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  • How To Be A Fetish Model

    How To Be A Fetish Model

    I had a lot of things I disliked myself.  But I realized it (kink) was an original charm that only I had. That gave me confidence.

    How I Became A Fetish Model

    When I debuted as a dancer, there were many photographers in the fetish world.  They told me, “I want to have a photo shoot with you”.

    Why I Love Fetish Modeling & My Favorite Fetishes

    Fetish modeling is one way I can be myself.

    Every part of my body that the viewer wants and all of my thinking.

    Because we recognize that people have different preferences.  There is no right or wrong answer in the human appearance.

    Tips For Beginner Fetish Models

    Inferiority turns into individuality.

    The world of fetish is not influenced by fashion.  So you should self-produce to bring out your charm.You are the only one.  No one can imitate you.

    Botan – I am a model of performance and multi-functions such as ROPE and dance on the theme of fetish.  Mixing Japanese culture and fetish and performing overseas too.

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    I often perform at American and Canadian fetish parties.

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Dominatrix

    What It’s Like To Be A Dominatrix

    I personally dislike the idea that a kink lifestyle is “alternative” at all. Everyone has fetishes – whether or not their fetishes have become socially “appropriate” or not is really what people are talking about when they separate what’s “kink” from what’s “vanilla”.

    I believe that each person deserves the right to live out their fantasies in a way that is safe, sane, and consensual; often, this means turning to a sex worker or professional who can guide them through finding the best and most healthy ways to engage in their fetishes.

    How I Became A Dominatrix

    In the early 2010s, I helped run kink discussion groups in Philadelphia, and those experiences encouraged me to start camming. Soon after, I began dating someone in Brooklyn who asked me if I’d try being a little more dominant with them. Years later, they wrote about that first night, saying “It was like you picked up a basketball and realized you were Michael Jordan.” (To this day, that’s one of my favorite things anyone has ever said about me.)

    I have a habit of monetizing my passions, and I was also feeling uncomfortable being submissive while camming, so I switched gears and started my domination career. In January of 2018, I officially shut down my life coaching and other businesses and made domination my full-time career.

    Was The Experience What You Thought It Would Be?

    Well, I started out from more of a lifestyle domination standpoint, so I think I had a different approach than most from the get-go. I’m not going to say I didn’t make the classic “online domme” mistakes when I started out, because I SO did, but I think most of that was just me trying to mimic others instead of just being myself. It took me a while to figure out who I was as a Domme, and I actively endeavor to grow and learn more about who I am as a Domme every day.

    I’d say my biggest expectation going in was that I could always trust the subs, clients, and customers who approached me, which I quickly learned was NOT true. One of the best things I’ve learned as an online sex worker is that words are empty and actions speak volumes.

    Being A Dominatrix Is Harder Than It Looks

    I would say yes – although, it depends on what you’re looking at. Mass media depictions of “domination” often showcase abusive and/or unrealistic encounters which leave people with the impression that a) abuse is “kinky”, b) domination is all about sexual or painful interactions, c) aftercare doesn’t exist, d) domination requires little to no education, and more unsafe/unsavory misconceptions.

    So, to the general uneducated public, I would definitely say that domination is a lot more difficult than it looks. There are so many aspects of domination that are not depicted in works like “50 Shades of Gray” (more like 50 Shades of Massively Abusive and Manipulative Behavior, if you ask me) and click bait articles about how “Woman Makes Thousands of Dollars Humiliating Men on the Internet!!”. People are shown the ‘outrageous’ sides of domination, but not the raw, loving, and educated sides.

    This is dangerous for many reasons, one of which being: people (especially women) are trained to believe that those horrible, manipulative, and abusive situations and actions are actually SEXY, which leads to literally dangerous encounters where people can be hurt both physically AND emotionally.

    Misconceptions About A Dominatrix

    When I was running my life coaching company and my domination business was a side venture, I had a lot of people asking me things like, “How do you reconcile that? On the one hand, you’re building people up, and on the other, you’re breaking people down!”- to which I’ve always simply answered: “I’m in the business of dream fulfillment.”

    It honestly breaks my heart that so many people think domination is about breaking someone down. That’s such a simplified approach to what is an incredibly nuanced and multi-faceted field. Yes; if a sub is interested in humiliation or degradation or any similar fetish, there are definitely elements of that which come up in the dynamic (relationship). But those elements are there to give the submissive a safe space to engage with their interests and NEEDS – not to ruin them, their lives, or the lives of anyone around them. If there is any “breaking down” in the dynamic, I’m not breaking down the PERSON, I’m breaking down any harmful or limiting barriers that have negatively impacted their lives or their connection to their fetishes, or even basic needs.

    I have sent subs home from work when they had pneumonia, helped them leave relationships that were toxic, inspired them to find better jobs, enforced better hygiene and eating habits, and more. When I own someone, I take responsibility for them. I am now the person who holds their health, their happiness, their relationships in my hands. I take that seriously. I never stopped being a life coach, I just now also get to kick them in the balls, too.

    Advice For Any Aspiring Dominatrix

    EDUCATE YOURSELF. If you’re interested in a fetish, LEARN about it. Find someone who is trained in it, hire them to consult with you or train you. If you’re not interested in actually investing in this and treating it like a business, and if you’re not willing to make sure you are providing the safest and most professional experience for potential clients, you really have no business in this industry.

    I’m not trying to put anyone down or make anyone feel like they are unwelcome, but this is about literally putting people in danger. If you are not well-trained and completely cognizant of your effect on potential subs/slaves/customers/clients, you are actually putting others (and even yourself) in physically and emotionally dangerous situations. I started off by making a FetLife account, consistently refreshing the “random fetishes” page, and researching anything that popped up that I didn’t know anything about. This also gave me a very clear idea of what I was into and what I wasn’t, which is IMPORTANT. If you aren’t completely clear about your limits and needs, it is impossible to really lay a foundation for a sub to do the same. Also, it leaves space for the Dom(me) to be taken advantage of by ‘subs’ who top from the bottom (actually dominate the situation under the guise of being submissive) and try to haggle (that’s not ‘being bratty’, it’s just disrespectful).

    So, I guess for me, it comes down to education, clarity, consistency, communication, and compassion. Without any one of those things, there is potential for physical or emotional distress, on either or both ends. These are real people with real lives!! If you are incapable of treating them as such, you are creating a toxic and abusive environment, and that is just not domination. I always say, “The line between domination and abuse is the moment the dominant doesn’t respect that any power they have was GIVEN to them by the sub.”

    Domination (and submission) can be intensely rewarding and fun – but without a safe, sane, and consensual environment, all you’re doing is monetizing being abusive. Be safe, educate yourself, be compassionate, and most of all, have fun!!

    Fox Ryker is a professional traveling Domme based out of Los Angeles. She’s a stickler for limits, loves exploration and pushing boundaries, and operates with moderate to high protocol. She loves spending time and sessioning in NYC, Baltimore, Orlando and Philadelphia. She’s sadistic and playful, and puts health, reliability, loyalty, and communication above all else. Her primary interests include humiliation/degradation, financial domination, foot worship, chastity/keyholding, and sadism

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    I offer sessions globally, as long as travel is paid for. Upcoming tours will be announced on my social media accounts, specifically Twitter. I am always available for interviews and features. I also provide kink coaching for those who need the help of a professional to find healthy ways to engage in their interests, but aren’t looking for a Domme, and business coaching for those interested in joining the industry.

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  • How To Have Taboo Mom Roleplay

    How To Have Taboo Mom Roleplay

    Obviously I love sex. I have always been a sexual person without acting on it until later in life though. It is just a beautiful thing and can change your life in many many different ways.

    The Appeal Behind Taboo Mom Roleplay

    A mother’s love is something that we as humans crave and for some of us, our mom is the first person that we have ever loved. Mommy roleplay is certainly not black and white when it comes to why this is so popular. There are various reasons as to why a person fancies mommy roleplay. I know many submissive females who enjoy a “daddy” who is able to to take care of them and fuck them good. I think men are wanting the same thing, a “mommy” to care for them and also to fuck them good. This is very sexy power exchange dynamics.

    It is the same as with video games as it enables us to experience fantasies without acting on them in real life. I personally like this roleplay because that is just how I am wired, taboo can range from soothing bed scenes with lots of whispering to hardcore dominance and rough sex. I am naturally a very nurturing person, I enjoy starting as the sweet prude mom and escalating to full blown sex-crazed. I think there is something very sexy about that progression.

    For some reason, mommy dirty talk comes very naturally to me. My mommy fans like it when I am a mommy with a filthy vulgar mouth.

    Preparing For Taboo Mom Roleplay

    I go over my script prior to filming and rehearse as I do my hair / makeup. I try and really channel and prepare my role. I like to really deliver a story within my videos.

    How A Typical Taboo Mom Roleplay Session Goes

    It is most important I believe to try and catch the essence of the script. Does he want to dominate the mother, does he want to feel safe and catered to? And what does that mean for the mood of the video, will the camera have to be super up close to me or would a different angle work better? If there is no customer script I try and just shoot what I feel like my customers COULD like.

    There are many trigger words within this roleplay. It is mostly me either having a moral dilemma / self conflict within myself and it progresses to me then needing nothing but my sons cock. Mommy roleplay is also very centered around breast play. From experience, most orgasm to “mommy riding the sons cock and my boobs bouncing up and down” part.

    Misconception About Taboo Mom Roleplay

    That every person is then secretly in love with their own mother, I think it is more about what a mother in general represents: security, shelter, closeness.

    Tips To Try It Out

    Get a feeling for what exactly it is that turns the partner on about it and how you can enhance the experience for the both of you. There are many different layers to this roleplay. Communicate throughout as much as you can. Porn is not real life sex. There is no right or wrong way to do it. As long as it is ethical and consensual let the roleplay bring you as far as your heart desires. Don’t be embarrassed to include the word “mommy” in your dirty talk 😉

    Annabelle Rogers – Classy gal with a dirty mouth. “The Meryl Streep” of taboo. Camgirl, content creator and Snapchat model.

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  • What It’s Like To Be Fetish Model

    What It’s Like To Be Fetish Model

    My feeling is that so long as everyone is over 18, and the activity is consensual, go for it. I’m also a Dominatrix, in addition to being a fetish model. I’ve been doing this work for 10 years now, so I’ve seen a lot. Honestly, nothing really surprises me anymore, nor do I judge.  In my role as a pro domme, I often find myself acting more as a therapist. You can’t believe how many clients have asked me, “Is my fetish weird? Have you seen a lot of people with my exact fetish?”

    I find myself spending a lot of time reassuring my clients that they’re “normal”, and that is sad to me. I wish our society was more accepting of fetishes and kinks, but I do think we are moving in the right direction.

    In my modeling work, I shoot custom videos. I’ve catered to people who like bondage. People who like tickling. I even shot 200 still photos of nothing but the inside of my mouth, for someone who had a mouth fetish.

    I can’t explain a lot of fetishes, and I’m not sure the people who have them truly understand where they come from, either.

    I personally have a 1960s flight attendant uniform fetish, and it’s just something that visually excites me. I really can’t explain it!

    How I Got Started Into Fetish Modeling

    I had no choice! I’ve always had office jobs, my entire adult career, until 2008 when the recession hit, and I was laid off. I had just purchased a home in Los Angeles. Needless to say, my mortgage was through the roof, and I had no idea how I was going to pay it. A good friend of mine told me I was photogenic and that I should try modeling. I scoffed at him—I was 42 years old and 5’1”, until I realized at one point that I had sent out 500 resumes and gotten no replies. I was liquidating my stocks and needed to act to start bringing in money.

    My friend explained he hadn’t been suggesting runway modeling, but that there were many avenues open for older women, including glamour and fetish. I really had no idea at that time what fetish modeling involved, but I was willing to try.

    I paid a photographer to shoot my first set of modeling pics, put them up on Model Mayhem, and before I knew it, I had photographers willing to teach me the ropes in exchange for photos. A photographer in Tampa contacted me and offered to connect me to fetish producers down there, and he also recommended I set up a profile on Fetlife.  Then I shot with the legendary Ken Marcus, which really shot my career to the next level. I definitely got a crash course in fetish, shooting in Tampa. I worked with several great producers, including Charlee Chase and Jerry Badman, doing everything from “ear fetish” and hair washing, to extreme damsel in distress bondage. I couldn’t believe I was being paid so much money for what I thought was easy work! And getting to travel on top of that, was the icing on the cake.

    After working with other producers, I realized the best thing for me to do was set up my own clips stores. I loved the freedom and independence of producing my own content and started shooting custom videos. That’s now where I make the bulk of my money.

    Challenges I Faced As A 40s’ Fetish Model 

    I’m lucky, in that “cougars” and “MILFs” are very popular, so I think being in my 40s gave me an advantage.  And being a professional Dominatrix is the kind of thing you can do even very late in life. In fact, given how much imagination and creativity you often have to put into your pro Domme work, it’s a good thing to be older and more experienced.

    One challenge is working with models who are significantly younger. Sometimes it can be hard, wanting to compare your body with theirs. But I realized that even young women have cellulite!

    With glamour modeling, a lot of photographers can be ageist. They simply won’t work with older women, even though many of them are MY age. They prefer tight young 20-somethings, and sometimes they have ulterior motives with them, too. They know an older woman would be on to the games they play, so they won’t hire us.

    Misconceptions About Fetish Models

    Ha! So many. First off, that we’re all easy and sleep around.  Or that we party all the time.

    I remember the first FetCon (a convention for people in the fetish content industry that takes place in Florida every August) I attended — many of my fellow models didn’t party. They stayed in their rooms playing RPGs or video games,  because they’re total geeks. Or going to bed early. And many of my hottest fetish model friends seem to be perpetually single.

    It can be hard trying to date, doing what I do for a career. I find that people tend to either be intimidated by it, or overly titilated by it. Or they assume that I’m into every kink in the book, simply because I’m essentially an actor who pretends to like every fetish I shoot. But honestly, very often, it’s JUST A JOB. I wish more people could wrap their heads around that.

    Advice For Aspiring Fetish Models

    I would say, don’t let your perceptions about society’s judgment hold you back. You’d be surprised how welcome older women are in this profession.  One good thing about being older is that many of us don’t have to worry about what our families will think if they find out. Both of my parents have passed on. And I really only have my nieces and nephews to be concerned about. Most of them know what I do, and have no problem with it.

    Also, at this age, it’s not likely I’m going to want to be a doctor or lawyer or some profession where my nude pics, or photos of me tied up with a gag in my mouth, are going to cause me to lose a vanilla job.

    Get a professional photographer to take some photos of you, then get on Model Mayhem and Fetlife, and start hustling for work. But be sure to do your due diligence and check references for all the photographers who want to hire you. Even older women can be prey for creeps, but models are very good at looking out for each other in this business.

    Miss Pandora has been called “the sexiest cougar on the web.” She lives on the east coast and does shoots and sessions in New York City, Philadelphia, Baltimore, the DC area and occasionally travels to the west coast. She’ll be available at Fetcon in August 2019 for select bookings.  Send a message to missp@sexypandora.com for custom videos, shoots, or sessions.

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  • How To Get Started Into BDSM

    How To Get Started Into BDSM

    If I can put it simply, I think kink is the spice of sex life! I always knew I liked to be dominated sexually. Hair pulling, spanking and being physically overpowered during sex always appealed to me before I knew anything about kink. Since discovering it about five years ago, I have learned so much more about myself and that has led to me feeling more open and fulfilled in my relationships.

    I have also found that people in the kink community are generally open minded and accepting. I’ve met a lot of amazing people and new friends that I would have never crossed paths with if I didn’t delve into my kinky side.

    The Appeal Of BDSM

    I believe that BDSM has grown significantly in popularity since the release of the ‘Fifty Shades’ series. It has become more mainstream and more people are curious about it. As far as what the appeal is, or what attracts someone to BDSM, that varies greatly depending on the individual. I think life experiences and psychological makeup play a large role in whether or not someone is drawn to BDSM.

    Aspects Of BDSM I Am Into

    I enjoy several aspects of BDSM for different reasons. I like bondage for the challenge of it. I like to test my flexibility and ability to handle strict positions for extended periods of time. However, bondage is not usually a sexual turn on for me on it’s own, unless it’s combined with a certain level of pain play like spanking, flogging, caning, nipple torture, etc. I am a masochist and love pushing the limits of my pain threshold. Reaching that breaking point is a huge release physically and emotionally and the subspace experienced after a heavy play session is one of the best feelings ever.

    I also really enjoy the power exchange of a D/s relationship. I can be dominant in many areas of my life, especially professionally, but in my personal life I love submitting to my partner sexually and serving them like they are superior to me. Being able to give up control in that area of my life is a huge release from the responsibilities of my professional life. I am involved in a Master/slave relationship and it’s one of the most fulfilling experiences I’ve had in my life thus far.

    Introducing BDSM To Someone With No Experience

    Good communication is very important before engaging in any BDSM activity and this is especially true with someone who has no experience or is nervous. Of course, the reason such a conversation would take place is because the person has expressed interest in it.

    So ask them what it is about BDSM that attracted them to it. Are there specific activities they want to try? What are their limits and hard no’s? It’s extremely important to fully trust the person you plan to engage in BDSM play with and thorough communication can help to establish that trust.

    Tips For Beginners Searching For Their Kink

    There are aspects of BDSM I never realized I would enjoy until they were introduced to me by a partner who was more experienced in BDSM than I was. It’s helpful when you’re new to BDSM to have a partner who is more experienced and can show you the ropes so to speak. I would recommend starting to experiment with a safe partner you trust (preferably experienced) and as you try new things, you will learn what works for you and turns you on as well as what doesn’t.

    If you feel like you have no idea where to start, I recommend visiting bdsmtest.org and take the quiz to get an idea of what aspects of BDSM you might enjoy the most. You can also create a profile on Fetlife.com, a popular social media website where you can interact with others in the BDSM community, find local events and much more. Another great resource is XRuniversity.com which features educational and informative videos on BDSM play that are great for beginners and may be especially useful for couples where both partners are new to kink and BDSM.

    Chrissy Marie is a glamour/fetish model and professional custom video producer specializing in damsel in distress bondage. She has been published in Penthouse Magazine, Playboy.com and much more throughout her career. These days her focus is on being the kinky girl next door! She stays busy fetish modeling and producing videos for her sites www.CaptiveChrissyMarie.com and www.clips4sale.com/98213.

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  • How To Spice Things Up With Roleplay

    How To Spice Things Up With Roleplay

    Whether between a heterosexual or homosexual couple, sex is sex. Beyond that however, sex is an addition to body language as it’s a way of communication through touch and sound. You can learn to know someone’s interests through the arch in their back or moans of satisfaction. Even with sex by yourself, you’re able to understand your body better. Some find sex to be a dirty thing and in actuality, it isn’t all about a sweaty race to orgasms. Sex can help with sleep, reduce tension and ease stress. It’s healthy, natural and best between consenting safe playing partners.

    I genuinely love sex and would have it every day if I could. Whether it’s in a committed relationship or a no strings attached one, it’s best when we’re both interested in mutual satisfaction. Selfish lovers aren’t welcome here. I like to switch it up by having sex in different positions, places and even acting as someone other than myself. As a matter of fact, at the age of 19 was when I roleplayed for the first time. Using my baseball player Halloween costume, I enhanced the look with heels and surprised my boyfriend at the time. You can say I took one for the team and had many hits out of the park.

    Why Roleplay Is Popular

    Roleplaying is popular for spicing things up because new additions are being brought into the bedroom. In some cases, sex and most importantly foreplay, can become quite of a routine resulting in a diminishing desire for intimacy between couples. Roleplay allows for an escape and exploration into a new world while having the ability to try new things. Imagine coming home after a long day of work to your partner laid back on the couch. A note for you reads “Congratulations on your new Dreambot! Kiss, lick and squeeze. Yes, I’m ready to please”.

    Favorite Roleplay Scenarios I Love

    Two of my favorite scenarios are daddy/daughter and teacher/student roleplaying. Though both consist of a couple elements within BDSM which include the “DS” being dominant/submissive, they are different in their own way.

    Acting as daddy’s girl, I generally portray two types of personalities. One being somewhat naïve and innocent, I hesitate but don’t resist. I’m compliant and unbeknownst to me; ready to please.

    The other is boldly ready and willing with an “I won’t tell” type attitude. I don’t take control but I’m easily seduced. When it comes to acting as a schoolgirl, I’m sweet but I could be bratty. I don’t care for much and always in trouble. That is, until I get my one on one lesson.

    Is Roleplay Difficult The First Time?

    When trying roleplay for the first time, it shouldn’t be difficult to act like a character outside of yourself but it may be challenging to take things seriously. You may find your partner and especially yourself fighting away the giggles as you go through a series of dialogue and that’s ok. Burst out laughing, continue or start again.

    Don’t expect perfection the first few times because it will be a bit awkward. There are the few that will feel comfortable in roleplay while their partner may be nervous or shy. If your partner stops, don’t break your character in starting over but use that role to help them ease into theirs.

    Do’s & Don’ts When Engaging In Roleplays

    DO:

    Participate with a willing partner. No one likes to partake in anything they’re not truly interested in.

    Discuss the storyline. Who has what role? What are you interested in and looking to explore?

    Do your best at staying in character. Even if you mess up, try again. Encourage each other to continue in the role.

    Write a script. This allows for the scenario to flow rather than the delayed responses when thinking of what to say.

    Add props and costumes. Sometimes having the full illusion can increase enjoyment.

    Have a safety word if your scenario includes elements of BDSM (restraints, infliction of pain etc).

    Talk about your likes and dislikes once the scenario has finished to decide what can be changed for a better experience next time.

    DON’T:

    Don’t perform acts without prior permission. The fastest way to ruin the mood is having something done to you or another that wasn’t expected.

    Don’t assume that just because you initiated a surprise scenario that you could perform anything on your partner.

    Don’t expect perfection at the beginning. It will take some time to ease into the roles and especially become quick-witted with your dialogue.

    Don’t become upset if your partner doesn’t catch onto the hang of things as fast as you. Patience is key.

    Don’t talk out of character. While you may be doing a great job paying off the debt to your “pizza deliverer”, there is no need to remind them at that point that their mother called earlier.

    Tips For An Unforgettable Roleplay Experience

    To make the experience of roleplaying an unforgettable one, communication should be top priority. You and your partner need to discuss the type of scenarios that will be explored and whether or not the two of you are comfortable in it.

    If you’re really looking to step things up, take your scenarios outside of the bedroom. While at work, send an email or a text in character. Not only are you sexting but you’re building up anticipation through extended foreplay. You could also try picking each other up at the bar or grocery store. Acting like strangers meeting for the first time can make for an exhilarating experience.

    Kamillah Belloir – The oasis you’ve been looking for. Visit me or invite me out to you. A decision you will not regret.

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  • Ways To Explore BDSM & Fetishes

    Ways To Explore BDSM & Fetishes

    There’s a huge taboo around kink and anything beyond the heteronormative views of sex that we are fed in common culture and media today. Ask the Average Joe these days and sex means penis in vagina, missionary – maybe doggy if you’re feeling crazy, and oral if you’re really out there.

    Besides the fact that this view basically makes queer sex impossible, I don’t think even Average Joe thinks that it really fits the definition of great sex. When it comes to our views on what makes sex amazing, almost every person I know is at least a little bit kinky.  Whether it’s wishing your partner would get a little rougher, bite a little harder, or completely take over tenderly and sweetly worshipping every inch of your body, that’s a desire for kinkier sex!

    I think more people should embrace kink. It leads to greater intimacy, a better sense of who you are and what you want and ultimately, better sex.

    How I Got Started Into BDSM

    I mean, I grew up Catholic, so getting off on shame came very naturally to me. All jokes aside, I feel like I was one of those people who was just born with darker tastes. Even in my earliest memories of learning about sex and discovering my sexuality, I craved power imbalances and a kind of love that felt so good it hurt. I think I always looked for those kinds of examples in books, art, movies, etc.

    It wasn’t until I got into college actually that I started to learn about BDSM itself and I started to explore the kink community. I think I got the idea from a roommate who was ranting about how terrible 50 Shades was/is, and I was finally old enough and independent enough to feel comfortable seeking more information in books and on the internet until I felt good and ready to start meeting people in real life.

    My first munch was at this horrible diner in NYC and I had to take an hour long train to get there, but it was really awesome and I’ve never looked back.

    My Favorite Fetishes

    OOF. That’s a toughie because, as a performer, I have favorite fetishes in content creation and then I have personal favorites. I think my favorite fetish is probably tease and denial. I love embracing my inner Goddess, taking control of a partner – especially if they’re much bigger than me and could otherwise overpower me – tying them down somewhere and then teasing them until they’re a writhing, sobbing mess under me.

    I love, love, love torturing them with pleasure. I think it looks great for the camera and it is really fun to record.

    Know This Before Exploring Your Fetishes

    Make real plans for how you will handle it when things get ugly. Any time you try something new, failures are a given and even if you’re usually cool with that, experiencing it in the bedroom where all your vulnerabilities are out in the open is a totally different experience.

    Don’t make the mistake of thinking that there’s a way to explore sexuality and push limits without ever reaching one. I’ve had my share of scenes that I thought were going to be so fun and I ended up in tears, but it was OK because I had talked with my partner about what to do and how we would recover from that. You really need to ask yourself, what will make me feel safe if I get too scared? What will make me feel better if I get too embarrassed? What will calm me down if I start to panic? And go from there.

    Have an exit strategy – you don’t want to be caught in a situation where you thought, “yeah let’s try pegging” and then whatever you ate for dinner has other plans and things get messy real fast, but those knots you used to tie up your partner take even longer to undo. Communicate and be prepared!

    Misconceptions About BDSM & Fetishes

    I don’t think people respond to the words the same way. If I tell people I’m into BDSM, their mind goes straight to pain and sado-masochism. If I tell people I have a lot of fetishes, they go straight for feet and cosplay and odd insertions.

    I think the biggest misconception is that there is one way to engage in kink, one way to be a Dom, one way to be a sub, etc. The truth is that there is no template that a person can use to decide how to have sex. You have to figure these things out for yourself by just experimenting and communicating.

    How To Introduce A Fetish To Your Partner

    It can be really difficult to start a conversation with your partner about a secret desire you have, but it’s so worth it. I think the best way is to find an example in media of some kind, whether that’s an erotic novel, a movie or a porn film, and give it to your partner to take in some time when they’re alone. This takes the pressure off your partner to have the reaction you want and allows them to really sit with their own thoughts and feelings about a scene like that.

    For instance, I’m really into consensual non-consent, where I want my partner to continue doing whatever they want to me regardless of how I say no or struggle and only stop if I use my safe word. That can be a really intense and scary experience for people and I didn’t want my partner to feel like he had to do that for me. So I told him it was a fantasy of mine, sent him a literotica link, gave him some space and then asked about his thoughts.

    Turns out he was really cool with it, but he thanked me for the space because it gave him time to think about what it would be like and to think about what his limits would be and how he would envision the scene playing out. That’s what you want. Don’t surprise someone or put them on the spot – it won’t lead to a good scene.

    Pearl Sinclair is an up and coming adult performer with dreams of a long career in the industry.. Originally from Atlanta, Georgia, Pearl is now based in Portland, Oregon where she lives with her partner, their ginger cat and their smush-faced dog. She creates her own content as well as working with producers on larger projects and hopes to someday work with companies like TrenchcoatX, Transfixed, Girlsway and Tushy. She enjoys rosé, harlequin romances, stilettos and black coffee.

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  • What To Know About Feedism & Fat Fetish

    What To Know About Feedism & Fat Fetish

    When I first started, I had no idea what feedism or feederism even was.  My now current girlfriend gave little hints that she liked fat or liked it when girls ate. She slowly introduced me to the fetish. One day she got up the courage and just fed me. I saw how much it turned her on, which of course turned me on. It made me feel good. I enjoyed having someone look at me and be turned on that I was fatter.

    I got to enjoy eating like I always did and have someone want me for it. I didn’t have to hide enjoying food anymore. I didn’t have to be that fat girl that had to hide wanting to just eat. Feedism Gave me a whole new level of confidence I didn’t know I had. I never knew food could be sexual but feederism makes it sexual and I enjoy that.

    As time passed, my girlfriend would introduce me to more and more of the fetish and well, it led me to be a gainer model! I even won 2019 Feedee of the Year at the BBW awards show!

    What Does Feedism Involve?

    Feedism can be a number of things. For starters, it’s when a person enjoys feeding or being fed. I, for instance, am a feedee or gainer model if you will. I enjoy being fed till I feel like I’m about to pop. My girlfriend enjoys seeing me really stuffed and likes to feed me.

    Feedism or fat fetish is so many things. It can include funneling, squashing, wearing tight clothes, being degraded by being called pig, slob, cow whatever it is you like. Over the years, I’ve realized how sexual feedism can really be. It gets so hot! Getting hand fed by someone you find so sexy can be really erotic. A lot of feedee models enjoy getting their bellies rubbed after a long feeding session. I know I do!

    Popular Fat Fetish Play Activities

    I do a lot of stuffing videos. Not just eating but eating to the point where moving is unbearable sometimes. I’ve done funneling which is where you fill a funnel with soda, beer, weightgain shakes and chug it all down. Busting out of my clothes is something my girlfriend really enjoys seeing and I noticed a lot of my fans do as well. Funneling is another fun activity! Who doesn’t want to see how much soda or shake they can fit in their expanding bellies lol.

    Common Misconceptions About Feedism & Fat Fetishes

    A big one is not all feedees are unhealthy! My doctor always says how healthy I am for my weight and what I eat. I know fatty greasy food all the time is bad for you…eventually, but right now I’m enjoying the fetish and all there is to eat.

    Another misconception I’ve heard is people think because we are into this that we are gross and don’t take care of ourselves. I can rest assure you that I am just fat, not dirty. We have personal hygiene like everyone else.

    Tips For Those Keen To Be A Feedee

    Never be shy or embarrassed! You never know who else will be into the return as well. I went from not knowing anything about it to being 2019 Feedee of the Year!

    If it’s something you are dabbling in to see if you enjoy it, join chat rooms on Kik, websites relegated to feederism/feedism, search Twitter! There are so many platforms to find like-minded people! The community is huge and very welcoming!

    Queen Ivy – BBW/Fetish Model, Feedee, and gainer. Model since 2016. BBW awards show Nominee and 2019 Winner for Feedee of the Year

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  • What To Know About Forced Bi

    What To Know About Forced Bi

    Hi SimplySxy, thank you for inviting me to feature in your article on forced bi. I’m a male escort and Pro Dom. I specialise in forced bi sessions and I’m the preferred duo partner of dozens of Mistresses in London who all regularly invite me to join in their sessions when clients ask for a male escort.

    I was kinky before I started escorting and my sex life outside of sex work is far from vanilla.

    My own sexual preferences are complicated and ever changing. I love new experiences in all things. Especially sex.

    As far as other peoples kinkiness, if someone isn’t kinky at all and enjoys their vanilla sex life, I’m happy for them. Why not? Not everyone needs to be kinky. If they are kinky and they’re having fun exploring their fetishes and fantasies with other consenting adults, that’s great too. And if they have fantasies but don’t have anyone they feel comfortable exploring those fantasies with, then I hope they contact a professional and make their fantasy a reality!

    Fortunately for me, I’m very good at what I do and there’s a large market for the services I provide.

    Finding a good male escort for forced bi isn’t easy. You should expect at a minimum that he can reliably show up to a session on time, not be high on drugs or desperate for his next fix, understand that the session is about the client’s enjoyment not his own, and be able to get hard, stay hard and cum. Guys who can perform under pressure with anyone and everyone are rare. Those who start in the industry with this ability often quickly lose it due to burnout and/or drug abuse. Fortunately, I have zero interest in drugs, a massively high libido and modest financial targets. This means I usually see just a few people per day and feel zero pressure to accept bookings when I’m tired.

    What Is Forced Bi?

    Forced Bi is a popular fetish role-play scenario involving a man being “forced” into sex acts with another man. Usually a Dominant woman is doing the “forcing.” The scene is one that has been requested by the man and the details of the scene have been negotiated beforehand so there’s no real force involved. Everything is consensual.

    Many submissive men who see professional Mistresses, enjoy doing one on one role plays whereby he can explore his curiosity about sex with other men by having a Mistress verbally humiliate him with talk of how she’s going to invite a man to come over and use him sexually.

    This fantasy role play is usually played as a kind of humiliation scenario. ie in the fantasy, he’s a straight man who doesn’t want to have sex with men but is being “forced” to do it. Like many fantasies that male clients visit female professional Mistresses to explore, it’s about power exchange. Giving up control. Submitting oneself before a powerful, dominant woman and then exploring different fantasies within that context.

    Some men with this fantasy go so far as to request toys and strap-ons up their asses. Some want bondage. Some want sissification whereby the Mistress dresses him up in women’s clothes. And some go all the way and arrange to pay for a male escort like me to join in the session.

    Plucking up the courage to take this step of inviting a male escort to join in a duo session with himself and his Mistress can take years or even decades for some men. It’s a big deal to them and I don’t take this lightly.

    When I’m invited I do everything I can to make sure that client has the best possible session tailored exactly to their needs. I want these guys to enjoy themselves and it’s very important to me to maintain my reputation amongst Mistresses as the best of the best when it comes to forced bi.

    Misconceptions About Forced Bi

    Clients who request me to come and join in a Forced Bi session all know exactly what Forced Bi is. The Mistresses I do duos with are all very professional so the session wouldn’t be happening if they weren’t sure that the client knew exactly what he was getting himself in for.

    I guess if someone was encountering the concept for the first time they might be confused about the “forced” part and worry that some kind of assault is implied. In fact I’m always very tuned into a clients reactions and always looking for any sign that he might be struggling or in any state of distress or discomfort. I always make sure any client of mine knows he can opt out at any moment.

    What Typically Happens In Forced Bi Play & Sessions?

    It’s different every time depending on the clients wants and needs. Some Forced Bi sessions involve sissification, humiliation, bondage, impact play etc. I’ve done forced bi scenes where the guy has been suspended with his back in a sling and wrists and ankles cuffed. I have one regular who I see with one of my Mistress duo partners who’s an adult baby so he’s in a big nappy whenever I see him. When we do Forced Bi with him, he calls her mummy and I’m mummy’s friend. In most cases they want to be told to suck my cock and/or to bend over and take my cock up their ass.

    Things To Know Before Trying Out Forced Bi

    If a Forced Bi client wants anal, most Mistresses will make sure he knows how to use an anal douche, or shower hose attachment to clean inside their ass beforehand. Some Mistresses will physically assist with administering an enema or similar. The anal sex should never be messy or painful. We always start slow, for example with a finger in a rubber glove, plenty of lube, start with smaller toys, Mistresses strap-on etc and work up to being able to take my cock only once he’s used to the sensations and relaxed and ready.

    Oz – Hi, see the number one male escort in the world! If you Google “forced bi male escort” or “cuckolding male escort” or “duos male escort” , I’m the top result on Google for an independent. If you do a Google news search for “Aussie Male Escort” you’ll see that dozens of newspapers, magazines and websites from around the world have published articles about me.

    I’m from Australia and usually based in London. My discreet, private, luxury incall studio is located in Mayfair, 1 block from Bond Street tube station.

    I’m tall (6’5?/195cm), very toned and athletic, very well endowed (9?/22cm) uncut and good looking. I’m a trained and licensed masseur having completed courses in Swedish, Thai and Tantric massage. If you’d like to read about my international tours and adventures, erotic and otherwise, please subscribe to My Blog.

    People often tell me I’m very relaxing to be around and they find me a calming influence etc so I’m great with nervous first timers eg bi or kink curious guys who’ve never been with a man or never tried BDSM, people trying out other fantasies and fetishes for the first time and couples trying their first MMF threesome or guys trying their first MMF escort duo always seem to go from being tense and nervous at first to feeling relaxed and horny very quickly when they’re with me. I only see a few people per day so there will never be anyone leaving when you arrive or arriving when you’re leaving etc. You won’t feel rushed and I don’t mind if you go a bit over the hour. I’m happy to extend if you want an additional hour.

    You’ll find that I’m always exactly on time for your outcall and 100% prepared to see you at the time you book for your incall. I never take drugs, never bareback and I get tested regularly. I don’t kiss men but I do enjoy oral and sex with men. I’ll get hard for you, guaranteed, and stay that way and if you want me to cum, I will.

    Let me know if you’d like me to arrange escort duos or four handed massages with female and transsexual escorts. I can arrange multiple escorts if you’re planning a party and I know a lot of Mistresses in London and around the world who I do forced-bi, cuckolding and double domination sessions with.

    I charge £200 for incalls and £250 for outcalls for 1 hour.

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  • What To Know About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    What To Know About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    Alternative lifestyles intrigue the hell out of me. I love watching people go against the norm, I love seeing people flourish in ways where they were told they can’t. I just love seeing people live their truth and be completely and wholeheartedly who they are, their individual selves. That’s what makes humans so fascinating and interesting to be around, their individuality.

    I have always known I wanted to live an alternative lifestyle. I grew up with Catholic and Evangelical Christian influences, very conservative people. Very bland, very boring. I knew from a young age I didn’t want to be like them, look like them, or conform in the ways they wanted me to. They wanted me religious, my hair kept long and natural, no tattoos, no crazy styled clothing, no “weird” relationships, they wanted me to be some cookie cutter kid- but that was never on my agenda.

    Since a kid I’ve been researching kink lifestyles and now that I’m older and understand myself, my dream of being that “alternative weird girl” was finally coming true. Sorry mom, but I have plans to tat my whole body, I have already started piercing myself, I have been in a few relationships where BDSM and taboo roleplaying has been a huge part of who we are as a couple, and of course, I have shaved my head.

    What Does The Head/Brow Shaving Fetish Constitute?

    Honestly, I never thought I would EVER shave my head, let alone shave my eye brows! If you told me two years ago when I started this job that I’d be shaving my head and then doing it for money, I would’ve laughed at you. I used to be so damn attached to my hair, I still am not 100% sure how I feel about my brows being gone, but I absolutely love my head buzzed or smooth.

    It all started about five months ago, I decided I was serious about the big shave. I had been thinking about it seriously for maybe six months before that, my hair was so damaged and it started killing my confidence. I was watching tons of YouTube videos trying to get used to the buzzed look, I was afraid my head was going to be shaped weird and because I wasn’t seeing many pictures or videos of plus size women with a buzzed head, I was scared it wasn’t going to look good on me.

    One day, I just did it. I’m always asked why I didn’t film the initial shave but long story short, it was emotional for me. I love this fetish because my confidence has grown a ton. I was unsure of it at first, because of how drastic of a change it was, but I truly love it now. It makes me feel free, I don’t have to worry about styling my hair, my showers are shorter, and I’ve gained new fans from it too. I still have fans from my cam days, still following me from over a year and a half ago, telling me how much I’ve grown in my craft and how confident I’ve grown to be. Other’s in the industry tell me the same thing and that makes me so happy to hear.

    How Common Is This Fetish?

    Once I gained new followers from the head shaving clips, I was offered to do a custom head and brow shave and then I had two more people come to me for the same custom fetish clips. So, for me, I think this fetish has gained quick traction! My first brow, head, and pubic shaving custom is $29.99 on all platforms and has resold nine times in under two weeks. That’s really impressive for me and I will only keep improving!

    Personally, before I shaved my own head, I thought this fetish was very rare. The first two people to approach me about creating this content has told me not many women participate, that’s when I knew I needed to try it out.

    Common Misconceptions About Head/Brow Shaving Fetish

    The first question is always “So you just shave your head on camera and, that’s it?”. In a short answer, yes, but the longer answer isn’t quite as simple.

    The men that have inquired about this fetish have said a lot in common. What I have gathered, is that they love the transformation of seeing all of the hair come off, how different It looks after. I have also been told they like women who go against society’s standards, browless and bald women do exactly that. So, what do I do on camera if I don’t just plainly shave on video? My first few inquiries have also had a BDSM theme to them. A few ideas, including the video I released, wanted to act reluctant to shave, or doing it because I want to make them happy. I enjoy expressing my submissive side so this was an added bonus for me. I hope I keep getting interesting shaving inquiries, I love custom work especially when creating fetish/taboo content.

    Another misconception about these men is that they are lonely, creepy, or grossly perverted men because “who would ever become sexually aroused by that?”. They are ordinary men from all different parts of the world. They’ve emailed or direct messaged me very appropriately, making sure not to offend me by their requests – which is always adorable and refreshing compared to how I’m usually approached. The head shaving community has made me the most money for this one fetish, they appreciate my work and actually PAY my worth and it feels absolutely amazing. They may be perverts and they may watch porn, but they’re the best perverts who support small businesses and pay for their entertainment, I appreciate them.

    How Does One Explore This Fetish For The First Time?

    Well first, decide that shaving your head, or shaving another person’s head, is right for you. Some people are aroused by watching others shave, some want to watch someone shave another person, some want their own head shaved, or they enjoy all of these ideas. Just make sure you are two consenting adults and give it a go! Buzzcuts only require clippers, but if you want to go smooth, make sure you or your partner know how to handle a straight razor or just grab a regular four blade handheld shaver and your favorite shaving cream.

    If you are using clippers for the first time, make sure you’re buzzing at the level you want, I go down to a zero (no guard) with clippers, and when using a razor, I shave with my hair growth, not against it like I would when I shave my legs. Any new fetish you’re interested in should always be handled with care, do your research! Understand what you and/or your partner likes, and have fun with this.

    The reviews on my brow and head shave clip were positive because they loved how real it was, the role I played for this person actually felt real, so if you’re looking to film this type of content, keep that in mind. I see tons of videos of people just shaving, no talking, not even engaging with the camera. Although some viewers enjoy this, most want a personal experience, so create a theme or short story line, look directly into the camera when speaking, and be yourself.

    No matter HOW you enjoy this fetish, just have fun with it!

    Briana Black – Briana Black has been an online Sex Worker since July 2017 and recently started pro shoots in January of 2019. Specializing in fetish content, her favorite kink related clip topics are submissive themes and shaving. You don’t want to miss out on this 5’7, plump, bald headed woman bringing your most secret fantasies to reality.

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    I want to keep shooting with TheScoreGroup (XLGirls.com) so go check out my first pro porn scenes there and let them know you want to see me back! Here’s the direct link to my profile: https://www.xlgirls.com/bbw-models/Briana-Black/8838/?nats=MTAwNC45LjcuNy42ODQuMC4wLjAuMA

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