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  • Mandy Baby Shares Camming Tips

    Mandy Baby Shares Camming Tips

    29SimplySxy: What are your personal tips for those new to camming?

    Mandy Baby: To become at all successful in the world of camgirls and boys, you need to interact with your audience. Porn is already widely available for free on the internet. Camming is 10% performance and 90% interaction. Your followers/fans want to establish a relationship with you and you should want the same from them. I’ve become friends with my audience and co-performers. I miss them when they’re away and enjoy talking to them as much as I can. It helps to find things you have in common. Some of my most faithful followers share their daily lives with me and I with them. It’s not so much a “job” as it is a lifestyle. Quality is another key factor. You’ll want a decent camera and some good lighting. Make sure you’re groomed and clean! Most importantly—Be yourself. People can spot a fake a mile away. If you’re having to keep up with a made up persona, it’s just going to add more difficulty in becoming successful.

     

    1. Establish real relationships with your fans. They’ll love it as much as you will.
    2. Get a decent webcam and maybe a light or two. It’s 2014 and people expect good quality streaming.
    3. Take a shower. Nobody wants to see someone who doesn’t practice basic hygiene.
    4. Be yourself. If you can’t be yourself on cam then it’s probably not the thing for you.

    SimplySxy: How does camming work when you’re in a relationship/married?

    MandyBaby: It was difficult at first. Emotions definitely come into play when you are sharing yourself in an intimate way with the world. Communication is key. Sometimes people just aren’t comfortable with the idea of their loved one sharing themselves with others and that’s okay. If you’re partner isn’t comfortable at first perhaps explain to them the incentives that come along with camming. There are sexual incentives. My husband and I cam together almost on a daily basis and it has added an extra element of fun to our bed routine. We’ve explored each other more. We’ve tried out new things that others have suggested. We’ve had a lot of excitement brought to our bed through camming. There’s also the financial incentives that don’t hurt a bit 😉 Even though my husband was hesitant to the idea at first, it has definitely helped us in the long run. If you try it and one of you doesn’t like it, you can always stop! It’s a no obligation, no pressure deal!

    1. Be open and communicate with your partner.
    2. Explain the emotional, sexual, and financial incentives.
    3. Give it a shot. You can work together or solo and if you find that it’s not for you then just stop! Simple as that.


    Mandy Baby connects with her fans through twitter @mandybabycams. She also performs at chaturbate.com/mandybabyxxx and together with her best friend Tawney and other girls at chaturbate.com/tawney.
    On her profile on Chaturbate she is featured performing solo, with her husband, and with her best friend, Tawney.

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  • Benefits Of Nude Tantric Massage

    Benefits Of Nude Tantric Massage

    Not only is a nude tantric massage a wonderful way to spend some time with your partner, it also has many health benefits. It is clear that men and women are very different in physical appearance, but their bodies do share some common themes when it comes to sensual relaxation.

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    ​​The first obvious benefit of nude tantric massage is stress reduction. Stress cannot remain in a truly relaxed body. Tantric Massage aims to relax every fiber of the being thus stress is thoroughly removed.  In addition, the mental state of calm and euphoria that follows, last long after your session has ended. Day to day difficulties that must be addressed are viewed and tackled in a completely new and relaxing way.

    Increased vitality and energy is provided via tantric massage. Energy prolongs youth, massage in general along with tantric touch therapy certainly slows the ageing process. The body is able to renew and repair itself more quickly and easily. Moreover, life in general has a more passionate and pleasant hint.

    A unique feature of tantric massage is addressing sexual problems in both men and women. To experience and be more aware of sensations is a very liberating experience. Awareness of tantric breathing technique leads to greater control of ejaculation. In addition, some tantric techniques can help men to extend his lovemaking by delaying orgasm.

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    ​Correct breathing is an integral part of the tantric massage process that helps in everyday life, especially when there is danger of feelings or emotions becoming out of control. A destructive emotions like anger can be decreased rapidly and more balanced feeling take it’s place. The joy of being touched in a tantric way, allows you to deal more easily with the problems of life.

    There is great confusion in the Western imagination when it comes to nude tantric massage. It has become the custom to attach the meaning of a sexual service or a type of seedy massage where everything is allowed except the act; not true.

    There are tantric terms for the sexual organs. The penis is referred to as the ‘Lingam’ and is translated as ‘Wand of Light’ it is viewed and honored as that which channels creative energy and pleasure.  The vagina is known as ‘the Yoni’ translated as the “sacred space” or “sacred temple.” In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love, care and respect.

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     ​So what is a Nude Tantric Massage?

    Relating to relaxation and copious amounts of pleasure, Tantric masssage has been practised for centuries and is derived from the Sanskrit word Tan/Tantra, meaning to expand, extend or to bring forward. It is performed “totally naked” in a bid to encourage a sense of liberation, exclude daily responsibilities and obligations that induce stress of any kind. Of course the choice remain yours. Your tantric masseuse sees your entire body as a whole, thus all areas of the body is treated/touched unlike a conventional massage.

    It is the art of prolonging pleasure and relaxation both mentally and physically without reaching or choosing when to reach orgasm as described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century.

    A tantric couple massage can includes “Karezza” the term used to define a male’s practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called “dry orgasms”, orgasms without ejaculation, are extremely pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue.

    Couples are encouraged to explore, often resulting in intercourse with ‘each other’ your masseuse coaches on what to do to enhance the whole experience if requested.

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    The MAJESTIC Nude Tantric Massage is performed by a selection of skilled, naturist masseuses who visit you at home or in your hotel suite. Visits to us in private Central London Studios can be arranged in advance.

    Known as the Executive Nude Tantric Massage, MAJESTIC tantric massages are a great way to ease stress and jet-lag, prepare you for stressful meetings or simply to put the fizz back into your life. It’s also a great way to rekindle faltering flames in relationships or a treat for yourself.

    Read more and view Video by visiting www.majesticlondonmassage.com


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  • Interview with Dr Roger Libby on Sex Positivity

    Interview with Dr Roger Libby on Sex Positivity

    Interview with Dr Roger Libby

    SimplySxy: What was the inspiration and motivation that made you want to be a sexologist?

    Dr Roger Libby: It was on my parents’ advice! They told me to follow my passion and choose a career that I loved—to do something I was good at, and something I enjoyed. My passion has always been sexual enthusiasm and the excitement sex creates. When I enrolled in graduate school to pursue my passion, my parents were surprised (“We didn’t know you’d take us literally!”), but they shouldn’t have been!

    SimplySxy: It is very common to hear the term “sex positivity” being used these days in various instances. As the pioneer who created the term sex positivity in 1976, what is your definition of it and how has the term evolved to the present?

    Dr Roger Libby: I created and popularized “sex-positive” based on the writings of sexologist Wilhelm Reich in Germany in the 1940’s to emphasize that erotic pleasure is indeed positive—a healthy, enthusiastic and playful option to the overemphasis on sex as a problem. Sex doesn’t have to be a problem! Being sex-positive means affirming sexual open, joyous sexual freedom and consensual, lusty pleasure. It means supporting rather than stifling sexually free and uplifting choices, and offering sex education that is pro-sexual rather than anti-sexual (as with the current emphasis on abstinence). My award-winning university textbook in 1980 with Gilbert Nass and Mary Pat Fisher, Sexual Choices, was dedicated “Toward a Sex-Positive Society.

    SimplySxy: One of your specialities is in couple counselling and sex therapy. What is one advice you can give to couples in long- term relationships in order to have regular sex and enjoy it as well?

    Dr Roger Libby: In my Seattle couples counseling practice, I emphasize long term relationships benefit from prioritizing and varying acts of sexual passion. Lust and love need equal billing, so passion is encouraged. Rather than overemphasizing work and children, sexual playtime needs to include sharing and acting on erotic fantasies with plenty of laughter and imagination. This means creating sexual experiences that are not a repeat of the last lovemaking session. It means having sex by a river and not just in a bed. It means experimenting with sexual positions, oral sex and for some, anal sex. For some couples, it means engaging in sex with others at a swinger party, or as part of an open or polyamorous relationship. We cannot assume that monogamy suits all couples for their entire lifetime together. I would play down alcohol and for some couples, marijuana can enhance sex.

    SimplySxy: Your book, The Naked Truth About Sex, aims to provide enough information to teenagers and college students to make wise sexual choices. It is no secret that teenagers are having sex and many are sexually active at an increasingly younger age. Is sexual education in schools now more important than ever?

    Dr Roger Libby: My book is available, along with my humor book, at Amazon. Both books underscore an informed, consensual and playful approach to sex. I did a reanalysis of a Zogby poll for my teenage book, and I found that only 0.5% of females and 1% of males in the youngest age cohort, 18‒24, had not had sex. So much for abstinence before marriage! I carried out an extensive interview study of a random sample of parents to ascertain their attitudes toward high school sex education in the mid-1960s. Most wanted sex education, but they wanted their basically sex-negative view of education touting abstinence and monogamy for all. Today’s sex education in public high schools is still limited and very traditional. If we only learn about the dangers of sex, there is no balance resulting in objective, comprehensive sex education. Sex education is extremely important today, but given the resistance from political correctness, The Internet and phone apps offer the most promising avenues to real sex education. The schools and the media have failed teenagers and young adults by watering down and moralizing about sex. This will never work!

    SimplySxy: We understand that there are schools and some education systems in various parts of the world which do not provide adeuate sexual education to students. For example, promoting the use of condoms might be seen as promoting sex. What do you think needs to be done for this to change?

    Dr Roger Libby: Some schools include information about condoms, but they still fail to affirm pleasure. They tend to focus on STIs and unwanted pregnancy to the near exclusion of a sex-positive form of sex education. Notable exceptions are Sweden and Holland, where sex education is thorough and non-moralistic. It is true that contraceptive education is still highly controversial, as many adults in power view such education as promoting sex. Even in my mid-1960’s study of parents, most approved of contraceptive education. Birth control and abortion make sexual freedom possible. Given recent Supreme Court decisions about birth control, it is obvious that we reside in a theocracy with the lack of true separation of church and state. As Wilhelm Reich stressed, rigid religion is the arch-enemy of sex.

    SimplySxy: You have previously announced that sexual “addiction” does not exist. Does this mean that one can never have too much sex and that there is no such thing as excessive masturbation/sexual activity?

    Dr Roger Libby: “Sex Addiction” and the notion of Sex Addiction Therapy is an unproven concept that has not been empirically supported. The DSM manual that therapists use to diagnose mental conditions chose not to include this irrational concept in its most recent edition, because there is not sufficient research support or conceptual clarity to justify its inclusion. You can’t be addicted to yourself. Sex is part of us. The moralistic connotation of the concept is inescapable. There are far too many mental health counselors who claim to solve “sex addiction.” Marriage and family counselor organizations have done us a great disservice by promoting “sex addiction,” as if it is a viable reality. It is not. This does not mean that some are not obsessive and compulsive about sex, and they need some counseling to put sex in balance. If you can’t make it to work because you are masturbating to mostly unimaginative porn, this is a problem, but otherwise, how could we have too much sex?! “Sex addiction” counselors assume there is a standard that dictates what is normal sexually, and this is untrue. Cognitive-behavior therapy helps these people enjoy sex without obsessing about it in an unbalanced manner. Contrary to “sex addiction” counselors, sex is not something to fear. These counselors tend to use the twelve step program to solve addictions, but this does not work, because this outdated AA approach does not get at internal locus of control. We are not powerless to take control of our behavior. To the contrary, we have the potential to take complete control of our thoughts, feelings and behavior, including sexually.

    SimplySxy: Thank you very much Dr Roger Libby for taking your time out to answer our questions. We greatly appreciate your effort and am sure our readers have enjoyed the interview as well.


    To learn more, visit the Website of Seattle sex therapist and couples counselor, Dr. Roger Libby at: http://www.drrogerlibby.com

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  • 10 Sexual Fantasies to Try Tonight

    10 Sexual Fantasies to Try Tonight

    1. Sex with a Stranger

    You’re on the packed subway during rush hour and pressed tightly against you is a tall, red-haired stunner. You feel your bodies rocking together in tandem with the motion of the train. Then suddenly, your object of desire starts to move away. Oh no, you’re not getting off at the same stop! However, your beauty looks back at you with bedroom eyes and smiles. Be it the sexy stranger you spotted on the subway, the waiter at the restaurant when you’re out with your spouse, the shy woman who lives in the next apartment, or simply a person you conjure up in your imagination, the common fantasy of sex with a stranger allows you to have the thrill of anonymous sex, without the risks.

    2. Threesome or Group Sex

    There certainly is a lot to imagine if you think about a threesome, also called ménage à trois, or group sex.  Imagine one mouth on your mouth, one mouth on your genitals, and another on your nipple, while six hands caress your body simultaneously. Maybe you’ve done it before, and the sheer excitement of remembering that time really turns you on. Or perhaps you hope to try it someday, and let the thoughts of what you’ll do fuel your fantasy.

    3. Sex with a Celebrity

    Maybe someday you’ll meet Jennifer Lawrence or Matt Bomer in person, and you’ll finally get to have mad, passionate sex with him or her. However, chances are pretty silm and so in the mean time, make do with fantasizing about your favorite celebrities. Sometimes it’s the fantasy of having sex with someone powerful that gets people on during these celeb fantasies. Other times, it’s just the fact that we all share a common pool of sexy celebs, whose images we can easily tap into our fantasies. Whether it’s Angelina Jolie making love to you in a hot tub, or Kim Kardashian fondling you when you’re romping in her bed, it can be great fun to fantasize about celebrities. Unless you do run with the rich and famous, these fantasies will usually never become reality. And that’s a good thing—otherwise, Pamela Anderson would be mighty sore from all the guys she’s had to have sex with in real life.

    4. Sex with a Co-worker or Someone You Have a Crush On

    Each morning when you walk past her desk at work, the smell of her perfume triggers your endless stream of fantasies. You don’t think you should ask her out, because you work together. But it sure is great to have her in your fantasies each night. You’ve know him for almost a year, and even though both of you are “just friends,” and you only remotely attracted to him, it’s still fun to include him in your fantasies when you masturbate. The only problem is that sometimes when you’re together, he catches you looking at him funny or the smirk on your face when you suddenly recall the position that you imagined him in the night before! It is so common to fantasize about the people in our lives. You see them and think about them all the time anyway, so why not add them to your fantasies?

    5. Sex with Someone of the Same Gender

    Your breasts rubbing against hers. Or your penis in your left hand, and his in your right palm. Sounds like a fun fantasy? Whether you are gay, straight, or bi, fantasizing about someone of the same gender is natural and normal. It can be interesting to imagine a type of sex that you may never have, or to fantasize about a sexual alternative that you already enjoy or might be keen on trying. Either way, you can experience novel ideas and new sensations when you fantasize about someone of the same gender.

    6. Force Fantasies and BDSM

    Would you ever want someone you barely know to rip your shirt off, grab you by the hair, throw you down on the floor and have sex with you? Most people have no desire to be forced into sex, or to force someone to have sex in real life; however, force fantasies are extremely common. These are fantasies that should never be acted out. (Unless you have your partner’s complete consent!) However, it’s perfectly fine to imagine force fantasies. If you fantasize about forcing someone to have sex with you, then it could mean that you feel like you have no control in your real life and hence the change of role in your fantasy. Or if you like to fantasize about relinquishing control, then maybe you hold much power in real life and yearn to give it up in your fantasies. Would you ever want your lover to tie your hands behind your back and then put you over his or her knee for a good spanking? People who fantasize about being tied up often crave a “guilt-free” sexual encounter and that they can’t resist the sex, because they are tied up and in a compromised situation. Those who fantasize about being spanked might be into BDSM in real life. Sometimes it makes them feel as if they are bad and need to be punished, and for them, being bad feels so good.

    7. Sex While Someone Is Watching

    You unbutton your shirt slowly and feel a certain thrill, because you know that you are really showing off. You touch your chest, slide your hand down your body, and, as you grow more excited, you begin to masturbate. For some people, being an exhibitionist can be very exciting, at least in their fantasy. You can pretend you are a sexual performer, showing off for the observer and turning the observer on, too. You could fantasize that you are having sex with a stranger and your partner is watching, or that you are having sex with your partner and your neighbor is watching. In reality, you might find it embarrassing to actually have someone watch, but it could work great for a fantasy!

    8. Sex in Public

    Can you imagine that you are having sex from behind, bent over the bar at your favorite club, or having sex while on the dance floor of a crowded nightclub, doing it while rolling around on a crowded beach, or doing it sitting on the highway divider during rush hour? Sex in public is risky in real life. Yet in fantasy, you don’t have to worry about being arrested for indecent exposure. You can go for whatever thoughts turn you on. No one can catch you in public if it’s only in your mind.

    9. Sex in an Exotic Location

    Some have conquer the Grand Canyon simply to give a blowjob to their lover, while others just fantasize about it. You may never be able to go down  give a hand job on the top of the Empire State Building, or do it with a UPS guy in the back of his truck, but those are easy fantasies to conjure up. Your fantasies of sex in exotic locations can take you places you’ve never been. Or they can transport you back to places you’ve already been or plan to visit. If you’ve had sex in your backyard, you can fantasize about gallivanting in the geraniums anytime, without ever having to go outside. If you plan to make love on the beach during your vacation to Cancun, you can fantasize about that even before the plane has taken off. Maybe there’s some place where you’d never have the nerve to have sex, like on a roller coaster. Your imagination can put you there, and you won’t even have to wait in line for the first seat! Wherever your mind takes you, it is safe and fun to put yourself in exotic locations in your fantasies.

    10. Sex with an Ex

    If you’ve had the most exciting sex of your life with your ex, why not let him or her into your fantasies? Some people simply cannot imagine fantasizing about an ex because after their orgasm, they get depressed about the breakup, or grossed out by the fact that the ex was around, even in a fantasy. But for others, sex-with-the-ex-fantasies are easy to call on anytime. It’s sex that you can remember, and you know what it felt like. You are just calling on your past to get off in the present.


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  • Put her in the mood for Sex

    Put her in the mood for Sex

    Have there been instances when the sex was not as as wild because she wasn’t up for it?  Try these few tips the next time round to get her in the mood and have great sex every time.

    1.  Kiss her

    Kissing is a fantastic form of foreplay and can be wildly exciting in itself.  Start by kissing her slow and gently, focusing your lips on kissing her cheeks, moving on to her chin and her neck.  Then, draw her lower lip into your mouth and run the tip of your tongue across her teeth.

    2.  Create anticipation

    Talk sexy by complimenting her during foreplay.  Blindfolding her creates anticipation and whispering in her ear allows her imagination to run wild on what you might do.

    3.  Enhance the mood

    turn the bedroom into a hot sexy haven with candles, fragrance and music.  Find music that lulls the both of you into a deeper zone of letting go, one that helps you synchronize yourselves into a mutual sense of rhythm and pacing.  The right music really can stimulate the senses.  Keep all the essential items you need nearby such as condoms and message oils.

    4.  Touch her in all the right places

    When she starts to feel aroused, nibble her earlobe while breathing gently into her ear.  Caress her breasts and spend time kissing and stroking her inner thighs without coming into contact with her clitoris at all.

    5.  Shower together

    Make out in the shower and be her bathroom slave.  Undress her, soap her entire body and give her a head massage while shampooing her hair.  Use the shower head to wash her pubic hair, and tease her vagina as you go along.

    6.  Using mirrors

    Watching yourselves infront of the mirror can be doubly exciting.  Stand behind her and fondle her breasts while kissing her neck at the same time, she will have full view of what you are doing to her body.  Move your hands slowly down to her vagina and tease her with your fingers, making eye contact with her through the mirror.


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  • Caution: May Contain Love

    Caution: May Contain Love

    foundersLooking to send a friend a gift because they got dumped? Molala, a Hong Kong based web store has the answer. In 2013, when they couldn’t find the right gift for a friend whose fiancé ran off her wedding planner (yes it happens and you can read the full story here), Judith Hoffman and Vene Cheng decided to take matters into their own hands and Molala was born.

    Arriving at our doorstep, our little gift basket was definitely not what we had expected, which I guess proves that both Judith and Vene have hit the nail on this one. From chocolates, voodoo dolls to 750ml holding wine glasses, Molala’s products are sarcastic, light-hearted and full of surprises. Perfect to turn that frown into a smile, or the other way around for whoever’s on the other end of the voodoo doll.

    With over 40 basket ideas and quality control process that involves champagne and brownies, Molala’s probably found their niche and is definitely one gift store you’d want to have at the back of your mind. Check it out today at www.molalacompany.com.

    BASKET- Breakup_4 (Better than Sex) $225


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  • Erotic novel: Keeping Sarah is out today

    Erotic novel: Keeping Sarah is out today

    Julie Shelton’s Keeping Sarah is out today.
    SimplySxy takes this opportunity to interview Julie and find out more about Keeping Sarah, the inspiration behind her writing and future novels in the making.

    Can you tell us a little about your new book Keeping Sarah that just came out on August 7th?

    Keeping Sarah is my third contemporary BDSM ménage romance for Siren Publishers. It is the third and final installment in the series which began with Loving Sarah, published in 2012, and its sequel, Owning Sarah, published last September. By the time I finished writing Loving Sarah, it was clear to me that I had enough material for more than one book, hence the sequel, Owning Sarah. Both are MFM ménages. But even though Owning Sarah ended with Sarah, Jesse and Adam’s wedding and their happy ending, I couldn’t stop thinking about the three characters. I couldn’t help but feel that Jesse and Adam needed to explore the feelings they were developing for each other as well as for their beloved wife, Sarah. So, Keeping Sarah was born. But this is Jesse Colter and Adam Sinclair and nothing comes easy for them. So, in addition to telling Jesse and Adam’s evolving love story, Keeping Sarah is also a harrowing thrill ride of deadly car chases, Albanian blood feuds, a sex slave auction, murder, betrayal, and gut-wrenching intrigue.

    Please tell us how the idea came to you for Jesse Colter, your main hero. Be sure to include all the fun details.

    It started with his name. Jesse Colter. It was the perfect name for a Dominant, alpha hero. I spent months thinking about him and coming up with a compelling back-story for him.

    Abandoned by his Native American mother, neglected and abused by his alcoholic bully of a father, Jesse is embittered, angry and going nowhere fast. At age nineteen, he takes a summer job as part-time gardener at the Marshall estate and meets thirteen-year-old Sarah Marshall. To a hardened biker and sexual Dominant, Sarah Marshall is like some fey, magical creature from another world, and he is enchanted by her. For the first time in his life, Jesse has someone who thinks he’s wonderful. Someone who listens to him and values his opinion. Someone who makes him laugh and who cares for him. Sarah Marshall quickly becomes someone precious to him. Someone to treasure and protect. Someone to love. At first he loves her as an adult loves a child.

    But as Sarah grows into a beautiful, voluptuous young woman who makes no effort to hide her growing love for him, Jesse is terrified that his carnal feelings for her and his Dominant nature will end up destroying the one thing he treasures most—Sarah Marshall. So he leaves their small town of Marshall’s Creek and joins the Navy, becoming a SEAL. Eight years of grueling training and dangerous missions give him a sense of identity and self-worth. He realizes that he is a man of honor and integrity and is finally able to admit to himself that he needs Sarah in order to make him complete. Determined to do whatever it takes to win her trust and her love, he returns to Marshall’s Creek. That’s where their love story begins in Loving Sarah. It continues in Owning Sarah, and finishes with a bang in Keeping Sarah.

    What influenced you to send your first book to a publisher? How long did it take?

    I spent four years writing, editing, polishing, re-writing Loving Sarah. It was a never-ending cycle. Then I lost it. Completely wiped it out of my computer. I was devastated. The thought of having to recreate an entire 400-page novel from scratch was so daunting, I fell into a deep depression. Then around four months after I lost it, I had to print something and that’s when I discovered that the entire novel, minus the last 15 pages, was still in the print queue. I was elated! And I knew that I had to send it off to a publisher immediately, before my ignorance of computers caused something else to happen to it. Siren was the first publisher I submitted it to, mainly because they published a lot of my favorite authors. Around three weeks after I sent it to them, they emailed me and asked me to make a few changes. I figured this was a pretty good sign, thinking if they weren’t interested in it at all, they wouldn’t have bothered to ask for the changes. They offered to publish it less than two weeks after I submitted the revised manuscript.

    Could you tell us a couple of favorite authors who inspired you to write?

    Sure. Lora Leigh; Maya Banks; CheriseSinclairSophieOakLisaMarieRiceLaurenDaneJoeyWHillLeahBrookeEdenBradleyKristenAshleyLexiBlakeShaylaBlackFionaArcherLyndaAicher—and that’s just her first name! My earliest influences, years and years ago, back in the dark ages, were Mary Stewart’s romantic suspense novels and Phyllis Whitney’s gothic novels.

    Is music a factor for you while you are writing? Do certain songs put you in the right frame of mind to write certain stories?

    When I put music on, it’s to listen to it, so I usually find it distracting when I’m writing because I want to sing or hum along with it. It’s hard to write when you’re bopping around in your chair, singing at the top of your lungs, lol

    If you could collaborate with one author who would it be?

    Good grief, there’s no way I could pick just one! Go to the list above, close your eyes and point. I’ll go with her.

    What is the strangest source of writing inspiration you’ve ever had?

    Years ago I was watching the movie, Becket (with Richard Burton and Peter o’Toole). In one scene there was a minor female character dressed in a blue gown. I was finishing my BA in French at the time and doing extensive research on life in a thirteenth-century French castle.

    Well, the minute I saw that gown, an entire romance novel sprang into my mind. I couldn’t write it down fast enough. And since I was taking all my research notes on 3 x 5 index cards, that’s what I wrote the novel on. I wound up with two shoeboxes full of index cards, one with all my research notes, the second with my novel. Last year I transcribed the entire book onto my computer and that became Dark Warrior, my third book for Siren, published in January of this year.

    What are you working on now?

    Oh, I am so glad you asked that! I am nearly half-way through with Passion’s Dream, the first book in my new Passion Lake series. It’s a series of books about a bunch of Jesse and Adam’s former SEAL buddies, all characters in the three Sarah books, who buy a bankrupt town around thirty miles down the road from Marshall’s Creek and turn it into a profitable tourist attraction. Passion’s Dream is about Clay “Raven” Nighthorse, who is hired to protect Leah Stanhope, a woman with whom he had a brief encounter three years ago on a California beach. When their location is compromised, he brings her to his ranch in Passion Lake, where he has plenty of friends who are willing to help keep her safe while he devotes himself to proving that he wants and needs her in his life. Permanently.

    Look for Passion’s Dream, Passion’s Fury, and Passion’s Hope, the first three exciting books in the Passion Lake series, at the beginning of 2015.

    Below is a brief excerpt from Passion’s Dream.

    Unperturbed by her anger, he reached out and placed his fingertips against her cheek.

    She jerked her head away, but otherwise couldn’t move. It was as if she’d been turned to stone. “Don’t touch me!” She’d meant it to be an icy command, but instead it came out a choked, frightened whisper.

    Ignoring her, he sent his fingers on a journey along the line of her jaw, down the slender column of her neck. He paused at the base of her neck, holding the tip of his index finger over the pulse hammering there, betraying her agitation. The journey continued down over her collar bones, across the creamy, sloping mound of her breast to the edge of her bikini top. When she made no move to stop him, he hooked his forefinger into the stretchy material. When she still didn’t move, he allowed his fingernail to scrape against her tender flesh as he traced the outline of the fabric down to its lowest point—the point where it stretched across the shadowed valley between her breasts.

    “Don’t—”It was a choked whisper. She closed her eyes, but she made no attempt to remove his hand. She was trembling, every clamoring nerve aware of his nearness, the potent sexuality of his hard, male body so close to hers. ‘I-I’m engaged to be married.”

    “Ah, yes.” His lips twisted. “The ever-devoted fiance. Tell me, Leah,” he tugged her toward him, the weight of his hand pulling the stretchy, jersey top downward and outward, threatening to release the rounded fullness of her breasts. “Tell me about him. What’s it like making love to an old man?”

    She should have pushed him away. She should have stepped back—anything to put distance between them. Instead, she stared up at him helplessly, trapped as much by the confusion leaping within her as she was by the sensual spell he seemed to be weaving around her like a web.

    Resting his left elbow on the underwater shelf, he lifted his other hand to shape the back of her head, his long fingers threading through the damp silk of her hair. “Does his touch arouse you?” Slowly, sensuously, he pulled her toward him, closing the distance between them, until his firm, mobile mouth was less than an inch from her own, his breath warm against her lips. “Set you on fire?” The hard contours of his body brushed tantalizingly against the softly rounded curves of her own as the cool water undulated against them. “Does he kiss you like this?” Clay persisted, dropping a warm, feather-light kiss near one corner of her trembling mouth, “like a father? Or perhaps like an uncle or older brother, like this,” he pressed his lips first to her cheek, then, tilting her head down, her forehead. “Or does he kiss you like a lover? Like this”—and his mouth closed over hers in a dark, golden storm, his lips expertly parting hers to admit the probing sweetness of his tongue.

    Leah stiffened and tried to pull away, but it was too late. The flame ignited by his touch was all-consuming. Without volition, her arms went around his neck, her legs circled his waist, ankles locking behind him. The sheer size of the erection pressing against her sex made her gasp. Her belly plummeted, sending moisture gushing out of her pussy onto the thin strip of fabric that was her bikini bottom. She’d never been so aroused in her life. Her traitorous body arched toward his, her hips grinding her sex against his cock. She moaned into his mouth as his arms went tightly around her back, crushing her soft breasts to his hard chest. Locked together, they sank beneath the surface of the water. Instead of panicking and struggling to break free, Leah wound her arms tightly around his neck and held on, trusting in his care of her.

    Without breaking the kiss, Clay pushed off the deep end of the pool with a powerful thrust of his muscular legs, gliding swiftly through the water to the center of the pool, where he could stand up. They broke the surface still locked together, their mouths tearing apart only long enough to drag air into their oxygen-starved lungs before crushing back together, tongues dueling passionately.

    Leah loosened her hold on his neck, running her hands wonderingly over his shoulders and back, savoring the power of the muscles flexing beneath his satin-smooth skin, delighting in the heat of his body beneath the cool slickness of the pool water. In spite of the pervading smell of chlorine, she could still smell his clean, masculine scent. Losing all reason, she broke off the kiss to bury her face in the side of his neck, where it curved into his shoulder, inhaling that scent deep into her lungs. Daringly, she put out her tongue and took a tiny lick of his warm, moist skin. God, he tasted so good! He felt so good! She couldn’t stifle the groan that ripped from her throat. Her hands curved around to the back of his head, her fingers gripping the thick, wet mass of his hair, holding his head still. She drew a shuddering breath, trying desperately to get herself under control. This is a mistake! This is a colossal mistake!


    Keeping Sarah is out and can be purchased on www.bookstrand.com/keeping-sarah


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  • J.A. Wiśniewska, Erotica Author

    J.A. Wiśniewska, Erotica Author

    J.A. Wiśniewska kick started her foray into erotica eighteen months ago after discovering the site Booksiesilk and decided to try her hand at erotica. Armed with a background in journalism and publishing, she quickly saw success with her three published short stories on Booksiesilk which spurred her on to work on her debut novel, Exploration.

    Recently released, Exploration is a short story compilation exploring the different aspects of sex and human sexuality. Ranging from plain vanilla to more risqué tales, Exploration leads the reader to encounter various characters ever ready to experiment with their sexuality. From a woman who finds her new masseur impossible to resist to a thief who, as punished for his crime, becomes the plaything of the sheriff’s wife, Exploration has been quick to receive a 5 star review on Amazon.

    A European writer who credits Golden Angel and Megalanthropus as her favorite erotica writers, and Joanne Harris, Mark Haddon, Kate Mosse and JK Rowling as her favorite authors, she presently resides in Krakow Poland.

    SimplySxy had the opportunity to sit down with J.A. to talk about the release of her new novel and her thoughts on sexuality and erotica.

    SimplySxy: J.A., tell us more about Exploration and what was the driving force behind the ten short stories.

    J.A. Wiśniewska: Earlier this year I had a couple of ideas for stories and, seeing how easy it was to publish on Booksiesilk, I wrote them and put them up on the site. After quite a few encouraging comments, and then finding out from a friend about how now self-publishing is virtually free and very easy, I decided to give myself the challenge of writing a book. As I am still fairly new to erotica, I found that I was exploring with different aspects of sex and sexuality in my writing, seeing what I enjoyed writing about. And so Exploration was born. The book is a collection of ten short stories, all looking at different aspects of sex, including romance-style stories, masturbation, sex in public and light BDSM.

    SimplySxy: How does the perspective of a fan differ from that of an author in your opinion?

    J.A. Wiśniewska: I suppose authors can be more critical of others’ work. Thankfully I haven’t come across any negative comments when using Booksiesilk, and nor would I write any: just because I don’t like it doesn’t mean someone else won’t. Speaking from a personal perspective, I’m especially critical of a story when there is appalling spelling, grammar and punctuation: I’m a real stickler for it and it really dampens my enjoyment when someone just hasn’t bothered to proofread their stuff or, as it is in some cases, hasn’t bothered trying to write correctly in the first place. Perhaps a fan of the genre who just wants to read a sexy story to get in the mood to have sex with their partner wouldn’t mind something like this, but for me it’s a real sticking point.

    SimplySxy: In your opinion, how has the onset of the digital media and easy access to pornography impacted erotica in the written form?

    J.A. Wiśniewska: There has been both a positive impact and a negative impact, in my opinion. Living in a digital world as we do today means more people can access pornography and erotica: I, for example, would never have started reading erotica if it hadn’t been for the internet. And from conversations I’ve had, with men especially, I think that people are starting to wake up to the fact that erotica in the written form has far more scope for the imagination than visual pornography. I’m not saying pornography doesn’t have its place – it does – but in the written form we can explore things on a deeper level, a more emotional level, than we can with pornography. On the other hand, the large number of free erotica sites – where people can publish their work with great ease – has meant that there is now a plethora of work online, not all of it good. In fact, most of the stuff I read online is pretty bad. A lot of stories have no real storyline, just really badly-described sex. Of course it’s all subjective, and for a lot of people they write for fun and don’t care if other people like it, which is fine. But from my point of view it does make finding stuff I would like reading very difficult as I have to wade through stories I don’t like.  

    SimplySxy: We’re keen to see more works from you in times to come. Are you planning for a next novel? 

    J.A. Wiśniewska: I do plan to do a follow-up book for Exploration with ten more stories; I’ve already started a couple. But the main project I am working on at the moment is a retelling of the story of Janosik, who is basically the Polish version of Robin Hood. In legend, he committed an act of bravery in front of three witches. As a reward they bestowed upon him three powers which aided him in his activities to rob the rich to give to the poor. As an erotica writer I’m having a lot of fun playing around with that. 

    SimplySxy: Thank you J.A. for your time and for sharing your opinions so openly with us.

    J.A. Wiśniewska is available for interviews. For booking interviews please contact jawisniewska83@gmail.com.

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  • New BDSM Erotica: Keeping Sarah

    New BDSM Erotica: Keeping Sarah

    Honeymooning in England, Jesse Colter, Adam Sinclair and their beloved wife, Sarah, are heading for their friend Thorne Cahill’s BDSM club for dinner when another car deliberately tries to run them off the road. Thanks to their own driver’s skills, the other car is destroyed, the two unknown occupants killed.

    Through Thorne, they discover that they’re the targets of a “blood feud”, instigated by Konstandin Sokolov, son of Viktor Sokolov, the Albanian mobster who had unwisely kidnapped Sarah a few months back, and paid for it with his life. They also discover that Thorne’s guests, ruthless human traffickers, have gathered at the club for a slave auction being held the following night. Konstandin Sokolov happens to be one of the buyers.

    Fraught with treachery, betrayal, and deadly danger, Keeping Sarah keeps the reader on a knife’s edge of tension, while simultaneously exploring the deepening emotional and physical commitment between Jesse and Adam. They already trust each other with their lives. Now they must learn how to trust each other with their love.

    Excerpt:

    Then Jesse turned to Sarah. Bending down, he put his hands beneath her arms and lifted her up off the floor. Turning her in his arms, he unhooked the garters, then unlaced the corset, letting it fall to the silk carpet. As soon as the beautiful, but restrictive garment fell away from her, Sarah took the first deep breath she’d had in hours. “Step out of your shoes, baby,” he crooned, rolling down her stockings and removing them one foot at a time. “Now bend over and grab your ankles. I owe you a spanking.”

    With a whimper, she assumed the undignified position, her second of the night, wrapping her fingers around her ankles while he got on his knees behind her to remove the vibrators from her pussy and ass. Dropping the toys on top of the crumpled corset, he palmed her ass cheeks, his flexing fingers making deep indentations in her sweet flesh. “Spread your legs, baby, or you’re gonna fall over.” A smile curved his lips upward as she slid her feet outward. God, I love this ass! He slapped her sharply, the sound and her subsequent cry loud in the quiet room. “Count,” was all he said, transfixed by the erotic sight of his handprint blooming on her skin, first white, then red.

    “Y-yes, Master. O-one.”

    “How many have you earned tonight, slave?”

    “Ten, Master.” Her voice was barely audible, muffled by her position.

    “There will be no warm-up, so I’ll make them quick. Count them all.” In rapid succession, he delivered ten blistering swats to her backside and by the time she counted the last one, her ass was fiery red and she was sobbing in pain.

    Crap, that hurt! And yet, it felt so good. So damn good. The heat from her ass seemed to be having an effect on her clit, as if the two were connected by wires pulsing and crackling with electricity. Her sobs turned into moans as he stroked and kneaded the heat more deeply into her flesh, sending it straight to her pussy until her clit felt like it was on fire.

    Still gripping her ass cheeks, he lowered his head, slanting it sideways to flick the tip of his tongue across her throbbing little nub. She jerked and cried out as pleasure consumed her. Then he straightened, pulling her up after him, and steered her toward the bed. If Adam was in sub-space, then Sarah was right there with him, lost and drifting and needing Jesse’s loving care. It was now his duty and responsibility to love them and keep them safe and give them the pleasure they had both earned and richly deserved.

    “Climb up, baby,” he said, assisting her up onto the bed. “On your hands and knees above Adam, pussy over his face, head over his cock.” As he was talking, he, too, was getting on the bed, crawling across its enormous expanse toward Adam’s feet. “Legs apart,” he ordered and Adam slid his feet across the silky sheets. “Prepare Sarah.”

    At the quiet command, Sarah’s core convulsed again, sending out another gush of fresh cream. God, she was so ready to come! She had been so highly aroused for so long, now that it was finally going to happen, it was all she could focus on. Without warning, Adam reached up and stroked his fingers through her slit, from front to back before thrusting two fingers deep inside her sheath hovering so tantalizingly above his head. He pressed his thumb against her puckered anal opening, pushing insistently, until the muscle relaxed and sucked it in. Sarah stopped breathing. With wicked skill, he thrust in and out of both her anus and vagina, pinching the membrane between his thumb and fingers as he stroked, quickly re-stoking the fires of need in her sex, burning just beneath the surface. A thin, high wail escaped her lips as pleasure devoured her.

    “Christ, Jess,” Adam muttered over the wet, sucking noises his fingers were making as he pumped them in and out of Sarah’s sheath, “you should see what I’m seeing. Our little slave has the most succulent pussy in the world. And it’s dripping all over the place.”

    “Sarah,” Jesse ordered, “Take Adam into your mouth.”


    Julie Shelton’s third and final installment Keeping Sarah will be available from 7th August 2014.  Watch out for SimplySxy’s interview with Julie on the 7th to find out more about Keeping Sarah and her next erotica in the works.


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  • 10 Great Reasons to Masturbate

    10 Great Reasons to Masturbate

    You might have heard various slang’s for masturbation.  A few come to mind, such as beating the meat; honk the horn; flick the bean; taco time; polish the helmet and shake the snake.  But do you know that there are actually many good reasons to partake in this solo activity? For those who think that only males masturbate, you should know that even females do the deed too, read it here if you haven’t! (It’s true, female masturbation does exist)

    We have listed 10 of the many for you to give the next time you get caught masturbating, and no, masturbation doesn’t cause you to go blind.

    1.  It feels awesome.

    2.  It is self-cultivating and teaches us more about our own body; what turns us on and what doesn’t.  Masturbation helps one identify what our basic sexual needs are and how best to satisfy them.  Tell this to your partner and you have a solid basis for a sizzling sex life.

    3.  It helps to release tension and makes us sleep better —a secret sleeping pill without no side-effects!

    4.  We learn to separate love from sex.  Being more able to distinguish sex-affairs from love-affairs as we realise having an orgasm doesn’t mean we’re in love.

    5.  For those who are single, it prevents you from jumping over walls or sleeping with the person you meet.

    6.  It’s totally harmless.  No risk of STDs!  No pregnancy worries!

    7.  It has great beauty treatment.  Orgasm improves blood circulation, helps to combat the effects of stress and makes skin glow!

    8.  You only have to concentrate purely on your own pleasure and not worry about someone else’s.

    9.  The more you masturbate, the more orgasms you’ll be capable of having both with and without your partner.

    10. By giving yourself an orgasm, that is true sexual independence.

    So what are you waiting for?  Stroke away!!

    09 Strokes

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