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Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

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Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

So we’re well into Masturbation Month… Anyone learnt anything new? As I mentioned in there a bunch of pieces focused on solo play and the health benefits of masturbation, and people much more qualified than myself to discuss it therapeutically. What I’d like to do is make sure couples don’t feel excluded from all the awesome, so here’s some tips and toys for inspiring and incorporating masturbation into a shared experience – there’s probably no better way to learn more about your partner’s body. For women, masturbation can be an external or internal experience, and there’s thought to be at least four different orgasms women are able to achieve: clitoral, vaginal, multiple, and ‘all of the above’. This makes Pussy Play all kinds of fun – and a wonderfully exciting challenge… How many ways can you or your partner cum this month? And how can you help?

First off, keep things comfortable, yet interesting; getting yourself off should never feel like a job. And remember that our bodies are changing and evolving all the time – depth of sensitivity and locations of ‘hot spots’ can change. Regular masturbation can help you keep track of these changes and give you a working knowledge of what’s ‘right’ for you. This is where toys can be invaluable. Finger toys are a wonderful way to explore the external regions. You can purchase these as simple, textured silicone sheaths that slide over the finger, like these Exotic Finger Teasers. Using your sheathed finger start massaging the labia – outer and inner – taking care to avoid the clitoris for the first few minutes. Make a mental note of any particular sweet spots, but don’t spend too long on them. Try giving yourself (and your voyeuristic) partner a pleasurable tease.

For those who struggle a bit with the clit orgasm, you could try this Finger Vibe from Lelo. It’s a beautiful, velvet-finish silicone vibe that slides on your finger like a ring, and for a toy that runs on one AAA it’s a pretty powerful buzz. There are several speeds and intensity settings, and I’m assuming a pretty top-notch motor, due to Lelo’s great reputation for making safe, great quality toys. The great thing about finger toys is their unobtrusive nature, and the instinctual ease of their use – your fingers know what they’re doing; now just to enhance them a little…

Internally, it can be a whole different thing. There’s no ‘magic button’ in there to make us cum. What used to be thought of as the G-Spot is actually a larger erogenous zone that encompasses several different organs. Called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ (CUV) it includes the front of the vaginal wall (the side toward the belly), the urethra, the paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s Glands or female Prostrate) and the underlying nerve ‘roots’ of the clitoris. Aiming toys and pressure at this region can really help in bringing on some quite intense vaginal orgasms. Some of the best toys to do this are the adjustable G-Vibes like this Je Joue G-Kii. G-spot vibrators feature a curved tip, which provides focused pressure on the front wall. Whether you’re determined to find your G-spot, or know exactly where it is and want to hit it with ease, G-spot vibes get straight to the point. For your first time, try using the head at its natural angle. Then, as you become more familiar with it, experiment with different curves to discover your perfect position. Not only can this toy be shaped to work with anyone, the flexible shaft can even be hooked around for simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

Stay tuned… Next time we look at remote control and wireless control toys for couples… Can’t wait!


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MisKnickers

MisKnickers is a Melbourne-based writer and educator with over twenty years professional experience. Published in some of Australia's major newspapers and magazines, MisK also spent time as a scriptwriter for both film and television. Her educational know-how is a unique blend of her formal training as a University educator, and her own experience from many years running writing workshops. Several years ago, MisK turned her talent with both words and people toward the sexual, creating (f)Risky Enterprises - a website and business dedicated to celebrating sexuality through words, be it reading, listening, or digital stimulation. ;) As someone who loves variety (identifying as a gender-fluid, pansexual, switch!) MisK's passions are always changing, but her strong sense of justice keeps her committed to the sex-positive movement and striving for sexual and gender equality. She specialises in enabling sexual self-expression, improving communication skills, and inspiring confidence. MisKnickers loves interaction, so please feel free to contact her with any topics of interest, or personal queries.

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