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  • Malaysian Fashion & Lifestyle Blogger Bowie Cheong

    Malaysian Fashion & Lifestyle Blogger Bowie Cheong

    Hi, I am Bowie, a lifestyle blogger and KOL from Malaysia. Apart from that, I am also a cake designer for dog-eat cake and human-eat cake. I am passionate about my work and I am the lucky person who can do what I love to do. I’m a people-person, I love meeting new people and learning new skill, that’s one of the reasons I became a blogger. Also, I am a crazy dog lover. XD

    How will you describe your fashion style?

    For attending events/gatherings, I’d say I’m quite feminine, as I love to wear midi skirts and dresses, and also love to layer my clothes. If back to my daily life, I love to wear T-shirt and shorts which is more to a comfortable casual style and I am obsessed with bigger, bolder chunky earrings. For example, I can just wear a simple white tee and jeans, this boring looks can be transformed with the help of earrings. I like to dress according to my mood, I like everything in white color. Most of my stuff is from the high street, Zara, Topshop, Miss Selfridge, Bershka etc.

    Do you follow a strict beauty regime regularly?

    Yes. It is important to follow a strict beauty regime for maintaining a healthy and flawless skin. My checklist includes facial cleanser, toner, serum, eye cream, sunscreen and moisturizer. In the night time, I will change my moisturizer to night cream which the formula is more rich.

    Which is the best compliment you have received?

    “You look much younger than your age! “ I guess nobody dislikes to hear this right? ;P

    Is there any food or drink you don’t take?

    I am allergic to beers, peanut and crabs. I don’t take vegetables since I was small, but now I’m learning to accept it and eat it as vegetables are good for health.

    What hobbies and interests do you have?

    Hobbies? Can I say “shopping”? I like blogging, baking, designing, and run at parks with my dogs.

    If you can drop everything and go on a road trip, where will be your destination?

    I think I can’t go further, probably my destination will be an island like Phuket.

    What is the funniest or awkward attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Awkward attempt I had was a guy approached me with this sentence, “Your face looks so “Instagrammer”, can we make friends because I never have KOL as a friend before? I am curious how it feels.”

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Bowie. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Confidence, strong and with a curvy fit body shaped. Gigi Hadid exudes confidence and sex appeal!

    Follow the beautiful Bowie Cheong on:

    Blog: www.bowiecheong.com

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/bowie_bii3

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/thebgirlworld

    There is no big upcoming project for my social media platform, I will still doing collaboration with the brands I selected. But I do have a big plan for my bakery www.facebook.com/Dogelicious

    Images courtesy of Bowie Cheong

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  • Dating 101

    Dating 101

    So dating in the real world….honestly I find the act of dating to be one of those odd societal practices that we are just expected to adhere to.  The idea that you would go out on a date looking for a potential soulmate or life partner is just crazy to me, like why?? It takes all the fun out of it because instead of truly getting to know that person and enjoy their company, you’re just rummaging through a list of checkpoints in your head making sure they hit all the right ones.  If they do, yay they are amazing.  If not, they are horrible.  So why even go, because I guarantee 90% of the people you meet aren’t going to check those boxes.

    This is why I decided to stop dating seriously.  Years ago, I was doing what everyone does, playing by the rules, looking for the “right” guy.  Then I realized I hated the rules because not only was I putting too much pressure on the men to be perfect, I was putting too much pressure on myself.  I couldn’t even meet my own expectations, how is anyone else going to meet them?  So I just stopped.  I decided I would just go out, get to know the other person a little better, have fun, and whatever happened, happened.  It worked quite well actually.  I started having a good time and guys were constantly trying to see me.  In fact, I  haven’t had a bad date in probably 5 years, which is partially why I decided to become an escort.

    I was so good at dating that I decided to make career out of it.  I was open and I allowed people to be themselves around me without putting under a microscope and requiring them to meet a certain set of standards.  I felt that this was a unique characteristic that I had to offer to people, who are constantly trying to adhere to some specification in their lives.  At least around me, they have a chance to be free.

    That being said, I don’t think there is particular action you should or shouldn’t do on a first date.  I think you should just be yourself and be open to the endless possibilities that can happen in an evening.  Of course if you absolutely, can’t stand the other person then you can leave and you don’t have to see them again but it’s not a failure, just an experience.  Dating should be fun!!  I mean isn’t there enough pressure in life with jobs and careers without needing to go on endless interviews trying to find the perfect mate?

    On the other hand, when it comes to meeting a potential partner, for me it’s always a random event that comes out of nowhere….like I am just walking down the street and someone plummets right into me.  And I am like wtf, who are you and how can I know you better??!!   It’s kind of an intense overwhelming experience, nothing like being on a date and thinking “yay, we both like the color blue”…or something.

    When I meet someone I really like, it is kind of magical and I definitely make it known that I want to see them again.  Usually I will try to sleep with them, if they haven’t already made a move to try to sleep with me, which I think might be the opposite of what most women do.  But I like sex and I see it as the first step to a successful relationship.  Also, it’s not something I can just withhold.  Like if I am out to dinner with someone I really like, I usually can’t make it through the whole dinner without wanting to leave to go have sex with them.  So in this case, I usually prefer going out for drinks, or doing something more chill initially, so we can spend more time having sex.

    It’s natural for me to first want to experience someone sexually.  After that I will usually care about getting to know them mentally and emotionally.  But these are all steps, which I don’t necessarily think will happen just because I meet someone I like.  Sometimes the attraction is just physical, so I enjoy that part.  Sometimes it’s more and when it is, I enjoy that too.  But it is always one step at a time.  I don’t plan out our lives together just because I like them.  If it works, great.  It if doesn’t then it was just another experience.  To me that’s real, that’s life.

    When I am getting to know someone, I don’t just want to know all the characteristics that make them awesome, I want to know their failures, and weaknesses too, their pain, their anger, their heartbreak….the nitty gritty parts that people hide in their relationships for months, years, and sometimes entirely.  I want to see it all!!  If I can see all of it and love all of it, then ya that person is probably the one for me.  But until then, I am just going to have fun 🙂

    Bella Alyssa – I am Bella Alyssa, a VIP model and companion for upscale gentlemen. I create a world of beauty and bliss, which you will experience in my presence. I am friendly, outgoing, and very personable. I enjoy meeting people of all varieties and experiencing as much of life as I can. For more information, check out my website.

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    Website: https://www.bellaalyssa.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/lovebellaalyssa

    Article images courtesy of Bella Alyssa

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  • Italian Model Lisa Parodi

    Italian Model Lisa Parodi

    I have always loved fashion and the world of entertainment, being able to parade or pose is a unique feeling, the thing I love most is just this, the feeling of feeling “right”

    Do you have a beauty regime to looking so fabulous?

    I really like taking care of my body and my appearance, I use a lot of creams, and I do a lot of sports. I’m a dancer and I also love sweating in the gym.

    Are there any guilty pleasures you for food that you can’t live without?

    I follow a very restricted diet, I allow myself a few tricks, but I think I could never give up on sushi and chocolate. I’m a lover of these two delicacies.

    Which is your most memorable or fun photoshoot experience so far?

    I found myself often in particular situations, the most fun was a day of outdoor shots, people passed and a nice gentleman wanted to be part of the photos so much that he asked the photographer for permission.

    Have you been in an embarrassing situation that is funny now when looking back?

    But of course, many times it happened to me, I could not choose one hahah.

    If you could time travel, where will you go?

    In the 50s, I love everything from that era. Music, fashion, art, way of life, really beautiful.

    What do you not get about the opposite sex?

    Determination, it’s something you can only find in yourself.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Lisa. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is a word that is often misunderstood. A person is sexy when his way of doing is sensual and refined, a woman is not sexy only in lingerie, and can also bewitch from the depth of her eyes.

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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parodi_lisa/

    Images courtesy of Lisa Parodi

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  • How Is Escorting and Mental Health Linked?

    How Is Escorting and Mental Health Linked?

    I have been escorting now for nearly two years and think it has been a very liberating experience. It allows women like myself to take full control over our work, life and financial choices which are almost impossible to have in a normal 9-5 job. Because of this, escorting can be incredibly empowering and allows women to have opportunities that are denied in ‘normal society ‘.

    Is There Any Correlation Between Escorting & Mental Health?

    I don’t believe escorting itself can cause mental health issues, however, I do believe that the stigma escorts face on a daily basis causes unnecessary stress.

    A lot of people wrongly promote the idea that all escorts are troubled in some way which instead of helping SWs, just spreads misconceptions about our industry.

    Contributing Factors That Affect The Mental Health Of Escorts

    Because sex work is still seen as taboo, a lot of SWs have to lie to friends and family which causes huge amounts of stress and anxiety. Loneliness is also a big factor, many escorts work alone with only online friends to talk to and this can be very isolating.

    Another factor is being self employed in a very competitive online environment, there is constant pressure to work longer hours, take better photos and have a bigger presence.

    Is There A Difference Working Independently & For An Agency?

    I think working independently, whilst making more financial sense, is a lot harder than being attached to an agency because you don’t have any support or back up when finding clients, screening clients etc. However, working for an agency can mean working for unscrupulous people on very inconvenient hours. I think both independent and agency escorts face the same mental health challenges.

    Does Making Escorting Legal Help Escorts Have Better Mental Health?

    Yes! Escorts would be free to be honest with doctors and health professionals and state exactly what they need without fear of repercussions. They would feel safe approaching the police and financially would not have the stress of worrying about how to approach banks to handle their earnings.

    What Can An Escort Turn To If She Is Down?

    I’m very lucky in that I have a couple of close friends whom I can talk to and meet up with but a lot of escorts don’t have that luxury. I would talk to other escorts online, use forums or if you can, go to a trusted health professional.

    I would also suggest taking regular breaks, turning your phone off when not available and pampering — going for a massage or doing ‘normal’ things like going to the cinema or finding a meaningful hobby. Having a healthy separation between work and me time is essential.

    Advice For Those Keen To Go Into Escorting

    Escorting is not an easy job and it takes patience, assertiveness and a genuine enjoyment of the job. If done right, it can be very rewarding. My main piece of advice would be to work on your own terms with what you feel comfortable with. If you want to be porn star escort, goth escort or a no make-up jeans and t-shirt escort, go for it. Don’t be put under pressure to pretend to be someone you’re not.

    Estella Brown – Estella Brown is a London based Escort. She is also a writer, a lover of vintage lingerie and an avid Twitterer.

    Follow Estella Brown on

    Twitter: @EstellaInLondon

    Website: www.estellabrown.com

    Email: Contactestella@protonmail.com

    Article images courtesy of Estella Brown; featured image from Shutterstock

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  • Dutch Model, Stylist & Designer Brigitte Summers

    Dutch Model, Stylist & Designer Brigitte Summers

    Hello, well thank you for featuring me! I am Brigitte, I’m 21 years old and I live in the countryside of the Netherlands. In 2018 I graduated and achieved my Bachelor of Arts.  At the moment I have multiple jobs, I am a freelance model, freelance stylist and designer and also do the PR and marketing for a company. I have a passion for fashion and art. In my spare time I like to drive my horse or meet up with friends. I have also have a lot of other animals, including three aquariums.

    Photo: Wilko van ‘t Veer

    What got you started into modeling?

    I have wanted to be a fashion model for quite a while, I auditioned multiple times and even have my catwalk certificate. Eventually I realized I probably just don’t have what they are looking for in a fashion model at this moment. I still wanted to model so I started doing TFP shoots which was often a great experience and a confidence booster. At the moment, I shoot a lot for Suicide Girls.

    Photo: Bear Photography

    Which is your most memorable or unforgettable photoshoot so far?

    Oh gosh, there are multiple. I think the most memorable shoot for me was with a photographer that was super awkward. He kept pushing me to do literally physically impossible positions and he was really awkward to communicate with. After we were finished he asked me multiple times if I wanted to do another shoot with him but I thanked him kindly. The pictures turned out nice though!

    Photo: Bear Photography

    How will you describe a typical day like for yourself?

    A typical day like me would be waking up around 9, having a panic attack about my day. Then I get my shit together and make breakfast, often a smoothie, I eat plant based. When I’ve finished breakfast I brush my teeth, get ready and take care of my horses. Then I do some meditation, yoga and then a little workout. I usually work behind the computer doing PR and marketing or I take on a design/clothing project.

    After lunch, I often walk my dogs and then I go back to work for a few hours. At around 5 o’clock I lunge my horses (basically make them run), it’s part of their daily exercise. Around 6 I have dinner and then I go back to work.

    At 9 I usually install myself with a glass of  wine in front of the TV or I read a book. I try to go to bed at 11. That would be a typical day for me, I am kind of bored of working at home but I hope to get a new job soon at a clothing store.

    Photo: Bear Photography

    Is there a story you can share behind one of your tattoos?

    Well all of my tattoos have stories. But one of my first tattoos was my half sleeve, inspired by my favorite movie/comic character Wolverine. I have a tattoo of Wolverine and Phoenix because their complicated relationship has always fascinated me. I mean how difficult can a man’s life be? Being in love with the woman who is the most powerful mutant that is also mentally unstable and in a relationship with another man.

    At some point he even kills her because she asked him to because she had become too dangerous. Jeez, that is one sad but beautiful love story. Phoenix also reminds me of myself because I have experienced serious mental problems in the past. Now luckily things are going better, but I wouldn’t wish a psychosis to happen to anyone.

    Photo: Bear Photography

    What have you always wanted to do but have yet to find the time for it?

    I have always wanted to launch my own sustainable fashion brand, which takes a lot of time.

    If you could time travel, where will you go and like to experience or witness?

    I think I would travel to the 70’s or 80’s the music and fashion back then was just amazing! I love glamrock and I am a fan of Queen and David Bowie (and many other’s) but their concerts would be something I would definitely go to.

    Photo: Wilko van ‘t Veer

    What is the funniest or lamest attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Some guy in the train just started talking about my appearance and suddenly asked for my phone number. I didn’t really want to give it to him but I still had to sit in the same train for 15 minutes, awkward……

    Photo: Photo Art Wijchen

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Brigitte. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    My definition of sexy is be proud of who the fuck you are. Rock your insecurities, love yourself for who you are and if you can’t accept something about yourself don’t whine about it, do something about it.

    Follow the fabulous Brigitte Summers on:

    Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/brigitte_summers_/

    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/brigittesummers/

    I have a lot of upcoming sets on Suicidegirls

    Featured image courtesy of Bear Photography

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  • An Introduction Into Femdom

    An Introduction Into Femdom

    Personally, for me, kink has been an outlet for a part of myself that I have not been comfortable showing to friends/family. I think it’s a great way to understand yourself, your nature, your motives. Kink has definitely been a life changer for me. It has opened me up to so many different ways of thinking and being. It has made me more knowledgeable about people’s behaviors and even my own.

    How My Interest In Femdom Began

    I started in 2015 as a webcam model. I got into Femdom by way of an ex-colleague. She was deeply into Femdom/fetish. When I first heard of Femdom/fetish, I was so uncomfortable because I didn’t understand why someone would want to be humiliated. However, as I started doing more of it, I realized that it was like therapy for me and the submissive.

    As a child, I suffered lots of verbal humiliation from my mother. Femdom allowed me to channel that experience and become the humiliator. It was a powerful experience. Through this I began to understand that it is how people deal with those hidden issues inside. Through kink, they are expressed.

    Characteristics Of A Good Submissive

    The best characteristic a sub can have is know thyself, be financially independent, have mental strength/endurance and do what I say! The rules a sub has to follow to be my bitch is very simple: DO AS I SAY, LISTEN, AND BOW.

    I am a Domme who enjoys control and gifts, so if they cannot pleasure me before themselves, I don’t waste my time. I am not into all the punishing, that’s not my style. You either do as I say, or I banish you.

    They always return.

    Why Subs Enjoy Being Humiliated

    Well as I have said before, humiliation during playtime is like therapy. They want to be humiliated partially because an experience or experiences in life have made them feel a way. It could be reinforcement of those negative beliefs. However, when channeled into something positive, by a Goddess who not only enjoys humiliating you, but also cares about you enough to bring you back down and remind you that you are not weak, is a powerful thing.

    I simply just love humiliating. It doesn’t matter what form it is. It makes me feel powerful and I have to say, I am very good at humiliating losers.

    Queen Black Mamba – Creating and molding a human male mind is a delicate task. The halls of its mind is shrouded in sexual innuendo, constantly. His hidden sexual desires almost controlling him. So, pig ventures. Then, pig finds himself here.

    Follow Queen Black Mamba on

    Clips: Ineedher.com or c4s.com/110186 & c4s.com/90495

    Website: hailblackmamba.com

    Cam: queenblackmamba.cammodels.com

    Email: hailblackmamba@yahoo.com

    Article images courtesy of Queen Black Mamba

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  • Influencer & Blog Manager Justine Bautista

    Influencer & Blog Manager Justine Bautista

    My name is Justine and I am from Orange County, CA. I am a third year at Chapman University (but am graduating a year early) and am a double major in Psychology and Education with a cluster in Health. I am also a blog manager for @freetodreamag and have just recently dipped my toes into influencer marketing.

    What is your proudest achievement so far?

    My proudest achievement would have to be academic success. I grew up in a family that may not have had the most money, but has always reminded me of the priceless value that education has. In addition, I feel as if my academic work prepares me to become a change agent and work towards a far more equitable society. In addition, becoming a blog manager has given me an avenue for my creativity and a way to express myself while also admiring the creativity of my whole blog team along with our guest writers.

    Do you have any favorite quotes you like to use in life?

    I’m not entirely sure where it came from, but my laptop screensaver says, “do it for you, not for them” which I feel has always been an internal struggle for in finding what I am passionate about, I have had to constantly remind myself of what exactly is important to me rather than what fulfills the desires of others. I am still working on that mindset and am always trying to become the woman of MY dreams.

    How will you describe a typical day like for yourself?

    My day is totally full of academic work. I literally wake up in the morning, get ready for school, go to class, and then go home and do homework. However, in my breaks within the day, I find myself answering emails and collaboration proposals. On some days, I am also organizing blog posts and scheduling them to go live or am writing. Haha I know my day sounds super boring but I definitely feel fulfilled despite my busy schedule.

    Are there any hobbies or interests you are into?

    Currently, I am working on an independent research study entitled, “Racial microaggressions and cultural humility towards Filipino American  students: Examining school counselors and psychologists”.

    However, in my free time, I run a blog for an internationally printed/digital magazine, Free to Dream Magazine (@freetodreamag) where I write, edit, and manage with my team of bloggers! As a new influencer, I have absolutely loved collaborating with creative brands and interacting with such an amazing community of people.

    What have you always wanted to do but have yet to find the time for it?

    I have always wanted to travel more, which is something that I’ve always felt like I’ve missed out on a little. Because I am graduating early, there is really no space for me to study abroad which I think would have been an incredible experience. But, I’m really hoping that after I graduate, I can find time to start travelling more often.

    If you could time travel, where will you go and like to experience or witness?

    This is such a tough one! I feel like I would want to go back in time and find out more about my ancestral background. I definitely feel inclined to go to the rural, post-modern Philippines and discover more about my culture. I guess it’s just because I have been discovering a lot about myself lately and, since college started, have developed a deeper appreciation for my cultural roots. I also have been so inspired by seeing people who accept and embrace their culture in college. Being able to go back to that time would further my understanding of my roots, so I definitely think that’s where I would choose to go.

    What do you not get about guys?

    Well, my boyfriend is definitely my best friend and I love him to pieces. I think it’s tough to generalize the term “guys”, but there are definitely a lot of things to consider. Haha so none of what I’m about to say reflects how I feel about him. But, I think that men have been really heavily pressured by society to be rigid and to be emotionally closed, which I think might make relationships more difficult. I think that, even with my male friends, it is often difficult to really understand what they’re thinking since they’ve been socially conditioned to close themselves off rather than really expressing and communicating how they feel.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Justine. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    “Sexy” isn’t really a tangible object or a type of person. I think “sexy” is a feeling. It is all about self love and self confidence rather that being predicated on what society says of you. If you look at yourself in the mirror and present yourself in a way that makes you happy, that in and of itself is sexy.

    Follow the lovely Justine Bautista on:

    Instagram: @esor.j

    Twitter: @nochilljustine

    Blog: freetodreammagazine.com/blog-1

    I am currently working on finding guest writers for Free to Dream. So, feel free to DM me for more info!

    Images courtesy of @ayepaolo (Paolo Sanedrin)

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  • Malaysian Micro-Influencer Vania

    Malaysian Micro-Influencer Vania

    I’m a Malaysian micro-influencer whose interest is mainly on fitness and lifestyle – that’s if I am forced to pick a category, otherwise it would range from music, health, fitness, or even trucks and bikes. I secretly hate having to pick between interests because I want to pursue them all!

    What hobbies and interests do you have?

    Traveling! I love going places and experiencing new cultures – it’s refreshing. I also absolutely LOVE working out – I’m quite a gym junkie. Singing and acting has also been an interest since young – my first ever ambition was to be an artist actually. Over the past year, I’ve just picked up mountain biking and I’m loving it so far despite not knowing how to ride a bike prior.

    Do you have a favorite or memorable travel experience to share?

    My first encounter with tigers and snow were both my favourite travel memories. I’ve met tigers up close when I was at Chiang Mai – it was literally just me, the zookeeper and the tigers. It was kinda terrifying because they were so huge compared to me but it was exciting at the same time because I got to touch them! My first encounter with snow at Jeju Island, Korea was also one of the most memorable travel experiences. If you’ve seen snow, you’ll know that it looks exactly like the snowflake emoji which is so freaking amazing!

    Is there anything you like to learn but have not had the time to do so?

    PC gaming – I bought a gaming laptop but really haven’t had the time these past few years to start gaming on it. I’m usually a console person – started off with PS2 and stopped at PS3 because my gaming buddy flew off to Australia.

    What is your proudest achievement so far?

    Being awarded ‘100 Most Influential Creators in Malaysia’ and being able to walk down the runway for a local fashion show despite my height restrictions.

    If you could a superpower, what will it be and why?

    I would really love to have unlimited energy because then I don’t have to waste time sleeping and I can actually pursue everything that I wanna do 🙂

    How do you like to spend your weekends?

    For the most parts, I sleep in during the weekends when I have the chance to, unless I have events or workout sessions to attend. Otherwise, it’s filled with things to do from attending events, creating content for my Instagram profile or blogging to shopping and spending time with loved ones. It really depends, some weeks, I would just ghost on everyone haha.

    What turns you off on a date?

    The lack of respect and common courtesy is a big no-no. I don’t expect anyone to open doors or pull out chairs for me because I can do them on my own. But, if you’re gonna be late when the date is set at 7pm, you’d better have a good reason or else it’s just plain disrespectful of other people’s time.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Vania. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Nothing is sexier than being comfortable in your own skin and accepting yourself, both the good and bad. There is just something about people who acknowledge both their strengths and weaknesses, and continues to better themselves everyday.

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    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maniavania13/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vaniamania/
    Website: https://vaniamania.wordpress.com/

    Images courtesy of Vania

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  • What Sugar Dating Is Really Like

    What Sugar Dating Is Really Like

    I am very supportive of sugar babies. I am the biggest advocate for sugar dating. It’s perfect for someone in their early twenties who is looking to save money, have fun experiences, but isn’t quite ready to settle down yet. I think its a great idea to have some friends that are also sugar babies. I love to meet up with other sugar babies and talk about our experiences. It is a unique world – and sugar babies are full of stories that we can’t tell just anyone. So I think it’s important for sugar babies to support each other. The sugar baby community on Tumblr is amazing and its a place where many sugar babies share their experiences, tips and stories. That’s how I have found most of my sugar baby friends – from Tumblr.

    Expectations Of A Sugar Daddy

    Sugar daddies are expected to provide you with an allowance, at minimum. What you do with your allowance is up to you. For me, I quit my day time job – and with the allowance my sugar daddy gives me, I pay my rent, for food, my car bill, and some shopping. Aside from an allowance, what else you may get depends on your sugar daddy. Whether that be weekly Michelin star dinners, vacations together, etc. Some might offer to help you buy an apartment, help you invest, help you get a job in their career field, mentor you, even put your in their will. It all depends on your sugar daddy and what you ask for or what you’re looking for.

    How A Sugar Relationship Starts & Works

    Sugar dating relationships (usually) start just like every other relationships now a days it seems like, on the internet. Many women meet sugar daddies off of the site “Seeking Arrangement.” Other women will go to upscale bars and lounges and try to scope out the scene for wealthy men. That’s called “freestyling.”

    I found my current sugar daddy from Seeking Arrangement. Our first date was pretty normal. We toured San Francisco by car. He’s been living there for the past 30+ years and would tell me interesting facts about the places we passed. We had a great dinner at a Michelin star restaurant. He took me back to his apartment in Pacific Heights, and I stayed the night. The next morning, he told me he put something for me in the back pocket of my jeans. I checked my pocket on the way out and it was $1500 in cash. That’s the difference between regular dating and sugar dating. Now he deposits money into my bank account twice a month.

    Safety Concerns In A Sugar Relationship

    Just like with regular dating, there are safety concerns with sugar dating too. It’s important to look up your date before going out with them. If you have their real phone number, there are many apps you can use that will bring up a lot of their information (everything from their address to criminal history – just from their phone number).

    If they give you a fake number through Google voice (which many do at first), you can do a Google reverse image search on their profile pictures. Many times if they are a professional, they will use a professional photo on their profile (like one from their LinkedIn) and it’s easy to reverse image search them and find out their real name. Once you have their real name, it’s a good idea to let a friend or roommate know where you’re going and who you’re with. If you cannot find out who they are, go on one first date with them in public, it’s often called a ‘meet and greet.”

    You will usually get a good vibe of them. In the past, I went on a coffee date for a first meet with a man I wasn’t able to verify. I went early, waited outside, and took down his license plate number when I saw him parking. Seems crazy but it’s important to stay safe! So far I have had nothing but really great experiences with all the men I have met, thankfully.

    Misconceptions About Sugar Dating

    There are a lot of misconceptions about sugar dating. A common one is that all sugar daddies are old. There are plenty of men in their 30’s and 40’s on Seeking Arrangement! Personally I prefer the older men, though, for myself.

    Another misconception is that sugar babies do it just for material items. Many women enjoy sugar dating to pay off their tuition, to pay for grad school. Sometimes women prefer sugar dating because aside from the allowance, sugar daddies are able to provide you with experiences you otherwise wouldn’t necessarily have.  Or perhaps not in your twenties. Such as Michelin star dining, trips and vacations, etc.

    Another misconception is that it’s just about sex. It’s a relationship – so of course sex is usually a part of it – but that’s not the only aspect of it.

    Tips To Know Before Becoming A Sugar Baby

    First off, don’t settle or sell yourself short. Closed mouths don’t get fed, so if you want something – don’t be afraid ask. It’s important to invest in a quality wardrobe. Buy quality dresses that will last, for dinner dates. I like black outfits – no matter the brand, black is classic, chic, and classy. Invest in your appearance. I’m on a first name basis with the nurses and aestheticians at my local medspa. I go there for facials, laser hair removal, botox. Have your nails done and hair done, always. It’s important to always look polished.

    Another tip is to know what your sugar daddy wants. Why did he go on the site in the first place? Is he looking for discreet fun? Many sugar daddy are on the site because they want companionship but don’t have time for traditional dating. My sugar daddy likes that I’m young, energetic, curious. Find out what he’s looking for and tailor to his needs. Also, hold your ground. I made a rule for myself that I will always use condoms. My sugar daddy has asked to ditch them, but I’m stern on using them and he has accepted it. Money does not equal power. Sugar babies also hold much power and should not forget that. A young beautiful woman who knows her value is very powerful.

    Lastly, try to save your money. Whether that be for college, paying off debt, saving for a house or car – save save save! If you want designer luxuries, have your sugar daddy buy them for you. Ask for nice presents for your birthday and Christmas. Take advantage of the connections you make. I’ve heard of a sugar daddy professor helping his sugar baby write a dissertation in the field he studied for her PHD paper. If you’re looking for someone specific – don’t settle because you’ll eventually find the sugar daddy you’re looking for.

    And lastly of course, be safe.

    Isabella Ivy – Socialite. Companion. Sugar Baby. Based in San Francisco, CA

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  • Lifestyle Influencer & Costume Artist Zora Lai

    Lifestyle Influencer & Costume Artist Zora Lai

    Hello everyone, I am Zora Lai from Hong Kong. I am a lifestyle influencer on Instagram and costume artist for theatre.

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    Do you have any hobbies or interests?

    Absolutely, travelling and practice yoga! Besides, I love to talk, communicating with different people makes you know the world more.

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    What is your beauty regime to looking so gorgeous?

    My beauty routine is drinking WATER ! I drink a lot of water everyday! It’s my first thing to do in the morning. Besides, exercises and eating healthy is also important.

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    How do you like to spend your weekends?

    Hiking with my love. I love being outdoors and nature makes my life motivated.

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    Which 3 items are most important in your wardrobe?

    Sarong, activewear, dresses.

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    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a fashionista are you?

    Hahahahahahahaaaa. I think I am an 8/10, since I work as a costume artist for theatre.

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    If you could travel to anywhere in the world, where will you go?

    India and Iceland.

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    What is the funniest or lamest attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Pretend to understand everything I said even when they don’t.

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    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Zora. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Self-love.

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