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Is it normal for a guy to not like receiving blow jobs? My friends rave about it but I don’t really enjoy it as much as they do.
Blow jobs are one form of sexual activity. What one finds pleasurable is unique and subjective to their sexual experiences and how they are wired to experience pleasure.
Sex is as varied as the food we eat. Liking blow jobs is the same as liking a certain cuisine. Some people may love pizza and others prefer Chinese food. It doesn’t mean one is better than the other. It all comes down to personal preference. Sexual positions and activities are the same way. It is absolutely normal for a man to prefer other forms of sexual activity over blow jobs.
The body may prefer other forms of stimulation and pleasure. It could also be due to the type of blow jobs and technique used by current or past partners. I would explore different types of stimulation and ways to receive oral stimulation that feel good for your body. Maybe your interest in blow jobs can change with the right stimulation and penis pleasing techniques.
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Dr. Shannon Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist with an expertise in female sexual health. She works with women of all ages and backgrounds helping guide them from sexual concerns to sexual empowerment. Read the rest of her profile below and follow her on Facebook at Dr.Shannon.Chavez
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Is there a way to convince my partner to swallow instead of spitting out my cum after ejaculation from a blowjob?
I do not recommend that you try to “convince” your partner to do anything they do not enjoy doing. The point of sex with another person is that BOTH of you enjoy it fully. If your partner does not enjoy what you enjoy, pressuring them to do it will only erode the sexual connection as well as the relationship.
The fact that you want her to swallow even though she does not want to swallow your cum suggests a possible power struggle in your relationship. Are there other areas of the relationship where the two of you try to control the other?
Whether she swallows your cum or not will not effect your orgasm but it can effect how you feel about the sexual connection. I invite you to explore how you feel about the fact that she does not swallow. For instance, does it make you feel less loved or accepted? Or do you feel rejected by her?
If you discover any negative emotions associated with the fact that she does not swallow your cum, I recommend you share those emotions with her. Then encourage her to share her feelings about oral sex and swallowing. By exploring your feelings and her feelings, the two of you will create more emotional intimacy and more ease talking about the sex you share with each other. That could lead to more sexual experimentation which could be very enjoyable for both of you.
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Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM is a Relationship Coach, Certified Sexologist and Anger Management Specialist. You can schedule your session via Skype or telephone by emailing her at Veronica@TheShameFreeZone.com. Follow her website on www.TheShameFreeZone.com
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He captivated me with his words telling me how sexy I was, how sweet my lips tasted as he lightly swept his hand down my side. “Lay still”, he said as he spread my legs and teased my inner thighs with his kisses. “Close your eyes and lay on your back, arch your back for me so I can look at your sexy body”, he said with authority. As I did that, he ran his hand from my foot up between my legs parting them even wider as he softly teased my inner thighs, and kissing my swollen clitoris. I could feel my entire body shaking at this point, wet with anticipation and a longing for him to command me what to do next with his words.
There is nothing sexier than a man with a BIG brain that knows how to use it to turn his partner on. Brain sex can be the ultimate tease for a woman and a sexual advantage for a man that knows just what to say. It is no secret that women get turned on by sexy stories, as any book store can attest to this—just take a gander down the romance isles. Many of these books written for women about romance defiantly have an element of what others may deem as soft porn. With this knowledge at any man’s finger tips, you would think that almost all men have gathered these books, researched them and tried them out on their partners. If it was that easy, every man would have women melting in their hand … RIGHT?
The most difficult task though is how and when you deliver these sexy words to her. Timing and delivery is everything, this is why turning popular books such as 50 Shades of Grey and the Twilight saga from book to screen lost some of its sex appeal. The trick is to know your partner. Each woman is unique in her response to brain SEX and tapping into her sexomoter is the first step. A man that delivers his sexy words with confidence is going to be quite different than a man saying the same words without confidence. Choosing the right moment is as important when you have her full attention and this can be done with a simple text a couple times during the day. As the sun goes down, teasing her as to what you have planned to do to her later that evening will leave her with anticipation. Mental foreplay is a caveat to brain SEX. Lastly, once you have her full attention you can also place a blindfold on her eyes while she listens to you telling her what you want her to do, without any visual distraction. Testing out your techniques on her is part of the fun as well as trying new ways to stimulate her brain leading ultimately to mind blowing sex for the both of you.
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Dawn Michael is a Certified Clinical Sexologist and Intimacy Counselor. Her proven techniques have helped thousands of couples to not only improve their sex lives but the intimacy in their marriage as well. Read the rest of her profile below!
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I have a fetish for the Daddy/Daughter fantasy. Though I don’t say it, I fantasize about it whenever I have sex and get my partner to play dress up occasionally. Is this healthy?
Fantasies and fetishes are not uncommon. And the Daddy/daughter one is a classic. Fantasies help us to get inspired for example.
Now, fetishes become a problem when they start being a problem in our life: when you cannot get aroused unless you use/do something related to the fetish 100% of the time, when the person you are with becomes less important than the fetish and when the fetish and thinking about it starts to affect other areas of your life.
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I enjoy sex and I’m a nympho. Blowjobs are an important part of the foreplay experience to me. The reason I love deepthroating is because I love a challenge. LOL.
I was nervous and scared that I wasn’t going to please my mate at the time.
I’m no superhead but I do take my time so that I don’t choke.
Be patient, breathe through your nose and pace yourself. Don’t rush.
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Between swallowing and having a facial, I enjoy both, as it all depends on the mood!
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My husband and I are planning for a weekend sexcapade getaway, just staying in the room, enjoy ourselves and have lots of intimacy. Are there any risks such as exhaustion or over exertion to be wary of?
It is so good and important to create this kind of time together. Bravo!
What could be better than to exhaust each other having great sex? And yes there are some precautions. Sometimes when we have lots of vigorous penetrative intercourse, genitals can get abraded and sore, and you can even get a urinary tract infection. So be sure to take it slow and easy, bring lots of lube, and incorporate lots of non-intercourse pleasures into your lovemaking.
This will also be helpful if genitals don’t behave quite as we wish. A man might ejaculate early or stay soft; a woman might not be able to access her arousal or climax. Be easy about it. There are so many ways of accessing physical intimacy and erotic pleasure that don’t depend on having a hard cock and a wet pussy.
Massage, oral pleasures, exploring different parts of the body with communication and curiosity, and a commitment to enjoy warm connected touch are helpful practices for long-term couples.
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Caffyn Jesse is a widely-respected teacher of sexuality. She teaches the Canadian Professional Somatic Sex Educator Training with Dr. Liam Snowdon. She offers a Certificate in Intimacy Education training to advanced students. Read the rest of her profile below!
More resources: Caffyn’s book on Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure: http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Healing-Pleasure-pioneering/dp/0973833211/ref=tmm_pap_title_0
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Orgasmic Mastery for Men : http://www.erospirit.ca/product/orgasmic-mastery-for-men/ and
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Is there a method or technique to ejaculate more and shoot powerfully like what is shown in porn?
To build techniques around ejaculation one must start with knowing their anatomy.
Map out parts of your penis that respond to different types of touch. Find the most erogenous parts of the penis. Learn to build up sensations and experiment with different strokes and touch. Start with the base of the penis and hold it with one hand while stroking the penis up towards the head in a slow and steady motion. Do this method several times until you feel the urge to ejaculate.
Hold the tip of the penis between your fingertips and squeeze until the urge subsides. This will pause the ejaculatory response and allow a build up of sexual energy before release. Once you do a series of this exercise with multiple repetitions, allow your penis to ejaculate. You will notice you have more ejaculatory control and intense release from the build up.
Another method is to use your PC muscles (pubococcygeus) and squeeze to reduce the urge to ejaculate. You can locate your PC muscles by trying to stop the flow of urine midstream or twitching the penis. The PC muscles are like the brakes of a car. When you want to hit the brakes it allows more ejaculatory control and reduces the urge to release. Use the PC method to build up your muscles by doing a series of short squeezes or longer, stronger squeezes. Both will give the same benefits over time.
Another method is to use the locking method – when you feel that you are about to ejaculate, withdraw the penis until only the head remains in the vagina. Stay calm and still for at least 10 seconds before entering the vagina again. You can do a series of these exercises until you begin to withdraw less and feel more in control of the sensations and build up.
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My wife and I tried lube for the first time and within seconds, she started feeling a burning/hot sensation in her vagina and we stopped immediately. Now she has a fear of lubes and does not want to try any. Is she allergic or did we use the wrong type of lube?
Many lubricants are made with ingredients that are highly toxic to the body, especially for women because the vagina has no filter. Itching, burning, and a hot sensation could definitely mean she’s allergic to the ingredients in the lubricant. Two common ingredients in lubricants that have been known to cause burning sensations are parabens (which have also been linked to Cancer) and glycerin (which can cause vaginal yeast).
If you want to be able to use lube again, go organic and read the ingredients. If you never heard of it, you probably don’t want to be applying it to your precious parts. One of the reasons I love Sex Butter (http://www.sexbutter.net), which I recommended in the last question is because it’s made of ingredients I know and love; organic cocoa butter, shea, coconut oil, jojoba oil, grape seed and a hint of mint.
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I love masturbation and I think everyone should. You need to know your body, what you like and what you don’t like, because if you can’t make yourself cum how is someone else suppose to?
I remember I was around 12 and my friends were talking about humping pillows and fingering themselves and I just thought the whole thing was so silly. When they left I ran straight to my room to grab a pillow to hump and explore myself with my fingers. Haha!
I was 15, I was working at a comedy club and we had a “secret santa” and all the gifts had to be “dirty”. Someone ended up buying me this really huge, really intimidating fake cucumber dildo, and I remember unwrapping it and everyone was laughing (because it was funnny?) but all I could think about was trying to put it inside me.
I really love butt plugs, but no masturbation experience is as good as the Hitachi.
Honestly it always depends on my mood. I love using toys because I get so much more wet and toys have no end. Put it in your butt, mouth, or vagina. Even using restraints or cuffs on yourself while masturbating is a total turn on. Hitachi literally makes me cum so hard within 5 minutes. Using my fingers is more sensual, I take my time and sometimes that is exactly what I need, to take my time. Everyone always rushes into everything. The build up is sometimes the hottest part of the session.
Experiment with different toys while you fuck yourself. Cuff your feet together, Use a gag-ball, put a butt plug in, etc. Get creative! 🙂
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