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Alone for Valentine’s?


Alone for Valentine’s?

Alone for Valentine’s? You CAN Still Get Off…

… with yourself. Who says that you have to be partnered and who has the audacity to condition you into thinking that Valentine’s Day is only for lovers? As you will know if you have read my column here on SimplySxy before – I am a great fan of masturbation. I am also a believer in the art of self-love so let’s get to it…

Picture it: Valentine’s Day 2015, you, yourself and a box of tricks 😉 Draw the blinds, turn the lights down low and get yourself ready by taking a romantic bath with flickering candles and soft music in the background.

And if you’re struggling to picture that, if you can’t quite see how to make that much effort ‘just’ for yourself, allow me to tell you a story…

Once upon a time I was in the supermarket where I go very regularly and the girl at the checkout knows me well. I was putting my produce of a huge turkey, candles, bottle of Champagne, sumptuous dessert and various entrées and nibbles onto the conveyor belt and as she was scanning the items she said:

‘Expecting company?’

‘No’ I replied

‘I thought you lived on your own?’ said the cheeky cashier.

‘I do. This is all for me. I’m taking myself to dinner’ she looked a little shocked, then confused. It seems that we as human beings are looked upon as ‘odd’ when we show ourselves some lovin’. I find this incredibly sad. I also find it depressing that so many of us actually dread ‘VDay’ – sounds a little like ‘D-Day’ don’t you think?

So how can you take a tip or two from my supermarket experience? Can you take yourself to dinner on Valentine’s and make love to yourself all night long? I’ve written loads about masturbation and how to get you off but I have also written loads about how loneliness can kill us from the inside out. Let’s put a stop to that right now and realise that we are worth it.

Let me just give you a few more practical hints to get you going…

You know that ‘box of tricks’ I mentioned? Well you can turn this into a treasure chest by placing your favourite sex toys, underwear (man) lingerie (woman), cock rings, clit teasers, candles, scented oils and maybe even your favourite DVD and/or magazine which may or may not be porn related. Whatever floats your boat. Then… keep the box for special occasions just as you would save your special underwear for that special guest.

Tonight you are that special guest. You are in for a treat…

Do as I described previously: dim the lights and get yourself in the mood to really take the time to enjoy your body and your evening alone with the best person you know: you.

Please do also take a look at my previous articles here on SimplySxy on Masturbation, which will take you to the place few have been – a place so special it would be a shame to miss out by distracting yourself with a night on the town. You can go out on the town anytime – make this night for YOU.

Choose this moment on this day to really remind yourself what love is all about. Don’t get drawn into all that commercialised crap and simply be the sexy loving human being that you are. I trust you … Yes: I do 🙂

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Matt Chase

Matt Chase is a Sex Worker and Writer with professional training in Counselling and Psychotherapy. He is also an ex-nurse and so you can imagine how he makes the business of sex interesting. He believes that Sex Work is a Caring Profession. Matt, who is known as ‘Matt-at-Lotus’ to his clients, specialises in helping men to connect emotionally using touch, kink, breathing exercises and horny adventures. Matt believes passionately that you can make love on a one night stand and encourages men to explore this belief by putting it into practice. He works as a professional Escort, Sex Worker, Sexual Masseur and also writes on Sex and Relationships, Kink, Connecting Emotionally and Mental Health. He blogs at: and can be found at: He is based in Manchester UK and travels internationally.


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