How Men Should Eat A Lady Out

Hi I’m Ray and I think pussies are hot, wet, little puzzles and I love giving and receiving oral sex.  Every single person’s pussy, vulva, kitty cat or cooch is totally different, and it’s invigorating to explore, tease, and learn just what gets a babe going.  And let me tell you, when a curious cat has their tongue on my pussy, I will purr, and loudly.

Do Men Know How To Give Oral Sex?

In my experience, people of all genders feel like they need to know how to do a sexual act, as if there is only one way to do it.  Our culture has so many hang ups around sexuality that we feel insecure or embarrassed if we don’t automatically know how to pleasure each other.

Here’s the reality though… there is no one way, and the secret code to breaking the “how to eat a pussy puzzle” is good communication.  Ask that sexy babe what they like. Play a game about exploring those succulent lips and finding that sweet spot.  Get your hottie to play with the parts they like sucked on while you watch and then have them touch the bits they want licked. This is fun as heck and not only means you are practicing good consent, it also is a path to becoming an epic oral magician.

Common Mistakes Men Make When Going Down

Let’s be clear, people of all genders like to eat some kitty cat and people of all genders have kitty cats craving a little oral attention.  We all make mistakes. There is nothing wrong with not psychically knowing what an individual is going to want done to their puss.

So THE mistake we make as linguists is not having a sense of playfulness and curiosity. Sex is messy, hot, raunchy, silly, and fucking fierce.  Don’t be afraid to ask questions and don’t be afraid to enjoy giving as much as you enjoy receiving a good oral experience.

Tips To Follow When Going Down On Her

Well darlings, I cannot tell you how to go down on every hot thing with a vulva and a vagina out there.  What I can tell you is what I like when a babe is getting down on me.  I want a goddamn symphony!

When you play music, there are rests, quiet sections, crescendos, changes in tempo, and multiple scales of tone you can work in.  And, I love to be teased.  You can drive me wild with that mouth close to my sweet little clit and you don’t even need to touch it.  Before you know it, I’m gonna be squirming for your tongue.

Start out slow, use the tip of your tongue, explore my labia, maybe suck a little, find my clit, circle it, and then change it up… unless of course I give you the glorious “don’t stop.”  Then, whatever you do, keep doing exactly what you are doing even if you think your jaw may suffer irreparable damage, because I am going to cum.  That said, I don’t orgasm from oral very often and I am not interested in that being a goal.  I’m in it for the journey, honey.

Signs I’m Enjoying Myself

My favourite part of giving the gift of oral sex to both humans with vulvas and the ones with penises is the feedback.  When I get you to moan, or catch your breath, or breathe heavy and beg for more, or move against my face while curling your perfect little toes, it is so hot I could die happy.  Every person orgasms differently and the lead up is just as unique.  The key is to be in tune to your partner’s body; notice the changes when you try something different, ask questions about how a thing feels, and take direction.

The human body is a magical and strange miracle and not a machine with a set of instructions.  That’s what makes sex the extraordinary, weird, and wonderful experience it is!

Ray Harridan – Ray Harridan is an Independent Escort, Community Organizer and soon to be Amateur Porn Performer. She is based out of Victoria BC on the south western coast of Canada. Keep an eye out for this sweet bad girl’s campy video escapades coming soon!

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