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What You Need To Know About Blackmail and Hypnosis

Femdom is really all there is for me. I’ve never had, wanted, or needed a job beyond being a professional dominatrix, but it’s far more than just income for me. Femdom is empowering and fulfilling in ways that I could never see another ‘job’ living up to. I’ve heard from so many of the subs I’ve interacted with that Femdom has given them renewed purpose in life, their Dommes having given them the guidance and direction they needed to become a person that they can be proud of.

Some have even told me that finding a Domme has saved their lives, digging them out of depression and helping them fend off anxiety issues. Femdom is so much more than a different type of “porn,” it’s a real connection between two people who can each make each other’s lives better in some way. I’ve been being paid for my expertise in the fetish world since 2005.

What Does Hypnosis Involve?

I’ve always been interested in learning different ways of manipulation. Honestly, this world runs on manipulation. Everybody in life wants something from you, and everybody in your life has something you want. It’s all about learning how to manipulate them into giving it to you. You may even find that there are certain things that you want from yourself and then must find ways to manipulate your own psyche in order to get that to happen.

Unlike stage hypnosis, which uses things like swinging watches, special effects, and swirling spirals, I am certified in hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is a verified psychological tool which is used to induce a trance or meditation-like state in the subject being hypnotized. Once in this state, the hypnotist can then mold and change someone’s behaviors, thought patterns, wants, likes, dislikes, etc. by implanting ideas directly into their subconscious (the part of the mind which controls all of your base desires).

According to the Stanford Hypnotic Susceptibility Scale, 95% of the population can be hypnotized with varying degrees of difficulty. I’ve personally never run into any of the 5% of people who can’t be hypnotized, and have found that most go under with medium to moderate effort. Since all sensations are perceived by the brain, I am even able to make my subjects feel things that aren’t really happening to them in the physical world. Even if they are thousands of miles away, my subjects can feel like I am physically with them, touching them, punishing them, etc. I can also leave post-hypnotic suggestions, causing them to want or no longer want certain things, or to make them go under more easily again the next time I hypnotize them. I can even make it so that they don’t have any recollection of the session itself, which is quite useful for certain fetishes…

The Blackmail Fetish

I think blackmail fetish was my first love in the femdom world. The way I approach blackmail starts with a session wherein I will discuss the sub’s limits, weekly tribute amount, time frame of the contract, buyout clause, additional add ons such as session or assignment requirements, etc. Then I will write up an individualized contract for the sub in question. he will agree to it and sign it, along with filling out his information and sending over any pictures or videos he might have of himself. That’s when the real fun starts…

The money, of course, is wonderful. I receive weekly or monthly tributes from the sub being blackmailed. Many also enjoy financial domination, which means I can enjoy asking for more cash just to watch them squirm, knowing full well that if they don’t pay, then they will be exposed.

What I enjoy most about blackmail fetish, though, is the control it affords me. I feel that blackmail fetish is really one of the few ways that distance domination can have real consequences. Once I have a little information on a sub, I can easily use that to extract even more information, pictures, videos, social media passwords, anything I want! And they know that if they fail to provide, or don’t follow through on a task, or miss a tribute then I’ll just expose their pictures and information on my websites and social media for all the world to see.

The threat of being outed is a huge motivator, and the risk can be extremely arousing for my subs. A lot of fetishes involve risky behavior, and what can be riskier than having your information and even face pictures of you performing humiliating acts on display to strangers? It’s especially damning when everyone knows you literally asked for it…

How Do Subs Know That Femdom Suits Them?

Really there are only two ways to determine if you are meant for submission. First is research. What type of porn really gets you going? If you like femdom porn, you might just be a submissive. However, fantasy and reality are often very different. Just because you like watching a sexy Mistress kick a sub in the balls until they’re black and blue doesn’t mean that you can handle actually being that sub.

The best way to determine if you are built for a life of servitude to a Superior Goddess such as myself is to find someone you trust and give it a try. Start slow, don’t go all in for ball kicking on day one! Maybe start with something more simple, like spanking or light CBT, and if you like it, go from there. Try new things, see what you enjoy most and build on it. Never be afraid of saying, ‘this isn’t for me.’ Any good Domme will understand limits.

Characteristics Of A Good Sub & Rules To Follow

It really varies from Domme to Domme, but I know for myself, respect is key. Even if it is the first time you’re contacting me, do not use pet names like “baby” or “hey sexy.” If you’re thinking of serving Me as your Superior Goddess, act like it.

Second is communication and honesty. Not everyone can complete every task or fulfill every desire for everyone, but everyone can communicate and be truthful about their own abilities, and can learn to take responsibility for their actions (or failure to act) without making excuses. If you know you can’t do something, say so. If you know you’re going to be out of town when we have something scheduled, let me know more ahead of time than the day of the session or tribute deadline.

Lastly, my time is valuable. I am a professional. My subs will pay for my time. I am a fan of the idea that I first hear from Mixtrix – if you contact a woman for something that will be used to arouse you or get you off but refuse to pay her, you are looking for someone to use, not a Mistress to serve.

Types Of Punishments For Subs Who Don’t Obey

It really depends on each individual sub and their limits, likes, dislikes, and if we have a contract of some sort. The easiest is fees – the requirement of sending an extra tribute to make up for a failure is pretty standard and universal. Others include physical/pain punishments, being ‘grounded’ (not allowed to go out with friends or family for a certain time), general tasks (writing lines, etc), chores, being disallowed from sessioning with me for a certain time or until the issue is resolved, humiliating tasks, etc.

If the offence is great enough, the sub will be blocked and his behavior will be posted on my website and Twitter for everyone to see so that any future Mistress who he approaches can search Google and see what he has done to one of his previous Mistresses.

Other Hobbies Of Mine

I’m an avid video gamer. I prefer survival horror and sandbox style games. I also enjoy most non-mainstream boardgames. I think Betrayal at House on the Hill is my favorite. For sports, I practice a lot of judo, and Brazilian jiujitsu. I do tight lacing and corset training on both myself and my slaves, particularly my sissies. I love baking, especially for those I care about as well, and enjoy crafting as well. I’ve also made and designed most of my websites, so web design I guess is a hobby of mine too.

I love astronomy and art. I have the entire Northern hemisphere of constellations tattooed on my right arm. It is by far my favorite tattoo (so far three) and I plan to get my favorite nebula (the Orion Nebula, M42) tattooed on my left thigh. I also enjoy music, particularly singing. I have a piece of music from a friend who worked at the Renaissance Festival as a bard tattooed on my right thigh. I’m very passionate about art, particularly tattoos, and plan to have as many as possible. I have six currently.

Mistress Kiara – I have been a Professional Dominatrix both online and in the real world since 2005. Currently residing in the lovely town of Ann Arbor, Michigan, I pride Myself on My vast knowledge of the fetish world, as well as My unique fetishes and portrayal there of. I prefer using a more intelligent and refined demeanor when dealing with My subs, rather than a bratty or bitchy approach.

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August 31, 2018
How To Train Your Slave Online

I adore the practice and play of BDSM. When practiced with a critical eye and consent – it is really an incredible way to experience life. I see BDSM as a safe space to push on the boundaries of our identities and our interactions with others. It can enable us to feel into our edges and recognise how to exist with them in a productive and enriching way.

Personally, BDSM has helped me to explore aspects of myself that society has shunned – my personality as a dominant female to be specific. It has helped me to frame it in a way that I accept and that is accepted and even enjoyed by others.

What Is Slave Training

BDSM slave training is the process of ‘training’ a submissive into a role of service – namely, the role of what is termed a ‘slave’ in BDSM. The actual process is always different depending on the preferences of the Dominant party. But essentially it’s familiarising a submissive with the protocols, behaviour and preferences of the Dominant – in order for the submissive to function to serve or please the Dominant in the best way possible.

Appeal Of Online Slave Training

I have created an online slave training program and filmed slave training video clips because it enables me to reach a much wider audience. An audience that may never have had the chance to session with me in person. It also provides a bridge for many who may be wary of meeting a Domme in real time. For them to get an experience and a better understanding of what it is like to serve someone well versed in the art of Domination. It also provides an extension of knowledge for those who are practicing real time. A chance for them to get to know me, from anywhere.

I really adore slave training because I find real value in seeing my submissives grow into my desires – and into becoming more self-aware and considered beings as a result of their service. It is much more fulfilling for me to see them grow rather than to cater to individual fetishes or kinks. I am also a Lifestyle Domme (where D/s is a natural joy to me); and I’m also a bit of a protocol fetishist – which suits slave training and behaviour modification perfectly.

Training My Slaves Online

All submissives can join my slave training program at youwillpleaseme.com; which has daily tasks, courses, images and videos to guide you into your slavery to me. There are different levels all the way from learning how to dream over my images, to making a commitment to my slave agreement.

Submissives can also watch my slave training Femdom video clips – which feature instructions on different kinks such as foot worship and strap on training…

My Expectations Of Slaves

I have a whole slave agreement that goes through many points hah.

But essentially the thing I prize above everything else is honesty – to myself and their own selves. It is important that subs come with either an awareness of where they are at (emotionally, psychologically, intellectually, financially); or that they are ready to start looking at themselves under my guidance.

Without this you are not the sub/slave-in-training for me. I enjoy my slaves to be self-aware or on the path towards it. This makes for the most sustainable and strongest slaves. Slaves that can bring as much to the relationship as I will.

I understand that this can sound intimidating for new submissives – but that is why I have different courses. They allow different personalities at different stages to feel out what service might be like – whichever stage they are at or interested in.

Things To Consider Before Being A Slave

It is good to be aware that every Dominant will have their own nature and therefore every relationship will be different.

With this in mind, it is good to do your research – feel out the personality of your Dominant before you approach them (if you can). Or take your time to get to know their personality, priorities and preferences before making any long term commitments.

Also, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t work out. It might not be the right Dominant for you – or, you might not be as submissive as you thought. BDSM is about exploring the potential of human personality and sexuality – don’t limit yourself to roles or activities as best you can.

Mistress Eva – Mistress Eva is a lifestyle Domme with an accomplished past in professional domination. A classically trained Dominatrix, Mistress Eva has toured the world since 2012. She is now semi-retired in the tropics, runs an online slave training platform (youwillpleaseme.com), films XXX Femdom videos and owns a stable of international personal slaves. She meets them and other potential recruits once a month in cities worldwide.

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July 29, 2018
How To Get Started Into BDSM

“The principal of individualism is actually related to the Devilish element, insofar as the latter represents a separation from the divine within the totality of nature.”

Marie-Louise von Franz

I recognize individuation as a basic human need. We are compelled to express our unique perspective, along with our collective and tribal identities. To distinguish ourselves as separate, yet part of a larger group. These dynamics are often conflicted, yet mutually necessary. Kink and alternative lifestyles help to solve for this paradox in a way that’s playful and deeply symbolic. In BDSM, the individual is upheld as a crucial part of the whole. It shows us that we can be separate yet cohesive with others. Differentiating the self from the group feels dangerous, rebellious, and alluring. There’s a feral, elemental quality to that sort of selfishness. We play out these specific roles in BDSM, which are often polarizing. The tension between opposition and unity generates the entire experience. It’s through acting out and exploring specific identities, that S&M can thrive.

Kink also fosters a space where we’re able to share and honor the taboo or hidden parts of ourselves with others. Through S&M, we embrace what makes us different, even transgressive. In the mundane day to day we often repress or contain certain impulses because they are socially unacceptable. This can actually become a mental disorder in extreme cases. Yet in the realm of (safe, consensual) BDSM, we are free to embrace those darker, weird, or perverted aspects of the self and put them to use constructively. Acting out our lower natures in an intentional way, instead of disowning part of what makes us human. I find it can be intensely therapeutic, and liberating. That kind of opportunity is hard to come by.

The Appeal Of BDSM

Alternative lifestyle and kink is considered “fringe” or a niche portion of society. Yet it’s actually an incredibly complex realm of possibility. It can take on so many different meanings and interpretations. Which really grants each person the opportunity to make it their own. I think this really appeals to our artistic impulses. Not everyone identifies as a traditional artistic type. Yet kink offers adults the chance to become playful and creative with each other.

Its recent popularity in mainstream culture does not come as a surprise to me. Social media and entertainment thrive on trends and provocative imagery. The unique quality that BDSM presents makes a thrilling contribution to our over sexed media. We’ve become largely desensitized to risqué content, so the emergence of kink effectively reigns in our short attention spans. At least for now. On a more subtle level, I think it also serves as a catalyst for us to work out our collective issues with power dynamics. There’s a lot of conflict and division apparent in our culture today, and I view BDSM as a metaphor to help address these issues.

Types Of BDSM I’m Into

I’m asked this question fairly often. Overall, I’m a Sapiosexual, I like to know what makes people tick, and how to push their buttons with exacting precision. Though I act out more of a dominant role in BDSM, I would actually consider myself to be a pleaser. I truly enjoy facilitating for others and taking creative control. Ironically, it’s my natural passion for serving others which makes me a compelling dominant. My empathy and concern allows for me to intuit what they desire and fear. Which is incredibly beneficial when tasked with controlling and directing a scene. It’s an honor to be entrusted with responsibility, secrets, and fantasies in this way. Kink has taught me a great deal about human sexuality, instincts, artistry, timing and communication.

Introducing Kink To Someone New

When introducing someone to kink, I always encourage open communication before, during, and after the session. This helps to create a collaborative experience versus one you’re being subjected to. It also helps to lay down a foundation for future scenes by carefully exploring boundaries on the first few occasions. A bit of nervous tension is to be expected when working with a new partner, or trying a new technique. Even for those who are veterans of kink. The key is to transmute that anxiety, into excitement. BDSM is supposed to be exhilarating, provocative, and a bit risky. Having that sense of anticipation actually helps to build a memorable scene.

If any excessive tension arises, we can balance the energy with sensual activities such as body worship, tickling, tease and denial, massage, or simply taking a break. My approach is always to start simple, with increasing intensity as the scene progresses. It’s better to be patient and methodical, because once you violate a boundary, it can be difficult to come back from. Better to be overly cautious and to build anticipation, than to over exert and ruin the scene. When I meet with curious new clients, I typically suggest starting with really light fetish and BDSM methods. If they have something a bit more extreme in mind, I view it as a goal we can work toward, or start

Tips For Beginners To Get Started

Initiation into BDSM can be a bit daunting because there are so many facets to explore. The most satisfying approach I’ve been able to discern, is to lead with your desired feeling state. Ask yourself, “How do I want this experience to make me feel?”. Then find corresponding activities that are likely to elicit those emotional responses. This may require some experimentation, but by leading with the desired feeling state— you’re more likely to discover what truly appeals to you. To help narrow this down, define keywords that resonate with you. Such as, I want to feel powerful, feminine, manipulative, overwhelmed, insatiable, worshipped, owned, vulnerable, sadistic, humiliated, or objectified. By having each partner select several points of focus you can flesh out a simple plot to satisfy these cravings. This process is half the fun in my opinion, because it requires collaborative effort and ingenuity. Using your imagination to craft a scene like this is quite intimate, and yields better results versus a scene filled with kink for the sake of being sensational.

I’d like to add that over time our desires naturally evolve and expand. So kink can be an ongoing inquiry into what inspires and motivates us at any stage in life. It’s best to keep an open mind, you may surprise yourself. When I was a student of the visual arts, we were frequently tasked with drawing live models. In order to better understand the overall process, we were also tasked with modeling. Switching roles grants the artist with a dual perspective— of both the viewer and the viewed. The result is a better drawing and a better model. This same wisdom applies to kink— embrace role reversals. Try everything at least twice. Don’t be afraid to experiment, and fail. Nothing is a waste, and challenging yourself to try something new will always prove illuminating. Many reputable Dungeons require providers in training to first serve as subs before being entrusted as a top. This cultivates a healthy respect for the tools, timing, limits, and what it feels like to be vulnerable. First hand experience is always the best teacher.

Arden Adamz – Arden Adamz aka Sydni Luxe is a Dominatrix, Erotic Consultant, and Writer based in Philadelphia. With over a decade of experience in the Adult industry, she’s currently writing a How-To book for those interested in sex work. Private consultations and coaching are available via webcam or live at her studio in Philadelphia, PA.

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June 5, 2018
What It Takes To Be A Dominatrix

Honestly … something really amazing is that most of the people I know that partake in such kinky lifestyles are free … I feel extremely sad for those who have to lie/hide from the partners their true self…

How I Started As A Dominatrix

I met a wonderful Jewish accountant on a dating website .. he was extremely kinky and I indeed extremely curious. We dated for 4 years but I wanted more. Together we decided that I ought to learn from a professional and I went searching for one. She adored me and saw how natural I was and invited me to work with her every Thursday. I found my truly calling and I’m now 16 years as a true BDSM artisan and Femdom Educator.

Collection Of Props & Equipment

Ha ha .. I have a PVC dress, PVC heels and a strap-on. Now I have two apartments and a villa kitted out with at least half million pounds worth of BDSM equipment and toys etc……..

Is an understanding of kink and fetishes important to being a Dominatrix?

OF course …how can a doctor treat a patient if he doesn’t have the knowledge? My kinks, I had to experiment on myself so I could understand them. For others, I asked fellows Dominatrices to instruct me while others just made sense to me … otherwise I invented myself haha.

Characteristics Of A Good Dominatrix

A good listener, non-judgemental, being truly open minded…

Things A Dominatrix Never Does

SEX. Domination is the art of BDSM. Having sex with clients spoils the dynamics, but if between couples, I honestly believe all goes.

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May 27, 2018
The Goddess Asia on Sensual Domination

The alternative lifestyle that expresses kink and fetish interests is BDSM. BDSM can be a fun, exciting, experimental lifestyle but it is not for everyone. Some prefer the same vanilla, routine, normal, standard lifestyle.

Typical Characteristics of Sensual Domination

Restraints are often used, blindfolds, oils, and ropes. Sensual Domination for me, mainly involves a lot of sensory overload, sensory deprivation and sensual teasing.

There are many different types of domination. Sensual, erotic, mental, emotional, financial, etc. You probably are used to the “Fifty Shades of Grey” type of BDSM..LOL.

Organising A Sensual Domination Session

It varies depending on the Submissive’s interests and hard limits. I like Electro Play, cold and hot toys, sensory toys, oils, etc.

Session of Sensual Domination

There’s no typical session that I’ve had so far. All of my sensual sessions have been very different. I can say that the Submissive in a Sensual session gets very excited, aroused without any sexual activity. Many times, they will need time to recover, catch their breath after our session ends in a happy way. It’s fun to take someone over the top with their pleasure senses and control all of the reactions.

Goddess Asia – I am the Sexiest Asian Femdom you will ever meet. Queen of Tease – Pleasure & Pain. Warning: I am Very Addictive. Follow me on Instagram @thegoddessasia, Twitter @yesgoddessasia and Snapchat @lovesammyv

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January 23, 2017
Model & Professional Dominatrix Sammy V

Hi Sammy it is a pleasure to feature you on SimplySxy. Please share with our readers a little about yourself and where you’re from?

Hi Ty it is a pleasure to be featured with SimplySxy.

I’m a Vietnamese freelance Model and Professional Dominatrix. Being a Dominatrix is my main profession. I am originally from Spokane, Wa. and currently live and work in Southern California.

What do you love about modeling and acting?

Almost everything. Modeling and acting helps me express myself and challenges me to continuously improve my skills and my creativity. I think both are a form of art which I LOVE in all forms. Without art..the world would be VERY boring!

Which is your most memorable experience so far?

Having my first nude photoshoot in a hot, dry desert. There were times I was sweating and the ground was hard, sharp in some areas and very uncomfortable but I didn’t want that to show in the pictures. LOL

Do you have any hobbies?

I have lots of hobbies. They change a lot too. LOL. Right now, my hobbies are to travel, eat and try something new every day. I want to live my life to the fullest and to me that means experiencing the world and all of the different, beautiful things that many have no idea exists.

Which is the most expensive item you have splurged on?

Besides my car, definitely my boobies. After losing a lot of weight and working out, I lost a little of my boobies so I wanted them back. I could have went super HUGE but I just wanted them slightly bigger..I kinda of wish I went bigger though. LOL.

If you had a warning label, what will yours say?

Never underestimate me.

Do you love animals?

I LOVE animals! I love going to zoos, aquariums, etc. I am thinking of getting a puppy next year.

What turns you off on a date?

Dishonesty, bad manners, bad hygiene and not being themselves. There may be other things but this is what I thought of first. LOL.

Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Sammy. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?

Thank you so much for this opportunity! Sexy to me means being confident in everything you do. Embracing your imperfections, being happy and loving yourself unconditionally. How you feel is simply a state of mind. We need to learn how to maintain positivity.

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New photoshoots with new photographers in January. A Hawaiian vacation trip/photoshoot in the works. Stay tuned!

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January 11, 2017
What is Verbal Humiliation?

Verbal humiliation is exactly what it says on the tin: mocking and/or insulting somebody, either about themselves as a whole or focused on a more specific area of themselves or their life. Often, if a man is insecure about, say, the size of his penis, he will fetishize this insecurity and begin to get off over women mocking his penis and telling him how disgusting it is. I think the kink comes from something being ‘so wrong that it’s right.’ They know that this should upset them and they know that they shouldn’t tolerate being spoken to in this way but there is something hot about it to them that they can’t quite put their finger on. Often, a man will want a pretty girl to put him in his place because it reminds him of the popular girls at school that used to reject him: he internalises the pain and humiliation and turns it into a kink.

What are some words, names or lines used during verbal humiliation?

Generally the term ‘loser’ will get thrown around quite a lot by Dommes. I like to add a little variation so I might refer to someone as a ‘social leper’ or a ‘socially awkward freak’ or something. I will mock them for whatever it is that they want me to mock them about – having no friends, for example – and then mock them about getting off on that fact, calling them a filthy pervert for fetishizing something that should really be upsetting them.

Are there other ways to make verbal humiliation kinkier by doing other things at the same time?

Of course, you can compare it with JOI, which refers to ‘Jerk Off Instruction,’ where you tell a a man how and when to masturbate, perhaps getting him right to the edge of orgasm and then ordering him to stop. You can also turn the verbal assault into something a little more sensual, by wearing sexy lingerie and taunting the guy in a seductive voice about how he could never even hope to get close to you. The cuckold fetish also comes into play quite a lot, whereby the man gets aroused at the idea of a girl that they’re attracted to having sex with other men, so you can verbally humiliate them with that by telling stories about your sex life or all the wonderful ‘real men’ that you’ll be flirting with later on, and so on.

How does a typical verbal humiliation process go?

I generally just rip into them, throwing everything that I can at them. It gets really cruel but that’s why they love it so much. Often I’ll ask them questions about their life, and whatever they say will be used against them as ‘proof’ that they really are pathetic. I will also ask questions that force them to acknowledge that they are pathetic, such as saying ‘don’t you agree that you’re really fucked up?’ etc. If I’m doing an SPH session (Small Penis Humiliation) then I’ll ask questions about their sex life and tell them that there is no doubt in my mind that all of their sexual partners have faked orgasms and laughed about their small manhood with all of their girlfriends.

My name is Kitty Devine and I’m a professional online dominatrix from Manchester in the UK. I’ve been doing this job for about 18 months, firstly as a way to make a bit of pocket money while I was at University and then full-time when I discovered that it was a passion of mine. Visit the links to my website (worshipyourmistress) and video clips by clicking on the links under my profile below!

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July 27, 2015
Tickle Torture is sexually arousing

I am originally from Vancouver and have been residing in Toronto for three years now. I love it here and have no plans to leave. I have always had a strong personality and BDSM has always fascinated me. I have never been into vanilla. I began my career as a Dominatrix when I was 24 years old. I worked for several years in Vancouver. Eventually I decided to have a family so I took a hiatus from being a dominatrix for many years. During that time I worked a “normal” job that I was bored to death with. I have never fit into the so-called normal ways of living. Views on morality have always annoyed me and it has always been natural for me to push the boundaries of normalcy, so the idea of a 9-5 job and the white picket fence has always made me laugh. Having said that, I resumed my career as a dominatrix once again and I have never been happier.

What constitutes Tickle Torture?

Tickle torture is one of my favorite types of sessions. Men come to me seeking to be, for lack of better words, tickled to death or tickled to the point of torture. For many, being tickled is sexually arousing, incites feelings of helplessness and releases feel good endorphins. Often, the client will produce those deep belly laughs that are almost or are painful.

How popular are Tickle Torture sessions and how often do you get the requests?

In my experience, tickle torture sessions are not too popular. I usually get 6-8 per year.

What preparation do you do when there is Tickle Torture involved?

Preparation for the session often depends on what the client is looking for. If it is just a straight up tickle torture, then I will use my fingers, restraints and a feather. If the client is looking for a tickle session combined with other elements, then it would take longer to prepare for the scene. Some clients request a role-play such as a mother and son mixed with tease and denial; bondage and paddling. This would require more preparation because I have to come up with a scene that is a one of a kind experience for the client and prepare the equipment.

My favourite implements to use during a tickle torture session are, in order of preference, my fingers, feather, rope and tongue.

Describe a typical process of Tickle Torture one can expect from you and what you usually do.

In a typical torture session I would begin by asking the client what he would like and what his limits are. Next I would blindfold him and have him lay down on the bed in the boudoir and restrain him/her. For me, the boudoir is the ultimate setting for tickle torture session because it is cozy. Then I would start by breathing on his sensitive areas and caressing them with my hands and fingers. I like to build up to the heavy tickling. Next, I would use feather on him while whispering words into his ear that fit the role-play. The whole time I am doing the above, I am paying attention to where on his body that I am getting the most reaction. Lastly, usually using my fingers, I would apply more pressure and tickle him to the point of tears. Remember, depending on the role-play, the tickling may have intermittent paddling, slapping and humiliation.

How is Tickle Torture used as a punishment in the context of BDSM?

That is a good question. In my opinion, tickling can become so intense that it becomes painful. Think about a scenario when you were younger and someone tickled you to the point where it was no longer enjoyable yet you were laughing the entire time. If I am in a role-play and I know the client hates being tickled, I would use it as a punishment for any misbehavior the sub has shown. However, in my experience, most clients come to me for the enjoyment of it and for the pain/pleasure connection.

What are some precautions to ensure safe Tickle Torture especially if trying and experimenting at home for beginners?

The one precaution I would suggest for beginners is to know your partners limits and have a safe word.

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July 25, 2015
Office Bitch Roleplay

Hello I am Kountess Von Kink , International Domme sessioning in Hong Kong, London and Brighton and other cities by appointment. I specialise in roleplay, especially the office bitch and nurse type scenarios and I have just opened my own Kink Klinic In Brighton.

What constitutes role playing and how do you define it?

Roleplaying for me is when you assume another character, decide on a scenario and then act it out. It is acting but kinkier. . What is wonderful about roleplay is that it allows you to behave in a way you would not if you were just being ‘you’. I started role playing quite young, when I was 17. I didn’t know the term roleplay then, so I called it dress up. I had a nurse and policewoman’s outfit and my old school uniform. I loved the freedom adopting these personalities gave me to act extremely slutty, bitchy or submissive. It’s a great way to exercise your alter ego or to experience a situation that would be unlikely to happen or would be unsafe in real life. I love many aspects of being a Domme but the performer in me loves roleplay and makes it my favorite type of play in my personal as well as professional life. Sometimes I feel I am a private actress more than I am a Dominatrix. It’s what I excel at and when I find a great roleplay partner who gives me feedback that makes the scene feel authentic, the scene comes alive. When that happens, it’s comparable to subspace.

How popular are the office bitch role play sessions and how often do you get the requests?

The Office Bitch is my most popular request by far. I guess many men have fantasised about the Femme Fatale in the workplace and I make the fantasy come true. If someone is new to roleplay, I usually suggest this scenario as it’s a situation nearly everyone is familiar with and so will feel comfortable for a new player who is inexperienced and might be a little shy.

What preparation do you do when office bitch role playing is involved?

Well equipment depends on what they want included in the roleplay? As well as acting out the roleplay, there will be things that are requested to be done whilst playing, for example, strap on training, bondage ropes, cross dressing clothes, every sub is different so every session is different. First of all though would be the location. An office would be ideal, or at least a desk, if it is a domestic space or a hotel, that can also work. Then, my attire. A typical look would be a crisp white shirt, business suit, black lingerie and fully fashioned sheer nylons with immaculate patent stilettos. I would wear spectacles of course, my hair pinned up which I unpin half way through the session and let it fall around my face and bright red lips and nail polish.

Describe a typical process of the office bitch role play one can expect from you?

Each roleplay is tailored to each client. But a possible plot could be I am the new CEO of the company and they would be working in a position below me. I have summoned him to the office maybe to discuss a promotion or some misdemeanor he is being accused of. You need to be articulate, confident and well versed in office jargon to pull it off and seem realistic. I like to take a lot of time developing the scene, as the beauty is in the build up. Talk in a nice polite way to him while stretching a leg and allowing a shoe to dangle, or unfasten a button to show cleavage. Then my attitude changes and I accuse him of whatever I feel like. Maybe he had been oggling the females in the office, making smutty remarks, making them feel uncomfortable. Or watching porn during office hours. This is unacceptable in the workplace and constitutes sexual harassment. The only way he can keep his position will be to be retrained in office etiquette. This could include whatever he had mentioned as his kinks in our pre-session correspondence or just something I decided on at the last minute.

How is role play used as a punishment in the context of BDSM?

With me I sometimes punish them within the roleplay but I don’t usually use role play as a punishment, it could be though for sure.

What are some precautions to ensure safe office bitch role playing especially if trying at home?

Don’t really think you need any specific ones, it’s not breath play or dangerous at all. Just make sure as in any type of play that you trust your partner.

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July 16, 2015
Mistress Anja from Singapore shares her expertise on Anal Fisting

Anal fisting is one of the most fascinating sexual activities involving penetration. Also known in other terms as handballing and fist-fucking, anal fisting has generated a lot of buzz among the kink community as a popular fetish. Mistress Anja, a skilled dominatrix from South East Asia, Singapore, shares with us her expertise and views on the topic of anal fisting.

What constitutes anal fisting?

The height of depravity in mainstream society, where an entire fist is inserted into the rectum. Unlike the name suggests, fisting does not usually involve clenching the hand into a fist and forcing it into the rectum. Instead, the most common technique is to hold one’s hands flat, fingers close together with the thumb and last finger under the other fingers, resembling a duck bill. This can be performed with a partner, as well as a solo activity.

How popular are anal fisting sessions and how often do you get the requests?

More popular than you think! It is a quite a dark, potent fantasy that many people have, but are unable to act out. Going to a professional is a appropriate outlet for it. I’d have 4-5 fisting sessions a week.

What preparation do you do when there is fisting involved?

Preparation would involve mainly plastic sheeting, and a kitchen roll on hand. Always be prepared for the mess, especially when you know your hands will be full after. The main play would involve plugs, glass beads, condoms, lots of lubricant (i prefer silicone based and numbing), short latex gloves and opera length latex gloves.

Describe a typical process of fisting play one can expect from you?

Fisting in a session with me will be done in gradual stages. Erotic exercises through glass beads, electric plugs, then the widening of the anus with fingers, one by one with a slow thrust and slide technique, until the sphincter is stretched well enough to accommodate the ‘duck-bill’. This however, can rarely be achieved in one session and is done over the course of a few sessions. Relaxing music and vasodilators like alcohol help greatly.

How is fisting used as a punishment in the context of BDSM?

We seldom see fisting as punishment, but more of an erotic activity that stimulates both the mental and physical self. The peak of eroticism, where your legs are spread in front of a beautiful girl, grabbing your ankles as she commands, and her arms are clad in well greased shiny black latex, as she gently spreads you wider and wider, the feeling of being stretched, coupled with gentle temperature change of the slippery in/out movements.. Darling, that’s a reward.

What are some precautions to ensure safe fisting especially if trying at home?

Never force anything if the body is not willing. Do not continue if you notice the presence of blood, the extent of internal damage is not easy to determine so stop at any early signs. Comfort and safety always comes first.

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June 11, 2015