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How to convince her to make a homemade porn video?

My name is Lusty Louisa and I’m a 60 year old amateur porn star. I have been married to my husband, James, for 17 years and he is also my best friend and number one fan. I have been doing porn for the past four years and James does the filming and editing of all my material. I have met some great people in the business including my dear friend, Rita Daniels. I love performing in front of the camera and doing some naughty stuff for you all to see.

My first adventure into threesomes

My adventure into threesomes first started with the filming of content for my Clips4Sale stores.

I recruited guys to film with and at one point, had two or three guys filming with me at once (and of course, hubby James always wanted to get in on the action which made for even more hot and horny fun). For a lusty woman like me, it is an indescribable feeling to have multiple cocks around you. I’m like a kid in an adult toy store; I can’t wait to have a cock in each hand, deep throat each one and have them one at a time, or all together, blow their hot loads onto my breasts and into my mouth.

Also, having a guy suck on my nipples while another is fucking my hot pussy is also an advantage to having a threesome. There are so many different combinations of doing things together. I would definitely recommend a threesome to anyone who would like to take their sexual experiences to a new level of horniness.

How do you convince her to make a homemade video together?

First of all, let me say that I absolutely recommend that couples, married or not, take pictures and/or video of their hot and sexy times together. It not only makes for horny viewing later on but also puts a certain spark into a relationship.

As for a guy trying to get his girl to do a video for the first time, I would find out what makes her feel sexy and what sexual fantasies she may have. Does she secretly want to be a Dom over you? Does she need a new short dress, a sexy teddy, a pair of tall boots, and some leather or vinyl attire? Do whatever it takes. Then make sure that she has a few of those items and ask if you could have a personal viewing of her feeling at her sexiest. A glass of wine might help to loosen things up (I know that I love having some wine when I’m getting ready to let loose) if it’s feeling a little stressful. Remember guys, you want this to happen so make sure that you do and say all the right things.

Okay, so she’s agreed to give you a little fashion show of what really makes her feel sexy. Tell her how lucky you are feeling and how you wish that you could document how great and sexy she is looking. You may end up being nicely surprised by her answer. The more she feels good about how she looks (with your words and possible purchases of sexy items she enjoys) the more she’ll want to savor the moments of your horny sexual adventures together and the easier it will be to document it.

In the end, she will enjoy it because she’s never felt so sexy and desired by you before. This I know firsthand to be a fact.

Tips to make a great homemade video

In my opinion, to make a great video, it all depends on the mindset that you are in. If I’m feeling sexy and with a partner that I’m sexually attracted to and is just as horny as I am, there’s no doubt that whatever we end up doing, it will make for great homemade porn. When I’m feeling on top of my game, I’ve made some of my best porn. You can definitely feel and see the difference when you’re loose versus when you’re somewhat uptight. Take the time to do whatever it is that will make you feel your best. Have a drink, fix your makeup or hair, and pick out that special something to wear.

You’ll know when you’re ready to make some great homemade porn and it will show in the finished product.

Wish to visit Louisa and watch her clips?
Lusty Louisa’s Variety Store http://clips4sale.com/42438
Fuck & Suck with Lusty Louisa http://clips4sale.com/45716
L-Ls Pee-Pee Store http://clips4sale.com/89725
You can write her on Twitter (https://twitter.com/lustylouisa) or at her Gmail address LustyLouisa@gmail.com

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April 3, 2015
Interview with Roc Solid on Interracial Sex, MILFS and BBWs

Roc Solid is an up and coming male pornstar from Philadelphia, PA who loves interracial sex, MILFS, and BBWs. SimplySxy takes this unique opportunity to find out more about his interests!

SimplySxy: What do you think is behind the phenomenon of interracial sex involving a BBC that makes it so fascinating?

Roc Solid: Well for me I truly believe that colour contrast is largely behind this phenomenon between a black male and a white, Asian, or Latina female. Not only is it a wonderful sight to see but the fact that black males have bigger dicks is what I think really turns a lot of women on. I have gotten plenty of compliments on that and also that our stamina is better than other males. Women love the fact that we can go for long hours at a time. For me, I love to add that dynamic in my films because people enjoy seeing a women getting pounded relentlessly. I also think that porn has had a lot to do with turning peoples attention to interracial sex, some good and some bad. I would say the common misconception is that everyone thinks that all black men are very well hung and that is NOT true. You see in porn films black men that are 10” and more, and plenty of women will tell you that taking a dick that size does not feel good all the time. I truly think that it’s how we fuck that women love so much.

SimplySxy: What is it about the Swingers lifestyle that turns you on? Can you give our readers who are keen to host a swingers party, tips to have one that does not disturb the neighbours or rooms next door?

Roc: The swingers lifestyle has been very good to me these past couple of years. I have been able to meet plenty of ladies who would be considered your “next door neighbour” but when they get behind closed doors turn into freaks. I also think that the “Hotwife” dynamic has played a huge part in how I am able to meet so many wives. Lets face it. Husbands love seeing their wife fucking a black man and are very happy with them doing it. Nothing turns me on better than seeing a husband sitting and watching me fuck his wife and her cumming so many times because of it.

Well the huge tip that I would give is that if you’re going to host at your place, to do it at night and in a place where your neighbors won’t hear it. Also if the woman is a screamer, then playing music in the background is a great option.

SimplySxy: Can you share a kinky and memorable sexual experience and how it came about?

Roc: Well for me, it would be finally meeting Creampie Cathy last year when she came to visit Philly. We had been talking for quite some time and she does these road trips a few times a year. Now going into this, I had no idea what to expect since seeing her movies she goes all out. When I finally did arrive to shoot our scene, I realized that she is even more beautiful in person, and man can she FUCK. I am able to say that I ROC’d her for sure and giving her a signature creampie that she loved. If any of you ever get the opportunity to meet her during her travels, please do so because you WILL NOT regret doing so.

For more information on Roc, check out his blog at http://rocsolidxxx.blogspot.com/. He can be reached anytime at bbcrocsolid@yahoo.com and follow him on Twitter at https://twitter.com/RocSolidXXX

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February 5, 2015
How Does Porn Influence Reality?

Sex and technology are two things that are paired together almost as often and peanut butter and jelly. In fact, the relationship between sex and technology dates back to the late 1800’s when the vibrator was invented, and perhaps earlier. However, in recent years, this pairing has become increasingly common all thanks to our dear friend, the World Wide Web. One aspect of online sexual activity is pornography and since the invention of the internet, pornography has become extremely accessible.

Nearly everyone in developed countries now has access to the internet and as a result, pornography is now only a few clicks away. In fact, more than 25 billion X-rated websites exist today with free access to 24-7-365 sexually explicit material available on every platform from desktop computers to smart phones. As a result, majority of people are able to watch any type/genre of porn, in a matter of seconds, for free, in any setting desired.

Based on the ease of watching online pornography, it should come as no surprise that people are watching more porn than ever. In fact, a Canadian study conducted in 2009 sought to compare the views of men in their 20s who (a) had never been exposed to pornography with (b) regular users. However, their project struggled to take off when they failed to find a single young man who had not viewed some type of pornography! Moreover, principal investigator Dr. Lajeunesse concluded that “Guys who do not watch pornography don’t exist!” Keep in mind, however, that men report watching more erotic films and consume more sexuality explicit material than women do, so we would not expect the same trends to exist for women.

So, how does watching all of this porn influence our sex lives? And are the effects of pornography shaping our sex lives in positive or negative ways?

Well, seeing as though most of you reading this electronic blog post have probably viewed porn at one point or another, you most likely are aware that it doesn’t exactly feature the kind of sex most people have in reality. Put differently, pornography can be EXTREMELY unrealistic. For example, actors and actresses in porn often portray an impossible standard where many of the women have large breasts and next to no body hair, whereas the men often have larger than normal penises. This may produce negative consequences where men and women may not be satisfied with their bodies as a result.

Porn may also give us unrealistic ideas about the ways in which we should behave during sexual activity. It portrays impractical sexual positions, questionable expressions of pleasure, and behaviors that are undesirable to some. For example, actors and actresses in pornographic videos are often arranged in positions designed for good camera angles (meaning that the only body parts that touch are the genitals). This is not necessarily desirable in reality, in fact one of the great things about sex in direct skin to skin contact. Moreover, actors and actresses in porn often moan as loud as possible and engage in large amounts of dirty talk. They do this because it is entertaining not because they are incredibly aroused. Lastly, people portrayed in pornographic films often engage in external ejaculation, regularly cumming on a partner’s face and/or mouth. Although, this may be pleasurable to some, it is not to all. All of these behaviors portrayed in pornography may negatively influence one’s sex life, resulting in uncomfortable sexual positions, unrealistic verbal expectations, and unpleasurable experiences.

Now, I realize that this has painted a pretty glum picture of porn’s influence on reality. However, there are many positive aspects associated with viewing pornography. In particular, it has been suggested that porn can be used as a means for suggesting new sexual activities to a partner and may result in people feeling more comfortable with their sexuality. In addition, pornography can be great tool for people when trying to fill in the gaps in their sexual knowledge. For example, it has been suggested that people learn about varying sexual techniques and sexual positions from watching porn.

No matter how you look at it, porn is having a profound impact on our culture and our sexual expression, and like anything, you have to accept the good with the bad. However, remember that pornography does not have all of the answers and if you really want to please your partner, make sure to ask him/her what is desirable/pleasurable. Lastly, remember to be respectful, because everyone is different and sexual preferences vary widely from one person to the next.

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December 7, 2014
Four Points to Consider Before Joining the Sex Work Industry

As an amateur porn model who has been very active on social media over the past 3 years, I cannot tell you how many young women (and some men) have come to me, asking me how they can become as successful as me. Of course, I just kind of laugh at their idea of successful, but hey, I’ll take flattery where I can get it. This is actually not uncommon in our little independent circuit. Girls see the job and glamourize it to hell and back. I’m here to straighten some things out and educate on some of the things that you should know before hopping into this career. Consider me your weird, rainbow haired, porn model auntie! I’m here to help!

1. Reconsider

I know what you’re thinking. “But Ryden! I’m so sure of this!” No. No, you’re not. If you were, you wouldn’t be asking me. You have every reason to be unsure. It can be a scary leap, and it could very well change your life. Newbies have this ideal thought that they’re either going to be able to keep it under wraps from everyone or the people they tell are going to be loving and accepting. Unfortunately, that’s not really the case. You never know who might find you through your work and recognize you, and you never know how they’ll react. Not everyone is accepting of porn, and some people genuinely want to do harm to us. I’m a really lucky lady. I have parents, friends, and a fiancé who accept what I do for a living and love me regardless. That being said, I have received some negative reactions. I’ve had people get in my face, hit me, push me, spit on me. You name it. I’ve been under the big blame umbrella for every single one of these just because I have chosen a job that most people wouldn’t do. A lot of the popular models you see every day are estranged from their families and friends. Not everyone can be our biggest fans, and some people would rather hate us than support us. This is one of the burdens that we carry.

I also have a lot of women who come to me and ask me if they should become a SW (sex worker) if they also want to be a doctor or a lawyer or a teacher. I always say no, unless you’re willing to risk that dream never coming true. As much as I hate to say it (and trust me, I REALLY HATE TO SAY IT) we don’t live in a 100% sex positive world. If you’re outed and SW shows up on a google search, they might not even consider you. Sometimes, identities get leaked. It doesn’t happen often, but it happens. If you’re not willing to risk your dream just for a few months/years of fun and liberating sex work, this isn’t the job for you.

2. It ain’t easy

With all of these incredible, awesome, absolutely lovely SWs gaining huge popularity in social media (specifically tumblr and twitter), it’s easy to see why some of you automatically assume that SW is an easy job. We’re put in the spotlight and it’s really obvious that we’ve got a lot of people who seem to worship us. The truth of the matter is; each and every one of us have clawed our way to the top. It’s hard to get the attention needed to show people “Hey boys! Look at me! I’m a stinkin cutie with a pink pixie cut!” It took me 3 years to get my footing. I still work my butt off every day, kind of literally. If you’re jumping into this work force because you’re money hungry and you think it’ll be easy, I want you to do something for me. Shut your computer (or lock your phone). Just stop. This ain’t for you. No work is easy, and SW rewards people who are hardworking, business savvy, and unique. Basically, what I’m trying to say is that sex work ain’t easy and sex workers ain’t lazy, but some of your girls who are leeching off the popular girls are starting to seem like you are.

3. Be yourself

By that, I mean, be the person YOU want to be. Whether it’s a reflection of your true self, or a persona that you want to be. You’ve just gotta be unique. This is something you should strive to do regardless, but I cannot tell you how valuable it is in the industry. Imagine that you’re in a huge crowd of women that are generally blurred together. A lot of them look the same, and it’s really hard to pick the unique ones out of the crowd with so many of the same girls running around. You’re trying to fight your way to the front lines to show everyone on the outside that you’re not blurred with the rest of them. Some ladies come into this with nothing to separate them from every other babe sitting in front of a live webcam, diddling themselves and hoping that someone will tip big. Those are the ladies that don’t see much money because they’ve done nothing to distinguish themselves from everyone else. Me? I kind of got popular on accident for being the “manic pixie dream girl” slash “nerdy babe” girl.

DO NOT rip off someone else’s look in order to achieve your “unique ideal.” It sucks and it makes you look like a jerk. Being unique is noooooot stealing someone else’s unique styling and making it your own. Taking inspiration is fine (and this works with just about anything you do) but straight ripping off a look/idea/whatever isn’t cool and will NOT get you ANYWHERE in the industry. I cannot tell you how many wannabes I’ve seen cut all their hair off, get a triforce tattoo, and start selling the exaaaaact same content as me. Just don’t do it.

4. Do it for the right reasons

I’ve watched this industry chew people up, and spit them out. Drained, tired, and sexually changed forever; these people just weren’t right for it. Sex work isn’t for everyone. This is a harsh reality that many SWs will not face. You’ve gotta have a love for sex. Like, a deep love for sex. You’ve also gotta understand that there’s nothing wrong with being sexually open, out there, and possibly on display. It’s a really empowering feeling, but only if you allow it to be. You have to look at the pictures and the videos and say “Hell yeah, look how sexy I am!” You’ve gotta stick to that positivity. Don’t ever let it chew you up. Hell, don’t even let it put you in its mouth. Love sex. Love everything you do, even if it isn’t ideal for you sexually. Find the fun in your work, or else you’ll end up in tears. Hating the job, hating yourself; don’t let it get to you.

In closing, I want to say that most of the stuff I’ve stated above probably sounds WAY more frightening than I intended it to, but being truthful and upfront about these facts are the only way to get the point across that sex work is serious business (or, at least, most of the time. I can recall a few times during my cam girl days where I became the almighty dildo unicorn.) Myself, and pretty much any other SW I’ve ever met, love nothing more than seeing other babes being sex-positive and unique in this industry. No one likes to see ladies fail, but that’s just where some of them end up.

Most of all; be smart, be unique, be kind, and love yourself. That’s the best you can do.

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September 8, 2014
How Doing Porn Cured My Shyness

Remember back at school there was always that one kid who had really messy hair, spent all her time in the library and was always a bit of a social outcast? Hello! That was me! I had my fringe covering up most of my face, braces, super thick glasses and my best friend was a cake. When I look back at my school photos, I can certainly say that I was an ugly duckling. I found it insanely hard to talk to people and I’d always void any awkward social interactions.

My family moved from the south of the UK to the north and that’s when things started to change. I decided I didn’t want to be part of the background anymore. I joined a volleyball club and during weekends, my family would go swimming together. I also started to watch what I ate with a bit more vigilance. It was tough but after shedding most of my puppy fat, getting my braces removed and having a haircut, I finally felt confident to say hello to the girl sitting next to me in my maths class.

How I looked before and after:

I made some really good friends by my final years in high school and felt confident enough to begin wearing skirts and dress in a more feminine way. However, I still wasn’t sure if I was doing it right. My mum would keep telling me how pretty I was getting but who believes it when their mum tells them that? This was also around the time I discovered Reddit; mostly to talk to people about comics and video games. Reddit is a sort of sharing platform/forum/everything-internet-sort of website, and it’s huge in the geek community.

My best friend was a big redditor and convinced me to post a picture up on “Asians next door”, a sub-reddit dedicated to homely Asian girls (as opposed to the super model kind.) I was really nervous taking that first photo, however the response I received was so positive and unexpected. People really liked my photo. I was getting compliments from random internet strangers, saying that they liked my face! I’d never gotten that kind of attention before and I felt on top of the world. For the next couple of months, I posted more pictures and it became really fun to check out people’s reactions.

My favourite part was replying to comments, saying thank yous and getting to know everyone. Some people would comment on all my posts and I felt like I’d made some really cool friends. It was also weird because we’d have conversations that spanned a couple of days due to the forum style’s comments. At some point, a fan suggested that I try webcam modeling. I’d never even heard of it before, terms such as camgirl were totally alien to me and I was a little bit apprehensive about what I would be doing. It seemed like a big jump to go from posting photos of myself to doing camshows, which seemed to revolve entirely around sex.

Camming didn’t turn out to be like that though, at least, not for me. I decided to just be myself and see what happens. It was just a step up, so now I could talk to people in real time. I was so nervous the first time and I had no idea what I should be doing or saying. I was thinking how should I be sexy? How should I pose? But I didn’t have to. I was just being my dorky and clumsy self.

People seemed to really like me. I did a dance, which I called a panty dance since I was in my underwear. It wasn’t sexy, no poles were involved, but I did manage to do the running man! Everyone was laughing, but they weren’t laughing at me, they were laughing with me. Honestly. I still can’t believe it sometimes. I come online, I talk about my day and see what everyone else has been up to. We talk about movies and books and games. I do get naked and do naughtier stuff, but that feels like a natural progression. Like a date. You get to know fans on cam so intimately.

I’m having fun and it’s such a thrill to flash my boobs or wiggle my bum. I’d never thought people would even want to see that! I still get nervous every night before my shows, but I know I have friends waiting for me. I’d noticed some girls who have also sold adult videos to their fans. I thought, why not me? It’s not so different from posting photos. But I wanted to do something more personal than regular porn. I felt like it had to be more personal because sex is really personal. I decided to start filming my sex life and making videos that excite me. It’s very different to the organized professional porn videos most people are familiar with. I only ever filmed with my real friends that I really care about, and trust (who also trust me with a video camera).

Eventually, I even put all this on my own website. It’s very simple because I’m terrible with technology yet it works and it’s fun being creative and trying to do everything myself. I write a blog and share my life in words, pictures and video with my growing set of fans. The whole thing feels empowering. I am my own boss and it seems like I get paid for just living my life the way I would anyway.

I’m only a teenager and so I am still exploring and learning about my sexuality. I’m still pretty new to dating and my website and career have really helped me explore this side of myself. I find it therapeutic. My fans and I are always sharing tips on how to improve one’s love life. Some people have told me they don’t know how to categorize my work. Is it professional porn, is it amateur, am I just an out of control camgirl? The truth is, it’s just me. A girl who was super shy at school who managed to find herself and become a fulfilled, more confident person thanks to the internet, camming and making her own porn.

This is my first article for SimplySxy. If readers like it and are interested in my perspectives on love, sexuality, porn and femininity, I will be look forwarding to getting to know readers better and explore some juicy topics over the next few months. Please feel free to ask me questions in the comments section. What I love most about the internet is the two-way nature of media.

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September 6, 2014
Are YOU Getting It?

Spilling the Beans from Inside the Sex Industry

I am going to say something controversial. Brace yourself. Before you brace yourself, allow me to introduce myself—I’m Matt Chase, my work name is Matt-at-Lotus. I am a sex worker (although I prefer to be called a ‘sexpert’, go on, please …) who gets paid to have sex with mainly men but this sometimes depends on, you know, wind direction and the like (wink wink). I’m also a writer and trained in therapeutic interventions including counselling and psychotherapy. Now, are you bracing?

Sex workers get paid to make love to their clients.

I told you I was going to say something controversial.

You see, I believe that you can make love on a one night stand. I also believe that you can pay for a lovemaking session and yes, I believe passionately that you can be paid to make love to someone. The thing about me is that I genuinely enjoy my job. As with all professions, some workers will just go through the motions for money and others will be doing the job of their dreams. I am doing the job of my dreams. Why? I am a man who gets paid to do what he loves to do—make love, teach guys how to have body orgasms (yes guys it is possible, call me), have sex (it’s slightly different from making love), massage sexually, share a laugh, have some fun, give some compassion and be a shoulder to lean on—everything I was born to do.

I have always been very highly sexed. I was born with an innate gift of empathy and I have always had a knack of knowing just what another wants and needs between the sheets (or on the floor, up against the wall … you get the idea). Sex workers, it seems to me, get a bum deal (pun intended) when it comes to exactly what the world at large thinks we get up to.

Actually, they have no idea.

Once upon a Christmas, I was at an ‘office party’—a gathering of sex workers at the annual party thrown by the guy who runs a well-known Escort Listings site—and the conversation of course, moved onto our work. “I always find the real session starts after the sex, that’s when I become the client’s therapist” … “I love the elderly clients who have only just found the courage to accept themselves as gay” … “My disabled client last week told me an escort had turned him away! That’s so unprofessional” … “I love being an escort, there’s no job like it” … and the comments continued rolling from my colleagues’ tongues as I proceeded to make mental notes, you know, being a writer and all.

The thing is, I have a confession to make. The Christmas party as mentioned was going to be my ‘goodbye and farewell’ to the industry as I prepared to concentrate on my ‘other’ lives of writing and doing odd jobs but then something happened. I fell in love all over again.

I fell in love with my colleagues; the most professional, respectful and genuine people you are ever likely to meet. I fell in love with my job; a job that has never bored me, has always been safer than my other jobs (I was attacked with a knife when I was a nurse, bullied by my boss as a therapist, I could go on …) and yes I have to admit, pays very nicely thank you. I fell in love with my rebellious nature for you have to have balls to do this job and stand tall in a world where all sex workers are tarred with the same stigmatised brush. I remember once when the trainer in the gym asked me what I did for a living. “I’m a sex worker”, I replied. The poor man almost fell off the treadmill.

What is it about sex that makes us so shy? Is it the sex? Or is it the intimacy? I say it again. Sex workers get paid to make love to their clients. Is it the make love bit that makes us so uncomfortable?

I can feel a cause coming on. I can sense a heat burning from within and no, it isn’t a bladder infection. It’s rage—passionate, soulful, society-changing rage. Why?

Because ‘they’ are trying to change the law.

The ‘powers’ from within the corridors of representation (yes people, we elect them to represent us) are attempting to manipulate the system in order to criminalise men and women who pay for sex.

So I say it again. Sex workers make love to their clients.

Oh there’s nothing wrong with sex, don’t get me wrong and yes I do see very clearly that I do work a little differently than most sex workers, but I am deliberately pushing a point here. You cannot legislate against human emotion. You cannot do it. You also cannot legislate in order to control other people according to your own inhibitions. Society as a whole should not be given the power to stigmatise an entire profession on the basis of how they appear to be. Hence, the reason as to why I have written this article that shows you how it really is for me and my colleagues.

Yes, there are many different aspects of prostitution and yes, there are serious issues such as exploitation, trafficking, drug use, among others that need addressing but there are already laws put in place to protect people from this (if it isn’t their choice) and there exist laws intended to protect children and vulnerable adults but they are not working. Introducing new laws—which equally will not work—has been challenged by academics, liberty groups and sex workers but their arguments are falling on deaf ears. A knee-jerk reaction by out-of-date governments is not the answer. It never was.

If you do what you always did, you get what you always got. Find another way. If you would like some help in finding another way, why not ask a professional sex worker for some advice? Because we probably know more than you do. No offence intended, but let’s get to the root of the problem here: ignorance.

I do the job I do because I am good at it. I am not female. I am not trafficked. I wasn’t abused as a child and I don’t use drugs. Well, apart from too much coffee but you gotta give me something …

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June 12, 2014
Erika Lust, award winning porn director, speaks on SimplySxy

Erika Lust, born in Stockholm in 1977, is an independent filmmaker, author, and founder of Erika Lust Films. After graduating from Lust University with a degree in Political Science with a focus on Feminism, Lust moved to Barcelona where her production company was established in 2005. She has directed 5 award winning erotic films and series – Five Hot Stories for Her, Barcelona Sex Project, Life Love Lust, Cabaret Desire and Xconfessions. Her brand-new, ongoing series Xconfessions combines Lust’s groundbreaking cinematic style with the public’s own sex stories to create a new genre of crowdsourced adult film. Her written works include Good Porn: a Woman’s Guide, The Erotic Bible to Europe, Love Me Like You Hate Me, La Canción de Nora, and Let’s Make a Porno: a Practical Guide to Filming Sex. Lust is committed to portraying a new kind of sexuality in adult film, pledging in her own words to “create new waves in adult cinema, to show all of the passion, intimacy, love and lust in sex: where the feminine viewpoint is vital, the aesthetic is a pleasure to all of the senses, and those seeking an alternative to porn can find a home.”

SimplySxy: What was the inspiration behind your move into the erotic film industry as a director?

Erika Lust: While in university at Lund, I was inspired by the works of Linda Williams and the idea that porn could be empowering to women’s sexuality. But the porn I’d seen up to that point didn’t really fit the theory, so though I still believed in its value, the contradiction really bothered me. After graduating and moving to Barcelona, I started working in production houses, and got the practical knowledge of how to make a film. So I began taking directing classes and considered making the kind of erotic film I’d never seen before, but always wanted. When my first film, The Good Girl, was downloaded over a million times, I began to consider a career in the adult industry more seriously.

SimplySxy: Do your films have a particular style that is different from others?

Erika: Absolutely. This first thing that sets my films about is the dedication to showing female pleasure…. Something glaringly absent in most pornos. And those horrible fake orgasms? What a turn off!

I also like to hire performers who are good looking, but could also be your neighbor or best friend or the cute waiter at your favorite restaurant. They are love sex, and love their job. Trust me when I say this makes all the difference and can really be seen in the end product.

Directing and capturing the little moments during sex can make all the difference in simply filming two people having sex, and making the film a total turn on. The way people gasp, look at each other, how hands grip flesh, whispering into ears, dirty talk, lip biting, messy kisses … they are all part of the sex we have in real life that is often left out of explicit film, and yet are so important as part of an erotic experience.

Finally I place HUGE importance on aesthetics in my movies – just because it’s a movie about sex is no excuse for crappy quality. I use the highest quality HD and Red cameras, devote months to hunting down cool modern locations (not just bedrooms!), use cool indie music soundtracks, opt for natural looking makeup and normal-looking outfits for my performers (no pimps or hos here), and go for the coolest new sex toys and designer lingerie.

SimplySxy: What is the secret behind how long the male stars can last while having sex without ejaculating?

Erika: There is no secret – performers in the adult industry, both men and women, have extraordinary control over their bodies. I think this is something people really forget when considering the male talent – there’s this idea that any guy could show up, have sex with a beautiful woman, and put on a great show. But people who think this often forget that the performer basically needs to get and maintain an erection on cue, as well as ejaculate… With a crew of a dozen or more strangers in the room. Possibly with a co-star that he doesn’t find attractive, or after a very long journey the day before. All the while with a lot of pressure around his performance. Prolific male performers are extremely talented to be able to work (well) under these conditions, and that is a reason that there are so few of them as opposed to their female counterparts.

SimplySxy: And what happens if the male stars are required to ejaculate but are unable to?

Erika: It is up to the performer to get an erection, maintain it, and ejaculate, which as I say above is quite a talent. But some days that just isn’t going to happen. Usually we take a break to give the performer time he needs to get excited (or calm down) and then continue shooting. If there is still trouble, that’s where creative angles, short takes, editing – and faking it – come in handy!

SimplySxy: Are the actors and actresses really enjoying the sex on film or are most of it acting?

Erika: I don’t know, it’s difficult to say. I like to hire performers who love their job, who love sex and exhibitionism. Some of the best scenes I’ve shot have been where the actors said they really enjoyed the sex they had that day, or with that specific performer. Other times, a truly great performer might not be that into their partner or the sex, but put on a convincing, and ultimately very hot show. When you are dealing with very talented actors, who are taking direction really well, the finished product should look the same either way.

SimplySxy: As a director, you have definitely seen your fair share of bloopers. Please tell us some of the extremely funny ones you remember?

Erika: Honestly, most of the fun we have is just goofing around on set … the actors are usually wild extroverts who love to have a good time. But there were a few times that – because of the set location – we had to use an inflatable mattress. As anyone knows who has slept on one, they are not particularly stable (especially not when they’re being … jumped … on), and there have been a few times when the performers bounced right off!

SimplySxy: To be an porn actor/actress, does one really need to be good at acting or acting talent isn’t really a pre-requisite as compared to say looks or the size of a men’s penis.

Erika: First, they have to match the part I’m hiring them for. Then, we go through several interviews to make sure their attitude aligns with mine. Really, that is the most important thing – I want to know that they love sex, the making adult films is not just a way to make quick cash, and that they are familiar with my work and get what makes my films different. This way, when everyone arrives on set, we know exactly what we’ll need from each other in terms of directing and performance. Next to this, looks (or appendage size) mean very little.

SimplySxy: One of our writers, Nicole Nelson, wrote an article on Feminist Porn on this Pornography feature. As a pioneer of feminist pornography, do you think perceptions of how women in pornography or portrayed or supposed to be portrayed is changing?

Erika: I think that movements in the adult film world like feminist porn and amateur content are the main reason the industry has changed at all concerning women and their portrayal in xxx. Up until very recently, big mainstream production houses were creating the same terrible chauvinist films – recycling the same tired stereotypes and gender roles over and over – and it still hasn’t really changed in that regard. However, the internet had a huge democratizing effect, meaning suddenly indie producers like me and my contemporary feminist filmmakers were able to make and produce our own films without having to deal with any third parties (who had long made it clear to us that men were the only market and that there was no room for a new kind of adult film). Though our independent genres are still pretty small, and there is a VERY long way to go before sex is generally shown in an egalitarian way, it is thanks to the earliest feminist pornographers (and those expanding and evolving the genre today) that there is any diversity at all!

SimplySxy: As a parent yourself, and being in the porn industry, how do you think the topic of sex can be approach with kids and at what age?

Erika: Well my daughters are still very young, but I plan on having the ‘sex talk’ pretty early on. I think I was around 7 or 8 when I learned about it (thanks to a liberal educated and a very open family) and it felt like a good age. It made puberty less confusing that’s for sure! I think the mix of learning about it in an academic, biological way in school and in a personal, emotional way with my family made all the difference…so that is the approach I plan to take.

I also feel that there now needs to be a ‘porn talk’ between parents and kids in this day and age. I want to be able to explain to my girls what porn is, why it exists, why people like it, and why it most DEFINITELY is not sex in real life. That kind of context is so important because I think most kids now grow up with porn as their sex education … which is a really bad idea since it’s all fantasy.

SimplySxy: Please share with us our SimplySxy readers what XConfessions is all about and is there a chance their story can be chosen to be turned into a film?

Erica: Xconfessions is my latest project. On the webpage (www.xconfessions.com) you can anonymously submit your sex stories or wildest fantasies, and each month I pick my two favorites to be turned into erotic short films. It’s a new genre I like to call ‘crowdsourced’ erotica! Of course if your confession is picked, you get the films for free. So far, we have made 24 short films, with more released every month!

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May 18, 2014
Queen of Lesbian Foot Worship: Kayla-Jane Danger

ABOUT KAYLA-JANE DANGER

Some people might think it’s dangerous to go from a go-go dancer, burlesque performer and fashion design and illustration student to being the Queen of Lesbian Foot Worship and soft core sensual scenes, but in eight years, Kayla-Jane Danger has done it…and without fear, making fantasy into her real world. In her previous incarnation, Danger garnered the title Music Video Honey and appeared in over 50 videos for world famous bands. Along with appearing on her own site MyDollParts.com that she runs, operates and makes exclusive content for, the girl next door with the ALT look has worked with Burning Angel and Sex Art, and been photographed by legendary photographers Holly Randall and Ken Marcus for the multiple times she has graced the pages of Hustler’s Taboo.

Her site, http://mydollparts.com/, received nominations in 2013 from The Sex Awards, XBIZ and AVN, and features Danger’s perfect legs ass and feet working with some of the hottest girls dreams are made of—her myriad of high quality fetish and erotic sites that make up her KJD Media network are some of the most popular and original sites in the fetish world. In 2014, Kayla’s dynamic sites helped her win AEVC’s award for Best Webstar of the Year, and she made her directorial debut with Filly Films and her movie, Carrie’s Secret, which she also wrote and had a cameo in.

Kayla stars in Zalman King’s film, “Pleasure or Pain”, that debuted in April on Cinemax, and completed a novel based on the screenplay currently available as an eBook on Amazon and Smashbooks. To keep up with her ever-growing empire and exciting new projects including her VIP parties, directorial debut for Filly Films, and her role as spokes model and participant in the goldRush Rally, follow her on Twitter at @kjdangerdoll and Instagram http://instagram.com/kjdangerdoll# and make sure to “like” her fan page on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/KaylaJaneDangerOfficial.

SimplySxy: What is your favourite thing about being in the adult industry?

Kayla-Jane: My favorite part might be that it exists at all. We’re lucky to live in a country with a “legal” adult industry, and without it I wouldn’t be able to express myself and my art in the same way. I get to live out my fantasies in a controlled and safe way on a daily basis, and what is better than that?!

SimplySxy: You are also known as The Danger Doll. How did this name originate?

Kayla-Jane: I really don’t remember. I want to say my full name, Kayla-Jane Danger, came first, but then, like all nicknames do, it took on a life of its own. I was The Danger Doll, a doll like-lady made for danger! It just stuck!

SimplySxy: The kink community is growing in numbers and even couples who are not into kink are beginning to take interest and explore in the bedroom. Can you give some tips for couples who like to try something kinky for the first time but are unsure of how to begin?

Kayla-Jane: Two of my biggest tips are to not be intimidated and do your research. Yes, sex is fun, silly and great, but without some good old-fashioned research, you could make a kinky time awkward and potentially unsafe. Also, communication is super important; not all kinks are something everyone likes the first tim, or can even jump right into. Don’t always pick the biggest, baddest looking toy or prop, because it might turn you off to the kink all together. Enjoy the learning process with your partner, try things on one another, and make sure you communicate your pleasure or displeasure accurately.

SimplySxy: In your opinion, how do you think a person develops a fetish for a particular item, say for example fishnet stockings or high heels to name just two?

Kayla-Jane: Well, it comes from a lot of things. However, the fetish you’re describing is usually something picked up from youth, and isn’t a learned fetish, like many activities, such as spanking or bondage are.

SimplySxy: What are some of your most loved kink items you simply can’t live without?

Kayla-Jane: HEELS HEELS HEELS … wait can heels be my answer for all of this? Okay, maybe a pair of epic stilettos, a corset, a heavy leather/suede flogger, 3-piece silk or lace lingerie set and nylon stockings. I hope that didn’t seem like cheating!

SimplySxy: Please share with us some memorable fetish requests from your fans which you have done?

Kayla-Jane: There’s one guy who has purchased probably about 15 or so custom video from me over the years; his fetish is white cotton panty play. Either 1 or 2 girls are wearing cropped t-shirts with bare feet, wearing very specific Hanes brand white cotton panties. He likes girls to use words like booty, bum, butt, and bottom, but not ass. He likes girls to pinch each other’s bootys, or rub and squeeze them, but we always make sure to smooth the panties, because he hates wedgies! He loves when the girls rub their butts together smoothing their hands over their butts together or side by side, so he gets a bum overload! I have done these videos with several performers like Jenna J Ross, Remy LaCroix, Skin Diamond, Athena Fatale, and one of my exclusive dolls, Jeanette. He literally tells me to make the same video over and over again. He just loves the scene and the way I do it so much, and I love making these videos for him!

SimplySxy: As we are on memorable fetishes, have there been any weird or freaky fetishes, which you heard of that you might consider rejecting if requested?

Kayla-Jane: Oh, I have rejected a lot, and I even state on my website I that I won’t do anything illegal, including crushing of animals or insects, anything involving animals, shit/scat, piss or blood. I also don’t engage in racial or religious humiliation either. I might toy with turning myself into your GOD, but I won’t belittle a religion or race, or make humiliation role play out of it.

SimplySxy: Are there any adult stars whom you wish to work with if you had the chance?

Kayla-Jane: Lucky for me, I do all the booking at KJD Media, so I tend to book the girls I want. However, there are a few I haven’t been able to nail down over the years for various reasons. I would LOVE to shoot with Dana DeArmond for MyDollParts.com, and also Riley Reed and Ryan Ryans.

SimplySxy: Tease us and allow our imagination to go wild. One of our readers has a fetish for girl and girl toe licking. How will you go about satisfying this fetish?

Kayla-Jane: I’d tell them to go to MyDollParts.com, where they can watch a bevy of beauties and me worshiping each other from the toes up. It’s a place where ladies wrap their lips around each toe, slipping their tongues between each toe, pulling away with long strands of spit connecting them. Some girls are delicate and flick their tongues along the arches of their lover as if it were her pussy, and others devour feet taking in all their toes at once, sometimes two feet at a time! My Dolls and I know how to fill every fantasy!

SimplySxy: Thank you for your time Kayla. Do you have any upcoming projects you wish to promote?

Kayla-Jane: GoldRush Rally is just a few weeks away, and it is my 5th year on the rally, and as its Hostess. It is the most fun time of year for me, and I can’t wait for another epic crosscountry adventure. If you want to know where you can see the cars and me along the way, please visit https://www.facebook.com/goldRushRally. Also, I have a few feature scripts in the works but nothing nailed down as of now. Don’t forget to check out my recent release “Carrie’s Secret”, which is my first film I directed for Filly Films.

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Make sure to see the amazing fast cars and me on the Gold Rush Rally. It starts May 31st in Las Vegas and goes through Denver, Chicago, Cleveland, DC and ends in New York. It’s quite a ride and the fans get to meet us in many cities. There are parties and track events open to the public, and they can see us speed off, too. There’s nothing quite like it.

Make sure to check out my official sites at mydollparts.com and kjd-media.com. Follow my personal Twitter @KJDangerDoll and my company one is @KJDMedia, and my Instagram http://instagram.com/kjdangerdoll#. Make sure to like my Facebook Fan Page https://www.facebook.com/KaylaJaneDangerOfficial.

Images courtesy of Kayla-Jane Danger

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May 18, 2014
Interview with Michele Masters, Bi Swinger Adult XXX model

Michele Masters, 27 years old, 5ft 3, 112 pounds, 34 B natural breasts

Toronto, Ontario

Married to Mike Masters, photographer

I enjoy living the swing lifestyle with my husband in Canada, photo graphing and recording our sexual adventures and having a great time! I have been featured on pornstarradio.com, mhogpodcast.com, and have a few other spots coming in the near future including a full nude spread in the May issue of ALL Pleasure magazine. I love being on cam, being naughty in front of people and I thought my site would be an awesome way to be live with so many other people!

SimplySxy: In this industry, women are way more popular than men. Do you think its tough for your male counterparts to breakthrough?

Michele Masters: Yes. It’s tough for anyone but men even harder.

SimplySxy: Have there been moments where male star is unable to get an erection or perform to expectations?

Michele: Yes. But you work with it. Take a break or help him out. ‘Fluff it‘ as they call it.

SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

Michele: The camera lights fell on top of us while having sex. No one was hurt but it killed the mood for a bit.

SimplySxy: Which is your favourite porn scene to shoot?

Michele: Definitely girl on girl. I love men but I love the soft touch of a woman.

SimplySxy: Do you think condoms should be used during filming?

Michele: I do. But most are tested 1 to 2 times per month to be safe.

SimplySxy: The age old question, does size really matter and what is ideal for you?

Michele: It doesn’t have to be big if you know how to use it. Too big is too much. I like about 7-8 inches myself.

SimplySxy: What turns you on the most?

Michele: I love woman. I love group sex. I love watching two bisexual men as well.

SimplySxy: Let our male readers in on a secret. What can a guy do to ensure the girl is satisfied?

Michele: Put her first. A guy will cum. But get her to cum first and she will be hooked. Use your tongue or fingers or even a toy but get her to cum!

SimplySxy: For our female readers, give one reason why they should give oral sex.

Michele: To satisfy your partner. Don’t want him to stray? Besides I think sucking cock is fun! Its hot and my husband loves watching me in the act.

SimplySxy: Allow our imagination to run wild. Share with us what you will do to your guy to give him the night he won’t ever forget?

Michele: I make sure he cums. But also I try to find out what his secret turn ons are. The ones he is afraid to admit. Those are the ones he will enjoy the most.

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Please be sure to follow my twitter@MicheleMasters and facebook https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=677179412325055.

I love to show off. I’ll be live camming soon on a few different sites because I love to interact with my fans and making them cum personally is a big turn on for me. I’ll be announcing where soon through my twitter and Facebook so follow me! Love you all!

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May 17, 2014
Cuckoldry & Pornography

In keeping with this month’s topic I will review the ways in which “porn” or erotica is depicted and can be used by those involved with or interested in a cuckold lifestyle.

For Uninitiated or Novice Couples

First, there are a lot of website that feature videos of hot-wives, soccer moms, sluts, horny housewives, size-queens, MILF, GILF … etc. Most of these are staged professionals or semi-amateur productions. Some are good, others unrealistic compared with the way most couples/women practice their own form of the lifestyle. At least some of the semi-amateur videos provide a depiction of how a cuckold relationship might work at times.

Aside from the videos that have an overtly cuckold-related themes, just about any might be useful for a shy husband or sexually bored wife to get their partner to reveal more about their feelings about certain sexual activities—as a prelude to actually mentioning a cuckold fantasy either has.

A husband might show his middle-aged wife a video showing an older woman having hot sex with a young virile man to get her thinking about her own “cougar” fantasy.

It is usually a good idea to prepare some quiet time to watch these videos together when everyone is in the mood to watch something and maybe play afterward. While watching the video, the husband or wife should try and arouse their partner just a little. Doing this can help the partner open up to ideas that they have suppressed or denied.

For some women, just watching a sexual explicit video can help them overcome their “good girl” conditioning. Getting to see a woman freely enjoying her sexuality in an real amateur or well acted production can be very liberating.

For Experienced Couples

For couples already involved with a cuckold lifestyle, adult videos or erotica can serve a different purpose. They can be used to help the couple further explore the variations and extremes of the lifestyle. After viewing videos on things like double-penetration, gang bangs, D&S play, glory hole … etc. the couple can make a more informed decision if they want to explore these sexual “avenues”.

Apart from videos, there are web sites and forums that carry captioned images with cuckold-related themes. For example: a photo of a woman in the throes of sexual pleasure as she couples with a lover is captioned “Oh, You are so much bigger and more satisfying than my husband”.

These types of images can be used by a perspective cuckold to prepare himself for the real thing. I know one husband who refers to these images as “visual mantras”.

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May 16, 2014