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Multiple female orgasms and what men don’t get about it

Occasionally my body just sort of skips over the actual orgasm. I get excited, I feel myself getting closer and closer and then all of a sudden I no longer feel excited. It is a bit of a let-down because orgasms do feel so amazing. I have had this happen while masturbating (which is really confusing because I am obviously doing what I like) or with a partner. But, I can get to orgasm in so many different ways; so I just take a break for a moment and go for it again (and am usually successful).

Multiple Orgasms!

I most definitely am capable of multiple orgasms. I really don’t need any recovery time between orgasms. Just like a man’s penis can be extra sensitive after they orgasm, my clitoris is incredibly sensitive. I can go again right away, I just prefer to give my clitoris a small break. That being said, there are times that it is nice to just bask in the feelings after a really strong orgasm.

In the last couple of years, I got into BDSM with a partner. I have been able to have multiple orgasms for as long as I can remember. But it was not until this relationship that I discovered how many orgasms I can really have when I just relax and let my body do its thing. I believe this is partially due to the level of trust we shared. I had no fear of my body doing weird things. I turned my body over to him and the results were phenomenal. I have had so many orgasms that I lost count; I eventually fell asleep exhausted and dehydrated.

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard a woman say “I cannot get off during oral sex, I’m too scared that I’ll pass gas or something horrible”. Have I done that? Absolutely, and I have never had a man get upset or make a big deal about it. The typical response has been “it is super sexy how much you get into it”! You have to relax, listen to your body and allow yourself to feel the pleasure.

What the men don’t get about orgasms

I think the biggest thing men don’t seem to understand is that we don’t all reach orgasm the same way. Some ladies require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, some can reach orgasm by just g-spot stimulation. Some lucky ladies (like myself) can get off by nipple stimulation. I have had partners that were “trained”, so to speak, by their previous partner. They do the same thing over and over again whether or not it is working.

My best advice for men is to listen to the woman they are with. Ask questions if she does not seem to be responding to what you are doing. If she moans or trembles, explore what you are doing more. Let her know that you care about her pleasure and find it sexy when she is enjoying herself.

I am Staci, an independent escort from Portland, Oregon. But I like to think of myself as more of a no-strings girlfriend. I grew up in a conservative (read: sexually repressed) small town environment. I moved to the city, found my sexuality and never looked back! Click on the links in my profile to visit my website and Twitter!

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September 21, 2015
Does having a disability impact one to enjoy sex fully?

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We have collected your questions on sex and disability, and are delighted to have Arlene Jane Tinga to answer them below.

Does having a disability impacts one to enjoy sex fully?

Before I answer the question, I have to state that although we have the dictionary definition of sex, sex can still be defined in many ways depending on the individual, books, country, and even culture that you ask. So, can having a disability impact the full enjoyment of sex? The answer is, it all depends on the individual.

When it comes to sex for individuals with a disability, sex is something that is usually not discussed or even given any thought to. Although, this does not mean that individuals with a disability do not have sex. Depending on the disability of the individual, sex can mean something entirely different from the typical definition of sex and thus what many people perceive or consider as enjoying sex fully, may not always be the same for an individual with a disability.

Thus, having a disability does not necessarily impact the enjoyment of sex, but rather creates new ways of enjoyment for sex.

Are people with disabilities at higher risk of sexual abuse?

Yes, many individuals with a disability are at higher risks of becoming victims of sexual abuse. Yet, individuals with a developmental and intellectual disability are even more at high risk of becoming sexual abuse victims due to their inabilities to comprehend certain situations.

What are some misconceptions about sexuality and disability?

Many people tend to perceive individuals with a disability as not being typical, thus not associating the individuals to sex, sexuality, or any topic revolving around sex and sexuality. For individuals with a developmental disability, such as those diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), many people perceive these individuals as being childlike and asexual. For individuals that have a physical disability, many people perceive that those individuals are not physically able to have sex.

Also, people assume that if you have a disability, the thought or topic of sex and sexuality is taken off the table.

How can society change the mindset towards these misconceptions?

Society’s misconceptions and perceptions towards individuals and sexuality can change if society were to be educated on sex, sexuality and disability. Due to people not being educated or knowledgeable about sex and sexuality when it comes to individuals with disabilities, these individuals are misunderstood and their experiences in life are looked upon completely differently than the experiences of typical developing individuals.

Arlene-Jane (Arlene) Tinga has a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Women Studies from University of California Riverside. Her Senior Thesis research was; Masturbation: More Taboo for Women Than Men. She has been working with the developmental disabilities community since 2006 and is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

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September 14, 2015
How to make Skype sex amazing

Hey, I’m Jenna. I’m 22 years old. I live in Colorado, and I work full-time as a front desk agent at a hotel and part-time as a camgirl doing private shows over Skype. I’m also in a long-distance open relationship, so I regularly have Skype sex not only with paying customers but also with my long-distance boyfriend, multiple times a week. I started doing cam shows, and selling my used panties online, a few months ago when I moved to Colorado from New Jersey. I got into it because my boyfriend Chris* said that my panties smelled so good, I should sell them. He was joking, but I started selling my panties and, from there, began camming.

I love Skype Sex!

There’s something really fun and playful about it, because at times you’re “pretending” to have sex. I love dirty talk, and Skype is a great place for dirty talk. Plus, I’m a bit of an exhibitionist, so showing off for the camera gets me excited. It can also be a great way to spice up your sex life, especially if there’s a woman in the relationship who has a hard time cumming from penetration. With my boyfriend, Skype sex has been amazing. At its best, it is the personal gratification of masturbating, plus all the shared joy and intimacy of sex with someone you love. I’m talking about crazy multi-orgasmic Skype sessions.

With clients, I love Skype sex for similar reasons. It’s not just the gratification of getting to fuck myself properly, but also to develop a vibe with another person. With some clients, we’re quiet, and with others, we talk dirty the whole time. One of my favorite clients doesn’t let me cum until I ask him, and we often cum at the same time. With clients, it feels like more like performing, even if I cum, but it’s still great.

During Skype sex, my boyfriend once got jealous and said “This is just another cam show to you, isn’t it?” And I was taken aback, because it’s so different. Of course, when it comes to sex, nothing beats the real thing. I’ve found that with a relationship partner, Skype sex doesn’t cut it after a while and we’re longing to hold each other again.

It’s easier to get started than you think!

There’s no special ritual involved, I just have to feel good emotionally. Regardless of whether we get naked ten minutes or two hours into a virtual conversation, my boyfriend and both have to feel like our emotional needs are being met before we feel like having sex – just like in real life. If we’re having a disagreement or we just need someone to talk to, we have to talk before we feel like having Skype sex. There’s no special preparation because we don’t plan for Skype sex, we let it happen spontaneously. We video chat in our respective bedrooms so we can get naked if the mood strikes.

The good thing about it not being real sex is that you don’t have to both be physically ready to start the action. I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend, so he often makes me wait or doesn’t join me in masturbating if he wants to hang out without (virtually) fucking. If I’m not wet yet, I just watch him masturbate.

With clients, I just like to be hydrated, and dressed in something cute. If I really need it, I will take the day off. I want it to be fun, not a chore. And weed helps me get horny.

Dress the part

I like babydoll tops, matching pajama sets, dresses, and good old nudity. Again, I don’t plan for Skype sex, I just try to wear sexy things whenever I Skype in the privacy of my bedroom. It’s fun to get on camera and not reveal until halfway through the conversation that I’m wearing no pants, just a thong. If we’re talking about sex and my boyfriend gets horny, he says “guess what?” and then pans the camera down to show me that he’s pulled out his hard cock. I like it when he does that and I don’t expect it (as long as he’s not interrupting me when I’m talking).

Tips for men

If your girl likes eye contact during sex, remember to look into the camera, not just at the screen. Put on a show. If you see your girl’s eyes light up when you do something, try doing it more. I like my man to squeeze his dick, rub it faster and then nice and slow, and then with two hands, and then play with the head, etc. As you get good at it, you won’t just be sitting there repetitively jerking off. Ask your partner to do things you want him/her to do, and ask them what they want you to do. “Direct” each other. And remember that dirty talk is your friend.

First time advice for couples

Work on having trust in each other. Make sure you’re okay being vulnerable in front of each other, because Skype sex can feel silly and awkward the first time, just like regular sex. A good “practice step” is to masturbate for/on each other in person. Masturbation feels vulnerable because it’s a private act, so if you masturbate for each other during live sex first, you will probably feel less awkward. If you think dirty talk is a good addition to skype sex, you can first practice with phone sex so you don’t have to look your partner in the eyes.

If you’re trying to initiate Skype sex for the first time, make sure that you two are each Skyping from a private place (of course) and not under time pressure. Have a conversation first, and maybe wait for sex to arise naturally in the conversation, so you can tell your partner what you wish you could do to them. If you’re long distance, you could go “Hey, I miss your ass/belly/face, can I see it again?” Ladies, you can ask your man to take off his shirt…and then his pants. When Chris and I first had Skype sex, we were talking about things we wish we could do to each other, and then I just started stripping and asked to see his dick. If your partner is less of a nympho, you might just have to ask them if they want to get naked on Skype with you. Use your words. I’ve never planned a Skype session specifically to have sex, we just start stripteasing a little on camera if I get horny.

How to make Skype sex amazing

Play with camera angles!! Sometimes, my boyfriend shows me just his dick, or just his face, or both. I like to masturbate without letting him see any more than my upper body, and then by the end I’m spreading my pussy for the camera so he can see inside.

Let each other say and do anything without judgement. Before I had Skype sex with Chris, we had phone sex. He felt awkward, so I did most of the talking the first few times, and eventually we stopped worrying that we sounded stupid or repetitive. One time I told him that I wanted to call him Daddy but that I felt silly and shy about it. He said, “You can call me Daddy if you want to. You don’t have to be embarrassed that you want to suck Daddy’s cock.” He got really into it, calling me a good girl and everything. I get wet just thinking about it. After that point, I felt like I trusted him with all my sexual quirks, so I could say or do anything, and Skype sex was no biggie. Communication and trust are key. Duh! Haha. I can’t believe I’m saying that, because it’s so cliche, but it’s true for pretty much every aspect of sex and relationships. Skype sex is a great place to try out your wildest fantasies. Happy sexing!

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September 9, 2015
What goes through my mind during sex

My name is Isabell, to the outside world I’m a 31 year old Sales Rep from England, but behind closed doors I sell my used panties, photo sets and videos as well as a wide variety of more unusual fetish items. I am still fairly new to the panty selling scene, until 6 months ago I didn’t even know it existed. I was having a particularly wet and juicy day and my boyfriend said to me, “We should sell your panties, men would pay good money for panties as wet as yours.” The idea of it really turned me on and after a little research I decided to give it a go. I find the whole thing extremely sexy and arousing which ensures my clients are always satisfied with the panties I provide. I have acquired several regulars, both UK based and abroad and I am continuing to grow my client base on a weekly basis. I have recently become Panty Trust verified which provides the added reassurance that I am a genuine trusted panty seller and allows potential clients to read comments from others about my service before committing to buy. I have recently designed my own website which I will continue to improve in the coming months in order to make the whole buying process as simple and straight forward for my clients as possible.

I Love Sex

I am an extremely highly sexed person. I don’t believe sex to be about love I believe it to be about pleasure so for me, if a man can make your pussy tingle with a kiss to the neck or the mouth, then why wait?! I’ve never understood the whole 3 date rule thing; if you have a desire then as long as you’re not hurting anyone then just go for it. I wouldn’t say my sexual preferences are ordinary, in many people’s eyes they’re probably quite unusual. However, since I started selling my used panties, my eyes have been well and truly opened and I certainly wouldn’t say I have extraordinary sexual preferences, just a little wilder than most. There are so many different types of fetishes out there, some may say “disgusting”, but I say why not? I have yet to be asked for something that I think there’s no way I can bring myself to do that.

Can women fake orgasms well?

I think it’s easy to pull the wool over the eyes of a 1 night stand but a long term partner or a guy who is actually any good in bed would know in a heartbeat regardless as to how good of an actress you might be. Any woman can moan and groan at the right times but it’s her body that gives her away if her head’s somewhere else. A guy who knows what to expect when a woman is excited would question why she wasn’t very wet, why aren’t her nipples erect or when she “apparently” came and why didn’t he feel the contraction or extra wetness etc. Saying that, all women are different but I do know I for one cannot pretend with any man I’ve slept with more than once, he’d simply say, “So where’s the wet patch?” Hence the name Isabell Squirts ha ha ha!

What was on my mind the first time I had sex

The first thing that springs to mind would be the night I lost my virginity. The guy I lost my virginity to had been circumcised; at this point in my life I had never seen a circumcised penis before and remember thinking, “how do I wank this off without a foreskin for a cushion?” I’ve since learned the joys of lube so any future circumcised guys needn’t worry about friction burns! I remember lying back on the grass in my local park, nervous as hell while he frantically pumped up and down with a complete lack of rhythm, and thinking this doesn’t feel as good as my fingers. When it was over I stood up with grass stains all over the ass of my white jeans while he peeled a big slug off my back. To say I was disappointed would be an understatement but then I doubt many people could claim the earth moved for them during their first time. Thankfully things gradually improved with practice and I now have a wonderful sex life.

If you’re thinking of anything other than a shared fantasy, or how good something he’s doing feels, then he is definitely doing something wrong. The ironing pile may well be out of control, but what feels better, a mind blowing orgasm or a crisp ironed blouse?

I fantasize about other guys when having sex

Definitely. This is something I have always done, not because I’m bored or unsatisfied but because it excites me. I’m very lucky in that my current boyfriend is extremely confident in himself and will happily talk dirty to me about scenarios involving other men or women during foreplay/sex and we will both get excited and aroused by this which means we have a completely open and amazing sex life.

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September 4, 2015
How to be a great Top

I find sex to be one of the most exciting things to enjoy with another person. Sex can be like music, depending on the song itself, it might not be to your taste and that goes with guys. If they say they are top and they have a small dick then it’s like metal, all sound and no performance. Guys that top have a responsibility, you may think you can just fuck someone and be done but you have to make sure the bottom is experiencing it the same way; otherwise the bottom can tighten and turn your pleasure into pain. I have topped and bottomed for guys and there is a whole world of difference in the two. As a top I had to make sure they were not hurting from the thrusts and as a bottom I had to find a way to make it comfortable for me but to also control the tops movement. It’s really difficult but so much fun when you hear them scream whether you are fucking them for entertainment or revenge.

Is foreplay crucial?

Foreplay is not crucial but fun, if they come home looking stressed, always start with a massage because not only do they instantly get naked for you, they can get stress relief from the foreplay and you can find parts of their body that makes them moan with pleasure. Foreplay shouldn’t be too long but can sometimes go too far. Blindfolding can be sexy with them not being able to see what’s coming, but don’t take it too far or the next thing you know, that whip you try to use will be fired back at you. My personal favorite is forbidden sex, going somewhere where sex is not allowed and having fun is definitely the way to go for me, especially when caught.

Lube is helpful..

I always use lube when I top because generally, guys who bottom can be quite tight so it helps alongside rimming them before. Just make sure they are clean before you decide to rim them or you could end up with a Hershey kiss. If they are allergic to lube like some guys, then rimming can be either one or the only alternative to make sure your cock remains attached to your body when you enter that tight hole. Although I think moisturizer, can be a very useful product. Moisturize the edges of the hole. That way, it doesn’t burn on the inside and you can slide in there like that guy has been bottom so much his ass can do the talking for him.

Great Topping positions

Guys have their own preferences, because there’s something good about each. Missionary gives both the ability to watch each other’s reactions. It also allows the top to masturbate the bottom as he strokes. The bottom can urge the top on with his hands on his ass, and if you’re into kissing, it’s good.

Doggy is good for hard fast thrusting, and the top can pull the bottom into him by holding onto his waist. Being on your sides, gives good body contact, and the top can rub the bottoms chest, masturbate him, and play with his nipples, even suck them when the bottom puts his arm around the tops’ back. As far as body contact, the top can put all his weight against the bottom in both mission and doggy. A lot of bottoms love that for both the friction their erection gets (either on the stomach of the top in mission, or against the bed sheets in doggy), and the feeling of submission they get being trapped.

All said, just experiment and try them all. You’ll find you like different parts of different positions, and probably at different times too.

How to relax the Bottom

A bottom is never ready; the only way you can help them is by making sure they are relaxed from the start. Teasing them and allowing them to take a little control can help them settle into the sex, drinking a little can also help. Nothing mad like shots or beer because that will set your stomach to go crazy once you add a cock. Go for a nice glass of wine watered down, that way it doesn’t settle and you have a little confidence (I’m speaking for the bottom to drink, not the top. A top to drink could mean a flaccid sex drive). As a bottom, you must also make sure your legs are close to your stomach, that way your anal experience will hurt less.

Things the Top should note

Tops need to look out for anal cleanliness, if that hole isn’t clean, than safe sex is the option to go. You don’t want your dick to look like you dipped it in the wrong chocolate. If your bottom boy is moaning in the wrong way, make sure you reposition him to help give him just as much pleasure as you are getting from fucking him senseless.

The worst thing you can do is just jam it in. Unless your bottom is like a freeway on a ramp, a slow start is best. I find the best way to start is to slowly slide it in (with plenty of lube). Don’t get creative yet. Just watch and listen to their reaction. It gives them time to relax. It’s at this point that I have learned it’s better to grind rather than fuck. It’s the “in and out” that can be painful in the beginning but grinding slow is hot, passionate and a great way to start.

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August 31, 2015
Best songs to have sex to in 2015

Hello! I’m Annette Worth; adult film actress, disc jockey’ dancer, and a Scorpio. Previously, you might have seen my list of the Top 20 songs of 2014 to have sex too here. Well guess what, this time, I’m back with a kinkier list for 2015. Check these songs out and add them to your playlist so that you’ll be in the mood and rockin’ when participating in these different acts.

Songs to dance to striptease ψ(｀∇´)ψ – What’s a striptease without any music? Strip to the tune and beat of the following songs for a naked good time.

#1. The roots – Break you off
#2. The Chakaschas – Jungle fever 1972
#3. Tito & tarantula – After dark
#4. Mo horizons – Dance naked under palm trees

Getting a blowjob in the car – Nothing beats getting a blowjob in the car. Turn the music with this soundtrack and you’ll be cumming all over in no time.

#1. My life with the thrill kill kult – Sex on wheels
#2. Lords of acid – I sit on acid
#3. Lil Louis – French kiss (original mix 1989)
#4. N.W.A – She swallowed it

Threesomes – Whether it’s your first time and there is a sense of shyness, or you’re a seasoned participant, listening to these will unleash all your inhibitions and put you in the mood to Ménage à Trois.

#1. Pete moss – Strive to live
#2. Ennio Morricone – A lindia (swell session remix)
#3. Moloko – Forevermore
#4. Jette Ives – In the presence of love

Orgy – The heat of excitement and all the sex might drown out the music playing in the background. Not to worry, these songs are perfectly chosen to keep the party going while everyone is lost in sex.

#1. The Herbaliser – Sensual woman (erotic version)
#2. Luomo – Body speaking
#3. La roux – In for the kill
#4. Uptown funk empire – I’m a man child

Masturbation – For that solo play, move your hand and fingers according to the rhythm while you fantasise dirty thoughts. Beats touching yourself to total silence.

#1. Whirlpool productions – From disco to disco (original version 1996)
#2. Fedde le grand & Funkerman & Dany P – New life
#3. Oi va voi – Yesterday’s mistakes
#4. Madonna – Justify my love

Special thanks going out to Jeru Davis
Also know as JeruTheDamaja his visit to Seattle was my inspiration for this list
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Special thanks to B-Boy Crazy legs of The Rock Steady Crew and the entire Rock steady crew for always keeping me in check
@CrazyLegsRSC http://crazylegsworkshop.com/
Special thanks to the nightclub Tia Lou’s and Amber in Belltown Seattle Washington
Special thank you to the Seattle symphony orchestra who I work for and are so awesome they gave me time off to complete this list http://www.seattlesymphony.org/
And finally thank you John Howie steak in Bellevue your bananas foster and filet mignon got me through the sleepless nights of this DJ life http://www.johnhowiesteak.mobi/

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August 29, 2015
What is a good sex position for a MFF threesome?

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I am an adult entertainer and model, and from the Chicagoland area. I am in my late 20’s, and also seriously bisexual. I am not sure what it is to be not seriously bisexual, but I say that because I have always been attracting to men and women equally and have known it and been acting on it since I was in High School.

On threesomes

I think they are very fun, and if done right can be a satisfying erotic experience for everyone involved. Personally, I have been bisexual since I was a young teenager and they have always been super fun for me.

Do women want threesomes as much as men?

While I think that threesomes are one of the staple male fantasies, I think that they are something that can be very fun for the woman and that a lot of women do have fantasies about them. When a women knows that she is attracted to men, but wants to try out being with a women sexually, it is a lot safer for her to try a threesome. I think it makes bisexuality more acceptable to a lot of women.

Before a threesome…

I don’t think any preparation is…. needed. BUT – if you are a couple that are looking to do a threesome, I think that communication is always important. Finding out any rules or dos and don’ts that you have. The first threesome I had, was with a boyfriend of mine and the only thing I wasn’t comfortable with was penetration between him and the other girl. I do feel that for couples, picking the third person is something that should be done carefully. Sometimes you may want to ask someone that is a friend or someone that your already associated with but that can cause a lot of conflicts later on down the line. I have found that doing the friend thing can cause unwanted issues to arise. But, other than that- have protection on hand and maybe some toys, a glass of wine or an icebreaker if you’d like and an open mind. And be ready for fun!! 🙂

A hot MFF sex position

I think that doggy with the girl going down on the other girl can be fun. The guy laying down receiving oral while the other girl straddles his face. It’s really fun, especially if the ladies are in sync to share oral between each other, and I have never experience this obviously but I imagine it’s a pretty interesting experience.

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August 23, 2015
How I like him to thrust during Sex

I would like to think that I have fairly open views concerning sexuality. Sex is a very important part of life, and a key ingredient in any healthy relationship. I think that sex is often given a bad rep in the media, and that people who step outside of what is considered ‘polite’ by hetero-normative standards are often punished for defying the status quo. I wish North Americans had more liberal views towards nudity and the human body; that we spent more time admiring its beauty rather than oscillating between the polar extremes of body/slut shaming and hyper sexualization.

It’s hard for me to pin down the kind of sex that I like, variety being the spice of life. I most enjoy when a partner is open, spontaneous and playful. It is great that so many men find arousing their partners incredibly sexy, so not much to complain about there!

How he should thrust during sex

It is always better (in my opinion) to build up the pace of thrusting during sex rather than come out of the gate swinging. If you start at your max pace, you have nowhere to go from there. The speed and style of your foreplay should give you an indication of how to begin. If the lead up was slow and sensual, you’ll want to start at a slower pace. If however, your foreplay was passionate and involved, then you can go for more gusto right from the get-go. Her behavior will also let you know how quickly and or deep she wants you to thrust. A woman who is pushing on your lower back, or has both of her hands on your hips is generally signaling that she either likes the pace, or is indicating for you to thrust harder. Of course, if she says something along the lines of ‘harder’ or ‘faster’, it’s a pretty safe bet that you can step things up. A hand on the chest is an obvious sign to slow down if she is bracing against you.

Once into the swing of things, I prefer a guy to pick up the pace, at which point thrusting deeper is usually appreciated. It helps to wait until a woman is really wet for this, so that the sex is comfortable and deeper thrusting doesn’t result is her being uncomfortable. Going deep but slowly is a great sensation, especially if you grind your pelvis into your ladies. The pressure of going deep coupled with clitoral stimulation is a great combination.

If she comes first (congratulate yourself, modern gentleman), slow the pace until she has caught her breath (literally and metaphorically). Many women, myself included, are very sensitive after an orgasm and intense pressure can feel awkward.

My favorite position

If you can line it up where the man is standing (usually in front of the bed) and the woman is lying down then that makes for a great position to go deep and fast. If you can grab under the woman’s pelvis and lift her up it allows you to go much deeper than if she simply laid back.

Sometimes, the roles are reversed

I am all about gender equality. I prefer to set the pace when I am on top, it’s one of the reasons I like the position so much. Plus, it is nice to be able to lay back sometimes and just enjoy the moment, and I really like to be able to give that pleasure to my partner.

Kate Anderson is available for Skype shows by request and you can contact her at kateandersonwa@gmail.com and follow her at her website kateanderson.modelcentro.com or on Twitter https://twitter.com/kateandersonwa

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August 21, 2015
Double penetration mistakes to avoid

I used to think double penetration was scary but after I finally tried it with two kind and patient lovers, I found I was all for it. Though I admit for quite some time I was only willing to have my mouth and pussy stuffed at the same time.

When taking the first step towards DP…

Make sure the female is relaxed and has cleaned her bowels if possible. It can get messy when surprise anal happens lol.

Difference in DP during masturbation and threesomes

I think it is. See there’s a limit to how much pain I will put on myself that’s totally different than the pain I will allow others to inflict on me. I’m a pussy, I hate pain but love to submit, go figure.

So when I’m doing double penetration during masturbation, I’m going to use a small flexible toy for my ass versus the massive cock I might take if I’m having sex or my partner wants to use something bigger.

Common mistakes during DP

The guy is too excited and trying to force or rush it in the ass. It’s okay to go slow and honestly, semi hard is better at going inside. It’s a lot easier to get it in when it’s more flexible. I can understand how that can be a bummer in a threesome when one guy’s in and you’re trying to get in, but you just can’t rush that anal thing unless the girl does it on the regular.

Otherwise I think the only other problem I’ve encountered is someone going too deep, whether with a real dick or a toy where you feel like between the two holes they are going to make your walls crash. It’s sexy but painful.

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August 20, 2015
5 Things to do if your wife only wants to sleep with other men

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This answer below is in response to the question “My wife only has sex with other men and no longer with me. What can I do?“

Anna’s* Husband,

Once a couple embarks on an alternative lifestyle, especially one involving cuckoldry, it can be difficult to end or change the situation when one partner becomes dissatisfied with something and the other is not.

It sounds like everything about your marriage evolved over time and in your opinion things have gone too far. The substitution of a chemical castration drug in place of you being locked in a chastity device is one area that makes your circumstances special.

Many women would not want to use a medication to feminize their cuckold and lessen his feelings of jealousy and shame as they fell this is an important part of the dynamic of their hot-wife/cuckold marriage.

Anna* is definitely in a minority group of women who want to specifically transform their cuckold into a feminine role and disable his ability to be a sexual man.

Another interesting aspect of your relationship is that while Anna* feels the need to neuter or castrate you she enjoys the company of domineering men. Your wife must like the way these “real” men treat her – like a sex object.

Now whenever a modern cuckold is totally excluded from his wife’s sexual activities he feels empty and lonely. Most cuckolds must accept being left out of some of their wife’s fun but when he is totally shut-out he begin to lose his connection with his hot-wife and to being a cuckold.

The way I see things you have the following options;

1 – End your marriage with Anna* and stop taking the Depo-Provera treatments. You will then have to accept that Anna* will no longer be a part of your life and move on. Based on what you have agreed to and done so far I assume this is not something you can or would do.

2 – Explain your feelings and ask Anna* if there is a way she would accept changing things. Basically you would have to bargain with your wife to allow you to stop the feminizing treatments. One things that might make this acceptable to Anna* is if she resumed locking you in a chastity device.

Since your member has shrunk so much you should offer to get a penis piercing; either a frenum (the underside of the tip) or a Prince Albert (through the head and urethra). This piercing will then be used to lock a chastity tube over your penis and is one of the most secure options for controlling a submissive man.

These tubes come in different sizes so you can be locked in a very small one for the first month and gradually wider and longer tubes could be used as the level of Depo-Provera in your body drops.

You would need to make it clear to your wife that you would not expect or demand to have sex with her; just an occasionally hand-job or chance to masturbate.

3 – Again explain your feelings to Anna* adding that you really do want to lust after her and feel the humiliation and jealousy of being her cuckold – because you love her so much. You feel the Depo-Provera lessens your sex drive so much that you cannot be a “proper” cuckold and experience/enjoy the angst her being a hot-wife!

4 – Another option would be to bargain with Anna* by asking her if there is anything you can do so she will agree to changing things; like lessening or eliminating the Depo-Provera treatments, allowing you to service her orally after she has been with one of her friends-with-benefits.

5 – Since Anna is such a strict wife who wants to feminize you medically you might suggest that the Depo-Provera be stopped but that you would dress feminine when at home doing your chores.

Now the first option is the “nuclear” and most unpleasant one. Options 2-5 could be used partially and/or in different combinations in a way that Anna* would find to be the most acceptable.

You have a unique situation and I would be happy to respond to further questions.

Steve, pwh.steve@gmail.com

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August 15, 2015