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What is a dominatrix?
Don’t get it all mixed up; a dominatrix is a non-binary, women-identifying, or queer who enjoys dominating their partner who happens to be the submissive. In the BDSM context, there are primarily two types of domes. The dominatrix who enjoys exploring fetishes, kinks, and BDSM, and the dominatrices who always take the dominant role with their submissive partner. However, like every shade of BDSM, it is essential that you seek consent from your partner before trying any sexual act with them. Consent makes you a better partner in a BDSM relationship, even when it comes to being a dominatrix.
Here are some of the top three ways to become a good dominatrix.
Have the conversation with your partner first:
You’d be surprised at how freaky your partner is if only you have taken your time to explain some of these concepts. As mentioned earlier, irrespective of the type of relationship, ensure you always seek your partner’s consent before any sexual and non-sexual acts. Ensure you discuss with your partner, talk about your bodies and their view on the dominatrix role-play. During this conversation, you get to establish the dos and don’ts as well as safe words to make the relationship even smoother. It’s not being stiff; it’s respecting each other’s boundaries. Understanding your partner from already established conversations will act as your guide as long as BDSM in the relationship is still relevant.
Learn from the best:
This is where most individuals get it mixed up. If you want to become a good dominatrix, you shouldn’t rely on porn. Not depending on porn is not in any way underplaying the importance or potency of porn in BDSM relationships; however, you can have both on cam sites when you visit private webcam girls’ shows. You’d be surprised at how much you can learn verbally and practically. On porn sites, you get to see the practical aspect without any form of explanation whatsoever. However, you get both the explanation and the practicality on private cam shows. It’s more feasible for you to learn from experts and their mistakes in the past. Cam sites have proven to be one of the best places to learn sexual acts, including the dominatrix role-play.
Be ready to unlearn everything you know about BDSM:
People often get carried away, thinking what they’ve read online is enough to pull them through some sexual acts. That’s absolutely not true! You should be open to learning and unlearning some of the myths you’ve accumulated over time regarding BDSM and role-play if you want to be better at it. One of the popular myths is that dominatrices should be predominantly male. This is not only chauvinistic, but it’s also absolutely ridiculous, and one of the places where you get to learn it right is on private webcam shows where the webcam model gets to school you properly. If you are unyielding to these corrections or think your role-play idea is the most accurate, then it might be somewhat hard for you to really get the hang of the entire concept.
Domination and submission are some characteristics of BDSM. If you keep seeing the dominatrix role-play from your perspective alone, it becomes complicated for you to understand the entire concept. As mentioned earlier, there’s no single way to the idea of BDSM. You just need to understand your partner from their perspectives, likes, and dislikes. However, if you do not have a partner yet, you can always pick up lessons from private webcam girls regarding any topic, in this instance, the act of domination. It’s always better and safe to learn from the best, and several cam models practice this BDSM role-play across cam sites. You’d be surprised at how many webcam girls would be willing to explain a thing or two about domination when you visit their private webcam show.
As a professional Dominatrix, I spend most days dealing with sexual fetishes of one kind or another and (even after many years in the sex industry, in one form or another) I never cease to be surprised at the diversity of fetishes and I come across!
My chosen profession would obviously indicate that I am of a broadminded disposition and there’s little that fazes Me when it comes to sexual kinks – plus I have always been adventurous and willing to experiment and try new things.
As a result, I have enjoyed an extremely full and eclectic sex-life since My late teens and there’s little that I haven’t tried, as I always say, “don’t knock it until you’ve tried it” (well with a few exceptions that just don’t appeal to Me as a personal preference).
I am of the opinion that indulging our sexual kinks and fetishes is the perfect way for us to spice-up our sex-lives as, let’s face it, just indulging in ‘vanilla’ sex all the time could become a little tedious.
What Is Milking?
‘Milking’ is a practice which I discovered some years ago when I first ventured into the realms of Fem-Dom and began crafting My skills as a professional Dominatrix.
It basically involves coaxing a sub’ male to produce a particularly copious quantity of semen to prove his devotion to me (his Mistress) using various techniques and/or specialist equipment – possibly multiple times during a session if I so demand.
I have invested in equipment designed specifically for this purpose – My favourite device being a Venus2000 ‘Milking’ machine which I had shipped specially from the USA at considerable cost some years ago.
This machine produces a powerful pulsating suction action within the receiving tube – a clear cylinder into which the slave’s erection is inserted – and I am then able to adjust both the suction power and speed intensity of the device using a remote-control unit.
This device produces a similar action to the heavy-duty apparatus designed to milk cows, rhythmically sucking at the slave’s penis and building up pressure so as to literally suck every last drop of spunk from his balls! With practice, I have discovered that I can also employ the use of electrics (such as a shock delivered to a steel butt-plug inserted into the stave’s anus, just at the moment of ejaculation) will stimulate the prostate gland and induce an intensely powerful orgasm.
So, by the time I have finished ‘milking’ a slave during a session in My playroom, he can be sure that his balls will have been totally drained of every last drop of sperm (indeed, slaves leaving barely able to walk after the experience, is not uncommon!).
Reasons Sub Love Milking
Well, of course it is an act of total submission To Me, for a slave to surrender himself to Me, and offer his most intimate parts purely for Me to do whatever I wish to!
My favoured way to ‘milk’ a slave is to secure him naked to My St Andrews cross or on My punishment table, which is complete with gynaecological stirrups to secure his legs in position to allow Me free and unfettered access to his genitals.
To then have a powerful suction device attached to his erect penis and lay there knowing that I have total control over how high and will choose to crank-up the machine must be terrifying for the naked slave strapped into position – LOL!
So, he will be totally at My mercy and knows that I will delight in watching him suffer at My hands as I toy with him, bringing him almost to the point of ejaculation again and again – repeatedly edging him even closer to spunking until I finally decide that it is time for him to cum!
The end result is to see how much semen I can extract from a slave’s balls and he will therefore hope to impress Me with the amount of ‘cream’ he produces – although if he fails to do so, he will expect to receive a suitable punishment for disappointing Me!
Common Misconceptions Of Milking
Some people seem to think that ‘Milking’ in the context of a Fem-Dom session, simply involves the Dominatrix performing a straightforward hand-job on her slave until he ejaculates – and I suppose for some amateur ‘hooker-doms’ that is indeed the case!
I pride myself in having taken the practice to a somewhat more sophisticated level by honing My expertise through repeated practice on (un)willing subjects to attain a level of skill in extracting sometimes HUGE loads of spunk from my subjects.
What Does A Session Of Milking Play Typically Involve?
Prior to attending an appointment with Me, I instruct all slaves to abstain from ejaculation for a period of at least 72 hours (or even sometimes up to a week!) to ensure that their balls are fully charged ready for Me to drain.
Of course, this also has the added advantageous side-effect that a slave is desperate to cum by the time he reports to Me – a fact that I will use to My advantage as of course, he will not be allowed to ejaculate until I decide that he may do so!
During the course of a ‘milking’ session I will build the anticipation of being allowed to ejaculate until the poor wretch under My power is begging Me to let him squirt – which is when I will put My apparatus to use in ensuring that when he does cum, he does so spectacularly!
There’s little that amuses Me more than watching a slave’s body jerk uncontrollably whilst My Venus 2000 is at full power, seeing the clear perspex receiving tube being filled with thick white fluid as his balls are literally sucked dry!
How To Ensure Safe Milking Play
Well, the Venus 2000 has to be utilised carefully, with the power and intensity being built-up gradually, as simply cranking it straight up to maximum would likely result in a less than enjoyable experience for the slave.
High levels of suction are built-up and this, combined with skilful ‘edging’ techniques, means that when a slave is finally ‘milked’, the orgasm he experiences will be extremely intensive – even more so if I am also using electro-stimulation to his prostate at the point of ejaculation!
So, I have to be mindful of not over-stimulating a slave and causing them to pass-out before I have finished with them – although I must confess that this has happened on a couple of occasions (hence I always keep some smelling-salts handy!)
I sometimes amuse myself by wondering whether it would be possible to actually suck a slave’s balls out through his dick with My apparatus at full power? Probably not, but it might be fun to find out!
I am Mistress Carly and as you will no doubt have realised, I am indeed a MILFstress (a Mistress you’d like to ****) Well, I am fully aware that men find Me to be highly sexually desirable and I enjoy wielding the power My sexuality affords Me over those lucky sub’ males who are privileged enough to be allowed to serve Me.
So, if you yearn to be owned by a highly skilled beautiful Dominatrix with a body worthy of your absolute adoration and a wickedly inventive mind that will delight in teasing & tormenting you to your absolute limits, then you are invited to delve further into My world of sensual Domination and devote yourself entirely to Me.
I am quite different to most Dominatrix in that in addition to practicing the generally accepted activities that would be included within a Fem-Dom scenario, I actively enjoy using My slaves as My own personal sex-toys, utilising every part of their bodies for My own personal amusement & pleasure! The act of inflicting pain on a slave is something I find to be highly arousing and when I’m turned-on I want to be satisfied sexually, so I reserve the absolute right to put a slave’s tongue and/or erect penis to full use to achieve My own personal satisfaction.
Intrigued? Then you have My permission to enter My world and discover a whole new world of exquisitely sensual, sexual Domination.
I’ve been a lifestyle and Pro Dom for over 25 years and I feel it is healing and therapeutic if the Dom/Top knows the physiological impact of foot worship or any other aspect of what they are engaging in.
What Is Foot Worship?
Foot worship can be a wide variety of interests, from the love of feet, toes, soles of the feet to deeper insights such as face standing, kicking for the pleasure of their Mistress. Both are extremely enjoyable.
Reasons Subs Love It
It satisfies their desire and need to worship the Mistresses and pleasing her, as well as enduring punishment deemed fit from their Mistress. Both are very rewarding for the submissive.
Misconceptions Of Foot Worship
Unfortunately the twisted and misconception of ‘foot worship’ is that it is dirty or filthy, after all we walk on them right? Contrary to belief, our feet under normal conditions are 25% cleaner than your hands, which we shake others hands with, hug and touch our face with.
Is There A Typical Scenario For Foot Worship?
I wouldn’t say there is a typical foot worship scenario . Beauty is in the eyes of the worshipper.
Risks Involved In Foot Worship
Manicured and pedicured toes and nails are optimal for foot play so there are no sharp nails that can cut or injure the mouth, tongue or face of the worshipper. THis is best for the Mistress and the slave. Using full strength witch hazel will clean the feet before and after play without leaving a overbearing smell of 90% alcohol generally used
Mistress Omega – 100% Authentic Dominatrix. One of the last truly sadist and authentic dominatrix in all of the US. Extreme scenarios to complete sissification transformation and Medical Madness. I am a Pro Dome and Lifestyle Dominatrix with over 20 years of skills. My life is delicious. If you dare to step into my world for an hour or a week…I’ll leave you begging for more. Everything is left at the door and I become something you yearn for… the need to be able to escape the normal day to day. Some people go to spas, amusement parks or the movies, I go to dungeons. And yes I still do outrageous public scenarios, read my blog and ‘Slave Letters’ They call me the Laughing Dome for a good reason. ‘Be careful what you wish for … you just may get it”
I started at the world’s famous Club Chateau in Hollywood California at 16.
As a life coach, lifestyle and Pro Domme, I feel it’s very healthy as well as therapeutic.
How My Interest In BDSM Developed
I was 16, my French step mother was from Paris and was a Dominatrix. So it was natural and nothing to be ashamed of 20 plus years ago when it was extremely taboo.
Learning My Way In BDSM
I started at the famous Club Chateau in Hollywood California at 16, and this was where my training began as a submissive and earned my stripes so to speak to earn my way to becoming a Dominatrix and properly use the skills and experience I had learned.
Was It Natural To Become A Dominatrix?
Oh most certainly! After training under Sir James Hillier, I was more than ready to venture out as a phenomenal Dominatrix, just as many other ladies had done. Back when BDSM was taken extremely seriously, that was how everyone learned.
What I Had To Learn To Become A Dominatrix
Well, we had to endure severe torture, bullwhipping, suspension and inverted suspension by quartering, (off the floor) intense pain and humiliation, and true submission. Some remained exquisite submissives and others like myself blossomed into undefiable Dominatrixes.
My Favorite Kinks & Specialties
I would say my fetishes and specialties are being an authentic Sadomasochist. I enjoy inflicting pain and torment, adore pain sluts, needle art, edge play, breath control, extreme sensory deprivation with mummification. Simulated abductions, kidnapping, home invasions and other extravagant scenarios. As well I enjoy foot worship, spankings, complete sissy transformation. I adore female pets, and other light aspects.
Mistress Omega – 100% Authentic Dominatrix. One of the last truly sadist and authentic dominatrix in all of the US. Extreme scenarios to complete sissification transformation and Medical Madness. I am a Pro Dome and Lifestyle Dominatrix with over 20 years of skills. My life is delicious. If you dare to step into my world for an hour or a week…I’ll leave you begging for more. Everything is left at the door and I become something you yearn for… the need to be able to escape the normal day to day. Some people go to spas, amusement parks or the movies, I go to dungeons. And yes I still do outrageous public scenarios, read my blog and ‘Slave Letters’ They call me the Laughing Dome for a good reason. ‘Be careful what you wish for … you just may get it”
I’ve always been a kinkster myself. I started exploring my sexuality in my teens and spent a lot of time in kinky and queer spaces including play and sex parties. I believe that the exploration of deviant sexuality offers a huge potential for liberation and growth. Kink can be very powerful – it can allow us to enter a non-judgemental zone full of playfulness, pleasure and pain. It can be very transformative.
What I Love About Online Domination
What I like about online domination is that it allows for a bigger audience and the creation of a kinkster community. Especially my live chat room has become a place for my regulars to chat with me and with each other. It also allows for at home play which for many of my clients, feels safer and more accessible than going to a dungeon in a far away city.
I started from personal experience. I’ve had many submissive dates and partners before. My decision to go pro came from a long held desire to become a full time domme.
What Is Sissification?
I love Sissification because I think that there is something so inherently sensual, sexy and sweet in femininity. Our society is so fixated on masculinity that it forgets about the deep power of femininity. Going down the path of Sissification offers a whole range of sensations and experiences that most men (or people raised as men) were never allowed to explore: the softness of freshly shaved legs, the feeling of a thong rubbing between the sissy’s butt cheeks, the joy of a sexy dance. As a Mistress who is in touch with her inner Goddess, my part is to enable and guide this journey with tenderness and encouragement as well as persistence.
My Sissification training entails dress up, make up and blow job training, education in all things girly (dancing, walking, shopping, sensuality, cleaning, cooking, girly movie nights) and possibly also chastity and/or anal stimulation, depending on the wishes of the sissy that I’m working with. In some cases, I will pimp out the sissy and make her earn cash for me either online or in real life.
Misconceptions Of Sissification
Unfortunately, there is quite a lot of misconception in the mainstream about Sissification. Sissies are often belittled and laughed at which comes from a sexist idea that anything feminine is less worthy than masculinity. I often observe a lot of shame in my sissies and my aim is to work towards a shame free expression of their fetish (unless they get off on humiliation).
What Makes Me An Ideal Domme
My domme style comes from a space of natural power. I’m in touch with my inner Goddess who is both nurturing and punishing. I dominate on a fluid spectrum reaching from sweet Mommy to devious Sadist. With sissies, I can explore my sweeter and more nurturing side, the Mommy in me. Which of course doesn’t mean that I can’t also be nasty and humiliating at the same time – Mommy is mean sometimes!
Favorite Sissification Scenarios
One of my favorite scenarios is being served as the Queen by my sissy servants. I love good servitude and think that sissies can make great maids, assistants and whores whose main purpose is to make my life as pleasurable and easy as possible. In return they get to wear gorgeous slutty outfits and suck my pink blue glittery strap-on.
Advice For Beginners
Don’t be afraid of judgement! Sissification is such a fun and sexy fetish and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
I am Mistress Lucy Lash – your smart and sensual Mistress from Germany. Let yourself fall into my guiding hands and experience the sweetness of complete surrender. I will make you submit, suffer and squirm in pain and pleasure.
BDSM and kink are totally different animals; one is about self-expression and the other is about self-repression. You can think kinky thoughts, wear kinky clothes, do some kinky stuff….but it’s all about perception. In fashion, kink is kind of where avant garde fashion starts. It’s the frontier between the judgment of a person and a community, a status quo and change. BDSM is all about the relationship between two people, based on trust, acceptance, and deep emotional, really, turmoil. The bikini began as kink. New fashion is kink. A spanking is always BDSM. Interest in either or both is probably fetish.
Fetish is wonderful; it is self-expression. Kink is a description of non-mainstream and should be harmless, but God only knows in today’s world of priggish and self-righteous political correctness. BDSM is very private, very complex, and somehow connected to deep psychological issues. Within limits of personal acceptance and common sense concerning safety, it is therapy.
What Is Discipline & How Important Is It?
Discipline is not kink, it is BDSM and therefore, from my perspective, a therapy. It is a salve, not a cure. It responds to a need. I have “treated” people who need to be spanked because they need expiation of their “sins”; a student who wasn’t studying hard enough.
I once had a wife send her husband for the spanking he deserved and agreed that he deserved, but that she was uncomfortable delivering. There are a lot of mommy issues out there! Then there’s the executive who is in control all the time and just wants to be controlled.
I practice Bondage and Discipline at the non-extreme end where emotional and physical safety are paramount. SM overlaps butt morphs toward an extreme that can become very unhealthy and even dangerous. Not what I do.
Why Are People Into Discipline?
As I said, I am a therapist. The key to good therapy is a form of mutual discovery and appropriate treatment given all factors. My first rule is safety, my second is understanding drivers, and my third is respecting limits.
Caning a person who just wants OTK mommy spanks is abuse. OTK spanks is useless therapy for a person who seeks the expiation of a rubber belt thrashing. Sex is a very real part of sessioning, butt only in the mind and behind of the client. They all get aroused….yep….the girls too….and I definitely mind fuck them, but they don’t get any more of me than that. And they love it.
No sex, a lot of vex………that’s the Dom hex.
What Common Rules Are There?
Rules? It’s about roles. I’m like any other therapist. I, we, they, play games to get you where we can help the most and you do what you are told. Within limits.
If he or she wants to act up and it’s part of the role, we work it out with me maintaining control. I have had only one jerk that got out of control and that I had to throw out.
Explore Your Interest Now!
People come to me for a lot of reasons, mostly that they don’t fully understand. I love the challenge of figuring out each set of mind and behind. So many different beginnings. I have a lot of repeat customers!
Mistress Rattan – Mistress in Toronto offering Discipline and Domination
BDSM is a way to explore the things that excite, frighten, or captivate us, in a safe, controlled setting. I think “kink” can be defined as any non-conventional sexual practice, which is, of course, extremely subjective.
Kink expands our perception of eroticism, from something that’s genital focused and orgasm driven, to something that’s more inclusive of our entire bodies and minds.
What Is Corporal Punishment?
It’s simply physical, bodily punishment: the consensual administration of pain. I’d say it’s quite popular, though the severity that a person enjoys varies widely. There is a misconception that corporal is always severe, and most people who tell me they’re “not into it” are actually just not into extreme pain.
I would say nearly all of my subs enjoy some degree of corporal punishment, whether that means that they enjoy the endorphins of heavier punishment, or they just enjoy the submissive, humiliating aspect of something like an over-the-knee spanking. I’d still call that corporal!
Why Do People Love Corporal Punishments?
Pain can release endorphins, the neurochemicals that act on our opiate receptors to give us a natural, exhilarating “high.” I would say the endorphin rush is the simplest reason people crave corporal, though some other factors can compound this. For example, giving someone consent to hurt you can feel very submissive and intimate—you’re at their mercy, which requires a deep trust.
Corporal can also be part of a role play. Some people even fetishize the object they’re being punished with, like the canes, crops, or paddles themselves. The image of a dominatrix holding a whip is iconic—that in itself can be exciting to a sub. And then many people feel a thrill at suffering through something, pushing themselves, forcing themselves to endure. It’s a test, a challenge that can lead to a feeling of accomplishment.
Common Rules In Corporal Punishment
It’s important to know where is safe to hit a person. Butts are popular, of course—they’re thick and meaty, with no delicate bones that you could injure. There are charts available online that show the safest places to hit someone.
Photo: Deviance & Desire
Always start with a warm up. Hitting someone lightly at first will start to trigger endorphins so that by the time you’re hitting them hard, they’ll have an easier time and feel more pleasure and excitement. I personally like to begin striking someone with hands before I get to implements; hands feel more sensual and less scary, so they help build trust and relax my partner before we get into heavier equipment. Don’t use equipment you’re not comfortable with—whips especially can feel unwieldy and be dangerous if you’re not experienced.
Safe words are important, of course, though it’s very rare in my scenes that someone uses them. I rely a lot on intuition and reading the person’s breathing and body language. Trust is also very important. The Bottom must have trust in the Top, obviously, but a Top should also know they can trust the Bottom to vocalize their limits and do their own part in keeping their self safe.
Typical Corporate Punishment Session With Subs
Every scene is different, but I typically like to begin with some non-painful sensation play to help the Bottom get present in their body and sensitive to my touch. Most people are quite nervous when they step into a dungeon, especially if it’s our first time playing together, so I like to relax them and get them into a sort of subspace before anything too intense happens.
Sensation play can include feathers, pinwheels, vampire gloves, or just running my hands lightly all over their body. I will then usually move on to spanking or light flogging—something to get their attention without causing any real pain yet. Florentine flogging is one of my favorite things for this stage. It’s typically quite light and rhythmic, and gets the person accustomed to being hit without being hurt—like a sort of kinky massage. This style of flogging with light, leather floggers can give your sub a taste for what corporal can feel like, without actually causing pain or any marks.
I often do corporal scenes with someone tied to a St. Andrew’s cross, and sometimes blindfolded as well, to take away all visual stimulation and draw their attention to sounds and physical sensations. I tend to do somewhat frequent verbal check-ins, particularly when it’s someone I haven’t played with much before. When a Bottom has a consensual non-consent fantasy, I have to be even more careful—since checking in verbally would kill the illusion of non-consent, it becomes even more vital that I’m sensitive to their breathing, reactions, and other bodily cues. It becomes tricky to care for a person while indulging in their fantasy that you don’t care at all, but I enjoy the challenge of finding different ways to subtly make sure they’re okay and engaged in the scene. I’ll up the intensity at times, bring it down, increase it again, and so on. This is really pleasurable for me and feels like I’m creating art in the person’s experience.
My personal style is more seductive and sensual than purely strict, so I like to tease my sub in between hurting them. It’s fun to get someone to a point where they’re not sure if they’re more turned on or tortured.
Safety Precautions To Follow
Yes! Safewords should certainly be discussed, especially if either player is new to kink, or if they haven’t played much together. As I mentioned before, it’s vital that you know what parts of a person’s body are safe to hit. Not all equipment is as easy to use as you might think, so please don’t take an implement you’re unfamiliar with and go straight to another person’s body with it. I think whips can be the most difficult piece of equipment to get proficient with. If someone craves the sharp, localized sting of a whip or cane but you’re not comfortable using these yet, try starting with a crop instead. It’s much easier to control.
A dragon tail whip is another alternative to the classic single tail. The sensation is less intense, and an inexperienced whipper will find a dragon tail is easier to use with precision. Whatever implement you use, I always recommend warming someone up thoroughly so you can get a sense for your power versus their pain tolerance, as well as triggering those endorphins I mentioned earlier.
If you have someone tied up during corporal, make sure you know some basics of bondage—for example, it can be dangerous to have someone tied to a Saint Andrew’s cross with their arms above their head for too long. I have had two Bottoms faint from this, so now I’m very careful with how long I’ll keep someone in this position. When I do use this position, I’ll do it early in a scene when a person is fresh and not too tired. When a scene gets intense and you have your partner deeply in subspace, they might not even realize that they’re starting to get tired, thirsty, or need some sort of break.
Make sure you watch out for them—that’s part of the Top’s role. It can also be good to have someone tied up on a bench, bent over with their butt towards you. I find this position can be easier for hitting your target, and you’re not in as much danger of accidentally hitting their spine, neck, or head.
If your sub enjoys face slapping, there’s a proper technique to this. I always lay my palm gently across their face first, then take a quick slap landing exactly where my palm had been. Face slapping improperly can really injure someone, so think of it as more of a humiliation tactic than a way to hurt them.
Lastly, rubbing arnica gel into skin can help with bruising.
How Can I Explore Corporal Punishment?
For beginning equipment, I would say light floggers, a paddle, and a crop are all easy implements to get started with. Go slow and have fun. Unfortunately, a lot of new kinksters seem to believe that more and harder equals better. Being too aggressive doesn’t make you a better or more authentic dominant. Kink should be a positive force in our lives, whether that means it’s fulfilling, exciting, challenging, or just pleasurable. Express genuine care and respect for the people you play with, and look at every scene as a collaboration between the two of you.
To learn more, I would recommend taking an in-person class, or hiring a professional dominatrix to give you a private lesson. Books are fine, but when your canvas is another person’s body, nothing beats in-person instruction.
Mistress Lux is a professional dominatrix. Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, she travels internationally with her subs in pursuit of all things fun and freaky. She has been a professional kinkster for over a decade, and specializes in bondage, corporal, tease and denial, and all sorts of gender play.
I’ve always been a free-spirit and non-judgmental person when it came to personal preferences and sexual fluidity. I do NOT kink shame, I like to call myself a kink caterer, ha! But truly? I think that the spectrum that is; sexuality, kinks, fetish, exploration of our bodies…its grown exponentially! And me? I just wanna stay right in the middle 😉
My Experience As A Camgirl
I spent my first three years in sex work; camming. Now… Don’t get me wrong; the money was amazing…but it’s a lot of hard work and disrespect. It eventually started to affect me mentally, acting as a ‘sex-kitten’ for these cheap men everyday and It wasn’t ’till I was two years in that I mastered fetish camming and we all know where that took me…paradise 🙂
What Inspired Me To Be A Dominatrix
After two years, I mastered fetish camming and realized I was only happy when I was dominating a viewer or doing something kink-related. All my slaves from my sites followed me to Twitter and the rest is history LOL.
How I Learnt To Be A Dominatrix
I had a few mentors over the years. But I am self-taught. I worked my perfect ass off reading, researching, observing, studying and then finally practicing. Young girls don’t understand how dangerous this lifestyle can be if your Domme is un-educated.
Characteristics Of A Good Dominatrix
I think she is confident, stern, intelligent, mysterious. She knows how to make you fatally attracted but also keep you at arms length by staying un-attainable…but has empathy for her slaves too, I could go on LOL. But honestly If I may say so…I just described my Domme-self.
Building My Own Home BDSM Dungeon
It’s been hell! LOL I bought a mini studio and did all the electric and drywall. Now I’m finally close to being done.
My subs can expect any and everything! It will be fully equipped with ALL fetish equipment, and your fantasies will come to life there. It’s a free and safe space. Plus, there’s also a bar and it’s very intimately located. but I don’t wanna give too much away on the Dungeon, cause there a lot upcoming on that.
Goddess Ana – I most enjoy the psychological aspects of BDSM & Femdom, The mind-fuck, if you will… I enjoy the anticipation on a mans face during one of my delicious teases. I will make The build-up as you wait and wonder what may happen; excruciating . The goosebumps,…the desire that starts as a slow burn, but with me kindling it, it builds in intensity until it consumes my men; whole. I love the Cat and mouse type-play. But; make no mistake, when you are with Me,….you will be both My property to play with …and My prey.
Not a thing pleases Me more, than once Ive penetrated My way inside Your psyche, learned what kinky things makes you tick,…and then I use your mind and body as My personal playground .
I love sadistic and Sensual Domination. I naturally lean toward bratty seductive aspects of play, and twisted aspects of punishment.
I can be a real brat at times,…but My greatest pleasure is making you squirm and whimper under My hand, while you also throw your lifes saving at my feet.
I enjoy getting to know My submissives …..and using what I learn “against” them,…for my pleasure. My pro-Domme journey began over 6yrs ago, and my experience shows in My interactions with the submissives lucky enough to be chosen to spend time with Me. Come, indulge yourself to all My wicked whims…
In person; in my fully equipped Fetish Dungeon Studio Or Online.. I can make all of your fantasies come true..
Also, have 2 clips stores on C4S & IWC. I livestream 3xs a week on cam on chaturbate and streamate; as well as my Onlyfans – Onlyfans.com/mistress_anam and My email (paygoddessana@gmail.com) for bookings
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I think that alternative lifestyles and kink are infinitely varied. I belong to the BDSM subculture. I am a lifestyle Mistress and latex outfits lover.
My personal views are very tolerant to the most alternative lifestyles and kink. If both partners are enjoying, then for me everything looks good.
You can bring more colors in your life with opening imagination, love and exploring your own body.
What Are Full Body Lockups?
Full body lockup is bondage in the BDSM, when a partner cannot move any part of the body, strict physically bondaged in a variety of methods, without any possibilities to release.
One of my favorite methods is the total rubber enclosure using an inflatable rubber body bag. It is a kind of rubber sleepsack with a sub’s body inside. Each side of the bag you can inflate using a compressor. The body is pressed between inflated rubber sheets and it is not possible to move a centimeter in it. In such games, it is possible to add gas masks, blindfolds, and gags.
Also, there is an alternative to the inflatable bag. It is the vacuum bed. The body is placed between two rubber sheets, which is fixed on a frame. The slave’s body will be locked up between two latex sheets, and air is sucked out using a suction pump or vacuum cleaner. In using the vacuum bed, the sub’s mouth must have an added tube for breathing.
Another method of a body lockup is known as the “Mummification”. The body is totally wrapped tight in polyethylene film, and it looks like a mummy. For extra fixation, it is possible to use ropes and a bondage bed.
There are different types of BDSM furniture and rope bondage which are usable for body lock ups as well.
Why Subs Love Being Locked Up
The slave feels weak when being in full body lockup, he/she feels like a prisoner, and he is owned. He/she gives his/her body in total use for the Mistress’s/Master’s desire.
During such games, the submissive partner can’t think about anything else other than his Mistress and her next action. A blindfold can increase the sensitivity of the body. Obedience, trust, and loyalty are all in the bondaged body.
What Goes On In A Typical Session
In most full body lockups, there remains some nude parts of the body, which are very usable, be it the penis, ass or nipples. One can be strictly locked up using chastity cages for the penis, and masks with limitation for breathing.
I like playing CBT (cock bondage torture), giving tormented pleasure for the partner using different electro toys, sounds, balls stretchers and crushers. Teasing nipples with fingers, soft and nice, and after going harder with nipples clamps. Teasing the ass with anal plugs, speculum, balls, and strap-ons. Sometimes, I can leave the slave for awhile in his tight prison.
Body lockups and SM games are limited only by your imagination and the possibilities of the slave’s body.
Safety Precautions To Note
I think most precautions are necessary for locking body with ropes, because of blood circulation. Do not make it too tight.
And it is good to have a sharp special knife to cut ropes off.
What To Expect Before Trying Full Body Lockups
If the person really is getting horny of the idea to be a prisoner, then he/she should not worry about anything in the first session. With the right suitable Mistress/Master, everything will be great. During such sessions, an exciting connection can happen between Dominant and sub. I never had the experience with tantra, but probably it is something like this, feeling waves and exchanges of energy.
For curious people, who are searching and exploring one’s self, and they do not have any ideas about their own reaction, I can give a recommendation: always be honest that it is your first time, decide with the Dominant a “magic” word to stop the game, the word which you never will forget, even during a panic attack. Some people can forget it unexpectedly during their first time.
My name is Alice MissWoW – Lifestyle Mistress for over 10 years. I found my way to professional dominance as a career path in the Netherlands for the last six years. Originally I am Russian.
I am an unusual fantasy specialist in tight shinny latex outfits. My greatest satisfaction is having total control over my slave’s excitement and orgasm capability. My techniques combine pain with pleasure, giving my slaves a sense of insecurity of not knowing what to expect.
I have a large collection of BDSM TOYS whips, electro toys, bondage, sounds, training plugs, strap-ons, gags and more.
Upcoming Works: in during last year everything is a bit different, but I am open for dates in few SM places in the Netherlands, it is in Den Haag and Rotterdam.
I see BDSM as a sane way to subvert power relations, because in BDSM, there is a very important thing: consent, and it is BDSM only if there is consent, else it is abuse.
So such exchange is a viable alternative to the non-consensual power structures which permeate our modern world.
How I Became A Dominatrix
When I was a teenager, I started to slap my first boyfriend on his face and get turned on by that. I was 15 and didn’t know why I liked that, I didn’t know if it was normal or if there was something wrong with me.
A bit older, I got in touch with BDSM and realized that that was what I liked and I felt comfortable with the idea that my desires were not following the norms and it was all right. I started to explore it more and more and try different things.
I became a professional domme because of Dommenique Luxor, she is the biggest dominatrix in Brazil and I always admired her so much, followed her channel on social media and listened to her speeches. She started to teach and I became her student, after that, I was ready to start working.
My Dominatrix Style
I am very playful, I like to laugh a lot and make fun while I am playing. I also enjoy moments of silence, I am not the kind of domina that will be talking all the time during a session, and I find silenence important to access other states of mind.
I also like to play creative games, absurd scenes and perform in situations where my slave can be seen by more people, like outdoors play for example.
Four Expectations Of My Subs
Complete devotion, obedience, creativity to please me and trust.
#1 Rule All Subs Must Follow
Rule number one is: Don’t do anything without your Mistress’ permission, you must ask first obviously.
Remember This Before Submitting
This is serious business, once you are with a domina, you must be fully present and give yourself totally. There is no such thing as a bit of devotion, either it is completely surrender or it is nothing.
Mistress Amandara – Perverted, with no traces of morality.
With a very sadistic side, I am merciless. You will feel my extremely rough approach, as well as my softness and attention to fragility.
What I like is to see men getting out of their comfort zone, pushing their limits and putting themselves in a grace state of vulnerability. I see endless beauty in this state.
We will get in touch with our wildest fantasies as a process of getting to our creative source to feed ourselves, returning new and refreshed.
My radical training will transform your way of being in the world beyond the sessions. Your self-sacrifice will be a demonstration of your devotion and claim for change.
