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  • What To Know About Coerced Bi

    What To Know About Coerced Bi

    I grew up wanting to be a therapist or get into psychology somehow. When I discovered my own kinks and fetishes blossoming in early adulthood I realized that sex and psychology go hand in hand. I wanted to learn more, even if the fetishes didn’t get me off personally. Fetishes fascinate me! From talking to many kinky people I’ve surmised that sex work and me becoming a dominatrix was my calling.

    Being able to express your sexual side without fear of shame or guilt is, in it’s own ways, a type of therapy. No way am I saying it’s a substitute for therapy with a real licensed professional. But I believe if kinks/fetishes have a safe space to blossom, grow and be expressed, then that’s a good route to take for balancing one’s life.

    Why I Specialise In The Coerced-Bi Fetish

    Coerced-Bi is the notion that the viewer is by all intents and purposes “Straight”. The Domme or lead participator in this fetish “convinces” the viewer/sub that they are in fact Bisexual or leaning on the Gay side. The Domme/Lead can play around in many ways with this. Often times, a strap-on with dildo is presented to “train” the participator/sub into liking and servicing men with dicks. The participator who is perceived Straight is mesmerized into the idea by the Domme/Lead using their feminine aura to “trick” them into liking the other gender.

    The Domme/Lead can focus on parts of them that society generally views as “Female”. Breast play, pussy tease and denial all while brandishing a huge cock is meant to “confuse” the participator and convince them over time and “Training” that they are meant to be Bisexual or Gay. The entire fetish plays on a “forced” vibe where the sub/viewer feels they are being coerced into this.

    I feel that this is my specialty because I actually get off to this whole idea that “no man is straight”. I’ve had many play partners and paying fetishists on and offline indulge me in this. From catering to this fetish for about five years I feel that I’ve spoken and played with all types of men who enjoy this fetish. I’ve even had some privately tell me that this fetish helped them actually “come out of the closet” and acknowledge their own sexuality and not be afraid to express it. That alone is why I keep doing this.

    It’s hot making men suck cock. But it’s meaningful when they actually tell me it helped them become who they are in their “Real” offline lives.

    Common Misinterpretations Of Coerced-Bi?

    People get offended by everything now a days. Mostly kink shamers who don’t understand. And as we know, how humans react with fear, is hate. Misunderstandings lead to shame and guilt ridden comments. But it’s all lack of knowledge or experience in my opinion. Some people don’t like the word “forced ” but rest assured, if you paid me for a session, I respect what words you do and don’t like. But if its just a baited comment, I ignore.

    The fetish revolves around this “Forced” or “Coerced” feel. That’s what gets the men off. If it doesn’t get you off, keep it pushing. I don’t have that mindset because if I don’t personally like something, I keep it moving. Who are we to judge one another? Likes don’t have moral value and everyone has a different morals code. Live and let live and don’t knock it till ya try it!

    Favorite Coerced-Bi Activities & What They Involve

    I really love strap-on play. When filming, I angle the camera down-looking-up so the viewer feels they are on their knees. I love having men beg to suck my cock and then I make them beg to go service a real man. Some men get off to the idea of being “pimped out” and I admit, I get off to that too.

    It’s all about power and control and taking away one’s power and control. The sub/viewer puts immense trust in me and that lights my soul on fire. I love playing around with this fetish any chance I get. I love bringing a fantasy to life and I pride myself on my fetish fun custom videos!

    How To Prepare Yourself For A Coerced-Bi Session

    Buy a clip or five first to see my style and how I approach this fetish. Come with an open mind and we will flow perfectly. I respect and acknowledge all likes/dislikes, safe words, limits and turn ons/turn offs. Communication is KEY so tell me when you’re enjoying something or when something isn’t what pleasures you.

    I am strictly online only. I do NOT offer real time. I detest entitled men so come with respect. I do not barter and I dislike someone who tries to haggle me. Other than that, let’s have kinky fun!!!


    Goddess Asari – Ebony Domination. The Queen of Tease. Lewd, Crude and Tattooed. Alpha Female. Ethereal Goddess and Vixen. Heart-Breaker, Cock-destroyer and Sissy-Maker.

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  • What To Know About Sensual Domination & Sensation Play

    What To Know About Sensual Domination & Sensation Play

    My formal training background is in somatic sex therapy, Tantra and sexual healing. I evolved my sessions to go deeper and explore the “shadow” side of sexuality. I added elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, sensation play, and the psychological aspect of kink, fantasy and role playing to my sessions. When people think of a dominatrix archetype, they think ‘mean, cold, cruel’.

    I am naturally sensual, sexy and playful but I always remain in a dominant role. Many of my students don’t identify as submissive or kinky, so part of my work is getting into their head to see what makes them tick. My work is part psychotherapist and personal trainer. Erotic embodiment starts in the mind. Being pushed out of our comfort zones is where we grow.

    What Does Sensual Domination Involve?

    Many believe “sensual domination” is a focus on pleasure instead of pain. But what if bringing someone to the edge of their pain and pushing their boundaries to submit and let go makes it pleasurable? What if being “punished” meant you had to give up control and give it to another, but at the same time knowing they would not break your boundaries and really hurt you?

    What I personally enjoy about sensual domination is pushing my students boundaries (not crossing them), giving them pain, pleasure and a thousand other feelings and sensations they’ve never experienced. After 90 minutes strapped down to my table, deprived of their senses and taking them on a sensation roller coaster, most of my students are speechless when the session is over.

    I think many experience a spiritual awakening they can’t get from talk therapy or even sex with a partner. I love being able to give them something they’ve never experienced, and it often opens the doors to new sexual explorations.

    Why Subs Enjoy This Kink

    A true submissive is someone who gets pleasure from my pleasure, so I tell them what I like and they naturally enjoy giving. I love subs that love servitude! My favorite submissive students are foot and pantyhose fetishists. I love having my feet massaged and legs stroked over my stockings. I also love role playing with ‘sissy boys’ and seeing them dressed as slutty girls.

    If it’s something that turns me on, it turns them on, so it’s not really humiliation or punishment.

    Incorporating Sensation Play Into Sensual Domination

    Before I blindfold and place my student in bondage, we talk about what they want to learn, role play or simply let go of their thoughts completely. We go over boundaries, safe words, mutual trust, etc. We do a submission ritual and I ask them to let go of control, trust me to guide them on a journey and bring them home safely. I use all types of sensation, not just floggers and paddles. When we deprive the senses (eyes and ears), other senses get heightened.

    I often use essential oil scents in the air. The touch of my nails lightly caressing their backside, then it might turn into a spank. I use metal and glass objects (cold sensations), hot stones, intense vibrators, sex toys, feathers, fur, leather, silk. Even forks and toothbrushes might be used. I think of my students’ body as my canvas, and I get to use my brushes to creatively express myself while responding to their reactions. I also enjoy adding prostate massage, dildos and strap on play (if agreed upon before the session.) Endorphins are heightened, and they begin to relax and accept they’re helpless and vulnerable.

    I think most men have the ‘happy ending’ in the front of their minds when we start the session as that’s what they associate being naked on a table with an attractive woman touching them, but that’s not anything I promise. The session is about pleasing ME, I have to remind them. The more they push for that, the more fun it is to tease and make them beg. Every session is unique, and I might free up one arm to let a student masturbate if they beg and plead, but ejaculation is never the goal of a session.

    If This Is Your First Sensual Domination Session…

    If hiring a professional dominant, don’t expect a hand job. If that’s your goal, see an erotic massage provider. Remember, you are there to serve the Goddess first. Find professionals who’ve been around a few years and have a reputation. Look at their social media accounts, read their website and blog posts. You don’t want to be tied up or mind-fucked by someone you can’t trust. Before emailing them, read their website well. I can’t stress this enough!

    If you ask questions that are clearly on her website, you’ve already shown her that you’re going to be a difficult student. Write to her as if you were trying to land your dream job position. Would you email your potential new boss, ‘U avail now for work? How much u pay?” If she has a gift wish list or a way to tip her online, do it! It shows us you’re serious and you really like to serve. Little things can go a long away in making a good or bad first impression.

    Always shower right before the session and really clean between those butt cheeks and balls with a soap and a wash cloth! If you’re coming straight from work, ask her before the session if you can use her shower (but note that time may come out of your session time.)

    If you want to any kind of ass play or prostate massage (and she offers it), I recommend a few hours before your session, cleaning out the lower part of your anal cavity with a few squirts of warm water. You can lie on the floor and use an old-school hot water bottle with a douche attachment (always use lukewarm water); or a powerful hand-held shower massager for a few seconds; or just a plastic water bottle (get into a doggie style position with your ass way up in the tub while you gently squeeze a few ounces of warm water, then let the water flow out). This is for just cleaning the lower colon.

    If you want to take a really big toy or get pegged (strap-on play), you’ll want to do a full colon clean out, which I recommend doing the night before. Even with cleaning, “shit happens” sometimes. I can’t speak for all Dommes, but I don’t shame my students if it happens (but I also don’t offer scat play or diaper fetish play, so if that’s your thing, you should let the Domme know beforehand.)

    You should expect in any kink or BDSM play, the RACK tenets: Risk Accepted Consensual Kink. Dommes and subs are in charge of speaking their own boundaries, and at any point during playtime the Domme or sub may stop or alter what they are doing by stating their safe word. After the session is over, doing ‘aftercare’- Checking in with each other, making sure their sub is in a good head space and feeling ok physically (I always remind them to drink lots of water and have a snack if feeling light-headed.)

    A ‘sub drop’ sadness sometimes happens after dropping from ‘cloud 9’ euphoria and coming back down to earth. I give some time at the end of the session if they need to talk or process their feelings. Above all, expect to be pleasantly surprised and you’ll have an amazing session!


    Mistress Marlena Maven – A sensual dominatrix, certified somatic sex educator and couples’ kink coach. She is available for online sessions worldwide as well as her studio in Portland, Oregon.

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  • What To Know About Small Penis Humiliation

    What To Know About Small Penis Humiliation

    My personal views towards kink and alternative lifestyles are that everyone should try it and be open minded. Stop being judgmental because at the end the day, many people practice fetish and kink and don’t even know it. It’s a major part of my life and not just the professional part, I live the lifestyle as well.

    What Small Penis Humiliation Involves

    Small penis humiliation is exactly what it sounds like. It’s the art of making fun of men with little penises. I just filmed five videos of it yesterday. I love small penis humiliation as it’s one of my favorite fetishes. There’s ways to go about humiliating them, you can compare their small penises to other objects or much larger cocks. And you can chastise them for having one. Kind of like when a kid does something wrong and you’re punishing them. There’s so many ways. I suppose you just have to be creative.

    Misconceptions About Small Penis Humiliation

    Not sure if I’ll call it a misconception, but I will say, some people wanna engage in small penis humiliation and they don’t even have a small penis.

    Well here is my favorite one, they want to engage a small penis humiliation and their feelings are hurt and they never want to talk to you again and you’re the worst person in the world etc. Literally, the fetish has the word humiliation in it.

    Favorite Small Penis Humiliation Activities

    My favorite type of small penis humiliation is comparing them to a BBC (big black cock) and a tease and denial situation. I notice a lot of my submissive’s who enjoy SPH are also into BBC play. Which is nice because then I could really connect with them and plan a larger or longer session.

    I can also turn it into a coerced bi situation, depending on my subs limits. I love tease and denial and it’s one of my top favorite fetishes. I love to brag to my SPH fans how they could never please me in ways larger penises can. It’s really fun to taunt them as if they could have me and then deny them because of their small penis. I love it most that they truly love it themselves.

    What To Know Before Getting Into SPH

    I think that subs should know before trying small penis humiliation is that this is a fetish based on being crude and making fun of their small attachment. Do not go into this fetish thinking your Mistress is going to be sweet and nice to you or baby you. Also, if you do not have a small penis then you do nap in the category of small penis humiliation. If you just wanna be humiliated for having a penis, then just say so. Well maybe I shouldn’t tell people how to enjoy getting off. If having a normal size penis and wanting to be talked down to as if it was smaller gets you off then so be it. Just when requesting your session with your Mistress, make sure you inform her so that she can properly prepare for her session with you.

    People assume it’s easy to be a Dominatrix, that you just show up and fulfil people‘s fantasies. To truly connect to your sub, it takes planning and setting up for your session. Also, if you are trying to have a session with a professional, do not contact them if you are not going to pay. Find yourself a person who lives in the lifestyle and does it for free. Read all about the professional Dominatrix you are interested in. Read their websites and rules. Do not ask a million questions that are clearly answered on their website. That will turn your Mistress off. I personally ignore individuals who do. It shows laziness, that you do not listen nor follow directions, and that you are more so interested in the pleasures for you.

    Remember to be aware of your limits and to voice them. Respect the Dommes limits as well. If she says no, than it’s a no. If you are with a lifestyle or pro Domme, please make sure you’re being safe sane and consensual.


    Dominatrix Yessi Evans – I’m the countess of Femdom. My name is Yessi Evans and I exist for you to serve me.

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  • Why Do Men Love Buying Used Panties?

    Why Do Men Love Buying Used Panties?

    If you would have asked me this exact question, on my views towards kink, four years ago, my answer would be very different! I have always been a very open-minded person, but I have become even more open minded and understanding of the kink/fetish world since becoming a panty seller and content creator. It’s important to remember everyone’s kinks stem from somewhere. Why does one person like sniffing used panties, while another finds it “weird?” I’m always interested in these answers, and I do believe this is part of what keeps me so engaged in this business.

    Why I Decided To Sell My Panties

    Simply put, I was looking for something fun and exciting to do while still making money. My husband actually suggested selling my panties. I made a Twitter account, (which is long gone now and since been replaced with a new one) and within a couple of days I had my first buyer. He informed me of a website called Pantydeal. I signed up and 338 reviews later, I’m still an active member of the site today.

    I’ve also made panty sales through my new Onlyfans page. There are panty lovers everywhere, and I love being able to provide them with their kinky fetish fix. It’s exciting knowing someone else has my scent in their hands.

    Why My Panties Are Unique

    I’m not sure if I would call it unique or not, but I haven’t shown my face since I started in this business. Surprisingly, a lot of my clients love this aspect. They love the “fantasy” and unknown piece of it. I do also love to engage in 420 activities, which can make for some very fun videos. A lot of my clients LOVE that. My newest unique quality has to stem from my new boobs. Lactophilia lovers are very enticed at this current time.

    What My Regular Clients Are Like

    There are always panty buyers out there. I’ve been booked for months at a time in the past. Of course, there’s always slow times too. During those slow times I will focus more on promoting other services, such as my Onlyfans page or custom video and photo requests.

    I often get asked what a normal panty buying client is like, but there really is no one answer for that question! I’ve had such a variety of personality with my repeat clients. Some of them prefer to stay discreet and only chat to place their orders with me. I respect that completely. I’ve had clients of all ages as well; from 21 to 65 years old. A lot of clients prefer custom videos made along with their worn panties. Some prefer the panties worn multiple days. A lot more thought and time goes into panty buying and wearing than the average person might think!

    Reasons Men Buy Used Panties

    Clients buy panties for all sorts of reasons! Some simply enjoy the pleasure of sniffing them. Others buy them to wear themselves, and some buy them to use while masturbating. And by use them, I mean physically. This is why a lot of panty buyers prefer silk or satin material

    For a lot of clients, it’s about forming some sort of connection through the panties. They want to know the woman they’re coming off and the story behind them. It makes it that much more exciting when their panties have a “story.”

    Are Custom Requests With Panties Common?

    Yes, all types! I mentioned a lot of panty clients prefer custom videos to go along with their panty purchases. Some request they be worn multiple days, or I even have a few clients who prefer to purchase them unworn! In addition to panties and custom content, I have sold socks, lingerie, lollipops, workout wear, jeans, shoes, and probably other items I’m forgetting to mention.

    When it comes to the fetish panty world, almost anything goes!


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  • What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    The world of kink is a necessary response to the restrictive societal norms in which we all operate on a daily basis. Everyone is into something a little alternative, be it their music taste or strange late night snack preference. Kink is like deep space; a way to safely (when done properly) explore otherwise “unacceptable” interests. It’s funny that attitudes toward kink can still be so cynical, but thankfully the internet makes it possible to educate and connect individuals in a way like never before.

    It doesn’t have to be a clandestine practice, it can be a fun and satisfying way to creatively realize your desires. Variety is the spice of life.
 Kink is additionally such a fascinating inquisition into the realm of psychology. I’ve learned so much about myself and about others through my practice as a Domme.
The kink community is also one of the most open and accepting I’ve ever experienced, rife with characters both interesting and brilliant. As long as all parties involved are honoring safety protocols like SSC and RACK, it can be an incredible opportunity for self-exploration.

    Getting Into Findom

    One day a girlfriend of mine told me someone approached her on Facebook asking to be her homework slave. When we looked into it, she was a little weirded out, but I was intrigued. I went home and started researching and fell down a fetish rabbit hole. Enthralled, I created a Twitter account and embarked on building my own little empire of devoted submissives.

    What Does It Mean To Be A Pay Pig?

    A pay pig is a submissive, usually male but can be anyone, who derives pleasure and satisfaction from relinquishing money to a Financial Dom/me, the latter of which tend to be beautiful and highly intelligent women. It’s a form of masochism, in that money represents power, the transfer of which is symbolic and is often artfully composed of a multitude of factors, including surrender and an intimate connection between sub and Domme.
 Findom in its purest form involves a submissive who yields funds to a Financial Dominatrix as the ultimate acknowledgement of her dominion over his mind, finances, and libido.

    Misconceptions About Pay Pigs & Findom

    Pay pigs aren’t actually just people born with a compulsory need to send money to demanding women. It’s more complicated than that. Subs aren’t stupid, they’re not inherently losers, and not all of them like to be humiliated. I think a lot of girls try to get into findom because it sounds like easy money, which has saturated the community with these Instadommes, much to the chagrin of serious Dommes. But there’s no formula to it. It is a real relationship.

    My relationship with each of my subs is wildly unique. 
I’d venture to say another pay pig misconception is that it’s a transaction. Selling custom clips and conducting Skype calls are transactions, not findom. And it’s true that that’s simply the nature of findom today — many Dommes are jacks of all trades, myself included. But true findom is a remote Goddess, perched on Her throne up in the clouds, and along comes the unworthy sub who bows at Her celestial feet and offers himself wholly in recognition of Her supremacy, which includes sending, serving and spoiling for the sheer joy of pleasing Her Eminence. Never is even Her attention promised, let alone a picture of Her divine feet or an OnlyFans subscription. But, I digress.

    Finally, findom is not easy. Building a presence entails quite a bit of effort — you’re an embodiment of the Divine Feminine, not a normal girl with her own life and other goals outside of the kink world. Maintaining relationships with subs is akin to maintaining vanilla relationships with your friends and family. Staying sharp and educated on kinks takes endless research and practice. Though it is fun and satisfying, it is essentially running a business.

    If you’re just a pretty girl, you will be eaten alive. Which is why so many girls quit after a few weeks, and why many true pay pigs become frustrated with an inbox full of “Send me money now, loser!”

    Characteristics Of Pay Pigs I Look For

    Reverence and devotion. A sub should be submissive! Chivalry and findom go hand in hand. I give so much more attention to those who approach correctly: head down, on their knees, begging for the privilege of serving me and all the wonder such an honor entails. We Goddesses have to deal with subs who pop up asking “how much for a session?” on the daily, as if we’re vending machines for pleasure.

    That’s not female dominance. That’s pay for play, which is fine, but should come later, ideally. 
I like subs who have a personality, too. Someone who can just be their kinky self — that’s what allows for an organic bond and a deeper, more satisfying fantasy.

    What To Know Before Becoming A Pay Pig

    You don’t have to be rich to be a pay pig. Sacrifice is sacrifice. The stories where men take out loans of thousands of dollars for the intense release it is to send to the object of their affection are exciting and sexy, but they’re not the rule. You pay monthly for Netflix, you go out to dinner and drinks, and you surprise your Goddess with little gifts here and there. If you want to be a pay pig, findom already exists in your psyche. You just need to find the Goddess with whom you can explore your desires.

    I’d say patience is key. Don’t fall for Instadommes. Think of it this way — how dominant is it really for a self-proclaimed “Domme” to reach out to you with solicitations for money that are thinly disguised as a bratty command? Block, ignore, and keep it moving.
 Fortune favors the bold. If you have your eye on a Domme you like, take the plunge and approach. The worst that can happen is she ignores you.

    My advice? Lead with devotion and submission. Stand out by telling her why you so ardently adore her. And send that initial tribute first, or within the first five messages. She’s a Financial Dominatrix, and you’re a pay pig. You know good and well how to please her. “Sent, Goddess” are the magic words in findom.


    Goddess Katie – A luxury Dominatrix of the financial persuasion — intellectual, untouchable, and highly addictive. Though She specializes in findom, She caters to a variety of other kinks and believes in establishing close relationships with her devotees. All the better to infiltrate your mind and make it Her permanent residence…

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  • What To Know About Human Pet Training

    What To Know About Human Pet Training

    Human Pet Training is being able to bring the fantasy to life and give the “pet” the experience they crave to portray their inner desire of being the pet they relate to.

    Are Only Subs Interested In Human Pet Training?

    I know quite a few Tops, Doms and Masters into animal/pet identity and play. Some subs are only submissive in this method of role-playing and submission. So it is just another method of submission for some, but not always others.

    Favorite Forms of Training

    I enjoy the protocol training of dogs and pups play. I have experience as a pet trainer and handler so I incorporate all the same protocols, methods and gear that is used in English, American and Domestic dog training/care. I feel, if an individual feels they connect or wants to portray the life and style of a “pet”, then they are to have all the experiences that are humanly possible.

    Must Have Tools For Pet Training

    This depends on the levels that the pet wants to go. Some enjoy the casual role-play aspects and only enjoy certain aspects of the “pet/ animal play role”. So I like adapting to more realistic interactions. My clicker, dog whistle, training leash, and squeakers/ pet toys of choice are mandatory in my bag.

    Things Subs Must Know Before Engaging In Pet Training

    • Know your limitations physically, emotionally and mentally. The way one speaks to a “human portraying a pet role” is different than a human who is role-playing a position, not an animal or objectification role.
    • Research your kink, know what your fetish and role as a pet/ animal figure. Know what you are partaking in and know what you enjoy to communicate these desires to negotiate properly for this learning experience or dynamic.

    Mina De Sade Fatale – Mix race Leather Master & Professional Fetish Domina. They are an educator for the BDSM, KINK, Fetish, Leather, and Sex-positive communities. They reside in California and Provides their expertise in Las Vegas & Los Angeles as well as abroad.

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  • The Slave’s Suppose To Know…

    The Slave’s Suppose To Know…

    I’m here in the middle of nowhere, alone with my only friend, the Fear. That unbearable feeling of not knowing. Maybe I should had it see coming? Working for her! Only if I had never screwed up that contract!

    Now, no one can hear me except my frightening thoughts of the near so-close future consequences of my strictly forbidden love for my Lady Eve!


    Two nights and days passed. The potent stenches in the room had faded in the wind, the cold freezing air out through the open window that kept Goddess Eves bound slave shivering and suffering in silence and alone.

    All those stenches had dispersed the room but not where I had laid for two whole days, bound to a table. cemented in those horrible smells of cum and sweat and old cigarettes. My body was trembling in cold suffering. My balls has shrunken in the cold and my cock, still swollen and hurting from Goddesses abuse, was starting to turn a faint shade of purple.

    Suddenly it begins to twitch as I’m alerted by the distant sound of Goddesses’ foot steps. They get louder and louder as they echo in the room. My heart starts to race, that after two days of isolation and suffering, that I am greeted by someone.

    I hesitate at the thought if that’s worth it at the cost of Goddesses ‘extensive’ torture and abuse. It’s too late to answer myself as you finally approach and stand beside me. As harshly cold in the room as it is, you prepare considerably wearing a tight, shiny, black leather uniform and dawning a long black trench coat.

    The table I am strapped down to is level with your waist. You remove one of your black leather gloves to reveal your pale white hand. Your light skin contrasts all that black leather I think. You graze your bare fingers across my frozen and bruised skin. It hurts a little bit, but it still feels nice to feel the warmth of your soft and heavenly skin.

    You trace your fingers across all my scars from your thrashings. The scars have swelled in the cold air. All the more to display that I am owned by my Goddess. You feel the cold touch of my frozen skin. You can only imagine how much it suffered as your slave and that brings you so much pleasure and makes you grin. You remove your long leather jacket, revealing your tight black leather uniform. I bite on my lip in bashful arousal. I can’t hide how aroused my cock is. You rest your long jacket on a hanger in the corner of the room.

    Walking back towards me, you return holding a strap-on. At first sighting my body clenches, already feeling swollen, bruised and frozen stiff. Not prepared for such ownage, though instead you to attach it to my waist… strapped down already, I am unable to protest or make resistance.

    You get on top of me on the table, looking down at my frightened, submissive expression and my used restrained state. You slide your tight leather pants down bellow your thighs. I take notice at the contrast between the black leather and your exposed pale, white skin. It just makes my Goddesses body ever so more sexy and alluring.

    You lubricate the strap-on and begin to adjust your ass exactly below the black, six inch strap-on as you slowly lower your butt down on it. I can feel the base of strap-on dig into my stomach as the tip of the shaft squeezes down against your butt cheeks. Slowly you push it deeper and deeper in your butt till your ass is resting on my cold stomach.

    Soon you begin to move up and down on the strap-on at a steady but faster pace as your head rolls back and you completely ignore that I am alive. As cold as I may be and as warming it is to feel your perfect skin against my cold suffering, the base of the strap-on digging at my stomach hurts oh so much and the constant repetition of your ass cheeks smacking my frozen body and lifting back up as you ride that strap-on feels so very painful.

    You start to ride the strap-on harder. I in return, grown and grunt as you smash your cheeks up and down my waist, riding that black cock, thrusting harder and harder..

    You lift your butt up and off the springing thick strap-on and seat yourself on my chest. My chest is heaving. Breaths deep and intense from all that fucking I didn’t even have the joy to feel but nothing should make me happier than to be used by Goddess in any such way however that may please or pleasure her. After being left alone, freezing naked and strapped to a table for two days and two nights, I should be so lucky to have this.

    You do look so warm and comfortable in your black leather outfit. My eyes gaze at that long black leather coat of yours in the corner though such a well tailored and high quality piece of attire is only exclusive to a pure and dominant Goddess.

    You take notice at my gaze and see my desire. You slide that leather glove back over your hand and begin to slap my face and slap my check. Goddess slaps me relentlessly as I lay there under her and take her discipline and dominance obediently. My face is bruised black and red. One of my eyes is only half open. My look on my bruised and beaten face. You paid me no mercy, and my defeated and suffered beaten state turns you on immensely. “I need to fuck slave,” you remark, moving back down to my stomach, now positioning your pussy just above the long black strap-on as you slowly push down on it as it fits deeper and deeper in your precious cunt.

    You lay your body face down on my own. Your crotch at my waist and your breasts pressing down on my beaten face as you thrust and ram and pound your pussy against that black cock attached to my body. Whilst you ride and fuck that strap-on, you unzip the upper half of your shiny leather outfit.

    Your gorgeous, perfect, white breasts pop out and you not so gently grab me by the hair and guide my lips to meet your erect nipple. I suck my Goddesses’ wonderful nipple as you fuck that dildo attached to my waist. Still pulling me by the hair, you shift my head to suck your other nipple. I take it into my mouth and suck and submit and worship.

    You ram yourself harder down on that plastic cock. Now you hold my head in-between your breasts, pressing me against your heaving bosom as you thrust in and out of that cock. You hold my head tighter against your smothering breasts the closer you come to climax. My waist and thighs begin to feel numb as you pound in and out, fucking that dildo. You hold me so tight between your huge and perfect boobs as you thrust faster and faster and climax all over that thick black piece of plastic.

    You just lay on top of me, heaving and breathing heavily. That orgasm enveloping you whilst my waist cramps and aches. At least I get to feel Goddess’ warm whilst remaining completely naked in this freezing cold room. You un-strap the dildo from my waist, red markings remain having been buckled and strapped so tightly on my frame. You wipe the cum covered strap-on over my body to wipe it clean but you put it in my mouth and force it down my throat to suck it clean anyway.

    You make sure that plastic dick fits all the way down my throat. “You look like you are warming up a bit slut,” you remark. “You must be so thirsty and hungry…” I nod my head desperately in admittance while sucking that plastic cock clean for you.

    You pull the strap-on from out of my mouth. My breaths are heavy but then my eyes gleam at the thought of quenching my hunger. You look down at me at smirk, “Then how about a warm drink from my cunt because I need a good piss after a good fuck…

    You derive so much pleasure from the reality hitting me. I submit in subservience and obedience in my strapped down circumstance as you move nearer. My face is between your legs and then you straddle my face, your legs hang off the edge of the table.

    Now I don’t want you swallowing my urine straight away… You got that slut! If you can hold all my urine in your mouth for however long your Goddess decrees …. Then I will unstrap one of your wrists and maybe sometimes I will let you touch your cock. You got that!” I nod in obedience.

    You make sure you are positioned correctly and let out a warm stream of golden salty piss into my open mouth. I make a great effort not to swallow a single drop of your urine as my mouth begins to fill up and bloat with piss.

    I have to breath through my nose. The strong pungent scent of your urine filling up my mouth runs through my nostrils. It makes me not want to smell but it’s the only way I can stay alive and still submit to and obey your demands. You sit on my chest, thighs on either side between my face. You watch me hold that urine in my mouth, smirking at my bloated expression, struggling, tears streaming down my eyes.

    You pick up a cigar from the pack that rested on the table. Lighting it with a wooden match, you inhale the tar and smoke and blow it in my face… My eyes tear up more and now red and stinging.

    When I finish this expensive Cuban piece, you are allowed to drink my urine slave.” I nod my head quickly, your piss sloshes around in my mouth. I hold every drop in.

    You blow another puff of smoke in my face as you take pleasure and content in all my struggles and teary eyes. I can feel my tongue drowning in your urine the scent so unbearable. Another puff of smoke in my face and another. My throat feels so bitter and dry having sucked and cleaned your strap-on, I feel so tempted to swallow your urine to moisten my hurting throat.

    I try to think about the cigar, your smoke, your gorgeous deadly beauty but your urine still envelops my tortured senses. Finally, the cigar begins to cinder lesser, and then no more, and you give me permission to swallow.

    The heavy thick stream of your urine washes down my throat like a crashing river. My, I still can feel your golden rain in my mouth and abused tongue. I can taste that salty piss running all the way down my throat. The scent exits my mouth and re-enters through my nostrils. I am utterly over powered and overwhelmed and absolutely dominated.

    Having lifted yourself off of me off the table, pulling up your tight leather black pants and zipping your leather black shirt, the sound of your tapping boots taking you to your long black leather coat. You reach one arm out to put it in whilst walking further away towards the door way leaving me completely restrained again.

    Aren’t you going to free one of my arms Goddess, didn’t you say you would!?.” Your slave cries out. “I don’t remember where I put the key, it might turn up eventually,” you respond as your voice distances as does the sound of your tapping footsteps, leaving me in bondage again. “Goddess”

    …and alone again! I want more! OMG! If only I had never become a counsellor in the Lady Eve’s Financial Trust Office!


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  • What Is The Kinky GFE?

    What Is The Kinky GFE?

    The kinky GFE is the most sensual and sweet twist of BDSM, it is the quintessential spicing things up in a setting that still has a sweet, vanilla taste undertone; while I’d define sensual domination as a pungent BDSM flavour mixed with classic eroticism.

    To me, sex feels like dreaming somehow, like being in a different, freer space, where connections are very strong and raw. Sex is an essential part of my way of expressing myself and exploring connections. It is a side of me that is intimate and different from everyday life, and at the same time is vital.

    The GFE & Why It Is Popular

    The Girlfriend Experience is the idealised and unearthly girlfriend of your dreams, and why not? It is everything that you ever wanted from an amour, the connection, the hot sex, the fine dining after visiting an exhibition together. And if you are curious about kink, someone who has more expertise but who also enjoys the sensual and erotic moreover than the purely psychological.

    Some Ways To Kink Up The GFE?

    Tease and denial: look your partner in the eyes, give them so much pleasure that it almost brings them over, but retain control: don’t let them topple over (note: or: “to enjoy” would sound better?) just yet. They are in your hands, and the longer the game lasts, the more you will see them turn into luscious jelly.

    Also: foot fetish, a favourite of mine, having your partner kneeling in front of you, pacing it slowly by starting with a massage, then just smelling your beautiful feet, and gently kissing them…

    A great classic is to blindfold and gently restrain your partner, heightening their sensations and playing with the senses.

    Safe Kinky GFE Play For All

    As usual, consent and communication are the keys. Establishing safe words can also be liberating as they give a very quick and unequivocal communication; I really like the light system: where “yellow” means go on, but adjust a bit, and “red” is a clear: stop now.

    Another sure way is just to enjoy each others with your hands, whispering your fantasies to one another: playing with words can be so vivid…


    Arazatah – Arazatah’s total black, straight from Milan style encases a vintage hourglass figure and a sweet personality that is fulfilled in sensual domination and lovely vanilla GFE. Highly educated, this edgy Italian amour will seduce you to create unforgettable moments.

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    Usually in London, sometimes in Milan. January in Italy, 29/01-3/02 in Paris, back in London in February


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  • What To Know About Poppers Training

    What To Know About Poppers Training

    Just like in fitness, BDSM not only teaches you things about how to push your brain a bit forward and to expand your limits, but it also helps you discover yourself a lot; it helps you get to know yourself – what you like and don’t like, what arouses you and what, in the end, can make you grow as a submissive, because you’re not only having your body played with, but also your mind!

    What Does Poppers Training Involve?

    Poppers (isoamyl nitrite or isopentyl nitrite, and isopropyl nitrite) use has a relaxation effect on involuntary smooth muscles, such as those in the throat and anus.

    Isobutyl nitrite was also used until it was banned by the European Union. In some countries, to evade anti-drug laws, poppers are labelled or packaged as room deodorizers, leather polish, or tape head cleaner.

    Reason Men Enjoy Poppers Training

    Well, they no longer have so many limits, they tend to get very playful, which is why we both enjoy them so badly! Tricking the brain can teach you many things about what your body can do without so many limitations (that you impose on yourself)!

    Plus, if we’re also talking about sniffing and slut training…well, the poppers helps a lot with the process of it!

    What Goes On During Poppers Training

    I first ask them about the brand they have. That’s a very important aspect of it!

    I tell them everything they need to know about it and after that, they are made to sniff. I teach them how to do it, in order to obtain the best effect and after that, everything settles into place – they get naughty and eager to play, they open their minds and their bodies for pleasure!

    What Subs Should Know & Expect Before Poppers Training

    They should be careful with whom they choose to play with first of all, because I’ve seen plenty of people that have no idea what poppers are and they think the entire sniffing proccess is just a joke, a game, when, in fact, it can cause a lot of damage if it’s done the wrong way, so be careful with that!

    The process of being poppers trained involves a lot of things, from the simple process of sniffing, how they feel like, how their bodies feel like, what they think etc. This is an interactive process (it’s not just “sniffing”) and discovering what the slaves likes under their influence and how they relate to it and how much they can push themselves!


    Clara Domme – Fetishes, BDSM, taboos… they can all be explored and they can always be taken to a higher level. You can never say you have learnt or known enough! So feel welcome to join in and expand/ explore these subjects!

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  • What To Know About Fetish Modeling

    What To Know About Fetish Modeling

    I think that knowing there is an alternative lifestyle out there, is a positive outlook on life. I mean, without being a part of this kink industry, life would be boring. I am fortunate to have found this lifestyle and I would not want to change anything about it. I do have my Business Management degree, and I like how I am using this towards this business. It is great to meet new people and to understand and agree with their lifestyle.

    What Is Fetish Modeling?

    Fetish modeling is simply a different genre in the modeling catalogue. So it is definitely different from art, glamour, and fashion modeling. You have to understand that as a fetish model, you are putting yourself out there in a more provocative manner. It involves being comfortable and confident in yourself to be seen in that matter.

    You definitely are not a catalogue model, where people want to buy clothes, etc. You are more of a fantasy to people. It doesn’t happen overnight, either. It takes time and practice and it does have its ups and downs. But really what job doesn’t?

    Popular Fetish Modeling Genres

    There are so many popular fetishes out there. The most common one would probably be bondage. But, certain forms of wrestling is also considered a fetish. Sleeping is a fetish. Getting to dress as superhero’s/superheroines and acting like them is also a fetish. Getting tickled, playing with balloons, making people worship your feet and so many more fetishes are quite common.

    What It Takes To Be A Fetish Model

    As mentioned earlier, it takes time, patience, practice, and confidence. Also, the great thing with fetish modeling, compared to maybe fashion, is that you can be any size, shape, color, etc. You are a fantasy to whomever is watching.

    People dream right? When they dream, their fantasies can grow wild. So as a fetish model, you can cater to those fantasies. But the key thing to remember, is that as a fetish model, you are also just acting. As a model in general, you do your poses and angles and such.

    But, you have to remember that you are not always posing, or getting dressed up etc. You are a human, you do have your life. So you are acting to get what you are asked to for that client.

    Misconceptions About Fetish Modeling

    I am sure there are. One in particular that I hear a lot is people think fetish modeling is porn. It is not. It can sometimes look like porn and yes, there are certain fetishes that can and are considered porn. But for the most part, fetish is not porn.


    I am Constance, and I have been a fetish model for 11 years. As a fetish model, I get to meet and work with like-minded people all the time. I also have been producing my own fetish content for 5 years, and am happy to continue producing the fantasies people like to see. In addition to being a fetish model and fetish producer I am also a session wrestler. So I look forward to continue meeting and working with many people.

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