For me, camming is a way for me to show off this body I’m proud of in a way that gives me control over my environment. I have fun with it whether I’m solo or not, and it can be very reaffirming sometimes.
What Performing On Cam Is Like
Make no mistake, this is a job. It’s fun, I set my own hours, and I can decide on what happens when, but there’s a lot more to it than sitting in front of a camera naked and having fun with yourself. Hours of work on make-up, hair, hygiene, and self promotion go into every show I do. A three hour show can wind up being 6-7 hours of work. Still, it’s better than retail.
Toughest Thing Being A Trans Performer
There’s actually a lot of trans performers out there, as many as cis performers; it can be difficult to stand out.
Favorite Scene To Perform
I like being topped by a cute femme (cis/trans) in a scene with impact; it’s something I enjoy off camera, so doing it on camera is just a bonus.
Misconceptions About Trans Performers
I find there’s an expectation to fit into a certain mold in both image and what kind of scenes I do. But transgender performers are as varied as cisgender performers; we’re not a catch all fetish category, and we don’t all look alike.
Tips For Aspiring Trans Performers
Do your research; don’t do anything you don’t want to do; be unique; be kind to yourself; take mental health breaks; most importantly, don’t isolate yourself.
Rosie Galaxy– Rosie Galaxy is a nerdy trans femme fatale in her mid 30’s. Born on Earth, she spent most of her life in space before crashlanding near Portland, Oregon a few years ago. This forever frisky fox makes videos, cams, and generally lives her sluttiest life whenever she can.
Upcoming Works: New solo and duo videos coming soon to Amateurporn, camming on Chaturbate, and hoping soon to do a west coast tour to work with others.
My name is Chanelle Lee and I am a Toronto based model and entrepreneur. Born and raised in Toronto I have spent a great deal of time travelling the world. I am a big believer in the idea we only have one life so we should all live it to the fullest. I am an athlete at heart, and used to play competitive volleyball. Still playing as much as I can for both court and beach volleyball. I currently model, act, bartend and am working on starting a company with a couple partners. The end goal is to have the ability to work remotely anywhere the world takes me 🙂
What is your proudest achievement so far?
I have a few achievements I am very proud of. But my proudest would be being crowned Miss West Indian Canadian. It gave me a lot of confidence, at a time where I really needed.
How will you describe your fashion style?
I would describe my fashion as unique, different and full of colour. I love wearing clothes that are unique and make an impact. I have always been known to dress outside the box.
Do you have any other hobbies or interests?
I am a travel junkie, love learning new languages and cultures. I love sports, volleyball is one of my passions and I also enjoy, snowboarding, soccer, tennis and rollerblading.
Have you been in an embarrassing moment before that is funny now when looking back?
I have been in multiple, where can I even start. But for me embarrassing moments are all a part of life so you just have to laugh. One moment in particular was when I was 13 years old. I had finally hit puberty, so my mother like any good mom taught me how to use a tampon. I had to as I was an active kid and went swimming a lot in the summer.
So one day I was at a summer camp, and we went swimming as a group. I thought I knew how to use a tampon, but to my surprise I did not. As I was swimming with my friends, the worst thing happened. My tampon had fallen out and surfaced to the top of the water. Yes a few people saw. I was mortified, but after growing up a bit I now can laugh at the whole thing 🙂
Is there something you’ve always wanted to do or learn but haven’t had the time?
There are a few things. But right now I am wanting to learn how to DJ. Finding the time is tough but that is what I am doing right now 🙂
If you could drop everything and go on a road trip, where will you head off to?
Hmmm… Most places I really want to go to would require a plane or a boat 🙂 But if I was going to road trip somewhere from Toronto. I would most likely head to Iceland!
Have you ever had a bad date experience to share?
Oh yes ! Nothing terrible though, but still not a great experience. I went on a date with a guy who was big in the fitness modelling field. He decided to take us on a walk by the water, it started off great. But half way through the walk he had us rush back to the car. The reason for that was he was hungry! So he had us go back so he could eat the 3 pieces of chicken he had in a cooler and salad, plus a shake. He did not even offer me a bite first of all, and secondly had me watch till he finished, then continue and finish the walk ( was that a date … was not too sure lol).
Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Chanelle. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?
I would define “sexy” as when one loves themselves fully, when they are free to have their own self expression and own it! One that is empowered to be the best version of themselves and not afraid to show it. To me that is the definition of sexy.
To me, the girlfriend experience is the connection and rapport you have with someone. To have fun, talk and connect sexually and physically. It’s a great experience for me because it adds another level to our time together.
GFE Misconceptions
I think the biggest misconception about the GFE is it stands for kissing and OWO. It’s a much bigger experience than just that.
Appeal Of The GFE
My clients choose a GFE because they want total relaxation and enjoyment. Our time together should flow naturally and enjoyably, without the feeling you’re paying a lady to be with you.
What Is Important For A Successful GFE
For a lady to make the GFE successful, you are naturally warm, attentive and personable. To take real enjoyment out of what you’re doing and experiencing.
Lauren Banks – Experienced high end Escort Companion. I am naturally a very warm and attentive person, my touch is soft and gentle; making the most of every moment and taking exquisite care in giving and receiving pleasures!
Hello everyone! I am a 24-year old fashion model/Influencer from the beautiful island Penang, Malaysia. Here’s a little-known fact about me. I would sometimes be regarded as a human calculator as I am, quite simply, an expert in arithmetic.
What inspired you to be a model?
Blessed with my height, I have been told by a lot of people to join modelling and I love dressing up since I was a kid. The ultimate push was receiving strong support and encouragement by my friends to join a local modelling competition after finishing high school. Since then it kick-started my career within the fashion industry.
Do you have a beauty regime you follow to look so beautiful?
I believe the charm of a lady comes along with a healthy beautiful skin. I have a strict bed time routine to make sure my skin is well-hydrated throughout the night. Sleeping masks and paper masks are must haves. Besides as cliché as it sounds, getting a good night sleep is very important to keep the glow and radiance of our complexion.
Which is your most memorable photoshoot experience so far?
Photoshooting in Kyoto during winter time! Strolling down the street of Kyoto and experience the rich culture of the old neighborhood with the production team. It felt like a fun vacation with a personal photographer rather than one that is being done professionally for work/editorial purposes.
Is there any food or drink you don’t take?
Definitely alfalfa sprouts. I am not a picky eater when it comes to greens but that’s the only one thing which would never appear on my plate.
Where do you love to shop from?
I shop from any retail brands or online boutiques as long as they fit my style. However I prefer to buy my pants from shops like Zara and H&M because they would fit me better considering my height.
If you could have a super power, what will it be?
The power of super-compassion and long-lasting inner peace. Imagine how you could look at someone who annoyed you and feel a rush of love instead a lash of anger. Set down forever and say goodbye to sadness, worry, anxiety and other negativity… ZEN~~
What is a lame or funny attempt a guy has tried to know you?
Once there was this guy who passed me a piece of paper with a list of questions out of the blue while I was studying alone in the library. Examples of questions: What’s your favorite day of the week? What’s your favorite time of the day? What’s your top pick of cuisine? And some other random/ unrelated questions to distract me (I still had no idea what it was about) and I answered them.
Later he came back and checked the paper. He then looked at me with a smile and said: “Well, are you free on the X day at X time for X cuisine with me?”
Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Bella. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?
Sexy is to possess a high self-esteem, knowing yourself and acknowledge your value. Not with excessive pride but with self-worth.
The love for the feet, although it seems strange, is one of the most common and intense fetishes that can exist. The love for the feet is one of those passions that although they are not over exploited and overvalued, by the market, they are present in all the currents and slopes of art: literature, cinema, music, painting and sculpture.
I remember that assassin for hire of Tarantino, in the saga of Kill Bill played masterfully by the sensual Uma Thurman, who invokes the force of the cosmos to move the toes of his feet, after a paralysis.
(El amor por los pies, aunque pareciera extraño es de los fetiches más comunes e intensos que puedan existir. El amor por los pies es una de esas pasiones que aunque no están sobre explotadas y sobre valoradas, por el mercado, están presentes en todas las corrientes y vertientes del arte: la literatura, el cine, la música, la pintura y la escultura.
Recuerdo esa asesina a sueldo de Tarantino, en la saga de Kill Bill interpretada magistralmente por la sensual Uma Thurman, quien invoca la fuerza del cosmos para mover los dedos de sus pies, después de una parálisis.)
Photo: Adriana Rodriguez
I understand that it is delicious and supremely common, it consists of kissing, caressing, touching, licking, smelling and masturbating. I have also discovered that its possibilities are as limitless as the imagination of those who enjoy it.
(Entiendo que es delicioso y supremamente común, consiste en besar, acariciar, tocar, lamer, oler y masturbar. también he descubierto que sus posibilidades son tan ilimitadas como la imaginación de quien lo disfruta.)
What I Love About Alternative Lifestyles
My appreciations are diverse, as a human being in constant construction my sexual tastes vary, they are modified, they intensify and they evolve, as they also weaken at times. I definitely love to explore the foot fetish and all its exquisite possibilities. Sex and everything that surrounds it in the midst of complicity and without affecting the other, I consider that more than valid is strictly necessary. Just as we work the body in a gym, the mind in a University, we must work our sexuality in intimacy. A free and honest sexuality is the principle of true self-recognition and the starting point towards a full life.
(Mis apreciaciones son diversas, como ser humano en constante construcción mis gustos sexuales varían, se modifican, se intensifican y evolucionan, como también se debilitan en ocasiones. Definitivamente me encanta explorar el fetiche de pies y todas sus exquisitas posibilidades. El sexo y todo aquello que lo rodea en medio de la complicidad y sin afectar al otro, considero que mas que válido es estrictamente necesario. Así como trabajamos el cuerpo en un gimnasio, la mente en una universidad, debemos trabajar nuestra sexualidad en la intimidad. Una sexualidad libre y honesta es el principio de un verdadero reconocimiento propio y el punto de partida hacia una vida plena.)
What Does It Mean To Have A Foot Fetish
“The foot is the phallus of the woman” defends, kicks, outrages, seduces, penetrates, dominates, and submits. I enjoy when my feet are the protagonists of male and female orgasms. I enjoy having a man at my feet and also “being at the feet of a man”. It excites me when I go out into the street and I feel that the eyes follow my footsteps fixing on mobile points seated on my feet.
(“El pie es el falo de la mujer” defiende , patea , ultraja, seduce , penetra, domina, se somete. Disfruto cuando mis pies son los protagonistas de orgasmos masculinos y femeninos. Disfruto tener a un hombre a mis pies y también “estar a los pies de un hombre”. Me excita cuando salgo a la calle y siento que las miradas siguen mis pasos fijándose en puntos móviles asentados en mis pies.)
Photo: Adriana Rodriguez
Why Are Foot Fetishes Very Popular?
Since time immemorial, kissing the feet was a gesture of humiliation and submission, footwear and ornaments that have covered the feet are a symbol of power and adoration, always being the first to show and exhibit in dark and obtuse times, which led to all the desire and all the repression of then would find as Eden and oasis for the sexual impulse, the simple insinuation of a foot.
In addition I must confess that very skilled feet can even overcome the skills of some hands, providing a forbidden and strange element, capable of maximizing desire and satisfaction.
(Desde tiempos inmemorables, besar los pies era un gesto de humillación y sumisión, el calzado y los adornos que han cubiertos los pies son símbolo de poder y adoración, siendo siempre estos los primeros en mostrarse y exhibirse en tiempos obtusos y oscuros lo que llevó a que todo el deseo y toda la represión de entonces encontrara como edén y oasis para el impulso sexual la simple insinuación de un pie.
Por demás debo confesar que unos pies bien habilidosos pueden incluso, superar las habilidades de unas manos, aportando un elemento prohibido y extraño, capaz de elevar al máximo el deseo y la satisfacción.)
Photo: Eliecer Santanilla
Misconceptions About Foot Fetishes
The foot fetish is more common than most “ordinary” mortals imagine.
Pretty women have ugly feet.
It is not an exclusive fetish of men, many women love their feet, whether they are male or female.
Many underestimate this fetish, a foot fetishist is not a psychopath.
Homosexuality
El fetiche de pies es mas común de lo que la mayoría de los “comunes” mortales imaginan.
las mujeres bonitas tienen pies feos.
No es un fetiche exclusivo de los hombres, a muchas mujeres nos encanta los pies, indistinto que sean de hombre o mujer
Muchos subvaloran este fetiche
un fetichista de pies no es un psicópata
homosexualidad
Incoporating Foot Fetishes Into One’s Sex Life
I think the most accurate way to answer this question is to briefly tell an anecdote about my life as a couple. I want to tell you that my partner, even though he was older, had never determined his feet, and those of his partners in sex, which seemed absurd and not very exciting, and then I asked him to be patient.
What did they believe? What would I tell you all about? I only tell you that now he is an absolute worshipper of feet.
I would like to give all of you a piece of advice that not only has it got to do with our fetish, but also with all others, not because they are fetishes. These tastes must be destined for the shadows, so it is essential that there is sincerity, honesty and above all, complicity. To hide your fetishes from your partner is to deceive them and deceive yourself. A good relationship is given in the number of fetishes that you can share.
(Creo que la manera mas precisa de responder esta pregunta es relatando brevemente una anécdota de mi vida en pareja. Quiero contarles que mi pareja aun siendo mayor jamás había determinado sus pies, y los de sus compañeras en el sexo, pareciéndole algo absurdo y poco excitante , después le pedí que tuviera paciencia.
Que creyeron? Que les iba a contar todo? solo les digo que ahora es un adorador absoluto de pies.
A todos les quiero dar un consejo que no solo tiene que ver con nuestro fetiche , sino también con todos los demás, no por ser fetiches estos gustos deben estar destinados a las sombras, por ello es fundamental que haya sinceridad, honestidad y ante todo complicidad , ocultar tus fetiches a tu pareja es engañarla y engañarte a ti mismo. Una buen relación se da en el numero de fetiches que puedas compartir.)
Photo: Adriana Rodriguez
Favorite Foot Play Ideas
Paint, write and masturbate.
Licking your feet with something sweet is supremely fun.
Feeling the hot air of the dryer on my feet.
Massaging with hot oils for more excitement.
Feeling a stone in the shoe while I run.
Smoking with the feet.
Undressing with the feet.
Using my feet as if they were hands.
Smelling sweaty and salty feet.
– pintar ,escribir y masturbar.
– lamer los pies con algo dulce es supremamente divertido.
– sentir el aire caliente del secador en mis pies.
– masaje con aceites calientes para mas excitación.
I make myself known as ScarletBunny: modeo petiff, I am white skinned, thin, of Colombian nationality with European characteristics, without leaving aside the Latin flavor that runs through my blood, I am dominant and submissive, I love dirty words, feet and the role plays. I can also be the character of your best fantasy. I produce, star and edit my own videos, taking care of every detail from beginning to end.
(Auxiliar de contabilidad, cursante de Administración financiera, Productora de contenidos para adultos, videografa, fotógrafa y exploradora artística.
Me hago conocer como ScarletBunny: modeo petiff, soy de tez blanca, delgada , de nacionalidad colombiana con características europeas, sin dejar a u lado el sabor latino que corre por mi sangre, soy dominante y sumisa, me encantan las palabras sucias, los pies y los juegos de roles. También puedo ser el personaje de tu mejor fantasía. Produzco , protagonizo y edito mis propios videos ,cuidando cada detalle de principio a fin.)
First of all, thank you! I am Malaysian and grew up in Miri, Sarawak, East Malaysia. The interesting part about me is that I am Kayan mixed Kenyah, the indigenous tribe people from Sarawak. Currently, I’m living in England, United Kingdom. I’m a freelance model but most of the time I participate in fashion week and bridal fashion shows.
I’ve won the 4th runner up of Miss Model of the World Malaysia in 2007. Proud to represent my hometown division and state division as well before competing to national stage. I’ve studied hotel management and I have been working in hospitality industry with hotel, restaurant and oil and gas companies.
What is your fashion style like?
I’m a very simple person. I usually go for basic clothing and my favourite colour is black. You can see me wearing short pants and T-shirt or full black outfit.
Is there any mottos or quotes you live by?
I believe in achieving dreams so I believe that nothing is impossible! My favourite quote is, “be kind, be brave, know your worth and take no shit.”
How much of a foodie are you?
I love food so much! I’m struggling between my love of food and not wanting to get fat. Hahaha!
Do you have any hobbies or interests?
I do have skills in designing and photography editing with photoshop. I love travelling as well and I’m into mixed martial art fitness. Besides that, I’m an advanced open water scuba diver with PADI.
What was the last movie or series you caught and was it any good?
Currently I’m hooked on Peaky Blinders and Son of Anarchy series on Netflix. Yes, the series is absolutely brilliant!
If you could learn anything in this world, what will it be?
That could be about being healthy and mentally strong.
What turns you off on a date?
First impression would be personal hygiene by their appearance.
It is a pleasure to feature you Marilyn. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?
Someone who has confident in themselves, kindness towards humanity and always being humble. That’s sexy!
Hi I’m Ray and I think pussies are hot, wet, little puzzles and I love giving and receiving oral sex. Every single person’s pussy, vulva, kitty cat or cooch is totally different, and it’s invigorating to explore, tease, and learn just what gets a babe going. And let me tell you, when a curious cat has their tongue on my pussy, I will purr, and loudly.
Do Men Know How To Give Oral Sex?
In my experience, people of all genders feel like they need to know how to do a sexual act, as if there is only one way to do it. Our culture has so many hang ups around sexuality that we feel insecure or embarrassed if we don’t automatically know how to pleasure each other.
Here’s the reality though… there is no one way, and the secret code to breaking the “how to eat a pussy puzzle” is good communication. Ask that sexy babe what they like. Play a game about exploring those succulent lips and finding that sweet spot. Get your hottie to play with the parts they like sucked on while you watch and then have them touch the bits they want licked. This is fun as heck and not only means you are practicing good consent, it also is a path to becoming an epic oral magician.
Common Mistakes Men Make When Going Down
Let’s be clear, people of all genders like to eat some kitty cat and people of all genders have kitty cats craving a little oral attention. We all make mistakes. There is nothing wrong with not psychically knowing what an individual is going to want done to their puss.
So THE mistake we make as linguists is not having a sense of playfulness and curiosity. Sex is messy, hot, raunchy, silly, and fucking fierce. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and don’t be afraid to enjoy giving as much as you enjoy receiving a good oral experience.
Tips To Follow When Going Down On Her
Well darlings, I cannot tell you how to go down on every hot thing with a vulva and a vagina out there. What I can tell you is what I like when a babe is getting down on me. I want a goddamn symphony!
When you play music, there are rests, quiet sections, crescendos, changes in tempo, and multiple scales of tone you can work in. And, I love to be teased. You can drive me wild with that mouth close to my sweet little clit and you don’t even need to touch it. Before you know it, I’m gonna be squirming for your tongue.
Start out slow, use the tip of your tongue, explore my labia, maybe suck a little, find my clit, circle it, and then change it up… unless of course I give you the glorious “don’t stop.” Then, whatever you do, keep doing exactly what you are doing even if you think your jaw may suffer irreparable damage, because I am going to cum. That said, I don’t orgasm from oral very often and I am not interested in that being a goal. I’m in it for the journey, honey.
Signs I’m Enjoying Myself
My favourite part of giving the gift of oral sex to both humans with vulvas and the ones with penises is the feedback. When I get you to moan, or catch your breath, or breathe heavy and beg for more, or move against my face while curling your perfect little toes, it is so hot I could die happy. Every person orgasms differently and the lead up is just as unique. The key is to be in tune to your partner’s body; notice the changes when you try something different, ask questions about how a thing feels, and take direction.
The human body is a magical and strange miracle and not a machine with a set of instructions. That’s what makes sex the extraordinary, weird, and wonderful experience it is!
Ray Harridan – Ray Harridan is an Independent Escort, Community Organizer and soon to be Amateur Porn Performer. She is based out of Victoria BC on the south western coast of Canada. Keep an eye out for this sweet bad girl’s campy video escapades coming soon!
My full name is Nicole Khoo Jia Hui, and I’m turning 25 on 3rd May 2019. I’m the eldest of four siblings and I was born in Subang Jaya. Currently I live in Shah Alam. I pose for the camera (sometimes I’m behind the camera too) and talk for a living. I was crowned Miss Motorsports Malaysia in 2016.
Which is a memorable photoshoot experience you have had so far?
I would say almost all my shoots are memorable to me because it all happens at different locations, in different outfits and different themes. If I had to choose one most memorable, it would be my first photoshoot as in that time I had no knowledge on modeling.
Do you have a beauty regime you follow to look so beautiful?
I’m actually not the best role model for beauty regimes because mine always changes. I sometimes forget to care for my body as well. But the one thing I make sure I do everyday is to stay hydrated.
What do you enjoy most about modeling?
I enjoy getting dressed for the photoshoots and trying out new poses each time. I get to explore new ways to pose because of different themes.
Is there any food or drink you don’t take?
I eat and drink. Anything as long as it’s not poison or rotten.
Which was the last movie you watched and was it any good?
Mary Poppins returns and Master Z the Ip Man legacy, loved everything about those two movies. Mary Poppins because I’m a musical fanatic/obsessionist with and Master Z because I train in martial arts as well.
If you could have a super power, what will it be?
Scarlett Witches (Wanda) from the Avengers.
What is a lame or funny attempt a guy has tried to know you?
Pick up lines, using pick up lines in almost every sentence he can think of. Also, following me like a lost puppy.
Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Nicole. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?
Most people have the idea that the word sexy means revealing more parts of their bodies, while it is externally sexy for one to dress more revealing, to me it is more of a person’s character and confidence, their ways of thinking and carrying themselves well that is truly defined as sexy.
It should go without saying that I’m a huge supporter of a woman’s right to do whatever she’d like with her body, including participating in sex work. I’ve been in the industry on and off for about five years now and it was originally a means of survival for me. My mental health was at an all-time low after I graduated University. Depression and anxiety were taking over my life and I couldn’t hold down a “regular” 9-5 job because getting out of bed or taking care of myself was simply impossible some days. Sex work saved my life during this period. I was working with an agency and it was great being able to support myself during such an emotionally and financially difficult point in my life.
I took a break for a few years but now I’m back in the industry from a healthier place. I have a “regular” job now but I enjoy sex work too much to give it up. The main difference is I work independently now and I’ve never felt more empowered. I love being in charge of who I see, when I see them, what we do and how much I take home at the end of the day. I have made so many genuine friends and connections through sex work and met so many amazing men and women who I’d otherwise have never had to chance to get to know.
I’m tired of society painting us with a wide paintbrush and saying we’re all victims or that sex work shouldn’t be decriminalized. Who exactly are we hurting by doing the work that we do? Contrary to what society would have you believe, the industry is NOT just junkies and trafficking victims. Countless women choose sex work as a career and actually enjoy it, from the extra money to the extra free time and flexibility it affords, to the connections that are formed.
Sex work is like any other form of labor to me and deserves to be seen as such. To those who see it as demeaning: I personally don’t see anything especially empowering about working minimum wage retail or food service and struggling to get by, but it’s up to each person to choose their own path. Sex work is not for everyone, but it certainly deserves the respect of everyone.
Things I Wished I Knew Before Starting Out
I wish I’d transitioned into working independently sooner. I was intimidated by the idea of it when I first began, but now I can’t imagine ever working for an agency again. It’s just not for me. There are certainly positives to working for an agency: it was nice having incall locations available last minute, as well as having a driver and free photoshoots and advertising, but having the agency take almost half of my earnings got really old really fast. I wish I’d done my research and had the confidence to be my own boss sooner.
I also wish someone had told me it was okay to say no. I started out with the mindset that since the gentlemen were paying for my time, that I had to do whatever they wanted during our time together to keep them happy and wanting to come back again. I endured way too many clients who were either under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which made me uncomfortable, or those who had bad hygiene, or those who’d pressure me for my real name and personal details I was not comfortable sharing. At the agency I worked for, we’d never discussed how to turn down a client which made me feel like it wasn’t okay to turn down a client.
How It Felt Like Initially
I was so nervous on my very first day! It was Halloween night and I had no idea what to expect. I was with an agency, so the driver picked me up at home and dropped me off at the incall location, which was a condo building in downtown Toronto. Luckily my first client was very nice. I shared with him that it was my first time and he thankfully took charge of the situation — I love when dates do this in my personal life as well. He did not become a regular of mine, but we had a lovely time together.
How To Stand Out & Be Unique
All you can really do is be yourself. Ultimately, if you try too hard or come up with a gimmick to stand out, it’s going to get you noticed but for all the wrong reasons. Personality wins every time. Just be yourself on your social media and website, and when interacting via email. Don’t feel like you have to curate yourself, because when you meet that client in the real world, they’re going to see who you really are anyway.
Don’t let them fall for an illusion or some photoshopped pictures. It’s okay to listen to Taylor Swift instead of classical. It’s okay to like beer instead of whiskey. It’s okay to not be the “cool girl”. These gentlemen are paying for time with YOU, not with a false and idealized version of you.
How I See The Escorting Industry Evolving
I hope the industry continues to evolve and I hope the stigma surrounding sex work and sex workers begins to fade. It’s an honest job and should be seen as such. We are not just selling sex. We are selling our time, our energy, our companionship, a tender touch, a devilish glance, an escape from your real life and a vacation into the dreamworld we’ve created for you. We’re selling a collection of uncrushed moments you can replay in your mind for a lifetime after our time together is actually over.
I’d also like to change the way certain sex workers see their peers who are perhaps not doing as well as they are. It’s great if you’re a high-end companion and going on extravagant trips and receiving luxury gifts, but please, don’t look down on those who are working the street, working out of their cars, or offering quickie sessions or lower rates. At the end of the day, we are all sex workers and we have to stand by each other if we’re ever going to survive as an industry. Society is already trying to dismantle us — let’s not help them by creating divides between us.
7 Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers
Don’t get into this industry expecting it to be easy money. It’s a lot of work behind the scenes, especially if you’re working independently without the assistance of an agency. You need to build a website, you need quality photos and constantly updated photos — I’d say hire a professional photographer who is sex-worker-friendly for your initial photos, but also invest in a selfie stick and tripod. They’re cheap and they’re a great way to update your site or your socials with new pictures, without spending an arm and a leg.
Figure out what your rates will be! Have a look at what other providers in your area are charging. Remember: it’s always easier to raise your rates than to lower them. And work that new-girl energy!
Be active on social media. Don’t just post ads — actually engage in conversations and let your personality shine through. A lot of clients will lurk your social media for awhile to get a feel for who you are, and they can’t do that if all you’re posting is ads. I personally prefer switter.at and twitter.com
Decide whether you’ll be offering both incall and outcall service, and, if you’re offering incall, will you host in your own space or will you go the route of Airbnb and hotels? If you are in a larger city like New York or San Francisco, find apps that will offer you cheap day rates or pay-per-minute. They’re out there and they exist.
Will you be touring? This is a great way to expand your network of clients, and also a nice way to see more of the world if you’re so inclined. Sign up for an air miles card and / or a hotel loyalty card that offers rewards when you use them. Research online beforehand to see which hotels are more provider-friendly. For discretion, I tend to choose large hotels where everyone just blends in.
Screening! Figure out how you’re going to make sure your potential new client is a safe client. I like to get at least two references from past providers. Get familiar with the blacklist sites for your area as well. Will you be seeing newbies who do not have past provider references? That’s fine, just make sure you have other ways to thoroughly screen, such as: getting their full legal name, government ID, real-world employment information, and go from there.
Don’t forget to also take care of yourself. It’s easy to get burnt out when your job revolves around taking care of others, but it’s like the airplane adage that everyone repeats these days: you need to put your own mask on before helping others. Take a day off, or take a week off. Check in with yourself regularly and don’t be afraid to turn down a date if you need that extra you-time.
Hadley Darling – HadleyDarling is a companion based in Toronto, Canada, but also tours regularly to visit her friends worldwide. She graduated from university with a major in Communications, minor in English, but now chooses sex work instead, because of the companionship, income, and free time it affords her to do other good things, like volunteering with animals and the less fortunate. When she’s not on dates with refined gentlemen, she can usually be found experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen, tending to her garden, binge watching Law and Order SVU, or fawning over her kitty.
