Category: Sex Ed

How To Kiss A Girl

Sex! Sex is everything and nothing, depending on who you ask. In my hippie, artsy little mind it’s a bedsheet bound tango of energies and emotion. Explaining sex is like explaining why we ever get hungry, or why the rain falls. It’s just natural and it keeps us going. Add societal elements and now sex is a marketing tactic, a weapon in emotional warfare, a means of seeking validation and a whole host of other (possibly unhealthy) motivations. My thoughts on sex in a nutshell are it’s the ultimate way to know somebody, and when you’re really into someone you want to know who they are in every way. My fantasies are more towards the carnal, submissive side. As long as everyone is safe, comfortable and wants to be there then I say do whatever the heck you want to do, and have fun exploring and challenging yourself.

Importance Of A Good Kiss

I have some rather strong opinions on kissing. It’s a lost art, truly. So many people think the sloppier the better, which couldn’t be further from the truth (in my opinion). A good kisser can get me both relaxed and revved up at the same time. It’s the first plane of being intimate with someone, a time to go in purposely but listening. Someone who is not attentive to body language and barges on kissing how they wish is bound to put their partner off. With all things in sex it’s about listening and adapting, but especially kissing as it sets the tone for everything to follow.

Know When And How To Kiss

Different situations or stages of sex certainly call for different kisses. The climax is called a climax for a reason: it’s the highest point of action. Everything should be smoothly yet steadily building up to that moment. Kisses at the outset, when you are coming together for the first time, should be more experimental than when you’re lying in bed, frantic about getting your joy on!

Obviously it’s impossible to give an instructional manual for how to kiss in all scenarios, but generally speaking it makes sense to ramp up the passion as sex goes on and you’re more comfortable with your partner (assuming you’ve never had sex before) and is getting hotter. Then again, maybe this is your lover or your long time favourite provider/regular, and you just want to accost them as soon as they walk through the door and start sucking face! That’s hot too. The kissing really informs what kind of sex you’ll have, and vice versa, so just keep that in mind and take your partner’s reactions into consideration.

Tongue Play

YES there can be too much tongue. In fact, it’s not uncommon that people latch onto the idea that more is more when it comes to tongue. I’m not into that. If the tongue isn’t used judiciously it’s just a gross-out to me. It’s like seasoning. A note here and there makes the dish come to life, but the whole meal can’t just be seasoning. Similarly, sparring use of tongue can be an incredible turn on and immediately heightens excitement, but you can’t just put your tongue in someone’s face and call it a day.

As for things a guy should never do…oh, this is a tricky one, but I’m going to say don’t kiss too fast. Slow and sensual wins the race and helps both people relax. Kissing too fast gives the impression that one is anxious. The obvious tip of “don’t try and stick your tongue down her throat”, shouldn’t even bare mentioning. Sadly, however, it does.

Check Your Breath

Again, to be obvious, garlic or onion breath is not appreciated. Likewise, cigarette breath makes me feel like I’m kissing an ashtray. Poor oral hygiene such as having very stained teeth, any diseases of the mouth and teeth is of course off-putting as well. It’s basic advice but it’s all you need-be clean and neutral smelling.

Any strong odours emitting from the mouth are unlikely to make me want to put my own mouth on it. Something that I’ve encountered is that some of my clients will chew gum before an appointment to ensure that their breath is minty fresh, but they forget to spit their gum out before leaning in for a kiss! So many things to think about, they overlook that crucial detail.

Listen

The fundamental golden rule of having sex is listening to your partner, and this definitely needs to apply to kissing. Is your partner reciprocating everything you’re doing with equal fervour, or is it overwhelming them? If it’s the latter, adjust to a slower, gentler style. Try not to be a robot. Let your hands explore as you kiss, get a lay of the land. It’s a huge turn on when men give me taste of how strong they are by letting their hands grip and squeeze me all over.

Don’t be too light with your pressure. Sometimes men think that they lighter they kiss the better it will feel, but it simply tickles. How they do it in the movies is a pretty good guide for how to go about it. But in all seriousness, less is more is generally a good rule of kissing, when in doubt. But when not in doubt, go wild and crazy and leave it all on the bedroom floor!

My name is Serena Paxton, and I live in Toronto, Canada. I’m tall and slender, twenty-four, blonde, with an equally sexy mind and body. As much of a country girl as I am a city girl, I enjoy going out or simply slowing things right on down and enjoying the moment. Follow and contact me on my website (www.serenapaxton.com), Twitter (@SerenaPaxton) and http://ca.eros.com/ontario/toronto/files/413066.htm

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July 6, 2016
What Is An Escort And What Does She Do?

Sex is a lot of fun. I don’t see sex as this supreme act where you become connected on a spiritual level nor form a stronger bond as two people in love. The best type of sex is sex with someone on the same level, as two individuals who want each other equally and who are sexually compatible with each other. In my opinion sexual intimacy has nothing to do with romance; sexual intimacy is mind blowing sex in the way that you want it to be and being comfortable enough to do that.

What Makes Me Different And Unique

My interactions with clients are always authentic and genuine, a memorable experience. I only meet a few select patrons. I screen very heavily and if I don’t think we are compatible or I cannot give what the client is seeking (I do very naughty GFE dates) I won’t take the booking. I genuinely love meeting interesting, fascinating people. Words my clients use after meeting me are adorable, delightful, funny, charming, intelligent, gorgeous and great company.

Common Misconceptions About Escorts

I think the most common ones is that escorts do not have any other career options, and that is very much not the case. I have met some of the most intelligent women in this industry, smart as a whip, who escort as a part-time job.

Or that we are badly treated by clients, which could not be further from the truth. My clients are extremely intelligent, kind and generous, and they remember what I like. I love horses so I have been given expensive riding boots and a jumping saddle, and these were very thoughtful gifts. I have been given great business and financial advice too which is very much appreciated by me.

Do You Date?

To be a great private escort you have to be able to give a small piece of yourself to the job. It is very hard to describe what that piece is comprised of to someone who is not a companion. If I have very deep feelings for someone then I don’t want to share that piece of myself with anyone else but my lover. Currently I am involved in competing with my horse as well as completing studies so I don’t have much spare time for a relationship in any case. I am very independent so I’m quite hesitant to start a relationship with someone unless I really, really like them. I do enjoy being in a relationship and especially being in love.

Things To Know Before Dating An Escort

I think a guy needs to be able to fully accept who you are as an individual, your aspirations in life, and that whatever your future may hold, you will always be an ex-escort. It can make them very insecure. If a guy can’t deal with you working while the relationship is still in its very early stages, they will certainly never be able to respect and accept it in the long-term.

Escorting has raised my standards in men, I don’t accept any disrespect, meanness or bad behaviour.

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July 5, 2016
Things Every Guy Should Know About His Dick

The biggest problem with a man’s happy stick – is that he doesn’t know near as much about it as he should. I blame Cosmo mostly, with their worthless banter about ‘average size’, ‘women’s preference’ and ‘alternative techniques to using it’. If you really want to know everything about a man’s dick, you need to ask a man who has lifted weights from it, crushed a scorpion using the tip, and has found humility in the reality that the above two stories are entirely made up, but I am a better man because I have learned that… well, I am more than just a dick.

The Average Dick Gets Short-Shafted

While sitting outside bars in nondescript vans, researchers have come to the conclusion that… small penises are normal. What they have found is that the average guy is an average of 6-inches – when erect. The word, ‘erect’ is very important considering that there is such a thing as ‘showers’ and ‘growers’. Guys can range anywhere from 2 to 5 inches while installing a sink disposer. However, once finished he will grow to be an average of six-inches if the lady of the house is offering an alternative payment plan.

Your Dick is Only Small if…

Okay, let’s empty out the room from the worry-warts to the guys who have real problems. Based on the commentary of Dr. Paul Turek of the Turek Clinic, any size is considered average, so long as it stretches out beyond 1.5-inches on a measuring stick (when not erect).

Shaving Your Bush and Balls is Not the Way to Compensate

Let’s say that your dick is currently resting over your keyboard at 1.75-inches, and you feel a little too far to the left of the ‘average’ chart. But I wouldn’t bother shaving your bush and balls, as 1.75-inches… is still going to be 1.75-inches no matter how you trim it. If you really want to trick a woman’s senses, height and shoulder to hip ratio is the best optical illusion. And no matter how you’re shaped right now a lean mid-section can do wonders for the appearance of a stubby dick. So, if you’ve added a few unwelcome pounds over the years, here’s the incentive to shed them.

Viagra vs. Supplements

If you are a normal, otherwise healthy man, Viagra as a form of taking care of the symptoms rather than treating the disease. Whether your ED problem is mental or physical, you can actually give your boner a direct jolt through proper nutrition, which means less fat and fried foods. Fat effects your testosterone levels and it causes your nerves to lose their sensitivity when too much cholesterol builds up. High sugar foods and salt are also not conducive to a healthy penis, and nor is too much alcohol. Most “erection building” vitamins are bullshit. A few of the proven supplements to strengthen and improve an erection is Omega-3, L-Argenine/Pycnogenol, Vitamin C and Horny Goat weed (that one should be easy to remember).

Your Erection as a Health Indicator

Guys like to talk smack about the size of their package, but when it comes to your health and the happiness of your woman, a hard dick is really the most important thing. As a man loses his conditioning, his erection is usually one of the first things to go. Your dick should be hard enough to stand on its own. You shouldn’t have to wrap your hand around it to keep it from folding during sex, unless it is over 10-inches long. Should you be able to hang a wet towel from it? Well, a partially damp towel for sure.

If your erections are not as hard as they used to be, that is a direct link to your cardiovascular health – a link to your testosterone levels. Researchers say that men who have sex more live longer, but it is more likely that the ones who are having all that sex are healthy enough to handle it and are already destined to live longer. The other guys are not having sex because they can’t get it up, have some serious cardiovascular problems and are not long for this world. Don’t be one of these guys. Take care of your body, and your dick will take care of you in return!

Max Green is a modern day Casanova that works as a writer by day and a hound by night. Having studied at the School of Hard Knocks, he’s determined to live the American dream. He explores depravity and a sexual lifestyle in his spare time. Follow him at www.Urbasm.com

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July 4, 2016
What She Thinks About Your Penis

I grew up in a home where sex was never a big deal or taboo, and often openly discussed. Because of this I was in no hurry to jump right in. I didn’t start experimenting until my 20’s; I discovered pretty quickly that I was attracted sexually to both men and women. Though I had found love, I am also not a fan of monogamy. I can easily separate sex from love and emotions, and I enjoy both very much. When it comes to sex, I love experimenting and trying to find my limits, and helping others find theirs.

Her First Thoughts When Seeing A Penis

Honestly the thoughts in my head are not that sexy, no matter how turned on I am by someone when I see and have that dick in my hand for the first time, I am trying to quickly inspect for any signs of STD’s. I have a playful, fun and sexy way I go about doing the inspection without the guy even knowing. I use my hands to feel the penis for anything out of the norm, without putting my mouth on his cock, I tease it while I am visually inspecting him for abraded skin or sores, I look into his eyes with an evil grin on my face as he is anticipating the action. I do this with clients as well as civil men I am involved with, and it has become a habit like putting on a seat belt.

Is There An Ideal Penis?

The ideal penis is different for every girl and every act. I would say though, everyone likes a well trimmed and clean cock. The ideal for me for giving a blow job is longer and leaner. I like to gag, but I have a small mouth so a particularly thick one is hard (pun intended) to swallow.

For vaginal sex, medium length and girthy. Girth is the most desirable here as the pressure it puts on the pubis bone there feels really good and helps for climax.

For anal sex ,shorter and thinner and one that can stay really hard. Remaining hard is really important here as a limp dick can hurt when trying to enter the backdoor.

One Major Penis Turnoff

Smell and cleanliness are hand in hand and if not well kept, can be a mood killer. What you eat can affect the general smell of your skin and in the groin region it can be particularly strong. I do like hair on my men, but prefer it to be trimmed and the balls shaved.

Circumcised or Uncircumcised?

Every woman has her opinions and preferences on the uncircumcised penis, as a professional, an uncircumcised penis makes no difference as pleasuring me. This is all in the man’s court, does he keep it clean? They do require more maintenance than a circumcised one does. Now, I do remember being a little awkward trying to give a blow job to the first uncircumcised cock I saw and there was a learning curve in dealing with the excess skin (using the hands). Getting to the head so you can do your tongue magic tricks to make him moan. As long as the cock is hard and headed my way, I am a happy girl, extra skin or no.

Does Bareback Feel Better?

Sex without condoms does in fact feel better for the woman too. There is something to be said for skin to skin body heat contact when having sex. So let us get real here, we all agree on this subject but for casual sex or in my case professional sex, it just is not a smart idea to uncover for a few moments of pleasure.

Women bare the greater risk of infection than men do and can go longer undetected then men. I love sexual freedom, expressing myself in my sexuality, exploring myself, and I love having new sexual partners. But my health needs to be my top priority and here the risks just outweigh the momentary satisfaction. Saving something so intimate as bareback sex for a significant other is something we should all value.

Kirsten O’Donnell is the Irish Lass that your mother warned you about! Beyond my sultry appearance, you will find what really sets me apart from most companions in this industry is my witty and fun personality with a touch of sophistication. I have traveled and lived all over the world experiencing culture as it should be, in person. As a modern courtesan I pride myself in my ability to find passion in everything that I do. I am a die hard fan girl still obsessed with superheroes, science fiction and “Geek” culture in general.

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July 1, 2016
Harley Hex Does Not Shave And Is Proud Of It

When it comes to sex I love variety. I’m always interested in trying new things and this has given me a great appreciation for many kinks. I find that exploring my sexuality and experiencing partners doing the same keeps sex fun and exciting. As a member of different ‘alternative’ communities (queer, kinky, sex worker, etc) I can say that the sense of belonging I feel when I’m with like minded people who share similar interests and experiences is really lovely.

Why I Keep My Body Hair

I stopped shaving around five years ago. Ever since my hair started growing in, it has been thick and dark. This used to make me feel very embarrassed. This was mostly because women and people perceived as women are held to strict standards of femininity and shaving is a big part of that. A big part of the reason I stopped shaving was to challenge myself to become comfortable with my body in its natural state. After a short time I realized how much I really love all of my hair and just never went back. As an added bonus, shaving always felt like a huge waste of time and I’m happy to be able to spend that time doing other things.

Body Hair Attraction

I’m sure the attraction to body hair from both women and men varies greatly from person to person. I think that there is some draw to it because of how rare it is for women to let their body hair grow in without shaving or trimming it. There is also the feeling of hair under your fingers or pressed up against your skin that I think is very sensual. Another thing I’ve had a lot of people tell me is that they love the way people with body hair smell. The hair around my armpits and my bush do tend to hold in some of my natural body smells, which I think are quite nice.

The most common request from men is for me to simply show them my hair and run my fingers through it. If they are with me in person they love to do the same. On web cam I get a lot of requests to tug on it, brush it, put clips in it, and wash it in the bath or shower.

Sex Things Up With Body Hair

I usually ask people what they’re into whenever things start heating up. This is true for both my work and personal life. As I was saying before I do a lot of touching, pulling, and texturing my hair in ways that I and others find sexy. I also love having my armpits licked so I’m happy that it is something so many people who love body hair are into.

My name is Harley Hex and I’ve been in the adult industry for about three years now. I’ve been growing out my body hair for about five. I really love how porn has let me see my body hair in different ways and connect with people who are both fascinated and aroused by it. I’m hoping to see the stigma around body hair begin to shift so more people can feel free to do what they want with their bodies.

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June 28, 2016
Does Penis Size Matter?

Sex is creative. Sex is natural. Sex is the spark of life.

Does Size Matter?

I have no ideal. Variety is the spice of life. I’ve had large cocks that I could barely fit inside me. I’ve had long thin cocks that went deeper into my throat than anyone else. I’ve had average cocks that wouldn’t quit until I’ve had multiple orgasms. I’ve had small cocks that made up for its size in the way they rocked what they got. Whatever you’ve got, you gotta rock it.

How About Angles?

Yes, curved or straight provides more variety. Women are angled differently as well, like my uterus is slightly toward the right and front of my body. Often sexual compatibility is as simple as whether the parts fit.

Tips For The Well Endowed

Lots of foreplay. Get her all juicy. Lick her pussy. Take your time. Make her beg for it. I know when I’m at the point of begging for cock, I just want to get pounded. Nothing matters but getting fucked. It’s temporary madness!

Giving Her An Orgasm

Work on your head game. That means two things: cunnilingus and the brain. I don’t know any woman who gets licked enough. Often men pay lip service, and jumps to fucking too soon. It’s understandable. Men have a ticking time bomb between their legs, and it might explode before he gets to fuck. Women don’t want that either.

I guess it’s a balancing act. More than techniques, work on connection. Feel each other out, communicate through words and actions, watch each other’s reactions to stimulus. Play! Have fun!

May Ling Su is an author and muse. Her debut novel, Lilith: Queen of the Demons, book one of a series, is available on Amazon as a kindle download, paperback, and audio book. She blogs at MayLingSu.com. Follow her on Twitter @maylingsu, Facebook maylingsu and Instagram @maylingsu.

Her novel, Lilith: Queen of the Demons, is book one of the Lilith series. It’s available on Amazon as a kindle download, paperback, and audio book. It’s an erotic novel that dives deep down and dirty into demon sex, angel sex, Annunaki lesbian sex… all the while searching for the meaning of life and love. Critics hail it as “shameless and unapologetic,” “delightfully blasphemous,” and “reads like an alternate mythology where biblical characters are actual people instead of the two dimensional cutouts I learned about at Vacation Bible School.” Get it at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B019N1TLBU

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June 27, 2016
Mistakes Men Make During Sex

I love sex. I’ve always been fascinated by it, and I got into porn not just to have sex, but to make art about it. I’ve always used it as a way to connect with other women. I like to say that sex is like a conversation – a human interaction that can have a lot of different meanings. I’ve never been monogamous and I’ve never been with a man. I have no interest in either.

What Turns Me On

I like getting girls off, and doing it right. I like strap-ons, fisting, group sex, public sex, and pushing extremes. I like submissive girls, butches who can give me a run for my money, and high energy experiences. I love being a porn star.

Do Ladies Satisfy Other Ladies Better?

Women are objectively more likely to get off in a lesbian encounter than a straight one. Lesbian sex has female pleasure as it’s sole focus, and much less weird cultural bullshit wrapped up in it. Plus, it’s a safer activity on many levels so it’s easier to relax.

When I fuck a girl, my whole focus is on her. I also do have a sense of what the things I do feel like – a sort of physical empathy – but mostly I pay attention to her reactions rather than what I would want myself.

Common Mistakes Men Make During Sex

Most of the complaints that I hear about men stem from men being inattentive lovers and not knowing how to touch their bodies.

Your dick matters way less to women than it does to you. Women are much, much less likely to fuck you for your dick than to fuck your dick for you. Don’t send her dick pics unless she asks, and if you do send them, make sure the energy in the pictures is “I am so turned on by you, personally” and not “I have this thing I want you to touch.” Don’t make the sex all about your dick. Make it about the connection, and use all the parts of your body as a tool to foster it.

Speaking of dicks, size isn’t the end all be all. Sure, there are size queens out there, but even for a size queen, just being hung doesn’t make you good. On the other end of the spectrum, just because you have a small dick, it doesn’t mean you can’t satisfy your partner.

If you want to have good sex with women, focus on them during sex. Pay attention to their pleasure instead of just yours. Rather than touching her boobs in a way than turns you on, touch them in a way that turns her on (which will still turn you on.) Sex is best when you’re open to learning.

Lily Cade is “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” and a veteran adult performer and director. She’s known for her strap-on skills, her aggressively passionate sex scenes, and her characters such as “Officer Cade” and “Kristen Grey.”

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June 24, 2016
Girl on Girl Porn

My approach to sex with anyone, male or female is always mental first. The reason for this is you know there is a chemistry there and that the levels of fun you may get too can be extreme and a wild ride, maybe even a sensual erotic ride, depending on the person and the activities. Don’t take your clothing off too fast, you may miss the best parts.

First Girl on Girl Experience

I remember high school, playing with a boy and adding a girl to the mix, it was subtle, but enough to spark my interest that is for sure.

Male and females touch differently so the feeling, the softness, the kissing, the hand holding, it is more gentle. I love to add a female to the mix, it is an exciting fully toy.

Why Men Love It

More is better, right? You have a man that is heterosexual and you give him one female, it is awesome. You have a straight man, a couple of girls, and it is like heaven raining down on him. More is better, we all like to binge, so what is the best binge than what turns you on the most sexually and getting it all as fast and furious as possible with as many partners as possible.

Does Being Female Make It Easier To Satisfy Another Female?

Everyone must realize that there is discovery to be had before playtime. This current generation is so quick to jump into sexual acts but I feel they are lacking on why the act is so important and the impact it may actually have if done properly or correctly. I have found if I am playing with a younger female, a lot of guidance is needed. All females are different, they like to be touched different, there are so many ways of stimulating and so many ways of killing a mood if the foreplay is not there.

So, my answer is a solid hard NO, being female does not make things easier if you do not put in the effort for the individual, you just seem like a bumbling idiot. So, instead of taking gender as a cheat sheet, take your time and explore your partner as a person and don’t just put another notch on your bedpost.

Favourite Girl on Girl Positions

All of them, starting from hugging and kissing to burying my face in the back of her neck and taking a long slow deep breath to inhale her scent.

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June 23, 2016
Rough Sex Tips By Samantha Hayes

Honestly, I’ve always had a turn on for being rough before I really understood what it was I liked about it. I always wanted boyfriends to pull my hair, smack my ass, and hold me down giving head. When I would get intimate with guys, they seemed surprised by how into it I was.

What Turns Me On

Hands down, the power play. I always used to be a control freak and it leads to so much extra stress. By being able to relax, let go, and let my dominant partner take control, I found I was able to get a release by no longer having to have power and control over everything.

I am a pain slut – being hit, slapped, or bitten can lead to an intense orgasm for me, even without any genital stimulation whatsoever. I also like bondage and psychological play, as well as orgasm control and denial.

Have A Safe Word

Always make sure you go over what you want to try and what your limits are with your partner beforehand, and that you only practice with someone you trust. It’s important to pace yourself rather than jump in both feet first. Discussing a safe word or safe action (if you have a ball gag on, you can’t say it) so that your partner knows when you need to stop. A safe word can be anything, a safe action can be a repetitive head shaking to show that it’s time to stop.

The safe word or safe action means that all activity needs to stop, immediately, no questions asked. Exploring with rough sex can bring up a lot of emotions, even if you don’t expect it. Aftercare is extremely important, if not as important as the exploration itself so make sure that you feel comfortable telling your partner to hold you after or discuss things if you need it.

Always Be Comfortable Before Trying

You should never do something you aren’t comfortable with, however, taboo around certain subjects can lead to a lot of discomfort. Educate yourself on different rough sex acts from legitimate fetish sources (NOT Fifty Shades of Grey) and do some research. Knowledge is power, and by simply educating yourself on the logistics of rough sex, you may feel comfortable enough to explore it.

As I said, having a trusting partner to explore with is also extremely important. It isn’t something to try out with a stranger or someone you aren’t comfortable with because it requires open communication and trust.

Samantha Hayes is a 20 year sexually free young woman from the Midwest. When she isn’t doing yoga or reading a book with her cat, she’s webcamming and shooting all kinds of filthy amazing pornography in California.

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June 22, 2016
7 Ways On How To Blow His Mind

1. Don’t do it, if you don’t want to.

He will be able to tell that you are into it. I understand that special occasions call for special treatment, but don’t force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. If you’re not in the mood during his birthday, anniversary, holiday, etc., just have sex or cook a romantic dinner. The more you want to do it, the more he will enjoy it. After all, the goal is to BLOW his mind!

2. Talk to Him.

Tell him all the naughty things you are about to inflict on him. Same way we like for him to whisper sweet nothings in our ear, so does he. Tell him how you can’t wait to take every inch of his big, tasty, friend into your mouth. Tell him how you have been thinking about it all day and that you’re getting so wet, just thinking/talking about it. Sexy, naughty talk is a BIG turn on. If possible, send him naughty texts or emails describing all the oral naughtiness that will take place later.

3. Tease Him.

Don’t go right into the act, make him wait, possibly even beg. While you’re talking to him (see #2) make sure you are touching and caressing him everywhere, saving his friend for last. Kiss him in all the spots that get him hot and bothered. Trace your name with your tongue on his inner thigh, touching the tip of his penis ever so slightly and not often. Continue to talk to him and tell him how you can’t wait to taste every inch of him. You can make him watch you practice on a banana without him touching you or his self.

4. Bring in Others.

Do not be afraid to experiment with props. Use edible lubrications to massage his penis. This will make everything tastier and allow for more range of motion for you. It will also be very pleasurable for him. Try using a flat lollipop pressed against your inner cheek while going up & down on his shaft. Create your own version of a banana split, lots of whip cream, strawberries, and cherries. Utilize your hands and mouth. Make sure your hands are playing with his testicles and slightly caressing the perineum (the area between the anus and the testicles), while he is inside of your mouth.

5. Turn Up the Heat.

Make sure your mouth is very wet and warm. Play with temperatures. Take him into your mouth with your regular body temperature. Try drinking warm to hot tea, or even gargle with it. Then immediately draw as much of him into your mouth as possible, nice and slowly. The change in temperatures will drive him crazy. For a nice cool down, try something with mint or menthol in it. Suck on a cough drop or peppermint for a few seconds and try again. This time, take him in faster and suck faster in a fast paced rhythmic motion.

6. Change it up.

Make sure you do not repeat the same technique over and over, it gets boring quickly. If you already know that he likes it a certain way, then by all means, do it! Change the speed of your movements. Go faster for a few seconds, then slow it down a bit, keep him guessing. Try new, different positions. Instead of being on your knees, turn around and straddle him on the bed. Allow him full view of your behind, while giving him great mind blowing pleasure. You can lay flat and have him straddle you (this position allows him to be in control). Try licking and sucking at the same time. As you are sucking, move your tongue from left to right, and then up and down. If you’re the courageous type, try blowing his mind in different locations, this will give added excitement for both of you.

7. Make noise.

Don’t be quiet, let him know you are enjoying it as much as he is (you should be, he shouldn’t get all the pleasure). Moan as you massage his massive member and the testicles (don’t forget those guys). Make loud slurping noises as you suck. This will also aid you in keeping your mouth wet & moist. Vary the volume of your moans, slurping, and sucking sounds. Slurp loudly, then moan slowly, then suck slightly hard and loud, followed by gentle, quitter sucks. Kiss the length of his shaft while exaggerating the kissing sound. As you make noise, so will he.

Cashanda F. Eleby, M.Ed. is a sexuality educator and consultant. She received her M.Ed. in human sexuality from Widener University. Cashanda’s dedication and passion to sexuality lead her to create SexyShan, LLC to empower and educate people of all ages to embrace their sexuality. She has created & administered sexual health workshops and curricula for adolescents and parents. She is a certified HIV test counselor and enjoys giving lectures on anatomy & reproduction and STI’s at colleges and universities. Cashanda is also a toy consultant, who enjoys coordinating adult parties and teaching adults how to experience sexual pleasure.

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June 20, 2016