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Blowjob & Anal Sex pornstar moves to try out in the bedroom

Have you ever fantasised about having sex like a pornstar? Trying out the various sex positions you see in porn and recreating the hot scenes that reach an explosive climax right at the end. We get a chance to seek Adult actress Kassondra Raine to share her tips on Blowjobs and Anal sex for all those seeking to sex it up a notch in the bedroom!

SimplySxy: Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?

Hi I’m Kassondra Raine. I was born and raised in Las Vegas, Nevada. Although I’ve always been a very sexual person, I never expected to become an Adult Film Actress. I majored in psychology at UNLV in hopes of becoming a therapist/psychiatrist. But by my third year, I realized that I had no interest in labeling people with pre-packaged “disorders” and becoming a legal drug dealer for major pharmaceutical companies. So I dropped out of school, and eventually started doing webcam, which lead me into the adult industry! I love sex, I view religion’s perspective that sex is a shameful act as utterly insane. Sex is something that should be supported and celebrated, and I’m very proud to promote that perspective through my scenes and films!

SimplySxy: In your opinion, how much of what’s going in porn can viewers try out successfully at home?

I think viewers can try out anything they enjoy watching in porn successfully at home. To me, that is an important part of the beauty of pornography. It offers viewers a way to discover new fantasies and possibilities, and can help them explore their own sexuality. In my opinion, trying something new is a success in itself.

Kassondra Raine on Blowjobs

SimplySxy: What is your personal view about giving blowjobs?

I personally very much enjoy giving blowjobs. I have found that when I suck cock, it can be very therapeutic to me. I tend to lose myself in the moment. When that happens, all my troubles, frustrations, and daily stresses just melt away, at least for the time being. Of course I want my partner to enjoy it. However, it seems the more I enjoy it myself, the more my partner enjoys it as well.

SimplySxy: With regards to blowjobs, what secrets can you give for ladies to give amazing blowjobs like what is in porn?

There are thousands of books, magazine articles, classes etc. with tips on the latest and greatest techniques for the ultimate blowie. My perspective is that learning a new technique is fine and dandy and can be fun; it’s always good to try something new. However, I believe that technique is only icing on the cake of an amazing blowjob. With technique alone, the experience can be somewhat empty feeling. The driving force that should be fueling and controlling the technique is missing; without it you are just going through the motions. Your mind becomes focused more on your performance rather than being in the moment. The less you are lost in the moment, the less passion and raw sexual desire can be expressed. Sexual experience on a physical level is supposed to be about sharing physical pleasure with someone and having fun. When I am giving a blowjob, or having sex, I allow myself to get lost in my pleasure and desire, without worrying about my skill, technique, or “performance.” When I am in that state of being, there is no self judgement, no room for worry, doubt, or second guessing myself. The mind takes a back seat and pure feeling takes over. So my advice to ladies would be to focus on having fun and enjoying themselves while giving a blowjob. The more you are having fun, the better it will feel for your partner.

On Anal Sex

SimplySxy: Do you enjoy anal sex a lot?

When I am in the right mood, anal sex can be as erotic and pleasurable as anything else, sometimes even more so. However, I have typically preferred vaginal intercourse in general. My sexual preferences have always changed as I have gone through life. There have been occasions when anal sex is uncomfortable and not much fun, and occasions when it felt amazing and turned me on more than anything else. I think it is healthy to explore new things and keep an open mind. You just never know. One day you can cringe at the thought of a certain act or experience and the next day you could love it so much that you don’t know how you have lived without it up to this point.

SimplySxy: How can a couple try out anal sex like what they see in porn?

I think the most important thing to remember is to RELAXXX…. If you are feeling pain it is because you are tense. You become tense when you are anticipating pain. I think that can be one of the biggest hurdles to get over. Where focus goes, energy flows. If you are focused on whether or not it’s going to be uncomfortable, it probably will be. If you are focused on wanting the experience and feeling excited about trying something “naughty” with your partner, then it’s going to feel amazing and be a great experience. Your mindset is extremely important.

Also, remember to have patience with each other. I’m sure the guys out there who are super anxious to put it in their partner’s backdoor would be more open to patience if they had a battering ram trying to break down their exit gate. Women need to practice patience as well. Instead of feeling frustrated that your man doesn’t ever seem to let up on talking you into doing anal, realize that he is just excited to do something new with you, and that is a good thing. If the genders can do their best to see both sides, the sooner we will come into understanding and work together as a team instead of as opposing forces.

There are many different anal training kits that you can pick up from your favorite adult retailer. Pick out the one you would like to give a try and do it together as a team. Who said working toward a goal together couldn’t be fun. Experiment and have a good time with it.

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June 15, 2015
10 Ways to Impress in the Bedroom

Here’s an infographic by UK’s newest online sex shop, Carvaka Sex Toys, on the 10 ways to impress in the bedroom. Ladie’s and Gentlemen, it’s time to try out these tips for a sexy time!

Carvaka is an ancient Indian philosophy that believes that humans get one life and so should enjoy it to the absolute fullest. Visit Carvaka Sex Toys at https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/ to view their collection of toys that will bring your sex life to places you have never dreamed of.

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May 4, 2015
Rubbers – Singapore’s Funniest Sex Comedy

Singapore’s funniest sex comedy Rubbers opens in cinemas this 30th April. Directed by Han Yew Kwang, who has filmed shows such as 18 Grams of Love and When Hainan meets Teochew previously, and starring artistes such as Yeo Yann Yann and Alaric Tay. Comprising of 3 short stories centering around the main topic of condoms, Rubbers promises to bring lots of laughs and sex to its audience, including the underlying message of practicing safe sex with condoms. SimplySxy has the pleasure of asking director Han Yew Kwang a few questions on his latest film.

SimplySxy: Hey Yew Kwang, thanks for taking the time to answer our questions and congratulations on the upcoming official release of your latest film Rubbers. Please tell us a little about what viewers can expect when they catch it?

Yew Kwang: They can expect lots of laughs, lust and life (人生) in this film.

SimplySxy: We love the film’s choice of name Rubbers which is apt and direct. What was the inspiration behind the film?

Yew Kwang: We had this spy vs spy story in 2009, whereby a condom brand called RELAX sends a spy to their rival company called DURABLE and vice versa. The 2 spies fell in love eventually and started a new brand called DUREX. As we further developed the story, gathered more stories from friends and did more research about condoms, it evolved into Rubbers.

SimplySxy: Is there any message or messages you wish to bring across to viewers through Rubbers?

Yew Kwang: I don’t have a formal message. I simply want the audience to laugh, have fun and have sex… wearing condoms.

SimplySxy: As Singapore is still largely conservative, did the thought of how the public will react cross your mind during the planning and production of Rubbers?

Yew Kwang: Yes, there is a scene whereby Julian Hee puts on a luminous condom to provide lights for the frightened Yeo Yann Yann during a blackout. At first, we were afraid that some audience might find it offensive or inappropriate. We thought of having him put the condom on his hammer or finger. But in the end, we trusted our instinct and went ahead with the original idea.

SimplySxy: What is your view towards the topic of sex being talked about and discussed openly in Singapore?

Yew Kwang: Sex is an adult’s habit and hobby. If we can discuss about our hobbies and habits in public, we should talk sex.

SimplySxy: How does Rubbers rank among your other films such as Unarmed Combat and When Hainan Meets Teochew?

Yew Kwang: I think Rubbers is my most accessible film.

SimplySxy: Thank you for the interview Yew Kwang and we’ll certainly be catching Rubbers and wish it all the best! One last question, how do you define “sexy”?

Yew Kwang: Sexy is anything that can make you sexually creative and your erotic imagination run wild.

Rubbers will be released in Singapore on 30th April. Be sure to catch it at the cinema near you!

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April 28, 2015
What’s the best way to introduce her to Kinky sex?

From my experience it’s been easiest to just suggest certain things and see the persons reaction. Such as mentioning the new 50 Shades of Gray movie or maybe even going to a strip club. I would base moving forward by their reaction to whatever it is you mentioned. If they display interest in some kinkiness then visit a strip club or maybe even go to a sex toy shop and look around. Point things out while you’re there or maybe even buy them an undergarment. If they display a negative reaction, then either drop the subject for that time or it may be that that person is just not the sexual partner you’re looking for at the moment.

I’ve worked at ten different strip clubs. So obviously I’ve talked a lot about sex and different styles and what not. Before I began dancing professionally, I was very stand-offish about sex and kept it pretty traditional. I’ve done web cams, bachelor parties and live sex shows since then so I’ve used vibrators, dildos, straps, handcuffs, lubricants, restraints, butt plugs, etc. I’ve dabbled in a little playful BDSM as well but nothing too extreme. I love anal sex with the right person and 69 can get a little kinky!!!! I’ve actually never tried a threesome but I’m looking forward to it someday!!!!!!

Some kinky sex ideas a couple can try if they are looking for something exciting are:

69 sex position. Where one partner lies down and the other on top and you both give head. Although it usually works best with the female on top 😉

Light spanking. Just tap the ass a little bit. It kinda just gives a little spark , not too sure how to explain it.

Watching Porn. I personally like softcore when I’m watching it with a significant other. Some girl on girl action or even some playful bondage. I’d save the extreme gangbanging etc for when you both are completely comfortable being a little kinky. 🙂

Cock rings. Its a little ring you slip on the penis that vibrates !!! Trust me it works wonders.

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April 8, 2015
Does Circumcision Cut Penis Sensitivity?

Circumcision — it’s one of the most hotly debated sexual health issues in the medical community. In part that’s because in this country, and other developed countries, there isn’t any clear benefit to circumcise or not to circumcise, says Karen Boyle, M.D., director of male reproductive medicine and surgery at Chesapeake Urology Associates in Baltimore.

Intact men enjoy four times more penile sensitivity than circumcised men, according to the “Fine-touch Pressure Thresholds in the Adult Penis” article published today in the British Journal of Urology International. The study was conducted to map fine-touch pressure thresholds of the adult penis in circumcised and uncircumcised males to compare the two populations.

Researchers measured fine-touch sensitivity of the penis at 17 specific sites on the intact (non-circumcised) penis and the remaining 9 sites plus two scar sites on the circumcised penis. The results surprised the research team, according to Morris Sorrells, MD, lead researcher, who said, “The most sensitive part of the penis is the preputial opening. The results confirmed that the frenulum and ridged band of the inner foreskin are highly erogenous structures that are routinely removed by circumcision, leaving the penis with one-fourth the fine-touch sensitivity it originally possessed.” Five sites on the penis-all regularly removed by circumcision-are more sensitive than the most sensitive site remaining on the circumcised penis. Researcher pediatrician and statistician Robert Van Howe said, “Oddly, the most sensitive site on the circumcised penis is the circumcision scar itself.”

This was in fact reported by a Michigan State University study, that found that the most sensitive part of a circumcised guy’s penis is his circumcision scar. A possible explanation: After circumcision, “the penis has to protect itself—like growing a callus on your foot, but to a lesser extent,” says Darius Paduch, M.D., Ph.D., a urologist and male sexual medicine specialist at New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center. This means nerve endings are further from the surface—and therefore, may be less responsive.

Circumcised men prefer it rough – The study has received international attention. Politicians from California, for example, have been in contact with the researchers because they want to ban circumcision in their federal state.

There appears to be a very simple reason why circumcised men and their partners are having problems with their sex lives. The circumcised man develops a thin layer of hard skin on his penis head, which decreases the sensitivity. This means that in order to reach an orgasm, he needs to work harder at it, and that can lead to a painful experience for their partner.

Previous studies documented that circumcised penises are shorter; now researchers have compared and found them lacking in sensitivity, too. From their findings, researchers of this study conclude that circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis. These findings come several decades after Masters & Johnson said there is no sensitivity difference in a circumcised and a non-circumcised penis. Now their questionable findings have been disproved and the results of this study provide additional evidence about the importance of preserving the protective, sensitive foreskin.

It’s worth mentioning that women with circumcised partners are three times more likely to experience sexual pain than ladies with uncircumcised spouses, the study from Denmark found. “The uncircumcised penis is much glossier, a more velvety feel,” says Paduch. “So for women who aren’t lubricating well, they experience much less discomfort having sex with a guy who is uncircumcised.” He adds that guys who have their foreskin intact require lubricant far less frequently during sex and masturbation, since the skin of their penis in naturally slicker.

This article has been republished with permission from Deepak.

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March 30, 2015
Traditional Japanese Sex
This article is based on extracts from a very interesting and colourful book: Jina Bacarr The Japanese Art of Sex – How to Tease, Seduce & Pleasure the Samurai in your Bedroom, Berkeley CA: Stone Bridge Press, 2004

Modern Japanese porn, both gay and straight, is so widespread (no pun intended), given the reach of the internet. Names like Maria Ozawa and Coat define the genre for many males (and females!). Did you ever wonder how the Japanese did it in the days of yore? Perhaps you have seen shunga or have heard of the grandmaster Katsushika Hokusai. What in the world are shunga or Hokusai? Below are some that I have seen on the web.

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However, traditional Japanese sex was not confined to the Edo-version of Penthouse. According to Bacarr, traditional Japanese sexuality was subtle. She notes that the Japanese geisha embodied many of the characteristics that defined Japanese sexuality. How?
1. Confidence: The geisha exuded confidence in their own sexuality which is the first step in seduction. They were not shrinking violets but were not nymphomaniacs either. They would cast subtle glances, and exchange eye contact. They would even go as far as to turn around carefully, to make a man think she had fallen in love with him. This is oddly similar to ‘cruising’ for gay men.
2. Posture: The geisha was careful about posture. Their clothing, along with mental and physical discipline, was just as important as maintaining their body posture. Translation: Slouching was/is not sexy.
3. Poise: Related to posture, the geisha never rushed or was out of breath. There was a certain elegance to their movement, folding their legs elegantly when they sat down.
4. Iki: Iki is a characteristic that is associated with. It embodies making an impact but at the same time not deliberately trying to be so. Bacarr notes that iki’s aim is to achieve a “simple, striking elegance of inner character” that is mirrored outwards in how you dress and carry yourself. The geisha flirted but with a controlled eroticism. How does this translate into sex? The geisha wore clothes that hinted as to their eroticism, an ‘accidental’ slip of a dress, the flash of a bare leg perhaps. For us modern times, this could be wearing erotic lingerie for your man. The geisha always spent hours dressing, doing her makeup in accordance with her own personal style.
5. Rapport: Geisha knew how to interact with their clients. They allowed them to talk about their interests, playing on an inherent need of many men to talk about their views on a subject. They bantered with the men on the topic of the conversation, fearless in putting forward their point of view. This captured the attention and ultimately the hearts of men, which often led to something further.
6. Sexual positions: Ok, enough about the teasing. Let’s talk about sexual positions. Bacarr introduces a number of suggestions, too many to include here. One called ‘Fish Eye to Eye” is where the lady and man lie facing one another, sucking each other’s lips and tongues. The lady raises one leg above his body while he spreads his legs slightly. With one hand supporting the lady’s upraised leg, the man enters the lady.
7. Playing together: Sex manuals from the Edo era introduced the double dildo, which was designed to work in simultaneous penetration. (For the uninitiated, the double dildo is shaped in the form of two penises joined together, pointing at opposite points). The lady can insert one end of the double dildo while the other end enters the man/ lady vaginally or anally whichever is preferred. Wonderful for threesomes.
Bacarr’s book is certaintly full of imaginative ideas for sex and sexuality (both straight and LGBTI) and is certainly worth a read.

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March 28, 2015
Is sex more enjoyable without condoms?

In the world of penetrative sex, the guiding wisdom follows that safe sex is the best sex. But is sex truly as enjoyable while wearing a prophylactic as when going at it bareback? This contentious issue has resulted in two polarizing camps: those who sing the gospel of suiting up and those who praise the joys of going raw.

Truth is, though, most reading this post will answer the question with a collective “duh.” Little else compares to the elation one experiences from the unadulterated sensation of a moist velvety smooth vaginal, anal, or oral cavity. No amount of extra-thin latex can produce the same sensation of going bareback. Still, there are too many risks involved with unprotected sex to outright promote the practice.

Nonetheless, sex without a condom is more enjoyable. I know it’s not a socially responsible answer to the question, but it is honest. There are circumstances, however, in which sex with a condom can be more enjoyable than while wearing one. For this reason, I contend that the answer to the question is that it all depends.

Many who promote the use of condoms at all times like to declare that sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so, than unprotected sex. They suggest sexy ways to incorporate condoms into foreplay. These condom proponents will often discuss the many product options available that allow for the same, if not better, sensations as experienced with unprotected sex. I agree that condoms can be incorporated into sex partners’ routines in a way that makes the experience quite enjoyable, but usually that’s due to a state of mind versus the physical sensations.

For the bulk of my extramarital relations, condoms were total boner killers. However, I once had a lover who recognized the effect the appearance of a rubber had on me and made it an enjoyable experience. She had oral skills that blew my mind. Within her retinue was the ability to slip a condom on me with her mouth without me ever knowing. We eventually stopped using protection, but the first time she slipped me inside her, I alerted her to the fact that I wasn’t wearing protection. She smiled down at me and challenged my assertion. I reached down past her bottom and felt that I did indeed sport packaged wood, but I never felt it go on. The condom was in place, and I continued to rock an achingly hard erection. The fact that she was able to suit me up so effectively only served to heighten the sensations in that round. During our next round, however, I grabbed a condom and attempted to pop it on. No such luck. I instantly limped. Being aware of the use of the condom killed my boner.

The start of the relationship with my most recent lover highlights what a difference the mental aspect plays in regards to the enjoyability of sex with a condom. We started out very responsibly. We never played without protection. I wanted to slide inside her bareback at some time in the future but was in no rush to do so. It got to the point that I began to become aroused at the sight of a condom. Condoms equated to tremendous extramarital sex with my lover. I knew it was only a matter of time before we ditched the condom, but it came quicker than I expected. I actually felt disappointed when we stopped using them. My erections even lost their full rigidity until I got a nice pace going. I still wonder why I had a stronger erection with her while using a condom than without. I inevitably came around and enjoyed bareback sex just as much without a condom as with one. But, how very perplexing it was to find sex more enjoyable with a condom. It certainly gives some credence to the condom-use advocates’ position.

Another group for whom condoms can make sex more enjoyable are the minute men. Here’s a fellow who gets to the point of penetrating his lover, manages a mere half dozen slow thrusts, and then… Pop! Game over. This man is not afforded with a chance to relish the experience and is often left with a feeling of inadequacy. There is a solution: wear a rubber. From my own experience, the staying power that comes from wearing a condom presents an obstacle to me hitting the finish line. For the longest time, I couldn’t cum if I wore a rubber. In this regard and unlike the minute man, this made sex less enjoyable for me. Luckily, I finally found a sweet spot and managed to find fulfillment while wearing protection.

In addition to often resulting in limpness, I’ve found using condoms also destroys spontaneity. I remember starting out bareback with my first lover after my wife and I opened our marriage. It took about a month before something clicked and she began to require me to wear protection. The thing about this lover and me is that we often engaged each other in random locations, and always on a whim. My cock would be granite, her pussy a lake, and the tip of my penis would be poised right at her entrance. Then everything came screeching to a halt as we scrambled for a rubber. By the time we found one and unpackaged it, the heat had faded. Even once I managed to sheathe my sword, and if it managed to stay fully erect, a good portion of the passion had dissolved and it became merely an action, not a celebratory act.

Overall, I will likely always find sex more enjoyable without a condom. It ultimately comes down to the preferences of individuals.

If done correctly and safely, sex with a condom can result in a higher level of intimacy than protected sex. To do so, though, partners must be honest with one another and communicate any hesitations they may have. Also, I highly recommend getting tested prior to entering into a condom-free sex life with your partner(s), with the understanding that testing doesn’t guarantee that you or your partner(s) are free of STIs. Done responsibly, scrapping the condom and going in bare is one of the most enjoyable feelings we as human beings can experience.

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March 27, 2015
Sex in the Hospital

It was the summer right after graduating high school. I was newly 18, ready for college, and deeply in love with my boyfriend. We had been together for almost two years and in that time had sex in a handful of public places, from parks to museums to busses. But sometimes we tried to push further, merely because we could. However this time the August heat was a contributing factor.

If you don’t live in a big city, then you can’t imagine the kind of traffic a person runs into at three in the afternoon. Add extensive heat and every single human emotion flairs up like a hot air balloon and it has to escape somewhere, somehow. Luckily we were in a city bus that was merely sprinkled with riders. After initially content to escape the heat, the frigid air conditioner quickly chilled the bus as we waited in traffic and I huddled against my Henri for additional warmth.

But I never just cuddle.

My hands wandered inside his pockets, at a time when he only wore boxers and it made it so easy for me to play with him. I buried my nose into the nape of his neck and nibbled slightly, causing him to smile. My heart warmed to see that smile, and for me was always a sign of encouragement. I whispered to him all the things I wish I could do if no one was here; how lucky he was that I couldn’t strip him of his clothes right then and there; and how slick and wet I was thinking of the possibilities…

The bus pulled into the next stop and finally the road ahead of us was clear of cars for the remainder of the ride. We were on the way to see my doctor, but she was the last thing on my mind. The touching never stopped, and we were so anxious to have a moment alone. Entering her office, I was unusually giddy, and my doctor took this as sign of me being completely smitten. Yes, I was completely in love. But I was also sticking to the wetness on my panties and sitting next to him, not being able to touch him as I wished, was an excruciating feeling. I had to keep my legs crossed while he was there, the sound of his voice and the heat he emanated kept the flow of wetness consistent. When he was asked to wait for me in the waiting room until the appointment, he softly kissed my lips and his voice dipped low and rough to say

“I’ll be waiting for you…” in that way that only he and I understood.

I was impatient. I was hormonally desperate to escape this place and go somewhere, anywhere for us to have sex. But where would we go? The sun was still too bright outside to discretely find a spot in the park. And by this time the bus would be over flowing with people. We always found a place…

After I was done, I crossed the hall to find Henri sitting quietly, flipping through an old magazine. We stood in what was supposed to be a children’s waiting room, equipped with its own half kitchen and half bathroom. For months it had remained unused in the middle of a supposed reconstruction. The blinds had been turned down, and in the darkness the toys and books left behind gave the room a creepy abandoned house feel. I wanted to leave, but I wasn’t in a rush to enter the heat again.

“Are we leaving?” He was just as uncomfortable with the appearance of the room.

“Hold on, let me go check my hair in the mirror before we go,” and I headed to the small bathroom. The tiny toddler toilet was emptied of water, and the privacy curtain lay limp to one side of the bathroom, attached by two metal rings. Unused waiting room chairs stacked on top of one another completed what could have been mistaken as a storage closet save for the small clearing that remained in front of the sink and mirror.

“Trust me babe, this place has looked a lot better—” my lip gloss fell and in bending over to pick it up, I saw Henri’s feet approaching.

“Do you like the view?”

I received a hard smack across my bottom as a response and I laughed when he grabbed onto my haunches and bucked himself into me. “Are you getting hard, baby?” I did my little girl impression, pushing into him, slowly gyrating my hips and feeling his bulge grow under his jeans. He unzipped his pants while he locked the door behind us. My shorts were hardly settled at my ankles by the time he shoved his cock into me. He thrust hard, rotating his hips in wide circles; I covered my mouth with my hand to stop myself from screaming as he stretched my pussy with each rotation.

We heard chatter and footsteps approaching the room. We were initially frozen, but he slowly continued, pulling far out and rotating his cock in tiny circles on the nub of my clit, then entering me slowly, reminding me in a muffled whisper not to make a sound.

We heard the two women retrieving items from the refrigerator. Henri was relentless with his tease, and in the mirror I could see a mischievous smile on his face and the warmth of a hand moving across my back side. His thumb rubbed circles on my anus, adding various points of pressure here and there, moans managing to escape the prison of my fingers.

I didn’t know if the women were still there or not, but for a moment the sound of the world disappeared and all I heard were the sound of our heartbeats synchronized with the huffs of our breaths. He went faster and my cunt felt the expansion of his cock and his cum filling me inside.

“Oh my goodness, did you hear that?”

“What the hell was that?! Hello? Is someone here?”

The door handle jingled, but we remained silent. The beads of sweat falling from my temple and my heartbeat sounded the same while I stood bent over the chair.

“Hello?! Jeez Lisa, this room gives me the creeps!”

“I agree, let’s get out of here. I’m keeping my lunch in my office from now on…”

We heard the footsteps fade away and fixed ourselves, withholding our laughter until we were safely outside in the August heat.

“Did you enjoy being ghosts for a while?” I asked Henri as we waited for the bus that took me home.

“As long as I’m inside of you, I will be anything, anywhere.”

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March 17, 2015
Things Every Girl Can Learn from Porn Stars

Hello everyone at SimplySxy.com! My name is Rachael Madori and I’m an adult performer from New York City but will soon be relocating to Los Angeles for my career. I’ve been in this line of work for about seven months which seems short but seven months is a good amount of time to learn the ropes and get a good grip of what this job entails. Personally I’m a low-key kind of girl. I enjoy my time away from shooting porn by working out at my gym, reading whatever book has caught my eye and exploring the ever changing city of New York with my boyfriend. I’m also a serious foodie and avid blogger. I’m really excited to be writing this piece because I always say that my favorite thing about being an adult actress is that I can speak on many subjects surrounding this industry. I want to speak to the women who are not in front of the camera. Hopefully I’ll be able to clear up some rumors, squash some misconceptions and bring to light some things that every girl can learn from a porn star.

I’m going to start off my talking about some of the misconceptions that have been brought to my attention and that I myself had developed from watching porn before I became a part of the industry. First let’s talk about pubic hair. As I was growing up, I always thought it was disgusting and the opposite of sexy to have any pubic hair between my legs. Porn made me think so. However, there is so much porn showing women sporting little patches or full blown bush. As my manager and many directors are saying nowadays: “Bush is in!” Whatever your preference is for your vagina don’t ever let the idea that clean shaven is the only way to look sexy. I have been as smooth as a baby down there ever since I was fourteen years old and in the past few months I’ve been sporting a cute triangle patch and have never felt more hot. It’s honestly a preference and I’m strangely proud of my hair down there. I feel about my bush the way men feel about their beards. So whatever your preference is: own it and feel sexy.

The second misconception I want to bring to light is the truth about foreplay. I feel as if men will watch porn and obviously the sex doesn’t happen an hour into the video, it happens within the first few minutes most of the time. This creates a weird idea that in the real world when a man and woman are ready to have sex he can just finger jam you for a few seconds and then stick his dick inside of you. Foreplay isn’t necessary in porn. It is in real life. Men and women alike need to understand a pussy isn’t always ready and a penis isn’t always up and running. The illusion of zero foreplay in porn exists because while the camera isn’t running that’s where the foreplay is. The male talent is getting his dick up and hard while I’m getting my vagina wet and willing. If I’m not feeling it that day there is a magical thing called lube that you don’t see me use on camera but honey, a porn set without lube is not a porn set. So let’s nip the idea that foreplay isn’t needed in the butt. When I’m having sex in real life, off set, it’s the time before I let him inside me that is really hot. The anticipation. Your job of pleasing him. His job of turning you on. It’s very important.

This next idea that porn makes people drastically underestimate is anal. I don’t know how many times I’ve met men that think having anal sex in real life should be just as easy as it looks in a porno. I’m sorry but I love anal in my personal life and it is no where near what I experience shooting it on set. Some people aren’t even aware that you must use lube when putting anything inside of your ass. In porn, there is so much preparation before an anal scene. We use butt plugs going up in size to make our butt more comfortable with having large things put inside of it. We use enemas to clean out our assholes and make sure there isn’t a mess. This isn’t always the case either. Accidents happen. When you start sticking things in odd places that technically weren’t meant to have things stuck inside them you can’t be surprised when someone shits on you. The difference is when accidents happens in porn you don’t see it in the video. When accidents happen in real life, you can’t yell cut and have your personal assistant clean up the mess. Anal takes time, practice, a lot of lube and a lot of trust. Don’t ever let someone expect you to take a dick in the ass like an anal queen on Brazzers.

This one is for anyone interested in penises. One of the biggest misconceptions porn brings to people outside of the industry is penis size. I’m sorry but eleven inches is not the average dick length. I’ve met women and men alike who see a seven inch penis and consider it below average and small. Not only are there drugs to keep dicks going strong for hours on end but the pool of men in porn are not the “average” guy. Also, the idea that only a giant cock can please a woman is so far off from the truth it upsets me when men become self-conscious because of the types of men I work with on set. Being confident in yourself is the number one way to have great sex. Watching porn and comparing yourself to a small pool of men who happen to have larger than average dicks is only detrimental to your self-esteem and pretty illogical.

The last thing I want to talk about that seems great in a porno but not so great in real life is the sex positions. I’m a little torn on this subject only because I think it is extremely important to not keep doing missionary every time you have sex. Personally I think if you do this it will end up boring one or both of you. However, if you watch porn and think your girl will take your dick in a pile-driver position for half an hour, you’re also wrong. The thing about porn is if I’m put in a difficult position to hold such as reverse cowgirl or wheel-barrow I am only holding that motion for five minutes, tops. So, although it is very important to keep sex fun and engaging please don’t expect your girl or guy to hold an absurd position for too long because you see them doing it in a porno. Remember I get to cut camera, stretch it out and return to the position later. You don’t.

Now it’s time for me to talk about some truthful things that porn can teach you. The first and foremost thing you should learn is the women and/or men in the video are confident in their abilities and you should be too. I don’t have the perfect body, I don’t suck dick the perfect way, I can’t ride a dick perfectly and I’m not always that great at doing a sexy strip tease. The important thing is I am still confident. Porn has taught me to love my body and to love all the things it’s capable of. So what if you can’t deep throat an eleven inch penis? You would be surprised at the lists some performers have of what they can’t do and they don’t beat themselves up over it. The women and men I’ve met in the industry have confidence to them even though they know they aren’t perfect. You have these men and women getting in front of dozens of people in a room and exposing themselves to the most invasive and personal form of criticism. If they can do this, you can be confident enough in yourself and non-judgmental of your partner.

The next thing porn shows that is truthful is variety! No, not all the positions are easy or even doable for an extended period of time but the point is to spice things up. You never see the same position through an entire porno. That would be boring to watch and it’s boring to do. You don’t have to go crazy and have your man screw you doggie style while you hang halfway out of a window but it’s important to keep things interesting. You and your partner could watch a porn and find a new position you’ve never tried that doesn’t look too difficult. Tell him you want to try it out and you won’t be surprised when he gets excited. Being adventurous and willing to try new things in the bedroom is a huge reason I love creating the porn I create. Sometimes I picture a couple watching one of my videos and being inspired by something I do which leads them into the bedroom. Sex is such a raw and natural phenomenon that finding new ways to experience it is beautiful. Maybe you could buy a new kind of toy for him or her. Experiment with different lubes, dick rings, vibrators, blindfolds or handcuffs. You never know what freaky desires you’ll find deep inside yourself and your partner.

Another truth that you don’t see on camera but I feel inclined to talk about is sexual boundaries. Whatever happens in a porn video is consensual and agreed upon by both the man and woman. This is always how it should be in real life. Just as I’m never afraid to stand up and make very clear what I am and am not okay with, you should feel equally as convicted about your boundaries. I would never let a fellow talent, director or producer push me to do anything I wasn’t willing to do or try. You should always know your worth and your limits. It’s extremely important when engaging in anything sexual. Your body is the most personal thing you have and it shouldn’t be taken for granted. I love trying crazy new things but there are always safe words, a mutual understanding of what exactly is too far and there is trust. Make sure this is the case in real life too.

Now let’s talk about dirty talk. If you think dirty talk is just for the porn stars, you’re wrong. We talk every minute of every day. It’s our form of communication. Why wouldn’t we use it to our advantage while we do the most personal thing in the world? A lot of my girl friends that are not in the industry tell me: “I know you dirty talk on video, but you don’t do it at home with your man right? It’s just porn talk.” That’s not the case! Don’t feel weird shouting the things that come to your mind while you’re having sex. I mean as long as it’s not someone else’s name. Personally I think dirty talk drives men crazy but I’m not a man so I can’t vouch. Even if it’s not dirty talk don’t feel weird telling them to keep hitting the same spot, move to the left or smack your ass. I don’t shout a script in my videos, I say what my body wants me to say. Embrace your ability to communicate!

The last thing porn can teach you is HAVE FUN. Unless you’re watching a very hardcore and dominating scene everyone in the video is usually having a steamy good time. Let that slutty side come out in the bedroom. Embrace your inner carnal instincts like the ones you see on camera. Don’t feel weird yelling out, scratching his back and getting lost in each others’ bodies. Porn should be sexual inspiration not a video reminding you what you can’t do. I love the movies I create because I’m giving my fans and anyone who watches it a fantasy. Sex is nothing to be embarrassed of, nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to feel weird about. Whether you’re prude by nature or a down right slut: own who you are. The porn stars you see have completely accepted their natural feminine sexuality and embodied it. You are no different in this aspect! What a girl can learn from porn stars is that wether we’re on camera or behind closed doors our sexuality is undeniable, it deserves to be explored and it is nothing to be ashamed of and you are just the same.

I really hope I’ve cleared up some things about porn and porn stars. It’s really important to me to break down the negative stigmas surrounding the sex industry and bring to light that porn stars are normal women too. We’re not here to make others feel inadequate, we’re here to inspire sexuality. Let’s not forget that pornography is filmed and edited, real life isn’t! Be proud of your body, your abilities and don’t judge your sexual partner too harshly. We’re all here on this Earth, enjoying each others bodies and our own.

More of Rachael’s works:
“Barbarella XXX: an Axel Braun Parody” for Wicked Pictures: Coming soon!
“Down The Throat 3” for New Sensations: Coming out 2/26!
“Back Up Plan” for Porn Fidelity: Out now!
“Let’s Try Anal” for Mofos: Out now!

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March 12, 2015
The chastity belt … for him !

He has been a naughty man and needs to be put into chastity, because he is not pleasing me …

Can you imagine that this handsome man would want you to put him in a male chastity device and control his orgasm?

This may sound barbaric or even unrealistic that any man would want this, but to some couples it can be a way to add excitement to their sex life. Male chastity is one topic that is not often talked about or exposed. The reason why is that there is such a psychological component to it that is difficult to understand. Sexuality is not just about a physical release but to some people who like to have their minds stimulated along with their body they crave more advanced sexual play.

Placing a man in chastity can give the woman control over his orgasm, but not only that it can be a way for the man to be dominated. He knows that he cannot touch himself even if he wanted to, and now he is left with pure sexual energy that he has to channel into his work day.

Denial of orgasm for a period of time is more psychological than physical. Men have expressed to me as a clinical sexologist that just knowing the device is on them gives them the ability to concentrate better at work and become more successful at what they do.

Some men that have experienced erectile dysfunction in the past or a fear of not being able to please their partner sexuality, find that by wearing the device is their punishment. The reality is that the punishment is also their excitement. Men have practiced denial of orgasms for centuries, but understanding the reasons why they do it is not always understood, even from the person who may be practicing it.

The human body and how people release their sexual energy is not entirely about the end result of the release but the tease of getting to the orgasm. Male chastity is just that, a tease for many men, and for some a way to escape the pressure of performance in the bedroom.

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This article has been republished with permission from Dr. Dawn Michael.

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