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  • What To Know About Forced Bi

    What To Know About Forced Bi

    Hi SimplySxy, thank you for inviting me to feature in your article on forced bi. I’m a male escort and Pro Dom. I specialise in forced bi sessions and I’m the preferred duo partner of dozens of Mistresses in London who all regularly invite me to join in their sessions when clients ask for a male escort.

    I was kinky before I started escorting and my sex life outside of sex work is far from vanilla.

    My own sexual preferences are complicated and ever changing. I love new experiences in all things. Especially sex.

    As far as other peoples kinkiness, if someone isn’t kinky at all and enjoys their vanilla sex life, I’m happy for them. Why not? Not everyone needs to be kinky. If they are kinky and they’re having fun exploring their fetishes and fantasies with other consenting adults, that’s great too. And if they have fantasies but don’t have anyone they feel comfortable exploring those fantasies with, then I hope they contact a professional and make their fantasy a reality!

    Fortunately for me, I’m very good at what I do and there’s a large market for the services I provide.

    Finding a good male escort for forced bi isn’t easy. You should expect at a minimum that he can reliably show up to a session on time, not be high on drugs or desperate for his next fix, understand that the session is about the client’s enjoyment not his own, and be able to get hard, stay hard and cum. Guys who can perform under pressure with anyone and everyone are rare. Those who start in the industry with this ability often quickly lose it due to burnout and/or drug abuse. Fortunately, I have zero interest in drugs, a massively high libido and modest financial targets. This means I usually see just a few people per day and feel zero pressure to accept bookings when I’m tired.

    What Is Forced Bi?

    Forced Bi is a popular fetish role-play scenario involving a man being “forced” into sex acts with another man. Usually a Dominant woman is doing the “forcing.” The scene is one that has been requested by the man and the details of the scene have been negotiated beforehand so there’s no real force involved. Everything is consensual.

    Many submissive men who see professional Mistresses, enjoy doing one on one role plays whereby he can explore his curiosity about sex with other men by having a Mistress verbally humiliate him with talk of how she’s going to invite a man to come over and use him sexually.

    This fantasy role play is usually played as a kind of humiliation scenario. ie in the fantasy, he’s a straight man who doesn’t want to have sex with men but is being “forced” to do it. Like many fantasies that male clients visit female professional Mistresses to explore, it’s about power exchange. Giving up control. Submitting oneself before a powerful, dominant woman and then exploring different fantasies within that context.

    Some men with this fantasy go so far as to request toys and strap-ons up their asses. Some want bondage. Some want sissification whereby the Mistress dresses him up in women’s clothes. And some go all the way and arrange to pay for a male escort like me to join in the session.

    Plucking up the courage to take this step of inviting a male escort to join in a duo session with himself and his Mistress can take years or even decades for some men. It’s a big deal to them and I don’t take this lightly.

    When I’m invited I do everything I can to make sure that client has the best possible session tailored exactly to their needs. I want these guys to enjoy themselves and it’s very important to me to maintain my reputation amongst Mistresses as the best of the best when it comes to forced bi.

    Misconceptions About Forced Bi

    Clients who request me to come and join in a Forced Bi session all know exactly what Forced Bi is. The Mistresses I do duos with are all very professional so the session wouldn’t be happening if they weren’t sure that the client knew exactly what he was getting himself in for.

    I guess if someone was encountering the concept for the first time they might be confused about the “forced” part and worry that some kind of assault is implied. In fact I’m always very tuned into a clients reactions and always looking for any sign that he might be struggling or in any state of distress or discomfort. I always make sure any client of mine knows he can opt out at any moment.

    What Typically Happens In Forced Bi Play & Sessions?

    It’s different every time depending on the clients wants and needs. Some Forced Bi sessions involve sissification, humiliation, bondage, impact play etc. I’ve done forced bi scenes where the guy has been suspended with his back in a sling and wrists and ankles cuffed. I have one regular who I see with one of my Mistress duo partners who’s an adult baby so he’s in a big nappy whenever I see him. When we do Forced Bi with him, he calls her mummy and I’m mummy’s friend. In most cases they want to be told to suck my cock and/or to bend over and take my cock up their ass.

    Things To Know Before Trying Out Forced Bi

    If a Forced Bi client wants anal, most Mistresses will make sure he knows how to use an anal douche, or shower hose attachment to clean inside their ass beforehand. Some Mistresses will physically assist with administering an enema or similar. The anal sex should never be messy or painful. We always start slow, for example with a finger in a rubber glove, plenty of lube, start with smaller toys, Mistresses strap-on etc and work up to being able to take my cock only once he’s used to the sensations and relaxed and ready.

    Oz – Hi, see the number one male escort in the world! If you Google “forced bi male escort” or “cuckolding male escort” or “duos male escort” , I’m the top result on Google for an independent. If you do a Google news search for “Aussie Male Escort” you’ll see that dozens of newspapers, magazines and websites from around the world have published articles about me.

    I’m from Australia and usually based in London. My discreet, private, luxury incall studio is located in Mayfair, 1 block from Bond Street tube station.

    I’m tall (6’5?/195cm), very toned and athletic, very well endowed (9?/22cm) uncut and good looking. I’m a trained and licensed masseur having completed courses in Swedish, Thai and Tantric massage. If you’d like to read about my international tours and adventures, erotic and otherwise, please subscribe to My Blog.

    People often tell me I’m very relaxing to be around and they find me a calming influence etc so I’m great with nervous first timers eg bi or kink curious guys who’ve never been with a man or never tried BDSM, people trying out other fantasies and fetishes for the first time and couples trying their first MMF threesome or guys trying their first MMF escort duo always seem to go from being tense and nervous at first to feeling relaxed and horny very quickly when they’re with me. I only see a few people per day so there will never be anyone leaving when you arrive or arriving when you’re leaving etc. You won’t feel rushed and I don’t mind if you go a bit over the hour. I’m happy to extend if you want an additional hour.

    You’ll find that I’m always exactly on time for your outcall and 100% prepared to see you at the time you book for your incall. I never take drugs, never bareback and I get tested regularly. I don’t kiss men but I do enjoy oral and sex with men. I’ll get hard for you, guaranteed, and stay that way and if you want me to cum, I will.

    Let me know if you’d like me to arrange escort duos or four handed massages with female and transsexual escorts. I can arrange multiple escorts if you’re planning a party and I know a lot of Mistresses in London and around the world who I do forced-bi, cuckolding and double domination sessions with.

    I charge £200 for incalls and £250 for outcalls for 1 hour.

    Follow Oz on

    Website:  https://ozinlondon.co.uk

    Twitter:  https://twitter.com/ozbigdownunder

    Please visit my friends page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/friends if you’d like to see me for a duo session with another escort or with a Mistress. Visit my blog page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/blog to read about my kinky adventures, and my contact page https://ozinlondon.co.uk/contact to arrange to see me.

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  • An Introduction to Bondage

    An Introduction to Bondage

    I honestly believe that the word “kink” has a bad perception in most people’s minds.  They think that it is wrong, weird and that people who are “kinky” want to do bad things to themselves and others.  I come from a conservative place and have met some of the nicest, most genuine and caring people in the “kink” community.

    An alternative lifestyle is one that I live every day compared to most people and I get genuine love and satisfaction from it.  But hey, I am a normal caring loving supportive woman who enjoys doing very normal things that most people would be surprised to learn about me hehe.

    How My Interest In Bondage Started

    I was introduced to the world of BDSM through a friend of mine.  She taught me the basics after seeing her in action during a session and I was instantly hooked.  From there, my love of bondage grew and grew to where it is now.  It is my passion and my fetish and I am always looking to improve.  I have taken 2 workshops on it in the last 6 months.

    Japanese bondage particularly interests me and I have been fortunate enough to learn “Shibari” which is stunningly beautiful when done right.  Not only is it art, but the submissive can walk away knowing that they have enjoyed a truly memorable experience and not have been hurt.  I am also proud to say that I have given lessons to a few of my friends (who are also Professional Dominatrix’s) over the last few months in such bondage which was real fun for me.

    My Favorite Bondage Activities

    I used to love Predicament bondage greatly (it is still really really fun seeing that look of surprise in my submissive’s eyes when he realizes movement is not easy haha) but now it has shifted to more artistic Japanese style bondage as I mentioned before.  The artistic webs and intricate rope bondage is just amazing……not only does it look beautiful it allows me to really enjoy my sessions as well with my sub’s.

    Also, mummification combined with bondage……just simply WOW.  Good bondage takes time and care.  The last thing I want is to hurt my client through restricting blood supply anywhere on the body and communication is key to ensure this doesn’t happen.  Practice, practice, practice and constant communication is really the only way to create the perfect moment.

    I am lucky in that I have my very own personal rope bunny to practice on.  I may be concentrating on my artistic bondage and he might be watching Netflix, but hey it works hehe.

    Tools Every Beginner To Bondage Must Have

    Good quality rope.  It is that simple.  Cheap quality rope will itch, burn and fall apart.  I have been fortunate enough to have access to Japanese treated Jute rope which is just fantastic for bondage.  It doesn’t itch, its incredibly strong (can be used for suspension) and lasts a long time.  Also, and from personal experience, have a pair of scissors handy at all times (not a knife haha).

    Stepping Up To More Advanced Bondage

    Depending on where you are playing, working or experimenting you need something strong to tie the ropes to.  A good bed with a frame is ideal, however with an active imagination a couch, a strong table, or a chair can be just as good.  Of course, bondage furniture is the ultimate goal for bondage and I have enjoyed many amazing sessions in dungeons around the world which has such facilities.

    I am also lucky in that I have my very own personally made bondage bed which is well in a word……amazing.  As your skills grow, mummification is a great form of bondage.  It looks extreme, however when done right is fun, challenging, restrictive and is a constant sensory deprivation and memorable experience for the submissive.  Cling wrap and duct tape are a great combination.

    How To Make Bondage Safe & Fun

    Firstly, communication for the safety aspect.  You can easily get lost in a session and be in “Domme Space” just as much as the sub can be in “sub space”.  I always communicate by simply asking if you are okay and not in pain which unless it’s a specific requirement is never the aim.  Bondage is about restriction of movement and being uncomfortable and to make it fun for both myself and my submissive there are many ways to do this.

    Always take care and time to ensure that the knots are comfortable on the body and not digging into bones or sensitive areas on the body.  Sensory deprivation by hoods, eye shades and other methods allows for me to start using the situation within the agreed limitations of the sub but pushing them at the same time.

    Queen Kali Rain – I am Queen Kali Rain, Asia’s Premier Professional Dominatrix. I am highly skilled, passionate and very Dominant.  I am accomplished in every aspect of BDSM.  I am sadistic and enjoy giving pain and I can be extreme or I can be mild and once you enter my world you will never look back.   I have many favourite session scenarios and I look forward to you serving me on your knees soon.

    Follow Queen Kali Rain on

    Website: www.queenkalirain.com

    Twitter: @queenkalirain

    Instagram: @queenkalirain

    I will be travelling extensively in 2019.  Keep a close watch on the travel page on my website and also my twitter an Instagram.   In 2019 I will be travelling to Dubai, Bangkok, Hong Kong, Kuala Lumpur, Singapore, Glasgow, Dublin as well as some European cities.

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  • Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

    Exploring Different Kinks & Fetishes

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    I love different kinks, and I aim to embrace them in my community. I myself am a big fan of kinks and fetishes. My work is specialized in FinDom, JOI, tease and denial, sissification, and humiliation to name a few.

    How My Interest In Kink Started

    I knew I was a fan of more than vanilla sex from the age of 16/17 but didn’t have the ability to explore my kinks. I discovered my specific interests initially through porn, but have been able to divulge into every fantasy as a dominatrix/switch.

    How Does One Know What Kink They Are Into?

    Sometimes it’s completely by accident; you might see something in a film, or someone walking past you in the street and see something peculiar that turns you on. It can be a trial and error, especially for specific kinks, but porn and the Twitter dominatrix/camming universe is a good place to start.

    Tips To Get Into The Kink Lifestyle

    Try joining a community such as Fetlife, which is like facebook for us kinky folk, and start talking to people about it. Reading up on things online is good too. I have a folder on my computer with images and links of all the things I want to try.

    Websites like this one is a good way to learn more too. The talented people who are featured in articles will know even more than what they can put on a page, so try joining their community.

    Popular Fetishes & Kinks

    The most popular I’ve found is DDLG (daddy domme, little girl), JOI (jerk on instruction), feet worship, ass worship, sissification, and humiliation. These are all amazing kinks to have a start with, especially JOI which is really good to look into as beginners.

    As a Domme, I’m into FinDom (financial domination), JOI, body worship, humiliation, sissification, blackmail, chastity, and tease and denial. In my personal life away from work, I’d consider myself more of a sub/switch, into knife play, asphyxiation, DDLG, bondage (there’s this really tasteful Japanese art form of rope bondage which is really cool) and more.

    I find that being a Domme and camgirl as a job is amazing as an outlet. There’s just something about telling someone they can’t cum, or telling them they’re pathetic, that really relieves stress.

    Tips For Beginners To Explore Their Kinks

    Fetlife and Twitter is a good place to start. There are also some amazing dedicated discord servers to specific fetishes that can be found online. From there, Domme cam models are a good place to try out the experience tailored to you.

    If you have a partner, it’s always good to be open sexually and talk about what you would like to try, with both of you respecting each other’s boundaries. If your partner isn’t into, do not pressure them into trying something they don’t feel comfortable.

    As with anything else, consent must be given first. This also goes to cam models and other people you might go to try our possible kinks: if a Domme or anyone whose job is to do that says they do not cater to or are uncomfortable with that fetish or kink, don’t push.

    All in all, have fun, stay safe, stay sexy.

    Poppy Swallows xoxo

    Poppy Swallows – I’m Poppy! Camgirl and fet-lover, I spend most nights performing and pleasing the masses. I love sleep, food, animals, gaming, and food. I specialize in JOI and sell custom videos and photos too. I do skype sessions and I’m always up for a casual chat.

    Follow Poppy on

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/poppyswallows

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/poppyswallows

    Websites:

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    https://discord.gg/zuswMuP

    https://share.myfreecams.com/PoppySwallows

    https://profiles.myfreecams.com/PoppySwallows

    https://social.myfreecams.com/PoppySwallows

    https://profiles.skyprivate.com/models/eoyt-poppyswallows.html

    I don’t have anything coming up, but I am planning on going to the SuicideGirls/MFC show in London in June, so if you’d like to see me there, come along and make it happen!!

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    My subs must understand they are here for me, to please me and create value in my life, otherwise I am not interested to spend my time dominating them. It’s really simple and straight-forward. Those who want a NSA service should go to a pro domme.

    How My Interest As A Domme Started

    I was just curious about alternative lifestyles in general and bored of my 9 to 5 jobs.

    What It Means To Be A Lifestyle Domme

    I suppose that´s what I have wanted all along but to earn money I had to see clients in the hope that some of them might become my real slaves which eventually happened. After about ten years on the scene I decided to retire as a pro domme as I was bored of the clients and wanted to focus on the selected few personal slaves.

    Difference From Being A Pro Domme

    It´s completely different. You see whom you want, when you want and do only what you want and many of the personal slaves are quite generous. Unlike clients who only tribute by the hour my real slaves pay for my spa, weekends away, gifts etc on top of the monetary tributes and the best thing is that most of them stay with me for years.

    Favorite Domme Play Sessions

    I always challenge myself to come with something new for the individual slave as I love to surprise, impress and create something memorable. Mind games tend to play bigger role than the physical domination.

    What To Know Before Being A Lifestyle Domme

    It is actually very hard to find genuine subs who aim to please. Most wannabe slaves just want to take advantage of the dominant female, especially an inexperienced one in order to get something for nothing. It´s always the same old story “I will do anything for you but not this or that and God forbid it should cost me something – you are here to service me and my needs and kinks”.

    You will learn fast enough to weed these timewasters out. If anyone refers to himself as a “worm” or “useless”, he very likely is and you certainly don´t want to have anything to do with him.

    Mistress Arella – Retired after ten years on the scene as a pro domme, now dominating my loyal personal slaves only and that´s how I like it. It´s hard to impress me but anyone can try.

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    Twitter: @ArellaMistress

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  • How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    How To Convince Your Partner To Try Out Something New

    When it comes to sex, it’s always nice to switch things up from time to time. If you keep doing the same things over and over, eventually sex becomes stale and you just lose all the enjoyment that it used to have. Of course, if you have a partner who is willing to experiment with new things, this isn’t a problem. Chances are, whatever you suggest they’ll be more than happy to try out. The problem arises if your partner doesn’t want to try anything new. This might be because they’re a bit conservative, or perhaps they’re scared from what could happened if they changed things up, especially in the domain of sex.

    Today we’re exploring what the best ways are to convince your significant other to try out new things. It doesn’t matter whether you’re with a man or a woman, what matters is that you need to find a way to get through to them that they need to change things up in the bedroom. And we all know that if they don’t, you’ll end up getting someone who will on the side. Since we probably don’t want that to happen if you’re in a monogamous relationship, here are the top 3 ways in which you can ease your partner into some hot and kinky scenarios.

    1# Surprise them on a special date with something sexy

    Everyone likes surprises. And it’s in these euphoric moments that we can really get our blood pumping, and this is the prime time for trying out new things. Wait until it’s your anniversary, or perhaps it’s yours or your partner’s birthday to surprise them with a hot outfit or some kinky objects that you can try out in your bedroom. Chances are, they’ll be eager to try something out with you then.

    2# Start out small and then work your way up the ladder

    If the only thing you and your partner have been having in terms of sex is some straight vanilla bullshit, then there’s no way that they’ll jump into some heavy BDSM action straight away. Try getting them into the world with some hot lingerie. Then you can try out some bondage. Perhaps you could try a bit of light roleplay as well. Work your way up from there.

    3# Show your partner hot BDSM in porn and games

    Sometimes they need to see what they’re missing out on. This isn’t a full-proof way to get them to like BDSM or anything kinky in general, but it’s worth the shot. Show them one of your favorite BDSM videos or a fetish porno that gets you going. If the video is well made and everyone looks like they’re having fun in it, then chances are that they could change their mind as well. Similarly, games are an easy way to get them trying out something new. Try out the Best Free Sex Games in order to get that train rolling.

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  • What To Know About Ballbusting

    What To Know About Ballbusting

    I am very kink and sex positive. I believe in safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) play and think kink is a great escape from “vanilla” life. Building D/s relationships or just playing with subs is so rewarding. Be safe and smart, but have even more fun.

    What Is Ball Busting?

    Ballbusting is the act of kicking and beating a person in their balls/testicles. I am inherently sadistic; I love causing pain (to consenting people). I will say it’s a lot of fun to see a client become aroused solely from ballbusting. There’s also an intimate aspect to it, because someone is trusting you entirely to safely cause them pain. Establishing that power exchange, bond, and trust is satisfying.

    Reasons Subs Love It

    There is either an element of being aroused by pain or curiosity to experience ball busting.

    Some submissives crave relinquishing autonomy to please and serve their Dominant. I’ve had someone ask to be kicked in the balls solely because they knew how much I love it.

    There are solely masochists who just enjoy the intense pain brought from ballbusting. Some are just plain curious and would prefer to hire a professional for discretion, safety, fantasy, etc.

    Misconceptions About Ball Busting

    I think some people think that Dommes literally want to bust open a client’s testicles and sometimes the skin. I have heard some horror stories, but that’s atypical. Ballbusting is a really great power exchange for sadomasochistic sessions.

    Some may think of ball busting as “just” kicking someone in the balls, but there is an art to it in my opinion. I am tactical with my moves. Also, ballbusting can be accomplished with punches, slapping, and kneeing as well – it is not limited to kicking.

    What Happens In A Ball Busting Sessions

    Before we begin, we decide on using either a safe word or stop light colors to check in on pain level. We’ll discuss experience level and if limits want to be pushed. After answering any questions, we begin our session. Typically, I alternate between kicking, punching, slapping, and kneeing so there’s variation in sensation. I personally prefer kicking as I get to use my full body for momentum and power.

    Safety Precautions To Take Note

    I believe it is important to be cautious when causing another person pain. I begin with softer blows to gauge their pain tolerance and my force. I monitor their physical reactions closely and adjust strength as needed. Changing up the intensity sometimes helps and is a bit fun, too.

    I also just love hearing “Harder, Goddess”. Depending on the ballbustee’s experience level and desired experience, I may take breaks every 10-20 minutes or so to allow for a quick breather. Respect physical limits/safe word and communicate so the session is pleasurable and memorable. The goal is to have fun, after all.

    Chloe Mason – A professional Dominatrix and published fetish model based in Austin, Texas. She has a BA in Psychology and trains krav maga. Chloe is playful in her sessions but loves satiating her sadistic cravings and specializes in ball busting. Outside of kink, she enjoys traveling, going to concerts, and dancing ballet.

    Follow Chloe Mason on

    Websites:

    ChloeManson.com

    OnlyFans.com/ChloeManson

    iWantChloeManson.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheChloeManson

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thechloemanson/

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  • How To Be A Good Submissive

    How To Be A Good Submissive

    I remember going to my first fetish party years ago. I remember my friend going to the bathroom and me standing awkwardly with our drinks around the bar, feeling excited but also intimidated by everyone. A group of people suddenly came up to me and asked me if it was my first time, I proclaimed it was and they said it was theirs too. Instantly, I felt at ease and we discussed many things: our kinks, experience, what we did for work, anything you could think of.

    I had never felt so comfortable talking to strangers about my kinks, especially while being half naked! I think it had a lot to do with the space and how safe I felt in it. The kink community holds so much importance on being welcoming, non-judgemental and offering a safe, sane and consensual space.

    It’s an atmosphere like no other.

    What It Means To Be A Sub

    There are many types of submissives, everyone is different in what they like and in their personality. D/s (Dominance/submission) activities are about a power exchange, to be a sub is to relinquish control to your Dom.

    Misconceptions About Submissives

    The media usually depicts the submissive as weak and abused. This is not the case, with D/s activities both the Dom and sub have equal power. The sub chooses to submit to the Dom under agreement that limits are respected. The Dom then chooses to take the Sub on the basis of the agreement. When limits are crossed, the agreement is breached, making the activity non consensual.

    A lot of people, like myself, enjoy subbing because they love to please and like to give up that control. It takes time for trust to be built up between a sub and a Dom, like any type of relationship, it gets better with time and experience.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub

    Being a good sub is being clear and honest with your Dom, before, during and after a scene. Whether about your experience in kink, how you felt during and after the last scene, and what you would like your future scenes to include.

    Discovering If You’re A Dom Or Sub

    When entering the kink scene, you do not have to choose to identify as a Dom or sub straight away. Some people know well before they have entered, and some take their time trying different roles. It is also okay to want to change your role for different partners, different scenes or at different times in your life. Someone like myself who likes to take on both roles usually identifies as a switch.

    Advice For New Sub

    If you are new to submission, start slowly by getting to know what you like. Do your research: read online blogs and watch porn (hard homework, I know!)

    Most importantly, know that it is okay to not like something and to speak up when you are uncomfortable or unsure. Kink is a two way street and everyone should be enjoying themselves.

    Scarlett May – An Australian independent switch based in London. She’s 5’8, with a small waist and pert round bottom – perfect for spanking. She loves giving and receiving humiliation, and especially enjoys role plays … the more taboo the better. She offers a safe and non-judgemental space for you to explore your true desires.

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    Twitter: @SubScarlettMay

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  • What To Know About Chastity

    What To Know About Chastity

    I have always been an “alternative” thinker. I’d say I was around age 19 when I acknowledged my own kinkiness and started to explore BDSM. Those were rough years; I had a lot of healing to do and in a major way, kink was an elemental tool in my own empowerment. Kink is really about expanding the realm of pleasure and expression and to me, it became a path that led me to finding myself and creating my own happiness.

    I remember that growing up, I’d imagine eventually I’d drop out of mainstream society and live differently and I’m fortunate my passion for kink provided an inlet to do that. Through kink, I’ve not only found empowerment, pleasure, and financial stability for myself, I’ve made incredible relationships and deep bonds with people I’d otherwise never meet. In this realm, we’re working with authentic desire, which means our authentic selves. It’s beautiful.

    What Is Chastity?

    A male chastity cage or belt is a specially designed device placed over the shaft and head of the penis. Once on, it is locked (and the key given to a designated “key holder”) to prevent full erections. While locked up, you cannot masturbate or have penetrative sex, and the cage should only be removed by your key holder.

    When a man is in chastity, one of the more common side effects is he becomes more attentive. He becomes very sexually focused on his keyholder and nothing else. This happens because he knows his release is controlled by this person, so the focus tends to shift to that one person. When he becomes aroused, he will feel the cage or belt against his penis. It can be anything from a gentle reminder to a vicelike grip. And whenever this happens, his mind automatically turns to the key holder.

    Why Do Men Enjoy Chastity?

    Being caged can be very exciting and fulfilling. I think many men enjoy it because they like the way it feels emotionally. They’ve given up a level of control to someone and they don’t have to decide anymore (this can make a submissive feel quite safe.)

    Likewise, others enjoy the way it feels physically.  With chastity, there’s a feeling of enclosure, every part or the cock is completely encased, enclosed. It reinforces that kinky headspace!

    Some men just enjoy having a woman control their sexual behavior. One of the biggest influences is the tease and denial aspect. This tension increases as the sub realizes there’s literally nothing he can do about it. He’s forced to savor the moment rather than racing to orgasm.

    Why I Love It

    The power a key can give me is both physical and psychological. Chastity affirms me that my submissives cannot engage in active penetrative sex. Instead they’ll be more focused and attentive to me. There’s certainly a feminization aspect to it as well that I really like. I like that they can’t stand up and use the toilet. It’s kinda smashing the hetero-patriarchy in a way.

    Mostly I enjoy the feeling of having power over my counterpart. By wearing the keys, I’m constantly reminded of that power. The continual heightened state of dominance – that’s what I crave.

    Types Of Chastity Cages

    There are, in fact, several designs to meet various needs or levels of play. (Open-ended, caged, partially closed, completely closed, metal, silicone plastic, etc.) There aren’t any definitive names – each brand or company makes their own. This is definitely something you want to spend a lot of time researching and there are many websites that can guide you.

    What Subs Should Know Before Exploring Chastity

    Communication is going to be key (pun intended.) In my experiences, chastity is a long-term game. For most of my subs in chastity devices, it’s a 24/7 affair-literally around the clock.

    If you’re not capable of remaining in a submissive headspace for more than a few hours-you should ask your partner, before the padlock clicks shut, just how long they intend to keep you locked.

    Witchy Woman – I’m an collector of chastity keys and coffee mugs. Florida lifestyle and online Dominatrix.

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  • What To Know About Findom

    What To Know About Findom

    I am myself a kinkster, and love exploring different fetishes and kinks. Leading a dual life is fun. Usually vanilla life is mundane and not so spicy, but when it comes to the kinky alternative lifestyle, where one doesn’t need to restrict his or her desires, is simply stupendous.

    I really love leading a dominant lifestyle, 24*7 but apart from that when I have a little me-time, I don’t mind exploring different fetishes myself and exploring my sexuality and being really adventurous!

    Why I Enjoy Financial Domination

    Financial domination for me is the real exchange of power. In today’s materialistic world, where everything is ascertained in terms of worth or monetary value, when a submissive surrender his finances to me, that’s the ultimate submission! No D/s relationship or bonding would be complete, unless it has the element of financial domination in it.

    Simply put, financial domination or findom is a fetish where a submissive will give away his money to financial dominant, in the form of gifts, tributes or just cash. Findom is just money fetish, wherein one can find the exchange of money and power, which immensely turns a submissive on. We call the submissives in a findom relationship paypig, cashcow, human atm, finsub to name a few. The submissive gives away his money and power, without getting anything in return.

    I certainly love and cherish the power exchange, the submissive giving in and letting me control such an important aspect of his life – finances! That’s really something which I love about the entire financial domination concept.

    Why Findom Is Popular Today

    With time, submissive men are really understanding the concept of domme-sub relationship. It is no longer confined to punishment tasks and dungeons and infliction of pain. A dungeon is not the only place or set up where men would like to lose control, underneath a latex clad domme’s high heels! A man would also like to lose control of himself to the hot brat next door, in casual outfits or something skimpy like bikini, who will just take all of his money, drain him dry, and not even touch his body once.

    The fact that a findom relationship can be tried just virtually/online without the need to meet the domme, unless it’s a cash meet which is done physically, is a great way to just test out the water before venturing further. Many paypigs are actually powerful and respected people outside this findom world, so some might even be wary of meeting on the first go, so findom is the perfect choice overall.

    Misconceptions About Findom

    There are many many misconceptions about financial domination. I am going to put down a few which i think are absolutely myths, with no truths in them whatsoever.

    It’s so easy for a young lady to pose as a findomme and earn money, since many men are so weak to give her money – It’s not at all so. Even today, though financial domination is gaining popularity, men like to masturbate to the fact that a powerful woman is taking away his money, leaving him powerless, but would not really go ahead and give it a shot in real life by exchanging money in reality. I still get many ‘roleplay’ requests to play findomme-paypig, without them really doing anything which would fall under the category of true financial domination.

    Manipulating a person’s mind and really making him a paypig is nothing but hard work and requires skill.

    Findomme training courses – That’s utter rubbish! There is no one way of becoming a findomme. There is not even one method of gaining or acquiring paypigs. Different submissives will have different preferences, so if one tries to copy another famous and successful findomme thinking they will succeed, it would not be long, that he or she would fail! Originality is the key.

    Fan following matters – Not always. Some of the best paypigs I had previously, were when I really had very less fan following on the social media. A submissive will not notice how popular you are or how many people liked your pictures or posts, if your approach of domination seems right to him, no matter how less of fans you have, he will give in his wallet. But definitely when a lot of people are following a domme, the chances of having more paypigs in the list of fan following are high.

    You can lead a lavish lifestyle based on just financial domination – Not always true! People who are real paypigs, are less, very less in number. So unless you really have some other avenue to earn from, you can’t really lead even a decent life just by financially dominating men. Yes, there might be a few findommes who claim to lead their lavish lifestyle on findomme alone, but still there would be some sort of side business like providing sessions in real time or skype, or even content creating.

    Overnight rags to riches findomme stories – That’s what we call findomme bragging. Not true! Success does not come so easy, and never over night. Years of hard work has to be put in, to really be successful as a financial dominant. The overnight success stories, will have some other big story behind the black screen, so never go by what you see online!

    The younger you are, more successful you are – Not always. There are many findommes who are matured and not in their early twenties, but yet laughing their way to bank. Age is just a number, what matters is her presence. Also the unique way of communicating with her fans and submissives and getting them under her control – that’s usually a skill and requires bit of time to develop.

    Findom is no work – Financial domination is actually a lot of work. May not be when you actually get a paypig to rinse, but you have to put in your time, effort and be consistent in order to get paypigs to actually contact you. Supply exceeds by million times, when it comes to demand of findoms, so there is a lot of competition definitely. If one is not working at all, and thinks findom is all play and no work, is definitely relying only on luck and that may not eventually turn out to be good luck until some one puts in all the effort.

    Incorporating Findom Into My Lifestyle

    I am a dominant woman always. So be it my vanilla life, or alternative lifestyle, I like to manipulate men to give in to me and submit themselves totally which would also include their finances. Personally, I can’t think of any relationship with a man which would not be based on money. I love the way I take money away from a paypig and giving him nothing in return. Sometimes. I also love controlling orgasms of a man, based on his spending towards me.

    Favorite Findom Ideas

    We, financial dominants have different ways of dominating and controlling wallets. All are unique and I think all the ideas that I previously had, changed over time. I really believe in working hard and putting in effort on all the avenues of earning, rather than relying on paypigs. Usually paypigs have the tendency to cut contact after a period of time and they might even relapse, but the focus should not be on the paypigs or submissives, but on myself, always. That’s what I do, and keeps me going.

    Princess Pramila – I am a financial dominatrix from Kolkata, India. I am also a fetish and femdom clip and content maker, and provide femdom sessions and prodomme services. Being naturally dominant and very kinky really helps me to lead a dominant lifestyle 24*7 even outside of sessions. I love taking money from men, and teasing them, leaving them with nothing. My biggest fantasy is to ruin a man so well that he would have no point of return. I love watching big grown up men cry. Besides findom, I also enjoy humiliating, degrading men. I also like to play blackmail games with some of my submissives, and i believe in total power exchange and complete enslavement of men.

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  • Ways To Explore Domination

    Ways To Explore Domination

    My personal view towards kink is that it’s healthy, natural, and fun.  Kink is a journey of perpetual self-discovery and exploration.  It’s a constructive way to delve into the complicated twists of your psyche, experience, and sexuality; while finding meaningful ways to connect with other people.

    Why I Love Domination

    I love the power that is created and shared between dominant and submissive.  It’s almost like a magical dance with all participants sharing the created energy.  The dominant getting to feel the control of steering the session and the submissive getting to explore their personal sexual boundaries.  I really get off on making kinky people’s darkest dreams come to life.

    Favorite Domination Activities

    I love to do just about everything, but if I had to pick a favorite, I’d say the psychological side of domination.  While manacles and other bondage have their joys, the mind is the sexiest weapon in anyone’s arsenal.  I love sissification/crossdressing, pet training and roleplay.

    Common Misconceptions About Domination

    The one that seems to appear often is that Dominants are always mean.  When you really look into the real traits of a Dominant, they’re those of a truly nurturing figure.  It’s one of the reasons I love to play “Dommy-Mommy” roles. Mother figures are the first true Dominant figures in our lives, but their true character is someone who lets us explore our world in safety.

    Tips To Explore Kink & Domination

    Education is vital.  Learn as much as you can about kink first, as it lets you play without the risk of physical, mental or emotional harm.  Most major cities will have at least one group where you can be educated and build your experience.  Kink is much like every other aspect of our lives; knowledge is power.

    Larkin Love – SFW Twitter of adult star & fetish expert

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