Tag: Pornography

  • Betty Bang on SimplySxy

    Betty Bang on SimplySxy

    SimplySxy:  What do you think is the root cause of porn addiction? 

    Betty Bang:  I think addiction is an addiction.  People are addicted to many things not just porn. Porn gives pleasure whatever gives pleasure can be addictive.

    SimplySxy:  With porn so easily accessible on the Internet, do you think more control is needed so keep children and young teens away from them?

    Betty:  I think sex is everywhere.  Cable has some crazy shit on it in your own living room, Facebook, social media.  If you don’t want your kids to see sex, block them from the universe. Parents need to be more open with their children.  Limit the time on the computer (and) play a board game with your child.  Bad parenting skills shouldn’t be blame on porn.

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    SimplySxy:  Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

    Betty:  The funniest moment was on set in my last scene when I kept on slipping and didn’t know why.  After the scene I discovered my heel had been broken the whole time.  I thought it was (due to) the five guys cum on the floor.

    SimplySxy:  What is your most memorable scene done to date?

    Betty:  My first interracial scene; I was so nervous.  I never had been with a strong big black dick before I started doing porn and now bring all those cocks to me.  The more the better.

    SimplySxy:  When we watch porn, the male stars seem to be able to go on for an hour. Are they really that good?

    Betty:  Lol they are

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sex toy?

    Betty:  I enjoy to cocks at the same time.  One 8 inch in my pussy and anything with a strong vibration on my clit.

    SimplySxy:   What is the wildest sex act you have done that had nothing to do with filming?

    Betty:  The wildest sex act was in a taxi I squirted on the cab driver and everything and it wasn’t planned at all.  I was actually trying to be good that night.

    SimplySxy:  Let our male readers in on a secret.  What lingerie will a lady want their man to buy them?

    Betty:   I hate that feather stuff in the mag. I love latex!

    SimplySxy:  Do you think that watching porn makes sex better in a relationship for couples?

    Betty:  Hell yeah it gets you in the mood.

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    SimplySxy:  Allow our imagination to run wild.  Share with us one sex experience that was impromptu and in the heat of the moment

    Betty:  There are so many.  I think in the driveway before I could even walk in the house.  I never wear underwear.  On A ROOF of a parking lot.

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  • Pornology of Modern Prostitution

    Pornology of Modern Prostitution

    The word pornography derives from the Greek word porn, which originally referred to prostitutes and their trade.  During the late 1960s and early 1970s, interest in the adverse effects that might result from viewing pornographic movies and magazines led to the formation of a national commission to study the nature and effects of pornography.

    Observers have divided the effects of pornography into two classes: direct and indirect.  Direct effects might include arousal of the pornography’s audience and changes in their behaviour that result from exposure to it.  On the other hand, indirect effects include subtle, long-term changes caused by exposure to pornography, such as redefinitions of sexual objects or sexual accessibility.  Of which, some argue that a long-term consequence of pornography strengthens the identification of women as objects for sex or violence and weakens their identities as people.  Another indirect consequence is the pursue of sole gratification of sexual relations as pornography tends to reduce sex to a purely physical act rather than a component in a richer human relationship.

    Hollywood has provided a caricature of prostitution in the form of the “happy hooker myth” whereby a prostitute is a sexy, attractive woman who freely enters prostitution until the right man comes along.  She is portrayed as being empowered by her position and having an edge over men by reversing traditional gender roles.  The career of a call girl includes at least three developmental stages: entrances into the career, apprenticeship, and development of contacts.  The mere desire to become a call girl does not allow one to attain this status.  Instead, one requires a systematic arrangement for contacts.  As one call girl explains, “You cannot just say get an apartment and get a phone and everything and say ‘Well, I’m gonna start business,’  because you gotta get clients from somewhere. There has to be a contact”.

    However, the scene has changed with the advert of the Internet as sex workers can now easily connect with clients through the web.  This comes with immense benefits as they no longer need to fork over any profits to a pimp.  These sex workers operate through the security of traceable emails and high-end hotels.  This combination of autonomy, security, control, wealth, and lifestyle represents a major inducement to engage in prostitution.  In this instance, pornography takes on the subtle form of high-end prostitution laced with unspoken promises of the “happy hooker myth” as the distinction between client and service provider is blurred for the modern prostitute now wields more authority and choice of choosing their clients.

    As such, prostitution is no longer seen as a pure exchange of sex and money but a mutually beneficial arrangement.  There is a transgression of boundary as men are regarded as not simply just seeking sexual gratification but a “modern gentleman [who desires] … to date the best” while the sex workers have now revamped themselves as attractive sugar babies and goal oriented individuals who  “deserve  to date someone who will pamper, empower, and help [him/her] mentally, emotionally and financially.”  Fine examples include elite sugar daddy dating sites such as www.seekingarrangment.com and www.modernsugardaddy.com that target affluent males who “wish to spoil a beautiful and sexy woman in a mutual, beneficial and rewarded relationship”.  In addition, many of these call girls are deviating from the subservient role of merely offering sexual services as they too, may demand for a particular fantasy to be fulfilled or even request having the entire session of the intercourse filmed.  This certainly brings us to wonder about the evolvement in the traditional perception of pornography and prostitution.

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  • Ex-Librarian and Ladies’ Pornstar Ela Darling

    Ex-Librarian and Ladies’ Pornstar Ela Darling

    Find out more about ladies’ pornstar Ela Darling, who shares with us how pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship as well as the craziest place she has ever had sex.

    SimplySxy:  What is your personal view on pornography?

    Ela Darling:  I think pornography is a hell of a career and I love it.

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    SimplySxy: With the pornography very easily accessible on the internet, do you think anything should be done to control youths and children from having access to it?

    Ela:  I think that the best way to protect kids from the negative effects of porn is through communication and facts.  Parents should communicate with their kids candidly about sex, consent, and how to have safe sex.  They should discuss what pornography is and explain that pornography is a form of adult entertainment that portrays a fantasy which is much different from normal sex.

    SimplySxy:  How do you think pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship?

    Ela:  Partners can watch porn together to initiate sex or explore new sexual experiences they’d like to share together.  If one person has a specific sexual fetish or interest that their partner doesn’t share, they can use porn as an outlet for that sexual interest.  If one partner has a stronger sex drive, they can get sexual release from porn rather than being unfaithful to their partner.

    SimplySxy:  Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex?

    Ela:  If a lady doesn’t like oral sex, she shouldn’t do it.  Don’t force yourself to do sex acts that you genuinely don’t enjoy.

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    SimplySxy”  Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex that was nothing to do with filming?

    Ela:  Either in the middle of a field in a residential neighbourhood in Texas or in the middle of a casino in Vegas.

    SimplySxy:  Which do you think is the sexiest part of your body?

    Ela:  I think the sexiest part of my body is my brain.  My mind is a dirty, sexy place

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sex position in bed?

    Ela:  I like to be fucked doggy style while my partner pulls my hair and slaps my ass.

    SimplySxy:  Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

    Ela:  Explore the veritable cornucopia of kinks and fetishes and find something new that you both like that you haven’t experienced yet.

    SImplySxy:  What defines a sexy woman according to you?

    Ela:  To me, sexy is a smart, confident, boss ass woman who knows what she wants, who she is, and harnesses the power of sexuality to get what she wants.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sexual fantasy?

    Ela:  My fantasy is hot, rough, hair-pulling, choking, scratching, biting sex with whomever I’m currently jerking off to followed by smoking a lot of weed.

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  • Interview with Alex Janjanin, from LA Direct Models

    Interview with Alex Janjanin, from LA Direct Models

    As part of SimplySxy’s on-going Pornography special feature, we are pleased to have this unique opportunity to interview Alex Janjanin from LA Direct Models.  Alex tells us his favourite move on a girl in bed, which part of a girl he likes the most and his definition of a sexy woman.

    SimplySxy:  Where do you feel the current direction the adult industry is heading?

    Alex Janjanin:  Personally, I feel like the adult industry is heading in a great direction.  There’s always going to be demand for sex.

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    SimplySxy:   What are some of the misconceptions people have about the adult industry?

    Alex:  I’ve been asked if the adult industry has destroyed my relationship…it definitely hasn’t.  I couldn’t be happier in my relationship since becoming an adult performer!

    SimplySxy:  Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that has happened on set?

    Alex:  One of my first times on set, I had forgot about the multiple cameras around me…apparently I kept showing my ass to the camera lol and the camera guy shouted at me “get your ass out of the shot!”  It was embarrassing haha.

    SimplySxy:  What is the challenge a male adult star faces as compared to a female star in this industry?

    Alex:  I feel as a male performer, it’s a lot harder to get work than it is for a female performer.  You gotta be packing big if you want to be considered lol.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite porno scenario?

    Alex:  My favourite scenario would be me at home chilling, ripping the bong lol when all of a sudden my girlfriend comes through the door with a few of her girl friends, and we have an orgy right there in the living room.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite move in bed to do on a girl?

    Alex:  I love spooning or being behind a woman, grabbing her hair with one hand, and wrapping my other hand around her neck 😉 definitely my fav.

    SimplySxy:  What defines a sexy woman according to you?

    Alex:  A sexy woman to me is a woman who has her priorities straight, who can hold a conversation with me, and also has a gorgeous booty haha.

    SimplySxy:  Which body part of a girl do you like most?

    Alex:  I love me a nice ass! 🙂 she can be ugly and flat chested lol as long as she has a nice ass, I’m down!

    SimplySxy:  Porn is huge and caters to every taste imaginable.  Is there anything that hasn’t been done or you like to see more of?

    Alex:  Honestly, I think the adult industry has covered all the bases for me. Who knows though, I might develop a new fetish in the future that I might want to see.

    SimplySxy:  Do you prefer to see your girl spit or swallow?

    Alex:  I prefer my girl to swallow every time.

    A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

    Message to my fans & SimplySxy readers: Thank you guys for all your support! I wouldn’t have this awesome job if it wasn’t for you guys 🙂 Be sure to look out for my new scenes and follow me on twitter @ohshititsalexxx

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  • The Porn Revolution

    The Porn Revolution

    When we hear the term “sexual revolution”, it represents the liberalization of sexual attitudes and moral beliefs through our history. The history of sexual revolutions has had a major impact on our culture by influencing how we think, feel, and express our sexuality.  Two of the most prominent times in history for sexuality were the 20’s and 60’s. During the first sexual revolution, known as  “The Roaring Twenties”, it was a time of drastic social and political change.  Women were feeling more empowered, working in executive positions, drinking, smoking and having fun. Sexuality for women was impacted by the rise in birth control use, leading to women having fewer children.  Inventions like the washing machine and vacuum freed up time doing house chores and encouraged women to get out into the work force. It was a period of history that launched an economy driven by pleasure. This was the birth of mass culture—cars, movies and music. The distribution of pornography increased during this time and became a mainstream way to enjoy erotica as a form of entertainment.

    During the 60’s and 70’s, it was all about free love and social change. There were major shifts in women’s sexuality, homosexuality, premarital sexuality and sexual expression.  Even psychologists like Sigmund Freud, Alfred Kinsey and William Reich contributed to the social movement in bringing awareness to research and insight into human sexual desire and behavior.  It was a time for political change, breaking down boundaries, reforming laws and the medical regulation of sexuality. Sexual freedom became a new way of living and as society’s views on sexuality changed, there was an increase in pornography in mass media—a money-making industry that commercialized on the sexual interests and changes of a growing society and strived to appeal to the masses.

    Despite having two major sexual revolutions in our history, we are still a society that is uncomfortable with sexuality and impacted by social and cultural institutions when it comes to how we think and feel about sex. Our sexual values and beliefs are shaped by what we learn from parents, friends, teachers and religious institutions. Sexual experiences and education often conflict with inner sexual desires and lead to sexual repression, sexual dysfunction or sexually compulsive behaviors. Today’s argument is that pornography shapes and distorts our views on sexuality and how we experience sex.  In actuality, we have a complicated relationship with sex. We are bombarded with sex everywhere in our culture, not only in pornography. Sex sells products from every industry and “sexual” images are more mainstream than ever—yet we are shamed for enjoying or talking openly about sex.  Women’s sexuality is stereotyped with mixed messages regarding what is acceptable sexual behavior for both sexes. The role of pornography is controversial because it is one of the most accessed forms of media and with modern technology, can be available to anyone at any time. In the early sexual revolutions, pornography was a way to express sexuality and empower individuals around taking charge of their sexual rights. Most pornography today can be viewed as objectifying women and men, creating gender stereotypes and portraying unrealistic forms of body image. Women can be seen as objects driven to satisfy men. Men can be seen as always physically aroused and insatiable. Body images include augmented breasts, labiaplasty, unusually large genitalia and perfect bodies. Pornography has moved from sexual freedom of expression to sexual stereotypes and misunderstood fantasies.

    History will show that attitudes towards sex change over time but it takes a strong political and social intervention to see it happen. The feminist movement of the 1960’s brought topics of female sexual desire, gender stereotypes and women having sex for pleasure into cultural awareness. Feminism was an important sexual revolution because it forced society to think about sexual objectification and exploitation. In today’s culture, we are expanding our views of sexuality by acknowledging variations in sexual expression, orientation and sexual identification. Yet we still live in a culture that strives to condemn porn, repress women’s sexual rights, support abstinence and minimize the importance of sexual education.

    Sexual politics have created strategies and policies that attempt to censor and condemn the power of pornography. It is a fast growing industry making billions of dollars with minimal laws regulating it or discussions on using it in a positive way. Pornography will continue to perpetrate negative images, objectification and acts of violence against women.  The question we must ask ourselves is, “should we focus less on censoring and ignoring pornography and work towards using pornography as a tool for positive change?” Since the world of pornography is constantly growing, we are seeing more producers that are women. We are also seeing men who are changing the kinds of pornography that are mainstream. There are women like Candida Royale and Petra Joy who are creating a kind of pornography that focuses on the context of sexual pleasure from a woman’s perspective, and portrays sexual experiences in a meaningful way. Women, as well as men, are producing pornography that is focused on real life sexual situations and not negative, abusive, or unrealistic portrayals. There is a website called, “Make Love Not Porn” created by Cindy Gallup that is intended to help inspire and stimulate open and healthy conversations about sex and pornography with the goal of helping people have more healthy and enjoyable sexual relationships. Other porn producers are seeking to educate and enrich individuals’ sexual experiences and base their work on honest, authentic sexual fantasies, desires and intimacy.

    So is pornography having its own sexual revolution? With the challenges pornography faces in our culture and the growing technology, it is easy to conclude that the landscape of pornography will continue to change. New pornography is being produced in a way that empowers people sexually and engage different individuals in a non-threatening way at the same time. Our basic human needs include connection, affirmation and intimacy. Pornography has often worked on the desires of passion and sex, but will hopefully grow as a form of media that teaches respect, mutual affirmation and the diversity of human sexual interests.

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  • Interview with Mia Li, the new adorkable Asian pornstar

    Interview with Mia Li, the new adorkable Asian pornstar

    I am Mia Li.  I am a new adorkable Asian pornstar.  My career started in June 2013.  At the onset, I was primarily a cam girl and through that I started shooting porn.  I love shooting both fetish and mainstream porn because of the variety both genres offer.

    SimplySxy:  What is your personal view on pornography?

    Mia Li:  Pornography is definitely a way for an individual to explore their own sexuality in private before taking it to practice.  I am very happy to contribute to an industry that makes so many individuals feel a little less lonely and a lot more pleasured.  2013-Nov-16 at 09-59-32

    SimplySxy:  What were some of the challenges you faced when you started out in the industry?

    Mia:  My greatest frustrations lie at the beginning of my career because I got so few shoots.  Although I understood that as a new talent I wouldn’t get very many shoots, it was doubly frustrating because the industry slows down during the summer.

    SimplySxy:  What are your views regarding pornography addiction?

    Mia:  Pornography addiction is like any other addiction.  The main problem is hedonistic adaptation.  It just takes more and more to get the same pleasurable outcome.  Personally, as long as the addiction doesn’t adversely affect the individual and those around him/her, it’s as manageable as any other addiction.

    SimplySxy:  Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy anal sex?

    Mia:  Dim the lights, put on a glove, and try it solo first.  Find out how you like it on your own before throwing a dick in the mix.

    SimplySxy:  What is the ultimate role play for you?

    Mia:  I love romantic role plays.  I’ve always wanted to be stranded out in the country with a broken down car only to have a hunky man in flannel come save me.  Open air sex out in an orchard would promptly ensue.  It’s rather apparent that literotica was rather influential for this role play.

    2013-Nov-16 at 09-55-39SimplySxy:  Which do you think is the sexiest part of a men’s body?

    Mia:  A man’s face.  I love watching expressions dance over a man’s face during sex, frustration, anything really.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sex toy?

    Mia:  Men trump sex toys any day, but if I had to choose a nice fat headed dildo always does the trick.  Also, Hitachis have been rocking my world recently.

    SimplySxy:  Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

    Mia:  Don’t be afraid to share fantasies and enacting them.  I have found that the more forthcoming someone is when it comes to pleasure, the easier it is to get off.  Knowledge is power.  Sexy.  Sexy power.

    SimplySxy:  What defines a sexy man according to you?

    Mia:  Confident, competent, and considerate.  A sexy man is comfortable in his own skin, capable of making a woman feel good, and conscious of his own actions.

    SimplySxy:  In your opinion, what can a guy do to give a girl a mind-blowing orgasm?

    Mia:  To give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm, take your time.  Sex isn’t a race.  Really get to know a woman’s body and be perceptive to how she reacts to the ways you touch her.  It always helps to ask how to make her feel good.

    SimplySxy:  Thanks for your time Mia.  How about one last message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers.

    Hey readers!

    I can only hope that my scenes make you all feel as good as filming them made me.  Please, please, please feel free to contact me via Twitter @LoveMiaLi because I adore chatting with my fans.

    Live long and wank on, darlings!

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  • Interview with Jessica Grabbit, the adult film starlette

    Interview with Jessica Grabbit, the adult film starlette

    SimplySxy interviews Jessica Grabbit, as she shares her favourite sexual fantasy and a tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex.

    SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?

    Jessica Grabbit:  I think pornography is very creative.  It combines acting and true to life raw human sexual emotions, making it sinfully delightful to watch and make .  I love it.  It is a definite necessary evil so to speak.

    SimplySxy:  With the pornography very easily accessible on the internet, do you think anything should be done to control youths and children from having access to it?

    Jessica:  Yes I do.  Stricter laws for people who distribute, advertise, or stream it.  We are a need to know society but some things need to be known at certain ages and not before then.  Did any of you walk in on your parents while they were humping…case in point 🙂

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    SimplySxy:  How do you think pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship?

    Jessica:  It can keep it very spicy.  I have fans who love to tell me how they f**k, and they f**k often, and porn is usually the common denominator whether they were just chillng out watching and got frisky…or they wanted to act out the scenes… Porn is good for any relationship as long as it established where porn belongs in that relationship.

    SimplySxy:  Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex?

    Jessica:  Relax.  Breath and drink water before you do it.

    SimplySxy:  Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex that was nothing to do with filming?

    Jessica:  A parking garage.  We were super horny for each other.  So he found a parking garage and f**ked me every which way but loose.  To this day I can’t drive in a parking garage without my pussy getting wet wet wet!!!

    SimplySxy:  Which do you think is the sexiest part of your body?

    Jessica:  The brain.  I think the sexiest thing someone can do for a person is to inspire them to think a thought they never thought was possible.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sex position in bed?

    Jessica:  I like to ride the dick.  I’m a definite cowgirl and reverse cowgirl kinda chick .

    SimplySxy:  Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

    Jessica:  Never forget why you mad him/her your lover in the first place.  Make it more than just a sexual connection.  Make it an emotional one as well.  Give and receive equally.  It’s the little things really that keep sex spicy.

    SimplySxy:  What defines a sexy woman according to you?

    Jessica:  A confident, motivated, and smart woman.

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    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite sexual fantasy?

    Jessica:  Hands down two guys, one black, one white threesome.  Double penetration. ..ass spanking. ..hard f**king mmmmmmm.. can’t wait to turn that one into a reality.

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  • Hey Honey, Let’s Talk About Porn.

    Hey Honey, Let’s Talk About Porn.

    As has been discussed before on this site, a lot of people watch porn. Specifically, a lot of people watch porn by themselves. Porn consumption is generally a private practice, one that is not usually discussed with other people—even (or maybe especially not with) our significant others.

    Searching online, you will find a lot of commentary from relationship experts arguing about whether the use of pornography is good or bad for a relationship.  Some argue that it can create distrust and insecurity in a relationship while others suggest that it can help build intimacy and “spice up” a couple’s sex life.  I would argue that whatever your personal porn habits are, it is worthwhile to have an open, honest conversation about it with your partner (or partners) as a way to communicate your fantasies and curiosities as well as your concerns and insecurities.

    One commonly held belief that often causes discord in couples concerning porn is that “what my partner watches in porn is what they want in real life.”  This is absolutely not the case.  Sure, a person may see something in porn that they want to try or they may search for something that they fantasize about doing in real life, but just because they are sexually aroused by an image or scene does not mean they desire to act it out.  For example, some straight women like to watch lesbian porn but have little or no desire to be with a woman in real life.  Similarly, straight men may watch gay male fellatio porn but have no desire to re-enact that situation.  This is difficult for people (especially partners of the person watching the porn) to accept or understand.  But sexual arousal is complex and what we fantasize about, what we masturbate to, and what we desire in real life with a partner are often different.

    Many people who have had only limited exposure to porn tend to think that all of it features unrealistic acts or exaggerated bodies with silicone and fake tans galore.  And while there is a ton of that out there, a lot of porn produced today features different body types, ethnicities, ages, genders, and pairings of sexual partners.  There has also been a huge rise in “amateur porn”, or porn that is uploaded to the Internet by “regular people” who look like you and me.  In fact, Cindy Gallop, an entrepreneur, consultant and speaker, created a website called MakeLoveNotPorn.com that hosts amateur porn video submissions.  This is a great resource for individuals and couples who may find the aforementioned “traditional porn” intimidating or unappealing.  Additionally, this new era of porn does not only feature man/woman, woman/woman, and man/man run-of-the-mill sex.  Fetish sites and speciality porn are also accessible by searching for literally any type of porn you can think of in Google search.  The Center for Sexual Health and Pleasure’s website where Clinical Sexologist and AASECT certified Sexuality Educator Megan Andelloux answers the question, “Where Do I Find Ethical Porn?” is another avenue for finding particular sites and to learn about how to search for “ethically-made porn,” or porn that is made, produced, and marketed with transparency of who benefits from any revenue that results in its distribution and which employs willing, informed performers who are treated ethically (definitions of “ethical porn” vary, but this is my understanding of what it should entail).

    All of that said, pornography use does not interest everyone.  Some people are adamantly against it; whether because of the traditionally misogynistic practices and content of some parts of the industry or their own moral beliefs regarding sex and masturbation, and some people prefer other methods of sexual stimulation.  In the context of a relationship, it is important to respect your partner’s preference and maintain an open dialogue with compromise and negotiation when needed.  The necessary step is to have the conversation.

    Some people would like to watch porn with their partner, but are nervous to bring it up.  Some prefer to keep their porn-watching a solo activity, but might be curious about what their partner is watching.  Either way, having an open, honest conversation about porn is not easy for many people.  It requires being vulnerable and open to judgement by discussing and admitting to certain sexual turn-ons and practices that may have not come up before in the relationship.  For example, in a male-female relationship, the female might assume her male partner has watched or currently watches porn because it is generally accepted that men watch porn, but may be nervous to talk about her own porn habits for fear of how she might be viewed.  The male partner might be interested in watching porn with his female partner, but doesn’t want her to think he prefers porn to having sex with her and so avoids the conversation all together.  There is a common belief that women do not like or watch porn and men who watch porn are sexually unsatisfied or have some kind of addiction.  This is why it is important to initiate a conversation with honesty, but to also remain curious and non-judgemental so each partner can feel more comfortable disclosing the truth about their porn habits.  While the first couple of conversations might feel awkward, embracing the topic can lead to better understanding and increased intimacy.  Once these conversations become more comfortable, a couple may decide they want to watch porn together, which, for some couples, can open up a new and exciting avenue for intimacy and sexual exploration.

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  • OC MILF – Joclyn Stone

    OC MILF – Joclyn Stone

    As part of the Pornography special feature, SimplySxy takes this opportunity for an interview with Joclyn Stone, the OC MILF from California.  Inside Joclyn shares a tip to hook up with MILFs and explains the meaning of “dick drunk“.

    SimplySxy:  What are your favourite scenes to shoot?

    Joclyn Stone:  All of them, I love every scene.  I do each scene like I will never have sex again, they are all special and I adore each person, each set, the energy the crew brings to the scene….each experience as an individual is awesome!   So…… I hope that explains my strange way of thinking 😉

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    SimplySxy:  In some quarters, pornography has been blamed for the lack of sex in relationships.  Do you agree on this?

    Joclyn:  I am answering in two parts, hang in there…..

    Yes I do believe that porn can be a true cock block.  Since I do so much fetish filming, I see that men and women alike will hide their true desires in fear that they will be judged.  So they get comfortable with hiding what they truly like and alienate their significant others.

    When it comes to a speedy way of a “quick cum or jerkoff session” you tend to lose the foreplay concept, the closeness, the fact that cumming is only the “grand finale“.  Don’t lose touch by the close up of the pussy on the computer or iPad, you may rewrite your brain by accident and it is hard to cum back from.

    SimplySxy:  Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

    Joclyn:  I get “dick drunk“, when I get into the scene, what happens is my brain shuts down and I am only into that person, all communication goes out the door and I am as dumb as a rock and just a f**k monster.  I have fallen off a bed trying to talk to a director and my favourite word when they make me stop f**king is, “why” and when they tell the guy it is time for the pop shot, I usually say “already“.  Dick drunk is very embarrassing ;-/

    SimplySxy:  Is there any particular preparation required for a gangbang scene as compared to say a mother-daughter scene?

    Joclyn:  I prep my body the same for every scene.  But with a gang bang (it) is fun because they are all manhandling me, it is less work if you think about it… Lol yes, cheating, I know.

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    SimplySxy:  In your opinion, what is the most important trait one must have to succeed in the porn industry?  

    Joclyn:  It is a f**king business not a dating service.  Ooh, and if you aren’t getting paid keep your pants on.  Drugs and alcohol are not something you should need to do your job.  If you need them, you are in the wrong business.

    SimplySxy:  For all MILF fans out there.  Let us in on some secrets to hook up with one.

    Joclyn:  Manners and communication.

    Aaa ah, mami” and I’d hit that, are not a pick up lines they are requests to be humiliated in public.  Do not tell a mature woman you know how to get her off, or what she needs, she will destroy you while she bakes cookies.  You mind your manners and she will let you in her panties.  A humble man is sexy.  Use your brain and you will get what you are wishing for.

    SimplySxy:  Which do you prefer? Anal, vaginal or oral? 

    Joclyn:  Vaginal, I don’t do anal, and I don’t deep throat (all though I love sucking cock) so since I have control over my pussy muscles it is my most favourite toy ever 😉

    SimplySxy:  Have you ever had sex outdoors? Were you caught in the act?

    Joclyn:  At this point I think I have has sex everywhere.  No, I do not ever have sex where I can get caught because doing porn, well indecent exposure would not be a conversation I would like to have in a court of law … Lol

    SimplySxy:  What do you think men should do more to ensure their loves are satisfied in bed?

    Joclyn:  Ask, and if she cannot communicate clearly, watch a little porn with her and see what she likes and try it.  Have her look stuff up and choose what she wants to try.  I cannot say communication more.  It is key to all.

    SimplySxy:  Allow our imagination to run wild.  Do you have any sexual fantasy that has not yet been fulfilled?

    Joclyn:  No I don’t think so, I do want to have a private party dungeon in Vegas, that would be a huge fantasy of mine 😉

    A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

    Thank you fans, fans that have become friends by coming to live events, and newbies who will be googling my 42″ ass when they are done reading this.  I am nothing without you and I will never forget that.  Thank you!!!

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  • Une Femme POV on Pornography

    Une Femme POV on Pornography

    Watching Pornography from a Personal as well as a Woman’s Point of View

    “Wow, you seem really cranky,” my friend Kristina told me.

    We were in the middle of the workday, working as full-time tellers at a bank that has now been taken over by a larger bank.

    Kristina handed me a slip of paper. www.redtube.com was written on it.

    “When you get home, go to this website. Make sure you’re alone.”

    The other tellers burst into laughter and chimed in with their agreement that after visiting this website, I wouldn’t feel so cranky.

    They wouldn’t tell me what was so funny.

    I didn’t get the chance to check the site for a few days. It was summer then, and I was crashing on my mom’s couch while I was home from college, so I didn’t exactly have regular moments alone.

    Meanwhile Kristina asked me about the site every day—while always cautioning me to make sure to check it while I was alone.

    Finally, my mom and her boyfriend were out, and my brother, his girlfriend, and their son were out. It was just me, so I booted up my laptop and typed in the site.

    Porn.

    I laughed. “This will put you in a better mood,” she had told me.

    Of course it was porn.

    This was about five years ago.

    I saved that site, clicking through it periodically when I needed a visual to accompany my vibrator. I know they say men are the visual creatures, but I always came much harder and faster when watching porn.

    Although red tube wasn’t necessarily to my specific taste—I tend to prefer the soft-core, HBO and Cinemax late-night style of soft-lighting, moaning, and mild nudity — it got the job done, and it gave me an outlet to explore other aspects of my sexuality.

    Now I live in Korea, where porn is generally blocked, and a lesbian friend of mine here told me that I am one of the straightest women she knows.  I have had my experiences of kissing women, but she’s right in that I’ve never had sex with a woman or taken any of the kissing past the make-out stage.

    I do, however, think the female body is attractive as hell and when I watch porn, I get to explore that attraction in a way that I feel is safe and comfortable for me.

    I’ve been watching porn on-and-off since my brother and I first found a pornographic video that our parents accidentally left in the VCR. We popped it in, turned it on, and surprise surprise: it was a woman getting f**ked from behind while sucking her own nipple.

    For years after this tape had been re-hidden, then taken away altogether, I measured my breast growth not by cup-size—but by whether they were big enough to reach my own mouth. I rejoiced when they finally were.

    After that video disappeared, I began to watch late night soft-core porn like Real Sex. As an adolescent with no experience, I found these shows to be intensely erotic, stimulating a sexual desire in me that was almost painful.

    Although I was young when watching these videos, I was not so impressionable that they made me want to actually go through with having sex.  Instead, they answered questions for me that I couldn’t ask my parents—or articulate at all.  They helped me to understand the roots of where my more strange feelings were coming from and they taught me how to masturbate better.

    I’m not going to say that if I had a young adolescent daughter I’d be pleased with her watching porn, but I definitely think moderate porn-watching is a healthy, normal thing.

    That is, until I see a close-up of an actress’s vagina and she doesn’t look wet — and then I feel like I’m actively participating in the subjugation of some poor woman who is maybe unwillingly acting as a sex worker.

    My feelings toward porn are somewhat conflicted.

    When I used to go to church, the pastor would regularly name “watching pornography” in his list of modern-day sins a man (nearly always a man) could find himself caught up in.

    I never understood this. I’ve never thought there was any harm in watching a little porn—rather, I’ve always viewed it as a healthy and private way to explore one’s sexuality, fantasies, and boundaries—knowledge of which is necessary in order to have truly satisfying sex.

    Oh the other hand, though, when watching some of the cheaper, pirated porn sites, I begin to wonder how many of the women in these flicks are victims of sex trafficking, especially when they look too young or don’t seem to be enjoying the sex.

    Then I turn it off and am turned off as I ponder whether I have a moral responsibility beyond simply not consuming these questionable products.

    That’s why I’m happy now to hear about more instances of independent porn made by women for women.  I am excited to support pornography that focuses on showing the actresses experiencing intense pleasure and climaxing, and takes sexuality outside of the realm of male-dominated fantasy.  For a woman like me, this is probably the healthiest and most satisfying pornography of all.

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