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  • How Fitness Boosts Sex Drive

    How Fitness Boosts Sex Drive

    My personal views towards sex are that it’s really good for your health, a stress reliever, and it’s a natural thing to do, and I can totally understand how people get addicted to it. I’ve also studied psychology and a lot of people who didn’t feel loved growing up, often have many different sexual partners and never underestimate the power of touch …

    How Exercise Improves Sex Drive

    Exercise improves sexual health as it improves all areas of health, be if from feeling body confident, or from the endorphins released, the physical aspect everything will work more sufficient the heart, the lungs, the blood flow to correct organs needed for sexual interaction. If you don’t use it, you will for sure lose it…

    Recommendations For A Good Sexual Workout

    Good sexual workouts I recommend to improve sex drive are a combination of hard HITT or cardio, with heavy weight lifting, training larger muscle groups such as legs … this boosts testosterone naturally and growth hormone, and also for anti-aging and other health benefits.

    Does Sex Count As Exercise?

    Does sex count as exercise you ask…

    Yes and no, it depends on how vigorous the sex is… diet etc. I do not recommend that you use sex to get reps in and lose sight of the fact that sex is an act of passion and affection/connection, it’s not part of a program…

    You burn calories in your sleep so you will for sure burn calories when you have sex. I would be inclined to discuss what hormones are released through climax and orgasm as opposed to calories etc…

    Can There Be Too Much Exercise?

    Again, yes and no…If you are tired, perhaps don’t bother, but sex always helps me sleep and relax…which is important to get a good recovery and train hard the next day.

    Just go with how you feel. I have had two boyfriends break up with me because I wanted sex too much. You must find a partner compatible to you.

    Is Diet Important?

    Diet is very important especially for males to ensure the erection is achieved and the blood flow is good. For females, you must stay hydrated and rehydrate with water, ladies!!

    Flame Emin – International fitness and glamour model, Flame has competed in fitness shows, and is very in-tuned with female energy and sexuality.

    Her photos demonstrate how she can change her female physique and how confident she is regardless of her shape or size. She is based in Los Angeles, New York and London and available to tour any city internationally.

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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/athletically__curved/

    Website: https://flame-fitness-model-pt.co.uk/

    Email: flameemin@icloud.com

    Photos courtesy of Flame Emin

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  • How To Calm Any Nerves Before Sex

    How To Calm Any Nerves Before Sex

    Want to sleep better, decrease risks of prostate cancer and be an healthier and happier version of yourself? Look no further than your next orgasm – your next mindful orgasm that is!

    While numerous studies tout the benefits of sexual activity (with or without a partner), it is the orgasmic phase that seems to yield the most benefits, especially coupled with meditation techniques. In my opinion, this makes enjoyable and desired erotic exploration a healthy pursuit to engage in, on our own time or in good company.

    That being said, in this day and age where performance is encouraged and mindfulness encounters many obstacles, the proper mood, drive or bliss may elude us, either partially or completely, sometimes for very long stretches. Confidence may be shaken and it can be difficult to relax in sexual situations, driving us away from a type of release that can be entirely natural and enjoyable under the right circumstances.

    Being relaxed and present in our bodies is in my opinion the best way to make the most of an intimate encounter. For me, satisfaction comes from the experience itself, letting myself fully be and observing the delicious sensations that arise.

    Stress can get in the way of that moment – the parasympathetic nervous system regulates sexual arousal and it cannot do so when we are tense. It is an instinctual response, and to mitigate it we must take the reigns of our mental state and regulate our physical state.

    It may be helpful, in preparation of a delectable passionate moment, either with oneself or a partner (or two!) to care for our bodies. They are the vehicle of our pleasure after all.

    Here are some simple ways to prime our being for this vibrant adventure.

    – A contrast shower, alternating a minute of warm water with 10 seconds of cool water for a few rounds

    – Performing a Body Scan : imagining a wave of warmth and relaxation go through all our being, starting at the very tip of our toes and making its way up our entire body, inch by inch.

    – A workout, stretching or dance routine that makes us feel groovy

    – Deep breathing exercises, especially box breathing (source – Mark Divine, SealFit)

    – Giving ourselves or receiving a massage from a partner – treat yourself to a nice nourishing oil if you can! If you experience “ticklishness” or are easily overstimulated, start with a massage of the hands/feet & head – they are less intimate parts and can allow for relaxation to set in fully.

    When it comes to having a partner or more join in, it can be enjoyable to take some time to talk – the back and forth flirty banter can put people in the mood! Sharing time, even out of the bedroom – walking on the beach, enjoying a fine dining experience or an art gallery visit can be incredibly intellectually stimulating on top of being an exquisite prelude to delicious pleasures.

    Sex requires confidence, in ourselves and our partner(s) – it is a process that cannot be bypassed even when encounters are short lived. We owe ourselves the time to bloom with erotic pleasure if we wish to do so. It is a sweet freedom that ends where the other’s begin, and that allows us to intermingle and experience bliss if we give ourselves permission to.

    Wishing you the very best practice on your own path,

    Lorence Vennes

    Lorence Vennes – A Vancouver based courtesan practicing mindful erotic companionship. She finds freedom in nature and poetry. Originally from the East Coast she moved to the Pacific North West to explore dark mossy forests and run on tall sunny mountain trails.

    Follow Lorence Vennes  on

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/MlleVennes

    Website: http://www.datelorence.com/

    extra sources :

    https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/seven-healthy-reasons-to-have-sex-right-now.aspx

    https://courses.lumenlearning.com/boundless-ap/chapter/functions-of-the-autonomic-nervous-system/

    https://sealfit.com/box-breathing/

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  • 4 Tips for Keeping Your Man Faithful While You’re Away

    4 Tips for Keeping Your Man Faithful While You’re Away

    If you are planning on going away and are leaving your man at home, then you may start to feel insecure and concerned about what he will get up to while you are away. Time apart can sometimes make you worry that your man won’t remain faithful to you and the phrase ‘out of sight, out of mind’ can be a concern. However, there are many ways that you can keep your man interested and faithful to you while you are away.

    Just because you aren’t with your man, it doesn’t mean that he will forget about you and your amazing relationship. We have put together a list of some of the best tips on how to keep your man focused and faithful while you’re away from him.

    Get Him a Gift

    You may want to get your man a gift before you go away, so he is reminded of you during your time apart. What gift you buy them depends on what sort of person they are. You could buy them the box set of their favorite show to keep them entertained (and indoors) while you are away, or you may go for a slightly naughtier gift. He’ll love a blowjob machine for instance to keep him company and satisfied during his lonely nights away from you.

    Let Him Have Time to Himself

    You may feel tempted to talk to him all the time while you are away, either because you miss him or because you want to know what he is doing or who he is with. But stifling him is the worst thing you can do, and you should be sure to let him have some time for himself. Nothing is more off-putting than a girl who just won’t leave you alone – don’t be that girl! Allow your man time to miss you and remind him of what he is missing without you in his life.

    Communicate Often

    While you should give your man the chance to long for and miss you, it is also important that you still check in with your man even though you are away. You may be away with work and have a lot of things to do, or you may be on vacation with the girls, but you should still find the time to check in at home and let your man know that you haven’t forgotten about him. Even though you are away, you don’t want to cut off communication altogether. Be sure to check in when you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep at night.

    Try Virtual Sex

    Just because you and your man are miles apart, it doesn’t mean that you can’t still be intimate with each other. Many couples who are in a long-distance relationship use phone sex to talk dirty to each other and still have that intimate bond that all couples need. Sexting is a great way to send each other a dirty message throughout the day as a reminder of your scheduled phone sex later that night. If you feel comfortable, then you could always send your man a few risqué pictures to remind him of what he is missing!

    Most importantly, you shouldn’t worry too much about your main being faithful to you while you are away, as if he is the right guy for you and he cares for and loves you then he wouldn’t be thinking about being unfaithful to you. Instead of spending your time away worrying about what your man is doing, focus on yourself and having an enjoyable and productive time away.

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  • How To Become Big In Porn

    How To Become Big In Porn

    I love what I do and I love creating scenes for consumers of porn to explore their sexuality or simply get some kind of release. A lot of people can’t have sex for whatever reason, or don’t feel fully comfortable expressing their sexual fantasies to their partners, so I feel like porn can really help people with that.

    Pros & Cons Of Being A Porn Star

    I’d say the pros would be financial freedom, getting paid to have sex on camera is awesome (haha), getting to express myself in acting roles in adult feature films, getting to meet fans at the convention and attend the award shows to be recognized for all your hard work at the end of the year, etc.

    The cons would probably be crazed fans, and the scrutiny that adult performers can face from the outside world, which is crazy, but all you can do is deal with it and try to change the stigma/people’s thoughts on porn and the people that work in the industry.

    How I Started Into Porn

    I actually found my old agent on Craigslist, which I wouldn’t recommend doing. Haha. I was lucky not to end up on 48 hours later. Over two years later though, I can say I’m doing great. If you’re a female and want to get started in the industry, I would HIGHLY recommend reaching out to porn girls on Twitter. Ask them what their experience is with their agents and porn and how much their lives have changed/how they like it. Finding a good agent is really important, several of them are all too excited to add you to the roster and make money off of you, but I cannot stress how important it is to find an agent that is the best fit for you.

    And don’t sign anything longer than a year contract, if you even sign one at all. And if you DO, take pictures of it with your phone! That way you can always have the details of your contract. If you’re a male who wishes to get into the porn industry, I’d suggest contacting an agent then moving to LA or Miami if they say that they can get you work.

    Challenges I Faced

    I was faced with a lot of competition, getting my name out there, gaining traction in the industry, gaining a following, etc.

    Standing Out From The Competition

    I work really hard on my appearance, performance during the scene, and acting. I love acting and I always make sure to give 110% on set and check myself to have a stellar attitude, no matter what may be going on in my personal life. It did take some time, but I feel like that’s the standard, no matter what industry you’re in.

    Whitney Wright – Los Angeles based adult performer and actress.

    Follow Whitney Wright on

    Instagram: @whitneywrightxo

    Twitter: @whitneywrightx

    Websites: fancentro.com/whitneywright

    Photos courtesy of Whitney Wright

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  • What To Know About Gravure & Gravure Models

    What To Know About Gravure & Gravure Models

    Gravure modeling in Japan is akin to glamour modeling and pin-up modeling from print’s days of yore. Print media is chugging along in Japan, from things like Weekly Shonen Jump, a comic compilation magazine, to Flash Magazine, a softcore glamour magazine, available in most convenient stores. Most of these magazines have at least one full color spread, between 3 and 10 pages of adorable, whimsical, or playful pin-ups to help sell copies. Whether you love it or hate it, it’s all over the place.

    “グラビア” or Gravure is a Japanese Wasei-eigo (or Japanese-use-english, as the word comes from no english word despite sounding english) word that references rotogravure. Rotogravure is a printing style that was popular for making newspapers and magazine for a time. It is still used commercially for postcards and such, but the word gravure is referencing the method in which the photos of these models would be distributed, via magazine. These days gravure modeling has has become a style, disconnected from magazines specifically as models appear in photo books, magazines, dvds and on blogs. The term gravure now has come to mean the playful, innocent style of modeling that has become popular in Japan.

    A gravure model is sexy, but not in a way that confronts the viewer or speaks of an aggressive attitude. Instead of the image reaching out to the viewer, it gives a feeling of innocence and intimacy that invites you in. It’s more soft spoken and less gratuitous than Western pin-up and softcore like Playboy or Penthouse. Gravure models are not often nude, in fact many are fully clothed, as genitals are always censored in Japanese print and digital media. It’s meant to be easy on your eyes. More attention is given to creativity in poses and atmosphere.

    This is gravure.

    Popularity Of Gravure

    It’s literally all over the place, in magazines, in commercials, on advertisements hanging from the ceiling in trains. Its popularity is spoken for. But why? I think it comes down to the old adage: sex sells. And with gravure, it’s packaged in a gentle, inobtrusive style.

    Misconceptions About Gravure

    I think it’s probably the same with all forms of sensual or erotic art, there’s the misconception that the model and the artist are some how intimately involved. That the model and artist sleep with each other.  I would say that this is the most annoying misconception I’ve personally run into. We are all working professionals with personal lives completely separate from art-making. For anyone who is serious about their craft, this misconception is simply not true. Artists and models do not get physically involved. For professional artists, this kind of misconception can be damaging to our public images. Especially since I’ve heard about photographers taking advantage of young or inexperienced models, forcing them to do inappropriate acts.  In the industry, we call these people “a guy with a camera”.  Because they are simply that, a guy (most often) trying to pick up a girl.

    I would say that the most important piece of advice I can give to aspiring models is to always ask for a business card. If a guy on the street tries to pick you up for a photo shoot, always ask for a business card and check their social media right there. If they don’t have a website, don’t shoot with them. And always ask if you can bring a friend. If the “photographer” seems wary about having a third party at the shoot, definitely don’t shoot with them.

    Prepartion For A Gravure Photoshoot

    Aside from finding a model, making a theme and deciding wardrobe and getting your kit ready, finding a location is paramount. You can’t just shoot in the street! The most common location to use, I would say even more common than studios, is love hotels. Proper studios aren’t often furnished and, at least in Tokyo, are expensive. One hour in a studio could cost you 5,000円 ($50), whereas three hours in a fully furnished love hotel will cost you the same. I can have up to 6 photo shoots a month, so for cost efficiency’s sake, I usually use love hotels. Some of them are decked out in crazy themes or designs, complete with suits of colored lights and I’ve even heard that they have a hotel with a  train car for a room in Osaka.

    So the first thing I do is decide what size room I want to use for a shoot. Shinjuku has big rooms but nothing too exciting, Shibuya has small rooms but more variety.

    On set, the next most important thing for me is to relax and have fun. Make tea and chat while I set up. If it’s my first shoot with a new model it’s important to help them relax, so I usually play the model’s favorite music. I think it’s important to get to know the model, it helps me find the best way to make their portrait.

    Are You Considered A Gravure Photographer?

    I wouldn’t say that I’m a Gravure photographer; I’d say what I make often tends more towards fine art erotica. However I do like to use some of the Gravure motifs, such as gravure style posing and gentle sensuality. The central theme of my work is to bridge the gap between viewer and subject, so I would say that Gravure’s inviting themes influence my work. But where my work diverges from Gravure is in my end goal. Gravure is primarily a commercial style, whereas I am working to capture the soul of the moment with my images, so I’m not concerned with the commercial aspects of image-making.

    My Favorite Gravure Shoot Experiences

    I would say that one of my favorite experiences on a Gravure style shoot was with Mia Valentine (@miav.me on Instagram). We connected on social media and set up a shoot  at lightning speed as she was only visiting Tokyo. We settled on shooting in Shibuya’s Dogenza, a Love Hotel Alley. We searched high and low for the famous love hotel, Beat Wave, only to find it sequestered behind residences and surrounded by a construction team repairing the street.

    After sneaking through the construction and into the building we found out that the hotel was under new ownership and the rooms were nothing close to the stylish, music themed rooms that were espoused on the many blogs that mentioned the hotel. We decided “fuck it” and picked a room and made some awesome pictures anyway. We had a blast all in all and the experience was a learning lesson in Tokyo’s ever-changing landscape.

    Adam Landis – A fine art erotica photographer living in Saitama, Japan.

    Follow Adam Landis on

    Main Instagram: @art_landis

    Black & White Instagram: @pleasant_easeful_boi

    Twitter: @art_landis

    Vero: art_landis

    Email: contact.art.landis@gmail.com

    I can’t exactly say what, but I have big plans for the new year. Please continue to follow my social media for updates!

    Photos courtesy of Adam Landis

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  • How The Adult Industry Has Changed In The Last 15 Years

    How The Adult Industry Has Changed In The Last 15 Years

    I support sex workers of all types and I think it is valid, important work.  I think pornography is an important medium that benefits a lot of people physically, mentally, and emotionally.

    Challenges Facing New Adult Stars Today

    When I first started out about nine and a half years ago, it was still possible to make a complete living just shooting scenes for other companies without the necessity of producing your own content for clips stores, a website, and the various apps that allow fans to subscribe directly to performers’ profiles. The rates for scenes has decreased since I started and the requisite skill sets to thrive as a performer have expanded.

    The upside to this is that today’s adult performer is far more industrious and typically has knowledge and practice in many parts of production: shooting, lighting, editing, writing, etc. They are brand managers, marketers, salespeople, and they frequently collaborate with their peers to generate content. They have more control over their image, own their own content, and have more contact with their fanbase.

    Things That Never Change About The Industry

    There will always be people who love you and people who hate you, simply because of the work you’ve chosen for yourself. There will be people who adore you so much that they disregard the boundaries you set up to protect yourself. There will be people who hate the concept of pornography so much that they deny your agency and vilify you; sometimes painting you as a monster who is destroying society one innocent mind at a time, other times projecting victimhood on you and insisting that you must be rescued.

    There will always be new stars coming in and established stars stepping down. There are people turning 18 every day and deciding to throw their hat into the ring of adult stardom. It’s important that we support each other and help guide new performers through their first steps into the industry. Sometimes, other performers are our only line of support because we understand the unique challenges we all face.

    How To Stand Out As A Performer

    There is no trick to standing out and being popular or successful. Sometimes you can try your hardest and still not succeed. But I think if you find the things that are unique about yourself, the things your fans pick up on and cherish you for, and focus on those aspects, you’ll be more likely to thrive in this industry. The divide between fans and adult stars is smaller now than it has been in the past. Listen to them, be as authentic as you can or care to be, and find your niche.

    I think a mistake some make is doing scenes that they don’t enjoy or actively dislike because they want to keep up with other performers. You don’t have to accept scenes that make you uncomfortable just because that’s what’s offered to you. Shoot the content you want to shoot, even if you produce it yourself. When you own your own content, you can profit off of it in perpetuity.

    How The Industry Will Change With Technology

    As a pioneer in the VR porn space, I definitely think that Virtual Reality is going to have a great impact on porn consumption. As VR adoption increases and the ability to create compelling, well produced content becomes more accessible, I think we will see people retreating to virtual spaces to enjoy content more and more.

    The PVR Iris headset is a huge step forward in this regard: an affordable standalone headset that is incredibly high quality, easy to use, and specialized for adult content. I think it tackles the big barriers for entry  we’ve seen with VR in the past: it doesn’t require a computer with an expensive graphics card or a cell phone to operate it, it makes the process of watching VR porn incredibly easy, and it’s discreet.

    I truly think that this headset and PVR’s K1Pro camera for shooting VR video will help advance the production and consumption of VR porn.

    Ela Darling – An adult film performer and a pioneer in both porn and live broadcasting in Virtual Reality. As the cofounder of the first ever live webcam platform in VR, she is known as the world’s first VR camgirl and has spoken at conferences all over the world about her work, including a TEDx talk. She is currently the Chief Marketing Officer of PVR.fun, a VR technology company in the adult industry.

    Follow Eva Darling on

    Instagram: @eladarling

    Twitter: @eladarling

    Website: www.pvr.fun and www.pvrmall.com

    Photos courtesy of Ela Darling

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  • How To Have Safe & Enjoyable Anal Sex

    How To Have Safe & Enjoyable Anal Sex

    It has been said that anal is the new oral as more and more people are starting to give it a try and I think that this is fabulous. One of the great things about anal is everyone has an ass so no matter your gender identity or sexuality, you can enjoy the pleasure of anal. Anal is something that I really enjoy for many reasons, other than the fact that it’s fun!

    For me and my partner, anal is something we can both enjoy together no matter who’s on the giving end and who’s on the receiving. It’s something different that we can do to keep things different and interesting, especially when sex can start to feel repetitive even; in the same position, a different hole means a whole new experience for both of us!

    Essential Preparation For Anal Sex

    Anal is something you should never just go straight into, especially if it is your’s or your partner’s first time. This is one of the things that you need both foreplay and separate preparation to make sure you’re ready. Personally, I think at least a little foreplay should be included in all sex but it is especially important for anal as “you’re not supposed to stick things in your ass” so you need to get it relaxed and ready or you can seriously hurt yourself.

    Which brings me to my second point, preparation: EVERY TIME you have anal sex you need to prepare yourself and your partner both with a very generous helping of lube, if you think you have enough then double it because you can never have too much lube! If you’re planning ahead of time to do anal or it’s something that you do regularly, you might also consider anal douching to clear everything out and make sure you’re all clean and ready for fun but it’s not 100% necessary (some may disagree and say you should always do it).

    Common Anal Sex Risks

    Unfortunately, anal comes with quite a few risks so it’s something you have to approach slowly and carefully. The biggest and most obvious risk is anal tearing where you rip open the tissue inside your anus or rectum which as well as being painful, can be even more dangerous if not properly taken care of, so if it happens, you should go to a doctor. (Most of the time they are small and heal on their own but you can never be too careful.)

    A secondary risk, which is basically the same problem, is that whenever something enters your anus, you get what’s called microfissures which you can’t see and usually won’t even feel but are breaks in the skin which leave you susceptible to not just STI’s but also any other diseases, germs or bacteria that can find their way in.

    There is also another risk that comes when you are using toys for anal sex, losing them. Unlike the vagina, toys can go much higher into the rectum and have the potential to get lost inside you if you’re not careful with them.

    Tips For Safe Anal Sex

    Like I already said, my biggest tip for anal sex is to drown you and your partner in lube; when it comes to anal, there is no such thing as too much lube. Start by using lube to massage the anus to help relax the muscles and get everything nice and wet, then cover whatever is going into your partner’s ass in another generous helping of lube.

    There are different lubes so make sure that you use one that

    1. Shouldn’t be flavored

    2. Is safe to use with your toys/condom if any

    3. Be VERY careful using anal numbing lube because, trust me, the work and the problem with that is if you tear or hurt yourself you might not feel it and will end up making it worse.

    When it comes to toys, if you’re going to put them in your ass, you have to make sure they have a flared base (narrows and then becomes wide again at the bottom) like a buttplug and make sure it has a big enough flare.

    Also, condoms while not mandatory, are a huge help whenever you’re having any kind of anal sex; they provide extra lube, reduce the risk of spreading diseases (and there is a very very very very teeny tiny chance of pregnancy if sperm goes from the anus to the vagina) and makes clean up easier for you and your toys.

    Does Anal Sex Hurt?

    I am a strong believer that sex should never hurt unless you want it to, unfortunately, things don’t always work out the way we hope and it can be hard to avoid pain during anal sex, especially in the beginning, but that doesn’t mean that you should expect it or suffer through it!

    The anus doesn’t work the same way a vagina does so you need to treat it differently, first off being you have to work to get it ready to take something into it, especially if you are well endowed below the belt. If things hurt immediately, start to slow whatever you’re doing (no matter how into it you are) and if it still hurts, stop all together and make sure everything is alright. You might not to be able to have “anal sex” right away and may need to just work with your hands at first or look into getting an anal training set to help stretch your ass before you’re ready to actually start fucking each other.

    I can’t promise that it will stop hurting or that if you follow all my tips you’ll never hurt yourself or your partner again but I can say that if you are having safe, consensual sex with open communication you will be able to make it happen a lot less often as you get used to each other’s needs and wants. This is the 21st century, we should know by now that all sex should be safe, sane, consensual and enjoyable for everyone involved and that includes not having pain during anal!

    Making Anal Sex Enjoyable For First Timers

    The first time that I had anal sex I wasn’t really prepared for it and even though we used lube it still hurt, a lot. To my partners’ credi,t he didn’t know at the time that I had never had anal before but that’s exactly where all my advice comes from, experience.

    If you’re thinking about anal, the very first thing you need to do to make sure you enjoy it is talk to who you’re wanting to have anal with (even if it’s just minutes before the act) to make sure they are comfortable with it and know what’s going to happen; not everyone is okay with every aspect of sex and that’s okay, but it’s best to know before you pull your pants down. Keep the communication going the whole time too, just like you ideally should be doing for regular sex, to make sure your partner is still enjoying themselves and not hurt.

    I know I probably sound like a broken record but I cannot stress this enough LUBE LUBE LUBE, before and during any activity that involves anal no matter how wet you think it is down there. Make sure to go very slowly, I know this can be hard when you’re in the moment and just wanna cum but every time you have anal sex, you should start with slow and shallow strokes and work you way up from there, your partner should be the one to tell you when they are ready for more.

    As long as you are being safe and aware of your partner’s needs as well as your own there is no reason that both of you shouldn’t have a great time, even if it is your first!

    YoungandFun21 – I am just as my name implies; young, fun and as of March 2019 I’ll finally be 21! I’m a college student, panty seller, findomme, clip maker and much more but most importantly I’m someone who really enjoys sex! I started out selling my panties when I was 18 and I have been loving taking photos, making videos and most importantly being paid to do it ever since!

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    ManyVids: YoungandFun21.manyvids.com

    Twitter: twitter.com/youngandfun21

    CashApp: cash.me/$youngandfun21

    Wishlist: $20+- deliverycode.com/wishlist/16066

    Wishlist: $20 or less- deliverycode.com/wishlist/1771

    I have a lot of things in the works right now with my new toy review videos taking up a lot of my filming time and summer break coming up; however I hope to get a lot more filming done before moving on to projects that would keep me off camera. Unfortunately I will be taking a brief hiatus to be with my family this summer but it won’t last long and the rest of the summer will be dedicated to content creation. After that I will be entering my senior year of college and will be focusing more on my panty selling, marketing and planning for Halloween and Christmas videos since I’ll have less time to be on camera.

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  • What To Know About Findom

    What To Know About Findom

    I am myself a kinkster, and love exploring different fetishes and kinks. Leading a dual life is fun. Usually vanilla life is mundane and not so spicy, but when it comes to the kinky alternative lifestyle, where one doesn’t need to restrict his or her desires, is simply stupendous.

    I really love leading a dominant lifestyle, 24*7 but apart from that when I have a little me-time, I don’t mind exploring different fetishes myself and exploring my sexuality and being really adventurous!

    Why I Enjoy Financial Domination

    Financial domination for me is the real exchange of power. In today’s materialistic world, where everything is ascertained in terms of worth or monetary value, when a submissive surrender his finances to me, that’s the ultimate submission! No D/s relationship or bonding would be complete, unless it has the element of financial domination in it.

    Simply put, financial domination or findom is a fetish where a submissive will give away his money to financial dominant, in the form of gifts, tributes or just cash. Findom is just money fetish, wherein one can find the exchange of money and power, which immensely turns a submissive on. We call the submissives in a findom relationship paypig, cashcow, human atm, finsub to name a few. The submissive gives away his money and power, without getting anything in return.

    I certainly love and cherish the power exchange, the submissive giving in and letting me control such an important aspect of his life – finances! That’s really something which I love about the entire financial domination concept.

    Why Findom Is Popular Today

    With time, submissive men are really understanding the concept of domme-sub relationship. It is no longer confined to punishment tasks and dungeons and infliction of pain. A dungeon is not the only place or set up where men would like to lose control, underneath a latex clad domme’s high heels! A man would also like to lose control of himself to the hot brat next door, in casual outfits or something skimpy like bikini, who will just take all of his money, drain him dry, and not even touch his body once.

    The fact that a findom relationship can be tried just virtually/online without the need to meet the domme, unless it’s a cash meet which is done physically, is a great way to just test out the water before venturing further. Many paypigs are actually powerful and respected people outside this findom world, so some might even be wary of meeting on the first go, so findom is the perfect choice overall.

    Misconceptions About Findom

    There are many many misconceptions about financial domination. I am going to put down a few which i think are absolutely myths, with no truths in them whatsoever.

    It’s so easy for a young lady to pose as a findomme and earn money, since many men are so weak to give her money – It’s not at all so. Even today, though financial domination is gaining popularity, men like to masturbate to the fact that a powerful woman is taking away his money, leaving him powerless, but would not really go ahead and give it a shot in real life by exchanging money in reality. I still get many ‘roleplay’ requests to play findomme-paypig, without them really doing anything which would fall under the category of true financial domination.

    Manipulating a person’s mind and really making him a paypig is nothing but hard work and requires skill.

    Findomme training courses – That’s utter rubbish! There is no one way of becoming a findomme. There is not even one method of gaining or acquiring paypigs. Different submissives will have different preferences, so if one tries to copy another famous and successful findomme thinking they will succeed, it would not be long, that he or she would fail! Originality is the key.

    Fan following matters – Not always. Some of the best paypigs I had previously, were when I really had very less fan following on the social media. A submissive will not notice how popular you are or how many people liked your pictures or posts, if your approach of domination seems right to him, no matter how less of fans you have, he will give in his wallet. But definitely when a lot of people are following a domme, the chances of having more paypigs in the list of fan following are high.

    You can lead a lavish lifestyle based on just financial domination – Not always true! People who are real paypigs, are less, very less in number. So unless you really have some other avenue to earn from, you can’t really lead even a decent life just by financially dominating men. Yes, there might be a few findommes who claim to lead their lavish lifestyle on findomme alone, but still there would be some sort of side business like providing sessions in real time or skype, or even content creating.

    Overnight rags to riches findomme stories – That’s what we call findomme bragging. Not true! Success does not come so easy, and never over night. Years of hard work has to be put in, to really be successful as a financial dominant. The overnight success stories, will have some other big story behind the black screen, so never go by what you see online!

    The younger you are, more successful you are – Not always. There are many findommes who are matured and not in their early twenties, but yet laughing their way to bank. Age is just a number, what matters is her presence. Also the unique way of communicating with her fans and submissives and getting them under her control – that’s usually a skill and requires bit of time to develop.

    Findom is no work – Financial domination is actually a lot of work. May not be when you actually get a paypig to rinse, but you have to put in your time, effort and be consistent in order to get paypigs to actually contact you. Supply exceeds by million times, when it comes to demand of findoms, so there is a lot of competition definitely. If one is not working at all, and thinks findom is all play and no work, is definitely relying only on luck and that may not eventually turn out to be good luck until some one puts in all the effort.

    Incorporating Findom Into My Lifestyle

    I am a dominant woman always. So be it my vanilla life, or alternative lifestyle, I like to manipulate men to give in to me and submit themselves totally which would also include their finances. Personally, I can’t think of any relationship with a man which would not be based on money. I love the way I take money away from a paypig and giving him nothing in return. Sometimes. I also love controlling orgasms of a man, based on his spending towards me.

    Favorite Findom Ideas

    We, financial dominants have different ways of dominating and controlling wallets. All are unique and I think all the ideas that I previously had, changed over time. I really believe in working hard and putting in effort on all the avenues of earning, rather than relying on paypigs. Usually paypigs have the tendency to cut contact after a period of time and they might even relapse, but the focus should not be on the paypigs or submissives, but on myself, always. That’s what I do, and keeps me going.

    Princess Pramila – I am a financial dominatrix from Kolkata, India. I am also a fetish and femdom clip and content maker, and provide femdom sessions and prodomme services. Being naturally dominant and very kinky really helps me to lead a dominant lifestyle 24*7 even outside of sessions. I love taking money from men, and teasing them, leaving them with nothing. My biggest fantasy is to ruin a man so well that he would have no point of return. I love watching big grown up men cry. Besides findom, I also enjoy humiliating, degrading men. I also like to play blackmail games with some of my submissives, and i believe in total power exchange and complete enslavement of men.

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  • Exploring Camgirl Nikki’s Favorite Fantasies

    Exploring Camgirl Nikki’s Favorite Fantasies

    Personal I love sex. Of course, like any work there are good days and bad.  I’m a little bit of an attention seeker and used to masturbate in front of my last boyfriend or send him videos to get his attention. He was the one that suggested ‘if I like to masturbate so much, I might as well get paid for it’.  So, I did.

    It took me a while to overcome the nerves and to understand how it all works, as I‘m not good with computers. But after a couple of weeks when I started to make a regular income, it just got more exciting each time… Sometimes before I start, I get a little stressed worrying about how I look, but once I get a few clients giving me compliments, I relax and get right into it.

    Overall, I think this is a great way for some to make money but it probably doesn’t suit everybody, you need to have a genuinely high sex drive as you can’t really do a good show if you’re not enjoying yourself.

    How Experimental Are You?

    I don’t know if I’m super experimental.  I’m not consciously looking for new ways to have sex. I do love nasty sex.  I get fixated on new kinky ideas and follow it all the way.  I particularly love it when my clients introduce me to their fantasies then play it out on cam, I really get into it and it makes my day so much more interesting and exciting dealing with new kinky fantasies.

    Normally I like to be submissive, I love being a sex slave or toy to be played with and be told what to do. Especially if it gets messy, maybe drool from gagging, running over my naked body, being made to push my limits.  But recently I’m also getting into the Mistress thing.

    I could really imagine meeting some of my clients and treating them like slaves, forcing them to lick my asshole or sit on their face, things like that. I think I just love the master/slave dynamic in either direction it’s played out.

    Uncommon Sexual Fantasies I’ve Heard Of

    I’m not sure what is common or uncommon as only a few years ago I was completely naive about sex and only had one partner. Now I get into all sorts of sex games and fantasies.  I love watersports – peeing on each other is amazing.  I had my first show for a female client not long ago, I had orgasm after orgasm on cam with her.

    Other things I find myself getting really carried away with (as fantasies only) are age or incest related. Maybe it’s just because it’s a little different from the usual. I know it’s very controversial. I can’t do such fantasies on my regular cam site, as they don’t allow.  But I have clients that like to talk to me as if I were their little girl.  I don’t really see it as wrong as I’m blatantly not underage, or related (I’m an obvious Milf) lol.

    So it not as though I‘m encouraging any real illegal behavior.  I think it’s important people differentiate what is a turn on in fantasy from real life.  That said, from what I see, the ‘daddy’ thing seems to be quite a common thread in the porn industry.

    My Favorite Sexual Fantasies

    I think it’s the slave thing, I love that feeling of a client being my master, telling me what to do and giving in to his demands.  I find I can relax and not worry about what they want to see because they are telling me exactly what they want from me.  It makes the job that much easier not having to worry about what kind of show I should be performing, as a result, less stress having to think equals more fun.  As long as the client shows their appreciation by being generous along with their demands so I don’t feel taken advantage of.

    In real life, with a trusted partner, I love the feeling of being gripped around the throat with one hand or my  mouth forced open while being fingered hard with the other while he spits in my mouth.. I also love having my head held while his big cock is down my throat or made to rim him. I get so carried away doing this I could go into a frenzy licking his asshole. I’ve no idea why it drives me so wild but I absolutely love it.

    So it’s an easy step for me to play slave to my masters during cam shows.

    Advice For Beginners Exploring Their Fantasies

    I think you just have jump in at the deep end, don’t over think it and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it right, some people are just not clear about what they want.  If it doesn’t cause you harm then go for it.

    If you talking about fantasies while doing cam shows, the only thing I would strongly advise is to avoid things that can put you out of action and make you lose money as a result. During one crazy, kinky session I was asked to fuck myself with the heal of one of my stiletto shoes.  It was a great show, I really enjoyed it at the time, it got very nasty and I liked that hehe.! The next day I realized I had done some damage to myself and had to take a few days off from camming.  I won’t be doing that again as much as I get tempted.

    Other common things you should avoid that can cause problems is using the same dildo in your pussy after fucking your ass with it..  At the end of the day if you don’t cause problems to your health, made someone happy and made money at the same time; it’s a job well done.  A win-win.

    Just try have a common-sense approach, keep yourself safe and go for it. You’ll be surprised what gets you going if you give yourself over to new ideas.

    Nikki – Nikki Is a petite Asian girl with an enormous sexual appetite. She has been camming for nearly 2 years. Streamate  is  her regular site that she appears on most days but loves the opportunity to work without rules in private Skype shows for  her more trusted clients and occasionally  she appears on Chaturbate but  prefers the private show format  Streamate offers.

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    Skype show requests or personalized videos  can be emailed to her on Rhonarox99@gmail.com.

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  • The 10 Hottest Adult Sex Games

    The 10 Hottest Adult Sex Games

    It’s getting more and more difficult to come up with a list for the 10 hottest adult sex games on the internet. These are just getting better all of the time. Just take a game like Pink Bunny.The creators have managed to stuff more sex into one game than you could ever need to have fun at the end of the day. If you enjoy stories, then there are games like Galactic Monster Quest. This one lets you travel the universe and bang as may alien species as you want. In fact, you an even watch other aliens bang the day away. Still, here are the best of the best when it comes to gaming with your dick in mind.

    Strip Poker with Aleska

    No one gets angry with hot Russian chick who take off their clothes. It’s what you strive to see every single day. This game give you exactly that, as long as you can beat her hand.

    Pussymon

    Do you love Pokemon? Of course your do. Do you love fucking? Hell yeah! Why not put them together? The levels of sex here are on par with Pink Bunny.

    Sophie’s Desires

    Game play and sex are perfectly balanced here. The women are hot. They’re never above a little lesbian play. If you want to explore and play an actual story like Galactic Monster Quest this is where you need to be.

    Gotham City Sluts

    Travel to Gotham city and get yourself surrounded by sluts. Will they fuck you raw or make you watch them fuck each other? You’ll have to play to find out.

    Anal Sakaki

    It doesn’t get much more hardcore than this one. You can see it all here. The better your skills, the sloppier the action. It’s amazing.

    Fuck the Plumber

    We’ve all wanted to be that guy at some point. You show up at some woman’s house to do a job. The problem is that she can’t pay you with money. What’s a girl to do?

    The General’s Daughter

    Take control of your boss’s daughter. Teach her the ways of the world with your dick. It doesn’t matter if he has to yell at you at some point. You’ve fucked his daughter.

    Imoutoto

    Hot anime girls are in trouble. They need to get their brains fucked out. Can you help them? Embark on your journey and don’t be afraid. Only you have the junk they need.

    Pink Bunny

    There’s just something about Pink Bunny that’s amazing. You get to see sex scene after sex scene and you never get bored of it. This girl is in cosplay and ready for action She’ll take every opportunity she has to take your dick and that’s no lie.

    Galactic Monster Quest

    The storyline and exploration of Galactic Monster Quest are just amazing. It isn’t often that you can play on online sex game and feel like you’re playing a triple A title. This game is perfect for people who love to play and people who love to fuck. It’s that simple.

    The List

    It should be noted that these games are in no particular order. They’re simply the best adult sex games around. The actual ranking is up to you. You should play all of them. Figure out which ones work best for you. You’ll never be disappointed in your gaming experience. Sit back and enjoy the journey. Hone your skills and try to beat each one. You’ll never want to stop playing any of them. There’s way too much fun out there to be had. Don’t let a single game pass you by.

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