Tag: BDSM

How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant

I’ve been kinky for seven years now, professionally and lifestyle. Kink is highly misunderstood and extremely underrated as a therapeutic and growing mechanism to the general public. This is why I began doing visual Femdom Art through self-portrait photographs and directing My own short films in order to showcase a side to BDSM without words, just pure aesthetics — no acting, simply a fluid demonstration of how powerful I am in real life and in-person sessions.

Alternative lifestyles are so broad and that is exactly what I love about this world: There is no wrong or right way to do things; there is a matter of safety and consent of course, but after you enter the play arena, it’s pretty much based on the rules and negotiations of the participating parties. No one else needs to follow their rules unless they are a part of their lives in an engaging way. To each their own. It’s wonderful, it’s infinite, and worth every single moment of exploration.

Misconceptions About Dominants

Professionals who are also Lifestyle Dominants add such a huge value to those who are both new as well as seasoned players. Why? We play with so many different types of people in such a short span of time compared to those who are just Lifestyle. We grow at an exponential rate and adjust to every person we interact with by adapting to their fetishes and preferences. Money is great, but at the end of the day, it needs to be sustainable to become a full-time occupation.

I love playing. I delight in figuring out each person, solving which type of dynamic works best, making up protocol for those I am responsible for should they earn a place in My life. Dominants may be perceived as bitchy or that They get to relax and “just get served all day,” but NO. It’s hard work. Even more so for professionals: In the lifestyle, Dominants have to take care of the people they play and establish dynamics with; they are responsible for protecting their mental health, their physical bodies and awareness of medical conditions, improving their spiritual selves, and overall, making sure they have fun. It’s a literal relationship – it doesn’t have to be romantic, but it takes just as much effort in order to build something together that meaningful. Sure, it can be light and have no strings attached, but that doesn’t mean focus is not held for the duration of the entire playtime.

Professionals have to do all of this as well as become a business person such as recording their finances and redistributing those earnings to life necessities, marketing, possibly touring different cities, equipment for creating new content, and countless others. We have to remember each sub or fetishist and evolve together with their progress. It’s so much more than just being called “Mistress” or “Goddess” or “Domina” and having Our boots cleaned and giving punishments through impact.

Why A Beginner Should Engage Me As A Dominant

As a Professional Domme, I am able to hold a safe space without judgement while using an extensive rolodex of experience in multiple areas and scenarios. Being Lifestyle is a great way to exchange intimacy with someone’s skills no matter the difficulty. The latter is much more intense with higher work expectations, but more rewarding than the prior.

Being an artist makes Me even more versatile as I’m able to come up with creative solutions to situations that any kinkster may present Me. It keeps Me sharp and expands My own way of playing as I tend to make every scene unique even with regular players.

How Does A Beginner Choose Between Being A Dom Or Sub?

Some people have a disposition where they think they may stand either wanting to control a situation or wanting to be controlled in a situation. This can start as one thing and change to another. For example, for those in positions of power in everyday life – the entrepreneurs, corporate partners, and political leaders are in control most of the time – and that may not be what they want in private. They might crave the opposite and want to relinquish all responsibility to someone else they trust.

I’ve known Tops who have had many people go up to them wanting them to Dominate, but over time, they get tired and want someone else to take over for their own personal experience. For those who are just starting out, My advice is to go out and try both and see where you fall. I’ve seen subs become Switches, voyeurs become fetishists, and those in D/s dynamics give that up completely to just enjoy eroticism.

The Competitiveness Of Being A Dom In The Kink Community

In the last 5-10 years, kink has become much more popular in media through fan fiction that lead to Hollywood films, multiple televised documentary series that portray daily life with specific types of dynamics, and even fetish fashion penetrating celebrities’ wardrobes to red carpet events or their thousands of dollars worth of music videos. Social profiles are not just accessible to those who are tuned in the lifestyle, but EVERYONE. Sexuality has been so constricted by society, one is driven to break out of the conditioning we were taught since young. Curiosity drives people to try new things. It’s easier to do that when you see a famous person dipping their toes into alternative culture alongside local people to your city advertising kinky services.

I think having a brand of what type of Dom/me you are, not for the sake of show, but truly being niche in something no one else is doing or no one else can do but you helps you shine. What makes you different from the Dom/me next door? The public is quick to categorize people into race or by specialty. I’ve managed to step over those labels because instead of being the mixed Asian or Chinese-Filipina-Spanish Domme, I am actually known for being a nurturing Sadistic Sensualist specializing in hypnotic healing and impactful discipline through eroticism. Plus, I also create My own art Myself. Therefore, I am more.

Characteristics I Look For In A Sub

What I seek for potential subs is quite simple: Common sense, a sense of respect and reverence, and a willingness to be trained [by ME] – no matter how experienced they are. Good hygiene is also important – many come to Me freshened up or showered with even their best underwear on. Approach Me like you are applying for a job interview, but make it personal. I want to know why you want to serve Me.

Give Me a glimpse at your previous experiences. What are your interests? What are you curious about? What are considered your hard limits? Do you know Mine? They should after reading My website – all of My information is on there. If they read it, I will know by what they reference or what questions they ask. In My eyes, subs should be open to being molded into the most useful entity to their Dominant. Forget everything you learned previously if it no longer applies, or, use what you have learned previously and thoroughly research on how you can serve Me better. Offer yourself not just in play, but outside play to My needs.

Know My desires because you genuinely want to fulfill them and not your own fetishes. I mentioned skills previously: For subs who are seeking either professional or personal counsel, this means anything I can use that you are proficient at. This can include driving, bartending, website development, cinematography, video editing, etc. I will never let you forget you are here to serve Me, and the longer you stick with Me, the more you will be rewarded with becoming integrated into My Life.

I want to thank SimplySxy for having Me today and for asking these thought provoking questions. Questions about how I began My journey and what I specialize in can be found on My Publications page via My website at DOMINAMARA.ORG. My Youtube.com/c/DominaMara channel is an informative resource with many videos from when I first became independent and what I’ve learned: How to approach a Mistress, why I don’t Switch or sub, what My thoughts are on fetish wear, and much more. I still offer photo prints for any of My images found on My website, and any supportive donation is always appreciated as every creative output is funded out of pocket. If you cannot gift due to difficult times, sharing My content through forwarding, reposting, retweeting, collaborating, and featuring Me works just as well.

Catch the video version of this interview here –

Domina Mara – I hail from the heart of California with an exotic mix of Chinese, Filipino, and Spanish blood. My career began in 2013 as a professional BDSM player at a local dungeon in Los Angeles, and created a solid foundation for My knowledge of Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, and Sado-Masochism. As a Dominant Mistress, My greatest joy is watching you transform into the most humble and genuine submissive with PURPOSE.

Follow Domina Mara on

Website: https://DominaMara.org/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DominaMara

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MaraDomina

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MaraDomina

OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/DominaMara

Other Websites:
• https://stars.avn.com/DominaMara
• https://IwantMara.com/
• https://clips4sale.com/115042
• https://www.niteflirt.com/DominaMara

Amazon: https://amzn.to/1V4zKPS

I am currently accepting select in-person sessions in Los Angeles as well as remote online text, phone, and cam sessions to play with My regulars and kinky newbies around the world. While I’m not playing, I am renovating My Home like many others during this lockdown time, and will be releasing the makeovers on my YouTube Channel [Youtube.com/c/DominaMara].

Due to the pandemic, My travels to the UK, Philippines, and Middle East were cancelled this 2020 and postponed until further notice. Sign up for My Newsletter via DOMINAMARA.COM to receive monthly updates on travel, Youtube videos, new photo sets, interviews, product releases, and other collaborations in the works.

Article images courtesy of Domina Mara

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

September 8, 2020
Interview With Domina Mara

SimplySxy has the pleasure of featuring Domina Mara (Miss Mara) on the topic of “How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant“.

Here, Domina Mara shares her insights on misconceptions about Dominants, how to stand out in the kink community as one and why she is the ideal Dominant for you to explore your interest in kink!

Catch our Domina Mara feature on “How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant” that will be out soon!

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

September 6, 2020
How To Explore & Enjoy Hand & Nail Fetishes

Having a hand and nail fetish is a lot of fun! I’ve been painting my nails weekly since I could hold a nail polish bottle. Admittedly, I have very high standards for manicures so I’m infinitely grateful to have found the perfect nail tech for me. The hand massage, cuticle trimming and oil, the polish gliding across my nails is truly satisfying to watch. Manicures are one of my favorite ways to relax.

Hand and nail fetishes are not wildly popular and I’ve found that some people don’t know they have a hand/nail fetish until they come across a beautiful pair of hands or manicure that blows their mind. Then it’s something you start to notice and appreciate. I’ve had ex-boyfriends tell me I “ruined” un-manicured hands/nails for them, so they pay for their new girlfriends to get manicures regularly. I sometimes wonder if the rise in popularity of nail art accounts on social media will create more hand/nail fetishists.

Are Hand & Nail Fetishes A Misunderstood Fetish?

I don’t think hand or nail fetishes are misunderstood. People can easily come to understand hand and nail fetishes, probably because of some similarities to feet and pedicure fetishes. I find that people are surprised to discover that hand and nail fetishes exist more than anything. The fetishes being less known makes these types of submissives slightly rare, but they’re quick to fall in love and appreciate that I share their passion.

How To Explore Your Hand & Nail Fetish

Similar to other fetishes, embrace your hand and nail fetish! Self-experimentation is always essential, in my opinion. Try to pinpoint what you like and why, and have fun from there. Perhaps you worship a specific nail shape, soft hands, finger length, polish color/finish, etc. You may love spoiling a Domme with manicures. Booking a session with a Pro Domme is a perfect starting point for exploration. They will be able to guide you and provide you with a fantastic experience.

Hand & Nail Fetish Play I Enjoy

I like to accompany nail fetish with financial domination, sensation play, and ASMR. Few things make me happier than a sub paying for me to get pampered with a new manicure. Those who pay earn seeing my manicure first with personalized content, so it’s a lot of fun (and sometimes torturous) for them. Rhythmic nail tapping can be very hypnotic.

I enjoy using it as an anticipation tactic (especially during in-person sessions). My nails are naturally strong and long, so it’s easy for me to shape my nails to any shape to tease, scratch, or claw as I desire.

Chloe Manson – I am a professional Dominatrix and fetish content producer based in Austin, Texas. A more sadistic Domme, I specialize in impact and ballbusting. When I’m not satiating my sadism, I’m quite playful or sensual. I also have a strong money fetish and adore financial domination. Outside of kink I enjoy traveling, spa days, dancing and watching ballet, and eating at the best vegan restaurants.

Follow Chloe Manon on

Website: ChloeManson.com

Twitter: twitter.com/TheChloeManson

AVN Stars: chloemanson.avnstars.com

I’m going to reopen commissions for custom clips in September ONLY for my fan club members! Subscribe to my AVN Stars fan club for updates and be the first to order!

Article images courtesy of @s.paige.a

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

September 4, 2020
Why I Believe In Female Superiority

As far back as I can remember I always felt that Women were superior to men and that their natural position is to rule over men. I’ve always had an irresistible need to serve and obey Women. To be slapped, whipped and put to work through protocol, to be guided, trained and disciplined by a strong Woman is natural for me.

Once again, protocol is essential for I live to slave and must slave to live. The physical glamour, stilettos, and leather always represents superiority, strength, intelligence, and beauty.

I think that kink and the alternative lifestyle serves as a tool to bring people together, allowing the savage within to come out and express itself as it may.

How My Interest In Female Superiority Started

Long before puberty, I looked up to Women and recognized their dominance, therefore I wanted to serve, obey, be disciplined and ruled by a Woman. So being submissive wasn’t forced but rather, alive inside of me. It was, and is natural. I am built that way and I recognize and accept the fact that it is who I am. It is a necessary component of myself, and that strengths me in my endeavours to submit to Women.

Exploring Female Superiority

In my adolescence years, I displayed humility to women when having the shit slapped out of me while subduing the feeling of getting on my knees and licking their boots And kissing their feet and how good it would have felt to be whipped unmercifully and left to worship them and being put to work.

In my teens, I went to prostitutes to be disciplined, slapped, whipped with a belt and boot, and foot worshipped. But from there, I went to New York where I experienced a professional Dominatrix with a no sex protocol, Florentine Whipping, obedience training. And would continue to go to New York on a regular bases. All the way from Chicago.

Why I Believe In Female Superiority

I have a need for female authority to serve domestically, to be ruled and disciplined, to serve her and make her life easier. Her satisfaction is my goal. To honor, obey, love and protect.

What I Have Done So Far For My Dommes

Wait on her hand and foot, and domestic service. Giving myself, time dedication and devotion.

What It Takes To Be A Good Submissive

Willingness is the key along with protocol, and communication, a fervor to serve and a spirit to obey.

Currently, I’m seeking to have a dominatrix in a Collared LifeTime Relationship 24/7. Someone special, and I am retired willing and able to relocate in the U.S. or abroad.

Though communication is essential, as a slave I should be seen and not heard, my possessions are turned over to my Mistress. I will work diligently at my assigned task, and the luxury and pleasure goes to my Mistress and the chores and ass kickings goes to me. I will make sure that her boots and shoes are cleaned with saddle soap and shined properly at all times and strive to do her bidding.

Currently I’m seeking to be collared in a 24/7 relationship

Joel – I am a small, petit black male 510 ht, 165lbs, in my early 60s, kink wise I’m into servitude and corporal, hobbies are cooking, grilling, and barbecue, reading, book club, movies, music,, concerts, traveling, and entertaining cooking having people over, playing cards, interest language and martial arts. I’m fit in good health.

Featured image from Shutterstock

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

August 7, 2020
What Exactly Is EFRO? (Erotic Female Relieving Observation)

Hey we only live once! Whatever your kink/fetish is, I say enjoy it to the max, don’t be embarrassed or ashamed. We just need to understand not everyone is going to be open to it and that’s ok. Make connections with like minded people and enjoy yourself in a fun safe manner.

What Does EFRO Involve?

EFRO is very voyeuristic, it’s about watching someone in there most intimate bathroom moments. It was my husband that got me into it as it was his fetish from a young age. I started making content for his enjoyment and began to realize I liked the idea of knowing I was going to be watched and people would be getting off to it.

Reasons Men Love EFRO

It’s not mainstream at all, very taboo, and in a lot of social circles people would not ever talk about such a thing. I believe that drives the desire to want to watch and on the flip side it also makes girls want to be watched, knowing that men desire it so bad.

EFRO Videos I Have Done

The video I have shared is a very simple concept. It is shot between the legs while sitting on the toilet, giving a nice up close view of the action. Videos can be shot many different ways and from many angles. This one is my go to when I am just trying to catch the action on a busy day.

One thing I do that most others don’t that my fans like is I include a pic at the end of the video showing the finished product in the toilet before wiping and flushing.

Misconceptions On EFRO

EFRO is not SCAT, the line often gets blurred between the two. Scat is very hardcore and involves a lot of smearing, touching, and in extreme cases eating.

EFRO is more about watching the act of going and can include going in locations that would be considered naughty, like on the floor or outside etc.

We are Piper Jones and Friends which consists of myself, Luscious Lucy, and Mr. Jones. We are your average married couple/family with vanilla jobs. We do this just for fun and of course the extra income doesn’t hurt. Lucy is our mutual friend with benefits that contributes content as well.

Follow us on

https://loverfans.com/piperjones80

https://www.pornhub.com/model/piperjonesnfriends FREE – fan club $3/month

https://twitter.com/piperjones80 FREE

https://www.reddit.com/user/BDTW2018 FREE includes vids/pics

https://stars.avn.com/piperjones80 Just $3/month *new profile for us*

https://www.pinkcherryaffiliate.com/sextoys.php?id=2828 Check them out!

Images courtesy of Piper Jones & Friends

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

July 30, 2020
What To Know About Nylon Fetishes

Let me start by saying that some years ago, I had absolutely no idea about many kinks and fetishes. However, being a cam girl really opened my eyes. I learned so much about the world we live in and about people in general, that I can almost say that I’ve discovered an entirely new and previously hidden world. I found out that nothing is as it seems on the surface and that people are a lot more complex than I had previously thought.

In my line of work, I met all kinds of people, from various social environments, but I noticed that we’re pretty much all alike. We all have some kinks or fetishes which we hide from the world. Most of them have their origins in early childhood and as we start our life by being told what’s good and bad, what’s normal and what’s not, most of the time, we simply hide what we really like because we fear being judged and rejected from our social circles. For example, a man who enjoys wearing nylons will rarely tell anyone about it because he’ll be afraid of being labeled as a weirdo, a freak and he’ll completely smother and repress his true feelings and needs. That can end up causing serious problems in the long run, such as frustration, social isolation, depression etc.

I live in a former communist country and people are still not very open minded about alternative lifestyles and kinks. Still, there’s hope with the new generations. Online, I met people from all over the world and though some societies are a bit more open minded, most of them are still hiding their true selves. The online environment has become their alternate life, where they can come and talk to people who do not judge them and who, on the contrary, are encouraging and supportive.

In the beginning, Some are ashamed to tell me what they like, because they’re expecting to hear that it’s wrong and freaky and it feels absolutely amazing when they hear that everything is okay, as long as we do not cause harm to others. I always tell them that with me, they can remove their shields and armour and be themselves, because they’re in a safe place, maybe the only one where they won’t be judged. I really admire the people who manage to stand up for who they really are, be themselves, go out and show the world their true colours. I can’t think of anything more brave, but it’s extremely hard to do these days, without serious social consequences.

I truly believe that we should explore various things in life and not repress our needs. My job makes me really happy because I can help people do that, encourage them to live the moment and embrace who they truly are. I believe everybody would be much happier if we all be more tolerant and we wouldn’t have to hide what we like as often as we are at the moment. So my advice is, go out there and be who you are, keep close to you the people who like you for who you really are and wear the damn nylons!

What Is A Nylon Fetish Exactly?

The nylon fetish is basically the sexual arousal derived by seeing someone wearing nylons or by wearing them yourself. It usually involves pantyhose and stockings, but also nylons socks, bodysuits, nylon layers (wearing more than one nylon at a time), nylons masks, nylon encasement, where you cover yours or your partner’s entire body in nylons and many more. It can include wearing the nylons during sex or just observing someone else wearing them. I can honestly say that it is by far my favorite fetish, since I m a huge nylon fan myself.

I do love everything about nylons: how they look, how they feel and I also enjoy the complexity of the fetish. You can always try on new things, discover something you didn’t know you previously liked, mostly because it literally gets all five senses involved. Most of the nylon fetishists I know like the look of nylons and how they define the legs so much better. They like the sound the nylons are making when you rub them together, they looove how the nylons smell after being worn for a while, they like how they feel to the touch and how they taste!

So, there you have it! Complex and sensual, what more can you ask for?

How Pantyhoses Are Interrelated With Nylon Fetishes

Pantyhose is definitely the most popular item with the nylon fetishists. A lot more than stockings, I’d say. Stockings are also enjoyed by people who do not have nylon fetish and who simply like sexy lingerie. On cam, many people who are not really into nylons, ask me to remove the pantyhose and wear panties and stockings, because it’s sexier that way and “they want easier access” 😉

Well, that s something you’ll never hear from a nylon fetishist. They’ll never want easy access. The more nylons available, the better! What makes pantyhose so special? It simply has it all. You can enjoy the silky smooth feeling on the legs (but not just on them), they look incredible, they always make the legs look better, covering all flaws and giving them that sexy shine we all love. Also, pantyhose, unlike stockings, cover the crotch area. Many guys are turned on by how my ass looks in them and they can just stare at it and “worship”, while others enjoy watching me play with myself, under and over the pantyhose. For most, I never have to take it off. They imagine how the gusset and feet smell after an entire day of wearing them, without panties, of course! 😉

Also, most guys love nylon foot tease too, so they can imagine how my feet smell or taste. Some like to be humiliated and I have to set on their faces in hose or shove my nylon covered feet in their mouths. I have to say that many pantyhose fetishists like wearing nylons as well and enjoy imagining rubbing our nylon bodies together. Many of them want to purchase my worn pantyhose, so they can feel my scent on them, which of course makes the experience even more intense. There’s so much to explore about it, I don’t think we’ll ever find the limits. All we can do is try and have fun while doing it 😉

Are Nylon Fetishes Popular?

The nylon fetish is so popular, that it cannot really be called a fetish anymore. I think it’s normality, when so many people like it. Saying “I like nylons” is almost like saying,”I like breasts” or “I like long legs”. Of course, there are still fetishist parts of it, the one which usually go beyond looking at them and touching them and also, I consider fetishists the people who are truly obsessed by them and can no longer be sexually aroused by anything else. I strongly believe that there are more nylons lovers there then we know.

Most people I meet tell me that they’re keeping their love for nylons private but that they really wished women wore them more. Some of them complain that women are getting too “casual” and that you can only see them in nylons when they’re going to work. They are kind of right, so there’s never a lack of nylon fans to keep me company on line.

Misconceptions About Nylon Fetishes

I think that there are too many misconceptions about fetishes in general. As I previously stated, when we hear fetish, we think “weird”, “freaky”, “dirty” and the last thing we want is to be around a person with fetishes. What’s sad is that sometimes results in jokes and stigma. Well, that’s why I called them misconceptions…Nothing could be further from the truth. After all, a fetish is basically a fascination for a part of the body or one or more objects.

For most people, the object or body part of desire has a very deeply rooted meaning, usually connected to the childhood years. What we should be open about is that most of us have at least one fetish and yet we keep judging others for theirs, just because they’re more “colourful” or simply because they’re not afraid or ashamed to show it. Also, there isn’t a specific type of people who are fetishists. We’re all in it, all races, colours and nationalities, so there are no “freaks”, we are simply different, and I find beauty in diversity. If we weren’t so complex, we’d live in a dull world. We just need to be more tolerant and just spread some love.

Regarding nylons, the most common misconception I encounter is the one about men who enjoy wearing stockings or pantyhose. They’re afraid to tell anyone for fear of being judged and they’re mostly right. I know some who told their wives or girlfriends that they enjoy wearing nylons and they ended up breaking up and being called sissies or even gay! I’ll state again that the best part of my job is telling people that hey, you’re safe here, do your thing, nobody will judge you. My chat room is really an oasis for most, an alternate reality, where they feel comfortable and they can be themselves.

Favorite Nylon Fetish Content My Fans Love

Haha I don t think there’s such a thing as a nylon fetish content which my fans don’t like! Basically, everything goes and of course, some people like more clips than others. It really depends on their specific desires. Some (very few) are not at all into feet. They enjoy teasing and sex in nylons. Others tell me “I do not need pussy when I’m able to sniff your sweaty nylon feet!”

I try to keep my posts diverse, so everybody can find what they enjoy seeing without looking too hard. Also, I like to go that extra mile and combine the “guilty pleasures” For example, sometimes, instead of wearing a normal top, I wear a ripped or open crotch pantyhose and add some oil over it! No proper nylon fan is going to say no to that one 😉

I do a lot of foot teasing, also shoe play, layering and humiliation, which always brings a lot of nylon fans. They just love being punished with some good foot worshipping 😉 What makes things easy for me is that my followers always tell me about their ideas and what they’d love to see, so I get a lot of help and support from them. After a while, it just comes naturally.

Advice For Nylon Fetish Beginners

Newbies, welcome to my world! Haha! What can I say, it will be a hell of a ride and honestly, you’ll probably end up a nylon junky like me. Just enjoy it, let go, forget about misconceptions and take it one step at a time, but try it all! What better way to find what you like? Explore! Find someone who likes the same thing or who s at least understanding and willing to try new things with you.

Have fun! There are no boundaries to this fetish. The only limit is your imagination and since you’re here, I guess you love using it 😉 Look at the nylons, touch, grab, pull, sniff, taste, wear them, do it all.

Thank me later 😉

Annelyce – Hello, everyone! I’m Anna from Romania and I loooove nylons and nylons fetishists! I’m a former teacher and call center consultant who discovered that being a cam model is a lot more fun 😉 I love everything about camming, but I must admit that the nylon games are my favorite! Look me up and lets get to know each other better.

Follow Annelyce on

Twitter: @annelyceLJ

Cam site: https://m.livejasmin.com/en/chat/AnnelyceFox

Images courtesy of Annelyce

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

July 24, 2020
What To Know About Coerced Bi

I grew up wanting to be a therapist or get into psychology somehow. When I discovered my own kinks and fetishes blossoming in early adulthood I realized that sex and psychology go hand in hand. I wanted to learn more, even if the fetishes didn’t get me off personally. Fetishes fascinate me! From talking to many kinky people I’ve surmised that sex work and me becoming a dominatrix was my calling.

Being able to express your sexual side without fear of shame or guilt is, in it’s own ways, a type of therapy. No way am I saying it’s a substitute for therapy with a real licensed professional. But I believe if kinks/fetishes have a safe space to blossom, grow and be expressed, then that’s a good route to take for balancing one’s life.

Why I Specialise In The Coerced-Bi Fetish

Coerced-Bi is the notion that the viewer is by all intents and purposes “Straight”. The Domme or lead participator in this fetish “convinces” the viewer/sub that they are in fact Bisexual or leaning on the Gay side. The Domme/Lead can play around in many ways with this. Often times, a strap-on with dildo is presented to “train” the participator/sub into liking and servicing men with dicks. The participator who is perceived Straight is mesmerized into the idea by the Domme/Lead using their feminine aura to “trick” them into liking the other gender.

The Domme/Lead can focus on parts of them that society generally views as “Female”. Breast play, pussy tease and denial all while brandishing a huge cock is meant to “confuse” the participator and convince them over time and “Training” that they are meant to be Bisexual or Gay. The entire fetish plays on a “forced” vibe where the sub/viewer feels they are being coerced into this.

I feel that this is my specialty because I actually get off to this whole idea that “no man is straight”. I’ve had many play partners and paying fetishists on and offline indulge me in this. From catering to this fetish for about five years I feel that I’ve spoken and played with all types of men who enjoy this fetish. I’ve even had some privately tell me that this fetish helped them actually “come out of the closet” and acknowledge their own sexuality and not be afraid to express it. That alone is why I keep doing this.

It’s hot making men suck cock. But it’s meaningful when they actually tell me it helped them become who they are in their “Real” offline lives.

Common Misinterpretations Of Coerced-Bi?

People get offended by everything now a days. Mostly kink shamers who don’t understand. And as we know, how humans react with fear, is hate. Misunderstandings lead to shame and guilt ridden comments. But it’s all lack of knowledge or experience in my opinion. Some people don’t like the word “forced ” but rest assured, if you paid me for a session, I respect what words you do and don’t like. But if its just a baited comment, I ignore.

The fetish revolves around this “Forced” or “Coerced” feel. That’s what gets the men off. If it doesn’t get you off, keep it pushing. I don’t have that mindset because if I don’t personally like something, I keep it moving. Who are we to judge one another? Likes don’t have moral value and everyone has a different morals code. Live and let live and don’t knock it till ya try it!

Favorite Coerced-Bi Activities & What They Involve

I really love strap-on play. When filming, I angle the camera down-looking-up so the viewer feels they are on their knees. I love having men beg to suck my cock and then I make them beg to go service a real man. Some men get off to the idea of being “pimped out” and I admit, I get off to that too.

It’s all about power and control and taking away one’s power and control. The sub/viewer puts immense trust in me and that lights my soul on fire. I love playing around with this fetish any chance I get. I love bringing a fantasy to life and I pride myself on my fetish fun custom videos!

How To Prepare Yourself For A Coerced-Bi Session

Buy a clip or five first to see my style and how I approach this fetish. Come with an open mind and we will flow perfectly. I respect and acknowledge all likes/dislikes, safe words, limits and turn ons/turn offs. Communication is KEY so tell me when you’re enjoying something or when something isn’t what pleasures you.

I am strictly online only. I do NOT offer real time. I detest entitled men so come with respect. I do not barter and I dislike someone who tries to haggle me. Other than that, let’s have kinky fun!!!

Goddess Asari – Ebony Domination. The Queen of Tease. Lewd, Crude and Tattooed. Alpha Female. Ethereal Goddess and Vixen. Heart-Breaker, Cock-destroyer and Sissy-Maker.

Follow Goddess Asari on

ManyVids: goddess_asari.manyvids.com

Clips4Sale: clips4sale.com/store/73481

OnlyFans: OnlyFans.com/GalacticDomme

AVN: stars.avn.com/galacticdomme

Twitter: @GalacticDomme

Images courtesy of Goddess Asari

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

June 26, 2020
What To Know About Sensual Domination & Sensation Play

My formal training background is in somatic sex therapy, Tantra and sexual healing. I evolved my sessions to go deeper and explore the “shadow” side of sexuality. I added elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, sensation play, and the psychological aspect of kink, fantasy and role playing to my sessions. When people think of a dominatrix archetype, they think ‘mean, cold, cruel’.

I am naturally sensual, sexy and playful but I always remain in a dominant role. Many of my students don’t identify as submissive or kinky, so part of my work is getting into their head to see what makes them tick. My work is part psychotherapist and personal trainer. Erotic embodiment starts in the mind. Being pushed out of our comfort zones is where we grow.

What Does Sensual Domination Involve?

Many believe “sensual domination” is a focus on pleasure instead of pain. But what if bringing someone to the edge of their pain and pushing their boundaries to submit and let go makes it pleasurable? What if being “punished” meant you had to give up control and give it to another, but at the same time knowing they would not break your boundaries and really hurt you?

What I personally enjoy about sensual domination is pushing my students boundaries (not crossing them), giving them pain, pleasure and a thousand other feelings and sensations they’ve never experienced. After 90 minutes strapped down to my table, deprived of their senses and taking them on a sensation roller coaster, most of my students are speechless when the session is over.

I think many experience a spiritual awakening they can’t get from talk therapy or even sex with a partner. I love being able to give them something they’ve never experienced, and it often opens the doors to new sexual explorations.

Why Subs Enjoy This Kink

A true submissive is someone who gets pleasure from my pleasure, so I tell them what I like and they naturally enjoy giving. I love subs that love servitude! My favorite submissive students are foot and pantyhose fetishists. I love having my feet massaged and legs stroked over my stockings. I also love role playing with ‘sissy boys’ and seeing them dressed as slutty girls.

If it’s something that turns me on, it turns them on, so it’s not really humiliation or punishment.

Incorporating Sensation Play Into Sensual Domination

Before I blindfold and place my student in bondage, we talk about what they want to learn, role play or simply let go of their thoughts completely. We go over boundaries, safe words, mutual trust, etc. We do a submission ritual and I ask them to let go of control, trust me to guide them on a journey and bring them home safely. I use all types of sensation, not just floggers and paddles. When we deprive the senses (eyes and ears), other senses get heightened.

I often use essential oil scents in the air. The touch of my nails lightly caressing their backside, then it might turn into a spank. I use metal and glass objects (cold sensations), hot stones, intense vibrators, sex toys, feathers, fur, leather, silk. Even forks and toothbrushes might be used. I think of my students’ body as my canvas, and I get to use my brushes to creatively express myself while responding to their reactions. I also enjoy adding prostate massage, dildos and strap on play (if agreed upon before the session.) Endorphins are heightened, and they begin to relax and accept they’re helpless and vulnerable.

I think most men have the ‘happy ending’ in the front of their minds when we start the session as that’s what they associate being naked on a table with an attractive woman touching them, but that’s not anything I promise. The session is about pleasing ME, I have to remind them. The more they push for that, the more fun it is to tease and make them beg. Every session is unique, and I might free up one arm to let a student masturbate if they beg and plead, but ejaculation is never the goal of a session.

If This Is Your First Sensual Domination Session…

If hiring a professional dominant, don’t expect a hand job. If that’s your goal, see an erotic massage provider. Remember, you are there to serve the Goddess first. Find professionals who’ve been around a few years and have a reputation. Look at their social media accounts, read their website and blog posts. You don’t want to be tied up or mind-fucked by someone you can’t trust. Before emailing them, read their website well. I can’t stress this enough!

If you ask questions that are clearly on her website, you’ve already shown her that you’re going to be a difficult student. Write to her as if you were trying to land your dream job position. Would you email your potential new boss, ‘U avail now for work? How much u pay?” If she has a gift wish list or a way to tip her online, do it! It shows us you’re serious and you really like to serve. Little things can go a long away in making a good or bad first impression.

Always shower right before the session and really clean between those butt cheeks and balls with a soap and a wash cloth! If you’re coming straight from work, ask her before the session if you can use her shower (but note that time may come out of your session time.)

If you want to any kind of ass play or prostate massage (and she offers it), I recommend a few hours before your session, cleaning out the lower part of your anal cavity with a few squirts of warm water. You can lie on the floor and use an old-school hot water bottle with a douche attachment (always use lukewarm water); or a powerful hand-held shower massager for a few seconds; or just a plastic water bottle (get into a doggie style position with your ass way up in the tub while you gently squeeze a few ounces of warm water, then let the water flow out). This is for just cleaning the lower colon.

If you want to take a really big toy or get pegged (strap-on play), you’ll want to do a full colon clean out, which I recommend doing the night before. Even with cleaning, “shit happens” sometimes. I can’t speak for all Dommes, but I don’t shame my students if it happens (but I also don’t offer scat play or diaper fetish play, so if that’s your thing, you should let the Domme know beforehand.)

You should expect in any kink or BDSM play, the RACK tenets: Risk Accepted Consensual Kink. Dommes and subs are in charge of speaking their own boundaries, and at any point during playtime the Domme or sub may stop or alter what they are doing by stating their safe word. After the session is over, doing ‘aftercare’- Checking in with each other, making sure their sub is in a good head space and feeling ok physically (I always remind them to drink lots of water and have a snack if feeling light-headed.)

A ‘sub drop’ sadness sometimes happens after dropping from ‘cloud 9’ euphoria and coming back down to earth. I give some time at the end of the session if they need to talk or process their feelings. Above all, expect to be pleasantly surprised and you’ll have an amazing session!

Mistress Marlena Maven – A sensual dominatrix, certified somatic sex educator and couples’ kink coach. She is available for online sessions worldwide as well as her studio in Portland, Oregon.

Follow Mistress Marlena on

Website: TheSensualDominatrix.com

Twitter: Twitter.com/Naked_Therapist

Images From Mistress Marlena

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

May 23, 2020
What To Know About Small Penis Humiliation

My personal views towards kink and alternative lifestyles are that everyone should try it and be open minded. Stop being judgmental because at the end the day, many people practice fetish and kink and don’t even know it. It’s a major part of my life and not just the professional part, I live the lifestyle as well.

What Small Penis Humiliation Involves

Small penis humiliation is exactly what it sounds like. It’s the art of making fun of men with little penises. I just filmed five videos of it yesterday. I love small penis humiliation as it’s one of my favorite fetishes. There’s ways to go about humiliating them, you can compare their small penises to other objects or much larger cocks. And you can chastise them for having one. Kind of like when a kid does something wrong and you’re punishing them. There’s so many ways. I suppose you just have to be creative.

Misconceptions About Small Penis Humiliation

Not sure if I’ll call it a misconception, but I will say, some people wanna engage in small penis humiliation and they don’t even have a small penis.

Well here is my favorite one, they want to engage a small penis humiliation and their feelings are hurt and they never want to talk to you again and you’re the worst person in the world etc. Literally, the fetish has the word humiliation in it.

Favorite Small Penis Humiliation Activities

My favorite type of small penis humiliation is comparing them to a BBC (big black cock) and a tease and denial situation. I notice a lot of my submissive’s who enjoy SPH are also into BBC play. Which is nice because then I could really connect with them and plan a larger or longer session.

I can also turn it into a coerced bi situation, depending on my subs limits. I love tease and denial and it’s one of my top favorite fetishes. I love to brag to my SPH fans how they could never please me in ways larger penises can. It’s really fun to taunt them as if they could have me and then deny them because of their small penis. I love it most that they truly love it themselves.

What To Know Before Getting Into SPH

I think that subs should know before trying small penis humiliation is that this is a fetish based on being crude and making fun of their small attachment. Do not go into this fetish thinking your Mistress is going to be sweet and nice to you or baby you. Also, if you do not have a small penis then you do nap in the category of small penis humiliation. If you just wanna be humiliated for having a penis, then just say so. Well maybe I shouldn’t tell people how to enjoy getting off. If having a normal size penis and wanting to be talked down to as if it was smaller gets you off then so be it. Just when requesting your session with your Mistress, make sure you inform her so that she can properly prepare for her session with you.

People assume it’s easy to be a Dominatrix, that you just show up and fulfil people‘s fantasies. To truly connect to your sub, it takes planning and setting up for your session. Also, if you are trying to have a session with a professional, do not contact them if you are not going to pay. Find yourself a person who lives in the lifestyle and does it for free. Read all about the professional Dominatrix you are interested in. Read their websites and rules. Do not ask a million questions that are clearly answered on their website. That will turn your Mistress off. I personally ignore individuals who do. It shows laziness, that you do not listen nor follow directions, and that you are more so interested in the pleasures for you.

Remember to be aware of your limits and to voice them. Respect the Dommes limits as well. If she says no, than it’s a no. If you are with a lifestyle or pro Domme, please make sure you’re being safe sane and consensual.

Dominatrix Yessi Evans – I’m the countess of Femdom. My name is Yessi Evans and I exist for you to serve me.

Follow Yessi on

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Shortyblackheart

Links: https://allmylinks.com/countessoffemdom

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1SO2RFMRLJ99L?ref_=wl_share

OnlyFans:

http://Onlyfans.com/dominatrixyessi

https://onlyfans.com/countessoffemdom

ManyVids: http://CountessYessiEvans.manyvids.com

Snapchat: Www.snapchat.com/add/countessfemdom

Twitter: Www.twitter.com/shortyblakheart

No tours at the moment due to the Coronavirus. I plan on holding in person sessions again once things die down. I currently only service Chicago, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, and San Diego.

Images From Dominatrix Yessi Evans

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

May 21, 2020
What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

The world of kink is a necessary response to the restrictive societal norms in which we all operate on a daily basis. Everyone is into something a little alternative, be it their music taste or strange late night snack preference. Kink is like deep space; a way to safely (when done properly) explore otherwise “unacceptable” interests. It’s funny that attitudes toward kink can still be so cynical, but thankfully the internet makes it possible to educate and connect individuals in a way like never before.

It doesn’t have to be a clandestine practice, it can be a fun and satisfying way to creatively realize your desires. Variety is the spice of life.  Kink is additionally such a fascinating inquisition into the realm of psychology. I’ve learned so much about myself and about others through my practice as a Domme. The kink community is also one of the most open and accepting I’ve ever experienced, rife with characters both interesting and brilliant. As long as all parties involved are honoring safety protocols like SSC and RACK, it can be an incredible opportunity for self-exploration.

Getting Into Findom

One day a girlfriend of mine told me someone approached her on Facebook asking to be her homework slave. When we looked into it, she was a little weirded out, but I was intrigued. I went home and started researching and fell down a fetish rabbit hole. Enthralled, I created a Twitter account and embarked on building my own little empire of devoted submissives.

What Does It Mean To Be A Pay Pig?

A pay pig is a submissive, usually male but can be anyone, who derives pleasure and satisfaction from relinquishing money to a Financial Dom/me, the latter of which tend to be beautiful and highly intelligent women. It’s a form of masochism, in that money represents power, the transfer of which is symbolic and is often artfully composed of a multitude of factors, including surrender and an intimate connection between sub and Domme.  Findom in its purest form involves a submissive who yields funds to a Financial Dominatrix as the ultimate acknowledgement of her dominion over his mind, finances, and libido.

Misconceptions About Pay Pigs & Findom

Pay pigs aren’t actually just people born with a compulsory need to send money to demanding women. It’s more complicated than that. Subs aren’t stupid, they’re not inherently losers, and not all of them like to be humiliated. I think a lot of girls try to get into findom because it sounds like easy money, which has saturated the community with these Instadommes, much to the chagrin of serious Dommes. But there’s no formula to it. It is a real relationship.

My relationship with each of my subs is wildly unique.  I’d venture to say another pay pig misconception is that it’s a transaction. Selling custom clips and conducting Skype calls are transactions, not findom. And it’s true that that’s simply the nature of findom today — many Dommes are jacks of all trades, myself included. But true findom is a remote Goddess, perched on Her throne up in the clouds, and along comes the unworthy sub who bows at Her celestial feet and offers himself wholly in recognition of Her supremacy, which includes sending, serving and spoiling for the sheer joy of pleasing Her Eminence. Never is even Her attention promised, let alone a picture of Her divine feet or an OnlyFans subscription. But, I digress.

Finally, findom is not easy. Building a presence entails quite a bit of effort — you’re an embodiment of the Divine Feminine, not a normal girl with her own life and other goals outside of the kink world. Maintaining relationships with subs is akin to maintaining vanilla relationships with your friends and family. Staying sharp and educated on kinks takes endless research and practice. Though it is fun and satisfying, it is essentially running a business.

If you’re just a pretty girl, you will be eaten alive. Which is why so many girls quit after a few weeks, and why many true pay pigs become frustrated with an inbox full of “Send me money now, loser!”

Characteristics Of Pay Pigs I Look For

Reverence and devotion. A sub should be submissive! Chivalry and findom go hand in hand. I give so much more attention to those who approach correctly: head down, on their knees, begging for the privilege of serving me and all the wonder such an honor entails. We Goddesses have to deal with subs who pop up asking “how much for a session?” on the daily, as if we’re vending machines for pleasure.

That’s not female dominance. That’s pay for play, which is fine, but should come later, ideally.  I like subs who have a personality, too. Someone who can just be their kinky self — that’s what allows for an organic bond and a deeper, more satisfying fantasy.

What To Know Before Becoming A Pay Pig

You don’t have to be rich to be a pay pig. Sacrifice is sacrifice. The stories where men take out loans of thousands of dollars for the intense release it is to send to the object of their affection are exciting and sexy, but they’re not the rule. You pay monthly for Netflix, you go out to dinner and drinks, and you surprise your Goddess with little gifts here and there. If you want to be a pay pig, findom already exists in your psyche. You just need to find the Goddess with whom you can explore your desires.

I’d say patience is key. Don’t fall for Instadommes. Think of it this way — how dominant is it really for a self-proclaimed “Domme” to reach out to you with solicitations for money that are thinly disguised as a bratty command? Block, ignore, and keep it moving.  Fortune favors the bold. If you have your eye on a Domme you like, take the plunge and approach. The worst that can happen is she ignores you.

My advice? Lead with devotion and submission. Stand out by telling her why you so ardently adore her. And send that initial tribute first, or within the first five messages. She’s a Financial Dominatrix, and you’re a pay pig. You know good and well how to please her. “Sent, Goddess” are the magic words in findom.

Goddess Katie – A luxury Dominatrix of the financial persuasion — intellectual, untouchable, and highly addictive. Though She specializes in findom, She caters to a variety of other kinks and believes in establishing close relationships with her devotees. All the better to infiltrate your mind and make it Her permanent residence…

Follow Goddess Katie on

Twitter: https://twitter.com/worshipKatie

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/11124745

OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/katieisgod

AVN Stars: https://stars.avn.com/worshipkatie

Inquiries: katiiegoddess@gmail.com

Images from Goddess Katie

Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

May 13, 2020