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  • Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

    Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

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    I love different kinks, and I aim to embrace them in my community. I myself am a big fan of kinks and fetishes. My work is specialized in FinDom, JOI, tease and denial, sissification, and humiliation to name a few.

    How My Interest In Kink Started

    I knew I was a fan of more than vanilla sex from the age of 16/17 but didn’t have the ability to explore my kinks. I discovered my specific interests initially through porn, but have been able to divulge into every fantasy as a dominatrix/switch.

    How Does One Know What Kink They Are Into?

    Sometimes it’s completely by accident; you might see something in a film, or someone walking past you in the street and see something peculiar that turns you on. It can be a trial and error, especially for specific kinks, but porn and the Twitter dominatrix/camming universe is a good place to start.

    Tips To Get Into The Kink Lifestyle

    Try joining a community such as Fetlife, which is like facebook for us kinky folk, and start talking to people about it. Reading up on things online is good too. I have a folder on my computer with images and links of all the things I want to try.

    Websites like this one is a good way to learn more too. The talented people who are featured in articles will know even more than what they can put on a page, so try joining their community.

    Popular Fetishes & Kinks

    The most popular I’ve found is DDLG (daddy domme, little girl), JOI (jerk on instruction), feet worship, ass worship, sissification, and humiliation. These are all amazing kinks to have a start with, especially JOI which is really good to look into as beginners.

    As a Domme, I’m into FinDom (financial domination), JOI, body worship, humiliation, sissification, blackmail, chastity, and tease and denial. In my personal life away from work, I’d consider myself more of a sub/switch, into knife play, asphyxiation, DDLG, bondage (there’s this really tasteful Japanese art form of rope bondage which is really cool) and more.

    I find that being a Domme and camgirl as a job is amazing as an outlet. There’s just something about telling someone they can’t cum, or telling them they’re pathetic, that really relieves stress.

    Tips For Beginners To Explore Their Kinks

    Fetlife and Twitter is a good place to start. There are also some amazing dedicated discord servers to specific fetishes that can be found online. From there, Domme cam models are a good place to try out the experience tailored to you.

    If you have a partner, it’s always good to be open sexually and talk about what you would like to try, with both of you respecting each other’s boundaries. If your partner isn’t into, do not pressure them into trying something they don’t feel comfortable.

    As with anything else, consent must be given first. This also goes to cam models and other people you might go to try our possible kinks: if a Domme or anyone whose job is to do that says they do not cater to or are uncomfortable with that fetish or kink, don’t push.

    All in all, have fun, stay safe, stay sexy.

    Poppy Swallows xoxo

    Poppy Swallows – I’m Poppy! Camgirl and fet-lover, I spend most nights performing and pleasing the masses. I love sleep, food, animals, gaming, and food. I specialize in JOI and sell custom videos and photos too. I do skype sessions and I’m always up for a casual chat.

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    I don’t have anything coming up, but I am planning on going to the SuicideGirls/MFC show in London in June, so if you’d like to see me there, come along and make it happen!!

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    My subs must understand they are here for me, to please me and create value in my life, otherwise I am not interested to spend my time dominating them. It’s really simple and straight-forward. Those who want a NSA service should go to a pro domme.

    How My Interest As A Domme Started

    I was just curious about alternative lifestyles in general and bored of my 9 to 5 jobs.

    What It Means To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    I suppose that´s what I have wanted all along but to earn money I had to see clients in the hope that some of them might become my real slaves which eventually happened. After about ten years on the scene I decided to retire as a pro domme as I was bored of the clients and wanted to focus on the selected few personal slaves.

    Difference From Being A Pro Domme

    It´s completely different. You see whom you want, when you want and do only what you want and many of the personal slaves are quite generous. Unlike clients who only tribute by the hour my real slaves pay for my spa, weekends away, gifts etc on top of the monetary tributes and the best thing is that most of them stay with me for years.

    Favorite Domme Play Sessions

    I always challenge myself to come with something new for the individual slave as I love to surprise, impress and create something memorable. Mind games tend to play bigger role than the physical domination.

    What To Know Before Being A Lifestyle Domme

    It is actually very hard to find genuine subs who aim to please. Most wannabe slaves just want to take advantage of the dominant female, especially an inexperienced one in order to get something for nothing. It´s always the same old story “I will do anything for you but not this or that and God forbid it should cost me something – you are here to service me and my needs and kinks”.

    You will learn fast enough to weed these timewasters out. If anyone refers to himself as a “worm” or “useless”, he very likely is and you certainly don´t want to have anything to do with him.

    Mistress Arella – Retired after ten years on the scene as a pro domme, now dominating my loyal personal slaves only and that´s how I like it. It´s hard to impress me but anyone can try.

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  • How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    When it comes to sex, it’s always nice to switch things up from time to time. If you keep doing the same things over and over, eventually sex becomes stale and you just lose all the enjoyment that it used to have. Of course, if you have a partner who is willing to experiment with new things, this isn’t a problem. Chances are, whatever you suggest they’ll be more than happy to try out. The problem arises if your partner doesn’t want to try anything new. This might be because they’re a bit conservative, or perhaps they’re scared from what could happened if they changed things up, especially in the domain of sex.

    Today we’re exploring what the best ways are to convince your significant other to try out new things. It doesn’t matter whether you’re with a man or a woman, what matters is that you need to find a way to get through to them that they need to change things up in the bedroom. And we all know that if they don’t, you’ll end up getting someone who will on the side. Since we probably don’t want that to happen if you’re in a monogamous relationship, here are the top 3 ways in which you can ease your partner into some hot and kinky scenarios.

    1# Surprise them on a special date with something sexy

    Everyone likes surprises. And it’s in these euphoric moments that we can really get our blood pumping, and this is the prime time for trying out new things. Wait until it’s your anniversary, or perhaps it’s yours or your partner’s birthday to surprise them with a hot outfit or some kinky objects that you can try out in your bedroom. Chances are, they’ll be eager to try something out with you then.

    2# Start out small and then work your way up the ladder

    If the only thing you and your partner have been having in terms of sex is some straight vanilla bullshit, then there’s no way that they’ll jump into some heavy BDSM action straight away. Try getting them into the world with some hot lingerie. Then you can try out some bondage. Perhaps you could try a bit of light roleplay as well. Work your way up from there.

    3# Show your partner hot BDSM in porn and games

    Sometimes they need to see what they’re missing out on. This isn’t a full-proof way to get them to like BDSM or anything kinky in general, but it’s worth the shot. Show them one of your favorite BDSM videos or a fetish porno that gets you going. If the video is well made and everyone looks like they’re having fun in it, then chances are that they could change their mind as well. Similarly, games are an easy way to get them trying out something new. Try out the Best Free Sex Games in order to get that train rolling.

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  • What To Know About Ballbusting

    What To Know About Ballbusting

    I am very kink and sex positive. I believe in safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) play and think kink is a great escape from “vanilla” life. Building D/s relationships or just playing with subs is so rewarding. Be safe and smart, but have even more fun.

    What Is Ball Busting?

    Ballbusting is the act of kicking and beating a person in their balls/testicles. I am inherently sadistic; I love causing pain (to consenting people). I will say it’s a lot of fun to see a client become aroused solely from ballbusting. There’s also an intimate aspect to it, because someone is trusting you entirely to safely cause them pain. Establishing that power exchange, bond, and trust is satisfying.

    Reasons Subs Love It

    There is either an element of being aroused by pain or curiosity to experience ball busting.

    Some submissives crave relinquishing autonomy to please and serve their Dominant. I’ve had someone ask to be kicked in the balls solely because they knew how much I love it.

    There are solely masochists who just enjoy the intense pain brought from ballbusting. Some are just plain curious and would prefer to hire a professional for discretion, safety, fantasy, etc.

    Misconceptions About Ball Busting

    I think some people think that Dommes literally want to bust open a client’s testicles and sometimes the skin. I have heard some horror stories, but that’s atypical. Ballbusting is a really great power exchange for sadomasochistic sessions.

    Some may think of ball busting as “just” kicking someone in the balls, but there is an art to it in my opinion. I am tactical with my moves. Also, ballbusting can be accomplished with punches, slapping, and kneeing as well – it is not limited to kicking.

    What Happens In A Ball Busting Sessions

    Before we begin, we decide on using either a safe word or stop light colors to check in on pain level. We’ll discuss experience level and if limits want to be pushed. After answering any questions, we begin our session. Typically, I alternate between kicking, punching, slapping, and kneeing so there’s variation in sensation. I personally prefer kicking as I get to use my full body for momentum and power.

    Safety Precautions To Take Note

    I believe it is important to be cautious when causing another person pain. I begin with softer blows to gauge their pain tolerance and my force. I monitor their physical reactions closely and adjust strength as needed. Changing up the intensity sometimes helps and is a bit fun, too.

    I also just love hearing “Harder, Goddess”. Depending on the ballbustee’s experience level and desired experience, I may take breaks every 10-20 minutes or so to allow for a quick breather. Respect physical limits/safe word and communicate so the session is pleasurable and memorable. The goal is to have fun, after all.

    Chloe Mason – A professional Dominatrix and published fetish model based in Austin, Texas. She has a BA in Psychology and trains krav maga. Chloe is playful in her sessions but loves satiating her sadistic cravings and specializes in ball busting. Outside of kink, she enjoys traveling, going to concerts, and dancing ballet.

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  • How To Be A Good Submissive

    How To Be A Good Submissive

    I remember going to my first fetish party years ago. I remember my friend going to the bathroom and me standing awkwardly with our drinks around the bar, feeling excited but also intimidated by everyone. A group of people suddenly came up to me and asked me if it was my first time, I proclaimed it was and they said it was theirs too. Instantly, I felt at ease and we discussed many things: our kinks, experience, what we did for work, anything you could think of.

    I had never felt so comfortable talking to strangers about my kinks, especially while being half naked! I think it had a lot to do with the space and how safe I felt in it. The kink community holds so much importance on being welcoming, non-judgemental and offering a safe, sane and consensual space.

    It’s an atmosphere like no other.

    What It Means To Be A Sub

    There are many types of submissives, everyone is different in what they like and in their personality. D/s (Dominance/submission) activities are about a power exchange, to be a sub is to relinquish control to your Dom.

    Misconceptions About Submissives

    The media usually depicts the submissive as weak and abused. This is not the case, with D/s activities both the Dom and sub have equal power. The sub chooses to submit to the Dom under agreement that limits are respected. The Dom then chooses to take the Sub on the basis of the agreement. When limits are crossed, the agreement is breached, making the activity non consensual.

    A lot of people, like myself, enjoy subbing because they love to please and like to give up that control. It takes time for trust to be built up between a sub and a Dom, like any type of relationship, it gets better with time and experience.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub

    Being a good sub is being clear and honest with your Dom, before, during and after a scene. Whether about your experience in kink, how you felt during and after the last scene, and what you would like your future scenes to include.

    Discovering If You’re A Dom Or Sub

    When entering the kink scene, you do not have to choose to identify as a Dom or sub straight away. Some people know well before they have entered, and some take their time trying different roles. It is also okay to want to change your role for different partners, different scenes or at different times in your life. Someone like myself who likes to take on both roles usually identifies as a switch.

    Advice For New Sub

    If you are new to submission, start slowly by getting to know what you like. Do your research: read online blogs and watch porn (hard homework, I know!)

    Most importantly, know that it is okay to not like something and to speak up when you are uncomfortable or unsure. Kink is a two way street and everyone should be enjoying themselves.

    Scarlett May – An Australian independent switch based in London. She’s 5’8, with a small waist and pert round bottom – perfect for spanking. She loves giving and receiving humiliation, and especially enjoys role plays … the more taboo the better. She offers a safe and non-judgemental space for you to explore your true desires.

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  • How To Worship A Goddess

    How To Worship A Goddess

    “An artist is someone who can hold two opposing viewpoints and still remain fully functional.” I believe that there is an artist in all of us kinky creatures. The kinks / alternative lifestyles unleash the alter ego within us, and with a healthy balance between vanilla and alternatives, they keep us function better.

    I see alternative lifestyles as very much about power exchange. When you hand over the control and let go of yourself to someone you trust and like, you release the tension in your day to day life and enter another realm of enjoyment.

    What Goddess Worship Involves

    In the most straightforward sense, worshipping a goddess involves worshipping her body and her wearings, such as kissing her feet, heels, boots, stockings, gloves, panties.

    Apart from the basics, a slave would worship even the floor the goddess steps on, the cigarette she smokes, and the fluids from her body, etc.

    In a broader sense, worshipping a goddess doesn’t have to be in a session. Buying her gifts, treating her to a meal, a drink, a holiday, being her chauffeur, doing tasks for her – things that genuinely adds value and/or enjoyment to her life can all be considered worshipping her.

    Worshipping a goddess is giving / doing for her what she loves, in true form of servitude.

    For example, travelling is one of the many many things I love. I go for private trips with my slaves every now and then. Treating me to a holiday and serving me along the way makes me feel worshipped, and makes them special for me. I also love massages, so I allow some of my slaves to massage my body either in and outside of sessions (they have to learn the professional techniques, otherwise I will teach them the hard way in the session). I find my body is better worshipped this way than having the slave licking my feet (the latter is more about degradation for the slave over enjoyment for my feet, although I love to have my feet worshipped in all sorts of ways).

    Why Goddess Worship Is Popular

    For the domme, being worshipped is satisfying. she received the pleasure, and knows that she has the power and she is admired.

    For the sub, to worship is to show his submission to his domme. For a submissive man, the feeling of  letting go of his own sense of self and giving to  / pleasing the lady he adores is indulging.

    Typical Types Of Worships

    In sessions, worshipping feet, butt, and any other parts of the body that she allows, heels / boots, stockings, fetishwears.

    Outside of sessions, gifts, trips, and dining.

    What Subs Should Know Before Worshipping A Goddess

    Know her preference – such as which part of the body she likes to be worshipped more / most. How she likes to be worshipped. Whether she prefers the sub to be shaved.

    Know her limits – which parts she doesn’t allow contact.

    Shower and clean thoroughly before getting close to the goddess.

    Asking for permission before the act is always a good sub etiquette.

    Mistress Yui – I am an adventurer in sexuality and domination. Gifted with beauty and in constant pursuit of higher power and finer things. I put men in their place, and free their spirits. Above all, I am fun, mostly harmless!

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  • The Strangest Fetishes that can be found on the Web

    The Strangest Fetishes that can be found on the Web

    Welcome to the Internet! Whilst it is one of the greatest archives of human knowledge in assistance, once you go to the Adult Section of this archive, you will find that it cesspool of dirty kinks. These kinks are usually dominated by Rule 34, aka. the idea that if it exists then there will be porn of it. Whilst you may be used to the idea of some of the weirder things out there, like foot fetishes and diaper fetishes, there are other kinks that may have been outside of your knowledge, or maybe things you just did not want to know about. Here are some of the most obscure kinks that can only be understood through research on the internet.

    Agalmatophilia

     Sexual Arousal to Statues

    When it comes admiring art, Agalmatophilia takes this to a whole new level. Whilst you may think that this may just include ogling a number of Greek statues with their curves and breasts fully displayed, it also references naked dolls and mannequins. Whilst some just feel sexual arousal to these sort of body-shaped objects, there are others who indulge in the paralysis fetish and actually feel like they have fallen in love with the statues. This includes one 40-year-old woman who fell in love with a three-foot statue of the Greek God Adonis. She bought the statue for £395 and treats him like a living companion. These actions include reading and talking to him, kissing and caressing him and even eating dinner with him.

    The feelings of arousal and intimacy can come from the idea of seeing human perfection in an inanimate object. They have the perfect body, therefore the owner can envision their own personality and attributes around them.

    Brat Play

    Sexual Arousal to Disobeying the Instructions of the Dominative Partner

    This mostly refers to the idea of Sub/Dom play, where the “brat” (aka. the sub) purposefully disobeys the dom in order to get their “negative attention.” Of Course, this negative attention usually ends with them being sexually punished until the obey the command. Usually, depending on how extreme the sub/dom relationship is, the punishments will also get more sexual/extreme the more that the sub disobeys.

    Daddy Kink

    Sexual Arousal to a Dominative Male Partner

    Now, this is a kink that is relatively straight forward. It is the idea of calling a dominative partner “Daddy” during sex as an act of submission. Usually, it can accompany the submissive partner being spanked or sexually pleasured until they say it.

    Feederism

    Sexual Arousal to either being fed or doing the feeding

    This tends to fall under the idea of Fat Fetishism. Usually, there tend to be two participants in this act. One is the feeder, who cooks the meals and feeds the other, and the feedee, the one who eats the food. The main object is to make the feedee gain weight. Both are interested in either being (or being with) a larger partner. However, the extremity of the feeding relationship tends to depend on the couple. Some are happy with simply gaining a few pounds whilst others take it to the extreme and attempt to gain intimacy from helping their partner become obese. This may even get to the point where the feedee becomes fully dependent on the feeder for daily tasks.

    Katoptronophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Mirrors

    You have heard of the story of Narcissus before, but you probably have not heard of Katoptronophilia! Though both link to the idea of being turned on to an image of yourself, the idea of sexual arousal in front of a mirror also allows for your partner to join in on the fun. Whether it is a long-term boy/girlfriend, a quick hook up or even one of the gorgeous Croydon Escorts, this kink tends to be a little more time, as it entails that you can watch yourself enjoy being pleasured, but it can also be a great ego booster. No longer do you need to watch porn to indulge your kinks, instead, you can be the pornstar in your own personal mirror show!

    Knismolagnia

    Sexual Arousal to Tickling

    If you go on the weird side of DeviantArt, this is a fetish that is normally captured by artists that reside in a fanbase. Whilst it may sound weird that tickling someone could cause sexual arousal, it is a form of sensation play that can bring a couple together. It is also the feeling of domination that can arrive from being at the mercy of someone else, especially if the “ticklee” is tied up and cannot stop the “tickler.” This is something that can also involve tickle machines and play objects, such as feathers (which leads to a different kink, known as “Pteronphilia”) and soft whips.

    Macrophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Giantess Sex

    If a person is a macrophiliac, then you will find that they are extremely attracted to someone who is extremely large in comparison to themselves. They may find themselves extremely turned on by the idea of giants or being stepped on by the giant themselves.

    Psellismophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Stuttering

    When it comes to kinks, this may be a smaller one, but it truly proves that if it exists in the universe then you can create a sexual fetish out of it. But some people really do get excited over the idea of people stuttering. Whilst it can just be the idea of stuttering in general, it can also be a sexy submission tactic which can turn on the dom.

    Stygiophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Damnation and Hell

    Whilst this is a more abstract kink, it is more common than you think, as it is an attraction to the idea of “sinful” sex being able to send them to hell. Whilst the sex does not excite the user, the idea of damnation certainly does. A person with this kink may feel excited about the idea of sex taking place whilst being surrounded by heat and flames. They may also be heavily into Pecattiphilia, which is the idea where sexual arousal can come from the committing of sin and the experience of guilt.

    Ursusagalmatophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Teddy Bears

    When it comes to Teddy Bears, there are some people who want to do a lot more than just cuddling them! Take, for instance, Charles Marshall, an Ohio Resident, who was arrested four times for having intercourse with a teddy bear in a public place. In this case, it is most likely to keep your sexual activities hidden in the bedroom.

    Yiffing

    Sexual Arousal within the Furry Community

    If you are a regular visitor to the internet, you must know about Furries. Furries are people who are anthropomorphized animals enthusiasts. The animals have human characteristics and the furries tend to enjoy dressing up as them. They will use their created character online as a “fursona” and even go to conventions in a “pursuit.” This is the same for “Scalies”, except the furry animal personal is replaced with a reptile persona.

    Whilst this is a normal part of the internet, there has been controversy around the idea of “Yiffing”. Yiffing refers to sexual activity that happens amongst fursuiters, the name is created from the sound that foxes make during sex. This can involve furry pornography, cybersexing with other furries and even fully having sex in fursuits.

    Whilst the act of sex itself is not controversial, the fact that some furries were known for their sexual acts in public and in their convention hotels gave them a bad reputation. Although not all furries act in this manner, as some make it extremely clear that they are not interested in the sexual side of the fandom, some furries even go so far as to do cam sessions or sexy photo shoots whilst they are in their costumes.

    Zelophilia

    Sexual Arousal to Jealousy

    Although some couples are happy to indulge in the occasional swinging affair, there are other couples who actually get aroused from feeling jealous. This can be just from their partner flirting with someone else to actually watching them have sex with someone else!

    Get your Freak on!

    As the saying goes, “to each his own”, meaning that when it comes to sexual kinks and fantasies, everyone is an individual and is interested in their own kind of kicks. Whilst some may more extreme than others, we cannot deny that the internet is a dirty place. It brings forth some of the strangest kinks that we have never had previously assumed were even a thing. Try not to judge the kinks too harshly for, who knows, you might end up indulging in one in the future!

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Wrestler

    What It’s Like To Be A Fetish Wrestler

    I knew I was going to be a part of the alternative and kinky fetish lifestyle for quite sometime. I went to college in the Greater New York area and was dabbling into various BDSM through modeling, art, and clubs since I was 21 so finding those with the same mindset was essential in my life as I love to feel this bliss and spread that feeling to others also.

    What Does Fetish Wrestling Involve?

    Fetish wrestling is having a kink for fighting and typically mixed with whatever fetish you are interested in (tickling, messy, bondage, etc). It is mixed between using actual martial arts (BJJ, Judo, Karate, etc.) techniques and strength (i.e. headscissors, pins, submissions, etc.). It can include ropes, oil, jello, mud, etc. and usually ends with some form of punishment (spanking, feet worshipping, camel clutching, hogtying, etc.)

    Why People Love Fetish Wrestling

    They love exploring the fetish and fighting for the win. The dominant one obviously aiming to punish as the submissive one is usually aiming to get punished. The dynamics for this is different as it depends on what rules and regulations pertains and is agreed upon prior to the match.

    How Did You Become A Fetish Wrestler?

    I got into it via Doom Maidens which are known for their bondage wrestling. I realized how much I was into it and they held (and still do) different classes to train for safety and techniques. They hold monthly meetings to talk about what we can do to improve with our skills as well as kept up to date with current (fetish) wrestling events.

    Misconceptions About Fetish Wrestling

    The most common misconception when people know I am a fetish wrestler is “Ultimate Surrender” type match which is also in the realm of fetish wrestling but usually ends with someone being vaginally/anally penetrated at the end. That is not what I do nor offer as many have limits. My hard limits are no penetration, masturbation, or any exchange in bodily fluids/urine/faeces so please DO NOT reach out to me for this type of session/production.

    Tips To Try Fetish Wrestling For The First Time

    Do your research and make sure you take the time out to find out who your ideal sessiongirl would be. Pay for your clips and your sessions accordingly as we work our asses off to make sure you get to fulfill your fantasy on camera or in person with the proper techniques and training.

    After you pick your ideal sessiongirl and if correspondence goes well and communication is clear, be honest to her so you can get your money’s worth on the dream session you are looking for which hopefully gets you to want to explore it some more.

    Kim Chi – Funsize and feisty little Asian firecracker originating out of the Greater New York Area and relocated to the Nation’s Capital. I am a professional switch (dom/sub) that travels for hire. I am a jill of most trades so if you need front end, back end, or inbetween end work — I am here.

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  • What To Know About Domestic Discipline & Spanking

    What To Know About Domestic Discipline & Spanking

    I believe that kink is part of the human condition, maybe even integral to life itself. All the way back to bacteria in the primordial soup. Kink is an expression of life’s longing for variation. Everything being relative, all lifestyles are an alternative to something. Even that nuclear family aesthetic they pushed in the 50’s wasn’t ever “normal” and now I know several couples who live out those so-called traditional gender roles as part of their kinky alternative lifestyle.

    What Does Domestic Discipline Involve?

    Domestic discipline actually ties in very nicely with the 50’s aesthetic; the bread-winner husband comes home to find the home-maker wife burnt dinner and puts her over his knee for a sound spanking, that’s hot!

    Equally as hot would be hubby coming home and admitting that he didn’t get that raise he promised and ending over his wife’s knee. Although I’ve seen role plays of being punished by mom or dad under the heading of domestic discipline, I feel that it is mostly a dynamic of two people who share a domicile where one is the disciplinarian over the other.

    Why Subs Enjoy Being Disciplined

    This is such a complicated question, specifically when it comes to spanking, because it definitely occupies the same part of the brain as sex, but isn’t necessarily sexual for every sub. Some people who are “into” spanking were never spanked as a child and attribute the desire to experiencing something they missed out on, while others were spanked regularly and attribute it to that.

    Also, the word “enjoy” is not exactly right, because I’ve known subs to say that while they are being spanked they aren’t enjoying it but, at the same time, they don’t want it to stop because it’s what they need or deserve. “Why do subs desire being disciplined?” Or, even better, feel a “need” to be disciplined, is the question. As with many activities that fall under the BDSM heading, spanking has an element of power exchange.

    Giving your will over to someone in authority, who has your best interest at heart and is just giving you the direction you need via a good long spanking, is comforting in a way.

    Favorite Forms Of Punishment

    I really like to have a sub over my knees. I like to feel the tension in their body rise and fall as the spanking progresses. I like to feel their bodies shake with the strain of holding themselves in position while enduring their punishment, and then, finally, to feel them relax as they give in, that’s the best.

    Why Is Spanking Appealing To Both Parties?

    The first thing that comes to mind for me is “control”, giving it over and/or having control over someone. I think when being spanked myself, I ultimately want the person spanking me to be in charge. Of course, whenever you’re playing with anyone, consent is king and checking in is very important. But for me, I wouldn’t be over your knee if I didn’t trust you and wasn’t ready to get the spanking I deserve.

    Favorite Spanking Items!

    I always like to start with my hand. I give a very hard hand spanking. I’ve been told that my hand feels like a paddle. Although I have many implements that are designed specifically for spanking, I like to use things that can be found around the house like hair brushes, bath brushes, wooden spoons and belts. As far as being spanked, it’s pretty much the same.

    Ways To Kink Up Spanking Play

    Oh sure! You can add rope play, blind folds, tickling… Enemas are popular in some circles, especially making a sub hold it in during a spanking. Forced orgasm while being spanked is a fun variation.

    Just use your imagination and happy spanking!

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  • A Foodplay Session

    A Foodplay Session

    A Foodplay Session In Hong Kong

    I had exchanged some messages with R., whom I thought was an expatriate, given his name. I was in no hurry to meet him because, after a correspondence of several days, I noticed that he was in high demand, and someone acting with too much haste doesn’t get the same result from me. Also, someone listening to his own impulses at the expense of exchange doesn’t attract me. Nevertheless, I went there out of curiosity, willing to amuse myself. I didn’t show any desire to participate in the outdoor play fantasy he mentioned, a right I reserve to the submissives I already know.

    We had an appointment on a Wednesday of March at teatime in a hotel in Central. On the menu of the session, some practices for which we shared the craze: golden shower, foodplay and possibly shaving. I did not shave him for a good reason: the rest of the session was entertaining enough.

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    At the door, the young Chinese man might have read the surprise on my face. His face looked much more youthful than 39 years old, half of it spent in Canada, the other half in Hong Kong. During a preliminary discussion, he mentioned his outdoor play fantasy again, and being sensitive to his positive energy, thinking that it could be funny, I accepted to play outside the next time we will meet, after my next trip to Shanghai. It seemed to excite him to the highest degree; however being watched by some potential witnesses also seemed quite scary for him: the conservatism of some Hong-Kong people might be a problem for the two perverse children that we are, and we could get into serious trouble. He seemed to enjoy playing attack and defense in a friendly match between being passionate and reasonable. His rhetoric didn’t convince me to make any decision regarding these activities. Therefore I concluded that we will leave room for improvisation next time, and not try to achieve any goal, any ideal session; this attitude might actually hinder the pleasure of these “forbidden games”. As expected for this foodplay session, R. had brought some small cupcakes for me to eat, or to be exact, to chew and spit on him. A banana, two cakes, and an ice cream were waiting for their conviction.

    Grabbing my leather handcuffs, I tied his hands in his back, threw him on the bed and straddle him. I began to tear his T-shirt apart brutally and to stuff his mouth with the pieces of tissue crushed in my hand. Surprise and fright suddenly appeared on his ephebe face, and I felt the desire to capture the moment. He accepted my request. I still remember this lovely face, even if my phone would disappear in a plane from Shanghai to Hong Kong a few days later, and with it, some photos from different BDSM sessions in Hong Kong.

    Time for some ice cream. Dipping a spoon into the cup, I started melting the cream into my mouth and spat it on his face, conscientiously. Soon, his eyes, nose, and mouth were covered of a thin layer of cream – I had spared his jet-black hair. Then I dropped his pants on his knees with authority, a gesture that I usually perform during a session of discipline, before a corporal punishment. This time I had the feeling that I was on the verge of sexually assaulting a very innocent young ephebe face… BDSM practices enable us to satisfy fantasies in a caring environment or to become aware of some hidden inclinations naturally… Standing on the bed, my feet on either side of his chest, I spat again and spread other ice cream chunks on his plexus. The bed quickly resembled a turbulent child’s room, littered with torn clothes, crushed ice and soon yellow stains. I threw some pieces of lemon cake on the floor, as I would have fed a wild dog, except that this dog had his hands tied behind his back and shreds of clothes miserably hanging on his body. The dog did not seem happy to crawl on the floor, pants down on his ankles.

    I told him to crawl to the shower and lie on his back. I spread my legs above his face. “Open your mouth and swallow!” He told me afterward that it was the first time he had drunk this way. It surprised me because of the ease with which he executed my order. The bathroom became the backdrop of some photography I took from him and parts of his body: his hair, his eyes that stared at me, and his incredible hands, as thin and graceful as most women’s hands.

    The shower tray was full of different mixtures made of cakes, liquid ice cream, and body liquids, to which I added a banana that I started crushing under my feet. Picking up the pieces, my toes dipped in and disappeared into his lips, then his tongue licked and swallowed my foot meticulously – I did not know if I was dealing with a young slave captive of my perverted games, or with a loyal and obedient dog.

    Time out of time, out of everything, as only BDSM plays can set out: we then started sharing about our personal experiences, following the thread of our fantasies, while I was still standing above him, alternating the proximity of my toes in front of his face, which he kept on worshipping with dedication.

    His first experience was in Toronto when a friend of his had scheduled a meeting with him in a BDSM bar. He did not know this last detail. It was, in fact, an ambush: three to four women, probably dominatrixes, had tied him up and tore off his clothes until he was naked in front of them. To my question, he replied that he did not know at that moment if he appreciated the experience of embarrassment. It was once the action was accomplished and processed that he had wished to feel the thrill of disgrace again – and had to acknowledge that he was one of “them,” these BDSM players.

    At the end of the session, I set up one of my favorite little game, which I enjoy declining in diverse variations. In front of a square of toilet paper, in front of his knees, he had to cum while respecting the stopwatch. The dice that I always keep in my bag turned into a stopwatch: he rolled it and found three. Three exact minutes and not a drop out of the square of paper. I tied his frail, slender thumbs together to make this task a little more difficult. After a minute, I could not restrain myself from bursting out laughing: his enjoyment had rudely snubbed the square of paper and lied on the floor, at least thirty centimeters away. He seemed astonished and disappointed that he could not respect my constraints: he really believed that he had reached the right timing.

    We decided to meet again for our outdoor session once I would be back from Shanghai. In the meantime, I will lose my phone on the Shanghai plane, and with it all my data and the photographs of my sessions. However, all my BDSM sessions of these first few months in Hong Kong have been written in my diary, including this one.

    Mistress Euryale – International Dominatrix from Paris, based in Hong Kong

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