Category: Sex Ed

Learn To Squirt Once And For All

I was raised in a healthy (at least I think so!) atmosphere where sex was certainly not pushed, but my parents never said anything to make me feel like sex was bad either. They were matter-of–fact about the birds and the bees. I think that made me comfortable with it. I also got into weight training and competitive bodybuilding at an early age and taking care of my body has definitely paid off. When I am in shape, I feel much sexier. I think these two things have made me comfortable in my own skin. So in the end, my personal view is: have a healthy outlook, take care of yourself and enjoy who you are!

I never even heard of squirting until 3 years ago. I knew about golden showers but had never seen anyone squirt or talk about it. Then it seemed like overnight squirting got popular and was all over the internet. I was totally like, “What’s that? I want to do it!”

Basically I was never exposed to it, so I had no clue what I was missing. Once I started seeing it, I began to imagine how I would have to tense my muscles to make it happen. I started to get a little trickle but nothing big yet.

My Very First Squirting Experience

I met a new lover who was very good at making women squirt. He was patient, fun and got me all worked up with tons of oral sex! Once he began to work my g-spot with his fingers the floodgates opened! We were both amazed when this huge stream shot out!

The sensation of building up towards squirting and orgasms is very similar. Biggest difference is how I tense my muscles (for squirt I push with my muscles, for orgasm I tense my muscles in). I tend to squirt first, which feels like a light orgasm, but I am not done yet! I love to soak my lover down which I think is sexy as hell. That makes me feel even hotter and that’s when I go for a huge orgasm.

Tips To Finally Squirt

Patience and practice! A good lover is very helpful too! I also like to use visualization as a tool, if you can imagine it, eventually you can train your body to do it. Oh, yes…drink lots of water, you can’t squirt if you are dehydrated. I guzzle water prior to filming squirt scenes and rehydrate often.

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December 13, 2015
How To Have An Awesome MFF Threesome

I’m an extremely sexual person, always have been one so no surprise that I started my career in the adult industry from my early adult days and have continue doing it for the last 12 years successfully. I have no limits nor rules in my sex life whatsoever, everything goes as long as both parties agree of course. Threesomes – no exception of course. I think that’s where more sexual exploring starts from the threesomes, just to add an extra person, that bit of spice isn’t? It’s great, because that third person brings excitement, different feelings, energy to the whole play game. I personally, would always choose to have a threesome over a standard twosome sex.

Why I Love Threesomes

MFF threesomes from men’s perspective is very appealing, as two women making out in front of a man has always been a very big turn on for all men for ages! I guess the sensuality that women have, the touches, and of course the double pair of women’s best assets! And just imagine everything double is better!

Give Him The Ultimate Blowjob

Oh yes! Sharing is caring! Lots of space down there for two tongues for sure! Never neglect the balls while your partner is working her way up and down that lollypop! Or if you are even more open minded, there is a very sensitive part just a bit further away the balls! Yes, men love rimming! Don’t be surprise if he’s gonna suddenly spill his beans out a bit sooner than expected! Power of those two tongues at the right places! 🙂

Favorite Threesome Positions

When all three partners have pleasure at the same time and are connected at the same time.

It could be the “train” position; all in doggy style or just cowgirl for one and facesitting for another and both females touching each other while being penetrated by a man at the same time!

Equal Play For All

Don’t wait for your turn! Just join in, share everything and keep switching in between. Be spontaneous and find empty spots to work on! 🙂

Great Locations For Threesomes

Anywhere you feel you want to have sex, as location doesn’t matter really when there is an urge! Some adult VIP clubs could be a source to find that extra partner for your threesome or it could just be your best friend that never dared to ask her to join in!

Tina Kay – International Porn Performer / Penthouse Pet / Adult Model for the last 12 years. No limits, No rules, No regrets, Do what makes you happy, Live life fully and Love yourself! Follow me on Twitter @TinaKayxxx

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December 11, 2015
How to Enjoy Giving Him a Blowjob

I personally love giving blowjobs. As a lover, I tend to focus more on giving than receiving, and I feel like blowjobs are the perfect way for me to do that. It’s so satisfying to see a man’s eyes light up and his head cock back when I surprise them with giving head.

Giving My Very First Blowjob

I was still a teenager, it was in the backseat of my now ex-boyfriend’s car. I was nervous, had no idea what I was doing, and worried I wouldn’t do a good job. I fumbled around awkwardly for a few minutes before I found my groove. I gained a bit of confidence and tried experimenting with more, using my hands and playing with the balls here and there. I treated it like a learning experience. We ended up having sex, so I didn’t swallow or get a facial or anything that time.

To Swallow or Spit?

I prefer swallowing, I’m usually much too focused on making my partner cum to pull myself away for a facial anyways. I kind of go into another world when I’m giving a blowjob. My goal is to make my partner feel as good as possible, and I put everything I have into that goal. I honestly love the feeling of a guy finishing in my mouth too.

Tips to Enjoy Giving a Blowjob

I know a lot of my hesitation came from not knowing if I was getting the job done and not having that confidence in my ability. I feel like an open line of communication with your partner is important, asking them to let you know they like what you’re doing, if they’d like to try something else, so on and so forth.

It really helps me to have that reassurance. I also spent a lot of time on porn sites watching amateur POV blowjob videos, trying to see other girls techniques and what guys like to see or have done during a blowjob. (I’m the kind of person who extensively researches everything she’s even just mildly interested in)

My Favorite Positions

Switch it up! To me, it all depends on the setting. Shower or other small spaces? I’d get on my knees.

Couch or chair? I’d have him sit back and let me get between his legs while I’m on the ground.

If we’re in bed, I’d just have him lay back and sit on his face so I could ride his tongue while giving him head. There’s so many possibilities to explore, why stick to only one?

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December 9, 2015
Why is defining sex so damn complicated? Sarah Calleja kicks off SEXtember!

SEX….well, it’s inspiring, thrilling, pleasurable, awkward, painful, embarrassing, confusing and provocative – it’s complicated!

The Merriam-Webster definition defines sex as ‘the state of being male or female’ and ‘physical activity/touch that is related to and often includes sexual intercourse.’ However, a study from the Kinsey Institute found that no uniform consensus existed when it came to defining sex.

As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal on human sexuality is variability itself.

In response, I have invited the sexologists who are contributing to SEXtember, to include their definitions to reveal the diversity of cultures and opinions.

Feeling acknowledged as a sexual person contributes significantly to our sense of well-being and our identity so it is significant that we are now inclusive of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, intersex and queer (LGBTIQ) people. Many organisations now provide an Ally support service which affirms the experience and rights of these diverse sexual identities. We also acknowledge Asexual people as part of the sexual spectrum.

As a Counselling Psychologist and Clinical Sexologist, I wanted to clarify individual sexual perspectives to avoid confusion by re-framing the discussion of sexuality in the context of informed consent.

To avoid confusion, I respect my clients and colleagues by asking them their personal definitions of sex, then I have clarity and I can proceed to work with that understanding.

My VISION is to take control of sexuality away from the extremists and profiteers and create an awareness and respect for sexual diversity, curiosity and experimentation. We want adults to role model to our children the concept of Sexual Integrity – when equal privilege embraces equal responsibility with curiosity and humour.

My intelligent, insightful clients have shared with me their wisdom and reflections:

……..It’s a matter of perspective isn’t it?

So, my personal definition of sex?

“Touch that is joyful and sensuous between consenting adults who celebrate mutual responsibility and privilege”

At the end of the day, healthy sexual relationships are about connecting in real life – touching that special someone’s body and heart to create warmth and intimacy. It is creating romance and investing in companionship where you equally feel desired, valued and safe. Sex is fundamentally the difference between a friendship and a relationship.

What I share with my clients about sex is “If you’re not having fun, then you’re not doing it right!”

Sarah Calleja is a Counselling Psychologist and Clinical Sexologist, media consultant, author, and app developer.

When Sarah isn’t hard at work as a counselling psychologist and clinical sexologist, or consulting for the media, she loves being a trendsetter in the field of sexology. Sarah regularly presents at international conferences and creates training sessions for health professionals. She writes opinion-editorials for a variety of media and personal blogs can be viewed on her website.

Sarah’s new app, ‘Parents, Tweens and Sex’, a first of its kind app for the iPad designed in collaboration with Swinburne University and featured as a finalist in the digital design category of the 2013 Premier’s Design Awards. This interactive app empowers parents and tweens with the necessary resources to make informed choices to be mindful, comfortable, respectful and responsive when they choose to engage in sexual relationships.

Sarah is also a wife, mother, mentor, friend and the proud owner of laugh lines!

This article has been republished with permission by Sarah Calleja. To view the original post, read it here

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December 5, 2015
Public and Private Shaming
Singapore (and possibly not unlike other societies) really does a good job in public shaming.
- Every year in the weeks leading up to March when it is time to declare our income tax, you’d read media reports of individuals or companies who were penalised for trying to evade paying taxes. Coincidence or deterrence?
- In school, punishment was meted out in the form of standing at a corner, outside the classroom, or even public caning. Did it happen to you? Or were you too scared to ever be on the wrong side of “law” because you would just “die from shame”?
- When you misbehaved growing up, did your parents go “shame, shame”? Was that enough for you to blush and wish a hole would appear to swallow you alone?
Is there any wonder we get worried and anxious about being embarrassed, or get things wrong – as if it is the worst thing that can happen to us as adults?

There was a piece of news that caught my eye in the social media over the weekend…

For some years now, some Singaporeans have taken much delight in shaming supposedly undeserving people who are occupying the SMRT (Singapore Mass Rapid Transit) train carriage’s “reserved” seats for the needy. They don’t think twice about such public shaming because they are just angry. They can’t let things rest and instead decide to take matters into their own hands. Essentially they want to have a form of justice and exert revenge.

When the story broke about how the seemingly fit man refused to give up his seat on the train for her, one woman might be shame him. She might be regreting her post because she removed it. The man explained he refused to give up his seat had a heart condition.

I am not going to go into who’s right or wrong (especially since I wasn’t there). I am not trying to fan more hatred or get you to choose sides.

If we turned this into a teachable moment, I like to point out we tend to associate ‪‎health‬ conditions with visible ones. People who don’t appear to be in pain can be in great suffering without appearing so. Also disability‬ is not just physical, there is also mental disability.

If all of us (myself included) can have more ‪compassion‬ for the ‪‎suffering‬ of others and be less quick to jump into conclusions and ‪judgment, the world will be a better place. Let’s seek to understand, not persecute.

Read about it here and here.

Shame is very real when it comes to sex and sexuality as well.

Women who have as much sex as men are often regarded with mistrust and called sluts; while men are considered studs.

We might start wondering if we are acting “normal”, behaving things “correctly”, and constantly comparing ourselves against others without any real basis (and instead make up stories of what his, her or their sex lives must be like).

This is a fun video which might trigger some of your judgments.

Watch it here.

This article has been republished with permission by Dr Martha Lee. To view the original post, read it here

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November 30, 2015
What is your HIV status?

Well December 1st is of course World Aids Day, the day that’s set aside to remember people who are no longer with us because of HIV and AIDS, and to remember those everywhere living with HIV and AIDS.

Now thankfully, more and more people are living well with HIV although they have to stick a life on medications and this isn’t always easy. Let us remember at one time, thousands of our Gay and Bi brothers were dying of HIV related conditions a year.

This year has seen an alarming jump in the number of Gay men testing positive for HIV, and yes as whereas more men are testing for HIV overall and this can account for the rise in some ways, somehow and somewhere men are still taking risks and contracting HIV. I know myself. I have taken risks in the past and I have accepted responsibility for myself in that respect. I am lucky to have tested negative so I am aware of my current HIV status.

There has been a lot of debate in sexual health promotion circles and amongst HIV organisations about the disclosure and negotiations around sex and awareness of ones HIV status. Absolutely awareness of one’s status is important. With awareness comes knowledge and being to make decisions about the sex you want and will have.

Even now with advances in the ways that we can prevent HIV transmission such Prep and Pep. PrEP means Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis, and it’s the use of anti-HIV medication that keeps HIV negative people from becoming infected. Pep is Post Exposure Prophylaxis, something guys take if they feel they have been exposed to the virus. There is still fear and stigma about HIV in our communities.

Despite the fact that if an HIV+ gay man is and had an undetectable viral load (amount of HIV present in blood/semen etc.) he is highly unlikely to pass the virus on and if the untested or negative guy is on Prep then research in 4,000 couples has shown that no transmission will take place. A recent survey in the UK revealed 45% of gay men would not sleep with a HIV+ guy. Seriously what’s that about?

This stigma and positive men feeling that they may be rejected by potential partners, because of their HIV status, and this happens to many HIV+ men (and the research in the UK sadly agrees with this). So this is a real barrier to men to talk openly about their HIV status!

I can’t help but wonder; perhaps more can be done to support men to deal with potential rejection? You know to feel, well, if you can’t accept my HIV status or you won’t have sex with me because of my status (and remember there are so many safe sexy things to do with another men, plus advances in prevention that doesn’t involve condoms), then that’s your issue not mine. This is about judging men who do this either; they in some way need support as well. Perhaps when they get reactions along the lines of I’m HIV+, if that’s an issue for you, then sort it yourself and they may go on to look at changing their attitudes. While people remain silent and not talk about it, or disclose it, then the issues remain as men do not get the chance to be challenged around their attitudes to HIV + men or the chance to change their attitudes towards it as well.

We all need support in this and we can all have our own attitudes or worries or concerns about HIV and AIDS. At the moment it’s not going away and men are still contracting HIV, so isn’t it better that we all have a different attitude and willingness to be open about our HIV status, whatever that may be?

Remember, talking about it and challenging people’s ideas, stereotypes or prejudice is the only way we can.

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November 27, 2015
5 Ways to Spice up Sex!
Every relationship hits that rut where sex becomes routine and you perform like you’re on autopilot. Gone is the frenetic love making that used to be where clothes would be ripped off and sex would happen spontaneously. Nowadays, you’re having sex every Sunday or, God forbid, every first Friday of the month. The opportunities are fewer and farther in between. You love your husband, boyfriend, or long-time lover and couldn’t imagine a life without this person, but the bedroom antics have gotten stale and predictable. It’s time to jazz it up, add some spice, and bring back sexy in your relationship. Follow one, or all, of the suggestions below and you’ll be glowing in no time:
1. Make homemade fun and creative coupons that can be earned and redeemed by your lover. For instance, if he does something sweet or accomplishes a task hand him a coupon that offers an, “30 minute full body massage”, “sex anywhere he wants”, or “the ultimate blowjob.” This will add spontaneity into your sex life that was previously lacking.
2. Invest in some sexy lingerie. It’s a known fact that men are visual creatures and are easily stimulated by what they see. Put your nappy sweatpants and stained college t-shirt in the hamper for the night and out of sight. Instead, couch your breasts in a lacy ensemble leaving nothing to the imagination. The element of surprise as you walk into the bedroom will add some cinnamon to your vanilla lifestyle.
3. Pick up the Kamasutra and learn some new, sexy positions to introduce into the love play. Trust me, there’s more than just your commonplace missionary, doggy style, or reverse cowgirl. I’ve tried a few and discovered new ways to climax with my partner. My personal favorite positions learned from the bible of sex is the Rowing Boat and the Star. Check it out and I guarantee it will be like having sex for the first time with your lover.
4. Introduce some adult toys. Using a dildo on yourself also works as great foreplay for all the heavy stuff as your man sits back and watches as you pleasure yourself, before he takes over. A little buzzing from a vibrator can titillate you and your man and can be used while having sex with some simulation to the clitoris.
5. The couple that porns together, stays together. Pick up a sexy adult DVD to watch with your lover. This is 110% guaranteed to spice up your sex life to another stratosphere and it’s a surefire way to get out of a rut. There is a wide selection of porn for couples, so go ahead and pick a few. You won’t regret it. The only thing you may regret is not doing this sooner.
These five easy tips will add the perfect ingredient to your stagnant love life. Whether you’re following one suggestion or several or all at one time, this will create the much needed momentum, excitement, and creativity into your bedroom.

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November 20, 2015
I fantasize about my girlfriends’ best friend

Have a question on your mind about sex or seeking advice? Ask us on any topic and we’ll provide you with the answers from an expert. Send them in to editorial@simplysxy.com.

For today’s questions, we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

What should a guy do if he fantasizes about having sex with his girlfriend’s best friend?

This is dangerous territory, fantasies should stay just that when this is the fantasy. Guys, do not let this one through your lips, nothing good can come of it.

Find something about her best friend you do not like and breed those negative thoughts as fast as you can. That’s it on this topic, really simple.

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November 10, 2015
10 Signs of Great Sex
Every sexual encounter is different. There’s the guy you slept with that you wish you could delete from your memory bank. Everything about it was just wrong or just straight out icky for reasons that we don’t need to rehash. There’s also the one dude who was so boring in bed all you did was go through a list of chores you still needed to do after this chore was completed. Then there’s the one man you just rocked your world and made you feel like a sexual vixen, a sex aficionado, a pseudo-porn star. Here are 10 signs that show you’re having awesome sex just in case you were wondering:
1. You’re completely uninhibited and free from any reservations. You are confident with yourself, in your own skin, and you own that body like Beyonce with a pure lack of any insecurity. You’re working that booty, happily bouncing your tits and having fun with it. You feel like the sexiest woman on earth while you’re in the throes of passion, having sex with the lights on with all your imperfections (stretch marks, cellulite, pouches be damned) in sight.
2. You are open and willing to try new sexual positions. Reverse cowgirl? No problem! Saddle me up! Doggie style? Give me that bone! 69? Well, that’s my favorite number! Great sex means getting out of your comfort zone and losing up your inhibitions, not to mention how limber and bendy you get trying it all out.
3. You’re vocal about what you want or don’t want in bed. “Eat me now!” is not an unheard of phrase from you while you’re in the sack and neither is, “You want to put what where!?”, but because you’re having mind-blowing sex you may be willing to let him. Just make sure you grab the lube.
4. After sex, you text your friends with, “I’ve just had some bomb ass sex.” with a multitude of emoticons to fully convey just how good it was. You only wish you were ballsy enough to post it on social media (if only your parents weren’t your friends on Facebook), so the world would know you just got yours.
5. When you’re having great sex, let’s fact it, you walk around with a smug, shit eating grin all day long because you’re night of passion keeps replaying in your mind in a loop. So when you see someone walking around with a shit eating grin that matches yours, feel free to give ‘em a high five and a wink.
6. You’re lying in bed feeling horny, but instead of waiting for your horniness to subside you casually slip your hand down to your already moist nether region and masturbate using a vivid memory from your last ohh la la romp in the sack to pleasure yourself. It’s too hard to wait until the next time sexual encounter, so let’s daydream about the last time. It was that good.
7. You’re sweating like you just took a spin class or ran a 5K. Instead, you skipped the gym that morning and took a good 40-minute spin around his penis. A sweaty aftermath means a good enthusiastic partnership in bed.
8. You have a bird’s nest on your head. A hot passionate bout of sex normally means you’re left with a tangled mass of hair on your head from all the twisting, turning, shifting, and Cirque du Soleil acrobatics.
9. Your tongue gets serious action, too, and not during fellatio. Instead when the sexual chemistry is high, then there’s a lot of passionate kissing involved because you can’t get enough of his taste and want to devour him whole.
10. The orgasm no longer becomes the primary goal of every sexual encounter. Gasp! Stop the presses! Some may find this difficult to believe, but the bonding and intimacy with your partner is enough to make you feel complete afterwards even sans an earth shattering orgasm. Your aura will emit the I-just-had-awesome-sex illuminating glow that every woman wishes to achieve.
If you can relate to any, or all, the signs highlighted above, then this simply means the chemistry is high, the compatibility is unparalleled, and Wednesday isn’t the only hump day in your week. Enjoy this rare find because not everyone is out there having the kind of sex you are. Chances are you had to go through some major duds to finally find the firecracker you needed to ignite the sexual goddess within you. Keep it up ladies (and gents) and happy sexing!

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November 9, 2015
Can I have sex during pregnancy?

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For today’s questions, we touch on a topic related to parenting and sex ed from you and we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

During pregnancy, how can a couple continue to have sex and satisfy one another’s needs?

Sex during pregnancy is no different to sex at any other time. In fact it can be quite liberating… if you have used contraception your whole sex life and made a decision to have a baby… you no longer have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy… the baby is now on its way, it’s a done deal!

Many women actually feel quite horny as the hormones make some adjustments during pregnancy. We can also feel more of a need to connect with our partner as the birth gets closer. The need to share the experience with the one who helped create this new human can be intense.

As the pregnancy progresses, and her body changes you may need to adjust your positions to accommodate the belly, use this time to experiment with some new ones. Be gentle, take your time. Once the baby escapes it confides, your sex life will never be the same again!

There will be the occasional instance when your doctor may advise against sex or a specific action, always follow your doctors instructions. Once the water has broken sex is definitely a no no, as there is nothing to stop the baby getting an infection as the seal has broken.

There are many old wives tails about pregnancy, don’t take too much notice of these. If you doctor says its ok, and it feels ok, go for it. If you are past your due date there is a belief that a good orgasm or two can bring on labor… always worth a try if you are done with the whole pregnancy thing! At the very least these may be the last orgasms you have for a few weeks.

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November 6, 2015