ticklers…okay so this is a 2 in1 suggestion but bear with me. Again, regardless of your size and shape having these sexy toys in quick reach before and during sexy time can be the “tweak” enough that you need to add some fun to positions you already use comfortably now. Sensory toys like blindfolds and ticklers can create different sensations in your body that give you the tinglies from your head to your toes!
Now for the positions; the following are just three of many suggestions to help answer your question. Side and rear entry positions seem to provide the most comfort and pleasure (the most important part) for weighty couples.
1. Doggy-style and other rear entry variations are great positions to try to get your sexy on. You can get on your hands and knees on the bed while your husband kneels behind you. As I mentioned earlier, you can use pillows in this position for support. It’s also possible to kneel at the edge of the bed with your face and chest closer to the bed as your husband stands behind you at the edge of the bed to penetrate you.
2. Side positions. I’m sure there are plenty of silly names for these types of positions like ‘turtle on its shell’ and others but we are keeping it general here. You could lie on your side, almost like you are in the fetal position, while your partner again kneels on the bed or stands at the edge of the bed to penetrate you. Pillows would be good for these side positions too to either place between your legs to make entry easier or underneath you (depending on how tall your partner is and if they are kneeling on the bed or standing).
3. Cowgirl and variations of woman on top positions can maximize G-spot penetration (like rear entry positions) and are good positions to give your husband the opportunity to see you in your gorgeous glory on top of him. If it’s not comfortable to straddle him as he lays on his back you could also squat over him as he enters you and he could thrust from underneath you.
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February 4, 2016
How To Solve Sexual Desire Differences

After I got attached, I realized that our sex level/demands are too wide apart. I don’t want this to affect our relationship but it is not a long term solution to avoid it too. What can I do?

Communication is key in a relationship, so if you are needed more or less from your partner, you need to communicate that with them.

They aren’t going to know that you need something from them if you do not tell them. Compromise is also key, so if you need more sex than they are used to giving, ease them into it and they will get used to the newer routine and probably enjoy it.

You could also switch up sexual positions and spontaneity of when you two have sex and that should help you, so you do not feel like you are in a rut or feel too comfortable with their use of the same basic sex positions.

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Christy Goldstein specializes in relationships and how to be successful in dating. If you’re looking for direction in your relationship, Christy will act as your best friend. Read the rest of her profile below!

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February 2, 2016
Have More Sex Drive And Prolong Your Orgasms

My personal views about sex, it’s the fact I see sexual intercourse as an art and a way of expressing yourself. If we look at history, sex has always been controversial and a delicate subject, which I find not fair. Even in the 21st century, we live in a world with hypocrisy and boundaries. For example, if you work in a big corporation, and you have a clerical task like a chartered accountant and you have intercourse with your secretary, you could get fired. The reason being that most managers will see that as unprofessional, having two persons working in the same corporation having intercourse.

But in my point of view, the reason that the employees will get fired is simple as pure jealousy. I think sex should be tolerated as long as the adults are consenting. Also, religions beliefs tend to feel guilty about sex, but why did God give us the ability as human beings to have an orgasm. I think sexual monogamy was instilled by religion, but biologically I think we are polygamous when its comes to sex. If married couples would do more exchanging, there will be less divorce and less hypocrisy. But when it comes to love, I think we are monogamous and you can’t have a tingling filling in your heart for different women.

Also society seems to view pornography as a real issue, but personally I think violence and drugs are destroying society. War, hate, and big corporations that are over selling ritalins to our young generation is way more dangerous and should be the concern than pornography. I think sex is the root of freedom of speech, and having sex makes people happy. Also, I think people who are sexually frustrated tend to be more violent. Some guys who can’t get intercourse, tend to go out at the end of their working schedule to go get a few drinks, and finally when they can’t achieve their goal to get a girl, or having a one night stand, they tend to fight over strangers. If human beings would have more sex, I guarantee you that there will be less violence and hate in our world.

Favorite Sex Position

To be honest, I love every position, whether it’s penetration or simply oral sex, I love even just kissing as it gives me a hard on. But if I had to choose one for penetration, it’s doggy style. I have more of a fetish for asses than tits, especially seeing the ass bubbling when I fuck a girl from behind, getting my cock really hard, I love also putting my thumb in her ass while I am fucking from behind. Secondly, for oral sex, I love rimjobs. I love when a girl is nasty and not afraid to lick the anus of a guy, that really gives me incredible orgasm.

I would like that my lady curses and spits during sex. I love when girls are dirty and act like a real whore. Especially, when my girl during sex says the F word, it really turns me on.

Tips To Prolong Orgasms

As a pornstar, I had to develop some tips to last longer during sex. I take a supplement called Tribulus to improve my natural testosterone to have more sex drive. Also, to last longer, I take a natural supplement called Yohimbine, it’s a natural testosterone booster and helps to maintain longer erections. Also, I take only 10mg of Prozac, an antidepressant that is classified in the family of SSRI better known as Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor. By taking only that kind of dosage, it allows your body to last longer and control your ejaculation. In extreme cases, I had Viagra, 100 mg, the Pfizer pill and not the generic ones when I have extreme scenes that last over 4 hours.

Get That Orgasm!

The way I love to finish my orgasm during sex, there are two ways. I love to cum inside my lady, I feel that all my body is shaking and have this tingly feeling all over my body which even goes to my face. The second way, I love to cum on the face of my lady, while she is masturbating me, so that she could put her finger in my ass, and my whole body is shaking when I ejaculate.

Kink Up The Sex

I love kissing, spitting in the mouth of my lady and vice versa that she spits on me. I love eating her from behind, and like I have mentioned it before, I have an ass fetish. I love eating her asshole and spit on her tiny asshole. And I love when she puts her tongue in my ass also. I love cursing and moaning during sex, as it’s nastier.

My name is Richard, I am from Montreal Quebec. I have been working in the adult entertainment for the last 5 years. I am trying to be a household name and eventually make it to Los Angeles. Also, I am an amateur MMA Fighter, training in the best Hub where the champions are born, and where Georges St-Pierre use to train. Before doing Porn, I was almost a police officer but got fired because of my double life. My first dream was to become a pro-bodybuilder but because of the abuse of anabolic steroids , I realize it wasn’t for me. Follow me on Twitter, @RickHardXXX, Facebook RickHard, and Pegas Productions http://www.pegasproductions.com/rick-hard/?tuto=1.

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January 29, 2016
Does Consuming Alcohol Make Ejaculation Difficult?

Does consuming alcohol make ejaculating difficult? I do get aroused and horny after a night of drinks but take ages to ejaculate during sex, and sometimes we just give up.

For most people having more than two drinks can make having an orgasm difficult in both men and woman. There is also something called the drunk penis which literally makes it impossible to orgasm and for some men they cant get erect or maintain an erection. So for all of those who want to have sex limit yourself to no more than two drinks over a period of time.

My husband and I were having sex one night when our 5 year old son walked in on us after we put him to bed. Do we need to talk to him about what happened or is he too young to remember?

If he asks then you can answer his question briefly. If he does not ask then just leave it alone.

Does not masturbating/having sex for a few days give me a bigger load when I ejaculate?

The body usually recovers in 24 hours the amount of fluids lost during ejaculation. Also it depends on your hydration and the person you are with, if sex is consistent or not. Holding back for a few days usually will make a guy more horney but that’s about it.

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Dawn Michael is a Certified Clinical Sexologist and Intimacy Counselor. Her proven techniques have helped thousands of couples to not only improve their sex lives but the intimacy in their marriage as well. Read the rest of her profile below!

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January 27, 2016
What You Should and Shouldn’t Put Into Your Vagina

Is putting food into one’s vagina (e.g. cucumbers, bananas) safe even if they have been washed?

This is a great question since putting things in a vagina can potentially mess with the vagina’s pH balance and irritate/injure the skin, which can then lead to various bacterial and yeast infections. The acidity in some foods used in sexual play is a common cause for these types of infections.

Solid foods like a cucumber and a banana (with peel intact) are safer as they are less likely to be pushed too far up to reach with a finger or hand or to be forgotten. However, even foods like these that have been washed and scrubbed clean still carry some bacteria, so you are never “completely safe” from potential infection.

Some people may use food or other household objects for sexual pleasure because they do not have access to or are embarrassed to purchase a sex toy. But with several terrific companies out there selling ethically-made, body-safe toys that you can purchase discretely online, the choice between overcoming some personal nervousness and a potential visit to the emergency room where you attempt to make up some story about how you “fell while preparing a salad” is easy to make.

For those who specifically enjoy “playing with produce” because it turns them or their partner on, acknowledge the potential risk, clean the item and check for any rough edges or anything that could tear or scratch, and put a condom (or two) on the cucumber!

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Elizabeth is a Clinical Psychologist and psychotherapist in Washington State. She provides therapy and consultation to individuals and couples and is working to become an AASECT-certified Sex Therapist. Her primary interests are romantic and sexual relationships, sexual empowerment and education, the dynamics of communication, and reducing stigma around issues of sexuality and mental health. Get in touch with Elizabeth via email at drelizabethwatt@gmail.com.

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January 25, 2016