I think two important elements to the date itself are an activity, and some kind of food. Interacting with someone in those two scenarios already tell you a lot about a person. Outside of that, if I’ve laughed, I’ve found common ground, and been able to have a small debate without anyone being put out, I consider a date a success.
Assuming there’s nothing life path-wise that’s getting in the way of continuing a relationship, and our bedroom interests line up at least a little, those are the next most important criteria to meet for me!
How Important Are First Impressions?
First impressions are important, but not unrecoverable! A good rule of thumb is that for every negative ‘point’ you acquire in your initial impression, expect it to take about twice the work to undo. As well, it’s important to remember that small awkward slips are often easily laughed off and bonded over!
There is a big difference between leaving being a genuinely negative impression and the silly awkward stuff that happens a lot on first dates!
Expectations I Have For My Date
On a personal level, I like to lay it all out on the table to any relationship that I am considering for serious, long term purposes. I want to know if our life paths are compatible! Kids, marriage, relationship responsibilities and boundaries, and so on.
I also need a partner that is able to stimulate my mind, someone who cares about things, and is knowledgeable about them. This goes just as much for girls as guys!
Common Mistakes Men Make On Dates
Most common mistakes I think relate back to being too tense or formal. If you treat a date like you’re just hanging out with a friend, I find it typically goes better. Especially early on, there’s little point in putting so much pressure on yourself for it to work out, it’s best to just relax and enjoy whatever you’ve decided on doing together!
Can There Be Too Much Flirting On Dates?
On a good date, I don’t think so! Everybody’s going to have different boundaries though. It’s important to communicate if you’re feeling uncomfortable, and listen for when the other party is trying to communicate that too.
Awkward Dating Experiences I’ve Had
Most of the awkward situations with dates I’ve been on have broken down to a lack of clear communication. Usually due to me not being aware the guy was aiming for a date!
One of the best pieces of advice I have to give is to make sure everyone is on the same page. It’s better to clarify now and perhaps cause a bit of awkwardness than it is to find out a boundary was breached or there was a big misunderstanding about something later on.
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Is it even more tough to proceed from dating and into relationship or even sex with an international model and influencer like you who’s almost 23 years old and still a virgin? Your expectations and requirements must be really difficult and hard for men to ever get over that hurdle.
Sometimes I contemplate if my standards are way too high which could play a role on why I’m 22 years old (almost 23) and have never had sex. I actually want to make love for the first time and not just sex to make things even more special. And I know that’s every women’s dream and I want to make that a reality for me. This makes it even more difficult because I’m still a virgin and I’m already super picky. So this makes me even pickier about who may be my first.
I have a set of expectations and requirements just to date me. I also have another set of expectations and requirements just to keep me. And another set of expectations, requirements, and a whole interview process to even have sex with me. Some may think it’s too much, but many think it’s worth it and they try to exceed all of my expectations and requirements. Whom I consider them to be very worthy. I get guys on Instagram and in real life saying how special I am. They label me special because I am the complete package to them – untouched and perfect inside and outside. But they think I’m even more special when they hear I’m still a virgin and that I am very selective. They all praise me for who I am and tell me that they can hardly ever find a woman like me out there who knows her worth and makes herself very expensive.
Many men label me as someone “which men aren’t so much “lucky’”. This means I am very expensive in their eyes where most can never earn and afford me. And I am viewed as even more attractive because guys feel like it’s a chase and a competition to win the prize (which is all of me). And we all know how guys love the chase and going after people and things that aren’t so easy for them to get their hands on. It gives them a thrill and an ego boost for some. But I came across so many guys who absolutely don’t deserve to take my virginity. But whoever I decide to lose my virginity to means that he has met and maybe even exceeded all my standards and expectations I have for him. So I’ll lose my virginity to the person I think deserves it. If it’s not in this lifetime than so be it.
I am very classy and selective and consider myself very special, important, priceless, and valuable that not just anyone will ever have the chance. You have to be very special and worthy that you’ll cherish and worship me like no other 24/7. I rather not experience sex at all than to let someone undeserving inside my sacred temple – this makes me to be perceived as even more valuable and such a high worth. It’s like the saying, you attract what you are. I know I won’t be happy at all if I ever lowered my standards. Which is why I am actually happy and proud to set such a high bar for anyone who comes and tries to date me, get into a relationship with me, or even tries to have sex with me.
Tips To Approach Me
To be honest, I don’t really have a do’s and don’ts list. It just automatically clicks in my head of when I should say “bye”. But I would say for any guy who approaches me to be yourself, be creative to attract my attention, have a sense of humor and make me laugh, and be open and honest.
Don’t use the same pick-up line or treat me the same way like you do with all the other girls you’re trying to pick up. Treat me like I’m different and treat me like a queen and/ or princess that I deserve with respect.
For the don’ts, I would definitely say don’t lie, cheat, be a pervert, and have wondering eyes. I hate liars because that means everything you do and say are all lies. And I don’t tolerate cheaters and wondering eyes because I should be the only one in your eyes and your heart.
What Attracts Me & Expectations Of My Date
I use to be all about appearances and gifts. I remember at a young age where guys surprised me all the time with gifts because they knew it was a way to get into my heart. I would be surprised with roses, candies, and many expensive things. But as I got older (and I’m only 22-year-old haha), I realize there’s way more to just looks and gifts. Gifts only make you happy temporary for that moment. But when there’s no meaning to the gifts or you don’t feel any connection to the person giving you the gift, it sometimes makes the gift worthless.
Also, many good-looking guys may be attractive on the outside, but they have no idea of how to treat a girl. And looks don’t last forever. So I learned that physical appearances and gifts aren’t that important but it’s still a plus for me. But what attracts me the most is someone who’s intelligent, professional, very caring, very attentive, very sweet, very honest, very open, has a sense of humor, meets up to my standards, and I can go on and on because there’s more to the list after completing those layers. Most of all, my expectations is to treat me and spoil me like a princess and a queen.
Dating Turn Offs For Me
For a person like me who’s super picky and has such high standards, I could say, almost every single thing is a turn off. I get turned off so easily it’s crazy. My tolerance is very low. I can go from heart eyes to ice cold eyes with a snap of a finger. That’s why many people call me the ice queen because I am cold hearted and don’t really have any emotion for guys who don’t meet my standards and expectations.
But if I have to list a few turnoffs for me, the main turnoffs would be guys who only care solely on my appearance, think about sex 24/7, liars, cheaters, perverts, and wondering eyes.
Jade Nguyen Tom – It’s not everyday you get to meet the Virgin Queen who is a mixed Chinese and Vietnamese famous influencer and international model. Put all of the beauty, mysteriousness, intriguing, exoticness, innocence, and purity in the world and you get the sexy Jade Nguyen Tom, whose beauty matches her brains and business acumen, running and leading various organizations while being a double major. Constantly, ranked as one of the hottest models internationally, Jade is one beautiful and sexy lady you never want to take your eyes off after just a single glance.
I am a recent college grad who graduated from the University of the Pacific with a double major in Marketing and Management & Human Resources. Many people think I have the beauty (of being mixed Chinese and Vietnamese) because of my past history of competing in pageants (such as Miss California USA, Miss Vietnam Global, Miss Vietnam Northern California, Face of America, etc.) and modeling competitions (such as Maxim Magazine and Maxim Australia *placed 3rd in both competitions*), while being featured in many publishing sites like Famous Birthdays, Omg Asian Babes, and many others.
What many don’t know is that I also have the brains. I was a double major in Marketing and Management & Human Resources while holding three positions in one organization, one position in another organization, and a side job being a content creator which I was able to grow over 160K followers within three years of opening my Instagram accounts. With all of this, I was still able to give back to my community by volunteering. My personal views towards life is to be spontaneous and ambitious. Shoot for your dreams while still having fun along the way. You only have one life so be able to live it to the fullest. I like to live by the line “live like there’s no tomorrow” to push me to do things that are beyond my limits or what I’m afraid to do. The most important thing for me is to make an impact and lasting impressions wherever I go, so people are able to remember me. And I usually successfully accomplish that because many people label me as very mysterious, exotic, and such a wild card. I love to be able to leave that lasting impression that makes people come begging for more.
My Modeling Journey
I actually was approached by a modeling agent at a very young age. I was about five years old when I stole the hearts of visitors at the Disneyland Resort. A modeling agent approached my parents at the theme park giving them their contact information. Unfortunately, we never went forward with the modeling gig. A few years later when I was nine, the second time was at Target (in a city I didn’t live in). A modeling agent happened to be shopping at the same store and spotted me. The agent proceeded to speak with my parents and I about signing with their agency. But then, my parents and I never went through with it because my parents didn’t like me investing my whole life and career into modeling because it wasn’t promising.
Then at the age of 18, I was snapping photos and posting them online where I was selected by PUSH Models, Femme Fetale Media, and many more to rep for their agencies. I continued to have mainstream success throughout the following months – being asked to play in various roles and commercials while also being asked to compete in various pageants such as Miss California USA, Miss Vietnam Global, Miss Vietnam Northern California, Face of America, etc. In 2019, I was ranked 2nd as the Top 10 Models/ Beauty & Makeup / Fashion Influencers in Hong Kong.
I knew I had become an international model at that stage, but I knew for sure when I was 20 years old where I was handpicked by Maxim Magazine to compete in their international competition. Through that, it was confirmed that I was an international model because I had exposure to such a huge audience from all over the world. Just this year, I was also scouted to compete for Maxim Australia which is all the way across the world. So I guess you could say that I have always been in the eye of the modeling industry but I began to be interested in being part of the modeling industry in my late teenage years.
The Transition To Being An Influencer
At the beginning, I separated being an influencer and model. I actually came onto social media and became an influencer because I had an interest in connecting with people and always wondered how public figures and companies built their brand for themselves. So I guess you can say that my business side kicked in where I wanted to learn how to build a brand while also being able to make a lasting impression where people would remember me for who I am and the impact I’ve done.
The modeling aspect actually merged with being an influencer much later. I was afraid that many people would be blinded by my modeling work that they wouldn’t be able to see the real me. Which was why I kept those two separates. After establishing a fan base, I was able to unveil my past, present, and future modeling work. I now use both experiences interchangeably because they both have many similar aspects to the job.
The Hard Work Done Behind The Photos
I try to be as natural as possible. I am not a big fan of photoshop and editing because it takes away the real beauty you were born with. Instead, I take lots of photos like one hundred per setting, so I have a selection to choose from. Sometimes a few photos don’t capture how you actually look like in real life because of the lighting, angles, lens, etc. Also, a fun fact is that I didn’t start wearing makeup until I was 21 years old. I am all about natural beauty and displaying your natural features instead of covering it up. Even now with the makeup, I only wear very minimal – just eyeliner and lipstick – and I am good to go. I just think that makeup actually harms your skin in the long run and that’s why I only wear eyeliner and lipstick.
I think the hard work actually comes from accepting the beauty you were born with and being able to learn how to display it in the most flawless way. Another hard job behind my photos and videos would be to choose which one I want to post when they all look good. I don’t want to spam my fans with photos from the same settings. So I am faced with the issue of choosing the best few photos to post while the rest just sits sadly in my photo gallery.
Do Guys Feel Intimidated To Ask You Out For Dates?
Yes, all the time. Many guys are intimidated by me even before hearing that I am an international model. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable letting people know that I am an international model because of the impression of what they may have of me and it may be perceived as bragging. So I usually lay low about that topic.
I still get many guys who would stare at me from afar no matter where I am, but they still never have the courage to come up to me to strike up a conversation. But it’s the complete opposite on social media, where I have over thousands of guys in my DMs calling me their dream girl, asking me for my number, to go on dates with them, to meet their parents, some labeling me as their girlfriend, and many proposing to me. And I can understand this because people seem to be bolder online than in-person.
But there have been times where you get a brave guy from time to time who would come up to me and ask me out on a date or for drinks. But because I’m the person that I am, I am very picky and usually think that every guy was out of my league because of the high standards I set. Years have passed from that mentality, and I still maintain those high standards.
I have come to understand that not everyone is perfect and that I need to focus instead on someone who makes me happy in every way and is able to put my needs before theirs while treating me like a queen and/or princess. Some may say that I have increased my standards even more while others may say that I grew to understand what I truly want.
End Of Part 1
Jade Nguyen Tom – It’s not everyday you get to meet the Virgin Queen who is a mixed Chinese and Vietnamese famous influencer and international model. Put all of the beauty, mysteriousness, intriguing, exoticness, innocence, and purity in the world and you get the sexy Jade Nguyen Tom, whose beauty matches her brains and business acumen, running and leading various organizations while being a double major. Constantly, ranked as one of the hottest models internationally, Jade is one beautiful and sexy lady you never want to take your eyes off after just a single glance.
To me, real intimacy means an authentic connection and a sense of comfort. It’s rooted in feeling safe enough to be vulnerable but also aware and conscious enough to hold space for the other person. I feel there is nothing more intimate than focused attention.
My Ideal Date
My ideal date would begin with drinks somewhere beautiful like The Beekman Hotel bar or Bemelman’s Bar at The Carlyle Hotel and catch up over bubbles. Then we’d go to Sushi Nakazawa – my favorite restaurant in NYC – for their incredible Omakase. If time isn’t a factor, a trip to the top of the Empire State Building makes for a lovely nightcap before dessert…
What Makes Me An Ideal Companion
I’ve been described as fun, lighthearted and easy going. I love getting to know people, especially from walks of life other than my own. I consider myself a lifelong learner so I’m always reading and researching subjects that pique my interest, quite a few inspired by my dates.
My variety of interests means I have just as much fun snowboarding and racing supercars at the track as I do shopping at Saint Laurent and sipping champagne at the beach. One thing is for certain – I’m a sucker for a good time!
How Important Is Attraction On A Date?
I think it’s a myth that attraction must be instantaneous – in my experience, the most authentic attraction may start with a spark but grows in intensity as you get to know each other. I have been fortunate enough to experience relationships and attraction that grows even more extraordinary over years of seeing each other and creating lasting memories.
My Dating Turn Offs
My biggest turn-offs include suboptimal hygiene, stinginess, and a negative attitude.
I like to be around people with open hearts and minds.
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Dating is my favorite activity if I’m being honest. I say this because a date can be anything; something as mundane as dinner and a movie, or as exciting as jet skis and Mai Tais. But in my professional life, it’s part of the gig, and my clients usually choose to get to know me over dinner first. I believe the creativity that can be put into a date is what makes them so exciting.
Is It A Misconception That Women Have Higher Expectations Of Dates Than Men?
I absolutely think it’s a misconception! Everyone wants a date to turn out well. Good conversation, a fun activity and a nice story to tell your friends after is something all genders look forward to. I sometimes believe *civilian men expect sex with as little effort as possible, that seems to me the only expectation that many women don’t share in my experience.
Dating Turn Offs For Me
I love the opportunity to show out, get dressed up, and put my best foot forward. In return, I expect the same. Often, civilian men fall short of this. Like the idea that men can throw on a t-shirt and jeans for a date while a woman gets plucked, primmed and prettied. NOT ON MY WATCH.
That’s why I love my clients, they always show up and show out. Effort is sexy, you don’t need a $900 suit on. I just need to know you care about how good we look standing next to each other. I once was taken to an expensive restaurant in a beautiful dress while my civilian date had on cargo shorts, a jersey and knee high socks. I was so embarrassed!
Do First Impressions Matter?
Yes! But I think a second impression matters more. I get first impressions in 30 seconds. But I think second impressions come later after actually listening to the person, getting past any misconceptions or assumptions I made from the first 30 seconds. For instance, a man can be a great date and polite to me. That’s a wonderful first impression, but if he’s disrespectful to wait-staff, that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Second impressions matter more.
Signs I’m Enjoying Myself On A Date
I’m engaged when I’m enjoying myself, I’m nodding emphatically, I’m smiling, and I’m complimenting him. There will be small hand touches or rubbing my foot up the side of his leg if I’m really enjoying myself. I’m a polite woman so I don’t often show when I’m bored but typically, I avoid making eye contact and focus on my drink more than my date.
Don’t judge me, but I’ve taken my phone out before, usually to text my friend to save me. A date would have to be terrible for that to happen though, and not just boring.
Who Should Set Up A Second Date?
The man should do it, no questions asked. If you enjoyed yourself, there’s nothing wrong with saying so once you both arrived home. A second date should be set up within three days.
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I grew up in a semi-small town in Missouri where interracial dating was non-existent. If it did exist, it would have been discouraged, if not attacked outright. I dated white guys simply because it was what girls were supposed to do. But, I always had an attraction to Black men. My white boyfriends seemed to always carry some racist attitudes which in a way, made me even more curious.
Of course, a teenage girl hears the rumors about Black men. That peaks our interest as well. Interracial dating is like an entirely different ballgame. It’s different. It has challenges because racism is still very prevalent, especially among white males who despise the competition. But, interracial dating is like joining a very elite club. Couples support one another and strangers very often ask me about it. Other women seem very curious and ask me about it.
Why I Find Black Men Attractive
I started dating white boys when I was 14. I dated four of them before I had enough. My best friend, who is white, knew I had an attraction to Black men, so she pushed me to go on a double date with her. She dated a Black man and set me up with her boyfriend’s friend who was also Black. I was 21.
There are always exceptions with Black men, like anything else. Not everything I find attractive about Black men is not found in EVERY Black man. But, I have always found a Black man’s style to be attractive. His swag. Black men have a classy, sexy style that’s very alluring to a white woman. Black men naturally have a dominant presence. I love dark Black men. Their dark skin is very masculine especially next to my fair skin. The contrast is alluring. Black men typically have a stronger physical stature. I find that powerful and very attractive.
And yes, typically Black men are bigger down there. I love a Black man’s penis and the way he uses it. Black men are better in bed. They have more stamina and they’re very uninhibited and passionate. Their style and swag; their physical makeup; their minds and attitude. Their “Blackness” is very sexy.
My Experience Of Interracial Dating
It’s generally very positive and exciting. There is still a lot of racism though. It seems mostly to come from white boys. But, other white women are very supportive. When I go out with my boyfriend, other girls often pull me aside and ask me what it’s like to be with a Black man. It used to embarrass me. But, I’m used to it now. I tell them the truth, “it’s amazing!”
Is Interracial Dating More Open In Recent Years?
It’s growing. Everyone knows that. Even racist white boys see that it’s becoming more and more prevalent. I think society is opening up to it because popular opinion is shaping that. Interracial resources are everywhere. In popular culture, interracial can be found out in the open. In the adult entertainment circles, interracial is among the top three most viewed search, behind “girl-girl” and “hardcore”.
Sites like Deeper.com, Blacked.com, and Darkx.com are proof that interracial sex is hot and growing. The occasional resistance we get is pretty much reduced to angry white boys who don’t approve of the way things are going.
Tips For White Women Who Want To Date Black Men
Do it! There’s no time like right now! Don’t let friends or family frighten you or hold you back. Go with your gut and satisfy your attraction. It’s not “weird”; it’s not “wrong”. Society’s acceptance is growing; now is a great time to try it. If you can double date, that will calm some of the anxiety we face going into it for the first time.
We’re strong and we can make up our own minds. If it’s what you want, you have the right to do it. If you’re just wanting to try it for the sex, go for it. No one has to know about what you do in your private life. “Don’t die wondering” is what my best friend told me when she introduced me to my first Black man.
Differences Between Black Men & White Men
Again, there are no absolutes. Not every Black man is this-way and not every white boy is that-way. But, from a general perspective I will say that there are some major differences. The penis is the one thing that comes up most often. Typically Black men are bigger. Not just in length but also in girth. Black men seem to hold an erection a lot longer which goes well with their stamina.
The sex with a Black man is uninhibited and passionate. A Black man typically likes to please us before he pleases himself, which is very refreshing! There are a lot of physical and mental differences between Black men and white boys, most of which I went over previously.
Would You Date A White Man After Being With A Black Man?
Personally, no. I know that some women might go back and forth between black and white. But, I’m very satisfied with Black men. Not to mention, I’m more attracted to the style of a Black man. I don’t find white boys attractive.
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A good date for me personally requires that magnetic pull and drive towards one another. The wanting of more… Mentally, or physically but having to I guess “restrict” yourself. It’s that magic spark as corny as it sounds where you have this excited feeling in your gut before, during, and after the date.
I also like for the date to be planned and organized by the person asking me out… I hate the “Well what do YOU wanna do?” type of person. I gravitate towards the ,”Hey, get ready in an hour – wear something fancy/not fancy I’ll call you when I’m outside.” THAT is so attractive to me.
That, and punctuality. Punctuality is actually a turn on for me, I swear it!
The Importance Of First Impressions
Through school I learned that within the first 3-5 seconds of meeting a person, you will know if you like them or not. Although I do somewhat agree with this statement, I try very hard to push myself away from it. Simply because there have been many occasions where my first impression was not great.
For example, I dated someone for five years actually who thought I hated him. And I used to go home and cry wondering why he isn’t asking me out (really – I cried, LOL). Come to find out it was because when I first met him, he offered me a coffee and I said no, thank you. He took that as a “rejection” when in fact I was just super shy to even look him in the eye, let alone allow him to purchase a cup of coffee for me.
So in short… I think you should explore a person before judging them. First impressions can be awkward, but doesn’t mean you won’t end up dating for five years!
Expectations For A Guy On Dates
Well I’m a bit old fashioned in the sense that I appreciate a true gentleman. I like him opening the door, calling to make sure I got in safely, being courteous to the waiter. I don’t ‘expect” anything per se as expectations lead to broken hearts but I do like certain things in a certain way which include the gentleman type…opening car doors, restaurant doors, offering to pay, pulling out my chair.
I’m old fashioned in that way and I’m very observant and I like the little things. I went on a date once and when the guy picked me up as we were driving, someone turned right in front of us and cut us off and he had to press the brake really hard and fast and his first reaction was to pull his arm out in front of me to make sure I don’t fly forward and that my seatbelt holds me back. I really really liked that.
Common Mistakes Men Make On Dates
Oh I have stories for days! I’m going to write a book one day. My life is like a soap opera. In terms of common mistakes I would say for myself, personally. Because of my outer appearance, usually men think I don’t have much of a brain. When in fact I’m very well educated (studying for my masters), and I’m pretty street smart as well since I raised myself from a fairly young age. That’s one of my biggest pet peeves. The assumption that because I take care of myself physically, that that is all I have to offer.
Or the idea that I’m “just a girl” who does “girly things” and doesn’t know about “boy stuff”. So I have a huge obsession with cars, motorcycles and speed in general. My first car was an M3 and I had it so tinted that I would get pulled over left and right. I can’t tell you the amount of times some guy tried to race me and I kicked his ass or threw him in a ditch, rolled down my window and blew him a kiss and the complete utter shock of me being a female behind the wheel almost blew their mind LOL. Not just a female as I was told.. but, “Are you serious?! A god damn Barbie look alike just took you out bro!”
Can There Be Too Much Flirting On A Date?
I don’t think there can be too much! I’m a huge flirt I’m told. There’s no harm in flirting if you’re not bothering the person! I consider “too much” when it’s just blatantly obvious non-stop compliments… Or planning way into the future while “flirting” on a first date… That stuff can be a bit excessive and can turn me off.
Should There Be Sex On The First Date?
Depends on the date! I’m not against it. I’m not 100% for it. I do believe that there is some sexiness when you delay the intercourse…the mystery of the first encounter…day dreaming about it or “sexting” about all the stuff you’re going to do to them when you see them…That in itself can be extremely fun.
You can be in class and soaking wet from daydreaming about an encounter that hasn’t even happened yet. But then again, if the chemistry is there, and you both want it, why not?? If you’re both adults, and both choosing to consensually engage in intercourse then I mean…why not? Just because it’s the “first date”?!
Have fun, stay safe and go with your gut! (Sometimes your gut is in your heart)
Nadia Eve – Upscale, exotic, fun, bubbly brunette with natural HHH boobs, big bum and flat tummy who loves what she does!
Insecurity. Hurt. Confusion – you might find these emotions splat in the middle of a toxic relationship. Usually, you cannot predict whether or not you and a significant other will end up this way, at least with not 100% accuracy. However, seeking a woman whoseinterests, perspectives, and opinions are ones that might not likely turn toxic in a relationship can be your best bet.
I see men that have this abundant lifestyle in their work and career, filled with many opportunities for them to grow financially. In contrast, those same men find it difficult to fall in love. The reason being might not be so simple, still, before any relationship should strike, a friendship must be established. I’m not talking about the kind of “friendship” most people perceive. Instead, I will be talking about a special form of it – namely, companionship.
What Is Companionship Anyway?
Companionship is a vital connection that provokes a sense of closeness. It can occur in different ways – platonic, sexual, exclusive. In my experience as a companion, I have travelled, attended events and even just hung out with my male friends – the last one being my most preferred. When you are actively and constantly associating yourself with someone, especially on a sexual level, you see a different side than most would.
It may come in the form of a personalized preference or maybe a fantasy. Through the process of opening up to what might seem like a stranger at first, can lead to a form of intimacy that one might not get through the traditional way of dating.
When you are actively and constantly associating yourself with someone, especially on a sexual level, you see a different side than most would.
A friend of mine (we will call her Stacy for the sake of anonymity) who first started dating a boy at her work, soon began finding herself unusually dissatisfied in her long-term relationship. After their breakup, she began in the world of companionship, mainly going on a dating website called Seeking Arrangements. While on a first date with a guy, they eventually ended up in the bedroom. What came up next was an odd surprise that the man was quite shy to speak about. Apparently, in his previous marriage, his wife would laugh at him because he wanted her to take up a dominant role and put a ball gag in his mouth. Stacy, being open to new experiences took up this fantasy. To this day, she still sees this man. In fact, they are happier than ever. I long for this kind of transparency, understanding and familiarity in a dating partner.
No two people have exactly the same ideas on sex. However, sex builds intimacy and intimacy builds sex. Now, we can say that companionship boasts the traits of intimacy – on an emotional, intellectual, and sexual level – as displayed with Stacy. Women already with this adjusted mentality of providing companionship to men also come with attributes such as openness to new experiences, non-traditional ways of thinking, and overall more tolerant to crazy thoughts or ideas.
I mean, wouldn’t you want to be aware of your partner’s dirty little secrets, or know how they like to be touched? Well…
Here’s a reminder that love is always out there, in the air, and maybe closer than you think. So, next time you look to experience a new kind of dating – try to reach out to a companion. You might just get surprised by this special kind of Woman.
Your Lovely Companion,
Miss Kate xo
Miss Kate – Hi, and welcome to the exciting and passionate world of my extravagant thoughts. To give you a sense of who I am, imagine a graceful ballet dancer who wisps away hatred & negativity through finding beauty in all things. My hobbies include literature, dance and fashion. Also, I look for the best in people, which sometimes leads me to interesting experiences. And yes, I do believe in fairy tales.
I absolutely love dating, which is probably why my job as a companion has come so naturally to me. I love the flirting, the laughter, the intimacy and as a result, have made long lasting connections with my amazing suitors. I’m an extrovert at heart, so I also find it really exciting to meet new people.
Have you ever been on a date with someone for the first time, and within the first hour felt like you’ve known them forever? I have, and it’s an incredible experience to connect with someone like that. However, I have noticed that this kind of chemistry is less common (really rare, actually!) in traditional dating, than it is in the world of professional companionship. After some reflection as to “why” that is, I realized that in traditional dating, there are so many outside factors that affect the way we date. Are we compatible? Will they like my friends? Is this someone I see a future with?
These are questions that don’t need to be considered when you’re on a date with a companion. It takes so much of the pressure off and allows us to be much more comfortable with one another. It’s crazy to see how much more enjoyable a date can be when we let go of these expectations and just simply live in the moment.
How Women & Men Differ In Dating
We’ve always been told that men are very sex-focused and women are more emotional when it comes to dating, but I really don’t think that is always the case. People date for a wide variety of reasons. Some just want company, some are looking for someone long-term, some want something fun, and of course some people are simply looking for a sexual experience.
In the real dating world, this can cause a lot of confusion. More often than not, people aren’t on the same page and it can often lead to hurt feelings and awkward conversations. This is where professional companionship becomes a great option; there’s no need to explain yourself or to feel confused about where you stand with your date. If you’re looking to connect and build a relationship with a provider, you can do that.
Most of us love having regulars, and we genuinely care about them. But on the other hand, if you’re just looking for a fun one night fling, there’s absolutely no hard feelings if you never reach out again. Whatever it is you’re seeking, it can surely be found in the world of courtesans.
Unrealistic Dating Expectations I Have Encountered
I’ve definitely gotten some unrealistic date requests from clients. Things like overly specific outfit requests, play-by-plays of how they’d like the entire date to go, long lists of services they’d like me to offer…basically a lot of entitlement and a need for control.
Early on in my career I would try and accommodate these requests, as I felt that it was my job to help create the fantasy my client had in mind. But, I quickly realized that those dates were never as enjoyable for me as the ones that unfolded naturally. I consider myself to be a really genuine person, so it’s hard for me to feel like I’m acting out a script.
Companions can definitely cater to a general fantasy or theme, but we’re not circus performers that are going to jump through hoops for you. Besides, one of the funnest parts about going on date is the uncertainty of how it will all unfold. I think a little bit of mystery is sexy.
Do I Have Expectations Of My Date?
Absolutely. There’s the basics: be clean, be respectful, and be on time. Always put the donation out where I can see it at the beginning of the date. If I’m coming to see you, be a good host. Dim the lights a bit, put some music on, and be sure to offer me at least a glass of water.
Don’t expect to pounce on me as soon as I walk through the door, a little bit of flirtation or witty banter is a necessary part of foreplay. Although it is certainly not required, a small gift like a bottle of wine or chocolate is a very sweet gesture. I really do appreciate the little things.
Does Physical Attraction Matter?
A gentleman’s physical appearance does not matter to me at all. I often get emails from clients apologizing for their looks as they’re concerned it will be a deal breaker for me, and it breaks my heart. Aside from very basic hygiene expectations, your appearance is not important.
It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that’s made so many people feel like their ability to be liked is solely dependent on their looks, when in reality we are all so much more than that. I’ve actually noticed a trend that clients who email me boasting about how good looking they are usually end up being the worst dates. Arrogance is such an ugly trait.
Personally, I love a man who is attentive, respectful, kind, and who understands healthy boundaries. When I know a man really cares about me and respects my body and my time, that’s when I feel like I can really let loose with him.
What Turns Me Off On A Date
A few of my date turn offs are: bad hygiene, gossiping, having a negative attitude, and not behaving discreetly when we’re in public together. I’m very privileged to be in a position where I can be selective about who I spend time with, so thankfully these aren’t things I encounter very often.
Hayden Scott – I am an international luxury companion, catering to those seeking an encounter with someone far from average. I am an intelligent, educated, and attractive young woman yet very friendly, approachable, and down-to-earth. If you are looking for a fun girl with stunning looks and an addictive personality, we should talk!
It seems like everyone’s on a dating site now. It’s how we find people to date and it’s how we find people to hook up with. You can’t just head out to a bar anymore and expect to find someone. No one’s really interested in it. If a woman is looking for a date, she’s going to be trying to find it on a dating site. That’s why it’s so important to take yours seriously. You really want to put some effort into making your dating profile perfect. Here are some tips to get your perfect match online.
Fill Out Your Profile
Don’t be one of those guys who makes a profile with no information on it. That’s not going to get you a good match online. No woman is going to send a message to someone she doesn’t know anything about. You want to write as much about yourself as you possibly can and be honest. You also have to realize that being honest will turn some women away. That’s for the best. If she’s not going to be a good match, there’s no point even talking to her in the first place.
Add Plenty of Pictures
You also need to show yourself off in the best light. That means you have to add as many pictures as you possibly can. Take a look at any profile on a site like Fuckbook. What you see is that everyone has a ton of pictures uploaded. That’s because they know it’s the best way to make sure they have people contacting them. You want the other people on the dating site to see you and think you’re attractive. Find the pictures that make you look hot without lying about how you actually look and you’ll find a match in no time.
Read the Other Profiles
No matter how much time and effort you put into your profile, none of it will matter if you don’t read the other profiles. You don’t want to waste your time by just sending out messages to random people. Just because someone’s hot doesn’t mean they’ll be a good match for you. You want to read what they have to say on their profiles. That’s the whole point of having them in the first place. Find out what the other person likes and doesn’t like. It will save you a lot of time down the road.
Make the First Move
One of the most important things for you to do is not be shy about sending messages. It can be intimidating to find a perfect profile and know what to say. If you think you’re going to be a perfect match for someone, let them know why. Talk about your shared interests. Tell them why you like their profile. Just break the ice by making them see that you can go together well. That’s what’s going to lead to the conversations that get you to your perfect match.
Remember to have Fun
No matter how long you spend trying to find your perfect match, remember to have fun with it. There’s no sense in dating if you’re not having a good time with it. Just talk to new people and enjoy meeting them. When you finally run into your perfect match, you’re going to know it. Enjoy the journey you take to get there. If you don’t let yourself have fun then no one else is going to be able to have fun with you. That’s the best way to go about online dating, no matter what you happen to be looking for.
